how to save my marriage - 9 tips to success
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Save My Marriage
How to save my marriage is one of the most commonly asked questions today of people who are finding themselves stuck.
You fell in love. You built a life together. You simply cannot imagine
what life would be like if that person wasnt there.
Yet, its hard.
You dont agree, you
fight, and you dont feel
that same level of
understanding that was
Its no wonder so many men and women
approach their counselors, friends, and family
with a simple question.
How can I
How to Save My Relationship:
Steps to Take Now
Many times, the couples want to improve their relationship and they want to
improve their quality of life. Its difficult and challenging.
Here are some simple steps that may be hard to put into action
that can give you the foundation for improvement.
Agree to work on improvement
#1: Agree to work on improvement
Both parties need to come to the
realization that marriage problems
exist and that they want to fix them.
The fact is, if one party is facing a
struggle with the marriage, it is a
problem that both must address.
You cant fix it on your own.
But, you can work on it. However,
most people can see improvement in
their relationship if they first admit the
problem and commit to improving it.
Write down what hurts
#2: Write down what hurts
Discuss what hurts the most
#3: Discuss what hurts the most
With your list in hand, sit down across from each
other and, in the most open way possible, talk
about the worst thing on that list.
i.e., you may feel your spouse no longer values your opinion.
You may feel your spouse doesnt include you or is no longer able
to include you in their day.
Whatever is the worst of it, bring that up first. All
you need to do is to communicate what that problem
is. Allow the other person to do the same. This opens
the door for your spouse to understand what is really
bothering you. They truly may not know.
Commit to talking
#4: Commit to talking
Talking and arguing
are two very different things.
Spend some time talking about your feelings,
thoughts, needs, goals, painful memories, and
One of the most important components to any
marriage is communication, something youll learn
about in Save The Marriage.
Dedicate 10 to 15 minutes every day to talking.
You could meet on the porch for coffee in the
morning or get the kids to bed 15 minutes early so
you have time together.
Recognize the value in
#5: Recognize the value in marriage counseling
Do you need marriage counseling?
Nearly all marriages can benefit from allowing a professional to step in and offer some guidance and
support. Dont view this as a negative thing. Rather, you can step up to the plate and ask a therapist what
you can do.
How to fix my marriage after this fight or how to save my relationship
and get back to where we were?
No matter where you get that therapy, sometimes having a third party to help direct conversations and offer
guidance can be incredibly valuable.
Make some time for each other
#6: Make some time for each other
Often, we fall off the track of working on our
marriages because life is so busy. There is so much
you have to do. Its hard to find time to work on your
Going to a marriage counseling session is one step.
You can also find simple ways to make time:
Carpool to work so that you get time during your commute
Meet for lunch or dinner without the kids.
Spend time learning something new together.
Block off a section of time every single week for date
Say no to other engagements.
Uncover hidden marriage
#7: Uncover hidden marriage problems
Sometimes, its what you dont know
thats at the heart of whats wrong.
Are you having trouble managing finances?
Are you feeling stressed because of one spouses health?
Is there a concern related to other members of the family?
Find out whats changed and why in your relationship.
Keep everyone else out
#8: Keep everyone else out
For now, while you work to establish
your relationship again, dont talk about
your spouse in a negative light to
Commit to talking to each
other when theres a problem.
For example, instead of
complaining about your
spouse to your friend, talk to
your spouse about the
Build long-term strength
#9: Build long-term strength
Look at your marriage as a long-term goal.
It is not going to get better in five minutes. It is a process and it will always take a lot of work. You have to
promise yourself you are not going to give up because it is too hard.
Are you ready?
Saving my marriage is my goal!
You can accomplish this when you take the time to learn
If you are asking, How can I save my marriage? the
first step is to learn more about our online system and
Save The Marriage
is your first step towards improving your relationship.
Thank You! for your interest
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