the exponential impact of alienation

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SOUTHERN CALIFORNIA PARENTS OF ALIENATED CHILDRENS NETWORK

FIRST ANNUAL CONFERENCE

Southern California Parental AlienationWorkshop:

A COMMUNITY RESPONDSNovember 13, 2010

Featuring Dr. Amy J.L. Baker, Ph.D.Karen Lebow, MA, MSW, LCSWValerie R. Houghton, RN, MFT, Esq.

Glenda Gerda, MA

Albert R. Gibbs, Ph.D.

California State University at Northridge


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The Exponential Impact of

Alienation

Presented by Valerie R. Houghton


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The Emotional Impact

The Letter from Sally(a pseudonym)

The Comments from Sallys Mom- the Targeted Parent

And The Impact on Each Family, Adult and ChildDepends on a Multitude of Factors

Check Our Own Pulse First

Developing the Inner Swan


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Several Factors Can Influence theIntensity of a Childs Reaction to

Parental Loss

These Factors Include:

1. Developmental Stage

2.Temperament

3. Trauma

4. Family Dynamics and Capacity

5. Details of the Events Leading Up to the Loss

6. Available Supports


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Development WhichRequires Adults

Infancy: Attachment: birth-18 months

Toddlers: Autonomy/Emotional Safety: 18 months - 3 years

Preschoolers: Differentiation/Power and Influence: 3-5 years

Early School Years: Affiliation and Choice: 5-8 years

Pre-Adolescence: Knowing Self & Reading Others: 9 -12 years

Adolescence: Identity and Risk Prevention: 13 + years


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Temperament & Coping

1. Aivi Level2. Rhhmici3. Approach-Widwal4. Adaptabili5. Intensi of Reaion6. Threshold of

responsiveness7. Quali of mood8. Diibili9. Aention span

(From: Chess & Thomas, 1977)


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Family Dynamics and Capacity

Family Members Coping Styles: Families who are on

Hold, Families Who Act in Parallel, Families Who Are

Estranged and the Turbulent Families

And Lets Talk About Trauma

Its All About the Fit


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Symptoms of PTSD

1. Reduced Involvement with Peers and Activities

2. Numbness of Responsiveness

3. Constriction of Emotion

4. Dissociative States

5. Foreshortened View of the Future

6. Flashbacks or Intrusive Recollection of Trauma

7. Reenactment of of the Trauma through play/words

8. Avoidance of Traumatic Cues (things or people who

are reminders of the event)

9. Lack of Concentration

10. Hyper-arousal, Hyper-alertness, Hyper-vigilance

11. Sleep Disturbances

12. Distractibility

( From Silent Victims: Children Who Witness Violence)


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Physiological Impact

Dr. Bruce Perrys Work

Cortisol, PET Scans and the FourthCentury Turf Wars which Created the

Artificial Mind/Body Distinction

CDC, NIMH, ACE Studies AboutChild Treatment and Health Outcomes

TF-CBT Treatment Outcome Studiesfor Post Trauma (Trauma-FocusedCognitive Behavioral Treatment whichis Evidence-Based) (12-18 sessions withthe Child and Parent in Tandem andConjoint)


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What the Bleep?

Movie re: Meeting of the PhysicistsDemonstrating the Effects of Kind

Words and Hostile Words on Waterin Petrie Dishes and Questionsabout the Impact on the Physiologyof Humans

Louise Hays You Can Heal YourLife


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Brain Development


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Long Term RelationalImpact

The Story of Dick and Jayne

Ability to Bond/AttachmentIssues in Adulthood

Multigenerational Patterns:Hatfields and McCoys Andthe Beat Goes On


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More AboutMultigenerational Jazz

Genograms & Patterns

CDC, NIMH Research

Funding

Concerns for the Future


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Exponential Powers

Earthquakes

Health Risks: Early DeathRates for TraumatizedChildren, ACE Studies

One + One + One= Seven


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Take Away Message

Take the High Road with

Your Behavior ... DevelopYour Inner Swan...

Acknowledge the HardshipOnly in Safe Places/SafePeople

Amys Essay about the 17Ways...

Taking Care of You... yes,YOU


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Each of You is a Champion

Foster theCompassionateInstinct

Humor andNeuroplasticity

Restorative Justice


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Lower Your Cortisol...Give Yourself a Cuddle

We are troubled on every side, yet not distressed, we are perplexed, but not indespair, persecuted but not forsaken, cast down but not destroyed. (Corinthians)

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