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NCNA LEADERSHIP ACADEMY
Becoming our Best: Taking Responsibility Personally
April 17, 2015
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This is Paul. He is dying of lung cancer. His “caregivers” are volunteers. They would spend a few hours a week caring for him. They all had jobs and lives that they would “set aside” to be with Paul.
Tough day a work?Sometimes.
Did they bring their problems in when Paul needed a companion, or sometime to read to him?
What happens to us when we focus on our purpose?
In any given moment, whatever that purpose might be?
Both at work, and at home…
•Take Personal Responsibility for Our Emotions and Attitudes (Things that “get to us” or that we “take personally”)
At homeAt work
•Teamwork and Cooperation
•The Importance of “Purpose”
OVERVIEW
GOALS•Eliminating any “Victim Mentality” in Ourselves (victim vs. victim mentality)
•Becoming the Totally Responsible Person (TRP)
•Dealing with the Victim Mentality in Others
Victim Mentality Statements
Look what you made me do!!
I told you not to do it like that.
Nobody every listens to me.
If it weren’t for you I could get my job done
Who approved that decision?
It’s not my fault!
What did you do it that way for?
Did you hear what they just said… can you believe it?!?
If things are going wrong, or badly, or not
to my liking, then someone is to blame. It is
necessary to identify the persons,
circumstances, or sources of why things are
not as I think they should be. Blame must
be determined and accepted by the
wrongdoer, and things must be made right.
I am justified in being emotionally upset.
Neither growth nor learning result from the
bad things that happen to me.
The Victim Mentality
Everything that happens to me
provides me with Opportunities
For Learning And
Growth. I cannot blame
anyone else for
how I
feel, what I do, or
the
attitude I choose.
Taking Responsibility Personally (TRP)
Where in life do our “reactions” get us in trouble?
Where in life am I letting my emotions control my actions?
Where can I make more conscious choices to RESPOND rather than REACT?
How often do we hit the alarm?
1. Everything that happens to me provides me with opportunities for learning and growth.
ELEMENTS of Self-Responsibility
2. I cannot blame anyone else for how I feel, what I do, or the attitude I choose.
ELEMENTS of Self-Responsibility
After a successful career in the NBA, Derek Anderson started a foundation, creating opportunities for youth. He wrote a 2013 book called Stamina.
Why?
Because Derek never had it easy. Born into a family of abuse and alcohol, Derek was homeless by age 12 in the streets of Louisville, KY.
“At one point I was a product of my environment but in time I made my environment a product of me. I’ve learned to eliminate the excuses that today our youth use to justify their failure. If you want to get out of your situation you can, but you must decide to do so. I didn’t blame the problems I encountered through life on my parents.”
Derek Anderson
3. I shall seek no exceptions to this belief… even when I’m not at fault.
ELEMENTS of Self-Responsibility
1st Female CEO of a major American Automaker
Spent her first year overseeing the recall of nearly 30 Million vehicles (three times GM’s
annual production).
Testified in front of Congress. Became the target of an angry public and demanding
shareholders.
Yet defended her company, customers, and thousands of employees without BEING
defensive.
Where can you use this skill?
STIMULUS
AWARENESS
DEVELOPS
NEGATIVE
REACTION
POSI
TIVE
RESPONSE
MOMENT
OFCHOICE
It’s the everyday choices we make that determine our legacy.Our legacy is built in how well we display our values in our everyday decisions.