Create The Life You Truly Want To Live

Workbook

Contents• Introduction

• Identifying the life you really want to live

• Releasing the hindrances – identifying outmoded beliefs

• De-cluttering and De-conditioning

• Goal-setting for creating your new authentic life

• Notes page

Introduction

It could be that, as you read this, you have come to that point in your life where you are refusing to live an inauthentic life any longer. A growing dissatisfaction may have led you to the point of reassessing your life, together with facing the realisation that you have not been living in line with your inner essence. This realisation may be leading you to make some pretty profound decisions at this time, which is why you may have been drawn to this workbook in the hope of having some encouragement along the way towards constructing your ideal life.

You now desire a life that will nurture, and develop your gifts, and one that will lead you deeper into your purpose, and reason for being here. You now desire a life that will give you satisfaction, happiness, and a sense of completion. In fact, you may now desire to be more authentic in your life choices in general. You may now realise that you desire to be fully – you.

This workbook allows you to look at the life you have created up until now, in doing so it will also give you the opportunity to reassess whether the life you have created thus far is in line with the life you truly want to live. It gives you space to be honest with yourself, and to non-judgementally decide who you want to be, and what you want to become in the future. A future which is based in authenticity, and one that is lived according to personal authenticity, and mission.

This sort of non-judgemental realistic assessment is very useful because it allows us to have permission to be lovingly honest with ourselves. It allows us to admit to the truth that we deserve to live the life that will enhance, and serve us positively. It allows us to also look at those dreams that may have been put on the back-burner of our lives, and to get those dusty old dreams out of the closet of our minds, clean them

up, and to take steps that are needed in order to bring them into manifestation.

For some, this may be difficult as well as challenging to do.........

Old beliefs may have led us to believe that we need to keep ourselves, and our lives small in order to be accepted, or at least not rejected. This type of thinking and believing may have led us to believe that we are unworthy of our true heart's desires. Sometimes we almost need permission in order to even begin to allow ourselves to have the life we truly want. A workbook such as this gives us that permission. It allows us to accept that we are an intrinsically valuable, and treasured human being who have been given the power to create our life in whatever way we wish. We have already created all that has happened up until now in fact. What we may have not have known is that we can consciously choose to do, and to become, anything we wish.

The choice is ours, and always has been. What will our choice benow, both as individuals, and as a planet. The former decision will affect the latter.

Whatever choices we may make in life, those that are fully life-affirming, are often the best ones to make. However, when the choice includes our deepest loving desires to be all that we can be, there is a shift in our thinking, feeling and behaviour which puts us right on course towards our destiny.

The power inherent in our heart is released when we truly, and truthfully decide on a course of action. When that action is based in love, we cannot lose..........

My wish is that you have the time you need to make the decisions that are needed to aid you on your walk towards an empowered, and uplifting life that will eventually touch others with it's effectiveness,

and inspiration. A life that is based on your purpose. One that will lead you towards full-actualisation of your call, and destiny as a multi-dimensional, and lovingly powerful human being.

Life ReviewAssessing where we are in our lives can feel challenging at times. We may feel overwhelmed at first with the realisation that we haven't lived the life that we would have wanted. We may begin criticising ourselves for settling for a life that has fallen short of our initial dreams, and aspirations.

Key here is the ability to non-judgementally stand back, and to realistically assess, with self-compassion, why we have made the decisions we have, and why we may have led the life we have been leading up until now. This is not the time to beat ourselves up for not having lived up to our belief of what we should have done. This is a time instead for deep self-love which allows us to be free to make different choices in future if need be. Only when we feel free to live authentically in line with who we are, do we feel free also to allow ourselves the permission to do so without fear of rejection from ourselves for not living up to some sort of idea of perfection.

The important question in this section is to ask ourselves what it is about our life at the moment that we feel is not in line with who we are?…....................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................

What would need to happen in order that your life be brought in line authentically with your desire to truly live the life you desire based in authenticity?…....................................................................................................................

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We often feel as if we need to ask permission of others before making life changes.

Validation from others can feel like permission to go ahead when we feel unsure of our right to an authentic life, and unsure of our ability to lead it anyway. When we make self-empowering decisions based on our own true desires and goals, we are validating ourselves, and affirming our self-hood, and right to make choices based on feelings of self-worth.

What feelings come up for you when you think of making changes to the life you are currently living?…....................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................

My Desired LifePicture the life you would really like to live. What does it look like, sound like, feel like?

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We often are socialised to believe that an ideal life has to include certain factors, and that unless your life possesses these then you cannot be living an ideal life. Factors such as money, material possessions, the perfect relationship/career, are some of the things that we are conditioned to desire, and such conditioning often blinds us to the fact that actually these things may not be what we may want to include as part of our desired life. In fact those who have decided not to include some of these things in their life have often been rejected, and/or even seen as unusual.

Allow yourself to have the space to decide what you really desire in your ideal life, free from the need to conform, or reform your true desires in order to come in line with social convention.

This is your time, and opportunity, to decide what you want to do with the most precious gift you will ever be given. Life..........

The life I truly desire would include the following:

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List here the thoughts that came up for you as you wrote your description of your ideal life. Some examples may be 'I cant have that!', 'I will never be able to have that', 'Who do I think I am wanting that anyway?'

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Where do those thoughts come from?…....................................................................................................................

Do they have any basis in reality? Are they based in fear, or love?…....................................................................................................................

Putting these thoughts to one side, and remaining open regarding our wish to lead our ideal life is a powerful, and empowering ability. You may even want to challenge some of your old beliefs about you and your life so that you can clear the path leading to your truly desired life........

Identifying those areas that have not been, or are currently not working in your life.

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This is an opportunity to take an overview of our lives, not to make decisions until we have a view of the big picture.

This workbook enables you to do just that.

The best decisions are made after due consideration, and a clear head, together with the time, and self-permission we need in order to make a consciously derived decision based in authenticity, and self-love.....

Time/action needed

Possible Hindrances To Having Our Desired Life.

Fear of failure

Fear of success

Fear that we will be punished if we have what we want

Lack of motivation

Lack of feelings of deservedness

Old beliefs, i.e. that's not for me

Lack of confidence, self-esteem

Fear of rejection/need to conform

Removing hindrances to our creating our desired life is an important part of the process. Identifying exactly what is hindering our progress towards our goal of an authentically-lived life can be both enlightening, and rewarding. This is one part of the workbook which is worth spending a serious amount of time on. Doing so in our own time, and in our own way, free from the pressure to do so within a certain time-limit is important.

When we do things in our own time, and in our own way we realise that often it is the permission, from ourselves to take our lives seriously that we have been waiting for all along. For some of us, having that permission from ourselves, is a reward in itself. Valuing our lives enough in order to take them seriously can be an empowering, as well as life-affirming exercise. We feel liberated, and validated in our desire to truly live fully.

No matter how many people give us the permission to do so, it is our own permission that we need most because if we do not have it, we may find that we sabotage our own progress, which can even be done subconsciously, and therefore outside of our awareness.

Self-sabotage is an important consideration to take into account when we are serious about creating a life that we truly desire. Self-permission to really have it is a pre-requisite. One that may need to be squarely looked at before we progress to the next step.

Take time to do so now. Give yourself permission to create the life you really want to live. Note here any thoughts, and feelings that come up for you as you do so:

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Beliefs

What we believe on a consistent basis will become our reality. If you take a look at the life you have created so far, you will probably be able to identify the beliefs that have been fuelling your life up until now.

What are your beliefs about your deservedness regarding the life you would ideally like to create?…............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................

Where have they come from?

My beliefs Where it originated from

Our beliefs about ourselves, our lives, and the world in general often originate from our experiences in childhood, which are often reinforced through our experiences in adulthood. From these beliefs there is often born our belief about our deservedness. These beliefs often result in our allowing ourselves to have only so much in our lives, and no more. For instance there may have been a message sent in our childhood that others deserve more than us. We may have been told in various ways that only a certain level of attainment, or achievement can be accomplished by us. Challenging these messages can often release us from the inability to move forward, and upward to a higher way of living, and being.

In this sense, our beliefs can limit us, or they can encourage us to allow ourselves to have what we deserve, and want.

Looking at our overall belief system can have a powerful effect on our lives, and future

happiness.

Challenging Old Beliefs

Challenging old beliefs, and also replacing them with new ones can become a liberating, and exciting exercise in the process of life transformation. Allow as much time as is needed in order to work through this process in your own time, and in your own way.

Affirmations can be useful in the process, but the important part is that we actually truthfully believe what we are affirming. We will know deep in our heart whether what we are saying to ourselves is real to us or not. However, when we tell ourselves something enough times, it does tend to become true for us anyway, even if it is done subconsciously. This is how beliefs often become a part of our lives, and self-identity in the first place.

Beliefs are often enforced upon us through the messages that were given to us throughout our lives.

These messages can be societal messages for instance, or messages that we received from care-givers and parents, or others in authority in our lives. Recognising that we are fully autonomous human beings now and have a right to our own beliefs, and to now operate in accordance with those beliefs is a truly inspiring and uplifting exercise. It is also an important one if we are to be free to lead lives that are self-directed, rather than directed by old, and dis-empowering beliefs from the past which no longer serve us – if they ever did.

Part of creating our own authentically lived life, is recognising the fact that we manifest our lives based on our focus of consciousness. In other words what we focus on we do manifest. Understanding our power to create is crucial to the overall process of living empowering lives.

Deciding what we really want to manifest, and believing that we truly do manifest based on our beliefs anyway and therefore are in the driving seat of the whole process, releases tremendous energy that will, when used wisely, lead to our true intentions showing up in our lives.

Creating a new belief system

My new beliefs My personal affirmations are:

De-cluttering and De-conditioning

Having looked at our beliefs as well as other hindrances to our creating our desired life, it is time to ask ourselves whether we need to de-condition ourselves on the one hand, and to de-clutter on the other those things which may not be serving our bests interests regarding our desire for a fully-fledged, full-on existence based on who we truly are.

De-conditioning

De-conditioning in the sense of questioning our unspoken, or even unacknowledged assumptions regarding who we need to be, together with the roles that we may have worn regardless of their usefulness to us at this time in our development.

It also means honestly assessing whether our conditioning has helped or hindered our growth towards full-actualisation. It means standing back, and becoming an objective observer, of ourselves, our behaviour, and of the choices we may be making.

• What are those choices based on?

• Are they authentic choices coming from a place of self-knowledge, or are they conditioned responses to our belief that we need to follow the herd?

De-conditioning means that we allow the mask of conformity to be taken off by ourselves in order to reveal our real desires and goals.

Through this exercise we increase in self-awareness, and comprehension of who we really are, and what our potential may be. In this way our confidence muscles increase. Our consciousness is raised, and we awake from the sleep of apathy into a new light of day.

We are thus raised upwards to a higher level of knowing, and becoming.

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What would need to change for you to feel free to make your own choices based in autonomy?…............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................

When we become autonomous in our thinking, and living in line with who we truly are, we feel a sense of joy rising up from within. Having challenged our old limiting beliefs, and given our conditioning a spring clean, we begin to feel lighter. Freer. More like ourselves, whoever that may be. Thus we are more able to bring into manifestation a fully actualised life based on self-knowledge, and self-acceptance. As our self-concept is strengthened, we become more real. More aware of our values, and we become authenticated. More able to rise to higher levels of being.

Within, we know the truth of who we are. Reconnecting with that inner essence is a powerful way to reunite with our authentic self

rather than identifying with a role which may have become our identity. This can be achieved through quiet time alone. Time to get to know ourselves fully, and to build a rewarding relationship with ourselves, possibly for the first time in our lives

List ways in which you feel that you are living a conditioned life, rather than an authentic one based on what you really want to be. Give yourself permission to be really honest with yourself. Use a journal, or a pad, to write down your thoughts.

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De-cluttering

De-cluttering can be a refreshing way to order our lives, and to rid ourselves of those things which may be hindering our path towards our desired life.

Below are areas of our lives which may need re-ordering, or reaffirming in order for us to move on and upwards toward our goals. Use the time of de-cluttering as a time of reflection, and also upon our priorities in life can be useful. It need not be rushed, or done harshly, or even done at all in some cases. Rather it is an excuse to take a look at those areas which may need spring cleaning, and/or rearranging in order for us to create the space, time, and energy to place higher priorities in place.

Areas which may need de-cluttering in my life could be:

Work/career Relationships HomeLifestyle Finances Other

Work/career

Change desired Action Time-line

Home

Change desired Action Time-line Notes

Finances

Change required Action

Relationships

Change desired Relationship Action

Lifestyle

Change desired Action

Manifestation of our desired life.

Having reviewed our lives thoroughly, through changing beliefs, de-conditioning, and de-cluttering to make way for the new, we now need to understand that there may be other changes within that need to take place. Having done the afore-mentioned would have moved us onward towards our goal of our desired life, which may also have resulted in certain changes within, and without already. Managing our inner state though is a powerful means of monitoring our internal world so that it does not hinder manifestations in our outer world that we may be desiring.

To this end it is important for us to foster a good relationship with ourselves, and one that is life-affirming rather than depleting. Time spent alone and in contemplation can help us foster this loving relationship with ourselves, which will greatly enhance our chances of manifesting the life we desire because we are on our own side, and are less likely to act in opposition to ourselves.

Loving ourselves is therefore very important in this process.

Keys to manifestation:

• Belief in our own deservedness• Belief in our power to create our own life consciously• Faith that we are creative beings with the inherent power to

manifest in our world consciously• Manifesting with love in mind, love is very high vibrationally

and therefore is a good basis for manifestation.

Living with love in mind is also a great way to live..............

Goal-setting

This goal-setting worksheet will help in organising your goals into manageable steps.

My overall goal desired:….................................................................................................................................................

Now break this goal down into smaller steps so that you now have achievable steps along the way (or mini goals) leading to your larger goal. This acts as an aid in outlining the steps needed to achieve your overall goal, it also helps to clarify what will actually be needed in order to realise the larger goal into manifestation.

Step 1 (or mini-goal)…........................................................................................................

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Step 2 (or mini goal)…........................................................................................................

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Action..................................................................................................

Step 3 (or mini goal)…........................................................................................................

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This page can be copied according to the number of goals you may have.

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