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Presented by:

Herb Kaighan

Emotional andSpiritual Sobriety

Twelve Step Spirituality

Steps A Relationship With…

1-3 POWER

4-7 Self

8-9 Others

10-12 Our Way of Life

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Stage 1: Powerless – Power

Steps 1-3

Rocketed – 4th Dimension

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Stage 1: Powerless – Power

Steps 1-3

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Stage 2: Identify/Remove Obstacles – SelfSteps 4-7

Rocketed – 4th Dimension

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Stage 1: Powerless PowerSteps 1-3

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Stage 2: Identify/Remove Obstacles SelfSteps 4-7

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Stage 3: Identify/Remove Obstacles

Steps 8-9

Recovered

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Step Ten Enter World of Spirit

Mind

Physical Sobriety

Recovered

Rocketed –Conscience

ConsciousnessCompassion

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NOT CURED A Practice of:Step 10 Emotional SobrietyStep 11 Improved UnderstandingStep 12 Enlarged Effectiveness

OUR WAY OF LIFE

4th Dimension

Our Way of Life

Clear Channel Step 10 Inventory

Fill Channel Step 11 Prayer/Meditation

Empty Channel Step 12 Service

EmotionalSobriety

Brain Development

Know / Decide

Emotional Survival

Physical Survival

Problem Asleep

Beliefs Lens

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Emotions

Step Ten Our Way of Life: Inventory

•Pray

Watch For:•Resentment• Fear•Dishonesty•Selfishness

Take Action:Results:• Forgiveness

Emotional Sobriety

•Discuss•Amend•Service • Trust

•Honesty• Love

SobrietyEmotional

SpiritualSobriety

SpiritualSobriety

Our Way of Life Spiritual Growth

OTHERcentered

othercentered

STEP ELEVEN“Improve”

STEP TWELVE“Enlarge”

SPIRITUAL SOBRIETY

Step Eleven Prayer and Meditation

EVENING Inventory

MORNINGThink

ConsiderListen

ALL DAY Be AwakePause

Prayer

To form a relationship

What is it?Intimate conversation

Why do we do it?

What do you believe about God?Your decision!

OutcomeConscious contact

Meditation

Biology – physical health

What is it?Thinking

Why do we do it?Listening

Psychology – emotional health

Theology – spiritual health

20 minutes am pmShow up – don’t leave early

A method – not a technique

An action based on faith – not knowledge

An awareness – not a feeling

An experience – not a task

Intentional Consciousness Practice

Awareness of PresenceHealing of brokenness

Self esteem authenticHarmony within self

Listen to othersCompassion for others

Unity with Reality

Step Twelve Spiritual Awakening

Think Feel Behave

Done to us NOT by us

Change

Step Twelve Our Way of Life

Carry Message

Immunization

Step Twelve Our Way of Life

Practice Principlesª Relationships

ª Family

ª Work

ª Fellowship/Community

Twelve Step Program

Meetings Identify Problem

Big Book Instruction Manual

12 Steps Precise Process

Prayer Powerless

Service Contrary Action

Accountability

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SobrietySpiritual

Process NOT Event

BODY

Physical Sobriety

MIND

Emotional Sobriety

WILL

SpiritualSobriety

BODY

Allergy

MIND

Obsession

WILL

SpiritualMalady

Spiritual Awakening

FROMDis-ease

TOHarmony

Addiction: Substance/Process Abstinence/ModerationAnger/Resentment Love/Forgiveness

Fear/Anxiety Trust /TranquilityInappropriate Sex Behavior Guided by Principles

Dishonesty: Self /Others Rigorous HonestySecrets Transparency

Guilt /Shame FreedomUnhealthy Self-esteem Healthy Self-worth

TURNING

MY WILL GOD’S WILL

I am the oneI am waiting for!

Nobody’s Coming!

Consciousness Practice

Meaning

Real-ization of integration

NOT resultI am responsible for effort

A journey, not a destination

Context

PurposeValue

We are the onethey are waiting for!

Happiness – A Daily Practice

Intentional ConsciousnessCOMMITTMENT

Prayer reduce defect;

Gratitude list growth in positivity

guidance; power

ACCOUNTABILITY For ALL commitments

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increase virtue

Meditation

kindnessHelpful actions

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Lighting the path for others.

TRANSFORMATION (St Francis)

Lord, make me a channel of your peace; That where there is hatred, I may bring love; That where there is wrong, I may bring the spirit of forgiveness; That where there is discord, I may bring harmony; That where there is error, I may bring truth; That where there is doubt, I may bring faith; That where there is despair; I may bring hope; That where there are shadows, I may bring light; That where there is sadness, I may bring joy. Lord, grant that I may seek rather to comfort than to be comforted; To understand, than to be understood; To love, than to be loved. For it is by self-forgetting that one finds; It is by forgiving that one is forgiven;It is by dying that one awakens to eternal life. – Amen

Herb Kaighan(310) 377-3194www.herbk.com

PO Box 4268Palos Verdes Peninsula, CA 90274