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The 7 Timeless Habits of Happiness


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ContentsIntroduction.3How to implement these habits .51. Choose Happiness ....6 2. Get Your Physical fundamentals in shape. ..113. Create an Action H abit.....154. Be Here N ow....175. Help and Make Other People H appy..............216. Do What You Love to D o...247. Let G o...28Final Thoughts..............................................................................31

Copyright Henrik Edberg, 2010. You do not have the right to sell, share orclaim the ownership of the content of this eBook.

This book is for informational purposes only and it contains my opinionsbased on my experience. You should always find the advice of a professionalbefore taking action on something I have published.


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IntroductionHappiness.

According to some, the meaning of life.

But how can you increase the happiness in your life?

Well, I have found a few ways that work well for me that I would like to share with you.

Back in 2005 I was a pretty regular guy. Life wasnt all too bad really, but I wasnt thathappy either. I think the problem was that I didnt understand myself or the worldaround that well . I didnt understand what I needed to do to create a happier life formyself. I had some idea that more stuff wouldnt cut it. I knew that the happiness effectof a new shirt or a new video game usually used to last for a week or two but then itwent away and I was back where I started.

I first got interested in personal development more seriously that year because I was toolazy and simply wanted to become more productive. But I soon discovered that therewere books and CDs about all the other aspects of life too.

Fast-forward to 2010. Through experiences and studying I have learned a lot about bothmyself and humans in general over the last couple of years. And just like I do on my blogThe Positivity Blog - www.positivityblog.com - I would like to share what I havediscovered.

Happiness is themeaning and the

purpose of life, the

whole aim and end of humanexistence.
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Now, let us be frank, will this book solve all your problems and make you happy all thetime from now on? No. But it contains some of the pieces that I believe are mostimportant for living a happy life. Those pieces, or habits, can help you to feel happier a lot

more and help you to handle challenges in your life. They have certainly helped me to doso.

But to gain the benefits you have to implement the advice consistently. You have to live it.

Just reading the book will make you feel positive feelings for a while. But that goes away.Actually working on yourself and your own life and being patient and persistent is whatbrings you the real rewards.

Stick to the path of applying these habits as much as you can in your daily life. Not onlywill the habits themselves help you. Because when you actually live habits l ike these,when you do what you know deep down is the right thing then you also raise your self esteem and you feel that you actually deserve good things in life. This is a big factor forincreasing your happiness too.


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About the authorMy name is Henrik Edberg and I am the creator or the popular

personal development website the Positivity Blog and thePositivity Newsletter. I write articles, newsletters and createpremium guides such as e-books and courses about improvingyour happiness, social life, health, and general awesomeness.

Feel free to follow me on Twitter , become a fan on Facebook orsend me an email using this contact form .

How to implement these habitsThis book contains 7 broad habits of happiness.

To change or try to improve on them all at once is too much. So choose one to work onand stick with that one for 30 days. Instead of doing it all at once and winding up beingoverwhelmed and giving it all up. Of course, many of these habits are intertwined. Forexample, as you learn to let go it also becomes easier to stay in the present.

I would start with the first habit, to choose happiness. And then maybe choose the secondone and work on my health. But you may resonate strongly with another habit right now,so choose that one if you like.
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1. Choose Happiness The first thing you must do is to choose happiness. It might not seem like it, but it is to a

large degree a choice. Just like misery. Both of them are optional.That may sound all well and good from an inspirational standpoint but how do you do itpractically?

Heres how I do it. As you use these techniques you start to realize more and more howmuch you can affect and choose your own happiness. Even if it might not feel like thatright now.

Just like tying your shoes choosing to be happy is a conscious choice. You choose each daywhat you focus on and how you interpret your reality.

Choose to Keep Your Focus on What You Want

What you think about most of the time you see around you and become. If you see theworld and yourself through a lens smudged by negativity then youll find much misery. If you look outwards and inwards through lens brightened by positivity youll find much tobe happy and appreciative about.

So being happy or miserable is seldom so much about the external circumstances at themoment. Its more about how you look at them, yourself and your world.

I must die. Must I then dielamenting? I must

be put in chains.Must I then alsolament? I must gointo exile. Doesany man thenhinder me from

going with smilesand cheerfulnessand contentment?


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Now, thinking about things with a positive attitude is easier said than done. But you canshift a negative attitude into a more positive one. It will probably not happen like flickingon a light switch, but gradually you can spend more time with a positive attitude than anegative one.

Be grateful for what you got

One of the simplest ways to shift your focus to what you want is to feel grateful for whatyou have. Just appreciate the weather, your friends and family, the food in front of you,your roof and clean water, your awesome shoes and the cute wo/man that just walked by.Yeah, it might seem a bit silly. But just doing this for two minutes really works well to turna sour mood into a more positive and open one. Do this whenever you feel down or likeyour focus is in the wrong place.

The gratitude journal

A variation of this technique is to use a gratitude journal. Here you quickly jot down 5things you are grateful for in a journal. Do this for a few minutes each day or each week.Review the journal whenever you feel the need. Very simple but effective.

Use big, written goals

By setting goals, writing them down and posting them on a wall where you can see themevery day you can keep your focus steadily on what you want instead of what you dontwant out of life. I recommend setting your goal like this:


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Is this useful?

This is a good way to weed out thought habits that may not be so useful. Your mind mayfor instance fool you into believing that its the right thing to go around being angry at

someone because, well, youre right. Or that its right to dwell on a problem because youhad such bad luck or was singled out.

Both thought patterns are quite seductive because they can fool you into believing thatyou are doing the right or normal thing. But are such thoughts useful to you? Probablynot. Theyll just create suffering in your life, waste your time and do little to solve apractical situation. By asking if something is useful you can stop yourself while headingdown a negative path and turn around towards the light again.

What is awesome about this situation?

This is a good way to find the lesson within an experience that may be seen as negative.Or to just reframe a situation and create some positivity and enthusiasm within yourself toget going to practically handle a situation instead of falling back into a dwelling, negativevictim-thinking kind of thought pattern.

Asking yourself this question may seem stupid or silly at first. You may not find anythingpositive or awesome about a situation at all. But after youve started to ask yourself thequestion in more and more situations youll probably find something thats at least goodabout a situation.

And the more awesome, positive and good things you can find in experiences the more


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2. Get Your Physical Fundamentalsin ShapePerhaps the most obvious but also one of the most important factors for living a happierlife and to be able to better develop the other habits in this book is to get yourfundamentals in shape.

What do I mean by fundamentals?

Eating healthy. Exercising regularly.

Getting enough sleep.

Now, this may seem painfully obvious. But those things have a huge impact on just aboutanything in your life. The ideas are simple. But you have use them too. Thinking andtalking about them is easy. Living them is what changes your life.

Eat Healthy

There is ton of information out there on what to eat. I tend to eat whole-wheat and low GIproducts, quite a bit of veggies, lean meats and a lot of fish and shellfish. I drink green tea,water and a couple of beers from time to time. I supplement this with a multivitamin andadditional vitamin C (and vitamin D during the dark months here in Sweden).

"Those who think they have no timefor healthy eatingwill sooner or later have to find timefor illness."


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Now, you may prefer another way of eating but this helps and fits me.

Know what and how much you are eating

If you dont know how much you are eating its useful to start a food diary at fitday.com (its free) and see what you eat for a few weeks. This can help you to see what you arereally putting into your body in terms of calories, fat, protein, carbohydrates, vitamins andminerals. And it can also tell you if you are overeating.

I think one of the most common mistakes people make when trying to keep or lose weightis simply to consume more calories than they use. You can solve this problem by using theFitDay diary until you get a good sense of the amount of food you put into yourself. It mayseem a bit boring but it really helped me to get an accurate sense of my food habits and tolose a lot extra weight in 2009. Of course, use this with common sense so you dont getobsessive and feel bad just because you ate an extra cookie one day. You dont have to beperfect to get good results.

Two of my favourite blogs that have taught me much about how to eat healthier are:

Marks Daily Apple Fitness Black Book
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Exercise Regularly

One area of my life that I really focused on improving in 2009 was my body and physicalhealth. I did this by eating better as described above. And by using the TurbulenceTraining program by fitness trainer Craig Ballantyne. You can read the review of thatprogram right here . The results?

I lost 26 pounds in four months. I have a flat belly and my energy has at least doubled. Myproductivity is up and its a lot easier to stay positive.

Getting in shape is something I believe we often underestimate (I certainly did). We haveso many problems and things to complain about. But when you start to get into good

shape you realise that much of that is just vanishes or at least decreases. How we manageour body has a huge, huge impact on our thoughts, emotions and everything that happensin our personal world.

Find a way that fits you

Some of the most important things about exercise are consistency and finding somethingthat fits you. I have for example enjoyed lifting free weights for few years. The best thing Igot out of Turbulence Training was the bodyweight circuits. You basically do 6-8 exerciseswith just your bodyweight.

Stuff like jumping up and down, pushups and different squats.

Physical fitness isnot only one of themost important

keys to a healthy body, it is thebasis of dynamicand creativeintellectual activity.
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The simple combination of free weights and bodyweight circuits works well for me. But ittook a while and some experimentation with other forms of exercise to find it. So exploreand see what fits you and your life so you can get and keep yourself in shape.

Get Enough Sleep

I sleep well so I dont have too many tips to add on this topic. I do have three rules I followthough:

1. A dark room. Keeping it really dark in your bedroom is something that makes it easierto go to sleep, to sleep well and not wake up too early.

2. No caffeine after 8 PM. If I drink tea after that time I find it harder to go to sleep.

3.

No work late at night. I tend to not work on, for example, my writing too late. If I dothat then my mind will be spinning with thoughts and ideas for an hour or more as I rollaround wide awake in bed. Instead I make sure to relax and just take it easy a fewhours before sleep.

"Sleep is the best meditation."


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3. Create an Action HabitOne of the best ways to not find happiness is just to hold yourself back and do nothing.Seldom show up. Paralyze yourself through over-analysis. Think and think and think abouthow bad things are for you.

I admit, i ts not always easy to take action. It can be scary and difficult. But if you donttake ac tion youll be missing out on most things. Including many moments, people andexperiences that can bring you a lot of happiness.

If you dont create a habit where you take a lot of action you wont get a lot of results inreal life.

Sure, reading can educate and inspire you. But to reap the rewards you have to takeaction over and over again. Not sit at home on your hands and think that someone elsewill do it for you. Or think that just reading will solve your problems in some magic kind of way.

Without an action habit little in life works, including the habits included in this book.

So how can you create a habit of taking more action each and every day?

Besides using the focus tips in the first chapter of this book my favourite and mosteffective tip for becoming a person of consistent action is:

"Action may not always bringhappiness; but there is nohappiness without action.


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Use a morning ritual

You simply set up a routine in the morning that you do as soon as you wake up. This worksso well because what you do early in the day often sets the context for your day. As

humans we have a strong tendency to want to be consistent with what we have donebefore. Thats one b ig reason why a bad start often leads to a bad day and a good startoften leads to a good day.

My morning ritual

Get up, drink a glass of water. You get dehydrated when you are asleep. Pull the blinds from my windows and open a window to let in the sun and more

fresh air.

Eat breakfast and drink a cup of green tea. Brush my teeth and tongue. Make my bed. Declutter for a few minutes. I wash any remaining dishes from yesterday. I put

anything that is out place back into its right place. I clean up my workspac e so itsclean and organized.

Then I get started with the most important task of the day.

Basically, I center myself and get into an organized and productive mindset by doing thesesimple things to order and clean up my environment. It is also a good way to warm up foryour day, to get out of a procrastinating mindset and it makes it easier to consistently takethe next step.

"Twenty yearsfrom now you will be moredisappointed by the things that youdidnt do than by the ones you did do.So throw off thebowlines. Sail away from the safeharbor. Catch the

trade winds in your sails. Explore.Dream. Discover.


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4. Be Here NowTomorrow isnt here yet. Yesterday has passed. Now is the present moment. And all threeof them are always the present moment when we are living in them.

So there is no real space where you and I can change or live in except the one you and meare in right now. And now. And now.

But still we insist on spending much time regretting yesterday. Or fearing tomorrow.Thats normal. But it isnt so useful.

We cant really do anything about the past. We can l earn valuable lessons from it but afterthat its not so important.

And most of the things we fear will happen in the future never really show up. A negativeattitude can do wonders to create monsters within the mind to occupy much of your time.So, planning your future is very useful but over-thinking it is seldom helpful.

So much time is lost by thinking compulsively, over and over again, about things we havelittle control over. And it can create a huge amount of suffering within that is projectedand acted out into the world.

And it distracts us - blurs our vision and shatters our focus - and keeps us from fullyenjoying what is really the most important time.

Now.

"The secret of health for bothmind and body isnot to mourn for the past, nor toworry about thefuture, but to livethe present moment wisely and earnestly.


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More Awesome Benefits of Being in the Present Moment

Being present in moment after moment can have a huge amount of positive benefitsbesides sparing you from all the suffering of living large parts of your life in the past or

future.

Improved social skills

This may be one of the first things you discover when you start experimenting with beingpresent. It was for me. If you have the problem that you get nervous/shy and dont knowwhat to say in a conversation then presence is one solution.

When you are present then your head is no longer filled with pas t scenarios (what did

she mean when she said that?) or future scenarios (what will they think if I say this?).You let go of self-consciousness.

You are just here. With your attention focused outward towards the person(s) you areinteracting with. You just let things flow out of you.

And in a way the tip of assuming rapport is a way to tap into your presence inconversations. Assuming rapport means that you pretend that you are meeting one of your best friends. Then you start the interaction with any person in that frame of mind

instead of the nervous one.

When youre with your best friends you are probably not thinking ahead that much. Youare just enjoying the interaction, the present moment and all of you just let things flownaturally.


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Presence can also help you with listening. It helps you to decrease the bad habit of thinking about the future and what you should say next while trying to listen. If you arepresent and really there while listening then that will also come through in your bodylanguage. This gives the person talking a vibe and feeling that you are really listening to

what s/he has to say. Being present also improves your focus and allows you to bettertune out possible interruptions or distractions in your surroundings.

Improved creativity

If you write or do some other creative work you may have found that your best work flowsout of you when you are not thinking that much. You just write, paint, play. You enter aheadspace where things just come to you. Then later you can come back and edit yourwork.

This one is similar to the first reason. Writing is for instance similar to a conversation.When you are present in a conversation or while writing things its often best to not thinktoo far ahead or you start to get self-conscious and you second-guess yourself. You createmental blocks that stop your creativity from flowing unhindered.

Less worry-warting and over-thinking

If you are a chronic over-thinker that goes round and round in circles in your mind before

you ever get anything done then being present is a great release from that habit. Im notsaying that you wont slip back into over -thinking. But being present just for a while canhelp you. It can allow you to stop worrying about what may happen and to just take someaction to get started. To actually see what happens.


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My 3 Favourite Ways of Connecting with the Present Moment

OK, so those benefits sound good. So how can you become more present in your daily life?

Focus on whats right in front of you

Or around you. Or on you. Use your senses. Just look at whats right in front of you rightnow. Listen to the sounds around you. Feel the fabric of your clothes and focus on howthey feel.

Use guided meditation

I have been using guided mediation CDs called Paraliminals many, many times over the

last year. One nice benefit of these CDs is that they put you in a centred and calm state of mind with very little self-talk in general for maybe five hours to half a day after you haveused them. This makes the transition into being present during that time a whole loteasier. Read my full review of the Paraliminals here .

Focus on your breathing

Ive already mentioned this one. Breathe with your belly and just focus your mind on yourinhaling and exhaling. Do this for a minute or two. This will align you with the present

moment once again. Very simple and effective.

"I never think of the future. It comes soonenough.
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5. Help and Make Other People HappyIt is vital to look beyond yourself to experience a larger sense of happiness. Because weare all social creatures and by helping each other we feel happier.

This may sound like an empty clich but it surely works. One of the best ways to becomehappier is simply to share your love and make other people happier.

When you do the right thing and make people happy you:

1. Feel good about yourself. When you make someone else happy you can sense, see,feel and hear it. And that happy feeling flows back to you.

2. Get what you give. Since the Law of Reciprocity is strong there is another upside.People will feel like giving back to you. And so the two or more of you keepbuilding an upward spiral of positivity and happiness.

So f ocus on giving happiness instead of zeroing in on receiving it. Its better for everyone.

Give Value

So how do you give happiness? One of the most awesome ways is giving more value to thepeople around you.

In your daily life it may be things like:

Bringing a positive attitude and vibe into interactions.

"If you want happiness for anhour take a nap.If you want happiness for aday go fishing.If you want happiness for a

year inherit afortune.If you want happiness for a

lifetime help someone else.


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Offering useful advice or knowledge to someone. Just offering a listening ear to someone who needs it. Cheering someone up. Hugs.

Helping someone out with moving, cooking, cleaning up etc. Taking the lead and creating a fun situation for your friends such as a picnic or anight out on the town.

Being totally present in conversation and focused on the other person. This is aquality that I believe is often mentioned about networkers that are great at creatingnew relationships like Bill Clinton.

You and Your Relationship with Yourself

Now, increasing the love and value you give isnt only about other people and what they give back. By doing positive things for other people you start to see yourself as a personwho is better and more deserving of more love, good things and happiness in life.

This is essential to avoid self-sabotage on your path to more success and happiness in life.If you dont think you deserve something you tend to sabotage for yourself in some subtleor not so subtle way.

One common way to sabotage your relationships and your own happiness is to be judgemental towards other people. Here are three reasons to let go of those judgementsto improve your own life:


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People dont like judgemental people. People dont like to be judged. So there willbe a resistance towards someone who is judgemental.

Waste of time. You can spend your time doing more fun, constructive and positivethings.

The more you judge people, the more judge yourself. What you see in otherpeople is often what you see in yourself. So if you judge them all the time for theirlooks or intelligence then you probably judge yourself often about these things too.Letting go of judging others can lead you to letting go of judging yourself too. As youlift the limitations you put on others, you lift the limitations you put on yourself.

So learning to love yourself more and creating more happiness is to a large degree aboutdoing what you know deep down to be right.

Appreciate Yourself Another good way to learn to love yourself more is simpler. You just make the consciouschoice to be appreciative of yourself and to not just look at your flaws. You can do this byusing the gratitude journal that I mentioned in chapter # 1 and write down 5 positivethings about yourself every evening for a month until this kind of thinking becomes morenatural for more.

By appreciating the positive and good things that you think and do you can replace theneed for approval from outside sources. You are giving yourself approval instead. This is alot better than the alternative, because this is an unlimited source that you are in controlof and this allows you to keep your self-esteem up and more stable.


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6. Do What You Love to DoIts easy to trap yourself in doing what you dont want to for many, many hours. Andseldom do what you really love to do.

And I guess this one ties into habit #1, to choose your happiness. You may not be able tochoose to do what you want to do on a full-time basis right now. Or for many hours eachday or week. But you almost always have a choice to do more of what you really want todo. There is always time. Or time you can free up by using the focus and action tips earlierin this book. You have a choice.

I for example love to lear n about things. Im quite curious. I also love to write andcommunicate helpful stuff. I have done so for over 10 years, by writing about music andmovies and for the last few years about personal development in different forms.

Still, some days arent easy and I just dont want to write or read another word. Lovingsomething isnt like in a movie not in my opinion at least where everything is like someblissful dream. Its still life. But its a lot more fun a lot of the time.

How Do You Find What You Love to Do?

Asking yourself good questions can bring clarity to your life. Here are a few good ones forfinding out what you love doing:

What makes you feel alive? What activities make you feel the happiest?

"Success is not thekey to happiness.Happiness is thekey to success. If

you love what youare doing, you will be successful.


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What do you do for free just because you are so passionate about it/its so muchfun?

What activities that you do make time just disappear? What stuff can you spendhours on and makes you forget about time, hunger and the TV?

You may also want to think back and explore your past. If you are really, really busywith life family, long hours at work etc. then what were the things you used todo when you were younger and had more free time?

And what things did you have a talent for or what skills have you developedthroughout your life?

Write all those answers down.

What value can you bring through these things?

If you just want to spend a few more hours each week with doing things you love then youcan figure what those things are and then find time for them by applying the tips in theprevious pages of this book.

If you on the other hand want to work on it part-time or be able to do what you love full-time then you need to start to look for job that lets you do that. Or you can start your owncompany on the side while you work a regular job or study in school.

And then it wont be enough to just love doing something. You also have to find activitiesthat will bring value to other people. Because when you can give value to other peoplethen there will be an opportunity to make money.


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Sure, I like hanging out with friends and drinking a couple of beers. And that brings boththem and me value because its fun, interesting and exciting. But I cant make money fromit.

But by sharing what I have learned about life and personal development on my website Ican give value to tens of thousands of people at the same time. This also allows me toearn an income from the website and my writing.

By using your talents and skills and at the same time helping people and giving them valuein some way you can find the opportunities to both do what you love and to earn moneyto support yourself from it.

But realize that it will probably take time to build your business if you choose to go thatway until it is profitable enough to live on. If you have job now, dont ditch it right awayto work on your newfound passion. You still need to pay the bills and possibly provide fora family. Work on your company at nights, early mornings and on weekends.

If you want to learn more about where passions meet profit then two of the bestresources I have found are The Unconventional Guide to Working for Yourself and TheEmpire Building Kit . Both of them were created by Chris Guillebeau, are very helpful andhave been reviewed by me on my website (so check out the links above to read moreabout them if you are curious).

"Happiness is not in the mere

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Go exploring

Finding something you love to do that can also make you enough money to live on isnt aneasy thing. I certainly dont have all the answers for this challenge. But Id like to add a

final tip for finding out what you love: just explore life.

Just try things out and see what you love. Its easy to have theories about what you may ormay not like. But you never know until you have tried it for a while in real life.

So go exploring.


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7. Let GoWe often cling to possessions like its our life. We c ling to people like we possess themsometimes. We cling to the past and cant live in the now. We cling to fears of what thefuture might bring as a way to feel comfortable and perhaps sometimes have excuses tonot go do what we really want to do deep down.

We often carry with us a lot of stuff. Not in our hands perhaps. But in our minds. It canbecome like you are carrying half the world on your back. Not very helpful. So you need tolet go of things. Not only to move lighter and more freely. But also to be able to fully moveforward in life.

I believe that letting go is one of the most potent habits in this book and one I feel is oftenforgotten compared to for example doing what you love and improving on physicalfundamentals like exercise and sleep.

It is also deeply connected to other habits in this book. Letting go is, for example, anawesome way to reconnect with the present again. It also ties back to chapter 1, lettinggo enables you to drop irrelevant stuff and makes the choice to focus on the stuff thatbring you happiness easier.

So How Do You Let Things Go? A few tips that have made it easier for me to let go are these:

"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.


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Ask yourself helpful questions

Again, ask yourself helpful questions:

Is this helping me or is it just some nonsense or somethin g Im reliving from the past?

Am I clinging to it because its what I have known for such a long time and it seemscomfortable and safe even though it is holding me back?

Who cares? (one of my absolute favourite questions)

Accept it. Then let it go

I like acceptance. I like it because when you accept something instead of resisting it youstop feeding more energy into your problem and you stop making it even bigger. A bitcounter-intuitive. This is also useful when it comes to letting go. If you first accept whatyou want to let go you arent so emotionally attached to it and still feeding it with yourfocus and energy. And so it becomes less powerful and easier to just drop. As long as youresist it then it will be hard to let it go. If something shows up again, then simply let goagain.

Give up being right

Realize that you may cling to things because they might make you feel right as you replayan argument or conflict over and over in your mind. It gives you a certain sense of satisfaction as the other person is wrong. But you have to give up that kind of satisfactionto move on.


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What to Let Go?

Well, you can start with:

Let go of one thing from the pastMaybe an old conflict, an old argument or being wronged by someone. Let it go to startliving more fully in the present instead of the past.

Let go of negative, small, petty, judgemental and unimportant stuff

If you dwell on that stuff like how someone cut in front of you while you were driving orsomething negative your boss told you and blow it out of proportion all the time how

will you be happy? How will you be able to focus? And how will you be able to handlesomething really big when it comes along like a serious disease, a break up or getting laidoff? Be smart about that stuff.

Dont make yourself weak by making mountains out of molehills. Let that stuff go andfocus on the more important and positive stuff you have and want in your life.


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Final ThoughtsThats it.

It may feel overwhelming so I would like to emphasize what I wrote in the beginning of this book.

Dont try to do this all at once. Focus on one habit at a time for 30 days or more. It mayseem slow and I understand that its easy to get wrapped up in the enthusiasm and thehope that you will give your life a total overhaul right now. Nothing wrong with that.

But in my experience you wont be able to keep it up until your new habits are

established and stable. Sure, you can live on your enthusiasm for a week or two. Butsooner or later life interferes or the stress of doing it all at once causes too much innerand outer resistance and you give up.

Changing a habit is a lot of mental effort. You have resistance from within as your mindtries to drag you back to the comfort it has known for so long (no matter if that familiarplace isnt that healthy for you). You may face resistance from the outside as peoplequestion your change.

Changing just one habit at a time may seem pretty boring. But do you want theexcitement of the thought that you are completely changing your life but then have littleto no results later on? Or do you want a real change in your life?


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Thank you!

Finally, I would like to thank you for reading this book and I hope you enjoyed it as muchas I loved writing it. And thank you so much for supporting me and the Positivity Blog!

If you would like to connect with me then Im on Twitter , Facebook and you can shootme an email from this contact page .

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