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  • 1. Be a Champion of Change with the 7 Habits Are you able to change important areas of your life? Are you just living day to day, or toward a hope? Do you prioritize your time and energy well? How often do you feel bullied by others? Do you understand others ... and vice versa? What are your unique talents? Are they important? Does your life often feel out of balance? What does success mean to you? (family, friends, community, hobby, career, faith) What is required to obtain that success?Darrell Velegol Penn State University velegol@psu.edu started 21 Oct 1999 last edited 21 Jan 2003http://www.personal.psu.edu/faculty/d/x/dxv9/7Habits.ppt1

2. Are you willing to change course? Two battleships assigned to the training squadron had been at sea on maneuvers in heavy weather for several days. I was serving on the lead battleship and was on watch on the bridge as night fell. The visibility was poor with patchy fog, so the captain remained on the bridge keeping an eye on all activities. Shortly after dark, the lookout on the wing of the bridge reported, Light, bearing on the starboard bow. Is it steady or moving astern? the captain called out. Lookout replied, Steady, captain, which meant we were on a dangerous collision course with that ship. The captain then called to the signalman, Signal that ship: We are on a collision course, advise you to change course 20 degrees. Back came a signal, Advisable for you to change course 20 degrees. The captain said, Send, Im a captain, change course 20 degrees. Im a seaman second class, came the reply. You had better change course 20 degrees. By that time the captain was furious. He spat out, Send, Im a battleship. Change course 20 degrees. Back came the flashing light, Im a lighthouse. We changed course.Will you crash against the principles ... or change course?2 3. The 7 Habits ... an overview.7 Sharpen sawInterdependence Understand Synergize 5 6 PUBLIC VICTORY Think win-win 4Independence 3 1 things 1st stPRIVATE VICTORY 1 2 Be Proactive End in mindhabit = knowledge + skill + desireDependence3 4. Habit 1: Be proactive. the gap = our choicestimulusproactive (forward acting, opportunity-focused, clear) I will read one book per month in my field. I will exercise and attend Weight Watchers weekly. I will cook dinners for my wife every Monday.responsecircle of no concernVictor Frankl, Mans Search for MeaningNot until you can say I am what I am today because of the choices I made yesterday.... can you say I choose otherwise.circle of influence concernreactive (reverse acting, problem-bound, vague) I am not as smart as others in this company. People think Im too heavy. I wish our Monday evenings were better. Examples of your reactive statements ... and your proactive counterparts. What to do when frustrated? Discouraged? Imposter? What is your fix routine? 4 Why not be proactive? What is the risk? Are you willing to risk failure? 5. Risking failure ... a shining example! Less than one year of formal education. Innovate or Die, Jack Matson Ran for state legislature ... lost. Bought a store to make a living ... ended up with a huge debt. 1 outside of your circle of influence Interested in a girl ... she died. Interested in another girl ... she dumped him. 2 failure of planning Served four successive terms in the state general assembly. 3 failure of action Became a lawyer. Engaged to be married ... engagement broke ... eventually got married. Had a son ... then another who died ... then another who died ... then another. Ran for Congress ... and lost ... and again, and lost ... and again, and lost ... more failures ... then elected ...but was too unpopular to be re-elected. Became one of the leading lawyers in his state. Ran for Senate .. and lost. but more Ran for President ... and won. successes! Presided successfully over a war. Re-elected President. Write your failure resume. Did you risk time, energy, money, or reputation? Why did you fail (see reasons above)?5 6. Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind.The law of the farm: You reap what you sow. translated sacrifice vision = what you want to see mission = immediate next step(s) Both tend to focus priorities. Specifically write what you want to reap. What do you HOPE for? A prestigious job? A girlfriend or boyfriend? Money? Write what you are willing to sow. Time? Personal energy? Money? Your friends? Any books or movies or models that guide you?6 7. Darrell Velegols vision and mission VISION A shining city on a hill human dignity and virtue. You have a purpose. You have value as a human. hope and freedom. You can change the world.MISSION Inspiring Penn State students to change their world ... and apprenticing them to champion their hope through character. Inspiring trust by establishing and practicing values with courage. ownership. Championing hopes with responsibility and tenacity. risk. Innovating or revolutionizing despite possible failure or adversity. engineering method. Making technical decisions soundly.7 8. Buzzwords for a vision or mission Chemical engineering ... and other passionsWhat will you do with these?chemical production cosmetics electronics energy environment food management medicine patent research-law petroleum pharmaceuticals regulation research wastewateracquire advance appreciate apprentice build communicate construct counsel delight educate elect engineer enlighten entertainanimal rights arts-movies-opera cancer child care and development education environment faith homeless and poor law national parks Penn State University politics and government rape victims travelfinance foster inspire launch master motivate nurture organize praise speak travel venture volunteer writehttp://www.dosomething.org/index.cfm8 9. Habit 3: Put first things first. urgentnot urgent II: opportunity PC activities planning & prevention commitment(25 - 25)importantI: necessity crises deadlines maintaining(65-15)III not important interruptions some meetings some reports (5-55)IV trivia busy work time wasters (5-5) We want Quadrant II > Quadrant I. Quadrant II comes from Quadrants III and IV. Estimate how much time you spend in Quadrant II (and what IS Quad IV?) ... How do you plan your day? Datebook? Palm Pilot? How much is your time worth to you, in dollars/hour? 9 10. The P/PC balance Aesops fable The Goose and the Golden Egg A man and his wife had the good fortune to possess a goose that laid a golden egg every day. Lucky though they were, they soon began to think they were not getting rich fast enough, and, imagining the bird must be made of gold inside, they decided to kill it in order to secure the whole store of precious metal at once. But when they cut it open they found it was just like any other goose. Thus, they neither got rich all at once, as they had hoped, nor enjoyed any longer the daily addition to their wealth.Production (things you are paid for)Production Capability (no pay!)designing a chemical process wiring a home doing a dance enjoying a healthy body having great kidsstudying chemical engineering apprenticing as an electrician practicing dance exercising preparing evening dinners, reading to kids10 11. Habit 3 ... a demonstration.1 Identify big rocks (q2). 2 Schedule these FIRST! 3 Surround with other.What is the lesson?11 12. The 7 Habits ... moving to interdependence7 Sharpen sawInterdependence Understand Synergize 5 6 PUBLIC VICTORY Think win-win 4Independence 3 1 things 1st stPRIVATE VICTORY 1 2 Be Proactive End in mind Dependence12 13. Habit 4: Think win-win.win-win or no deal(you get hard feelings)(abundance mentality; get P and PC)lose-losewin-lose(never pays)considerationlose-win(other person gets hard feeling)courage Are there times when paradigms others than win-win are appropriate? How do you develop courage? Consideration? Emotional bank account? What causes conflict? Tools for conflict resolution? Your boundaries? 13 14. Habit 5: First understand ... then be understood.win-win area = L x h h = understandL = be understood4 tips for dealing with people Do not criticize, condemn, or complain. Express sincere appreciation. Give them emotional air and learn their story. Focus on their interests (know your best alternative coming in). Dale Carnegie How to Win Friends and Influence People Fisher & Ury, Getting to Yes What are some stranglers for emotional air? What are some ways we can express sincere appreciation? How often do you ask someone to a professional lunch? How do you meet a person? How do you greet a person?14 15. Habit 6: Synergize.Animal school Once upon a time, the animals decided they must do something heroic to meet the problems of a New World, so they organized a school. They adopted an activity curriculum consisting of running, climbing, swimming, and flying. To make it easier to administer, all animals took all the subjects. In the end, the ducks web feet were so badly worn that he couldnt swim, the rabbit had a nervous breakdown and couldnt run, the eagle was disciplined severely for getting to the top of the tree without climbing, and an abnormal eel ended up doing best overall and winning valedictorian. What are your unique gifts? What talents do you need from others? What qualities often seem like a disadvantage, but are necessary? How do you contact or talk with people, if you are shy? (Carnegie) 15 16. What is your personality?4 categories I-E introvert (reserved) - extrovert (expressive) S-N sensory (observant) - intuitive (conceptual) T-F thinking - feeling P-J perceiving (probing) - judging (critiquing)David Keirsey, Please Understand Me II (similar to Myers-Briggs) no ranking dont feel boxed in! people are differentARTISANS (observant, probing) IDEALISTS (intuitive, feeling) ESTP promoter (Roosevelt, Madonna) ENFJ teacher (Gorbachev, Billy Graham) ISTP crafter (Bruce Lee, Earhart) INFJ counselor (Gandhi, E Roosevelt) ESFP performer (Elvis, Reagan) ENFP champion ISFP composer (Carso