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Robert McFadden 2010. All rights reserved. Text and images are for promotional purposes only.

Mentoring and Coaching Interaction

What would I like to do better?

What would I rather be doing?

Mentoring and coaching begins with questions such as these to develop reflective and interpersonalskills for managing responsibilities, behaviours, and stress. These abilities have far-reaching advantages:

balanced growth in emotional and intellectual spheres; improved relationships with family and friends; clarity in financial and career aspirations; meaningful engagement in personal and community activities; achievable objectives in health and fitness.

The Difference between Mentoring and Coaching

Mentoring is distinguished from coaching by the degree to which the mentors experience andknowledge enters the relationship. As a mentor, I may propose specific options to you, the client, forinclusion in your action plan. In contrast, the relevance of my experience as a coach is confined to myability to guide you to self-determined learning and results. Mentoring may be appropriate to situationsin which clients seek to move forward under extreme and unfamiliar constraints, or are otherwisehindered from entering into a coaching relationship *. Coaching focuses exclusively upon your ownexperience and knowledge to achieve the learning and results you want.

Mentoring and Coaching Relationships

Mentoring and coaching involve both learning and performance components. Learning focuses on theinternal development of knowledge, processes and abilities affecting our way of being in the world.Performative aspects concentrate on strengthening outward social, behavioural, and work

competencies measurable against prior experience and external standards. Together they develop ourreflective and interpersonal abilities to meet the challenges of everyday life. My role as mentor or coachis to foster the learning and performance appropriate to the unique aptitudes, values, experiences, andcircumstances with which you, the client, begin. You, in turn, develop appropriate goals and actionplans, and assess their on-going success.

Your perceptions and beliefs form the ground from which mentoring and coaching relationships begin.Each of us interprets, conceives, and assigns values according to our individual legacies. These values

guide our ideas and intuitions, allowing us to move effortlessly and effectively through our daily routine.At times of significant challenge, these values may begin to limit our range of responses. Frustration and

lack of clarity are the frequent results. When faced with such challenges, it is appropriate to considerchanges to our usual approaches - and to get help putting them into practice.

* Work undertaken in mentoring and coaching is not be confused with the therapeutic practices of counselling or psychotherapy, nor the instructional solutions of training or consulting.

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Robert McFadden 2010. All rights reserved. Text and images are for promotional purposes only.

The Mentoring and Coaching Cycle

Mentoring and coaching cycles begin with recognition of a desire for change : Id like to do X better, orId rather be doing Y. We then identify challenges to your progress and determine options that maybest open your way. This is followed by an inventory of resources time, knowledge, skills, and such -and their affect upon your options. Commitment to a concrete plan of action follows. Monitoring andattunement guide the execution of this plan through to completion, at which time we review newlearnings and results; leading to their integration into ongoing performance.

The duration of mentoring and coaching relationships vary according your particular needs. Mentoringor coaching may be provided in one-off situations - workplace changes, short-term health concerns, orrelationship issues in which immediate feedback and advice are of benefit. Longer term mentoringand coaching usually begins with recurring issues or experiences for new solutions are sought. It is yourprerogative as the client to determine the depth and duration of the relationship.

About Myself

My name is Robert McFadden. I mentor and coach aptitudes for resolvingchallenging relationships and circumstances. Originally trained as an artist, mycurrent practice has developed through on-going instruction and collaborationwith clients, colleagues, family, and friends. In addition, I have worked with majorinstitutions in technology, entertainment, the arts, and medicine, includingMicrosoft, Industrial Light and Magic, Disney, The National Gallery of Canada,Pfizer and GlaxoSmithKline.

I am happy to answer any questions or discuss any issues for which you might be considering seeking mentoring orcoaching. Drop me a line at robert@ZENofGOSSIP.com or call me any time in Montreal at (1) 438 288 6569. I lookforward to hearing from you.