your argument! It's immature: do you really need to score points that badly?

*Own your own feelings This bit may be quite hard in an argument, but it will minimize defensiveness all round. If you are telling your partner what you are not happy with always say "I feel ....", "I want ... from you", etc. When you state your case from your perspective you are owning your side of it. This creates a very

different process then when you say "You make me feel... by doing....", "You are this, that and the other". The latter often leads to b l a m i n g o r defensiveness and

it is easy to get into entrenched positions.

*Be honest An argument is all about stating what's what as you see it. You need to be willing to be open with your partner about how you feel and what you're thinking. One really great benefit of arguing is that in the heat of the moment you may be honest about things which you would normally not be willing to say to your partner. Therefore, arguments can help to bring more closeness and honesty into your relationship. There is no point in trying to hide or protect your partner from how you are really feeling. So in some way, "brutal" honesty is what is often needed, but without personal insults, attacks or pushing responsibility for your feelings onto your partner. In short be honest, but don't persecute

The Art of Arguing

WRC: Changing Lives since 1974 . . .

Arguments are natural in any relationship. The problem comes when arguments turn ugly and hurtful. *Never, ever physically attack your partner!

It doesn't matter what gender you are, or whether you are the physically weaker one in a couple. Getting physically aggressive with your partner is not a c c e p t a b l e u n d e r a n y circumstances. If you feel like you are losing control of yourself walk away from the situation and give yourself some time and space to cool off. And of course people can also b e h av e i n a v e r y threatening way physically without ever laying hands on somebody, so be aware of how you're using your body in an argument and don't threaten your partner physically. Don't throw hard objects either.

*Don't attack your partner verbally

People can be very aggressive and personally insulting with words. Personal, verbal insults are neither acceptable nor useful in an argument. Always remember that your partner is (or was) a person you care about. He or she is not your enemy. By not saying anything personally insulting you are safeguarding the interests of both of you for the future, rather than trying to win and score points personally. Furthermore, simply consider how much apologizing you will have to do later for trading personal insults during

Summer Edition July 2012

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at (760) 757-3500.

Women’s Resource Center’s Mission Statement

Women’s Resource Center

(WRC) is dedicated to providing the highest quality supportive

services, counseling, shelter and education to North County women, children and men

involved in or threatened by domestic violence or

sexual assault. ww.wrcsd.org

“The first step to getting the things you want out of life is this:

Decide what you want!”

—Ben Stein

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* LOUISE WESTERN

* PATRICIA AND OLE PRAHM

* JAMES AND KAREN KLEIN PALENSCAR

* MICHELE AND WARD LEWIS

* RENEE WEXLER

* RUKIE HARRIS

* W.R. STENDAHL, JR.

* COLLEEN AND LARRY O’HARRA

Newsletter Sponsors thank you for helping to make this publication

Sponsorships are available at the rate of $ 50.00 per year and support the publication of

this newsletter.

To become as sponsor, call Lauren Jane at (760) 757-3500.

Join WRC’s Cell Phone Drive!

Women’s Resource Center’s Resale Shop

Located at

3385 Mission Avenue Oceanside

Tuesday—Saturday 10:00 a.m.—5:00 p.m.

Your purchased and donated items provide critically needed services to

victims of domestic violence and sexual assault.

WE NEED

YOUR HELP! W o m e n ’ s R e s o u r c e Center is collecting used, unwanted cell phones. The proceeds from this collection effort helps to fund our services and programs. Cell Phone Collection “drop boxes” are currently established at the

following locations in Oceanside:

* Women’s Resource Center 1963 Apple Street Oceanside * WRC ’s Thrift Store 3385 Mission Avenue Oceanside * First Presbyterian 2001 El Camino Real

Oceanside * Point Loma Credit Union 2178 Vista Way, Suite E5 Oceanside

Women’s Resource Center will be closed for the following holidays

Monday, September 3rd Labor Day

Monday, October 8th Columbus Day

Wednesday, July 4th 4th of July

Emergency services will be available at (760) 757-3500.

Tips for Preventing Sexual Assault in a Social Situation

When you go to a social gathering, go with a group of friends.

Trust your instincts.

Don’t leave your drink unattended.

Don’t accept drinks from people you don’t know or trust.

Watch out for your friends, and vice versa.

If you suspect you or a friend has been drugged, contact law

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Please join us for a unique opportunity to tour Women’s Resource Center and Trans House to see WRC in action.

During your one hour WRC experience tour you will . . .

* See how Women’s Resource Center puts our mission statement, vision and core values into action providing clients with support, shelter and hope.

* See first hand how your contributory dollars are being used to help women and children in need with 91% of

every dollar going directly to services for clients.

* See what more you can do to help and make a difference with your time, talents and donations to be part of the miracles that happen every day.

WRC Experience Tours are

Enjoy the “WRC Experience” Tour

Dream Builders Society These founding members of Women’s Resource Center’s Dream Builders Society are committed to changing the lives of victims of domestic violence and sexual assault by helping us be there to reach back when those who need us reach out. They are Building Hope and have pledged $1,000 per year for five years in support of WRC’s work.

Colleen and Robert Barrett

Diana Chernofsky

Jan and Tom Coley

Loren Dixon

Colleen and Larry O’Harra

Gloria Rombotis

Ellen and Kevin Stotmeister

Mary Jo and Dick Young

These members are supporting the work of the Dream Builders Society:

Blake and Jerry Kern

Billie and Tom Nunan

Raj Pillai

Kathy Wolf

Special thanks to each of you! For information on the Dream Builders Society, contact Marva at (760) 757-3500.

Sexual harassment is unwanted sexual or gender-based conduct that interferes with an individual’s ability to perform or advance, especially in a work or school setting. Sexual harassment can be committed by someone of the opposite sex, or by someone of the same sex. Victims can be either male or female. Sexual harassment laws are violated when submission to or rejection of this conduct ◊ explicitly or implicitly affects an individual's employment or education, ◊ unreasonably interferes with an individual's performance or promotion, or ◊ creates an intimidating, hostile, or offensive work or learning environment.

Did You Know . . . Sexual Harassment

Totals

153

1,632

39

1,174

47

452

19

1,639

5,155

Clients Programs

Sexual Assault

Domestic Violence

Perpetrator Program

General Emergency Services

Children’s Services/

Child Abuse

Housing:

—Alternatives Shelter

—Transition House

On-going Services

Total Clients Served

Mark your calendars now for the

4th annual “Walk Away From Domestic Violence” Sunset Walk

to be held on

Sunday, October 14, 2012

4:00 p.m.

at the Oceanside Harbor, sponsored by Friends of WRC, benefitting the children of Women’s Resource Center. Sponsorships will be available.

Watch for pricing and team discounts. For further information, contact Joann Bowers at (760) 815-5776.

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Save the Date

WRC NEWS

WRC Client Services July 2011—May 2012

Clients Services

Adult Counseling

Children’s Counseling

Case Management/Follow-up

Emergency Services

Referral and Information

Crisis Assistance/Intervention

Hotline Call Responses

Shelter Bed Nights

Trans House Bed Nights

Motel Bed Nights

Total Services Provided

Totals

1,519

322

2,886

899

1,768

1,487

829

7,075

16,844

7

33,636

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The following are updated excerpts from a letter received by Women’s Resource Center from a former client:

“I would like to thank everyone for making my family and I feel welcome in a time of trial. I was very impressed on how quickly I was contacted to come to transitional housing while at another shelter. I have been blessed while staying here and feel honored to have had wonderful counseling and support during my stay. I was fortunate to have found a job within the first three weeks of my stay and that is why I am able to graduate from the program so early. During my time here I have learned a lot of lessons, such as using public transportation with five children, becoming self-sufficient, independent, and have a higher self-esteem. I learned that I was capable of doing all of this on my own. I learned a lot about myself and was able to see how strong and courageous I was to start this new life and see all that I have accomplished in one year. I learned how to budget and live within my means and to save money. I was able to pay my bills on time and re-establish my credit which allowed me to be able to buy a vehicle. I have learned some hard lessons while being here, like who to trust and that everyone is not what they appear to be. It has been a while since I lived in the real world, because I home schooled my children for the past 3 years and having to put three of my children in public school and two in daycare was a little hard for me. But a good school and daycare for my children were available. I was fortunate to be able to run my own program here, because I was always prepared. I thank the house managers for supporting me and keeping me accountable with the weekly inspections. I still struggle, but I know I will keep working on things in my new apartment. I have had the most help with counseling. I always looked forward to seeing my counselor. She helped me set goals, like a chore chart for my children and she helped me see the real me and that I don’t need to be so hard on myself. I am going to seek more counseling after I move. The counseling for my children has

helped tremendously. I have seen a difference in them and how well they have adjusted to this transition. I am thankful for all the gifts and blessings my family received for Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter, Mother’s Day and our birthdays. I never felt so blessed before and for that I am eternally grateful. I am not used to being on the receiving end of things because it is easier for me to give than receive. But I am thankful for everything I received. Finally, I learned that I am more than a victim, and more than a survivor of domestic violence. This has not only been a great experience, but it is what my children and I needed. They are looking forward to the next part of our lives. I do want to add that I really enjoyed the cohesiveness of the ladies her and how they were helpful when we needed it. I am thankful for the new friendships I made and I really enjoyed how we all got together for potlucks or field trips. I learned that the more effort I put into the program the better the outcome. I believe that I fulfilled that through this program. I know I will never forget how I grew to be a better mother and person while staying here at WRC Transition House. I wish there was no need for such a program, but unfortunately, we live in a fallen world and there are many people in need of such a program. I am thankful for the safety of this place and that there are places like this for women to go and be safe. Again, I am very thankful for all that you have done for me and my children. I wish everyone here who helped us in a time of need great success and many blessings to all those who pass through this program.

Sincerely, Susie” * * Name is changed to protect the confidentiality of the client.

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Why We Do What We Do . . . A Client’s Story

Women’s Resource Center Staff Chief Executive Officer

Marva Bledsoe Director of Business Services

Laura Kimsey Director of Residential Services

Lindsay Samson Director of Client Services

Jill Morgan Center Staff: Joe McDaniel, Amparo Perez-Flynn, Lauren-Jane Stephenson, Janie Barba, Stephanie Murray, Greg Wi t tman , Franche t te Padrigon, Sally Tumanuvao, Arnita Moore, Cindy Mensinger, Pam Wright and Jessica White.

Alternatives Shelter Staff: Sandy McIntosh, Lee Conner, Jacqueline Wendt, Monica Federico and Irais Perez. Transition House Staff: Helga Conner, Jeremy Stein, Leticia Ortiz, Kari Olsen, Tara Ashford, Dominique Silvas, Darlene Davis, Mary Diaz, Theresa Walker and Kelly Wise. WRC Thrift Shop Staff: Glenda Pullen and Catalina Alvarado

The “rule of thumb” is said to have

been derived from English law

that allowed a man to beat his

wife with a stick as long as it was

no thicker than his thumb.

For the eighth year, an energetic crowd of over 325 converged on O c e a n s i d e ’ s O u t b a c k Steakhouse in support of the Women's Resource Center.

Ticket sales, raffle tickets, silent auction, cookie sales and other donations, the event raised more than $9,000 for the WRC and its programs.

Once again, Outback Steakhouse proprietor Janice Kohler generously donated the all the delicious food for the event, and her wait staff graciously worked for tips only.

This popular fundra iser benefited two organizations. Those who wished to buy a ticket and have a wonderful

lunch at the Steakhouse could do so. Those who were unable to attend, donated their tickets to a Marine and family members. This year, over 170 tickets were donated to active duty personnel through the Armed Forces YMCA at Camp Pendleton.

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WRC at the Outback Celebrates Success!

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learned about yourself through this process. Additionally, what have you learned about your partner and your relationship with him or her through this argument?

*What if you are always repeating the same argument over and over?

This is when things can get really stuck. Quite often couples will then escalate the intensity of emotion to try and move the process forward. Intense arguments have a lot to do with our past relationships - at least as much as they have to do with our present relationships. You may both be replaying unresolved issues that you bring from past relationships or childhood. The more you learn about yourself and your own reactions the better. Try and reflect on yourself as much as you can before you allocate responsibility or agency to your partner. For example: "'I am feeling scared, maybe because of my past experiences, therefore, I get very nervous when she wants to go out with her friends, which I hate to admit to her, so I just get angry instead and protest about her going." This is much more useful then thinking "She makes me angry because she likes to go out with her friends." If you find this type of self reflection di f f icul t p lease consider consulting a couples therapist or individual therapy. Learning about yourself is an important part o f

*Be willing to forgive

At some point an argument needs to stop again. Normally, this happens when an issue has been resolved, or there has been some change in one or both partners. Whenever it is OK for you, try and let things go again. Maybe what has been said is enough for now. At that point, check with yourself whether you are willing to forgive your partner, or accept him or her for who he or she is even if that's not how you ideally would like them to be. If you find this difficult maybe there is still something you need to say? On the other hand, be aware of your own tendency to try and win arguments or to try and have the last word. You can't both have the last word each and every time; however, by forgiving each other and letting things go you can both win as a team.

*How do you know your arguments are positive rather than destructive?

During a constructive argument something new happens. You or your partner may express yourselves differently, or you may try to react differently. You may show yourself more, or find out some new information about your partner. Useful arguments mean you learn something new about yourself or your partner - even if issues haven't been resolved. Keep in mind that some issues cannot be resolved, and that there may always be tensions about differences between the two of you. It is useful to think and reflect on arguments once they are finished. Consider what you've

continued from front page *Be direct

This follows on from the above point on honesty. If you name things as they are for you without beating round the bush, the whole argument will be over quicker. Stick to what is happening right now between the two of you and state what you are thinking and feeling clearly. This will need some practice as strong feelings often don't help one's articulation. Being direct also means you don't keep on talking and talking, but each of you gets a chance to talk and state your case.

*Give yourself "time out" Arguments can involve very intense feelings and use up a lot of energy. Give yourself time to cool off, or to step away and calm down for a bit. It's OK to have breaks from the process and to come back to it once you are feeling a bit calmer again. Some things can't get sorted straight away and need more time. For some people it is really hard to manage interruptions in the continuity of the relationship. If you are getting really stressed when your partner wants to have some time out, it may help to learn to manage your own a n x i e t y b e t t e r i n t h e moment. Arguments still progress in these breaks as each partner has time to reflect and process what has happened. Even though you may feel no connection at all to your partner during this break they are still there. It's OK to be with yourself for a while: the other person is still around and hasn't packed his or her bags yet!

The Art of Arguing, cont.

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On average, more than three women a day are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in the Uni ted Sta tes and women experience two million injuries from intimate partner violence each year. Many of these women are mothers who often go to great and courageous lengths to protect their children from abusive partners. In fact, research has shown that the non-abusing parent is often the strongest protective factor in the lives of children who are exposed to domestic violence. However, growing up in a violent home may be a terrifying and traumatic experience that can affect every aspect of a child’s life, growth and development. In spite of this, we know that when properly identified and addressed, the effects of domestic violence on children can be mitigated. •15.5 million U.S. children live in families in which partner violence occurred at least once in the past year, and seven million children live in families in which severe partner violence occurred. ●The majority of U.S. nonfatal intimate partner victimizations of women (two-thirds) occur at home. Children are residents of the households experiencing intimate partner violence in 43 percent of incidents involving female victims. ●In a single day in 2007, 13,485 children were living in a domestic violence shelter or transitional housing facility. Another 5,526 sought services at a non-residential program. ●The UN Secretary-General’s

●Phys i ca l abuse du r ing childhood increases the risk of future victimization among women and the risk of future perpetration of abuse by men more than two-fold.

What Helps Children Exposed to Violence •Psychotherapy designed for mothers and children together can increase the quality of parenting and increase positive outcomes for children. •Many abusive men are concerned about the effect of violence on their children and the children of their partners. Some may be motivated to stop us ing v io lence i f they understand the devastating effects on their children. •A safe, stable and nurturing relationship with a caring adult can help a child overcome the stress associated with intimate partner violence.

Children Trafficked and Exploited •The World Health Organization reports that 150 million girls experienced forced sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual violence in 2002. • Each year, more than two million children are exploited in the global commercial sex trade, many of them trapped in prostitution. •According to the International Labour Office, eight million children are trapped in the worst forms of child labor, which include slavery, trafficking, debt bondage, forced recruitment for use in a rmed conf l i c t ,

Study on Violence Against Children conservatively estimates that 275 million children worldwide are exposed to violence in the home.

Domestic Violence Affects Children •A Michigan study of low-income pre-schoolers finds that children who h a v e b e e n exposed to family violence suffer symptoms of pos t - t r aumat ic stress disorder, such as bed-w e t t i n g o r nightmares, and are at greater risk than their peers of having al lergies, asthma, gas t ro intes t inal problems, headaches and flu. •Children of mothers who experience prenatal physical domestic violence are at an increased risk of exhibiting aggressive, anxious, depressed or hyperactive behavior. •Females who are exposed to their parents’ domestic violence as adolescents are significantly more likely to become victims of dating violence than daughters of nonviolent parents. •Children who experience childhood trauma, including witnessing incidents of domestic violence, are at a greater risk of having serious adult health problems including tobacco use, substance abuse, obesity, cancer, heart disease, depression and a higher risk for unintended pregnancy.

Children and Domestic Violence

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2012-2013 OFFICERS

Kaj Leonard Insurance Administrator

CHAIR

Bob Barrett Retired Law Enforcement

VICE CHAIR

Julie Soto Community Member

SECRETARY

Marty Rombotis General Contractor

TREASURER

Kathi Pace Retired Court Reporter

Member-at-Large

2012-2013 DIRECTORS

Debra Bement, M.D.

Physician

Karen Bond Foundation Manager

Edith Jones Professional Photographer

Colleen O’Harra Private Professional Fiduciary

Rajnandini “Raj” Pillai, Ph.D. Professor of Management

Honorary Board Member Janet Bledsoe Lacy

Attorney-at-Law

Larry O’Harra Commercial Real Estate Broker

In Memoriam Robert Gleason

1917-2004

WOMEN’S RESOURCE CENTER’S

BOARD OF DIRECTORS

SAVE THE DATE September 7, 2012

WOMEN’S RESOURCE CENTER’S

32nd Annual

Wine, Beer and Gourmet Food Tasting

Magical Evening

this year presenting

Sunset on the Lagoon

at our stunning new venue

Agua Hedionda Lagoon Discovery Center Carlsbad

6:00 pm - 9:00 pm

Featuring a Silent and Live Auction

Reservations $100 in advance

$110 at the door

Contact Marva or Lauren Jane at (760) 757-3500.

Photo by Cassie Ott

CENTURY CLUB - $100—$249 Aetna Foundation Inc Alicia Blitz Ann Cockrill Mortland Angela and Joe Bear Bobbie Hoder Briar Rose Winery Bridge Community Church Captain Charles Lindberg Carl and Rea James Carolyn and David Mickelson Catherine and David Blecki Charles and Ann Fleming Charles and Terry Edwards Chiropractic Therapy Center Christiansen Chiropractic Corp. Christian Women’s Fellowship Christopher and Raelene Hall Church of Earth and Sky Colleen and Kenneth Noonan Community of Christ Craig Fannahill Darwin and Carleen Southard Dawn and Terry Williamson Deborah Harper Homes Dennis Edrege Desio Foundation Diana Aaron Diane Burlison Edison International Employee Contributions Campaign Edna Flores Elaine and Michael Barton Elizabeth Council Elizabeth Layman Elmer and Lorrine Reich Emma Muir Erminia and Jerry Terry Event Media Fox Advisor’s Inc. Friends of Carlsbad Village Academy Gerald and Mary Cline Geraldine Ryan Ginger Hansen Goodrich Employees Will-Share J. LeCroissette J. Brown James and Alyce Ashcraft Jeanette Yaeger J.H. and B.A. Thayer Jill Akre Jill Morris Joan and J. L. Egerton Jose and Anna Ornelas Joseph and Katherine Wanner June Western

CENTURY CLUB - cont. $100—$249 Karen Hildebradt Kaylee Delsindico Kelly Kruse KPMG L. and S. Crump Larry and Frances Cochran Lauren and Wayne Arnsbarger Lawrence and Lorna Cullen Lennie Strong Madisen Irwin Margaret Ulloa Marjorie and Richard Fonger Marvelle and Grant Stines Marvin Atkins Mary Anderson Merrie Bessel Michael and Candace O’Betz Michael and Marilyn Pollack Michelle Freeborn Michelle Diane Folliot North County Trophies Oceanside Optimist Club Oceanside Retired Employee Association Pam Polifroni Patricia and James Downs Patricia Jeffreys Paul and Karen Pendergast Pauline and Richard Rossmaessler Pearl Kugel Presbyterian Women Grace Ralph Levin Rebecca Young Johnson Robert John Toot Rohr Employees Willshare Club Rolland and Patty Barberio Ruth Pyszczynski San Dieguito Kappa Kappa Gamma Sara and Van Botts Sharon and Robert Lee Sheila Carroll Shirley Brown-Pielecha Stacy and Dan Rodriguez Steve Metro Steven and Karen Hicks T. Jo Porter-Shoebridge The Bridge Community Church Tom and Billie Nunan Victor and Billie Foli Virginia and Frank Brophy Wayne and Pattie Germain Weese Family Trust William and Phoebe Biggs Yvonne and C. A. Murchison Yvonne Fisher

DIRECTOR’S CIRCLE - $250—$499 Allen and Marilyn Souchek Andrea Portenier Anthony and Delores Desio Bellagio Salon and Day Spa Bill Holmes Martial Arts Blake and Jerry Kern Camille Schuster Carlsbad by the Sea Claudine Lam David and Kim Rau Debbie Olivier Memorial Fund Diane and Fred Hilton EIF Entertainment Industry Foundation Fred and Nerice Kaufman George and Lani Cornell Greenman, Lacy, Klein, O’Harra and Heffron Harriett Bledsoe Janet Bledsoe Lacy Jeffrey Todd Tuller Jennifer and Randee Starritt John and Cheryl Granville Allen John and Sandy Lusignan Mark and Erin Olivier Michael and Sandi Blessing Murray and Jane Dunn Nifty Niners Oceanside Newcomers and Friends Oriental Medical Arts and Acupuncture Patricia Hoyt Raj Pillai Raquel Kolsrud Rexanne Buchanan Steven Streelman Terri Manok Thelma Hendrix Via Sat William Dern Windermere California Foundation Yoga Oceanside

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Leaders in the Fight Against Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault

WRC NEWS

Thank you for your support!

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ADVOCATE - $500—$999 Christ the King Lutheran Church Women Christian and Ana Mendoza City National Bank Coldwell Banker Edith and Malcolm Jones Elizabeth J. Van Hunnick Eternal Hills Mortuary Frank and Claudia Stebelski Gordon Training Ideal Body SoCal James Scott Jazzercise, Inc. Kathy and Mike Wolf Laurence Wrathall Kaj Leonard – LNW Insurance Administrators Laurence Wrathall Marty and Mary Rombotis Nancy Garry National Charity League Oceanside Civitan Odvar and Zeta Holm Renee Wexler Robert and Celeste Edmonston San Luis Rey Auto Parts and Salvage Shadowridge Golf Club Teri Cohen The Blanchard Foundation The Cromer Family Trust Timothy and Judy Black Valerie Higgins Waste Management of North County Wells Fargo Bank

PATRON - $1,000—$4,999 AMF Eagle Women’s 200 Club Bob and Colleen Barrett Cenzone Tech, Inc. Clark CARES Foundation Colleen and Larry O’Harra Community Service Association Cory and Jennifer Russell Darrell and Loren Dixon Diana Chernofsky Dixon Properties Donald and Cathern Loadman Ellen and Kevin Stotmeister Emerson Charitable Trust George and Natalie Lee Gigi Gleason Gloria Rombotis Hal and Carol Needham In N Out Burger Foundation James Mashburn Jarka Bartl Joseph and Joanne Lantange Kerry and Thomas Siekmann Kimberly Querrey Market Research Institute Martin and Cynthia Buser Mary “Bebe” and Rusty Grosse Mary Jo and Dick Young Meliani Peet North County Family Law Specialists Oceans Eleven Casino Robert and Joanne Thornton Rancho Santa Fe Rotary San Marcos Lutheran Church Women San Diego County Credit Union Sharon Taylor Soroptimist International of Oceanside-Carlsbad Sproul Technology Unlimited St. Michaels by the Sea Steve and Carol Schafer The Angel Society of Fallbrook The Catheryn Kay Christiansen The Daphne Seybolt Culpeper Memorial Foundation The Guadalupe Charitable Trust The Lincoln National Life Insurance Company Thomas and Janet Coley Thomas S. Temple Trilar Management University of California at San Diego Vista Valley Country Club Women Golfers Woman’s Club of Vista

BENEFACTOR - $5,000 and above Amigos de Vista Lions Club Bruce and Janet Lawrence Carlsbad Hi Noon Rotary Combined Federal Campaign Datron World Communications First Presbyterian Church of Oceanside Genentech God’s Gift Howard Charitable Foundation Karen Bond Kristina and Eugene Foss Loretta Ames Marjorie Mosher Schmidt Foundation Martin Leichter Foundation Marvin Garb Foundation NRG Energy Oceanside Yacht Club Patricia Fore Price Family Charitable Fund Rotary Club of Carlsbad Sempra Energy Foundation St. Germaine Children’s Charity The Bertha W. Cook Trust The San Diego Foundation Tri-City Healthcare District University of San Diego William Gumpert Foundation in Honor of Colleen O’Harra

Includes donors from April 2011

through April 2012

Leaders in the Fight Against Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault

Winston Churchill: "We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give."

Magical Evening presents Sunset on the Lagoon

Friday, September 7th

Friends of WRC Sunset Walk

Sunday, October 14th

Upcoming WRC Events—

Mark Your Calendars

Non Profit U.S. Postage PAID Oceanside, CA Permit No. 67

Women’s Resource Center (WRC) is dedicated to providing the highest quality supportive services, counseling, shelter and education to North San Diego County women, children and men involved in or threatened by

domestic violence or sexual assault.

Women’s Resource Center is supported by : Private donations, State of California Emergency Management Agency, Cities of Carlsbad and Oceanside, United States Department of Housing and Urban Development and United Way/CHAD designations

1963 Apple Street Oceanside, CA 92054

The Friends of WRC have welcomed 1 new member (Laura Garver) and 2 returning members (Beate & Michael Russe) in the past 3 months. Renewing members for March, April, & May are Kathie & Charlie Chan, Margaret Ulloa, Janet Lacy, Pam Polifroni, Beth Levin, Ann Slezak, Louann Gigante, Eileen Miller, Debra Harper, Katie & Ken Alfrey, Sara Botts, Ann & Bruce Mortland, the late Jean Tweedie, Frankie McHenry, Marybeth Glenn, and Terry & Charles Edwards. Friends of WRC supports special activities for the children in residence at Women’s Resource Center’s battered women’s shelter and transitional housing program. Through their membership’s “Fun Fund”, Friends provides for the “extras” that are not in the Center’s budget but which are so critical to creating a sense of normalcy and well-being for these children. The “Fun Fund” activities bring smiles to their faces, laughter to their voices, and provide light-hearted, childhood fun! To join Friends, contact Lorna Stofer at (760) 439-7950.

News from Friends of WRC

Phone: (760) 757-3500 (24 hours) Fax: (760) 757-0680

E-mail: info@wrcsd.org www.wrcsd.org

SUMMER 2012