NOBODY LIKES A NOBODY LIKES A BULLYBULLYCURRICULUM FOR MIDDLE STUDENTSCURRICULUM FOR MIDDLE STUDENTS

BULLY definitionBULLY definition

Webster’s Dictionary defines Webster’s Dictionary defines bullying as:bullying as:

• A person who hurts or frightens A person who hurts or frightens those who are smaller and those who are smaller and weaker.weaker.

BULLY definition:BULLY definition:

Bullying is also:Bullying is also:• An intentional written, verbal or An intentional written, verbal or physical act against a student which physical act against a student which is motivated by the bully’s perception is motivated by the bully’s perception of that student’s:of that student’s:– racerace– colorcolor– creedcreed– gendergender– sexual orientationsexual orientation– or other distinguishing characteristicsor other distinguishing characteristics

Paraphrased Paraphrased from Senate Bill 5528 adopted 03-09-02from Senate Bill 5528 adopted 03-09-02

I’m not bully, am I?I’m not bully, am I?

In a recent study of almost 16,000 In a recent study of almost 16,000 students, nearly 30% said that they students, nearly 30% said that they had been involved in bullying.had been involved in bullying.• 8% of the student reported being 8% of the student reported being bullied at least once weekly.bullied at least once weekly.

• The frequency of bullying was The frequency of bullying was reportedly highest among 6reportedly highest among 6thth-8-8thth graders.graders.

ARE YOU A BULLY?ARE YOU A BULLY?Journal of American Medicine (2001)Journal of American Medicine (2001)

BULLIES PICK ON BULLIES PICK ON DIFFERENCESDIFFERENCES

and differences are what make and differences are what make

us unique!us unique!

Bullying happens in 4 Bullying happens in 4 waysways

Verbal: Direct and IndirectVerbal: Direct and Indirect

PhysicalPhysical

Sexual Sexual

PropertyProperty

WHAT DOES IT LOOK WHAT DOES IT LOOK LIKE?LIKE?

Verbal (Direct)Verbal (Direct)• ThreatsThreats• Group threatsGroup threats• TeasingTeasing• JokesJokes

VERBAL (Indirect)VERBAL (Indirect)• Ignoring / IsolationIgnoring / Isolation• GossipGossip

WHAT DOES IT LOOK WHAT DOES IT LOOK LIKE?LIKE?

PHYSICAL (Direct)PHYSICAL (Direct)• Blocking someone’s pathBlocking someone’s path• Physical restraintPhysical restraint• Pushing / KickingPushing / Kicking• Hazing (eg. Taping to a pole)Hazing (eg. Taping to a pole)• FightingFighting• Drive-bysDrive-bys• MurderMurder

WHAT DOES IT LOOK WHAT DOES IT LOOK LIKE?LIKE?

SEXUALSEXUAL• Teasing with sexual overtonesTeasing with sexual overtones• TouchingTouching• SlappingSlapping• Innuendo / JokesInnuendo / Jokes• Pictures, emails, graffitiPictures, emails, graffiti• Sexual assaultSexual assault• RapeRape

WHAT DOES IT LOOK WHAT DOES IT LOOK LIKE?LIKE?

PROPERTYPROPERTY• Hiding belongingsHiding belongings• TheftTheft• Extortion (blackmail)Extortion (blackmail)• VandalismVandalism• DestructionDestruction

WHAT ARE THE EFFECTS OF WHAT ARE THE EFFECTS OF BULLYING?BULLYING?

EMOTIONAL EFFECTS: EMOTIONAL EFFECTS: HOW DO YOU FEEL?HOW DO YOU FEEL?• left outleft out• anxiousanxious• insecureinsecure• low self esteemlow self esteem• F E A RF E A R• depresseddepressed• withdrawnwithdrawn• aggressiveaggressive• angryangry• vengefulvengeful

PHYSICAL PHYSICAL EFFECTS: EFFECTS:

HOW DO YOU ACT?HOW DO YOU ACT?• stomach aches / stomach aches / weight loss or gainweight loss or gain

• headachesheadaches• grades dropgrades drop• drug or alcohol usedrug or alcohol use• sexual activitysexual activity• drop out of schooldrop out of school• assaultiveassaultive• suicidalsuicidal• homicidalhomicidal

WHAT ARE THE EFFECTS OF WHAT ARE THE EFFECTS OF BULLYING?BULLYING?

LONG TERM EFFECTSLONG TERM EFFECTS• ViolenceViolence

– HomicideHomicide– SuicideSuicide– Domestic violenceDomestic violence

• Mental Health DisordersMental Health Disorders– Post Traumatic Stress DisorderPost Traumatic Stress Disorder

EFFECTS OF BULLYINGEFFECTS OF BULLYING

A recent national study found A recent national study found that 90% of those bullied that 90% of those bullied reported psychological reported psychological consequences, including:consequences, including:• A drop in gradesA drop in grades• Increased anxietyIncreased anxiety• Loss of friendsLoss of friends

EFFECTS OF BULLYINGEFFECTS OF BULLYING

More than 160,000 More than 160,000 students do not go to students do not go to school each day because school each day because they fear being bullied.they fear being bullied.

- National Education Association, National Association of - National Education Association, National Association of School PsychologistsSchool Psychologists

TRUE OR FALSE?TRUE OR FALSE?

A kid who gets teased and bullied A kid who gets teased and bullied knows we’re just kidding around. knows we’re just kidding around. Even if it does hurt his feelings Even if it does hurt his feelings right now, he’ll get over it.right now, he’ll get over it.

FALSE. Bullying is kind of like FALSE. Bullying is kind of like pounding a nail into a board. You pounding a nail into a board. You can take the nail out, but the hole can take the nail out, but the hole is still there. You can even use is still there. You can even use some kind of putty to fill the hole some kind of putty to fill the hole up. The bottom line is that piece up. The bottom line is that piece of wood will never be quite the same of wood will never be quite the same again. People who have been bullied again. People who have been bullied carry those scars, big or small, carry those scars, big or small, forever.forever.

RESULTS OF BULLYINGRESULTS OF BULLYING

VIOLENCEVIOLENCE• The Secret Service did a study The Secret Service did a study on school violence and found on school violence and found that bullying and tormenting that bullying and tormenting were a factor in 37 school were a factor in 37 school violence incidents.violence incidents.

STRAIGHT FROM THE STRAIGHT FROM THE HEADLINES...HEADLINES...

BARRY LOUKAITISBARRY LOUKAITIS, 14, MOSES LAKE, , 14, MOSES LAKE, WA, FEB. 2 , 1996.WA, FEB. 2 , 1996.

JOSEPH “COLT” TODDJOSEPH “COLT” TODD, 14, STAMPS, , 14, STAMPS, AR, DEC. 15 1997. AR, DEC. 15 1997.

ERIC HARRIS, ERIC HARRIS, 17, AND17, AND DYLAN DYLAN KLEBOLDKLEBOLD, 18, NEAR LITTLETON, CO, , 18, NEAR LITTLETON, CO, APRIL 20, 1999. APRIL 20, 1999.

STRAIGHT FROM THE STRAIGHT FROM THE HEADLINESHEADLINES

CHARLES “ANDY” WILLIAMSCHARLES “ANDY” WILLIAMSSANTANA HIGH SCHOOL, SANTEE SANTANA HIGH SCHOOL, SANTEE

CA, CA, MARCH 6, 2001. MARCH 6, 2001.

VIOLENCE: VIOLENCE: IT’S NOT IT’S NOT ALWAYS HOMICIDEALWAYS HOMICIDE

SUICIDE: SUICIDE: • It’s the third leading cause of It’s the third leading cause of death among persons 10 to 24 death among persons 10 to 24 years old years old US. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). US. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).

• 500,000 teens attempt suicide 500,000 teens attempt suicide every year.every year.

• 5,000 succeed.5,000 succeed.

OK, SO WHAT CAN I DO?OK, SO WHAT CAN I DO?

BULLYING BULLYING STARTSSTARTS AND AND STOPSSTOPS WITH WITH YOU!!YOU!! If you see another student being victimized If you see another student being victimized by a bully or bullies, tell someone.by a bully or bullies, tell someone.

Offer a positive or encouraging comment. Offer a positive or encouraging comment. Helping someone else feel good about Helping someone else feel good about themselves only makes you feel better!themselves only makes you feel better!

DO NOTDO NOT LAUGH OR PARTICIPATE. LAUGH OR PARTICIPATE. Teachers, counselors, school administrators, Teachers, counselors, school administrators, school security monitors and school resource school security monitors and school resource officers are all willing to listen and help.officers are all willing to listen and help.

OK, SO WHAT CAN I DO?OK, SO WHAT CAN I DO?

If you are guilty of bullying…If you are guilty of bullying…even once…make a commitment to even once…make a commitment to recognize it and stop it…recognize it and stop it…starting today.starting today.

Most school district policies Most school district policies forbid bullying and those guilty forbid bullying and those guilty of it might be subject to of it might be subject to suspension or expulsion from suspension or expulsion from school.school.

MISSION MISSION POSSIBLEPOSSIBLE……PART 1PART 1

YOUR MISSION IS TO LOOK AROUND YOUR MISSION IS TO LOOK AROUND YOU THIS WEEK AND FIND AN YOU THIS WEEK AND FIND AN EXAMPLE OF BULLYING. Maybe EXAMPLE OF BULLYING. Maybe you catch yourself doing it, you catch yourself doing it, or maybe you witness it or maybe you witness it happening to someone else, or happening to someone else, or maybe…it happened to you.maybe…it happened to you.

WRITE IT DOWN.WRITE IT DOWN.

MISSION MISSION POSSIBLEPOSSIBLE…PART …PART 22

How did the incident make you How did the incident make you feel?feel?

How did you respond?How did you respond? What would you change about What would you change about how you acted or reacted?how you acted or reacted?

WRITE ALL THIS DOWN, TOO!WRITE ALL THIS DOWN, TOO!

MISSION MISSION POSSIBLEPOSSIBLE…PART …PART 33

CONSIDER THE CONSEQUENCES OF CONSIDER THE CONSEQUENCES OF BULLYING. LOOK IN THE BULLYING. LOOK IN THE NEWSPAPER OR ON THE INTERNET NEWSPAPER OR ON THE INTERNET AND FIND AN EXAMPLE OF THESE AND FIND AN EXAMPLE OF THESE CONSEQUENCES. BE PREPARED TO CONSEQUENCES. BE PREPARED TO DISCUSS THEM NEXT WEEK.DISCUSS THEM NEXT WEEK.