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Raising a Thinking Child

Teaching Young Children How toResolve Everyday Conflicts and

Get Along with Others

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Kickoff

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Moving Up the Ladder

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Problem 1: Your child is watching TV when she should be doing homework.

• ICPS Words• Is this a GOOD TIME or NOT A GOOD TIME to watch TV?• WHY is this a (repeat child’s answer)?

• Add Feelings• How MIGHT I feel when you keep putting off your homework?• Do you and I feel the SAME way for DIFFERENT ways about

this?

• Add Solutions• If you do NOT want to do you homework NOW, can you think

of another GOOD TIME so you will get it done BEFORE you go to bed?

• Add Consequences• OK. You made this decision. If you do NOT get your homework

done by bedtime, what MIGHT happen next?• How MIGHT you feel if that happens?

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Problem2: Your child is playing too near a fragile flower pot.

• Is near the flower pot a GOOD PLACE or NOT A GOOD PLACE for you to play? (word pair)

• What MIGHT happen if you play there? (consequence)

• How MIGHT I feel if that happens? (parent’s feelings)

• How MIGHT you feel if that happens? (child’s feelings)

• Do you think we’ll feel the SAME way or DIFFERENT ways?

• Can you think of a DIFFERENT place to play so that will NOT happen? (solution)

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Tuesday Night Live

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Key Components of ICPS• Vocabulary Words

• Feelings—most important question in dialoguing: “How do you feel when…?”

• Alternatives—coming up with solutions: “Can you think of something different to do when…?”

• Consequences—develops empathy through awareness of other’s feelings: “What might happen if…?”, “Is _____ a good idea or not a good idea?”

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Vocabulary Word Review

Is/Is Not And/Or

Same/Different Might/Maybe

Some/All Before/After

Now/Later Why/Because

Same time/Not the same time

Good time/Not a good time

Good place/Not a good place

Good idea/Not a good idea

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Homework

• Handouts (pages 79-87)

• Book of the Week: When Sophie Gets Angry-Really, Really Angry by Molly Bang

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