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Effective Listening Chhavi Jain
Listening
The art of hearing and understanding what someone is saying.
Listening
The process of listening is two-fold:
•Decoding
• Giving an internal response to perceived message.
Listening
Essentials for effective listening-
• Positive attitude
• Ability to concentrate
• Enter into Question Answer sessions
• Conducive body posture
Listening
Deterrents to the listening process:
• Ego
• Hone listening skills
• Involvement with the self/ preoccupation
• Past, present and future
• Fear
• The familiarity trap
• Stress
Listening
Process of listeningThe sensing/ selecting stage
The evaluating stage
The responding stage
The memory stage
Listening - Advantages
• It breaks up the barriers between people.
• Understanding increases.
• Loss of potential revenue minimized.
• Prevents miscommunication of objectives and priorities among people.
Listening - Advantages
We listen to:
•Obtain information
• Solve problems
• Share experiences
• Persuade or dissuade
Listening – Advantages for leaders and teams
• Helps know the organisation
• Helps in making better policies
• Mollifies complaining employees
• Important for the success of the open-door policy
• Helps to spot sensitive areas before they become explosive.
• Forms a bond of respect
• Increases productivity
• Can calm people down
• Increases confidence
• Increases accuracy
“WE ARE GIVEN TWO EARS, BUT ONLY ONE MOUTH.THIS IS BECAUSE GOD KNEW THAT LISTENING WAS TWICE AS HARD AS TALKING.”
Poor Listening Habits
• Listening but not hearing
• Rehearsing
• Interrupting
• Hearing what is expected
• Feeling defensive
• Listening for a point of disagreement
• Call the subject matter un-interesting
• Criticize the delivery or appearance of the speaker
Listening
Informative
Attentive
Relationship
Appreciative
Critical
Discriminative
Informative Listening
Listener’s primary concern
•Is to understand the message
Informative Listening
• Listener successful as the meaning they assign is as close as possible to the meaning that the sender intended.
• Eg. We listen to Lectures or instructions from
teachers and what we learn depends on how well we listen.
In the workplace we listen to understand new practices/ procedures and how well we perform depends on how well we listen.
Informative ListeningInformative Listening
Vocabulary
ConcentrationMemory
•Discipline•Motivation•Acceptance of Responsibility
Attentive Listening
Goal
•Is to understand and remember what they are hearing
Attentive Listening
•Attentive listeners have relational goals like giving a positive impression, advancing the relationship, demonstrating care.
Attentive Listening- skill cluster
Attentive Listening
Attention Skills
Following SkillsReflecting
Skills
Attention skills
Posture of involvementAppropriate
body motion
Eye Contact
Non- distractive
environment
Following Skills
Door openers
Minimal encouragers
Infrequent questions
Attentive silence
Reflecting skills
Paraphrasing
Reflecting feelings
Reflecting meaningsSummative reflection
Relationship Listening
Purpose
• Either to help an individual • Or to improve the relationships
between people.• Emphasis is on understanding the
other person.
Therapeutic Listening
• Special type of relationship listening which brings to mind situations where counsellors, medical personnel, or other professionals allow a troubled person to talk through a problem.
Relationship listening- attitude for effectiveness
Attending – non verbal cues are crucial
Supporting –3 characteristics describe supportive listener-
discretion, belief, patience
Empathizing- to see as the other sees, hear as
the other hears and feel as the other feels.
Empathic Behaviour
Have the desire to be an empathic listener.
Learn as much as you can about the other person.
Accept the other person- even if you cannot accept some aspects of that person’s behaviour.
Appreciative Listening
Listen to music for enjoyment
To speakers because you like their style
Listen to your choices in theatre, TV, radio or film
Appreciative Listening
Presentation
Perception Previous
experience
Medium, setting, style, personality,
perception
Noise of city traffic, rails, etc.
Perception builds attitude
Critical Listening
PoliticiansMediaSalesmenAdvocates of policies and proceduresOur own financial, emotional, intellectual, physical and spiritual needs require us to place a premium on critical listening and the thinking that accompanies it.
Critical Listening- Elements by Aristotle
•Ethos Source credibility
•Logos Logical argument
•Pathos Psychological appeal
Expertness ,
trustworthiness
True propositions
and valid inferences
Fear, guilt, loyalty,
sympathy
Discriminative Listening
• By being sensitive to the changes in the speaker’s rate, volume, force, pitch, emphasis, etc. the informative listener can detect even the slightest shift in nuances.
Hearing abilityAwareness of
sound structureIntegration of non-
verbal cues
Discriminative Listening
Hearing is involuntary
Listening involves the reception and interpretation of what is heard.
An active listener:•Does not finishes, others sentences
•Does not answer questions with questions
•Is aware of and guards against biases
•Is never a day dreamer
•Never becomes pre-occupied with his/ her own thoughts when others talk
•Does not dominate the conversation
•Plans responses after the other person has finished speaking, not before that
•Provides feedback, but does not interrupt incessantly
•Analyzes by looking at the relevant factors and asking open – ended questions
•Keeps the conversation on what the speaker says, not on what interests him/ her
•Takes brief notes
Styles of Poor ListeningFAKER- only pretend to be listening
DEPENDENT – may agree excessively with the speaker not only because they really agree, but because they really want to maintain goodwill of the speaker.
INTERRUPTER- never allow others to finish talking, feel necessary to respond to a point as soon as it is made, more concerned with their own thoughts and feelings than with those of others.
SELF- CONSCIOUS LISTENER- tries to impress others, do not listen with understanding, constantly frame replies in order to be helpful.
INTELLECTUAL LISTENER- attend only to the words of the other, ignore non- verbal cues.
JUDGE AND JURY LISTENER- often become so involved in judging of ideas / behaviour of others that they do not hear the full story.
3 Levels of Listening• Level 1
• Level 2
• Level 3
Level 1• Conscious attention,
understanding, awareness of moment, respect and spirit of co-operation.
Level 1• Managers will see things from
the other person’s point of view, empathetic to person’s feelings.
Level 1 •Avoids internal distractions that interfere with effective listening
Level 1• Managers’ attitude of mutual
respect, helds suspend negative personal labels and is non-intimidating.
Level 2
• State of partial awareness• Listening to words but not fully
understanding the meaning of the message.
Level 2• Managers at this level do not
realize that information is being missed.
Level 2• Results in making little effort to
understand the talker’s intent or to clarify for understanding.
Level 2• Focus is on the words, non-verbal
communication is missed.
Level 3
Dangerous consequences in this level.Automatic turned-out mode.Internal distractions include day dreaming, thinking about something else, fault finding, negative feelings, etc.Blaming attitude that perpetuates negative feelings of frustration, anger, worry, impatience, etc.
Manager experiences concentration problems resulting in difficulty while making decisions.
Causes stress, which then reduces alertness and creativity
Strategies for effective listening• Decide what your goals are for the conversation
• To exchange information• To build working relationships• To feel good• To make someone else feel good
• Be aware of your options
• When to speak and when to listen
• Planning what to SAY when you SPEAK- Focusing and Clarifying
• Attentive Listening
Payoffs of effective listening
• Gaining knowledge
• Receiving better work and co-operation from others
• Wining friends
• Solving problems and conflicts
• Reducing tension
• Preventing trouble
• Doing a better job
Passive
listening occur
s when
a listen
er does not
verbally
respond to the
speaker.
Active listening involves verbal
feedback.
Six Styles of LeadershipLeader-
ship StyleCommunication Style
Visionary Listens to the values held by the individuals within the group.
Coaching Listens one-to-one to employees, establishes personal rapport and trust.
Affiliative Listens to discover employees’ emotional needs and strives to honour and accommodate those needs in the workplace.
Democratic Obtains input and commitment s from every one in the group.
Pacesetting (MBO)
Leader sets ambitious goals and continuously monitors progress towards those goals.
Commanding Issues instructions without asking for input . Do it bcoz I say so. No listening is required.
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