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WorkshopThe girl child: witness and victim of domestic violence
Rudy BonnetSenior advisor Stade Advies B.V. UtrechtDirector foundation for the Prevention of Child Abuse
Sietske Dijkstra Lector Shelter Work and Domestic Violence Vocational Education Avans and Shelter Valkenhorst, Breda
Definition violence against women:
any act of gender-based violence that results in, or is likely to result in, physical, sexual or psychological harm or suffering to women, including threats of such acts, coercion or arbitrary deprivation of liberty, whether occurring in public or in private life
(The United Nations Declaration on the Elimination of Violence against Women:1993)
Definition domestic violence:
domestic violence includes “violence perpetrated by intimate partners and other family members.” It is manifested through physical, sexual, psychological, and economic abuse
(UNICEF Innocenti Research Centre 2000)
Domestic violence, a hidden problem
Latifa D has been abused for months by her husband. During the court session the judge spoke her husband free. The reason? Latifa was during the trial "carefully dressed, she wore earrings and bracelets and she has put on her make-up. Her appearance is not the picture of a woman who for months has been the victim of aggression”, the judge said.
2004: Spain
Effects in general:
Common Feelings for children exposed to Domestic Violence:
Anger: at the abuser for the violence, at the victim or themselves for not being able to stop the
violence, and at the world for allowing this to happen
Fear/Terror: that the mother or father will be seriously injured or killed, that they or their siblings will be
hurt, that others will find out and then the parents will be “in trouble,” or that they will be removed from the family
Powerless: because they are unable to keep the fights from happening or to stop them when they do
occur, and because the community, including law enforcement, often does nothing to stop the abuse
Distrust: of adults, even teachers, because their experience tells them
that adults are unpredictable, that they break promises, and/or that theydo not mean well
Effects in general:
Confusion: about why it happens, about choosing sides, about what they
should do, about what is “right” and “wrong.” Additionally, they areconfused about how the abuser can sometimes be loving and caring, and,at other times, be violent
Loneliness: feeling unable or afraid to reach out to others, feeling
“different,” or feeling isolated
Shame: about what is happening in their home
Guilt: because they believe that they cause the fights or should be able
to stop them
Facts and figures in general:
• • - Children are present and witness the abuse in 80% of domestic violence cases
- Children of all age groups witness domestic violence• - Young children are more likely to be abused by primary caregivers and other family• members
- Older children are more likely to be victimised by people outside their home and family - 80% of domestic violence is committed by male perpetrators- Approximately 40% of wife assault incidents begin during a woman’s first pregnancy- Boys who witness domestic violence against their mothers are five times more likely to
grow up to be abusers- Girls who witness violence are five times more likely to grow up to be victims of abuse- Studies show that girls face increased risk of murder by intimate partners- 30 to 40% become itself victim of abuse
Children as a witness, risksand needs:
Children:
• Experience the same emotional and behavioral problems as children who are themselves abused
• Who witness woman abuse frequently experience post traumatic stress disorder (40 to 60%)
• Do often have concentration, behavioral and learning difficulties
• Are often incorrectly diagnosed (leading to attention disorders)
• Are more at risk to become perpetrators of violence (boys)
• Are an increased risk to develop depressive symptoms
• Truancy more, show more delinquent behavior and are often away from home
• Are themselves at increased risk of falling victim to the perpetrator of violence in the home
• Need specific support and help
Silent witness drawings:
Left: girl (6) her mother has been hit in the eye and is crying
Getting help, an example:
The Netherlands (2007):
A mother: ”My child has always witnessed any abuse of my ex husband. I am looking for help for my daughter since my divorce, two years ago. I have been everywhere but there is almost no specialist help for our problem. Really unbelievable! Now I finally have found a therapist and she wants to help, after three months on the waiting list it is finally our turn.That is, if her father agrees. We have joint custody and I am afraid that he will not allow her to monitor this therapy."
This conference:
Sharing:
Experience
Knowledge
Best practices
To obtain:
Recommendations for the future:
what will you do tomorrow
and what do you need?