Download - Book 1 Unit 4 How to Make a Good Impression Reba Chai Nov. 21, 2011

Book 1Unit 4

How to Make a Good Impression

Reba Chai

Nov. 21,

2011

Book 1Unit 4

New Horizon College English

Group Discussions:

1. Do you think first impression is important? Why?

2. When you first meet someone, what usually makes you like or dislike the person?

3. How can we make a good first impression on others?

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You want to give other’s a good impression, especially when you are …

in a job interview

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in a blind date

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in a new environment

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You impress people with your:language

facial expression

appearance

behavior

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We speak with verbal organs but we talk with our body.

----David Aberconbie

(a psychologist)

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No one can really keep secret. If he does not talk and keep silent, he will talk with his fingers.

---Froyd

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communication by using body movements or gestures, facial expression instead of, or in addition to, sounds, verbal language or other communication.

Gestures

• Gesture means we communicate and express by the movement and manners of our hands and fingers.

1. The “Thumbs-up”

Thumb up with a close fist. Meaning support or approval, "O.K." or "Good Going!" or "Good job!“

And it also used for hitchhiking in America.

2. "O.K." gesture

"O.K." meaning "fine" or "yes." in the U.S.1

In France it means zero. 2

3 In Japan it means money or coins.

Thumb and forefinger making a circle

Palm facing out with the index and middle fingers displayed in the

shape of a “V”.• "Victory" or "peace." • In England, palm facing inward

toward the face is an obscene gesture

3.“V” gesture

4. The finger beckoning

In the U.S, it’s a signal to beckon or summon another person.

In the oriental east like Japan, it is a rude gesture.

5.So Called （所谓的） quotation-mark

gesture • 手势做法：抬起双手至头

两侧，伸出中指和食指并弯曲两下。

6. Crosses Fingers

• 　　

cross one's fingers/ keep one's fingers crossed 祈求好运　　

I will keep my fingers crossed for you today.

7. Turn around one’s ring

People from English-speaking countries turn around their rings constantly to show nervousness or uneasiness .

8. I Love You

• This gesture consists of three parts: Stretch out the index finger means “I” Stretch out the index finger and thumb means

”l” (LOVE). Stretch out the thumb and little finger means

“U” （ YOU).

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Worriedsad

Surprised

FearfulHorrible

Angry

Facial expression

Happy

Compressing your lips

upset

Folding your arms

prote

cting

yourself,

anxiety

Putting your hands in the pocket and shrugging your shoulder

nervous

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Eye Contact

The eyes are the window of the soul.

Make a good first impression Make a good first impression in a job interviewin a job interview

• Natural, clean looking face/makeup

• Nicely styled hair• Press your clothes• Clean your fingernails• Shoes shined• No Gum, Candy, or cigarettes

at the Job Interview!!!• Avoid strong perfumes or

colognes

•

Keep fine seat

posture

Skills of eye contact

Looking up means the sense of authority and superiority.

Looking down means obedience and mercy.

Looking straight means objective and rational.

Sweet smile

• Blouse 女衬衫

necklace

Dress

high-heeled shoes

Handbag 手袋

coat

purse

necklace

earrings

bracelet

high-heeled shoes

Scarf 围巾

silk stockings 丝袜

Skirt 裙子

Examples of Appropriate Attire for Women

Business Casual Attire

Business Professional Attire

Business Casual Attire

Business Professional Attire

•Miniskirts

•Excessively high heeled shoes

•Caps (headwear) indoors

•Very tight clothing

Examples of Unprofessional and Inappropriate Attire

A) B) C)

D) E)

F)

• There's work and there's your life's work.• The kind of work that has your fingerprints all

over it. The kind of work that you'd never compromise on. That you'd sacrifice a weekend for. You can do that kind of work at Apple . People don't come here to play it safe. They come here to swim in the deep end.

• They want their work to add up to something.• Something big. Something that couldn't happen

anywhere else.• Welcome to Apple.

• 这是一封来自苹果公司给新入职员工的信，谈到了在苹果公司的“工作”，寥寥数语。

• 它很让人共鸣。它让我看到信念的力量，对创造的热爱。粗略意译如下：

• 有一种工作只是工作。有一种工作是你终生的追求。• 这种工作草木皆情，由你全情打造。这种工作你从来不会

妥协。这种工作也会让你甘愿牺牲周末。你可以在苹果找到这样的工作。在这里的人们不会闲庭信步，他们到这里击水三千。

• 他们希望自己的工作能有一些不同的东西。• 一些重要的东西，那些不可能在其他地方得到的东西。• 欢迎来到苹果。

The First Four Minutes

1. According to the book by Dr. Zunin, what is the importance of the first four minutes in social situation?

2. What are his suggestions about what to do in the first four minutes?

3. What should you do to be friendly and self-confident if you are not friendly and self-confident in nature?

4. Why are interpersonal relationships so important?

During the first four minutes, people decide whether or not they want to become friends.

(1) Give our undivided attention to someone we just met.(2) Appear friendly and self-confident.(3) Don’t be too sure of ourselves.(4) Appear interested and sympathetic.

A little practice can help us feel comfortable about changing our social habits.

Success in life depends mainly on how we get along with other people.

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1 When do people decide whether or not they

want to become friends? During their first four

minutes together, according to a book by Dr.

Leonard Zunin. In his book, Contact: The First

Four Minutes, he offers this advice to anyone

interested in starting new friendships: “Every time

you meet someone in a social situation, give

him your undivided attention for four

minutes. A lot of people’s whole lives would change

if they did just that.”

根据

交往，联系contactstay/keep in contact with

contact nember

a contact person

联系电话联系人

保持联系

给某人提供意见offer sth. to sb.

全部的，全心全意的关注

社交场所，场合

每次你在社交场所遇到一个人，专心关注他四分钟。

offer sb. sth.

2 You may have noticed that the average person

does not give his undivided attention to

someone he has just met. He keeps looking

over the other person’s shoulder, as if

hoping to find someone more interesting in

another part of the room. If anyone has ever done

this to you, you probably did not like him very

much.3 When we are introduced to new people, the

author suggests, we should try to appear friendly and self-confident. In general, he says, “People like people who like themselves”. 　

keep doing: 持续不断做某事

kook over one’s shoulder向某人身后看去

如果有人这样对你的话，你可能不会很喜欢他。

appear friendly and self-confident表现得友好又自信 appear+adj. 表现得…

give one’s undivided attention to

注意，关注某人

总体上

4 On the other hand, we should not make

the other person think we are too sure of

ourselves. It is important to appear interested

and sympathetic, realizing that the other person

has his own needs, fears, and hopes. 　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　 5 Hearing

such advice, one might say, “But I’m not a

friendly, self-confident person. That’s not my

nature. It would be dishonest for me to

act that way.” 　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　

on the other hand

从另外一方面来说

on one hand

从一方面来说



ourselves. It is important to appear

interested and sympathetic, realizing

that the other person has his own needs, fears,

and hopes. 　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　 5 Hearing such advice, one might

say, “But I’m not a friendly, self-confident person.

That’s not my nature. It would be

dishonest for me to act that way.” 　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　

be sure of sth./sb.

确信，肯定，对…有把握Tom’s mother was sure of his success.汤姆的妈妈相信汤姆一定会成功。be sure of one’s +n.

相信，肯定某人…

victory

innocence

honesty

be sure of oneself

对自己十分有信心








That’s not my nature. It would be

dishonest for me to act that way.” 　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　

表现得有兴趣、赞同

sympathetic

有同情心的 ; 赞同的 , 支持的

be sympathetic to/towards sth./sb.

对…表示同情；对…表示赞同

sympathize

v.

sympathize with sb./sth.

sympathy

n.

show/have (no) sympathy for sb.








That’s not my nature. It would be dishonest

for me to act that way.” 　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　

那不是我的本性。让我这样做是不诚实的。

It be dishonest/honest for sb. to do sth.

6 In reply, Dr. Zunin would claim that a little

practice can help us feel comfortable about

changing our social habits. We can become

accustomed to any changes we choose to

make in our personality. “It’s like getting used

to a new car. It may be unfamiliar at first, but it

goes much better than the old one.”

作为回复，答复，回答 (to)

习惯于，适应become accustomed to be/get/become accustomed

to doing sth.

to sth.

be/get/become used

to doing sth.

to sth.

7 But isn’t it dishonest to give the appearance of friendly

self-confidence when we don’t actually feel that way?

Perhaps, but according to Dr. Zunin, “total honesty” is not

always good for social relationships, especially during the

first few minutes of contact. There is a time for

everything, and a certain amount of play-acting may be

best for the first minutes of contact with a stranger. That

is not the time to complain about one’s health

or to mention faults one finds in other people. It is not the

time to tell the whole truth about one’s opinions and

impressions.

( 不 ) 是做某事的好时机 / 最佳时机

做事要当其时。万物皆有时。物当其时，各有佳期。

That is (not) the time to do sth.

8 Much of what has been said about strangers

also applies to relationships with family

members and friends. For a husband and wife or

a parent and child, problems often arise

during their first four minutes together after

they have been apart. Dr. Zunin suggests that these first few minutes together be treated with care. If there are unpleasant

matters to be discussed, they should be dealt with later.

apply to 适用于

apply sth. to

这些方法适用于小学生。

These methods applied to primary school students. 涂抹，贴

apply night/day/sun cream to our skinapply sth. toapply theory to practice

在皮肤上涂上晚 / 日 / 防晒霜

把理论运用到实践中去

apply （ to sb.) for sth.

向（某人，某机构）申请…

The poor family applied to the government for assistance.

apply (to this company) for a job








Problems often arise.

问题常常发生。

question

accident

quarrel difficultycrisi

smistake

arise

arose arisen

rise

rose risen

raise

上升，上涨，起立

raised raised

vi.

vi.

vt.

举起，增加，抚养，饲养，提出，筹募








suggest that (should) do

建议

医生建议每天喝八杯水。The doctor suggests that we (should) drink 8 glasses of water a day.

propose

demand

insist

require order朱宁博士建议在一起的最初几分钟要小心对待。

9 The author declares that interpersonal relations should be taught as a required course in every school, along with reading,

writing, and mathematics. In his opinion, success in

life depends mainly on how we get along with other people. That is at least as important

as how much we know. 　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　

人际关系

必修课

选修课 optional course

Tom, along with his girlfriend, attended the party.

along with

跟…一起，一同

9 The author declares that interpersonal relations should be taught as a required course in every school, along with reading,

writing, and mathematics. In his opinion, success in

life depends mainly on how we get along with other people. That is at least as important

as how much we know. 　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　考试的结果主要取决于你有多努力。

depend mainly on

主要取决，主要依靠

The result of an examination depends mainly on how hard-working you are.

跟某人相处get along with

sb.get along well with sb.

跟某人相处愉快

至少at least

at most 至多

Useful Phrases and Expressions

和……一起

根据他的书

注意，关注

答复，回答

对…有把握

总的来说

according to his book

give one’s attention to

on the other hand

in reply

along with

in general

be sure of sth.

另一方面

主要取决于和……相处

对付，处理习惯于，适应于

必修课

depend mainly on

get along with

deal with

become / be accustomed to

a required course

at least

interpersonal relations 人际关系

至少

apply to

offer advice to sb.

social situation

appear friendly

That’s not my nature.

It be honest/dishonest for sb. to do sth.

适用于

给某人提供意见

表现得很友好

某人做某事是（不）诚实的。

那非我本性。

社交场合，场所

1 stay in contact with

a contact person

business contacts

联系某人、我们的办公室

2 be confident in oneself

对未来有信心

be confident of victory

确信能成功

保持联系

联系人

业务关系contact sb./our office

be confident of success

对自己有信心

Ex. 5

Be confident in the future

确信会胜利

3 complain about the service

抱怨天气不好 complain to the manager about the food in the hotel

埋怨物价高

4 必修课

take/do a one-year English course

修完一门

fail/pass a course

finish/complete a course

修一门为期一年的英语课程

向经理投诉旅馆的食物不好

抱怨、投诉服务不好

complain about/of the high price

未通过 /通过一门课考试

complain about the weather

a required course

Ex. 6

1. accustomed

2. impression

3. sympathetic

4. requires

5. arise

6. contact

7. mentioned

8. claims

9. fault

10. interpersonal

11. dishonest

12. personalities

Ex. 7

1. got accustomed to

2. applies to

3. According to

4. in your opinion

5. on the other hand

6. get along with

7. deal with

8. in general

9. along with

10. be sure of

11. depend on

12. complained about

Exercise 9

Decide which expression uses the word “impression” and which uses the word “attention”, and then put the Chinese parts in the following sentences into English, using some of the expressions.

pay to somebody/somethingattention

注意某人 / 某事

make an on somebody

turn one’s to somebody/something

give one’s to somebody/something

impression

给某人留下印象

attention

把注意力转移到…

attention

把注意力放在…

★ ★ ★

★ ★ ★

★ ★ ★

★ ★ ★

attract /catch somebody’s

have/get the that…

leave an on somebody

hold/keep somebody’s

escape someone’s

turn one’s to somebody/something

attention

impression

impression

attention

attention

attention

吸引某人的注意

有个… 印象

留一个印象

使某人保持注意力

逃过某人的注意力

把注意力转移到

★ ★ ★

★ ★ ★

★ ★ ★

★ ★ ★

★ ★ ★

★ ★ ★

1. I _______________________( 有个印象 ) that she’s very

good at her job.

2. This game is fun and is sure to

_____________________ ( 使这些学生保持注意力 ).

3. It’s time now to ______________________ ( 把我们注意力转移到 ) the first few minutes when we are

introduced to new people.

4. He wants to ____________________________________( 留一个好印象 ) everyone he meets.

have /get the impression

keep /hold the students’ attention

turn our attention to

make /leave a good impression on

5. What first ____________________________ ( 引起我注意的 ) was his voice.

6. You should ____________________( 注意听 ) your

teacher, because you’ll be tested later.

7. I’m afraid nothing can _____________________( 逃过他的注意力 ).

8. His speech seemed

to_______________________________ ( 产生相当影响 ) the

audience.

make quite an impression on

attracted/ caught my attention

pay attention to

escape his attention

＃

Translate the following into Chinese, paying particular attention to the underlined parts.

Exercise 13

1.Its roots go back to many different countries and many different kinds of music and musicians.

2. Victory always goes to the strong.

它的根源可以追溯到许多不同的国家 , 不同类型的音乐和音乐家。

胜利永远属于强者。

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3. The key won’t go in the lock.

4. In two years, he was a national phenomenon.

5. The wisest thing to do is to skim over the chapter

to be read.

这把钥匙插不进这把所锁。

两年以后，他便风靡全国。

最聪明的做法是把要读的章节粗略地看一遍。

6. I am busy packing my things for the long

journey.

7. An idea formed in my mind.

8. Do you want regular or king size?

我有了个主意。

你要一般尺寸还是特大尺寸。

我正在忙着为这次长途旅行打点行装。

1. 他盯着我看，好像是第一次见到我似的。

2. 此项规定仅适用于新员工。

3. 就是在这最初的四分钟中，我们决定是否要成为朋友。

4.当我们初次跟人见面，一方面，我们要表现得友好而自信，另一方面，也要关注他人。

5.我们逐渐适应大学生活。每当有问题出现的时候，我和同学们会想办法一起解决，而不是去抱怨。

Exercise 14 Translation

1. 他盯着我看，好像是第一次见到我似的。

He stared at me as if he saw me for the first time.

Exercise 14

参考译文：

Translate the following sentences into Chinese.

as if

stare atfor the first time

/

He stared at me as if seeing me for the first time.

2. 此项规定仅适用于新员工。

This rule applies to new employees /workers only.

参考译文：

2/3

apply to

3. 人生的成功在很大程度取决于如何与他人交往。

Success in life depends mainly on how we get along with other people.

参考译文：

depend mainly/greatly on

to a great degree

4. 就是在这最初的四分钟中，我们决定是否要成为朋友。

It is during these first four minutes that we decide whether or not we want to become friends.

参考译文：

It is…that

5.当我们初次跟人见面，一方面，我们要表现得友好而自信，另一方面，也要关注他人。

When we meet someone for the first

time, on one hand, we should

appear friendly and self-confident.

On the other hand, we should also

give our attention to him.

参考译文：

on one hand; on the other hand

appear friendly and self-confident

give one’s attention to

6. 我们逐渐适应大学生活。每当有问题出现的时候，我和同学们会想办法一起解决，而不是去抱怨。

We become accustomed/used to the

college life. Each time a problems

arises, I, along with my classmates,

think of ways to solve it instead of

complaining.

参考译文：

become/get accustomed/used to

a problem arisesalong with

make a good first impression 留下好的第一印象

according to 　　　　　　　根据facial expressions 　　　　面部表情put forward 　　　　　　　　提出，提议以供考虑confident 　　　　　自信的 , 确信的matter 　　　　　　　有关系 , 要紧，重要associate with 　　　　　联合，联系　

Dictation

Before listening to the passage , you may need these words and phrases.

People often say you have just __________to

make a good first impression. And they are

right. According to a recent study, ____________of

a first impression is based on ___________, facial

expressions, and tone of voice. So here’s how to

put your best foot forward. First, know this,

when you meet someone new, your __________will

get noticed more than your facial features.

_____________ says, “My looks are important to

me”.

7 seconds

90 percent appearance

hair style

Long hair

给人留下好印象

以…为基础

Short hair says, “__________ and successful”. And

shoulder length hair says, “I’m able to deal

easily with difficult situations”. Next, your

handshake_____________. The study found that

people who _______________while offering a firm

handshake not only make a better impression,

but make people believe you have the qualities

associated with your grip. But here’s the one

thing — a first impression

is less about you, and more about

_________________________.

I’m confident

matters make eye

contact

you need to remember

making the person you meet feel good

头发齐肩，垂肩长发

要紧，有关系

• English is the 1._______ language of business. But an increasing number of American companies that do business in China or with Chinese companies are having their workers learn Mandarin.

• Michael Cheng is a Taiwanese-American Internet entrepreneur and 2._______ developer. He is also in the business of teaching Chinese. Mr. Cheng is president and founder of the Mando Mandarin 3._______ School. The school is based in New York and uses teachers in China to teach over webcams.

• "China over the past few years very quickly has already become the world's second-largest 4.________.

• If China's got over three trillion dollars in reserves now, so if you want to do business or connect with the fastest-growing country in the world, it might make sense to make an 5.________to engage the people in their own language, as understanding of their language and culture goes a long way in building strong 6._______ --especially with the Chinese." effort

• By some 7.________, China could pass the United States and become the world's largest economy by twenty twenty-five. Michael Cheng says that as China's economic power has increased, so has its 8.______ power.

• "Starting back in two thousand four, the Chinese Ministry of Education, along with what was called their Chinese Language Council, began to set up,

around the world, Confucius Institutes, and with the purpose of promoting and developing Chinese language and culture teaching 9._______around the world.“

Now, he says, there are more than three hundred Confucius Institutes in almost one hundred countries. These institutes work to 10.______Chinese language at the university level. The Chinese government has partnered with colleges and the Asia Society to set up programs across the United States. High schools have also received money to start Chinese language training programs.

• English is the ______________language of business. But an increasing number of international American companies that do business in China or with Chinese companies are having their workers learn Mandarin.

• Michael Cheng is a Taiwanese-American Internet entrepreneur and ____________developer. He is also in the business of teaching Chinese. Mr. Cheng is president and founder of the Mando Mandarin ___________School. The school is based in New York and uses teachers in China to teach over webcams.

• "China over the past few years very quickly has already become the world's second-largest__________.

international

property

Online

economy

• If China's got over three trillion dollars in reserves now, so if you want to do business or connect with the fastest-growing country in the world, it might make sense to make an 5.________to engage the people in their own language, as understanding of their language and culture goes a long way in building strong 6._______ _____--especially with the Chinese."

• By some 7.____________, China could pass the United States and become the world's largest economy by twenty twenty-five. Michael Cheng says that as China's economic power has increased, so has its 8.___________ power.

• "Starting back in two thousand four, the Chinese Ministry of Education, along with what was called their Chinese Language Council, began to set up,

effort

relationships

predictions

cultural

around the world, Confucius Institutes, and with the purpose of promoting and developing Chinese language and culture teaching 9.___________around the world.“

Now, he says, there are more than three hundred Confucius Institutes in almost one hundred countries. These institutes work to 10._________Chinese language at the university level. The Chinese government has partnered with colleges and the Asia Society to set up programs across the United States. High schools have also received money to start Chinese language training programs.

promote

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