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  • Book 1Unit 4How to Make a Good ImpressionReba Chai Nov. 21, 2011

  • Book 1Unit 4New Horizon College English

    Group Discussions:1. Do you think first impression is important? Why?2. When you first meet someone, what usually makes you like or dislike the person?3. How can we make a good first impression on others?

  • Book 1Unit 4New Horizon College EnglishYou want to give others a good impression, especially when you are in a job interview

  • Book 1Unit 4New Horizon College Englishin a blind date

  • Book 1Unit 4New Horizon College Englishin a new environment

  • Book 1Unit 4New Horizon College EnglishYou impress people with your:languagefacial expressionappearancebehavior

  • Book 1Unit 4New Horizon College EnglishWe speak with verbal organs but we talk with our body. ----David Aberconbie (a psychologist)

  • Book 1Unit 4New Horizon College EnglishNo one can really keep secret. If he does not talk and keep silent, he will talk with his fingers.

    ---Froyd

  • Book 1Unit 4New Horizon College Englishcommunication by using body movements or gestures, facial expression instead of, or in addition to, sounds, verbal language or other communication.

  • GesturesGesture means we communicate and express by the movement and manners of our hands and fingers.

  • 1. The Thumbs-upThumb up with a close fist. Meaning support or approval, "O.K." or "Good Going!" or "Good job!

    And it also used for hitchhikinginAmerica.

  • 2. "O.K." gestureInJapanitmeansmoneyorcoins. Thumbandforefingermakingacircle

  • Palm facing out with the index and middle fingers displayed in the shape of a V."Victory" or "peace." In England, palm facing inward toward the face is an obscene gesture 3.V gesture

  • 4. The finger beckoningIn the U.S, its a signal to beckon or summon another person. In the oriental east like Japan, it is a rude gesture.

  • 5.So Called quotation-mark gesture

  • 6. Crosses Fingers

    cross one's fingers/ keep one's fingers crossed

    I will keep my fingers crossed for you today.

  • 7. Turn around ones ring People from English-speaking countries turn around their rings constantly to show nervousness or uneasiness .

  • 8. I Love You

    This gesture consists of three parts: Stretch out the index finger means I Stretch out the index finger and thumb means l (LOVE). Stretch out the thumb and little finger means UYOU).

  • Book 1Unit 4New Horizon College EnglishWorriedsadSurprised

    FearfulHorribleAngryFacial expressionHappy

  • Compressing your lipsupset

  • Folding your armsprotecting yourself, anxiety

  • Putting your hands in the pocket and shrugging your shouldernervous

  • Book 1Unit 4New Horizon College EnglishEye ContactThe eyes are the window of the soul.

  • Make a good first impression in a job interview

    Natural, clean looking face/makeupNicely styled hairPress your clothesClean your fingernailsShoes shinedNo Gum, Candy, or cigarettes at the Job Interview!!!Avoid strong perfumes or colognes

  • Keep fine seat posture

  • Skills of eye contactLooking up means the sense of authority and superiority. Looking down means obedience and mercy.Looking straight means objective and rational.

  • Sweet smile

  • Blouse necklaceDresshigh-heeled shoes Handbag coat

  • pursenecklaceearringsbracelet high-heeled shoes Scarf silk stockings Skirt

  • Examples of Appropriate Attire for WomenBusiness Casual AttireBusiness Professional Attire

  • Business Casual AttireBusiness Professional Attire

  • MiniskirtsExcessively high heeled shoesCaps (headwear) indoorsVery tight clothingExamples of Unprofessional and Inappropriate Attire

  • A) B) C) D) E) F)

  • There's work and there's your life's work.The kind of work that has your fingerprints all over it. The kind of work that you'd never compromise on. That you'd sacrifice a weekend for. You can do that kind of work at Apple . People don't come here to play it safe. They come here to swim in the deep end.They want their work to add up to something.Something big. Something that couldn't happen anywhere else.Welcome to Apple.

  • The First Four Minutes

  • 1. According to the book by Dr. Zunin, what is the importance of the first four minutes in social situation?2. What are his suggestions about what to do in the first four minutes?3. What should you do to be friendly and self-confident if you are not friendly and self-confident in nature?4. Why are interpersonal relationships so important?

  • 1/51 When do people decide whether or not they want to become friends? During their first four minutes together, according to a book by Dr. Leonard Zunin. In his book, Contact: The First Four Minutes, he offers this advice to anyone interested in starting new friendships: Every time you meet someone in a social situation, give him your undivided attention for four minutes. A lot of peoples whole lives would change if they did just that. contactstay/keep in contact withcontact nembera contact personoffer sth. to sb.offer sb. sth.

  • 2 You may have noticed that the average person does not give his undivided attention to someone he has just met. He keeps looking over the other persons shoulder, as if hoping to find someone more interesting in another part of the room. If anyone has ever done this to you, you probably did not like him very much.3 When we are introduced to new people, the author suggests, we should try to appear friendly and self-confident. In general, he says, People like people who like themselves.keep doing: kook over ones shoulderappear friendly and self-confidentappear+adj. give ones undivided attention to

  • 4 On the other hand, we should not make the other person think we are too sure of ourselves. It is important to appear interested and sympathetic, realizing that the other person has his own needs, fears, and hopes.5 Hearing such advice, one might say, But Im not a friendly, self-confident person. Thats not my nature. It would be dishonest for me to act that way.on the other handon one hand

  • 4 On the other hand, we should not make the other person think we are too sure of ourselves. It is important to appear interested and sympathetic, realizing that the other person has his own needs, fears, and hopes.5 Hearing such advice, one might say, But Im not a friendly, self-confident person. Thats not my nature. It would be dishonest for me to act that way.be sure of sth./sb.Toms mother was sure of his success.be sure of ones +n. victoryinnocencehonestybe sure of oneself

  • 4 On the other hand, we should not make the other person think we are too sure of ourselves. It is important to appear interested and sympathetic, realizing that the other person has his own needs, fears, and hopes.5 Hearing such advice, one might say, But Im not a friendly, self-confident person. Thats not my nature. It would be dishonest for me to act that way. sympathetic;, be sympathetic to/towards sth./sb.sympathizev.sympathize with sb./sth.sympathyn.show/have (no) sympathy for sb.

  • 4 On the other hand, we should not make the other person think we are too sure of ourselves. It is important to appear interested and sympathetic, realizing that the other person has his own needs, fears, and hopes.5 Hearing such advice, one might say, But Im not a friendly, self-confident person. Thats not my nature. It would be dishonest for me to act that way. It be dishonest/honest for sb. to do sth.

  • 6 In reply, Dr. Zunin would claim that a little practice can help us feel comfortable about changing our social habits. We can become accustomed to any changes we choose to make in our personality. Its like getting used to a new car. It may be unfamiliar at first, but it goes much better than the old one. (to) become accustomed to be/get/become accustomedto doing sth.to sth.be/get/become usedto doing sth.to sth.

  • 7 But isnt it dishonest to give the appearance of friendly self-confidence when we dont actually feel that way? Perhaps, but according to Dr. Zunin, total honesty is not always good for social relationships, especially during the first few minutes of contact. There is a time for everything, and a certain amount of play-acting may be best for the first minutes of contact with a stranger. That is not the time to complain about ones health or to mention faults one finds in other people. It is not the time to tell the whole truth about ones opinions and impressions. ()/That is (not) the time to do sth.

  • 8 Much of what has been said about strangers also applies to relationships with family members and friends. For a husband and wife or a parent and child, problems often arise during their first four minutes together after they have been apart. Dr. Zunin suggests that these first few minutes together be treated with care. If there are unpleasant matters to be discussed, they should be dealt with later.apply toapply sth. toThese methods applied to primary school students.apply night/day/sun cream to our skinapply sth. toapply theory to practice//apply to sb.) for sth.The poor family applied to the government for assistance.apply (to this company) for a job

  • 8 Much of what has been said about strangers also applies to relationships with family members and friends. For a husband and wife or a parent and child, problems often arise during their first four minutes together after they have been apar