Circle of CourageCircle of Courage

The Circle of CourageThe Circle of Courage

Why do I need to know this?Why do I need to know this?

• Do you want to be the best person Do you want to be the best person you can be?you can be?

• Do you want to be successful in life?Do you want to be successful in life?

• Do you want to be happy?Do you want to be happy?

• Working with the Circle of Courage Working with the Circle of Courage values helps us be all we can be.values helps us be all we can be.

Belonging: “You are Belonging: “You are unique”unique”• Feeling like you belong includes:Feeling like you belong includes:

– Having friendsHaving friends– Having funHaving fun– Joining inJoining in– Playing well with othersPlaying well with others– Being okay with who you areBeing okay with who you are

• Helping others belong includes:Helping others belong includes:– Accepting others as they areAccepting others as they are– Treating other respectfullyTreating other respectfully– Including others Including others – Being friendly, kind and helpfulBeing friendly, kind and helpful

Elephant and Dog StoryElephant and Dog Story

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Mastery: “You are Mastery: “You are valuable”valuable”Do you know about the gifts and talents you have, in and out of school?Showing Mastery is about discovering what you are good at.

* Learning* Problem Solving* Putting your best effort in, even when things are hard.* Discovering talents in sports, art,

music and other things.

Amazing PeopleAmazing People

• Landon RulesLandon Rules

Independence: Independence: “You have “You have choices”choices”

Independence is about making good choices:

•I know how to control my own behavior.

•I know the right thing to do.

•I make good choices.

•It’s okay to make a mistake.

•Others trust me and believe me.

Making the right choicesMaking the right choices

X factorX factor

Generosity: “You need Generosity: “You need others”others”Generosity is about giving and forgiving:

•Sharing

•Helping

•Playing fair

•Forgiving others when they make a mistake

•Cheering people up when they are sad is about having a generous spirit

Making a differenceMaking a difference

Softball DreamSoftball Dream

Connect Circle of Courage Connect Circle of Courage to Bullyingto Bullying• When you teach about the Circle talk about how When you teach about the Circle talk about how

it takes “courage” to be the best we can be. it takes “courage” to be the best we can be.

• The most successful people have skills in these The most successful people have skills in these areas. areas.

• Focus on having a ‘belonging and generosity’ Focus on having a ‘belonging and generosity’ when connecting to bullyingwhen connecting to bullying

• Do the surveyDo the survey

• Share the results with kids and parentsShare the results with kids and parents

• Bringing kids awareness to this issue is half the Bringing kids awareness to this issue is half the battlebattle

Connections to BullyingConnections to Bullying

• What’s the difference between teasing and What’s the difference between teasing and bullying?bullying?

• What does it mean to be ‘kind’. Let’s What does it mean to be ‘kind’. Let’s adopt a ‘be kind to one another’ policyadopt a ‘be kind to one another’ policy

• What ways can we practice this?What ways can we practice this?– Have kids help you list ways Have kids help you list ways – Pay it forwardPay it forward– Create ‘kind’ theme daysCreate ‘kind’ theme days– Have kids submit names of people who have been Have kids submit names of people who have been

kind to themkind to them

Don’t teach it, live itDon’t teach it, live it

• Respond to each situation students Respond to each situation students tell about ….with care and concerntell about ….with care and concern– Tattlers Tattlers “Are you telling me to help…or “Are you telling me to help…or

hurt…?”hurt…?”– Don’t say things like “this is not your business” – Don’t say things like “this is not your business” –

rather say “I got this. Thank you for letting me rather say “I got this. Thank you for letting me know.”know.”

– Commend students for being brave enough to Commend students for being brave enough to tell. Teach kids about when to tell.tell. Teach kids about when to tell.

– Give kids scripts. Next time you say “….”Give kids scripts. Next time you say “….”

Comeback…. Then walk Comeback…. Then walk awayaway

• I don’t care what you think.I don’t care what you think.

• Why do you care?Why do you care?

• WhateverWhatever

• LaughLaugh

• You are really mean.You are really mean.

Other considerationsOther considerations

• Let parents know….Let parents know….

• Do mini ‘restitutions’Do mini ‘restitutions’– ““Is it okay to make a mistake?”Is it okay to make a mistake?”– ““Did you make one?”Did you make one?”– ““How are you going to make it better?”How are you going to make it better?”– Monitor, monitor, monitorMonitor, monitor, monitor

Think of ways to make “courage” Think of ways to make “courage” coolcool• We did ‘caught ya’ draws We did ‘caught ya’ draws

• Teach circle of courage Teach circle of courage – Make the conversations with children about it.Make the conversations with children about it.

•““Wow, that is great generosity you are showing”Wow, that is great generosity you are showing”

•““I love how you helped ….belong”I love how you helped ….belong”

•Write ‘awesome mastery of this skill’ on a testWrite ‘awesome mastery of this skill’ on a test

•Talk about great choices through independenceTalk about great choices through independence

• Post the circle of courage all over your schoolPost the circle of courage all over your school• Apply it to conferences, etcApply it to conferences, etc. (see handouts). (see handouts)

What parents wantWhat parents want

• Accountability when their child is not Accountability when their child is not treated well by other children:treated well by other children:– Respond with concern for both the child Respond with concern for both the child

and the bullyand the bully– Check in with the parent (and the child) Check in with the parent (and the child)

about how things are goingabout how things are going– Give the child tools (role playing, ‘come Give the child tools (role playing, ‘come

backs’)backs’)

What parents wantWhat parents want• Fairness when their child is the bullyFairness when their child is the bully

– Approach saying words like Approach saying words like •““I don’t know if they realize how hurtful their actions I don’t know if they realize how hurtful their actions

were to …” were to …”

•““We are working on ‘kindness’ at our school and we We are working on ‘kindness’ at our school and we want to give … a chance to turn this around.”want to give … a chance to turn this around.”

• Help everyone understand the Help everyone understand the accountability of the bystander.accountability of the bystander.

• Highly recommend RAP trainingHighly recommend RAP training– End of easter break, May, early July, Late AugustEnd of easter break, May, early July, Late August

ConnectionsConnections

BELONGING…. Feeling great about youBELONGING…. Feeling great about you

MASTERY…. Then working hard to achieve successMASTERY…. Then working hard to achieve success

INDEPENDENCE… Then making positive choicesINDEPENDENCE… Then making positive choices

GENEROSITY… Then allow giving to feed your spirit GENEROSITY… Then allow giving to feed your spirit and give back to othersand give back to others

Have the Have the couragecourage to be all to be all you can be!you can be!