chapter 2 parenting: a choice page 24. objectives the student will: the student will: –recognize...

CHAPTER 2CHAPTER 2

PARENTING: A CHOICEPARENTING: A CHOICE

PAGE 24PAGE 24

OBJECTIVESOBJECTIVES

• THE STUDENT WILL:THE STUDENT WILL:– Recognize parenting as a lifetime commitmentRecognize parenting as a lifetime commitment– State reasons often given for having childrenState reasons often given for having children– Identify factors that determine a couple’s readiness for Identify factors that determine a couple’s readiness for

parenting.parenting.– Explain how children affect a couple’s financial and Explain how children affect a couple’s financial and

career goalscareer goals– State reasons often given for remaining childlessState reasons often given for remaining childless– Identify challenges and risks faced by teen parentsIdentify challenges and risks faced by teen parents– Use the decision making process to decide about Use the decision making process to decide about

parenting.parenting.

KEY TERMSKEY TERMS

• AlternativesAlternatives• ConsequencesConsequences• Decision-making processDecision-making process• Dual-career familyDual-career family• Empty nest syndromeEmpty nest syndrome• GoalsGoals• Long-term goalsLong-term goals• Short-term goalsShort-term goals• Time lineTime line

REASONS FOR BECOMING A REASONS FOR BECOMING A PARENTPARENT

• AS AN EXPRESSION OF LOVEAS AN EXPRESSION OF LOVE

• TO ESTABLISH A FAMILY LIFE-STYLETO ESTABLISH A FAMILY LIFE-STYLE

• TO HAVE THE EXPERIENCETO HAVE THE EXPERIENCE

• TO FULFILL ROLE EXPECTATIONSTO FULFILL ROLE EXPECTATIONS

POOR REASONS FOR HAVING POOR REASONS FOR HAVING CHILDRENCHILDREN

• GIVING IN TO FAMILY AND PEER PRESSUREGIVING IN TO FAMILY AND PEER PRESSURE

• TRAPPING A PARTNERTRAPPING A PARTNER

• WANTING CHILDREN FOR FRIENDSWANTING CHILDREN FOR FRIENDS

• WANTING CHILDREN FOR COMPANIONS WANTING CHILDREN FOR COMPANIONS WHEN YOU ARE ELDERLYWHEN YOU ARE ELDERLY

FACTORS TO CONSIDERFACTORS TO CONSIDER

• YOUR GOALSYOUR GOALS– THINGS YOU WISH TO ACCOMPLISHTHINGS YOU WISH TO ACCOMPLISH

LONG-TERMLONG-TERM

SHORT-TERMSHORT-TERM

TIME LINETIME LINE

CONSIDERATIONSCONSIDERATIONS

• THE MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIPTHE MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP– COMMUNICATIONCOMMUNICATION– STABILITYSTABILITY– COMMITMENTCOMMITMENT– MATURITYMATURITY


• YOUR READINESS FOR PARENTHOODYOUR READINESS FOR PARENTHOOD– EMOTIONAL FACTORSEMOTIONAL FACTORS

– SOCIAL FACTORSSOCIAL FACTORS

– INTELLECTUAL FACTORSINTELLECTUAL FACTORS

– PHYSICAL FACTORSPHYSICAL FACTORS


• YOUR FINANCESYOUR FINANCES

• THESE WEB SITES WILL GIVE YOU AN THESE WEB SITES WILL GIVE YOU AN ESTIMATE OF THE COST OF ESTIMATE OF THE COST OF CHILDREARING:CHILDREARING:– http://www.babycenter.com/costofchild/?http://www.babycenter.com/costofchild/?

_requestid=2555242_requestid=2555242

– http://www.bluecollardollar.com/http://www.bluecollardollar.com/child_costs.htmlchild_costs.html

YOUR CAREERYOUR CAREER

• EACH FAMILY MUST CONSIDER ITS EACH FAMILY MUST CONSIDER ITS OWN VALUES AND CIRCUMSTANCES.OWN VALUES AND CIRCUMSTANCES.

• MANY FAMILIES TODAY ARE DUAL MANY FAMILIES TODAY ARE DUAL CAREER FAMILIES;BOTH PARENTS CAREER FAMILIES;BOTH PARENTS WORK OUTSIDE THE HOMEWORK OUTSIDE THE HOME

• WHAT SPECIFIC EFFECT DOES WHAT SPECIFIC EFFECT DOES PARENTING HAVE ON ONE’S PARENTING HAVE ON ONE’S CAREER?CAREER?

REASONS FOR NOT HAVING REASONS FOR NOT HAVING CHILDRENCHILDREN• COUPLES WANT MORE LEISURE TIMECOUPLES WANT MORE LEISURE TIME

• TOO EXPENSIVETOO EXPENSIVE

• COUPLES WANT MORE FLEXIBILE SCHEDULESCOUPLES WANT MORE FLEXIBILE SCHEDULES

• FEARFEAR

• PARENTING WOULD INTERFERE WITH CAREERPARENTING WOULD INTERFERE WITH CAREER

TEEN PARENTSTEEN PARENTS

• TEEN PARENTS CAN ACCEPT TEEN PARENTS CAN ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY AND BE GOOD RESPONSIBILITY AND BE GOOD PARENTS.PARENTS.

• HOWEVER, THERE ARE CHALLENGES HOWEVER, THERE ARE CHALLENGES THAT FACE TEEN PARENTS.THAT FACE TEEN PARENTS.


• HEALTH RISKSHEALTH RISKS

• Bodies of young mothers are still Bodies of young mothers are still growing and developing—pregnancy growing and developing—pregnancy puts a huge stress on developmentputs a huge stress on development

• Many teen girls have poor eating Many teen girls have poor eating habitshabits

TEEN PREGNANCY (RISKS)TEEN PREGNANCY (RISKS)

• Some teens are not aware of risks Some teens are not aware of risks affecting the unborn:affecting the unborn:– SmokingSmoking

– Alcohol consumptionAlcohol consumption

– DrugsDrugs

– Lack of prenatal care (seeing a health care Lack of prenatal care (seeing a health care professional)professional)

TEEN PREGNANCYTEEN PREGNANCY

• THE INFANT MORTALITY RATE THE INFANT MORTALITY RATE (DEATH RATE) FOR BABIES BORN TO (DEATH RATE) FOR BABIES BORN TO TEEN MOMS IS 18 PER 1,000 LIVE TEEN MOMS IS 18 PER 1,000 LIVE BIRTHS. BIRTHS.

• THIS COMPARES TO 10.3 FOR MOMS THIS COMPARES TO 10.3 FOR MOMS IN THEIR TWENTIES.IN THEIR TWENTIES.


• PREMATURE/LOW BIRTHWEIGHTPREMATURE/LOW BIRTHWEIGHT

• ONE IN SEVEN BABIES BORN TO TEEN ONE IN SEVEN BABIES BORN TO TEEN MOTHERS IS LOW BIRTHWEIGHTMOTHERS IS LOW BIRTHWEIGHT– Respiratory, heart, liver problemsRespiratory, heart, liver problems– Learning disabilities later in lifeLearning disabilities later in life– Organs are not fully developedOrgans are not fully developed– Less than a normal chance of survivalLess than a normal chance of survival– Continued health problemsContinued health problems


• THE DEATH RATE FROM PREGNANCY THE DEATH RATE FROM PREGNANCY COMPLICATIONS IS HIGHER FOR COMPLICATIONS IS HIGHER FOR TEENSTEENS

• STUDIES SHOW THAT 17% OF TEEN STUDIES SHOW THAT 17% OF TEEN MOTHERS EXPERIENCE A SECOND MOTHERS EXPERIENCE A SECOND PREGNANCY WITHIN 36 MONTHS OF PREGNANCY WITHIN 36 MONTHS OF THE FIRSTTHE FIRST


• SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASESSEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASES

• AFFECTS BOTH THE HEALTH OF THE AFFECTS BOTH THE HEALTH OF THE MOTHER AND BABYMOTHER AND BABY– AIDSAIDS– GONORRHEAGONORRHEA– SYPHILLISSYPHILLIS– HERPESHERPES


• SOCIAL AND EMOTIONAL CHANGESSOCIAL AND EMOTIONAL CHANGES– FREEDOM IS CURTAILEDFREEDOM IS CURTAILED– MAY OR MAY NOT BE A LONG TERM MAY OR MAY NOT BE A LONG TERM

RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN THE MOTHER RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN THE MOTHER AND FATHERAND FATHER

– LITTLE KNOWLEDGE OF CARING FOR A LITTLE KNOWLEDGE OF CARING FOR A BABYBABY

– IMMATURITYIMMATURITY


• SOCIAL AND EMOTIONAL CHANGESSOCIAL AND EMOTIONAL CHANGES– LESS IN COMMON WITH FRIENDSLESS IN COMMON WITH FRIENDS

– DIFFICULTY COPING WITH STRESSDIFFICULTY COPING WITH STRESS

– MAY OR MAY NOT HAVE SUPPORT MAY OR MAY NOT HAVE SUPPORT SYSTEMSYSTEM•FAMILY, CHURCH, COMMUNITY, ETC.FAMILY, CHURCH, COMMUNITY, ETC.


• EDUCATION AND CAREER RISKSEDUCATION AND CAREER RISKS– A MAJORITY OF TEEN MOTHERS DROP OUT OF A MAJORITY OF TEEN MOTHERS DROP OUT OF

SCHOOL. WHY?SCHOOL. WHY?– ILLNESS DURING PREGNANCYILLNESS DURING PREGNANCY– CHILD CARECHILD CARE– DEMANDS OF CHILDREARINGDEMANDS OF CHILDREARING– ILLNESS OF THE CHILDILLNESS OF THE CHILD– WORKWORK– OTHERS?OTHERS?


• THIS WEB SITE WILL GIVE YOU SOME THIS WEB SITE WILL GIVE YOU SOME STATISTICS ON THE FINANCIAL STATISTICS ON THE FINANCIAL DISADVANTAGES FACED BY HIGH DISADVANTAGES FACED BY HIGH SCHOOL DROPOUTS:SCHOOL DROPOUTS:

• http://www.dol.gov/asp/fibre/http://www.dol.gov/asp/fibre/dropout.htmdropout.htm

DROPOUTSDROPOUTS

• Earning a two-year degree from a Earning a two-year degree from a vocational or technical school can mean vocational or technical school can mean almost $1.5 million over a 40-year work life, almost $1.5 million over a 40-year work life, according to an analysis by the Employment according to an analysis by the Employment Policy Foundation of Bureau of Labor Policy Foundation of Bureau of Labor Statistics (BLS) Current Population Survey Statistics (BLS) Current Population Survey earnings and education data. As workers earnings and education data. As workers complete higher levels of education and complete higher levels of education and training, their lifetime earnings substantially training, their lifetime earnings substantially increase increase

DROPOUTSDROPOUTS

• A bachelor's degree is worth more A bachelor's degree is worth more than $1.9 million over a 40-year than $1.9 million over a 40-year period, while a doctorate or period, while a doctorate or professional degree can be worth professional degree can be worth more than $2.8 million. The numbers more than $2.8 million. The numbers are for full-time, year-round workers. are for full-time, year-round workers.

DROPOUTSDROPOUTS

• In stark contrast, individuals without a In stark contrast, individuals without a high school diploma only earn $852,000 high school diploma only earn $852,000 over a 40-year period, or about over a 40-year period, or about $620,000 less than workers that $620,000 less than workers that complete a vocational degree; complete a vocational degree; $672,000 less than those that complete $672,000 less than those that complete a two-year college degree and $1.1 a two-year college degree and $1.1 million less than college graduates with million less than college graduates with bachelor's degrees. bachelor's degrees.

DROPOUTSDROPOUTS

• The job market will continue to place The job market will continue to place a premium on education and skills, a premium on education and skills, as more and more positions are as more and more positions are created in the next 10 years in created in the next 10 years in technical, professional and technical, professional and management occupations.management occupations.

EDUCATION AND INCOMEEDUCATION AND INCOME

• No high school diplomaNo high school diploma. Average weekly . Average weekly earnings: $410. Average annual earnings: earnings: $410. Average annual earnings: $21,314. Total 40-year earnings: $852,577.$21,314. Total 40-year earnings: $852,577.

• High school diploma onlyHigh school diploma only. Average weekly . Average weekly earnings: $588. Average annual earnings: earnings: $588. Average annual earnings: $30,560. Annual gain over earnings with no high $30,560. Annual gain over earnings with no high school diploma: $9,245. Total 40-year earnings: school diploma: $9,245. Total 40-year earnings: $1,222,396. Forty-year gain over earnings with no $1,222,396. Forty-year gain over earnings with no high school diploma: $369,818. high school diploma: $369,818.


• Two-year vocational degreeTwo-year vocational degree. . Average weekly earnings: $708. Average weekly earnings: $708. Average annual earnings: $36,833. Average annual earnings: $36,833. Annual gain over earnings with no Annual gain over earnings with no high school diploma: $15,519. Total high school diploma: $15,519. Total 40-year earnings: $1,473,335. Forty-40-year earnings: $1,473,335. Forty-year gain over earnings with no high year gain over earnings with no high school diploma: $620,758. school diploma: $620,758.


• Two-year college degreeTwo-year college degree. Average . Average weekly earnings: $733. Average weekly earnings: $733. Average annual earnings: $38,118. Annual annual earnings: $38,118. Annual gain over earnings with no high gain over earnings with no high school diploma: $16,803. Total 40-school diploma: $16,803. Total 40-year earnings: $1,524,703. Forty-year earnings: $1,524,703. Forty-year gain over earnings with no high year gain over earnings with no high school diploma: $672,126. school diploma: $672,126.


• Bachelor's degreeBachelor's degree. Average weekly . Average weekly earnings: $949. Average annual earnings: $949. Average annual earnings: $49,344. Annual gain over earnings: $49,344. Annual gain over earnings with no high school earnings with no high school diploma: $28,030. Total 40-year diploma: $28,030. Total 40-year earnings: $1,973,760. Forty-year earnings: $1,973,760. Forty-year gain over earnings with no high gain over earnings with no high school diploma: $1,121,183. school diploma: $1,121,183.

EDUCATION AND EARNINGEDUCATION AND EARNING

• Master's degreeMaster's degree. Average weekly . Average weekly earnings: $1,109. Average annual earnings: $1,109. Average annual earnings: $57,676. Annual gain over earnings: $57,676. Annual gain over earnings with no high school earnings with no high school diploma: $36,631. Total 40-year diploma: $36,631. Total 40-year earnings: $2,307,025. Annual gain earnings: $2,307,025. Annual gain over earnings with no high school over earnings with no high school diploma: $1,454,448. diploma: $1,454,448.

EDUCATION AND EARNINGEDUCATION AND EARNING

• Professional or doctorate degreeProfessional or doctorate degree. . Average weekly earnings: $1,376. Average weekly earnings: $1,376. Average annual earnings: $71,573. Average annual earnings: $71,573. Annual gain over earnings with no high Annual gain over earnings with no high school diploma: $50,258. Total 40-year school diploma: $50,258. Total 40-year earnings: $2,862,914. Annual gain over earnings: $2,862,914. Annual gain over earnings with no high school diploma: earnings with no high school diploma: $2,010,337. $2,010,337.

• SOURCE: SOURCE: http://www.epf.org/media/newsreleases/2001/nr20011219.htm

EDUCATION EDUCATION

• BESIDES INCOME, WHAT ARE OTHER BESIDES INCOME, WHAT ARE OTHER BENEFITS OF STAYING IN HIGH BENEFITS OF STAYING IN HIGH SCHOOL AND FURTHERING YOUR SCHOOL AND FURTHERING YOUR EDUCATION AFTER HIGH SCHOOL?EDUCATION AFTER HIGH SCHOOL?


• OTHER FINANCIAL RISKSOTHER FINANCIAL RISKS– SUPPORT OF THE FATHERSUPPORT OF THE FATHER

– LIVING ARRANGEMENTSLIVING ARRANGEMENTS

– MANY TEEN PARENTS ARE ON WELFAREMANY TEEN PARENTS ARE ON WELFARE

– HOUSINGHOUSING

ACITIVTYACITIVTY

•Keep a journal of your activities for one day. Keep a journal of your activities for one day. Answer the following questions : What time did Answer the following questions : What time did you wake up?you wake up?What time did you go to sleep?What time did you go to sleep?What did you eat during the day? Be specific: What did you eat during the day? Be specific: include fruits, vegetables, and junk food.include fruits, vegetables, and junk food.How much time did you spend with friends?How much time did you spend with friends?What activities did you participate in? How much What activities did you participate in? How much time did you spend at each?time did you spend at each?Were you tired during the day? If so, were you Were you tired during the day? If so, were you able to nap?able to nap?

ACTIVITYACTIVITY

• Next ,consider the implications of becoming Next ,consider the implications of becoming a parent. How would your daily routines a parent. How would your daily routines would change if you had a child to take care would change if you had a child to take care of. How would having a child affect your of. How would having a child affect your education? Other aspects of your future? education? Other aspects of your future? What kinds of financial responsibilities come What kinds of financial responsibilities come with being a parent? If you strongly believe with being a parent? If you strongly believe that your long-term goals would not change that your long-term goals would not change with a baby, you may want to look at the with a baby, you may want to look at the facts below from a 1996 study (Fact Sheet: facts below from a 1996 study (Fact Sheet: Teen Pregnancy): Teen Pregnancy):

ACTIVITYACTIVITY

• Ninety-four percent of teens believe that if they Ninety-four percent of teens believe that if they were pregnant they would stay in school; in were pregnant they would stay in school; in reality, 70 percent eventually complete high reality, 70 percent eventually complete high school. school.

• Fifty-one percent of teens believe that if they Fifty-one percent of teens believe that if they were involved in a pregnancy they would marry were involved in a pregnancy they would marry the baby’s mother or father; in reality, 81 the baby’s mother or father; in reality, 81 percent of teenage births are to unmarried teens. percent of teenage births are to unmarried teens.

• Twenty-six percent of teens believe that they Twenty-six percent of teens believe that they would need welfare to support a child; in reality, would need welfare to support a child; in reality, 56 percent receive public assistance to cover the 56 percent receive public assistance to cover the cost of delivery and 5 percent receive public cost of delivery and 5 percent receive public assistance by their early 20s. assistance by their early 20s.

ACTIVITYACTIVITY

• Consider how you would have to take care of Consider how you would have to take care of yourself during a pregnancy. For example, what yourself during a pregnancy. For example, what is necessary for a healthy pregnancy? Make a is necessary for a healthy pregnancy? Make a list:list:

• Next, think about what you would have to do to Next, think about what you would have to do to take care of yourself and your baby after birth.take care of yourself and your baby after birth.

• Source: Source: http://school.discovery.com/lessonplans/prograhttp://school.discovery.com/lessonplans/programs/teenpregnancy/ms/teenpregnancy/

DECISION MAKINGDECISION MAKING

• DECIDING TO BECOME A PARENT IS DECIDING TO BECOME A PARENT IS THE BIGGEST DECISION YOU WILL THE BIGGEST DECISION YOU WILL EVEREVER MAKE! MAKE!

REVIEW THE STEPS IN THE DECISION REVIEW THE STEPS IN THE DECISION MAKING PROCESS:MAKING PROCESS:

DECISION MAKINGDECISION MAKINGPAGE 42-43PAGE 42-43

• 1. Identify the decision1. Identify the decision

• 2. Look at the alternatives2. Look at the alternatives

• 3. Evaluate the consequences3. Evaluate the consequences

• 4. Choose an alternative4. Choose an alternative

• 5. Act on the alternative5. Act on the alternative

• 6. Evaluate the results6. Evaluate the results

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