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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

FOR TODAY’S LEADERS

 उत्ति�ष्ठत जाग्रत प्राप्य वरान्� निन्बो�धत!

Arise, awake and stop not till the goal is

reached.

~ Kathopanishad 1.3.14

 उत्ति�ष्ठत जाग्रत प्राप्य वरान्� निन्बो�धत!

Arise, awake and stop not till the goal is

reached.

~ Kathopanishad 1.3.14

A bird that sings does not sing because it has an answer.

It sings because it has a song.

~ Panchatanta

Imagine yourself as a highly effective leader.

What do you see?

BE YOUR OWN

CEO

“What a man can be, he must be.”

“If you deliberately plan on being less than you are capable of being, then I warn you that you’ll be unhappy for the rest of your life.”

-Abraham H Maslow (1908-70)

Father of humanistic psychology.

Creator of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.

On an average, On an average,

an infant laughs an infant laughs

nearly three nearly three hundred times hundred times

a day,a day,

an adult only an adult only four.four.

LIFE IS A MISSION.

NOT Just A CAREER.

If olive oil comes from olives, what does

baby oil come from?

Four Intelligences

Physical: Body, Physical energy, Discipline

Mental: Cognitive Learning, Thoughts

Emotional: Passion, Feelings, Drive

Spiritual: Meaning, Direction, Purpose, Conscience

“Anyone can become angry … that is easy.

…But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way … that is not easy.”

~Aristotle

When I compared star performers with average ones in senior

leadership positions, nearly 80% of the difference in their profiles

was attributable to emotional intelligence factors rather than

cognitive skills.

Dr. Daniel Goleman, What Makes a Leader, 1998

Life = Success + Stress

Success 10 + Stress 90 = Life 100

Success 90 + Stress 10 = Life 100

WHAT IS EI?

Emotional Intelligence is a way of recognizing, understanding,

and choosing how we think, feel, and act.

The wise person challenges himself, the

mediocre challenges the situations and the fool

challenges others.

WHAT IS EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE? the ability to perceive emotions the ability to access and generate

emotions so that it assists thought the ability to understand complex

emotions and emotional knowledge the ability to reflectively regulate

emotions so as to promote emotional and intellectual growth

COMPONENTS OF EI

1. Self -Awareness

2. Self -Management

4. Empathy

5. Social Skills

3. Motivation6. Self -

Remembrance

1. Personal Competence how we manage ourselves

Self Awareness – ability to recognise and understand your moods, emotions and drives, as well as their effect on others, knowing your strengths and weaknesses

Self Regulation - ability to control impulses and moods

Motivation - passion to pursue goals with energy 

2. Social Competence how we handle relationships

Empathy - awareness of other’s feelings and concerns

Social skills - proficiency in managing relationships, adeptness in inducing desirable responses, such as communication, conflict management, cooperation, and leadership

3. Self Masteryhow we master our life

Self Remembrance - being aware of one’s emotions

and drives and living with the flow

LOW OR HIGH EI?

Doesn’t know life’s purpose and what to do

'You always make me feel....'Cannot share feelings verballyNegative feelings dominateNot perceptive to others' feelingsCarries grudges, unforgivingActs without reasoning or logicPoor listenerTalks about problems

LOW

HIGH OR LOW EI?

Knows one’s purpose and what to do in life 'I feel...'Open expression of emotionsNot preoccupied with negative emotionsCan identity the feelings of othersEmotionally resilientDecisions based on feelings and logicAccepts self and othersGood listenerTalks about solutions

HIGH

High EI individuals compared to those low on EI are:

Aware of their purpose in lifeKnow what career to pursue

More effective leadersLess aggressiveMore empathicHappierLess depressedLess stressedHigher self-esteemLess lonelyBetter quality friendships and married life

WHAT WE KNOW ABOUT EQ

• Predicts higher work performance three times better than IQ

• Leadership is largely an emotional intelligence

• All interaction can be gauged along a continuum from emotionally toxic to nourishing

• Approx 66.6% of workers say communication problems are the leading cause preventing them from doing their best work

 “The true perfection of man lies not in what man has, but in what man is.” 

  “To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.”

Oscar Wilde. 

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house a ‘building’?

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“Strength does not

come from physical

capacity. It comes from

an indomitable

will”.

-Mahatma Gandhi

DisengagedLaid BackRelaxedSereneMellow

EnergizedConfidentUpbeatJoyful

Connected

OverworkedExhaustedDepressed

AngryFrustrated

AnxiousTensed

High

Low

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What Type of Energy You Have?

Physical: Low to HighEmotional: Negative to

Positive

If you can dream it, you can do it.

- Walt Disney

Make no small plans for they have not the power

to stir men’s blood.

-Nichollo Machiavelli

NOW, THE

WARNINGS BELLS:

When you are inspired by some great purpose, some

extraordinary project, all your thoughts break their bounds. Your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every

direction, and you find yourself in a new, great and wonderful world.

- The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali

Multiply your strengths so much

that your weaknesses become

irrelevant.

SIMPLE TIPS TO ENHANCE EI

Stay with the feeling.Don’t interrupt or change the subject.

Don’t judge or edit your feelings. Allow the feelings on the unconscious level to

surface. Listen to your body. Write your feelings and thoughts down.

Your past is not your potential. In any hour

you can choose to liberate the future. 

Marilyn Ferguson

Questions / Comments?

To know and not to do is not to know.

Go ahead and shine in life!.