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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
FOR TODAY’S LEADERS
उत्ति�ष्ठत जाग्रत प्राप्य वरान्� निन्बो�धत!
Arise, awake and stop not till the goal is
reached.
~ Kathopanishad 1.3.14
उत्ति�ष्ठत जाग्रत प्राप्य वरान्� निन्बो�धत!
Arise, awake and stop not till the goal is
reached.
~ Kathopanishad 1.3.14
A bird that sings does not sing because it has an answer.
It sings because it has a song.
~ Panchatanta
Imagine yourself as a highly effective leader.
What do you see?
BE YOUR OWN
CEO
“What a man can be, he must be.”
“If you deliberately plan on being less than you are capable of being, then I warn you that you’ll be unhappy for the rest of your life.”
-Abraham H Maslow (1908-70)
Father of humanistic psychology.
Creator of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.
On an average, On an average,
an infant laughs an infant laughs
nearly three nearly three hundred times hundred times
a day,a day,
an adult only an adult only four.four.
LIFE IS A MISSION.
NOT Just A CAREER.
If olive oil comes from olives, what does
baby oil come from?
Four Intelligences
Physical: Body, Physical energy, Discipline
Mental: Cognitive Learning, Thoughts
Emotional: Passion, Feelings, Drive
Spiritual: Meaning, Direction, Purpose, Conscience
“Anyone can become angry … that is easy.
…But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way … that is not easy.”
~Aristotle
When I compared star performers with average ones in senior
leadership positions, nearly 80% of the difference in their profiles
was attributable to emotional intelligence factors rather than
cognitive skills.
Dr. Daniel Goleman, What Makes a Leader, 1998
Life = Success + Stress
Success 10 + Stress 90 = Life 100
Success 90 + Stress 10 = Life 100
WHAT IS EI?
Emotional Intelligence is a way of recognizing, understanding,
and choosing how we think, feel, and act.
The wise person challenges himself, the
mediocre challenges the situations and the fool
challenges others.
WHAT IS EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE? the ability to perceive emotions the ability to access and generate
emotions so that it assists thought the ability to understand complex
emotions and emotional knowledge the ability to reflectively regulate
emotions so as to promote emotional and intellectual growth
COMPONENTS OF EI
1. Self -Awareness
2. Self -Management
4. Empathy
5. Social Skills
3. Motivation6. Self -
Remembrance
1. Personal Competence how we manage ourselves
Self Awareness – ability to recognise and understand your moods, emotions and drives, as well as their effect on others, knowing your strengths and weaknesses
Self Regulation - ability to control impulses and moods
Motivation - passion to pursue goals with energy
2. Social Competence how we handle relationships
Empathy - awareness of other’s feelings and concerns
Social skills - proficiency in managing relationships, adeptness in inducing desirable responses, such as communication, conflict management, cooperation, and leadership
3. Self Masteryhow we master our life
Self Remembrance - being aware of one’s emotions
and drives and living with the flow
LOW OR HIGH EI?
Doesn’t know life’s purpose and what to do
'You always make me feel....'Cannot share feelings verballyNegative feelings dominateNot perceptive to others' feelingsCarries grudges, unforgivingActs without reasoning or logicPoor listenerTalks about problems
LOW
HIGH OR LOW EI?
Knows one’s purpose and what to do in life 'I feel...'Open expression of emotionsNot preoccupied with negative emotionsCan identity the feelings of othersEmotionally resilientDecisions based on feelings and logicAccepts self and othersGood listenerTalks about solutions
HIGH
High EI individuals compared to those low on EI are:
Aware of their purpose in lifeKnow what career to pursue
More effective leadersLess aggressiveMore empathicHappierLess depressedLess stressedHigher self-esteemLess lonelyBetter quality friendships and married life
WHAT WE KNOW ABOUT EQ
• Predicts higher work performance three times better than IQ
• Leadership is largely an emotional intelligence
• All interaction can be gauged along a continuum from emotionally toxic to nourishing
• Approx 66.6% of workers say communication problems are the leading cause preventing them from doing their best work
“The true perfection of man lies not in what man has, but in what man is.”
“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.”
Oscar Wilde.
Even after it is built, why do we call a
house a ‘building’?
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“Strength does not
come from physical
capacity. It comes from
an indomitable
will”.
-Mahatma Gandhi
DisengagedLaid BackRelaxedSereneMellow
EnergizedConfidentUpbeatJoyful
Connected
OverworkedExhaustedDepressed
AngryFrustrated
AnxiousTensed
High
Low
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What Type of Energy You Have?
Physical: Low to HighEmotional: Negative to
Positive
If you can dream it, you can do it.
- Walt Disney
Make no small plans for they have not the power
to stir men’s blood.
-Nichollo Machiavelli
NOW, THE
WARNINGS BELLS:
When you are inspired by some great purpose, some
extraordinary project, all your thoughts break their bounds. Your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every
direction, and you find yourself in a new, great and wonderful world.
- The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali
Multiply your strengths so much
that your weaknesses become
irrelevant.
SIMPLE TIPS TO ENHANCE EI
Stay with the feeling.Don’t interrupt or change the subject.
Don’t judge or edit your feelings. Allow the feelings on the unconscious level to
surface. Listen to your body. Write your feelings and thoughts down.
Your past is not your potential. In any hour
you can choose to liberate the future.
Marilyn Ferguson
Questions / Comments?
To know and not to do is not to know.
Go ahead and shine in life!.