welcome to a simple conflict resolution!. are you a person that wants to: save time? reduce the...
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Welcome to Welcome to a simple conflict resolution!a simple conflict resolution!
Are you a person that wants to:
Save time?
Reduce the amounts of conflict you deal with?
Have a simple process to resolve conflicts?
Have kids/adults take responsibility for resolutions?
Increase student attendance?
Reduce the amount of violence at your school?
Have more productive conflict resolution?
What to avoid:
What to avoid:
What is in the picture?What is in
the picture?
What do you see?
What do you feel?
What do you see?
What do you feel?
“Instead of condemning [conflict], we should set it to work for us…All polishing is done by friction. The music of the violin we get by friction. We left the savage state when we discovered fire by friction. We talk of the friction of mind on mind as a good thing…That is what I wish to consider here, whether or not we can set conflict to work and make it do something for us!”
Mary Parker Follett, 1926
Vowel POWER!=
AEIOU
Vowel POWER!=
AEIOU
A conflict resolution format for kids of ALL
ages
by Lance ToddSeptember 18, 2008
Seward Elementary [email protected]
A conflict resolution format for kids of ALL
ages
by Lance ToddSeptember 18, 2008
Seward Elementary [email protected]
A=Agree to
talk
A=Agree to
talkAsk “Can I talk to you?”
TWO ANSWERS:1. Yes2. Anything else=”When can I talk to you?”
Ask “Can I talk to you?”
TWO ANSWERS:1. Yes2. Anything else=”When can I talk to you?”
E=Experience
Calm
E=Experience
Calm
Watch and listen for a calm voice AND body
If someone is not calm, ask them when would be a good time to talk*RULE: Must talk before the end of the school day, no matter what!
Watch and listen for a calm voice AND body
If someone is not calm, ask them when would be a good time to talk*RULE: Must talk before the end of the school day, no matter what!
I=”I” messageI=”I” message“I feel __________ (when ____________).
“I would like __________.*Avoid the words “I don’t like”and “you” when possible!
THE LISTENER REFLECTS THE MESSAGE BACK in whole or paraphrase.
“I feel __________ (when ____________).
“I would like __________.*Avoid the words “I don’t like”and “you” when possible!
THE LISTENER REFLECTS THE MESSAGE BACK in whole or paraphrase.
O=Open TalkO=Open Talk
This is where kids resolve accusations, disagreements with
what the other person wants, or request alternate ideas.
This is where kids resolve accusations, disagreements with
what the other person wants, or request alternate ideas.
U=UniteU=Unite
Bring the problem-solving process to a
close1. Handshake2. High five3. Hug
Bring the problem-solving process to a
close1. Handshake2. High five3. Hug
Now it’s Time To
PRACTICE!
Now it’s Time To
PRACTICE!Give kids of all ages every
opportunity to practice and throw them every REAL
curve possible after they’ve mastered the
basics.
Give kids of all ages every opportunity to practice and
throw them every REAL curve possible after
they’ve mastered the basics.
A=Agree to talk “Can I Talk To yOU?”
E=Experience Calm
I=”I” message “I fEEL ____. I Would LIke ____.”
O=Open Talk
U=Unite handshake, High Five, Hug
A=Agree to talk “Can I Talk To yOU?”
E=Experience Calm
I=”I” message “I fEEL ____. I Would LIke ____.”
O=Open Talk
U=Unite handshake, High Five, Hug
REFERENCES:
REFERENCES:
Bodine, R. & Crawford, D. (1996) Conflict Resolution Education. Office of
Elementary and Secondary Education.
“Conflict Managers”, Sunburst Media.
“Conflict Resolution: Understanding the Theory”, retrieved September 12, 2008 from www.mindtools.com/pages/article/ newLDR_81.html
“Conflict Resolution”, retrieved September 12, 2008 from www.co-operation.org/pages/conflict.html
Bodine, R. & Crawford, D. (1996) Conflict Resolution Education. Office of
Elementary and Secondary Education.
“Conflict Managers”, Sunburst Media.
“Conflict Resolution: Understanding the Theory”, retrieved September 12, 2008 from www.mindtools.com/pages/article/ newLDR_81.html
“Conflict Resolution”, retrieved September 12, 2008 from www.co-operation.org/pages/conflict.html