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Page 1: Welcome to a simple conflict resolution!. Are you a person that wants to: Save time? Reduce the amounts of conflict you deal with? Have a simple process

Welcome to Welcome to a simple conflict resolution!a simple conflict resolution!

Page 2: Welcome to a simple conflict resolution!. Are you a person that wants to: Save time? Reduce the amounts of conflict you deal with? Have a simple process

Are you a person that wants to:

Save time?

Reduce the amounts of conflict you deal with?

Have a simple process to resolve conflicts?

Have kids/adults take responsibility for resolutions?

Increase student attendance?

Reduce the amount of violence at your school?

Have more productive conflict resolution?

Page 3: Welcome to a simple conflict resolution!. Are you a person that wants to: Save time? Reduce the amounts of conflict you deal with? Have a simple process

What to avoid:

What to avoid:

Page 4: Welcome to a simple conflict resolution!. Are you a person that wants to: Save time? Reduce the amounts of conflict you deal with? Have a simple process

What is in the picture?What is in

the picture?

What do you see?

What do you feel?

What do you see?

What do you feel?

Page 5: Welcome to a simple conflict resolution!. Are you a person that wants to: Save time? Reduce the amounts of conflict you deal with? Have a simple process

“Instead of condemning [conflict], we should set it to work for us…All polishing is done by friction. The music of the violin we get by friction. We left the savage state when we discovered fire by friction. We talk of the friction of mind on mind as a good thing…That is what I wish to consider here, whether or not we can set conflict to work and make it do something for us!”

Mary Parker Follett, 1926

Page 6: Welcome to a simple conflict resolution!. Are you a person that wants to: Save time? Reduce the amounts of conflict you deal with? Have a simple process

Vowel POWER!=

AEIOU

Vowel POWER!=

AEIOU

A conflict resolution format for kids of ALL

ages

by Lance ToddSeptember 18, 2008

Seward Elementary [email protected]

A conflict resolution format for kids of ALL

ages

by Lance ToddSeptember 18, 2008

Seward Elementary [email protected]

Page 7: Welcome to a simple conflict resolution!. Are you a person that wants to: Save time? Reduce the amounts of conflict you deal with? Have a simple process

A=Agree to

talk

A=Agree to

talkAsk “Can I talk to you?”

TWO ANSWERS:1. Yes2. Anything else=”When can I talk to you?”

Ask “Can I talk to you?”

TWO ANSWERS:1. Yes2. Anything else=”When can I talk to you?”

Page 8: Welcome to a simple conflict resolution!. Are you a person that wants to: Save time? Reduce the amounts of conflict you deal with? Have a simple process

E=Experience

Calm

E=Experience

Calm

Watch and listen for a calm voice AND body

If someone is not calm, ask them when would be a good time to talk*RULE: Must talk before the end of the school day, no matter what!

Watch and listen for a calm voice AND body

If someone is not calm, ask them when would be a good time to talk*RULE: Must talk before the end of the school day, no matter what!

Page 9: Welcome to a simple conflict resolution!. Are you a person that wants to: Save time? Reduce the amounts of conflict you deal with? Have a simple process

I=”I” messageI=”I” message“I feel __________ (when ____________).

“I would like __________.*Avoid the words “I don’t like”and “you” when possible!

THE LISTENER REFLECTS THE MESSAGE BACK in whole or paraphrase.

“I feel __________ (when ____________).

“I would like __________.*Avoid the words “I don’t like”and “you” when possible!

THE LISTENER REFLECTS THE MESSAGE BACK in whole or paraphrase.

Page 10: Welcome to a simple conflict resolution!. Are you a person that wants to: Save time? Reduce the amounts of conflict you deal with? Have a simple process

O=Open TalkO=Open Talk

This is where kids resolve accusations, disagreements with

what the other person wants, or request alternate ideas.

This is where kids resolve accusations, disagreements with

what the other person wants, or request alternate ideas.

Page 11: Welcome to a simple conflict resolution!. Are you a person that wants to: Save time? Reduce the amounts of conflict you deal with? Have a simple process

U=UniteU=Unite

Bring the problem-solving process to a

close1. Handshake2. High five3. Hug

Bring the problem-solving process to a

close1. Handshake2. High five3. Hug

Page 12: Welcome to a simple conflict resolution!. Are you a person that wants to: Save time? Reduce the amounts of conflict you deal with? Have a simple process

Now it’s Time To

PRACTICE!

Now it’s Time To

PRACTICE!Give kids of all ages every

opportunity to practice and throw them every REAL

curve possible after they’ve mastered the

basics.

Give kids of all ages every opportunity to practice and

throw them every REAL curve possible after

they’ve mastered the basics.

Page 13: Welcome to a simple conflict resolution!. Are you a person that wants to: Save time? Reduce the amounts of conflict you deal with? Have a simple process

A=Agree to talk “Can I Talk To yOU?”

E=Experience Calm

I=”I” message “I fEEL ____. I Would LIke ____.”

O=Open Talk

U=Unite handshake, High Five, Hug

A=Agree to talk “Can I Talk To yOU?”

E=Experience Calm

I=”I” message “I fEEL ____. I Would LIke ____.”

O=Open Talk

U=Unite handshake, High Five, Hug

Page 14: Welcome to a simple conflict resolution!. Are you a person that wants to: Save time? Reduce the amounts of conflict you deal with? Have a simple process

REFERENCES:

REFERENCES:

Bodine, R. & Crawford, D. (1996) Conflict Resolution Education. Office of

Elementary and Secondary Education.

“Conflict Managers”, Sunburst Media.

“Conflict Resolution: Understanding the Theory”, retrieved September 12, 2008 from www.mindtools.com/pages/article/ newLDR_81.html

“Conflict Resolution”, retrieved September 12, 2008 from www.co-operation.org/pages/conflict.html

Bodine, R. & Crawford, D. (1996) Conflict Resolution Education. Office of

Elementary and Secondary Education.

“Conflict Managers”, Sunburst Media.

“Conflict Resolution: Understanding the Theory”, retrieved September 12, 2008 from www.mindtools.com/pages/article/ newLDR_81.html

“Conflict Resolution”, retrieved September 12, 2008 from www.co-operation.org/pages/conflict.html