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November 5, 2011

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The purpose of today’s Day of Remembrance is to provide all Good Grief families the opportunity to come together as a community, to mourn and to remember. Though for some of you, every minute, hour and day is full of memories and feel-ings, our hope is that today provides a special time to do so with your Good Grief family.

If you have any thoughts or feedback about today’s gathering we invite you to share them with us. Thank you for being with us throughout the year, and on this day in particular.

Good Grief Staff, Board and Volunteers

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We are grateful for the many volunteers who facilitate Good Grief peer support groups throughout the year. Their contribution is invaluable.

Our sincere thanks to the many people who helped us coordinate this event, those who donated their goods and services, and those who have been a part of today’s gathering, especially:

acknowledGemenTs

• The Willis Foundation• TD Bank

• Harpist, Leslie Hansen• Vocalist, Tracey Haskell

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Good Grief’s mission is to normalize grief in our community through education, advocacy, and year-round support group programs for grieving children, teens and adults.

Good Grief is Northern New Jersey’s premier resource for grieving children and their families. Since opening its peer support program in 2007, Good Grief has grown over 300%, becoming the fastest growing children’s grieving center in the country. Good Grief serves over 75 communities throughout New Jersey in its state-of-the-art facility in Morristown.

Through the assistance of experienced and committed volunteer facilitators, Good Grief conducts peer support programs for children from 3-18 and young adults 18-30 who experience the death of a parent or sibling. Good Grief is also a resource for schools, businesses, and other community organizations with its Conversations on Grief™ workshops. Both as a direct service and education provider, Good Grief works to transform communities so that no child ever needs to grieve alone.

STAFFExecutive Director Marisa BologneseAssociate Executive Director Joe PrimoDirector of Family Services Dr. Mary FleckDirector of Education and Outreach Dr. Barbara ChabnerProgram Coordinator Rachel O’BrienFamily Coordinator Beth KarpowicProgram Assistant and Volunteer Recruiter Melissa StackpoleDirector of Development Warrie HowellDirector of Marketing and Communictions Doreen SmithData Specialist Moira Clarkin

who we are

Patrick Sullivan, ChairLes Hollander, Vice Chair Jim Topor, Vice ChairFrances Travisano, SecretarySal Gentile, Treasurer

Robert Anderson, Esq.Robin Bogan, Esq. Scott BradleyJim BucknamTrish Chobrda

Bill HectorRichard NoeckerRita PettifordJudy RomanIrene Weinberg

Board of TrusTees

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November 5, 201111:00 am—12:00 pm

Welcome: “Somewhere Over the Rainbow” Remembrance and Renewal Joe Primo, Assoc. Executive Director

Opening Song: “The Climb” Sung by Tracey Haskell

readinG of names

“The Remembrance” By Rabbis Sylvan Kamens & Jack Reimer

Reader: All those who have died and yet still live within us todaySanti Abut

Luis Aldazabal

Maurice Lamont Barksdale

Michael Bateman

Rick Beitle

Eric Berlin

Charles Bertiger

Brian David Bouren

Kelley Bradley

Marc Bruno

Alan Burns

Donna Byrne

Sebastiano Caltabiano

Pierre Camille

All: We Remember Them

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ProGram iTinerary

Reader: At the rising of the sun and at its going downAnthony CarluccioJeff Chiaramonte

Lewis ChurchJohn Clark

Eva Genelle ClearfieldLeRoy M. Colligan

Warren CoopermanMary Jane Costello

Kevin CoughlinAnthony Criscuolo

Jacqueline Davidson-ChinCecilia Davies

Laura-Dawn DealFranklin DeLaRosaMartin DeMarzo


Reader: At the blowing of the wind and in the chill of winterKathy A. DeNaro

Michael Roger DennisDeborah Lynn DiFerdinando

Geraldine DillahuntJoyce Elise Dinsmore Hutchinson

Keith DolanDana Donahue

Annette Kelly DrakeScott Duffy

Lance Joseph EsbinArthur Falgione, Jr.

James FarleyRobert D. Franks


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Reader: At the opening of the buds and in the birth of springGlenn Fredericks

Mathew Ernest GallagherDesirae Marie Gallart

Michael GodwinLawrence Robert Goerg

Nathan GouldCorey Graney

Melissa GreinerJudah GubbayNoah Harris

Tom HempsteadPhillips Heathcote

Robin HolsteinMichael HuetterFrank Hulsman


Reader: At the blueness of the skies and in the warmth of summer Marek Ilkow

Zoe Gina JacksonPaul JacobelloYau-Fung Jang

John JanuszanisRenee Johansen

Carl Anthony JohnsonIrene Johnson

William J Johnson, SrScott Franklin Jones

Robert JulianoCarrie Katz

Darlene Keller


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Reader: At the rustling of the leaves and in the beauty of autumnFred Kelly

John Becker KellyCarlyse Kennedy

Taewan “Ted” KimScott Kopen

Richard KoscoMatt Sedat Koseoglu

William KrauseAlan Krauss

Holly G. KrugerRoberta Kyle

Anthony LanzaMarc Lasoff

Melissa Lewis


Reader: At the beginning of the year and when it endsLaura Lockatell

Vincent LombardoGordon Lucas

John LypBrad Mackie

John David MalinPatricia Manganiello

Shelley MannJordan Mapp

Robert MarcellianoDavid Mark

Landa MartinLLoyd Mathieson

Joan Matotta


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Reader: As long as we live, they too will love, for they are now a part of us

Frederick W McCoy, IIJim McElroy

Jaqueline McKensieThomas Morabito

Mark MovitzRandall Muckenthaler

Casey MurphyLen MuscarellaBrad Nussbaum

Michele A. O’ConeWilliam O’Donnell

Douglas O’NeillMarcela Palacios

Nicholas V Peter


Reader: When we are weary and in need of strengthRonald Eric PiersonKathleen Pinckney

Carol PlaskonJay Poda

Mark PolakowskiJose Prieto

Christopher PurguyNicole Ramsden

Gerald ReillyRobert RiveraDonald RoeserKate Russell

Marcus Gregory RutaAdam Sackett

Al Sanczyk


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Reader: When we are lost and sick at heartRichard Schellhorn

Keisha SeowAnthony SepeJoseph Sesta

Alice SheaJanice Sheldon

Ing-ie ShenCourtney C. Smith, II

Jeff SmithMaria SmithPaul SmithPeter Smith

Margaret Smizaski

Mark Sonenblick


Reader: When we have joy we long to share Thomas Speckin

Anne SpinaStephen Stamler

Janet StoneKathryn Jean Stoppello

Stephen Roy StoutThomsa Sullivan

Juan TamayoJohn TarangeloElise ten Berge

Brian TomsaFatima TranquilliBrian Turner, Jr.

Dana Uhler

James Vadas


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Reader: When we have decisions that are difficult to make Jakob Joseph Vail

Lyndon Valenzuela

Michael Veron

Enav Vitenson

Jonathan Walsweer

Peter C Wendt, V

Alice Williams

Sunshine Nicole Williams


Reader: As long as we live, they too will live, for they are part of us

Tricia Woods-Jones

Vesta Woodson

Ainsworth Wright

Joseph Wright

Kelli Wynne

Anne Zabler

Mark John Zakosky

All: As We Remember Them

Musical Int erlude—Harp Melodies Played by Leslie Hansen

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Reading: Wild Geese

You do not have to be good.

You do not have to walk on your knees

for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.

You only have to let the soft animal of your body

love what it loves.

Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.

Meanwhile the world goes on.

Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain

are moving across the landscapes,

over the prairies and the deep trees,

the mountains and the rivers.

Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air,

are heading home again.

Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,

the world offers itself to your imagination,

calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting-

over and over announcing your place

in the family of things.

–By Mary Oliver

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Commemorative ActivityWe invite each person to remember the special person who has died and to make a commitment to self renewal through these two symbolic activities.

For Remembrance—An Origami GeeseFrom the geese we learn the importance of teamwork, community, and encour-agement. Those who have died are forever a part of this community. Remember him/her by making an origami geese in their honor. First, write a message of remembrance on the paper, then follow the directions for folding it. These geese will be prominently hung in the main house of Good Grief.

For Renewal—A Ribbon of RenewalFrom the geese we learn that it’s important to keep up with the flock, or to form a new flock. We encourage each person to make a commitment to take care of themselves in order to keep moving forward and to be able to support the other people in their lives. Select a fabric, and write on the white piece a promise for how you will take care of yourself – for example, take a walk every day; join a yoga class; do a good deed. These ribbons of renewal will be displayed in the tree on the front lawn of Good Grief as a reminder of your commitment to take care of yourself.

Closing Remarks Mary Fleck, Director of Family Services

Closing Song “The Rising” by Bruce Springsteen Sung by Tracey Haskell

Please join us for Lunch and Fellowship

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our wall of rememBerance

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We Remember

Them...

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Life is a journey so each day must

be treasured, things to embrace

are the lord, family, friends, dreams, change, hope, love and

most of all keep the faith.

Jacqueline

Davidson-Chin

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Chris Purguy 12-6-56 to 5-3-11

You came to visit at your own leisure, but it was always

great to see you. Although we didn't like going to your house very much, we still went just to be with you.

You saw our costumes we make ourselves every year. Sometimes you couldn't even

recognize us, we looked so good. This year we were gothic and gangster.

You went to our church with us on Easter Sunday, the last

Sunday we ever spent together.

We love you Dad, but we miss you too much!

Love, Madison, Brandon & Karen! <3

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Kathy A. DeNaro

Timeline of

Love

Born July 1, 1969 Brooklyn, NY

Died April 16, 2011

Fairleigh Dickinson combined masters/

bachelors in accounting

1992

Saint Savior High School, Brooklyn,

NY, graduation 1987 Met and fell in

love, Easter Weekend

1993

Engaged on front steps, Steve’s

parent’s house, Hoptcong, NJ

Fall 1994

Married July 20th, 1996

At St. Lawrence church in Chester, NJ. Recep-tion at the Ramada in in East Hanover, NJ

Spent months

apart while Steve pursued law de-

gree from Widener University Law

School 1995-1998

Bought first house together in Hopatcong NJ

May, 1995

I’m pregnant!—revealed in Kitch-

en Aug/Sept 2004

Bought house in Long Valley, NJ In May 2003

Jacqueline Grace DeNaro born March 29th,

2005

Many beautiful family memories

made

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Noah Sweet Love

Noah Sweet Love

We adore, celebrate, and intensely miss you, darling Noah. You alwaysgive us smiles and hope, you Prince of Love. ~ Mommy, Zaky, Ella & Lily

We adore, celebrate, and intensely miss you, darling Noah. You alwaysgive us smiles and hope, you Prince of Love. ~ Mommy, Zaky, Ella & Lily

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Zoë Gina JacksonFebruary 22, 2010 - April 9, 2011

Zoe was such a special baby. She was loved by everyone. Zoe and her brother Ameer had such a close and loving relationship even though they were eight years apart. She had a special bond with all of us. Zoe

passed away from complications from being hit by a car. Before we left her with her aunt, Zoe kept coming back and forth to our car and playing with her brother. I believe that was her way of telling us good-bye. There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t miss her smile or her

hugs or her not so subtle way of busting into the bathroom, shower or wherever I was that I tried to go without her.

Zoe, we love you and miss you so much.

XOXO my Gigi….. until we are together again.

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Scott

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Keisha,

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John Becker kelly

June 28, 1965 – October 12, 2010

John we miss your infectious laughYou were taken too early – led down a different path.

Our children are growing, doing amazing things.With the skill and knowledge a Dad only brings.

We’ve laughed and cried remembering youAnd often I’ve thought what will I do.

Then I realize your watching from aboveThe music, sports, and our children you so love.

As our angel in Heaven we believe in youAnd will reunite again when it’s our time too.

We love and miss you forever and always.Sally, Robbie, Willie, and Helena

ONE YEAR AGO

One year ago I cried in disbelief.One year ago I leaned on a friend.

One year ago one person stood out.One year ago my phone rang.One year ago I got an email.

One year ago a neighbor said “I’m so sorry”.One year ago I missed a week of school.

One year ago In Memory of John Becker Kelly was started.One year ago I felt a pain in my heart.

One year ago I thought my Mom was kidding.One year ago I said “Bye Dad”.

One year ago I had a Dad who was still here and I wish he still was.

By Robbie Kelly...age 11

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John Becker kelly

June 28, 1965 – October 12, 2010

I loved it when you read in my bed

And when you laughed your cheeks got red

Your eyes were blue.

Dad I really miss you!

By Willie Kelly...age 10

Daddy-O, Daddy-O I’m growing big!

In fact I’m larger than a huge twig.

I hope you are proud of me everyday.

Make sure you catch my kisses when I blow them your way!

By Helena Kelly...age 7

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In Memory of Brad C. Mackie

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For John:

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Frederick Wayne McCoy, Sr.August 13, 1951 – June 2, 2010

Man of God, Husband and Dad.You loved me.

You loved ALL of your children.Each of us think of you in some way everyday.

We love you….we always did…we always will until the end of time.Janet, Samantha, David, Frederick, Matthew,

Izzy, Ivy, Robby and Tink

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DaDDy

I Love You I Remember When You Used To Play Golf.I Miss Playing Hide And Seek With You.

I Miss Going To Shul With You.I Miss It When You Used To Drive Us Back From School.

Love,Rebecca(8 1/2)

I Love You Abba!!

Love,Nathan (5 1/2)

The nussBaum Family

We Miss You!!!

Love, Susie And Liora(1 1/2)

We Miss You!!!


We Miss You!!!


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Sweet Dreams, Dad!

Say Hi to Everyone in Heaven

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In Loving Memory

richard a. schellhornApril 2, 1954—February 16, 2008

A Beautiful LifeA beautiful life that came to an end,He lived as he lived, everyone’s friend.

In our hearts a memory will always be kept, of one we loved, and will never forget.

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