Love and Valuesatters worse, intimate partners inevitably blame the guilt and shame of violating their values on each other:"I can't be the real me - loving, friendly, compassionate, supportive, sexy, and fair - while you're being you!"etter and improve your relationship by forgetThey engage in mutually satisfying physical affection, sexual passion, and meaningful or enjoyable activities. Hierarchy of ValuesPower love values are conspicuously hierarchical; it is difficult to strengthen friendship, support, and loving behavior when there are perceptions of inequality or unfairness. The first step in improving a relationship should be establishing equality and fairness.Attitudes that Support Power Love Values Good will: Partners want the best for each other. Cooperation: Partners work together for the best interests of the family. Flexibility: Relationships, like life in general, are cruel to the rigid but generally kind to the flexible. Appreciation and/or acceptance of differences Partners recognize that they have different temperaments, core vulnerabilities, and emotional histories, which cause them to give different emotional meaning to many events, behaviors, and circumstances. They strive to appreciate as many differences as they can (some are part of what first attracted them) and accept any they cannot appreciate.Skills to Maintain Power Love ValuesValues and attitudes require a certain degree of skill to implement over time. The skills most likely to bring success in committed relationships are: