true coaching: effective communication is the key!

True Coaching: Effective Communication is the Key!

WIAA Coaches SchoolCheney HS

Tom Doylewww.truecoaching.net

http://www.truecoaching.net/

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Why are you here today?

• “Insanity is doing the same things over and over and expecting a different result.” Albert Einstein

• It is what you learn after you know it all that counts! John Wooden

• "The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them". Einstein

Coach Training Priorities

What is True Colors?

• True Colors provides a nonjudgmental language base to enable one to communicate more freely and appreciate the uniqueness in everyone.

What can TRUE COLORS do for me?

• TRUE COLORS provides an opportunity for you to continue the life long learning process and to learn more about yourself,

• how you go about your education and your leadership role,

• how you relate with your coaches, athletes, family, peers, and even parents!

• and how they relate to you.

Why TRUE COLORS?

• Using the TRUE COLORS is a quicker and easier way to understand people than trying to remember all 16 personality types associated with the Myers-Briggs Personality Test.

Why TRUE COLORS?

• It can help you to better be able to communicate with others, especially with those who are least like you.

History of TRUE COLORS

• Hippocrates – 400 BC – four types: sanguine, phlegmatic, choleric, melancholic

• Carl Jung – 1921 – personality/temperament differences fundamental for understanding human beings (4 types)

• Myers-Briggs – 1950’s – 16 combinations to signify 4 characteristics of people – (letters)

• David Keirsey – 1967 – four types- Please Understand Me

• Don Lowry – 1978 – system/tool to apply “type” information to help real people in real situations

Ever wonder about people?

Ever Wonder about People?

• …Are always on time or even early, while others have a tough time being on time?

• …Speak their mind even before they know what is on it, while others are more reserved and think before they speak?

• …Question every decision that you make and always have a “better way” to do it, while others support your decisions without question?

• …Put the system/department above all, while others put people before the system?


• …Swimmer who questions every drill and every workout?

• …Volleyball setter who says, “You take it!” instead of taking charge?

• …Basketball player who dogs it at practice, but is a “gamer”?

• …Hockey player who does everything you teach him, but who has difficulty adjusting to change in a game?

Research: most serious faults in dealing with others?

• Failure to see other’s point of view – 68%

• Failure to show appreciation/give credit – 36%

• Failure to size up others correctly -- 34%

• Lack of Leadership -- 24%

• Lack of frankness/sincerity -- 19%

Perceptions

• "To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others."

Anthony Robbins

Perception Building

• What are “perceptions”?• How do we come to perceive and believe?• Are we accurate in our perceptions?• First Impressions take about 7-20 seconds

to form; require significant emotional event to change.

Count The Number of “F ”s

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FINISHED FILES ARE THE RE-SULT OF YEARS OF SCIENTIF-IC STUDY COMBINED WITH THE EXPERIENCE OF MANY YEARS.

Perception Building

• Why doesn’t everyone see what I see?

Basic Assumptions

• Everyone is like me!

• Everyone should behave as I do!

• Everybody communicates the same – like me!

• Everyone will respond to a specific situation or stimulus the way I do!

Basic Assumptions

• Awareness is the first step in Change.

• Education is the first step in understanding.

• CHANGE IS INEVITABLE,

GROWTH IS OPTIONAL!

BLUE

Enthusiastic Sympathetic Personal Admires authenticity and honesty.

GREEN

Visionary Non-Conformist Problem Solver Considers every detail; knowledge is strength

ORANGE

Trouble-shooter Competitor Impulsive Takes pride in skill, being adventurous, and immediate action

GOLD

Dutiful and LoyalRespects AuthorityOrganizedResponsible

What do the TRUE COLORS look like?

• Blue Characteristics

• Gold Characteristics

• Green Characteristics• Orange Characteristics

PeacemakerCaretakerOptimistic

Always Has a Kind WordPassionate

Cause OrientedTrue Romantics

Need to Feel SpecialStrong Sense of Spirituality

Cooperative Rather than Competitive

Relationship

Core Valueis

“Be Prepared”Love to Plan

Duty, Loyalty, ResponsiblePunctual, Predictable

Strong Belief in Policies, Procedures, RulesValues Family Traditions

Thinks before ActingConservative and Stable

“Should” and “Should Not”Most Comfortable with a Structured Environment

Core Valueis

Responsibility

“Should be Able to”“Why”

IntellectualVery Complex

Standard SettersCool, Calm, Collected

Work is Play, Play is WorkNeed for Independence and Private Time

PerfectionistsApproaches Interpersonal Relationships

in a Logical Manner

Core Value

is

Competency

Energetic

Playful,

“Just Do It,

Master Negotiator

Natural Entertainer

Pushes Boundaries

Thrives on Competition

Impulsive and Spontaneous

Appreciates Immediate Feedback

Most Productive in Non-structured Environments

BLUE


GREEN


ORANGE


GOLD


True Colors Spectrum “Ah-Ha’s”

• We all have four colors in our spectrum• A primary color dominates our

spectrum• The “blend” of colors makes us unique• Drawing upon all of our colors

improves our personal and team relationships by:


• Gaining knowledge and skills to access basic core needs of self and others

• Motivating and empowering self and others to use or unique qualities and strengths

• Demonstrating and releasing natural talents and abilities

• Increasing self-esteem, self-worth, and success through positive, productive actions


• Brighten Your TRUE COLORS!

Population DistributionGeneral Population

Gold 35-38%

Orange 35-38%

Green 12-15%

Blue 12-15%

What Color is this Office?

• Clean desk

• Mess, but knows where things are

• Family photos everywhere

• Motivational, inspirational quotes


• …Are always on time or even early and seem to be always prepared?

• …Speak their mind even before they know what is on it; think about it later? Operate with a “ready, shoot, aim” philosophy?

• …Question every decision that you make and always have a “better way” to do it?

• …Put people before the system and always seem genuinely concerned about others?


• …Swimmer who questions every drill and every workout?

• …Volleyball setter who says, “You take it!” instead of taking charge?

• …Basketball player who dogs it at practice, but is a “gamer”?

• …Hockey player who does everything you teach him, but who has difficulty adjusting to change in a game?

True Colors is:

• An Explanation

• – NOT an Excuse!

BLUE


GREEN


ORANGE


GOLD


Using TRUE COLORS!– Applications

• Color Group – Practice Plan

• “Least” Color Group – Define “fun” for this Color?

Fun?GOLD

Organizing things An Audit

GREEN

Research, Library Puzzles

BLUE

Group Hug Singing Kumbaya

ORANGE

Danger Risk

1. Rigid2. Boring3. Stubborn4. Opinionated5. System Bound6. Unimaginative7. Predictable8. Bossy9. Judgmental10.Controlling

1. Firm2. Conservative3. Strong Willed4. Having a View5. Orderly6. Realist7. Stable8. Directive9. Moral Standards10. Assertive

How Others May See Golds

How Golds See Themselves

1. Arrogant

2. No Mercy

3. Unrealistic

4. Aloof

5. Unemotional

6. Intellectual Snob

7. Devalue Relationships

8. Critical

9. Eccentric

10.Heartless

1. Confident

2. Firm Minded

3. Under Control

4. Visionary

5. Calm

6. Intelligent

7. Independent

8. Perfectionist

9. Creative

10. Determined

How Others May See Greens

How Greens See Themselves

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1. Bleeding Heart2. Naïve3. Mushy4. Touchy-feely5. Smothering6. Stuck in the Past7. Push-over8. Emotional9. Fawning10.Always a Cause

1. Compassionate2. Trusting3. Romantic4. Affectionate5. Caretaker6. Nostalgic7. Sympathetic8. Sensitive9. Nurturing10. Passionate

How Others May See Blues

How Blues See Themselves

1. Flaky

2. Rule Breaker

3. Manipulative

4. Uncontrollable

5. Obnoxious

6. Irresponsible

7. Off Task

8. Resist Closure

9. Indecisive

10.Distracted

1. Carefree

2. Adventurous

3. Charming

4. Energetic

5. Bold

6. Impulsive

7. Flexible

8. Enjoys Process

9. Shares Decision Making

10. Changing

How Others May See Oranges

How Oranges See Themselves

Kids Quit Because They Aren’t Having FUN!

• What makes the athletic experience “fun” for each of the Colors?

• Their job to meet you in your Color?

• OR

• Your job to meet them in their Color?

How Can This Help You?

• Practice Planning – all Colors?

• Motivation & Discipline

• Communication w/ Athletes & Parents – Sales

• % - your Color


• We all have four colors in our spectrum• A primary color dominates our

spectrum• The “blend” of colors makes us unique• Drawing upon all of our colors

improves our personal and professional relationships by:


• Gaining knowledge and skills to access basic core needs of self and others

• Motivating and empowering self and others to use or unique qualities and strengths

• Demonstrating and releasing natural talents and abilities

• Increasing self-esteem, self-worth, and success through positive, productive actions


• Brighten Your TRUE COLORS!

A small truth A small truth to make life to make life

100%100%

Hard WorkHard Work

H+A+R+D+W+O+R+K

8+1+18+4+23+15+18+11 = 98%

KnowledgeKnowledge

K+N+O+W+L+E+D+G+E

11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+5 = 96%

LoveLove

L+O+V+E

12+15+22+5 = 54%

LuckLuck

L+U+C+K

12+21+3+11 = 47% (why is it that most of us think this is the most

important ???)

Then what makes 100%?Is itIs it MoneyMoney? ... NO ! ! !

M+O+N+E+Y

13+15+14+5+25 = 72%

Is it Is it LeadershipLeadership? ... NO ! ! !

L+E+A+D+E+R+S+H+I+P

12+5+1+4+5+18+19+9+16 = 89%

Every problem has a Every problem has a solution, but only if we solution, but only if we

change our attitude.change our attitude.

To go to the top and To go to the top and

achieve achieve 100%100%We really need to go We really need to go

further... further...

ATTITUDEATTITUDE

A+T+T+I+T+U+D+E A+T+T+I+T+U+D+E 1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5 1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5 = =

100%100%

It is OUR ATTITUDE towards It is OUR ATTITUDE towards Life and Work that makes OUR Life and Work that makes OUR

Life = 100% Life = 100%

Change Your Attitude …Change Your Attitude …

… … and You Change Your and You Change Your Life ! ! !Life ! ! !

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