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M H R V I B [ L R M I H

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Nctdy O. jkts up ct ;700 c.o. si sdk lch shkcn mh c eirty-ffivk-

omhutk gcuht ih dkr trkcbomaa wdmak rkspihbmhj ti ivkrhmjdt

k-ocmas, ldklnmhj dkr Eclkfiin pcjk, chb lctldmhj up ih

tdk oirhmhj hkws. Fy tdk tmok sdk achbs ct dkr bksn ct =700

c.o.‒cetkr sdk”s ocbk frkcnecst eir tdk ecomay, sdiwkrkb,brksskb, aist chb eiuhb dkr nkys, skht skvkrca tkxts, sdcrkb c

ekw pditis ihamhk, ipkhkb siok cpps, biwhaicbkb nky bil-

uokhts ti dkr mPcb, irjchmzkb tdk nmbs” auhldks, chb brippkb

tdko iee ct sldiia‒sdk”s carkcby bkcat wmtd viauoks ie mh-

eiroctmih chb liopktmhj bkochbs vmc dkr lkaa pdihk chb

diok lioputkr. Hiw ct wirn, sdk strujjaks ti prmirmtmzk dkr

tcsns comb tdk sturry ie ti-bis, mhliomhj lcaas, chb k-ocmas.

\dk scvks tdk rkvmkw ie ch mopirtcht ffiak uhtma actkr mh tdk



6 MHRVIB[LRMIH

Auhldtmok dmts chb sdk wihbkrs wdkrk dkr oirhmhj wkht,

cs sdk ffihbs dkrskae dcaewcy tdriujd tdk bcy fut ekkas ecr fk-

dmhb tdk kmjdt fcaa mh tkros ie diw ould sdk”s clliopamsdkb.

\lcttkrfrcmhkb, sdk trmks ti lcao dkrskae fcln mhti euaa eilus

fy jrcffmhj c lieekk chb slriaamhj tdriujd dkr ecvirmtk Zkf

smtk. Fut tdkh oirk bmstrcltmhj k-ocmas liok mh. Chb wdkh

dkr fiss khtkrs tdk ieffilk criuhb eiur i”lailn chb csns dkr

c qumln qukstmih, sdk brcws c titca fachn mh c rkspihsk. Dkr

frcmh dcs sdut biwh. Lirrkltmih7 Dkr frcmh hkvkr rkcaay jitti wirn tdct bcy.

Rdms, uheirtuhctkay, ms typmlca hit gust ie Nctdy fut ie

omaamihs ie us wdi crk faksskb chb lurskb mh iur dypkrnmhktml

wirab, wdkrk tdkrk”s gust tii ould mheiroctmih ti prilkss

chb kxpkltctmihs ti cbbrkss 62-:. Fut tdk jiib hkws ms tdkrk”s

ch chswkr ti tdms oibkrh pamjdt. Rdkrk”s c wcy ti lut tdriujd

tdk lauttkr mh yiur frcmh chb bkvkaip c acskr eilus chb lih-

lkhtrctmih. C wcy ti piwkr tdriujd tiujd prifakos si tdct

yiu lch oivk ih ti khgiymhj tdk rkst ie amek chb hit akt mssuks

amhjkr oirk tdch tdky hkkb ti. Rdk siautmih amks mh c amttak-

nhiwh pdkhiokhih7 eirjkteuahkss. Rdct”s rmjdt7 Zdkh wk

akcrh ti eirjkt mheiroctmih, wk dcvk tdk cfmamty ti rkokofkr

wdct wk hkkb ti wirn ecstkr chb socrtkr tdriujd iur bcy.

M bih”t nhiw chyihk wdi biksh”t ekka ivkrwdkaokb fy rk-

spihsmfmamtmks wdmak ct tdk scok tmok brcmhkb fy trymhj ti nkkp

up (chb fcrkay bimhj si). Chb catdiujd wk tdmhn wk”rk bimhj

iurskavks jiib fy, scy, tcnmhj c tmok-iut ct wirn ti triaa

tdk Mhtkrhkt ir rkspihb ti oksscjks erio ermkhbs, wk liuab

cltucaay fk bimhj c jrkct bmsskrvmlk ti iur frcmhs Lrkctmvmty



<MHRVIB[LRMIH

bmstrcltmih. Hir lch ecst, pribultmvk tdmhnmhj dcppkh wdkh

wk”rk uhbkr tdk burkss ie stmouactmhj cltmvmtmks. Zk crk amvmhj

wmtd tdk scok frcmhs tdct iur lcvkoch eirkfkcrs bkvkaipkb

eir us lkhturmks cji, chb tdisk frcmhs crk hit cbcptkb ti tdk

rkcamtmks ie iur oibkrh krc tdct dcvk us hcvmjctmhj si ochy

siurlks ie mheiroctmih chb stmouactmih.

Frcmh lauttkr ms c listay lihbmtmih. Zdmak mt ocy hit dcvk

ch ieffilmca bmcjhisms mh tdk okbmlca wirab, mt oist bkffihmtkay

dcs ch uhbkhmcfak amst ie syoptios7 frcmh eij, mhcfmamty tieilus ir lihlkhtrctk, acln ie pribultmvmty chb mhhivctmih,

strkss, chxmkty, hkrviushkss, chjst, wirry, brkcb, chb kvkh

bkprkssmih. (C biltir wmaa jmvk yiu oirk jrcvk-siuhbmhj

tkldhmlca lihbmtmihs.)

Rdk cvkrcjk wirnmhj priekssmihca spkhbs riujday 6<

pkrlkht ie tdk wirnbcy ih k-ocma chb jachlks ct tdk mh-fix

cfiut tdmrty-smx tmoks ch diur. Mt tcnks oist ie us oirk tdch

c omhutk ti rkturh ti c tcsn ihlk wk”vk stippkb ti rkcb c hkw

k-ocma. Mocjmhk jcmhmhj fcln caa tdct tmok chb khkrjy! Chb

mocjmhk wdct mt lch bi eir tdk hkxt jkhkrctmih. Rdms ms skrm-

ius, eians. M amnk ti tdmhn ie oyskae cs c euh chb dmp juy wdi

trmks ti lrcln c ekw ginks wdkh tkcldmhj, fut M lchhit kxprkss

tdk skvkrmty ie iur lurrkht lrmsms. Mh eclt, oy bksmrk ti rkvkrsktdms trkhb ms tdk wdiak pimht ie wrmtmhj tdms fiin.

Me wk lch akcrh ti omhmomzk tdk mbak, mhkeekltmvk lauttkr

chb ocxmomzk tdk stuee tdct euturk sullkssks crk ocbk ie,

tdkh wk lch ji ecr. Ocstkrmhj tdk crt ie eirjkttmhj, cs yiu”rk

cfiut ti ffihb iut, wmaa fk tdk uatmoctk nky ti tdct cldmkvkokht.

Zdct”s oirk, trcmhmhj yiur frcmh ti ipkrctk ecstkr, eilus mh-

tkhtay chb mookbmctkay wdkh yiu hkkb mt ti, chb uhakcsd mts

euaakst pitkhtmca biksh”t dmhjk ih jkhktmls mhdkrmtkb MS cl



2 MHRVIB[LRMIH

ihk snmaa tdct truops caa itdkrs mh fkliomhj socrtkr, oirk

pribultmvk, chb kxlkkbmhjay oirk mocjmhctmvk ms, mh eclt, eir-

jkttmhj . M rkcamzk tdct tdms ocy siuhb cfsurb chb qumtk liuh-

tkrmhtumtmvk. Diw lch eirjkteuahkss chb keffilmkhly likxmst9

Crkh”t tdksk twi lihlkpts cfsiautk ippismtks9 Ecr erio mt.

Mh tdms fiin, M”o jimhj ti tkcld yiu kvkrytdmhj yiu hkkb

ti nhiw ti jkt yiur frcmh wirnmhj oirk keekltmvkay eir yiu.

]iu”aa fk cfak ti ocxmomzk tdk euaa piwkr ie yiur frcmh chb

jkt c ait oirk clliopamsdkb kvkry omhutk ie yiur bcy. Chbfkmhj cfak ti eirjkt wmaa privmbk tdk eiuhbctmih.

Akt ok fk lakcr7 Rdms ms hit c ‑okoiry‟ fiin. M”o hit

dkrk gust ti tkcld yiu c trmln ti okoirmzk tdk Bklacrctmih ie

Mhbkpkhbkhlk si tdct yiu lch rklcaa mt mh c dkcrtfkct. Zdct

yiu”rk jimhj ti akcrh‒usmhj c vcrmkty ie kxkrlmsks, sdirtluts,

chb tiias‒ms tdk crt ie eirjkttmhj. Rdms smhjak snmaa caihk wmaa

dkap yiu fkliok c fkttkr, oirk keekltmvk mhbmvmbuca mh caa

tdct yiu bi. Rdk ‑eirjkttmhj‟ akssihs chb tdkmr rkactkb kx-

krlmsks wmaa khdchlk yiur cfmamty ti lioouhmlctk, mhhivctk,

moprkss itdkrs, stchb iut mh c lriwb, jkt cdkcb ie yiur pkkrs,

oivk up tdk lirpirctk acbbkr, ocjhmey yiur kopaiycfmamty

chb oihkyocnmhj lcpclmty, ocnk kxlkaakht bklmsmihs, siavk

prifakos, pach eir tdk euturk, spkcn pufamlay wmtd kcsk, fk cstrihjkr pacykr mh jcoks chb spirts, csn eir wdct yiu wcht,

cbcpt ti hkw smtuctmihs, dchbak lrmsks, wirn uhbkr prkssurk,

fk mhbkpkhbkht, chb oirk.

Rdkrk crk duhbrkbs ie cfmamtmks tdct lch fk kakvctkb fy

ocstkrmhj tdk piwkr ie eirjkttmhj. Rdriujdiut tdk ldcptkrs,

M”aa pimht iut spklmffilcaay wdy yiu”rk akcrhmhj c jmvkh strct-

cjko ir fkmhj tiab ti bi sioktdmhj tdct skkos mopissmfak

ir moprcltmlca (suld cs ouatmpay twi bmjmt huofkrs mh yiur



;MHRVIB[LRMIH

cfiut ih chy jmvkh pcjk, M wcht yiu ti cawcys nkkp yiur kyk

ih tdk fmjjkr‒chb ould oirk oihuokhtca‒pmlturk chb

prmzk7 Bkvkaipmhj c omhb tdct wirns supkr ecst wmaa caaiw

yiu ti amvk up ti yiur jrkctkst, oist mhhivctmvk pitkhtmca.

Zmaa yiu fkliok tdk hkxt Kmhstkmh, Kbmsih, Iprcd, Gifs,

ir Eirtuhk ;00 LKI9 M lch”t ocnk chy priomsks, fut M wmaa

pakbjk tdct me yiu rkcb tdms fiin, wdiakdkcrtkbay tdmhn cfiut

mts octkrmca, chb try oy kxkrlmsks (oirk tdch ihlk!), yiu wmaa

fkjmh ti iptmomzk tdk mhdkrkht piwkr ie yiur frcmh chb caaiwyiur lrkctmvk, mhvkhtmvk, chb mocjmhctmvk skae ti pripcjctk

mh bmrkltmihs yiu hkvkr tdiujdt pissmfak. ]iu”aa casi fk cfak

ti cldmkvk ouatmpak jicas soiitday wmtdiut ekkamhj amnk yiur

ouatmtcsnmhj keeirts crk fclnffirmhj, scppmhj yiur khkrjy, chb

bkstriymhj yiur pkclk ie omhb. Rdk akssihs mh tdms fiin wmaa

dkap yiu ti skt tdk rmjdt tihk kvkry bcy eir wdct yiu wcht

ti clliopamsd chb jmvk yiu tdk snmaas ti stcy eiluskb bkspmtk

bmstrcltmihs si yiu ffihmsd tdct amst ie mopirtcht tcsns.

[smhj yiur frcmh tdk wcy M co jimhj ti tkcld yiu wmaa

ipkh yiu up ti ocstkrmhj chytdmhj mh amek, erio spkcnmhj eir-

kmjh achjucjks ti pacymhj ousml, liinmhj, hkjitmctmhj, lio-

ouhmlctmhj, chb kvkh kstcfamsdmhj fkttkr rkactmihsdmps wmtd

itdkrs. ]iu wmaa casi fk jmvmhj yiur dkcatd c fiist, fklcuskoy kxkrlmsks wmaa jmvk yiur frcmh c jiib wirniut. ]iu”aa ffih-

msd tdms fiin wmtd ould oirk lihffibkhlk mh yiurskae, chb

tdct ms pkrdcps tdk fkst jmet M lch jmvk yiu. Zmtd lihffibkhlk,

yiu”aa dcvk tdk liurcjk ti strmvk eir chytdmhj‒ti bi chb fk

wdctkvkr yiu wcht.

M”vk skkh tdksk akssihs dkap pkipak erio gust cfiut kvkry

wcan ie amek, erio yiuhj stubkhts ti rktmrkks dipmhj ti prk-

skrvk tdkmr okhtca ecluatmks erio khtry akvka kopaiykks ti



5 MHRVIB[LRMIH

pismtmihs, chb erio pcrkhts ti tkcldkrs, okhtirs, khtrkprk-

hkurs, mhvkhtirs, biltirs, acwykrs, rkstcurctkurs, wrmtkrs,

chb pdmaisipdkrs.

Fy tdk khb ie tdk fiin, yiu wmaa dcvk cocsskb yiur iwh

uhmquk liaakltmih ie tiias tdct ocnk skhsk ti yiu‒chb tdct

wirn! Chb yiu”aa hkvkr tdmhn cfiut ‑eirjkttmhj‟ mh qumtk tdk

scok wcy cjcmh. Mhbkkb, tdk clt ie eirjkttmhj lrkctks tdk bk-

ffihmhj amhk fktwkkh tdk liia lcts wdi clliopamsd c ait mh amek

chb tdk dcrrmkb pkipak wdi crk lihstchtay skt fcln fy tdkmrerkhzmkb cttkopts chb wdi cawcys ekka rusdkb.

DIZ M RVCMHKB O] FVCMH

Mh tdk tdmrb jrcbk, oy tkcldkr, Ors. Lcrasih, tiab tdk lacss

tdct wk dcb ti okoirmzk tdk pachkts ie tdk siacr systko. M

vmvmbay rklcaa dkr mhstrultmhj us ti oivk ti tdk fcln ie tdk

riio, scymhj, ‑Bih”t rkturh ti yiur skcts uhtma yiu dcvk caa

ie tdko okoirmzkb.‟ \dk tdkh cbbkb tdct wk sdiuab tdmhn

cfiut tdk eiaaiwmhj skhtkhlk7 ‑Oy vkry kbulctkb oitdkr gust

skrvkb us hmhk pmzzcs.‟

Ifvmiusay, sdk dcb jmvkh us tdk lauk ti jkttmhj caa ie tdk

pachkts stmtldkb mhti iur frcmhs qumlnay. Mt tiin ok cfiut ffivkomhutks ti okoirmzk tdk amst erio Okrlury ti Pauti (wdmld

tkldhmlcaay ms hi aihjkr c pachkt, fut mt wcs fcln tdkh). Mh tdk

eiurtd jrcbk, oy lacss wcs skht diok wmtd tdk tcsn ie lio-

omttmhj caa ffiety stctks chb tdkmr lcpmtcas ti okoiry. Lihtrcry

ti wdct yiu omjdt tdmhn, M stmaa bmbh”t nhiw diw ti ocnk tdms

kcsy eir oyskae.

M stubmkb caa hmjdt aihj, stcrmhj ct tdk amst ie stctks chb

lcpmtcas7 Fmsocrln Hirtd Bcnitc> Liauofmc \iutd Lcri



: MHRVIB[LRMIH

lcpmtca lmtmks, wdmak itdkrs wkrk gust pacmh dcrb ti rkokofkr,

akt caihk spkaa (Oihtpkamkr, Ukroiht9). M tdiujdt pkrdcps tdk

wirbs wiuab ocjmlcaay okat mhti oy frcmh me M gust jacrkb ct

tdko aihj khiujd.

Oy pcrkhts nkpt liomhj mhti oy riio ykaamhj, ‑Omldcka,

jkt ti fkb carkcby!‟ Fut M wiuabh”t jmvk up.

Rdk hkxt bcy M ekat bkekctkb, tmrkb, chb ivkrwdkaokb. M

bmbh”t dcvk tdk lcpmtcas okoirmzkb, chb trymhj ti pusd caa

tdct mheiroctmih mhti oy frcmh ct ihlk ocbk ok fcrkay cfakti rklcaa chytdmhj ct caa (kxlkpt eir oy iwh stctk”s lcpmtca ie

\prmhjffikab)! Rdchneuaay, oy oitdkr lcok ti tdk rksluk chb

dkapkb ok ti liok up wmtd c sihj tdct wiuab caaiw ok ti

rklcaa caa ie tdk lcpmtcas cllurctkay chb ih tdk spit. Chb mt

wirnkb.

Erio tdct oiokht ih, M nhkw tdct M”b dcvk ti ffihb hit

ihay oy iwh wcys ie rkokofkrmhj mheiroctmih fut casi oy

iwh wcys ie irjchmzmhj chb ffiamhj cwcy mopirtcht bctc. Mt

wcs casi tdkh tdct M fkjch ti rkcaay dihk oy snmaas mh pcttkrh

rklijhmtmih chb ocnk mt ch cbbmltmvk dcfmt. M fklcok cbkpt ct

ffihbmhj dmbbkh libks, eirouacs, chb sdirtluts ti pkreiromhj

qumln octdkoctmls, pacymhj wmtd wirbs mh c bmeekrkht irbkr

ti kxkrlmsk oy omhb, chb ocnmhj up wkmrb chb fmzcrrk sti-rmks ir pikos ti stirk mheiroctmih M”b hkkb ti rklcaa actkr.

Me M wkrk ti csn yiu ti pmlturk c jrkkh cppak mh yiur omhb,

yiu wiuab dcvk carkcby bihk si fy tdk khb ie tdms skhtkhlk.

Rdct”s cfiut diw ecst M lch siavk aits ie liopakx octd kquc-

tmihs. M nhiw‒mt”s c fmt erkcny chb uhfkamkvcfak. Zdkh M pkr-

eiro tdksk ekcts eir amvk cubmkhlks, tdk lriwb cawcys ricrs7

‑Hi wcy. ]iu”vk jit ti fk nmbbmhj ok. Rdct”s hit pissmfak. M

fkt yiu wkrk gust firh tdms wcy!‟ Fut tdkh M dcvk ti tkaa tdko



4 MHRVIB[LRMIH

Zdkh M aiin fcln chb try ti pmhpimht tdk oiokht M rkca-

mzkb tdct eirjkttmhj wcs tdk amhldpmh ti oy frcmh”s lcpclmty, M

nkkp liomhj fcln ti c oiokht erio liaakjk. M wcs smttmhj ih

c fcr stiia wmtd c jriup ie ermkhbs criuhb ok. M csnkb ihk ie

tdko ti jmvk ok c eiur-bmjmt huofkr, wdmld M tdkh squcrkb mh

c octtkr ie sklihbs (k.j., <,;5: tmoks <,;5:), chb M crrmvkb ct

tdk lirrklt chswkr. Ocnmhj tdms lcaluactmih mh oy dkcb msh”t

cfiut fkmhj c ‑duoch lcaluactir,‟ wdmld ms wdct oy fubbmks

amnkb ti scy. Ould ti kvkryihk”s surprmsk, mt”s cfiut nhiwmhjsdirtluts tdct khtcma aits ie eirjkttmhj . Diw si9 Zkaa, wdkh M

pkreiro tdms octd mh oy dkcb usmhj ch catkrhctmvk riutk (hi,

M”o hit amhmhj up tdk huofkrs chb pkreiromhj trcbmtmihca

octd wdkrkfy M lcrry tdk ihk chb brip tdk zkri), M cltucaay

dcvk ti bi c ait ie eirjkttmhj‒usmhj lkrtcmh huofkrs mh oy

stkp-fy-stkp prilkss wdmak M akcvk fkdmhb itdkrs okhtcaay chb

stip pihbkrmhj tdko.

Chitdkr wcy ti tdmhn ie tdms prilkss mh vkry prcltmlca

tkros ms ti lihsmbkr c slkhcrmi wdkrk yiu”rk ldcaakhjkb ti

ji fuy c fcsnkt ie strcwfkrrmks cs ecst cs pissmfak. ]iu fy-

pcss tdk okct chb pclncjkb-eiib skltmih, chb cs yiu khtkr

tdk pribulk skltmih ie yiur supkrocrnkt, yiu bih”t aiin ct

chytdmhj fut tdk bkstmhctmih. ]iu bih”t akt tdk cppaks, ir-chjks, fchchcs, ir pkcrs bmstrclt yiu. ]iu bcsd rmjdt pcst

caa tdk itdkr liaireua erumts chb vkjktcfaks uhtma yiu rkcld

tdk prmzk mh tdk sdirtkst bmstchlk pissmfak. Rdct”s c lrubk

wcy ie kxpacmhmhj wdct M bi mh oy dkcb wdkh M ocnk qumln

lcaluactmihs. M tcnk tdk oist bmrklt riutk ti tdk chswkr chb

M bih”t akt itdkr mhfiuhb tdiujdts mhtkrrupt oy prilkss ir

smbktrcln oy giurhky ti tdk khb rksuat. Mh tdk lcsk ie Nctdy,

tdk wioch M okhtmihkb ct tdk fkjmhhmhj sdk akt tii ochy



=MHRVIB[LRMIH

tdk tmok sdk trmkb ti eilus ih rkca wirn, sdk”b skkh tii ochy

erumts chb vkjktcfaks, si ti spkcn, chb sdk”b akt tii ochy

ie tdksk liaireua mhtkrruptmihs stkca prklmius khkrjy erio

dkr lrkctmvk omhb. Fut me sdk”b nhiwh ti cvimb tdksk omhb-

huofmhj mhtrusmihs fy bibjmhj tdk caaurk ie tdk Mhtkrhkt chb

ouhbchk k-ocmas fkeirk =700 c.o., sdk liuab dcvk crrmvkb ct

wirn rkcby eir cltmih (chb rkcby ti tclnak kvkrytdmhj wmtd

cpaiof). \dk prifcfay wiuab dcvk khgiykb dkr oirhmhj wmtd

dkr ecomay oirk, tii.Vkst cssurkb, M”o hit dkrk ti tkaa yiu wdkh yiu sdiuab

chb sdiuab hit ldkln k-ocma ir sure tdk Mhtkrhkt. M”o hit

jimhj ti tkaa yiu wdct yiu lch chb lchhit bi mh tdms fiin>

tdms msh”t c ‑bmkt.‟ Fut M wmaa jmvk yiu pakhty ie mbkcs eir skt-

tmhj dkcatdy fiuhbcrmks mh yiur bmjmtca amek si yiu prkskrvk

cs ould okhtca khkrjy cs yiu lch tdriujdiut yiur bcy.

Rdct wcy, yiu cawcys dcvk rkskrvks rkcby ti ffirk ih caa lya-

mhbkrs wdkh mopirtcht ti-bis hkkb ti jkt bihk. (Chb uhamnk

oist bmkts, tdksk mbkcs wih”t akcvk yiu ekkamhj bkprmvkb ir

rkstrmltkb!)

Rdk kxkrlmsks iutamhkb mh tdms fiin crk ould oirk tdch

pacy. Zdkh rkskcrldkrs ct Prmhlktih bktkromhkb fcln mh tdk

3=40s tdct M liuab bi tdmhjs wmtd oy omhb tdct oist pkipaklch”t, suld cs ouatmpaymhj fmj huofkrs mh oy dkcb chb rklmtmhj

tdk akttkrs ie aihj wirbs mh capdcfktmlca irbkr wmtdmh sklihbs

(k.j., tcnmhj tdk wirb ‑rcmhfiw‟ chb spkaamhj mt cs eiaaiws7

cfmihrw), tdky wkrk stuhhkb ti akcrh tdct M wcs tdk ihay skae-

tcujdt pkrsih mh tdkmr stuby. Mt”s jkhkrcaay cllkptkb tdct kmtdkr

yiu”rk firh wmtd c frcmh amnk omhk ir ch ‑cllmbkht,‟ suld cs

c skmzurk ir lihlussmih, lrclns ipkhs prkvmiusay mhcllkssmfak

crkcs ie yiur frcmh ti uhakcsd mts euaa piwkr M”o amvmhj priie



30 MHRVIB[LRMIH

mts pitkhtmca. Chb hiw ochy ie oy stubkhts crk casi amvmhj

priie. M dipk tdct‒vkry siih‒yiu wmaa fk, tii.

DIZ RI [\K RDM\ FIIN

Rdk fiin ms irjchmzkb mhti twi pcrts. Rdk ffirst pcrt, ‑Rdk

Piwkr ie Eirjkttmhj,‟ wmaa skt tdk eiuhbctmih eir yiur giur-

hky. Mt wmaa tcnk yiu ih c qumln tiur ie diw mjhirmhj lkrtcmh

mheiroctmih ct tdk rmjdt tmok wdmak lihtmhumhj ti tdmhn chblihlkhtrctk pacys mhti okoiry chb c dmjd-euhltmihmhj frcmh.

Pcrt 3 wmaa casi dkap yiu rklijhmzk pcttkrhs mh wirbs

chb huofkrs tdct wmaa dkap yiu bmstmhjumsd fktwkkh wdct”s

mopirtcht chb wdct”s mrrkakvcht. Rdms wmaa uatmoctkay dkap

yiu ti strkcoamhk yiur frcmh”s cfmamty ti irjchmzk, eilus, chb

prifako-siavk qumlnay (cs wkaa cs clk tdk hkxt pcrt ie tdk

fiin).

Mh pcrt 6, ‑Ocstkrmhj tdk \mx \nmaas ie c Pribultmvk

Rdmhnkr,‟ M”aa sdcrk tdk smx vmtcaay mopirtcht akcrhmhj snmaas

tdct crk rcrkay tcujdt mh eiroca kbulctmih chb crk ksskhtmca

eir uhakcsdmhj yiur euaa pitkhtmca7 eilus, lihlkhtrctmih, bctc

rktkhtmih, tdmhnmhj iutsmbk tdk fix, irjchmzctmih, chb eir-

jkttmhj. Oy dipk ms tdct yiu”aa ekka amnk yiu crk ih c jumbkbkxpkbmtmih7 ]iu”aa akcrh cs ould erio tdk hcrrctmvk cs yiu

wmaa erio tdk cltmvmtmks chb kxkrlmsks. Kvkry ldcptkr mhlaubks

mhbmspkhscfak mheiroctmih eir chyihk‒wdktdkr yiu”rk cfiut

ti khtkr tdk sldiiariio ir tdk ficrbriio. ]iu”aa bmslivkr7

• Diw ti stmouactk chb iptmomzk tdk frcmh”s hcturca lcpcl-

mty eir ouatmtcsnmhj (bkspmtk tdk lihvkhtmihca vmkw tdct

mt”s mopissmfak) si tdct ouatmtcsnmhj tcnks ih c amek ie mts



33MHRVIB[LRMIH

• Diw ti khamst yiur mocjmhctmih mh tdk tcsn ie okoiry

fumabmhj, wdmld wmaa uhailn ch mhffihmtk lcpclmty ti rktcmh

vmtca mheiroctmih

• Diw ti irjchmzk yiur rclmhj tdiujdts chb mbkcs ti spur

lrkctmvmty chb fkliok c pribultmvk tdmhnkr

• Diw ti spit pcttkrhs wmtd yiur kyks kvkh me yiu bih”t

tdmhn yiu”rk c vmsuca pkrsih, wdmld ms nky ti lihtmhucaay

rkoivmhj frcmh lauttkr chb prkskrvmhj tdk okhtca khkrjy

yiur frcmh hkkbs ti ruh keffilmkhtay• Diw ti lctcaij chb ochcjk ch ivkrwdkaomhj strkco ie

mheiroctmih si yiu lch bmstmhjumsd fktwkkh wdct”s mo-

pirtcht chb wdct”s hit

• Diw ti cutioctmlcaay cvkrt bmstrcltmihs chb fk cfak ti

eilus chb lihlkhtrctk ct c oiokht”s hitmlk

• Keeirtakss wcys ti qumlnay rkokofkr hcoks, eclks, tkak-

pdihk huofkrs, sldkbuaks, eclts, chb itdkr pmklks ie

mheiroctmih tdct wmaa ocnk yiu stchb iut‒erio tdk

ficrbriio ti c hktwirnmhj kvkht

• Chb ould oirk . . .

M”vk lrkctkb c omx ie kxkrlmsks mh tdms fiin, erio kcsy ti

vkry bmeffiluat, chb M biuft tdct tdky wmaa caa cppkca ti kvkry-ihk.

\i me yiu ffihb yiurskae trymhj ti liopaktk c frcmh wirn-

iut tdct erustrctks yiu ir brmvks yiu lrczy (chb ocnks yiu

wcht ti dura tdk fiin clriss tdk riio), bih”t fkct yiurskae

up. \nmppmhj c ekw ie tdk kxkrlmsks wih”t fk tdk khb ie tdk

wirab. ]iu”aa stmaa jcmh c trkokhbius coiuht ie nhiwakbjk

chb socrts smopay fy rkcbmhj chb trymhj yiur fkst.

Rdct scmb akt ok rkomhb yiu tdct mh siok lcsks c dcrb



36 MHRVIB[LRMIH

crkc mh yiur amek, si stmlnmhj wmtd tdksk dcroakss, aiw-stcnks

kxkrlmsks kvkh me tdky”rk erustrctmhj ct ffirst omjdt dkap yiu

ivkrliok ch ifstclak tdct yiu bmbh”t nhiw wcs nkkpmhj

yiu erio jrkct sullkss. Kvkh tdiujd M”aa fk sdiwmhj yiu diw

ti lihbult siok wmab octd mh yiur dkcb, suld cs squcrmhj

c eiur-bmjmt huofkr mhstchtay, tdksk kxkrlmsks crk bksmjhkb

ti wirn yiur frcmh mh tdk vkry wcys tdct dkap yiu ti kx-

pchb yiur ivkrcaa frcmhpiwkr. Chb M”o tcanmhj hit gust

cfiut octdkoctmlcaay mhlamhkb frcmhpiwkr fut cfiut caanmhbs ie okhtca clumtmks tdct caaiw yiu ti rktcmh ocssmvk

coiuhts ie mheiroctmih, fk sdcrpkr chb qumlnkr ct wirn

chb oirk khjcjkb ct diok, ocxmomzk yiur lrkctmvmty, chb

ocmhtcmh c skhsk ie lakcrdkcbkbhkss. Ifvmiusay, M bih”t

wcht yiu ti tdriw tdms fiin clriss tdk riio wdkh yiu kh-

liuhtkr c wcaa mh siavmhj chy ie oy prifakos, fut tcnk hitk

wdkh yiu mh eclt bi liok clriss c pcrtmluacray bmeffiluat kx-

krlmsk. Rdms ms amnkay c smjh ie wdkrk yiu lch wirn dcrbkr chb

‑spit-trkct‟ ch crkc mh yiur frcmh tdct hkkbs cttkhtmih chb

strkhjtdkhmhj. Kvkrytdmhj cfiut yiur frcmh wmaa fkhkffit

wdkh yiu bi si.

Oy prijrco lch dkap chyihk‒chyihk wdi trmks, tdct ms.

Cs M”aa rkmtkrctk tdriujdiut tdk fiin, tdk akssihs chb strctk-jmks prkskhtkb dkrk wirn fkst me yiu ffihb wcys ti cppay tdko

ti yiur iwh amek.

Me c lkrtcmh tkldhmquk biksh”t wirn eir yiu cetkr yiu”vk

trmkb mt c ekw tmoks, tdkh buop mt erio yiur pkrsihca tiia-

fix. Oivk ih ti chitdkr, oirk keekltmvk oktdib tdct wmaa

dkap yiu ti ‑eirjkt.‟

Nkkp mh omhb tdct me yiu lchhit skko ti jkt tdk rmjdt

chswkr ti c lkrtcmh kxkrlmsk tdct biksh”t okch mt”s hit wirn



3<MHRVIB[LRMIH

fk prcltmlkb chb akcrhkb. Fcln burmhj yiur ykcrs ie eiroca

kbulctmih, oy fkt ms yiu wkrk ould oirk wmaamhj ti cllkpt

sktfclns cs pcrt ie tdk akcrhmhj prilkss chb ti gust nkkp try-

mhj. Cs cbuats, diwkvkr, wk tkhb ti fk oirk mopctmkht. Zk

wcht qumln rksuats. Zk”rk mhlamhkb ti cvimb wdct ms bmeffiluat

ir wdct wk bih”t tdmhn wk”rk jiib ct chb mhstkcb spkhb iur

tmok ih wdct lioks kcsmay chb keeirtakssay. Oist ie us mh tdk

cbuat wirab dcvkh”t fkkh mh c trcbmtmihca akcrhmhj skttmhj eir

c aihj tmok.Jmvk yiurskae pkromssmih ti ecma c ekw tmoks. Prktkhb

yiu”rk trymhj ti jkt ih c fmlylak eir tdk ffirst tmok. Kvkhtu-

caay, tdksk snmaas wmaa fkliok pcrt ie yiur bcmay dcfmts‒chb

yiu wih”t kvkh nhiw mt, fut yiu”aa kxpkrmkhlk tdk trkokhbius

pismtmvk iutlioks ie caaiwmhj yiurskae ti akcrh sioktdmhj

hkw tdct bmb hit liok kcsmay.

Cs stubkhts ie amek, wk crk hkvkr rkcaay bihk wmtd akcrh-

mhj. Zk crk liherihtkb wmtd hkw mheiroctmih bcmay, mhlrkcs-

mhjay si mh iur oibkrh bmjmtca cjk. M dipk yiu wmaa rkturh

ti tdms fiin ti rkomhb yiurskae ie lkrtcmh strctkjmks chb ti

rkerksd yiur eirjkttmhj snmaas. Dcvmhj tdk tiias ti hcvmjctk

tdriujd tdk mhstux ie bctc wk khliuhtkr‒chb eirjkt wdct”s

hit mopirtcht‒mhlrkcsks iur ldchlks eir sullkss. Zdktdkryiu”rk c pcrkht, c tkcldkr, c stubkht, ch kxklutmvk, ir smopay

ch ‑cvkrcjk‟ pkrsih dipmhj ti khdchlk tdk spkkb, keekltmvk-

hkss, chb ivkrcaa dkcatd ie yiur omhb, tdms fiin wmaa kqump

yiu wmtd c skt ie snmaas tdct wmaa rkturh ouatmpak fkhkffits ti

yiu mh tdk euturk.

Chb tdct euturk lch fk cs kcray cs tibcy.

\i turh tdk pcjk chb akt”s stcrt wmtd c qumln qumz ti jcujk

gust diw jiib yiur cfmamty ti rkokofkr tdmhjs ms hiw Ecmr



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sdcrk wmtd aits ie cubmkhlks, fut fy tdk khb ie tdk fiin yiu”aa

fk cfak ti pcss mt wmtd stymhj liairs.

PIP S[MW7 DIZ ZKAA LCH ]I[ VKRCMH MHEIVOCRMIH,VKOKOFKV, CHB EIVJKR 9

Akt”s try c amttak kxpkrmokht. M wcht yiu ti rkcb tdk eiaaiw-

mhj amst ie tkh mtkos ti yiurskae ihlk‒gust ihlk. Mt sdiuab

tcnk yiu hi oirk tdch ffietkkh sklihbs. (Mbkcaay, tdms kxkrlmsksdiuabh”t fk bihk mh c fiin, fklcusk tdkrk”s tii ould riio

eir ldkctmhj> si pakcsk eiaaiw bmrkltmihs dkrk. Cdko!) Cetkr

yiu”vk aiinkb tdriujd tdk amst, M wcht yiu ti turh cwcy erio

tdk fiin, tcnk c twi-omhutk frkcn, chb tdkh liok fcln chb

skk diw ochy ie tdisk mtkos yiu lch wrmtk biwh ih c pmklk

ie pcpkr. Incy, rkcby9 Dkrk”s tdk amst7

smavkr trcy

smx lrystca jacssks

fcr ie sicp

fchchc

ldiliactk pubbmhj

acuhbry bktkrjkhtbkhtca stiss

aice ie frkcb

rkb risk

tiocti

Zdkh yiu liok fcln ti tdk fiin, bih”t akt yiur kyks skk

chy ie tdk wirbs cjcmh. Bi wdct yiu lch ti wrmtk tdko caa

biwh jmvmhj yiurskae gust dcae c omhutk ti bi si Diw ochy



3;MHRVIB[LRMIH

mt cppkcrs ct ffirst, chb M”aa ocnk yiu ekka fkttkr fy scymhj tdct

mt”s hkcray mopissmfak ti rkokofkr caa tkh mtkos me yiu bih”t

kopaiy siok strctkjy (cs M qumlnay rkcamzkb wdkh M ffirst dkcrb

tdms amst ct c lilntcma pcrty aihj cji). \i bih”t ekka stupmb me

yiu bmbh”t liok laisk ti wrmtmhj biwh caa tkh. Chb me yiu bmb,

tdkh bmb yiu jkt tdko caa mh tdk irmjmhca irbkr9 Hiw, tdct”s

ch cbbkb ldcaakhjk!

Oist pkipak jkt cfiut dcae ie tdk wirbs. Me yiu rklcaakb

ct akcst skvkh, yiu”rk wcy cfivk cvkrcjk. Fut me yiu nhkw tdksklrkt dkrk, yiu liuab dcvk slirkb c pkreklt tkh.

Actkr mh tdk fiin, M”aa tkcld yiu diw ti rkokofkr amsts

ie mtkos kcsmay wmtdiut ritk okoirmzctmih. Mh bimhj si, yiu”aa

fk ‑eirjkttmhj‟ tdk cltuca wirbs ih tdk amst chb rkokofkr-

mhj sioktdmhj kask cfiut tdko tdct mhstchtay lioomts tdko

ti okoiry.



LDCPRKV 3

Rdk Ksskhlk ie cPribultmvk Rdmhnkr

Diw Mt ”s Pissmfak t i Bkvkaip c Lakcr,Sumln Omhb Vkjcrbakss i e MS

Zk hiw cllkpt tdk eclt tdct akcrhmhj ms c amekaihj prilkss

ie nkkpmhj cfrkcst ie ldchjk. Chb tdk oist prkssmhj

tcsn ms ti tkcld pkipak diw ti akcrh.

‒PKRKV BV[LNKV

Rcnk c oiokht ti mocjmhk wdct mt wiuab fk amnk ti ffih-msd prigklts ih tmok, nkkp trcln ie ti-bis wmtdiut wcnmhj

ct <700 c.o. strkssmhj ivkr kvkrytdmhj tdct”s ih yiur pactk,

qumlnay ffihb stuee tdct yiu omspaclk, ochcjk tmok amnk c pri,

stcy ih tcsn hi octtkr diw ochy bmstrcltmihs rusd mhti yiur

dkcb, chb khgiy ochy oiokhts ie titca rkacxctmih. Hiw, M

bih”t nhiw cfiut yiu, fut M”b lcaa siokihk wdi lch bi tdms c

pribultmvk tdmhnkr. Mt”s tdk pkrsih wdi skkos ti dcvk kvkry-

tdmhj uhbkr lihtria bkspmtk tdk erkhzy ie oibkrh amek chb



OMNK F]\RKV60

mh ldkln chb clliopamsdmhj wdct octtkrs. Mt”s siokihk wdi

rcrkay skkos ti fk ivkrwdkaokb ykt ochcjks ti liopaktk ch

khiroius huofkr ie prigklts. Chb mt”s tdk mhbmvmbuca wdi

usks dms ir dkr frcmh ti mts dmjdkst, oist keffilmkht lcpclmty.

Rdk cvkrcjk wirnkr tibcy wcstks cfiut tdrkk diurs pkr

kmjdt-diur wirnbcy, hit mhlaubmhj auhld chb sldkbuakb frkcn

tmok. Hit surprmsmhjay, tdk Mhtkrhkt mhtkrekrks tdk oist wmtd

iur cfmamty ti stcy eiluskb, eiaaiwkb fy liwirnkrs, silmca-

mzmhj, chb gust pacmh iab spclmhj iut. Catdiujd duochs dcvkcawcys wkctdkrkb dcrbsdmps chb tcnkh ih khiroius huo-

fkrs ie rkspihsmfmamtmks tdriujd tdk cjks, M tdmhn mt”s ecmr ti

scy tdct tibcy”s dmjd-tkld wirab prkskhts uhmquk ldcaakhjks

ti iur frcmhs, wdmld gust dcvkh”t dcb tdk auxury ie tmok ti

kviavk ti okkt tdko. Rdk coiuht ie mheiroctmih tdct wk try

ti prilkss ms cstrihiomlca, chb tdms ms c rklkht pdkhiokhih.

Gust lihsmbkr tdk bmeekrkhlk fktwkkh diw ould mheiroctmih

yiu bkcat wmtd bcmay fkeirk yiu dcb k-ocma (chb c lkaa pdihk)

chb tdk viauok yiu sdiuabkr hiw. Cbb ti tdct tdk huofkr ie

tkldhiaijmks ct iur ffihjkrtmps chb mt”s kcsy ti skk wdy ochy

ie us crk aclnmhj mh eiluskb cttkhtmih. Chb wdmak mt”s hmlk ti

tdmhn tdct wk lch lrkctk fkttkr dcfmts criuhb amomtmhj tdisk

lihstcht bmstrcltmihs, akt”s eclk mt7 Mt”s c dcrb tdmhj ti bi.M dcvk c ermkhb wdi nkkps c acrjk wctkr fittak ih dkr bksn

cs c rkomhbkr ti dkrskae cfiut diw ould khkrjy sdk dcs aket

ti jkt tdriujd dkr bcy. \dk skks tdk fittak cs c syofia ie c

amomtkb suppay, chb cs sdk brmhns tdk wctkr tdriujdiut tdk

bcy mt”s kofakoctml ie uskb frcmhpiwkr. \dk lch”t jkt tdriujd

dcae ie mt fkeirk hiih ir sdk”aa ruh iut ie jcs fkeirk tdk bcy

ms ivkr. \dk dcs ti caailctk dkr rksiurlks wmskay ti bkca wmtd

caa tdct”s ih dkr pactk chb scvk riio eir uhkxpkltkb rkspih



63RDK PIZKV IE EIVJKRRMHJ

chcaijy, fklcusk oy ermkhb wmaa brmhn ti dkr dkcrt”s bksmrk me

sdk”s tdmrsty. Fut wdkh sdk kxpacmhkb ti ok diw sdk caailctks

dkr khkrjy tdriujdiut tdk bcy wmtd tdk dkap ie dkr trusty

wctkr fittak ih bmspacy cs ch kxcopak, mt ocbk pkreklt skhsk

ti ok. Dkr frcmh lch kcsmay dchbak tdk <2 jmjcfytks ie bcmay

bctc.

Me yiu”rk amnk oist pkipak, tdk mbkc ie fkmhj c pribultmvk

tdmhnkr ms ch khtmlmhj ihk. Zk caa wmsd eir tdms lcpcfmamty ykt

ekka mhlrkcsmhjay ldcaakhjkb fy tdk rkcamtmks ie oibkrh amek. Mbih”t nhiw chyihk wdi biksh”t ekka ivkrwdkaokb fy mheir-

octmih, strksskb ti tdk ocx, chb pdysmlcaay chb koitmihcaay

kxdcustkb ct akcst ihlk burmhj c ‑hiroca‟ wkkn. Fut wdct me

yiu liuab luatmvctk tdk dcfmts ie c pribultmvk tdmhnkr kcsmay

chb qumlnay chb brcoctmlcaay aiwkr yiur ldchlks ie ekkamhj

furmkb fy yiur rkspihsmfmamtmks9 Ms tdms pissmfak9 M”o jimhj ti

privk ti yiu mh tdms ldcptkr tdct tdms ms mhbkkb cldmkvcfak,

skttmhj tdk jriuhbwirn eir wdct”s ti liok mh yiur giurhky ti

fkliomhj tdk socrtkst, sdcrpkst frcmh mh tdk riio.

RDK ECLR\ IE FVCMH OCRRKV

Pribultmvk tdmhnkrs crk caa criuhb yiu. Me wk bmbh”t dcvk pri-bultmvk tdmhnkrs mh tdk wirab, wk”b fk mh skrmius triufak wdkh

mt lioks ti mhhivctmih chb gust pacmh jkttmhj tdmhjs bihk.

Chb yiu bih”t dcvk ti fk c LKI ie c Eirtuhk ;00 liopchy

ti qucamey cs siokihk wdi dcs ch coczmhj cfmamty ti cllio-

pamsd c ait chb ocnk kxlkaakht bklmsmihs ct c oiokht”s hitmlk.

Pribultmvk tdmhnkrs mhdcfmt kvkry eclkt ie iur wirab, erio

tdk lirpirctk ihk ti tdk diok eriht, wdkrk tdky tcnk ldcrjk

chb nkkp tdk privkrfmca trcmhs ruhhmhj ih tmok Rdky crk tdk



OMNK F]\RKV66

pchmks cs ould cs tdky crk tdk eirlk fkdmhb wkaa-ruh ecomamks

tdct khgiy oirk dkcatd chb dcppmhkss tdch cvkrcjk.

\ilmkty dcs rkamkb ih pribultmvk tdmhnkrs eir omaakhhmc,

fut M”o jimhj ti jukss tdct yiu carkcby nhkw tdct. ]iu gust

wcht ti nhiw diw ti luatmvctk yiur mhhkr ‑PR.‟ Fut fkeirk M

jkt ti diw kxcltay yiu”aa bi tdct, akt”s stcrt wmtd siok fcsml

eclts cfiut cttkhtmih, pribultmvmty, chb tdk luaturk ie bms-

trcltmih.

C R R K H R M IH M \ C E M HM R K V K \I[VL K

Rdkrk”s c rkcsih tdky lcaa mt ‑cttkhtmih-bkffilmt‟ bmsirbkr.

Zdkh tdkrk”s c sdirtcjk ie chytdmhj, tdct jkhkrcaay okchs

khbakss suppamks ie tdct pcrtmluacr tdmhj gust bih”t kxmst. Chb

tdms ms lkrtcmhay truk wdkh mt lioks ti okhtca cttkhtmih. Mh

eclt, tdms ms truk eir gust cfiut kvkry fmiaijmlca trchscltmih

wk eirlk iur fibmks ti ocnk. Ihk lch ihay ruh si ecst si ecr,

sakkp eir si aihj, furh si ochy lcairmks pkr diur, chb tdmhn

mhtkhtay ih c smhjak sufgklt eir si ochy omhutks ir diurs.

Zdktdkr yiu”rk trymhj ti liopaktk c ocrctdih ir cfsirf Aki

Riastiy”s Zcr chb Pkclk mh c smttmhj, yiu dcvk c amomtkb sup-

pay ie pdysmlca rksiurlks ti liopaktk tdk tcsn‒ihay si ouldjaulisk chb itdkr oktcfiaml sufstchlks ti jkt yiu tdriujd ti

tdk ffihmsd amhk. Mt”s wkaa biluokhtkb tdct wdkh yiu pkreiro

c tcsn tdct rkqumrks eilus chb cttkhtmih, tdk hkxt tcsn mook-

bmctkay eiaaiwmhj lchhit pissmfay fk bihk cs keekltmvkay, smhlk

ekwkr rksiurlks crk cvcmacfak. Ie liursk, bmeekrkht tcsns bk-

ochb bmeekrkht akvkas ie eilus chb cttkhtmih. Rcnmhj tdk trcsd

iut ms ihk tdmhj, fut khjcjmhj mh dmjd-khkrjy uhbkrtcnmhjs‒

kspklmcaay tdisk tdct khtcma lihlkhtrctmih lrmtmlca tdmhnmhj



6<RDK PIZKV IE EIVJKRRMHJ

tca chb/ir pdysmlca kxkrtmih‒ms chitdkr tdmhj. Chb bmstrcl-

tmihs lch rkcaay tcnk tdkmr tiaa wdkh bkochbmhj ldirks crk

mh pacy.

B M \ R V CL R M I H\ \ R K C A OIV K RD CH P V K L M I[\ R MO K

Diw ochy sklihbs ir omhutks bi yiu tdmhn mt tcnks ti rkturh

ti c tcsn tdct jit mhtkrruptkb9 Rwkhty-ffivk omhutks. Rdct”s cl-

lirbmhj ti c stuby pufamsdkb mh 600;, wdmld casi eiuhb tdctih cvkrcjk pkipak spkhb c slcht kakvkh omhutks ih c prigklt

fkeirk jkttmhj puaakb cwcy. Rmok ms coihj tdk oist prklmius

liooibmtmks tibcy. Zk caa hkkb oirk ie mt. Cs ihk Hkw ]irn

Rmoks giurhcamst put mt mh ch crtmlak suoocrmzmhj tdk actkst mh

tdk slmkhlk ie mhtkrruptmihs (chb mhbkkb, tdkrk ms suld c tdmhj),

‑Mheiroctmih ms hi aihjkr c slcrlk rksiurlk‒cttkhtmih ms.‟

Me bmstrcltmihs wkrkh”t si tmrmhj, tdkh tdky prifcfay wiuabh”t

fk si tkrrmfak. Fut bmstrcltmihs kct up tmok hit gust burmhj tdk

bmstrcltmih mtskae fut casi cetkrwcrb, wdkh yiu”rk trymhj ti jkt

fcln ti wdct yiu wkrk irmjmhcaay bimhj. Zdkh yiu sdmet yiur

eilus erio ihk tcsn ti chitdkr (ir gust okhtcaay ocnk c sdmet

mh tdmhnmhj, eir kxcopak, subbkhay turhmhj yiur cttkhtmih

erio c prigklt ct wirn ti wkknkhb pachs), yiur pribultmvktdmhnmhj tmok sdrmhns. Caa tdk wdmak yiu”rk aismhj fmiaijmlca

cooi mh tdk eiro ie jaulisk ti sustcmh yiur cttkhtmih, rk-

livkr erio bmstrcltmihs, fk lrkctmvk, tcp okoiry, uhbkrstchb

hkw mheiroctmih, chb tclnak tdk hkxt tcsn ct dchb.

RDK D[OCH FV C M H AIU K\ RI ZCHBKVBmstrcltmihs crk cppkcamhj eir c rkcsih7 Rdk frcmh aivks



OMNK F]\RKV62

wdkrk prifcfay dcb survmvca vcauk aihj cji, wdkh wk dcb ti

kslcpk tdk duhjry gcws ie c prkymhj tmjkr ir ruh cwcy erio

c amek-tdrkctmhj eik. Fut tibcy tdisk bchjkrs crk ekw chb ecr

fktwkkh. Zk crk oirk amnkay ti vmltmomzk chb dchbmlcp iur

frcmhs wmtd okchmhjakss mhtkrruptmihs tdct dcvk hitdmhj ti

bi wmtd iur survmvca. Zk crk casi mhlrkcsmhjay ct tdk okrly

ie iur mhtkrhca bmcaijuk‒tdk pcrt ie us tdct spkcns ti us

caa bcy chb tdct siok dcvk lcaakb tdk ‑oihnky omhb.‟ Rdk

frcmh, cetkr caa, wirns caa tdk tmok, kvkh burmhj sakkp.Mh 6005, OMR hkurislmkhtmsts Rrky Dkbbkh chb Gidh Jc-

frmkam dkapkb put tdms mhti pkrspkltmvk wdkh tdky stubmkb wdct

dcppkhs mh tdk frcmh wdkh pkipak crk bmstrcltkb fy mhtkr-

hca tdiujdts wdmak bimhj bmeffiluat tcsns. Cs Br. Bcvmb Viln,

tdk cutdir ie ]iur Frcmh ct Zirn, rkpirtkb eir Psyldiaijy

Ribcy, ‑Rdky eiuhb tdct acpsks mh cttkhtmih mopcmr pkreir-

ochlk, mhbkpkhbkht ie wdct tdk tcsn ms, chb tdct tdksk acpsks

mh cttkhtmih mhviavk cltmvctmhj tdk okbmca prkerihtca lirtkx.

Rdk okbmca prkerihtca lirtkx ms ailctkb wmtdmh tdk prkerihtca

lirtkx mtskae, criuhb tdk ombbak ie yiur eirkdkcb. Mt cltmvctks

wdkh yiu tdmhn cfiut yiurskae chb itdkr pkipak. Rdms rkjmih

ie tdk frcmh ms casi pcrt ie wdct ms lcaakb tdk —bkecuat” hkt-

wirn. Rdms hktwirn fklioks cltmvk wdkh yiu crk hit bimhjould ct caa, suld cs fkmhj mh fktwkkh cltmvmtmks wdmak mh c

slchhkr.‟ Put smopay, dk lihlaubks, ‑wdkh yiu aisk kxtkrhca

eilus, tdms bkecuat frcmh hktwirn cltmvctks chb yiur cttkhtmih

jiks ti oirk mhtkrhca smjhcas, suld cs fkmhj oirk cwcrk ie

sioktdmhj tdct ocy fk fitdkrmhj yiu.‟

\i wk”vk jit twi fcsnkts ie pitkhtmca bmstrcltmihs

ti lihtkhb wmtd caa bcy7 tdisk tdct crmsk erio iur iutsmbk

wirab vmc tdk Mhtkrhkt liaakcjuks kokrjkhlmks chb fcrn



6;RDK PIZKV IE EIVJKRRMHJ

smakht ldcttkr wk dkcr mh iur dkcbs tdct aurks us mh caa bmeekr-

kht okhtca bmrkltmihs.

B M E E K V K H R F V C M H V K J M IH\ V [ A K B M \ R V CL R M I H\ C HB

LIHLKHRVC R M IH

Rdk pcrt ie tdk frcmh tdct nkkps us cakrt chb cfak ti bkca

wmtd c bmstrcltmih ms hit tdk scok pcrt ie tdk frcmh wdkrk wk

lihlkhtrctk. Mh itdkr wirbs, wdkh yiu akcrh diw ti brmvk clcr mh c lacssriio skttmhj chb stuby c fiin ih tdk ruaks ie

tdk ricb, yiur frcmh ms utmamzmhj ch khtmrkay bmeekrkht rkjmih

erio tdk ihk yiu usk wdkh yiu”rk cltucaay fkdmhb tdk wdkka

chb cvimbmhj ch cllmbkht. Vkskcrld mh gust tdk acst bklcbk

dcs sdiwh tdct iur cfmamty ti wmaaeuaay eilus iur cttkhtmih ms

pdysmlcaay skpcrctk mh tdk frcmh erio iur cfmamty ti bkca wmtd

bmstrcltmhj tdmhjs vymhj eir iur cttkhtmih.

Kcra Omaakr, c hkurislmkhtmst ct OMR wdi akb c 600: stuby

pufamsdkb mh tdk giurhca \lmkhlk, wcs coihj tdk ffirst slmkh-

tmsts ti bmslivkr tdct wmaaeua lihlkhtrctmih chb uhmhtkhtmihca

cttkhtmih (m.k., dcvmhj ti cvkrt ihk”s cttkhtmih ti ch ifvmius,

kyk-jrcffmhj bmstrcltmih) crk hit ihk chb tdk scok chb crk

hit lihtriaakb fy tdk scok rkjmih ie tdk frcmh. Cs fkcutmeuaaybkslrmfkb fy Acurch Hkkrjccrb eir tdk Cssilmctkb Prkss wdkh

sdk rkpirtkb ih Omaakr”s stuby, ‑Rdkrk crk twi ocmh wcys tdk

frcmh pcys cttkhtmih7 —tip biwh” ir wmaaeua, jica-irmkhtkb ct-

tkhtmih, suld cs wdkh yiu eilus ti rkcb, chb —fittio-up”

ir rkstkxmvk cttkhtmih ti skhsiry mheiroctmih‒aiub himsks

ir frmjdt liairs ir tdrkctkhmhj chmocas. Amnkwmsk, tdkrk crk

bmeekrkht bkjrkks ie cttkhtmih bmsirbkrs. \iok pkipak dcvk c

dcrbkr tmok eilusmhj wdmak itdkrs dcvk c dcrbkr tmok ffiatkr



OMNK F]\RKV65

Omaakr pkreirokb dms stuby ih oihnkys usmhj pcmhakss

kakltribks ti kxcomhk diw tdksk twi nky crkcs wirnkb ti-

jktdkr wdkh tdk frcmh wcs prksskb ti pcy cttkhtmih. Rrcmhkb

mh tcnmhj cttkhtmih tksts ih vmbki slrkkhs, tdk oihnkys wkrk

eirlkb ti catkrhctkay lihlkhtrctk chb bkca wmtd bmstrcltmihs.

Okchwdmak, Omaakr chb dms tkco liuab bklmpdkr wdmld crkcs

ie tdk frcmh wkrk amjdtmhj up bkpkhbmhj ih wdct tdk oihnkys

wkrk trymhj ti bi. Zdkh tdk oihnkys viauhtcrmay lihlkh-

trctkb (scy, fy pmlnmhj iut c aket-akchmhj rkb rkltchjak erio cffikab ie rkb rkltchjaks), Omaakr hitmlkb tdct tdkmr frcmhs” lkh-

tkr eir kxklutmvk euhltmih wcs mh ldcrjk. Rdms ms tdk ‑dmjdkr

irbkr‟ crkc ie tdk frcmh, wdmld dchbaks cbvchlkb okhtca

prilkssks. Zk usk iur kxklutmvk euhltmih ti pkreiro cltmvm-

tmks suld cs pachhmhj, irjchmzmhj, strctkjmzmhj, pcymhj cttkh-

tmih ti chb rkokofkrmhj bktcmas, chb ochcjmhj tmok chb

spclk‒cltmvmtmks tdct ldcrcltkrmzk sipdmstmlctkb tdmhnmhj

skkh ihay mh prmoctks. Fut wdkh sioktdmhj jrcffkb tdk oih-

nkys” cttkhtmih, tdkmr frcmhs fkjch smjhcamhj erio chitdkr

crkc eiuhb ct tdk fcln lcaakb tdk pcrmktca lirtkx. Chb tdkh

Omaakr ifskrvkb kakltrmlca cltmvmty mh fitd ie tdksk crkcs rksi-

hctmhj tijktdkr cs tdky lioouhmlctkb. Fut tdkmr mhbmvmbuca

erkqukhlmks wkrk hit tdk scok, sujjkstmhj tdct tdk ‑viauok‟ie kcld smjhca wcs bmeekrkht. Mt turhs iut tdct sustcmhmhj eilus

chb lihlkhtrctmih khtcmas aiwkr-erkqukhly hkurihca cltmvmty,

wdkrkcs subbkh bmstrcltmihs mhviavk dmjdkr erkqukhlmks. Cl-

lirbmhj ti Bkfrc Fcfliln, c hkuriaijmst ct tdk Hctmihca Mh-

stmtutks ie Dkcatd, Omaakr”s stuby ieekrkb iur ffirst aiin mhti

diw tdksk pdysmlcaay bmstmhlt rkjmihs ie tdk frcmh mhtkrclt ti

jivkrh iur cttkhtmih, ir ct akcst pcrt ie mt.

Zdkh wk ziio iut ti lihhklt siok bits dkrk mt”s kcsy



6: RDK PIZKV IE EIVJKRRMHJ

ie iur cttkhtmih. Cetkr caa, rkstkxmvk cttkhtmih‒rkcltmhj ti c

ldcrjmhj fuaa, eir mhstchlk‒ms c prmomtmvk survmvca tiia. Fut

tdk cfmamty ti lihlkhtrctk eir chy akhjtd ie tmok ms c ould

oirk cbvchlkb snmaa. Mh Omaakr”s wirbs7 ‑Me sioktdmhj akcps

iut ie tdk fusd ct ok, tdct”s jimhj ti fk rkcaay mopirtcht chb

M dcvk ti rkclt ti mt rmjdt cwcy. ]iur frcmh ms kqumppkb ti

hitmlk tdmhjs scamkht mh tdk khvmrihokht. Mt tcnks c truay mhtka-

amjkht lrkcturk ti nhiw wdct”s mopirtcht chb eilus.‟

Rdk kxclt okldchmls ie diw iur frcmhs ocnk shcp gubj-okhts ti bmstmhjumsd fktwkkh truay amek-tdrkctkhmhj bmstrcl-

tmihs chb gust pacmh humschlks ms c pipuacr crkc ie stuby

tibcy. Zdkh tdk iab pcrmktca pcrt ie iur frcmh mbkhtmffiks ch

cttkhtmih jrcffkr, diw biks mt ffijurk iut wdct sdiuab fk mj-

hirkb chb wdct”s mopirtcht khiujd ti eilus ih chb mhvmtk

itdkr, oirk cbvchlkb rkjmihs ie tdk frcmh ti ldmok mh cfiut9

Zk bih”t dcvk caa tdk chswkrs ykt, fut ihk tdmhj ms lkrtcmh7

Zk crk mhhctkay kqumppkb ti dchbak fitd mhlihvkhmkht mh-

tkrekrkhlks chb dmjd-lihlkpt mbkcs tdct rkqumrk dmjd-akvka

tdmhnmhj, ietkh ct tdk scok tmok. Chb tdct, oy ermkhbs, ms

prifcfay wdct ocnks duochs si uhmquk chb mhbkkb mhtka-

amjkht. Mt”s casi wdct lch lrkctk ldcis mh iur frcmhs wdkh

wk”rk trymhj ti prilkss c lihstukhlk ie mbkcs smouatchkiusay.Lihbultmhj fitd dmjd- chb aiw-akvka tdmhnmhj ct tdk scok

tmok lch jkhkrctk c lihstmlt ie mhtkrkst, si ti spkcn, mh tdk

frcmh. Gust rklcaa tdk acst tmok yiu okcht ti bi sioktdmhj

mopirtcht, suld cs rkspihb ti c liaakcjuk”s lrmtmlca k-ocma

cfiut c bkcbamhk, chb rkcamzkb cetkr skvkrca omhutks ir kvkh

diurs tdct yiu hkvkr tclnakb tdct ldirk fklcusk c skrmks ie

bmvkrsmihs puaakb yiu iee tcsn. Zk lch dcvk tdk fkst mhtkh-

tmihs ie cbbrkssmhj lkrtcmh rkspihsmfmamtmks fut tdkh fkliok



OMNK F]\RKV64

try ti gujjak wcrrmhj ecltmihs. Ir lihsmbkr c tmok wdkh yiu

wkrk euaay khjcjkb mh c lrkctmvk khbkcvir, suld cs wrmtmhj

ch crtmlak ir frcmhstiromhj mbkcs eir ch upliomhj okktmhj,

chb wmtdmh sklihbs yiur trcmh ie tdiujdt wcs frinkh fy c

pdihk lcaa ir siokihk wcanmhj mhti yiur ieffilk. Mt tcnks yiu

c aihj tmok ti rkturh ti tdct scok trcmh ie tdiujdt ihlk tdk

bmstrcltmih ms ivkr, chb eir siok, tdisk mhsmjdteua tdiujdts

tdct wkrk oivmhj tdriujd tdk frcmh wdkh tdk mhtkrruptmih

illurrkb crk mopissmfak ti rktrmkvk. Rdky crk jihk.Actkr mh tdms fiin, M”aa bmsluss tdk hitmih ie ouatmtcsnmhj.

Catdiujd wk amnk ti tdmhn wk lch ochcjk ouatmpak tcsns ct

tdk scok tmok, tdk frcmh biksh”t bi tdct. Mhstkcb, mt dchbaks

tcsns skqukhtmcaay, swmtldmhj fktwkkh ihk tcsn chb chitdkr.

Fut frcmhs lch gujjak tcsns vkry qumlnay, tdus jmvmhj us tdk

maausmih tdct wk lch pkreiro twi tdmhjs ct ihlk. Mh rkcamty,

tdiujd, tdk frcmh ms swmtldmhj cttkhtmih fktwkkh tcsns, cafkmt

ecst khiujd eir us ti fcrkay hitmlk lihslmiusay.

RDK D[OCH FV C M H DC\ C F[ M AR - M H \ ]\ R KO RI EIL[\ !

\i M gust ffihmsdkb kxpacmhmhj diw tdk frcmh lch wirn cs c

uhmt ti gujjak liopktmhj bkochbs tdct wcht iur mookbmctkcttkhtmih chb tdmhnmhj prilkssks tdct lcaa ih iur cbvchlkb

cfmamty ti eilus mhtkhtay. C jiib qukstmih7 Diw bi wk stcy

eiluskb9 Mh itdkr wirbs, diw lch wk prkvkht bmstrcltmihs

erio khlricldmhj ih tdk hkurca lmrlumtry fumat ti eclmamtctk

lihlkhtrctmih9 Mt bkpkhbs ih diw wkaa wk lch stip tdisk

bmstrcltmihs erio jcmhmhj tii ould cttkhtmih.

Ihk ie tdk oist ecoius tksts uskb ti stuby tdk clt ie

eilusmhj ms lcaakb tdk \triip tkst hcokb cetkr Gidh Vmbaky



6=RDK PIZKV IE EIVJKRRMHJ

eklt‟ mh 3=<;. Mt dcs smhlk fkliok c wmbkay uskb tkst mh psy-

ldiaijy lmrlaks ti stuby diw ecst pkipak lch mbkhtmey liairs

chb wirbs wdkh tdisk wirbs chb liairs bih”t hklksscrmay

octld up. Eir kxcopak, me yiu wkrk jmvkh wirbs prmhtkb mh

bmeekrkht liairs chb csnkb ti scy tdk liair ie tdk tkxt‒hit

tdk wirb mtskae‒ldchlks crk yiu”b ffihb mt ould dcrbkr ti scy

tdk liair tdch ti rkcb tdk wirb. Mh tdk smopak kxcopak fkaiw,

tdk frcmh dcs c strihj bksmrk ti chswkr ‑jrcy‟ eir iptmih l,

rctdkr tdch ‑facln.‟ Chb tdct”s tdk \triip keeklt.

c. Facln

f. Jrcy

l. Jrcy

b. Facln

Me yiu wkrk ti sullksseuaay scy tdk wirb ‑facln,‟ tdkh

yiu wiuab dcvk mhdmfmtkb ch cutioctml rkspihsk mh yiur

frcmh, wdmld ms hit ch kcsy tdmhj ti bi. Zk nhiw hiw erio

slchs pkreirokb fy hkurislmkhtmsts tdct pkipak wdi lch

failn tdkmr hcturca rkspihsks crk rkaymhj ih ihk pcrtmluacr

rkjmih ie tdkmr frcmh ti bi si. Mt amks wmtdmh tdk prkerihtca

lirtkx, tulnkb fkdmhb tdk rmjdt chb aket tkopaks, chb cppkcrsti fk nky ti caa typks ie rkstrcmhts. (Eir tdisk mhtkrkstkb, mt”s

lcaakb tdk rmjdt chb aket vkhtriactkrca prkerihtca lirtkx, ir

UAPEL.)

Mh kvkrybcy amek, wk mhtkhtmihcaay eima c ait ie iur frcmh”s

hcturca, rkstkxmvk rkspihsks, chb tdms cfmamty rksts ldmksty ih

tdms amttak crkc mh iur prkerihtca lirtkx. Zdkh wk prkvkht

iur dchb, eir mhstchlk, erio lctldmhj c brippmhj ifgklt, ir

mhdmfmt okhtca ir kvkh koitmihca rkspihsk tdms tmhy rkjmih



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systko. Catdiujd tdk frcmh khliopcssks vcrmius cllkakrc-

tirs ti lioochb oyrmcb cltmvmtmks‒erio oivkokht chb

achjucjk ti koitmihs chb okoirmks‒mt cppcrkhtay dcs ihay

ihk lkhtrcamzkb frcnmhj systko. Chb iur cfmamty ti utmamzk

tdms frcnmhj systko keekltmvkay skkos ti lirrkactk laiskay ti

diw wkaa wk lch eilus. Put smopay, eilus rkqumrks tdct wk

tkcld iurskavks diw ti stip tdk frcmh erio vkkrmhj biwh tdk

pctd ie uttkr bmstrcltmih, wdkrk frcnmhj fklioks dcrb me hit

mopissmfak. Zdct”s oirk, iur mhtkrhca frcnmhj systko msh”tcs strihj cs wk”b prifcfay amnk mt ti fk, kspklmcaay jmvkh tdk

eirlks wk”rk bkcamhj wmtd tibcy chb tdk dmjd akvka ie bmstrcl-

tmihs tdct lch skhb chy frcmh mhti ivkrbrmvk. Fklcusk iur

mhtkrhca frcnmhj systko ms diuskb mh tdk prkerihtca lirtkx,

mt”s pcrt ie tdk oist bkamlctk, mopctmkht, chb khkrjy-duhjry

rkjmih ie tdk frcmh.

Rdk jiib hkws, diwkvkr, ms tdct fy vmrtuk ie iur duoch-

hkss, wk lch mh eclt jcmh lihtria ie tdms rkjmih chb akcrh diw

ti oirk keekltmvkay prilkss mhliomhj mheiroctmih si wk lch

ffiatkr iut tdk lauttkr chb diok mh ih tdk mopirtcht. Chb M”o

jimhj ti fk dkapmhj yiu bi gust tdct wmtd tdk dkap ie oy smx

snmaas.

R KLDHIAIJ] M \H ” R C AZC]\ I[V FVC M H ” \ F K\ R E V M K HB

Rkldhiaijy ocnks iur amvks si ould kcsmkr. Zk lch lio-

ouhmlctk wmtd pkipak mh c hchisklihb usmhj samln bkvmlks

tdct wk lcrry criuhb mh iur pilnkts, chb wk lch lihbult

kxtkhsmvk chb lioprkdkhsmvk rkskcrld tibcy fy akttmhj iur

ffihjkrtmps bi tdk wcanmhj ihamhk cs wk usk skcrld khjmhks amnk

Jiijak Fut tdms wihbkreua cllkssmfmamty khjkhbkrs aczmhkss



<3RDK PIZKV IE EIVJKRRMHJ

hkkb, si wk bih”t dcvk ti rkokofkr tdko. Lcaluactirs livkr

oist ie iur octd, chb cpps ih iur socrtpdihks tkaa us diw

ould tmp ti akcvk ct c rkstcurcht. Kvkh tdk crt ie aihjdchb

wrmtmhj, wdmld kopaiys lrkctmvk pcrts ie tdk frcmh, ms fkmhj

aist ti tdk nkyficrbs.

Rdkrk ms c tmok chb c paclk eir caa tdms tkldhiaijy, fut

tdkrk”s casi c tmok chb c paclk eir jiib iab trcbmtmihca prif-

ako siavmhj‒eir akttmhj yiur frcmh bi caa tdk wirn, wdmld

dcs fkhkffits yiu wiuabh”t fkamkvk. Ihk wcy eir ok ti lih-vky tdms ti yiu ms ti ieekr tdk eiaaiwmhj chcaijmks. Akt”s scy

yiu hkkb ti uhbkrji skrmius dkcrt surjkry. Bi yiu wcht tdk

surjkih wdi akcrhkb caa ie dms snmaas tdriujd ch mhchmoctk

lioputkr, ir wiuab yiu prkekr tdk biltir wdi jcmhkb dms

kxpkrtmsk tdriujd dchbs-ih trcmhmhj wmtd rkca pctmkhts9 Oy

jukss ms tdct yiu”b pmln tdk surjkih wmtd tdk ‑rkca‟ kxpkrm-

khlk. ]iu wcht tdk ihk wdi dcs fkkh ldcaakhjkb ti usk dms

frcmh mh caa sirts ie wcys ti siavk prifakos mh tdk ipkrct-

mhj riio. Dk”s tdk ihk wdi dcs fkkh bimhj wdct”s lcaakb

slceeiabmhj eir c aihj tmok. ‑\lceeiabmhj‟ ms c tkro uskb mh

kbulctmihca lmrlaks ti bkslrmfk diw wk syhtdksmzk iur kxpkrm-

khlks, puaamhj cspklts erio ihk kxpkrmkhlk mhti chitdkr mh

irbkr ti fumab iur nhiwakbjk fcsk chb siavk hkw prifakosusmhj c liofmhctmih ie wdct wk carkcby nhiw chb wdct

wk”rk prkskhtay akcrhmhj ir liherihtkb wmtd.

Mh kvkrybcy prifako siavmhj, mt dkaps ti fk fiin socrt ir

ti usk tkldhiaijy ti crrmvk ct rksuats, fut tdk pkrsih wdi lch

luaa erio oyrmcb akssihs mh amek ms ietkh tdk ihk wdi wmaa

ffihb c fkttkr ir oirk prklmsk chb cllurctk chswkr. Mt”s gust

amnk stymhj. ]iu bih”t wcht tdk pmait wdi dcsh”t stiwh c rkca

pachk chb wdi ihay rklkhtay jrcbuctkb erio stmjdt smouactmih



OMNK F]\RKV<6

\i mocjmhk tdms mbkc cppamkb ti tdk rkcao ie pribultmvk

tdmhnmhj. Pribultmvk tdmhnkrs bih”t jkt ti wdkrk tdky crk mh

amek fy rkaymhj ih tkldhiaijy ir fy fkmhj gust fiin socrt.

Rdky lkrtcmhay tcnk cbvchtcjk ie tkldhiaijy chb tkxtfiins,

fut tdky bkpkhb ih tdkmr mhhctk frcmhpiwkr ffirst chb eirk-

oist, mhlaubmhj tdk pcrt tdct trmjjkrs tdko ti csn qukstmihs,

ldcaakhjk tdk hiro, chb rkeusk ti cllkpt ‑M lch”t.‟ Rdky cl-

lkss chb utmamzk ‑rkca‟ snmaas iftcmhkb erio c liofmhctmih ie

fclnjriuhb nhiwakbjk chb kxpkrmkhlk tdct caaiws tdko tistchb iut chb ocnk c bmeekrkhlk mh tdk wirab, ti cbcpt chb

rkspihb ti hkw hkkbs chb lmrluostchlks.

PVIIE IE LIHLKPR

C liupak ie ykcrs cji, M duhtkb biwh nmbs M”b tcujdt oirk

tdch c bklcbk kcramkr. M dcb trcmhkb tdko ih ochy ie tdk vkry

akssihs eiuhb mh tdms fiin, caa ie wdmld wkrk mhtkhbkb ti

dkap tdko keeirtakssay akcrh chytdmhj tdct tdky”b khliuhtkr

ih tdkmr ricb ti sullkss mh amek.

M wchtkb ti nhiw wdct dcb dcppkhkb ti tdko. Bmb oy

tiias dkap tdko scma tdriujd tdk rmjirs ie bkvkaipmhj frmjdt,

lrkctmvk omhbs tdct liuab keeirtakssay tclnak tiujd ldcaakhjks9Bmb tdky octurk mhti pribultmvk tdmhnkrs, kxlka mh tdkmr clc-

bkoml pursumts, chb jrcbuctk wmtd dihirs erio dmjd sldiia9

Bmb tdky ocnk mt ti liaakjk9 Ri kamtk ihks9 Ir bmb tdky ffizzak

iut chb omrrir tdk cvkrcjk bripiut rctks hctmihwmbk9

Jrchtkb, tdms wcsh”t okcht ti fk c slmkhtmffil kxpkrmokht,

chb tdk jriup ie stubkhts wcs socaa, fut M tdiujdt mt wiuab

fk wirtdwdmak ti skk wdct dcb fkliok ie pkipak M dcb kh-

liuhtkrkb chb trcmhkb kcray ih Zk ochcjkb ti ffihb c dchb



<<RDK PIZKV IE EIVJKRRMHJ

jihk ih ti prkstmjmius uhmvkrsmtmks, erio OMR ti Fkrnkaky.

\i M tdkh dcb ti csn oyskae7 Diw ould ie tdkmr pitkhtmca

wcs mhhctk chb diw ould wcs sdcpkb mh tdisk eiroctmvk

ykcrs9 Liuab tdk akssihs M tcujdt tdko mh diw ti fkliok

qumln, keffilmkht tdmhnkrs dcvk dcb c trkokhbius mopclt ih

tdkmr ivkrcaa sullkss9 Bmb M dcvk chytdmhj ti bi wmtd tdkmr

cldmkvkokhts9

Zmtd ould duomamty, M”o dcppy ti rkpirt tdct tdksk

nmbs, wdi crk hiw cbuats, dcb siok vkry hmlk tdmhjs ti scycfiut ok chb oy strctkjmks. Ochy ie tdko cttrmfutkb ould

ie tdkmr sullkss ti tdisk tkldhmquks, wdmld dkapkb tdko

lrumsk tdriujd caa sirts ie bmeekrkht lacssks chb sufgklts. Ihk

wioch scmb sdk dcb ti akcrh caa ie tdk fihks mh tdk fiby bur-

mhj c pcrtmluacray tiujd liaakjk liursk, chb sdk bmb si usmhj

tdk tcltml sdk”b akcrhkb erio ok oirk tdch c bklcbk fkeirk.

\ueffilk mt ti scy, M wcs vkry priub.

Hiw, yiu”rk prifcfay cssuomhj tdct M tcujdt c dmjday

jmetkb jriup ie nmbs wdi wkrk wkaa ih tdkmr wcy ti jrchb

euturks rkjcrbakss ie oy akssihs. Pkrdcps tdct”s truk, tdiujd M

wmaa scy tdct tdksk wkrk hit nmbs khriaakb mh jmetkb prijrcos,

chb M wcs hit tcrjktmhj prmvctk ir prkp sldiias. Fut eir gust c

oiokht, akt”s lihsmbkr wdct nmhb ie mopclt M omjdt dcvk dcbih tdksk stubkhts” bkvkaipmhj frcmhs.

Mt”s aihj fkkh nhiwh tdct frcmhpiwkr ms acrjkay mhdkrmtkb.

Kxpkrts fkamkvk tdct upwcrb ie :0 pkrlkht ie iur frcmh”s pri-

lkssmhj spkkb ms c ecltir ie iur jkhks, wdmld akcvks <0 pkrlkht

ti tdk khvmrihokht.

Fut tdct <0 pkrlkht ms ould oirk smjhmffilcht tdch



OMNK F]\RKV<2

Eir crjuokht”s scnk, akt”s lihsmbkr tdk eiaaiwmhj chca-

ijy, wdmld ocy skko wmabay uhrkactkb, fut fkcr wmtd ok. Mh

tdk jkhkrca pipuactmih, chyihk”s ldchlk ie fkliomhj ifksk

ms << pkrlkht fcskb ih tdk khvmrihokht chb 5: pkrlkht fcskb

ih jkhks. Hi ihk wiuab bmscjrkk tdct jkhktmls pacys c riak

mh fiby typk, smzk, oktcfiamso, chb pripkhsmty ti jcmh ir

aisk wkmjdt. Fut biksh”t mt skko c amttak liuhtkrmhtumtmvk ti

cttrmfutk gust c rkactmvkay slcht << pkrlkht ie ihk”s ivkrcaa

rmsn ie fkliomhj ifksk ti tdk khvmrihokht9 Bih”t kxkrlmsk,bmkt, chb jkhkrca amekstyak ecltirs wkmjd mhti tdct kquctmih c

fmt oirk9 Cetkr caa, wk dkcr pakhty ie sullkss stirmks erio

pkipak wdi aisk ocssmvk coiuhts ie wkmjdt chb kslcpk tdk

ectks ie tdkmr ivkrwkmjdt ecomay okofkrs gust fy ldchjmhj

diw tdky amvk, wdct tdky kct, chb diw tdky oivk tdkmr fib-

mks. Eir tdko, tdk pkrlkhtcjks sdiuab fk rkvkrskb‒tdky ocy

fk scbbakb wmtd ch uhaulny skt ie jkhks tdct ocnks mt dcrbkr

ti ocmhtcmh ch mbkca wkmjdt, fut tdct biksh”t rkhbkr mt mopis-

smfak ir prkvkht tdko erio bimhj si. Rdky bkey tdk ibbs fy

wirnmhj ih tdkmr fibmks kvkry bcy chb ocnmhj kvkry pkrlkht

ie tdct khvmrihokhtca ecltir liuht. Put smopay, tdct << pkr-

lkht lch fk smjhmffilcht, rkcaay fmj (hi puh mhtkhbkb).

M fkamkvk tdct tdk scok diabs truk wdkh mt lioks ti tdkfrcmh”s lcpclmty. Zk tkhb ti ivkrkstmoctk diw ould ms bk-

tkromhkb fy iur jkhks chb eirjkt tdct c ait ie iur okhtca

prilkssmhj piwkr ms c pribult ie skae-bmslmpamhk, kbulctmih,

chb c lioomtokht ti trcmhmhj chb usmhj iur omhbs ti wirn c

lkrtcmh wcy. Mt”s amnk tdct iab Rdiocs Kbmsih scymhj7 Jkhmus

ms 3 pkrlkht mhspmrctmih chb == pkrlkht pkrspmrctmih. Rdisk

crk pkrlkhtcjks M lch cjrkk wmtd!

Fksmbks me mhtkaamjkhlk wkrk si biomhctkb fy jkhktmls



<;RDK PIZKV IE EIVJKRRMHJ

eiro tdk amvks ie tdiuschbs ie stubkhts‒chb cbuats‒kvkry

ykcr. M bih”t scy tdms ti jaict ir ti tiit oy iwh dirh. M scy

tdms fklcusk, mh wirnmhj wmtd tdk jkhkrca pufaml, M khliuhtkr

ch khiroius omx ie tcakht chb mhdkrmtkb mhtkaamjkhlk clriss

tdk spkltruo, erio tdisk wdi strujjak omjdtmay wmtd akcrh-

mhj chb pkreiromhj octd ti dmjday jmetkb wdmzzks wdi crk

tdk khvy ie tdk cvkrcjk stubkhts.

Chb me tdkrk”s ihk tdmhj tdct oy kxpkrmkhlk dcs bkoih-

strctkb ti ok ivkr chb ivkr cjcmh, mt”s tdct hi octtkr wdctnmhb ie frcmh yiu”rk firh wmtd, chb rkjcrbakss ie jkhktml mh-

tkaamjkhlk trcmts, tdk frcmh ms dmjday pamcfak, ould mh tdk wcy

c ouslak lch fk ocbk strihjkr wmtd kxkrlmsk. Chb hkuri-

slmkhtmsts cjrkk. Akt”s tcnk c qumln tiur ie diw tdk frcmh lch

fmiaijmlcaay jriw chb ldchjk. Mt”s ykt oirk priie tdct yiu

lch bkvkaip mhti c pribultmvk tdmhnkr, fklcusk yiur frcmh

euhltmih ms ecr erio ffixkb.

Rdk omhb ms truay tdk lkhtkr ie yiur amek, prilkssmhj

chb mhtkrprktmhj kvkry oiokht ie yiur kxpkrmkhlk. Mt

ms tdk ocmh jkhkrctir ie tdk tdiujdts, koitmihs, chb

bklmsmihs tdct lch ceeklt yiu chb yiur ldchlk ie sul-lkss mh fmj chb suftak wcys. Zdkh yiu akcrh ti lih-

tria mts aicb chb spkkb, yiu lch ocxmomzk mts piwkr.

C \OCA A A K \ \IH IH ]I[V F M J FV C M H ” \ F M I AIJ]

Zdkh M scy tdct M diab oy frcmh ti fk tdk oist mopirtcht

irjch mh oy fiby M rkcaay okch tdct chb M bi caa tdct M lch



OMNK F]\RKV<5

tdct yiur dkcrt ir yiur ‑siua‟ diabs tdk nky ti amek, fut M

wiuab pmh tdk sklrkt ti amek ih oy trusty iab frcmh. Chb tdk

eclt tdct tdk frcmh ms pamcfak ct chy cjk ocnks mt kvkh oirk

mopirtcht ti trcmh chb prkskrvk mt kvkry smhjak bcy. Fkmhj cfak

ti ldchjk tdk frcmh ms tdk eiuhbctmih ie oy wirn.

Me tdkrk”s ihk bkffihmhj ekcturk ti iur frcmhs tdct lakcray

skts us cpcrt erio caa itdkr spklmks, mt”s jit ti fk iur cocz-

mhj cfmamty ti tdmhn. Emsd, copdmfmchs, rkptmaks, chb fmrbs, eir

mhstchlk, bih”t bi ould ‑tdmhnmhj.‟ Rdky mhstkcb lihlkrhtdkoskavks wmtd tdk kvkrybcy fusmhkss ie jctdkrmhj eiib, kct-

mhj, brmhnmhj, sakkpmhj, rkpribulmhj, chb bkekhbmhj tdko-

skavks. Rdksk tcsns bih”t rkqumrk lijhmtmvk tdiujdt ct caa.

Rdky crk mhstmhltuca prilkssks, si tdk chmocas” frcmhs crk

biomhctkb fy tdk ocgir lkhtkrs tdct lihtria tdksk cutioctml

euhltmihs. Zmtd iur ‑rkptmamch‟ frcmhs fumat mhti us, wk casi

pkreiro tdksk euhltmihs, wdmld crk eiuhb mh rkocrncfay smo-

macr pcrts ie tdk frcmh.

Fut cbbmtmihca rkjmihs mh iur frcmhs dcvk kviavkb tdct

caaiw us ti bi si ould oirk tdch c fuj ir c fmrb. Zk lch

tdmhn wmtd purpisk chb mhtkht, eiro achjucjk, pach iur eu-

turk, pcss gubjokht, chb chcayzk mheiroctmih chb stmouam mh

uhmqukay sipdmstmlctkb wcys.Rdk coczmhj cfmamtmks ie tdk duoch omhb rkviavk criuhb

mts lcpclmty ti fiofcrb mtskae wmtd omaamihs ie fmts ie bmvkrsk

mheiroctmih kvkry smhjak bcy. Mt oust casi fk cfak ti stirk

chb lihvkrt tdksk mhti mhtkaamjkht tdiujdts. Mt cldmkvks tdms

fy kvcauctmhj, sirtmhj, ffijurmhj, chb rkbmrkltmhj mheiroctmih

fcskb ih skqukhlks chb rkactmihsdmps. Mt bmslcrbs tdk mrrka-

kvcht fmts ie mheiroctmih chb ffiaas tdk fachns wmtd pmklks ie

mheiroctmih erio mts stirkb ffiaks



<: RDK PIZKV IE EIVJKRRMHJ

fmrtd cs mh cbuatdiib, fut tdisk lkaas jriw, rkcldmhj ocxm-

ouo smzk ct cfiut cjk smx. C hkwfirh”s frcmh trmpaks mh smzk mh

tdk ffirst ykcr ie amek. (Hi wihbkr fcfmks dcvk suld fmj dkcbs!)

Cetkr tdct ffirst ykcr, frcmh smzk biksh”t mhlrkcsk vkry ould cs

wk akcrh oirk mheiroctmih chb pcln oirk mhti iur riujday

tdrkk-piuhb frcmhs. Fut wdct biks jriw acrjkr ms tdk huofkr

ie hkurihs‒hkrvk lkaas‒chb tdk liopakxmty ie tdkmr hkt-

wirn. Rdk cbuat frcmh dcrfirs fktwkkh ffietkkh fmaamih chb

twi duhbrkb fmaamih hkurihs, chb tdk eclt tdct wk lch”t nhiweir surk kxcltay diw ochy hkurihs tdk typmlca cbuat dcs jiks

ti sdiw diw ould wk gust bih”t nhiw cfiut iur frcmhs chb

tdkmr lcpclmty. \i ould cfiut iur frcmhs rkocmhs c oystkry.

BMB ]I[ NHIZ9

30 ti 6< ? tdk huofkr ie wctts ie piwkr yiur frcmh

jkhkrctks wdkh yiu”rk cwcnk (tdct”s khiujd ti

turh ih c amjdtfuaf!)

60 ? tdk pkrlkhtcjk ie ixyjkh chb faiib stiw jimhj

ti yiur frcmh

3,000 ti 30,000 ? tdk huofkr ie syhcpsks eir kcldhkurih mh yiur frcmh

300,000 ? tdk huofkr ie omaks ie faiib vksskas mh

yiur frcmh

:00,000 ? tdk huofkr ie tdiujdts yiu dcvk kcld bcy

30 fmaamih khlylaipkbmc pcjks ? tdk coiuht ie mheir-

octmih yiur frcmh ms lcpcfak ie rkokofkrmhj

3; fmaamih ti 600 fmaamih ? tdk huofkr ie hkurihs mh

yiur frcmh



OMNK F]\RKV<4

Fut ihk tdmhj wk bi nhiw7 Zdkh wk kxkrlmsk iur frcmhs

(cs yiu”rk bimhj rmjdt hiw wdmak lihlkhtrctmhj ih rkcbmhj

tdms), wk stmouactk tdk lrkctmih ie hkw hkurihs. Kvkry tmok

wk rkokofkr sioktdmhj ir dcvk c hkw tdiujdt‒fco!‒

wk”vk gust lrkctkb c hkw lihhkltmih siokwdkrk mh iur frcmh

tdct fiists mts ivkrcaa piwkr.

C jrkct wcy ti vmsucamzk tdms nmhb ie cltmvmty chb

‑jriwtd‟ ms ti pmlturk c frcmh chb caa ie mts squmjjaks chb fmts

ie bctc cs rkprkskhtkb fy tdk stcrs chb mhtkrlihhkltmhj amhksti lrkctk hktwirns7

Akt”s prktkhb tdct tdms frcmh tcnks c dmstiry lacss. Rdk

frcmh tdkh stcrts ti aiin amnk tdms7



<=RDK PIZKV IE EIVJKRRMHJ

Hitmlk tdct M”vk cbbkb c ekw oirk ‑stcrs‟ ih tdk frcmh.

Rdksk rkprkskht hkw eclts ir nhiwakbjk tdct tdk frcmh dcs

dcb ti rktcmh burmhj tdk lacss. Hiw aiin ct wdct dcppkhs

ivkr tmok cs oirk mheiroctmih lioks mh, siok ie wdmld rk-

mheirlks iab nhiwakbjk chb siok ie wdmld ms titcaay hkw7

Dkrk wk dcvk ochy oirk eclts (stcrs) ti clliooibctk‒ocnmhj c oirk liopakx hktwirn‒chb c ould strihjkr frcmh

wirnmhj ct c dmjdkr akvka ie piwkr. Mt”s amt up wmtd cltmvmty.

Jrchtkb, tdms bkslrmptmih ie diw tdk frcmh wirns ms

okrkay c oktcpdir. Mt wih”t dkap yiu pcss chy okbmlca tksts

ir wmh yiu ch kcsy C eir kxpacmhmhj diw tdk frcmh ipkrctks

erio c purkay fmiaijmlca stchbpimht. Fut tdk oktcpdir ms c

jiib ihk. Mt sdiws tdct tdk frcmh dcs ch mookhsk lcpclmty

ti cllkpt mhliomhj bctc, rkmheirlk iab ffiaks, chb upaicb hkw

ihks fy irldkstrctmhj c frmaamcht mhtkrpacy coihj mts omaamihs

ie hkurihs. Rdk frcmh rkocmhs lcpcfak tdriujdiut iur amek-

tmoks ie lrkctmhj hkw hkurihs chb eiromhj erksd lihhkltmihs

coihj tdisk hkurihs, chb tdct”s jiib hkws eir us fklcusk mt

okchs tdct hi ihk ms stuln wmtd c ‑fcb‟ frcmh‒chyihk lchmoprivk dms ir dkr frcmh.



OMNK F]\RKV20

BMB ]I[ NHIZ9

• Rdk frcmh ms c ait oirk cbcptcfak cs mt cjks tdch

yiu omjdt tdmhn. Hkuriaijmsts rkekr ti tdk frcmh”s

cfmamty ti ldchjk cs mts ‑pacstmlmty.‟

• Akcrhmhj diw ti rkacx chb rkst yiur frcmh ms cs

mopirtcht cs akcrhmhj diw ti stkx chb wirn mt.Rdms kxpacmhs wdy sakkp ms si ksskhtmca ti nkkp-

mhj tdk frcmh prkpcrkb ti akcrh hkw mheiroctmih

qumlnay. Mt”s fkkh sdiwh tdct puaamhj ch caa-

hmjdtkr bklrkcsks tdk cfmamty ti lrco mh hkw eclts

fy hkcray 20 pkrlkht! Cppcrkhtay, sakkp bkprmvc-

tmih sduts biwh lkrtcmh frcmh rkjmihs. (Chb eir

tdk rklirb, M”o c ocstkr ct sakkpmhj. Oy frcmh

wih”t qumt burmhj tdk bcy, fut ct hmjdt M lch turh

mt iee ct c oiokht”s hitmlk.)

• Ihk ie tdk tip wcys ti tcnk lcrk ie yiur omhb ms

ti ocnk surk yiur dkcrt ms pkreiromhj ct mts fkst.

Mh itdkr wirbs, wdkh yiur fiby (chb dkcrt) crk

mh jiib pdysmlca sdcpk, si tii ms yiur frcmh, fk-

lcusk kxkrlmsk pribulks oiakluaks mh yiur fiby

tdct dkap frcmh hkrvks stcy dkcatdy.

• Cttkhbmhj aklturks chb pacys, khriaamhj mh liursks

tdct kxpisk yiu ti hkw sufgklts chb diffmks, chb

ocmhtcmhmhj silmca lihhkltmihs crk caa kxlkaakht

wcys ti hiurmsd yiur frcmh.

• Lkrtcmh eiibs, suld cs faukfkrrmks, caoihbs, chbscaoih, crk ‑frcmh dkcatdy.‟



23RDK PIZKV IE EIVJKRRMHJ

RDK \MT \NMAA\ MH FVMKE

Ct tdk dkcrt ie tdms fiin ms akcrhmhj ti usk tdk piwkr ie eir-

jkttmhj ti keeirtakssay ffiatkr iut tdk bmstrcltmihs chb hihksskh-

tmca mheiroctmih ti eilus squcrkay ih wdct”s mopirtcht chb

prkskrvk yiur okhtca khkrjy eir caa tdisk dmjd-khkrjy euhl-

tmihs. Chb tdms cfmamty rksts ih bkvkaipmhj smx lrmtmlca snmaas,

wdmld wmaa caaiw yiu ti ‑purmey‟ ocssmvk coiuhts ie bctc,

trmcjk yiur frcmh, chb lihlkhtrctk wdkhkvkr chb wdkrkvkryiu wcht ti. Rdms wmaa uatmoctkay caaiw yiu ti wirn ecstkr

chb socrtkr. Akt”s tcnk c qumln tiur ie tdksk pcrtmluacr snmaas7

• Eilus chb Lihlkhtrctmih7 Rdksk twi wmaa fk livkrkb mh

ldcptkr <. Catdiujd tdky crk smomacr, tdky crk bkffihkb

bmeekrkhtay. Frmksty, eilusmhj rkactks ti fkmhj cfak ti stcy

mh tdk oiokht, wdkrkcs lihlkhtrctmih ms cfiut stcymhj

ih tcsn eir cs aihj cs mt tcnks ti rkcld c lkrtcmh bkstmhc-

tmih ir jica. Rdk akssihs M”aa tkcld yiu mh tdksk twi snmaas

wmaa dkap yiu ti jcmh lihtria ie tdisk bmstrcltmihs, ‑eir-

jkt‟ mhtkhtmihcaay, chb strkhjtdkh yiur mhtkrhca frcnmhj

systko, wdmld mh turh wmaa strkcoamhk yiur frcmh”s pri-

lkssmhj piwkrs.• Mhlrkcsmhj Okhtca Lcpclmty7 Bih”t tdmhn yiu lch rk-

tcmh ocssmvk coiuhts ie mheiroctmih wmtdiut iab-sldiia

‑okoirmzmhj‟9 Rdmhn cjcmh. Mh ldcptkr 2 M”aa sdiw yiu

diw ti lrkctk mhstcht cssilmctmihs mh gust cfiut kvkry-

tdmhj mh amek ti ocnk tdk crt ie okoirmzmhj pcmhakss . . .

chb, ti siok bkjrkk, omhbakss.

• Rdmhnmhj Iutsmbk tdk Fix7 Zdktdkr ir hit yiu”b lcaa

yiurskae lrkctmvk ir mhhivctmvk mh ldcptkr ; yiu”aa akcrh



OMNK F]\RKV26

pacyeua smbk, wdmld wmaa ji c aihj wcy tiwcrb sdcrpkh-

mhj chb dihmhj yiur prilkssmhj piwkr. Rdms wmaa mhlaubk

kxkrlmsks mh tdmhnmhj cjcmhst lihvkhtmihca wmsbio chb

lihtrcry ti diw yiur frcmh rkcaay wchts ti lcaluactk ir

prilkss lkrtcmh mheiroctmih. Chb yiu”aa ffihb, wdkh yiu

eirlk yiurskae ti tcnk c titcaay bmeekrkht okhtca riutk

erio wdct yiu”rk uskb ti, tdct yiu smouatchkiusay ipkh

up hkw crkcs ie yiur frcmh tdct euka jrkctkr‒ecstkr‒

prilkssmhj.• Irjchmzctmih7 ]iu irjchmzk yiur pdysmlca spclks chb

wkknay sldkbuak caa tdk tmok, fut wdct cfiut tdiujdts

chb mhliomhj mheiroctmih9 Diw bi yiu irjchmzk caa

tdct9 Rdms ms tdk purpisk ie ldcptkr 5, wdmld wmaa kqump

yiu wmtd tiias ti csskofak chb lctcaij yiur okhtca mh-

fix. Rdms wmaa uatmoctkay lrkctk oirk spclk eir oirk mh-

eiroctmih, cs wkaa cs rkmheirlk caa tdk prkvmius snmaas.

• Eirjkttmhj7 Cd, hiw dkrk ms wdkrk M frmhj kvkrytdmhj

tijktdkr chb dkap yiu iptmomzk tdms oist mopirtcht

snmaa ie caa. Mh ldcptkr : yiu”aa skk diw tdk ffirst ffivk snmaas

fumab ih ihk chitdkr chb dkap yiu ti eirjkt wdkh yiu

hkkb ti.

AKCVHMHJ ZDCR HIR RI VKOKOFKV7 DIZ ‑OKOIV]‟EMR\ MH

Ihk frcmh euhltmih tdct mt ms mopkrctmvk ti fiist wmtd tdk

dkap ie caa tdksk snmaas ms okoiry. Mt ms tdk lirhkrstihk ie caa

akcrhmhj, chb tdkrkeirk ocxmomzmhj mt ms c lrulmca pcrt ie oy

prijrco. Okoiry ms wdkrk wk stirk nhiwakbjk chb wdkrk

wk prilkss nhiwakbjk [heirtuhctkay ochy ie us omstcnk



2<RDK PIZKV IE EIVJKRRMHJ

wdkrk wk nkkp iur nhiwakbjk wdkh wk crk hit usmhj mt, fut

tdct oktcpdir ms hit lirrklt. Iur okoirmks crk lihstchtay

ldchjmhj cs tdky tcnk mh erksd mheiroctmih chb mhtkrprkt mt.

Okoiry oust bklmbk wdct mheiroctmih ms wirtd nkkpmhj chb

wdkrk mt ffits mh rkactmih ti prkvmius nhiwakbjk tdct ms carkcby

stirkb. Chb wdct wk stirk mh iur okoirmks dkaps us prilkss

hkw smtuctmihs. Zmtdiut ch cltmvk okoiry, yiu wiuabh”t fk

cfak ti akcrh.

Lihsmbkr wdct dcppkhs cs yiu rkcb ch crtmlak mh c ocjc-zmhk, mh c hkwspcpkr, ir ihamhk. Cs yiu bmjkst tdk hkw mheir-

octmih, yiu”rk hi biuft utmamzmhj mheiroctmih yiu”vk carkcby

jit mh yiur okoiry.

Rdk hkw mheiroctmih lch casi kvink lkrtcmh fkamkes, vca-

uks, chb mbkcs tdct crk uhmquk ti yiu chb tdct dkap yiu mh-

tkrprkt tdk mheiroctmih, ocnk skhsk ie mt, chb bklmbk wdktdkr

yiu ldiisk ti fkamkvk tdk hkw mheiroctmih wdmak catkrmhj prk-

vmiusay stirkb mheiroctmih chb wdktdkr yiu”b amnk ti rktcmh

tdms hkw mhei ir gust akt mt fk eirjittkh. Rdus, cs yiu rkcb tdk

crtmlak, yiur okoiry ldchjks fy cbbmhj fitd hkw mheiroc-

tmih chb c hkw paclk ti put tdct mheiroctmih.

Ct tdk scok tmok, yiu”rk casi jmvmhj yiurskae c bmeekrkht

wcy ti amhn tdct hkw mheiroctmih wmtd iabkr, hiw oibmffikbmheiroctmih.

Akcrhmhj ms tdkrkeirk c okoiry prilkss‒tdk rksuat ie

tdk cttkopt ti uhbkrstchb hkw mheiroctmih. Chb kvkry tmok

yiu usk yiur okoiry, yiu ldchjk mt.

Mt”s liooih nhiwakbjk tdct iur okoirmks wirn ih twi

bmeekrkht akvkas7 sdirt-tkro okoiry chb aihj-tkro okoiry.

\dirt-tkro okoiry mhlaubks wdct yiu eilus ih mh tdk oi-

okht wdct diabs yiur cttkhtmih Oist pkipak lch diab ihay



OMNK F]\RKV22

chy jmvkh tmok, suld cs c amst ie skvkh jrilkry mtkos ir c

skvkh-bmjmt pdihk huofkr. Ri akcrh mheiroctmih si tdct yiu

lch rktcmh chb rklcaa mt, yiu oust trchsekr mt erio sdirt-tkro

ti aihj-tkro okoiry. Ifvmiusay, aihj-tkro okoiry mhlaubks

caa tdk mheiroctmih tdct yiu rkcaay nhiw chb lch rklcaa. Mh

ochy wcys, mt fklioks c pcrt ie yiu. Ihlk mheiroctmih fk-

lioks c pcrt ie yiur aihj-tkro okoiry, yiu dcvk cllkss ti mt

eir c aihj tmok. Rdk strctkjmks mh tdms fiin wmaa dkap yiu ocnk

tdk oist ie fitd yiur sdirt-tkro chb aihj-tkro okoirmks‒chb put yiu ih tdk ricb ti tdmhnmhj pribultmvkay‒cbkpt ct

iptmomzmhj fitd nmhbs ie okoiry.

Hiw tdct M”vk jmvkh yiu c oirk tkldhmlca vmkw ie tdk

frcmh chb tdk riak ie okoiry, akt”s turh fcln ti tdk fricbkr

pkrspkltmvk chb lihsmbkr diw yiu”rk jimhj ti ji cfiut tuh-

mhj yiur frcmh ti c ldchhka wdkrk mt lch ipkrctk ocxmocaay.

M”aa prkeclk tdms bmslussmih fy sdcrmhj ihk oirk omsuhbkr-

stiib eclt cfiut tdk frcmh7 Mt”s hit truk tdct wk usk ihay 30

pkrlkht ie iur frcmhs. Cjcmh, akt”s cppay siok aijml dkrk7 Me

tdms wkrk truk, mt wiuab lkrtcmhay ocnk frcmh bcocjk c ait

akss wirrmsiok. Rdk jica msh”t si ould ti tcp mopkhktrcfak

crkcs ie yiur frcmh cs mt ms ti usk caa tdct yiu”vk jit cllkss

ti ct mts euaakst lcpclmty‒mh ould tdk scok wcy yiu”b turhtdk viauok up ih yiur stkrki. Rdkrk lkrtcmhay crk pcrts ie

iur frcmhs tdct wk lch”t kvkr rkcld ir usk, fut tdct biksh”t

okch tdct wk lchhit bkvkaip tdisk pcrts tdct wk lch mh eclt

tcp, mhlaubmhj actkht crkcs tdct hkkb ti fk winkh up. Mjhmtmhj

tdisk uhbkvkaipkb chb uhbkrcpprklmctkb pcrts ms wdct oy

kxkrlmsks chb akssihs crk caa cfiut.

Rcppmhj mhti tdksk pcrts ie yiur frcmh ms wdct wmaa tcnk

yiu erio cvkrcjk ti cwksiok chb uhakcsd yiur dmbbkh



2;RDK PIZKV IE EIVJKRRMHJ

RDK VIC B E VIO CU KVCJK RI CZK\IOK

Kcld pcrt ie tdk frcmh skrvks c spklmca, bkffihkb purpisk.

Fkmhj cfak ti wmjjak iur tiks, ocnk pachs, brkco, skk, sokaa,

tcan, wcan, siavk liopakx prifakos, lry, nhiw wdmld wcy

ms up ir biwh, rkokofkr iur ermkhbs” fmrtdbcys, ocmhtcmh

fcachlk, frkctdk, swkct, famhn, stkx iur ouslaks, skhsk ekcr

ir bchjkr, ekka pcmh, chb kvkh nkkp iur dkcrts fkctmhj crk

lcpclmtmks tdct caa irmjmhctk mh lkrtcmh rkjmihs ie tdk frcmh.Zk lch bi ochy ie tdksk tcsns ct tdk scok tmok, tii. Pkr-

dcps yiu”rk rkcbmhj tdms fiin, brmhnmhj c fkvkrcjk, bmjkstmhj

yiur auhld, tdmhnmhj cfiut yiur \cturbcy-hmjdt pachs, chb

frkctdmhj, coihj ochy itdkr tdmhjs, caa ct tdk scok tmok.

Fut yiu carkcby nhiw tdct M”o hit dkrk ti tkcld yiu tdk

kxclt fmildkomstry chb tipijrcpdy ie tdk frcmh. Vctdkr tdch

trymhj ti uhbkrstchb tdk mhhkr wirnmhjs ie yiur frcmh erio

c okbmlca pkrspkltmvk, M wcht yiu mhstkcb ti smopay vmkw mt

cs c smhjak riio wmtd lkrtcmh liopcrtokhts, cs wkaa cs ch

khtrchlk chb ch kxmt.

Rdk sklrkt ti ocnmhj tdms riio piwkr up chb pkr-

eiro skkomhjay ocjmlca ekcts ms ti trcmh mt ti ipkrctk amnk c

lioputkr‒tdct ms, ti rklkmvk mheiroctmih, stirk mt mh tdk rmjdtliopcrtokht, chb okoirmzk caa ie tdk rkakvcht mheiroctmih

wdmak mjhirmhj tdk uhhklksscry mheiroctmih. Mh itdkr wirbs,

ti eirjkt wdkh mt”s cppriprmctk si yiu lch usk yiur okoiry

oirk keekltmvkay wdkh hklksscry.

Rdms acst pcrt ms lrmtmlca. Oist pkipak try ti rkokofkr

kvkrytdmhj, chb mh bimhj si, rkokofkr amttak ir hitdmhj ct

caa. Rdk frcmh ms maa kqumppkb ti dchbak ch cfuhbchlk ie bctccaa ct ihlk Mt lrcvks irbkr chb c strkcoamhkb stiw chb tdct



OMNK F]\RKV25

bmeekrkht frcmh ‑rkjmihs‟ ti wirn smouatchkiusay ykt mhbk-

pkhbkhtay ie kcld itdkr. Ihk pcrt cfsirfs mheiroctmih wdmak

chitdkr pcrt ms sirtmhj chb prilkssmhj hkw mheiroctmih.

\iok ie tdms sirtmhj chb prilkssmhj hi biuft khtcmas c ait ie

‑eirjkttmhj‟‒bmsrkjcrbmhj ermviaius bktcmas mookbmctkay ir

bmslcrbmhj bktcmas ihlk tdk frcmh dcs ocbk qumln usk ie tdko

fkeirk oivmhj ih ti tdk hkxt mopirtcht bktcma. Rdksk twi

prilkssks crk tdk dkcrt chb siua ie okoiry‒tdk eiuhbctmih

ie caa akcrhmhj.Zmtd tdk ihk-twi puhld ie cfsirfmhj chb prilkssmhj‒

okoiry lrkctmih‒yiur omhb lch tdkh fkjmh ti wirn ould

oirk keffilmkhtay chb fkliok oirk piwkreua, jmvmhj yiu c

dujk cbvchtcjk tdriujdiut yiur amek. ]iu lch tdmhn ie mt cs

lrkctmhj ch csskofay amhk eir yiur frcmh. Emrst, yiu liopcrt-

okhtcamzk tdk rcw octkrmcas‒tdk bctc‒chb tdkh yiu mhput

tdk bctc, ihk pmklk ct c tmok, tdriujd c skqukhlk ie pri-

lkssks, skhbmhj tdk pmklks ihwcrb ti vcrmius paclks bkpkhb-

mhj ih diw tdky hkkb ti fk trkctkb chb wdktdkr tdky sdiuab

fk bkpismtkb mh yiur sdirt-tkro okoiry, put mh yiur aihj-

tkro stircjk tchn, ir khtmrkay eirjittkh chb tisskb iut ti tdk

guhnycrb.

Kvkry ldcptkr mh tdms fiin ms jimhj ti dkap yiu fumab chbsullksseuaay ruh tdms csskofay amhk amnk c wkaa-imakb ocldmhk.

Mt”s hit sioktdmhj yiu lch bi ivkrhmjdt, chb mt”s casi hit

sioktdmhj yiu lch gust fumab ihlk chb akcvk caihk. Dcvk

yiu kvkr fkkh coczkb fy c wcmtkr”s cfmamty ti tcnk tdk irbkrs

ie c tcfak ie smx ir oirk pkipak wmtdiut wrmtmhj chytdmhj

biwh9 Diw biks dk ir sdk jkt mt rmjdt9 Mt”s kvkh oirk mo-

prkssmvk wdkh pkipak liopamlctk tdkmr irbkrs wmtd pkrsihca

rkquksts ‑Brkssmhj ih tdk smbk pakcsk ‟ ‑Lch M sufstmtutk c



2: RDK PIZKV IE EIVJKRRMHJ

bi tdky rkokofkr mt caa9 Zcmtkrs crk jiib ct wdct tdky bi

fklcusk tdky bi mt c ait! Prcltmlk. Prcltmlk. Prcltmlk!

Nhiwmhj tdct frcmhs rkqumrk lihstcht ocmhtkhchlk chb

tdk illcsmihca rkpcmr, M wirn oy frcmh kvkry smhjak bcy ti

nkkp mt up ti spkkb chb stcy cdkcb ie tdk pcln. Oy dipk

ms tdct yiu wmaa wirn yiur frcmh wmtd tdk kxkrlmsks mh tdms

fiin chb tdct siok ie tdk strctkjmks yiu akcrh dkrk wmaa fk-

liok sklihb hcturk. M bih”t kxpklt yiu ti fkliok cs ifsks-

smvk cfiut huofkr chb akttkr lruhldmhj cs M co, fut M bikxpklt tdct yiu”aa lrkctk hkw okhtca dcfmts tdct wmaa uatm-

octkay strkhjtdkh chb kxpchb yiur frcmh si tdct mt lch bi

mhlrkbmfak tdmhjs. ]iu”aa ffihb yiurskae mh tdk lcr, eir kxcopak,

pacymhj omhb jcoks wmtd yiurskae ir yiur pcsskhjkrs. ]iu”aa

rkcb strkkt smjhs, amlkhsk pactks, chb stirkerihts bmeekrkhtay.

]iu”aa aiin ct tdk wdiak wirab erio c hkw pkrspkltmvk. Chb

mh bimhj si, yiu”aa frkcn cwcy erio yiur iwh pcln.

Vkokofkr, M”o hit dkrk ti ocnk yiu gust ‑cvkrcjk.‟

Rdms ms hit cfiut trymhj ti lctld up. Rdms ms cfiut faiwmhj

kvkryihk kask cwcy. Caa ie us khtkr sldiia cs yiuhjstkrs chb

crk surriuhbkb fy lacssoctks wmtd c vcrmkty ie tcakhts chb

strkhjtds. Rdct ms wdkh siok ie us ffihb iurskavks wcy cdkcb

ie itdkrs fklcusk wk”rk omxkb mh wmtd c wmbk rchjk ie cfma-mty akvkas. Fut cs wk jriw iabkr chb octurk mhti cbuats, wk

ietkh ffihb iurskavks surriuhbkb fy pkkrs‒pkipak wdi sdcrk

iur jkhkrca ldcrcltkrmstmls, vcauks, chb mhtkaamjkhlk. Rdk piia

ie tcakht jkts socaakr chb oirk smomacr ti us mh iur pcrtml-

uacr khvmrihokhts, chb tdct”s wdkh wk lch ffihb iurskavks

ekhlkb mh fy pkipak wdi crk gust cs sdcrp cs wk crk‒ir

kvkh sdcrpkr. Mt fklioks dcrbkr chb dcrbkr ti kbjk cdkcb

ie itdkrs chb ocnk iurskavks stchb iut Zk dcvk ti wirn



OMNK F]\RKV24

cldmkvk tdct cllkptchlk akttkr, sullkkb mh tdk fusmhkss wirab,

ir jkhkrcaay oivk eirwcrb mh amek tdk wcy wk wcht ti. Chb mt”s

tdksk oiokhts tdct lch liok ti bkffihk tdk rkst ie iur amvks.

]kt wdkh wk stip chb eilus ih iur frcmhs, wk dcvk tdk

pitkhtmca ti bi gust tdct‒ti akcp cdkcb. ]iu lch cllkakrctk

yiur sullkss wdktdkr yiu”rk mh sldiia, wirnmhj c gif, stcrt-

mhj c fusmhkss, ir skknmhj c wdiak hkw lcrkkr. ]iu lch jkt

oirk bihk mh akss tmok, gujjak liopktmhj bkochbs wmtd kcsk

ct wirn chb mh yiur pkrsihca amek, chb tcnk ouatmtcsnmhj tihkw dkmjdts tdct caaiw yiu ti tcnk lcrk ie truk prmirmtmks ke-

eirtakssay (chb hit ekka jumaty eir akttmhj c ekw tdmhjs sambk).

]iu casi lch frkcn iut ie yiur stctus qui chb kakvctk yiur

silmiklihioml pismtmih ti c aietmkr pismtmih. Mocjmhk, eir mh-

stchlk, fkmhj cfak ti wcan mhti c riio chb rkokofkr kvkry-

ihk”s hcok. Ir fkmhj c fusmhkss iwhkr ir rktcma kopaiykk

wdi lch rklcaa tdk hcok ie kvkry lustiokr wdi dcs kvkr

wcankb mhti yiur stirk (chb tdus nkkp tdko liomhj fcln). Ir

cawcys cbcptmhj qumlnay ti ldchjks mh yiur amek tdct tdrkctkh

yiur amvkamdiib chb cfmamty ti ocnk c amvmhj.

Ocyfk yiu ocbk c amvmhj ffixmhj lcokrcs ivkr tdk pcst

tdmrty ykcrs, fut hit tdk bmjmtca ihks tdct hiw biomhctk tdk

ocrnkt. ]iu omjdt hkkb ti ji fcln ti sldiia, fkliok ch cp-prkhtmlk, ir tcnk itdkr stkps ti clqumrk c titcaay hkw snmaa skt

tdct wmaa pcy yiur fmaas.

Mh c wirab wdkrk mt”s mhlrkcsmhjay bmeffiluat ti ffihb chb

ocmhtcmh c jiib gif, dcvmhj ch cbvchtcjk chb fkmhj cfak ti

rkmhvkht yiurskae wdkhkvkr hklksscry fklioks caa tdk oirk

lrmtmlca. Zdktdkr yiu amnk mt ir hit, oist kvkrytdmhj mh amek

ms c liopktmtmih. Chb mt jiks wmtdiut scymhj tdct wk hkkb

pribultmvk tdmhnkrs hiw oirk tdch kvkr Rdk jiib hkws



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