THE POWER OF ESTEEM

Presented by I M Confident Niagara CanadaCreated by Brenda Silveira

Feb 2014

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• Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself. • Self-esteem is not something you are born with, it is

something you learn from your environment – Good esteem comes from living in a mainly

positive, loving environment– Poor esteem comes from living in a mainly

negative, unloving environment• Self-esteem can change depending on circumstances• Self-esteem can be built at any age• Good self-esteem requires continual work to maintain

What is self-esteem?

Comparing Strong and Poor Esteem

• Having little or no confidence in yourself

• Not using your abilities• Feeling worthless • Not accepting yourself• Developing poor behaviours• Having low self-value

• Hating yourself and your

appearance

POOR ESTEEM IS:• Having confidence in

yourself and your abilities• Having respect for yourself • Having a sense of personal

worth• Feeling good about yourself• Accepting your natural body• Knowing you have value• Liking who you are

GOOD ESTEEM IS:

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The Importance of Good Esteem

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Helps you maintain confidence in your abilities.

Helps you to form strong relationships.

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Helps you do well in school and find suitable employment.

Gives you the courage to try new things and risk making mistakes in order to learn and grow.

Allows you to accept your flaws and imperfections.

Allows you to live up to your full potential.

Helps you communicate more effectively.

RATE YOUR ESTEEM

How would you rate your esteem?Just quickly on a scale of 1(low) to 10 (high), what number would you pick?

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The higher the number you chose, the stronger your esteem. If you chose a lower number, don’t be discouraged, you are certainly not alone. About 70% of the people in the work don’t like themselves and have low esteem. This would score most people from 1 to 6. The other 30% would be in the 7 to 9 range.Did you pick number 1 or 2? Your esteem really needs a lot of work but you can build it at any age. It just takes a lot of work and patience. Did you pick number 10? You should question why you chose this number. Feeling that you are the best may be giving you a false sense of security or a feeling of superiority which can cause relationship issues and health concerns.

HOW DID YOU RATE?

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ESTEEM CHECK – try this short quiz1

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I feel that I have as much value as anyone else.

Always Sometimes Never

I am proud of myself and my accomplishments. Always Sometimes Never

I am a good person with lots of good qualities. Always Sometimes Never

I have confidence in my abilities. Always Sometimes Never

I feel that my life is a success. Always Sometimes Never

I have lots of friends who like me for who I am. Always Sometimes Never

I feel comfortable talking to people. Always Sometimes Never

I feel good about my body image. Always Sometimes Never

TOTALS

COUNT THE NUMBER IN EACH COLUMN, THEN MULTIPLY AND ADD TOGETHER

HOW DID YOU SCORE?

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TOTAL

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IF YOUR SCORE IS 7 OR BELOW, IT MAY INDICATE YOUR ESTEEM IS LOW AND YOU NEED TO WORK HARD ON BECOMING MORE CONFIDENT.

Building esteem is a learning process that can be followed by anyone who is committed to moving ahead in their lives. You can stay stuck and struggling or you can work hard to make some positive changes in your life. The choice is yours!

Choose to work hard, make some positive changes, stay focused on your goals, never give up and you will soon find the success and happiness you are looking for.

HOW TO BUILD ESTEEMPOSITIVE

AFFIRMATIONS

SURROUND YOURSELF WITH

POSITIVE PEOPLE, PLACES AND THINGS

CHANGE NEGATIVE SELF-TALK TO

POSITIVE SELF TALK

DEVELOP POSITIVE HABITS

SET GOALS AND LEARN FROM

FAILURES

HELP OTHER PEOPLE

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Please visit www.imconfident.com for more information on building confidence and increasing esteem. Workshops and confidence coaching available.

Looking for self-help materials? Purchase your own copy of the Caterpillar to Butterfly Self-Esteem Workbook and work on building your own esteem. 84 pages of information and activities.Click on the Bookstore page for information on ordering.