the negative aspects of dating many women

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The Jake Hollow Guide on How to Persuade Women

Chapter 3:

NegativE AspectSOur greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.-Confucius

very woman experiences love and appreciation differently. Somewomen feel loved when touched or hugged. Others experience love

when you say certain things to them, while still others feel love when youbuy them things...and the list goes on. Romance is the same.

Let me help you with some questions women ask themselves.

Is he attractive?Is he a player?Should I trust him?Does he have a violent temper?How demanding can I be?How far would he go for me?Would my parents like him?It is a fact you will have to prove yourself.

Fear of embarrassment is a very powerful motivating force. Many greatwell-known actors live their lives terrified of stage fright. Even after years operforming in front of an audience, they will insist on a friend being there to

support them. These actors know that a friendly face will distract them longenough for them to pull through. 1

1 Chapter 15: Positive Thinking and my up-coming book Jake Hollows How to Deal with Emotions and the Life of a Motivational Speaker Part II: Defining

Emotions Chapter 1: Words Can Lie, the Body Cannot

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Part I: Social EngagementsChapter 3: Negative Aspects

It is the same when approaching a woman in a mall, at a bus stop, or in aclub. The fear of ridicule can stop you from accomplishing many of thethings that you would like to accomplish with your life.

Basically, the fear of rejection is you being afraid that you will get hurt ifyou approach women. I will show you how to get over your fears by simplysaying Hior talking to women all the time, having a piece on the side, andgetting your validation from life, not from women. This will help increaseyour confidence and almost make you immune to rejection. It will let youinteract more freely with women.

Your fear of women will scare them away. They want men who can take

care of themselves and who actas if they can take care of themselves.

Personally, you have two options when you want to meet women in frontof others (groups of friends or not).

Option number one is to test my techniques on her and then walk away. Iyou walk away without attempting it, though, your friends may notappreciate your abilities.

Option number two is to make an effort but fail; you choose to puyourself out there and possibly fail rather than be ridiculed. As a result, youmake your best move on her. 2 That is how strong that type of fear ofpunishment can be. 3 By this you will be getting closer in brushing awayyour fears.

Fear of failure can be a very strong emotion, but you will never know if youcan succeed until you make the attempt. As Thomas Alva Edison once said,I have not failed ten thousand(10,000) times; I have successfully found ten

thousand(10,000) ways that did not work.Otherwise, the only way to fail isto quit. You can only fail your way to great success.

2 Meaning you were successful.

3 You did not want to be humiliated in from of your friends.

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You can use this in many situations, from meeting women in general, toyour relationships, to business, etc. Or you can use this to improve theconnection with your inner self.

The fear of loneliness also causes many to stay in failed relationships longafter true love and affection have gone. The important thing is that youworked to fix it even though you are still in the trap. Negative emotionssuch as fear are not very good motivators, but there is no denying that theyare a powerful, persuasive force.

The more you discover the sacred treasure of who you are and what youare capable of, the better equipped you will be to unlock the treasure chestinside yourself. That energy within leads you to explore a greate

understanding that will open the door to greater self-esteem, self-worthconfidence, inner happiness, and peace. Without this knowledgeattempting to love others and yourself can be very confusing. Sometimes,even when you are supporting others and yourself, you unknowinglysabotage your success and relationships.

The most powerful, influencing factor of all is consistency.Being able toproject that you have a consistent set of standards and that you will neverdeviate from them has an awesome effect on women. The longer you

project that you have a consistent set of standards from which you wilnever deviate, 4 the more women will trust you. From there, trust becomesa tremendous ability to persuade.

Before you can learn this, or how to use trust, you must learn to makepeople believe you. Once you bond with women, persuasion will follow. Thecloser the two of you become, the more you can influence her. Do noever let yourself be intimidated. Follow your instincts. Do not be gullible.

Live your life around your dreams, and you will live your life like the movieit was meant to be. Live your life without dreams, and you live a life full odiscouragement, frustrations, and problems.

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When you open a door for a woman, it shows her that you are a gentlemanwith class who is going to take care of her and treat her as a special personIt does not matter how much she believes, politically, that men and women

should be equal, because on a romantic level she will appreciate youmaking this gesture. Whatever you do, do not make this an act, but make ita part of who you are.

Follow your insights, instincts, and intuition. You may be sensitive to subtlenuances and smart enough to understand what they mean to you. You alsohave the tools and wherewithal to put your instinctive knowledge intoaction. Even an insignificant offer of assistance may unlock a significantdoor. A generous attitude attracts prosperity.

Your viewpoint, tolerance, and attitude will make others proud to be in yourpresence. Stand your ground. Do not back down from a challenge or dareInstead, be brave. You can face your fears with ease; take the initiative andadd a few more irons to the fire.

When you catch a womans attention, you must arouse all of her sensessuch as sound, sight, touch, smell, and taste. You must use your bodylanguage to its fullest. You will be required to rehearse every detail to

ensure a smooth and perfect image of yourself. Often, you may assumethat because you are working so hard to communicate, that she wilautomatically understand you. My friend, this is so untrue.

Most of the time, you simply do not say what you mean.She will judgeyou by what she thinksyou said rather than what you actuallysaid. Andif what you said offended her, it does not matter if that was not youintention. Your intention is not important if she does not understand you.

Remember that what determines her reaction here is how and what you sayto her. Learn to put in every effort to make it easy and clear so that sheunderstands. The key to charm and effective persuasion is not toconcentrate on what you want to get from her; you must focus on whatyou can give her and understand that when you give her what she

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wants, she will give you what you want! Do you follow? If you havegiven good things in the past, it may reward you in the present, sincepositive thinking affects positive things.

As soon as you sense that you are cascading downward, you must dosomething constructive to halt it. Access the energy in your anger and fearand put it to positive use. When faced with an overwhelming setback, youmay understandably see only the negative in your situation. I will help youfind the positive, however.

Now grab some paper, a pen, or pencil.

Look at the problem.

Write down two positives and two negatives. Now write one negative and one positive for each of these positives and

negatives. Continue doing this by having the negatives and positives flow as one unti

you have exhausted all possibilities for looking at situations differently.

You will be amazed at the positives you will find. For every negative, there

truly is a positive.

How do you beat the fear of women turning you down?I told Clifford Lee in an interview I gave him when I was still with Jezebel,You should make your move on a minimum of ten beautiful women aday.But do not hesitate...make your move in less then ten seconds onceyou see them. Women are everywhere; there is no shortage of places tomeet women. Turn every place into a prospective situation to practice. The

best prospect may be just in front of you and you just do not see her.

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You can do this anywhere: a bus stop, a mall, nightclubs, on the street, etcJust say Hiwith a sincere smile, and watch to see if they return the sameThat is all you need to start with. Then just continue to walk.

Now, if you want to be bold, you can add:

Would you like to go some place for a cup of coffee?Or even bolder:

Do you want to fuck?Or:

I want you so bad in my bed.Yes, some women may slap you, some may run, some may be in shockand some women may laugh. However, one of the ten will be interestedbecause of your boldness. Some will just talk with you, while others will goall the way with you...it excited them.

There are two ways to become comfortable with the nos: never takerejections too personally, and never feel foolish. Just see it as one morenothat will lead you to a yes.

1 Determine and ProcessObligation.

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Obligation on its own, I do not agree with, yet obligation as a choice isanother matter entirely. I would much rather do things out of appreciationthan obligation.

Business, dating, and relationships are the same.

Why?They are the same concept in my book. You are taught to compete inbusiness, while in dating and relationships, you are taught to think of yourhappiness first (1st). I, on the other hand, believe in being creative 6 inbusiness, and thinking of whomever I date or am in a relationship with asbeing first (1st) without losing myself. You see, their happiness will make me

happy. Please do not misinterpret this as being selfish.

Here are some different characteristics of women you must learn. Anassertive woman will make her decision quickly. An unassertive woman wiltake her time to make her decision. An emotional woman will be warmwhile an unemotional woman will appear cold. Here are some examples ofhow to be with the four types and how to handle them.

Assertive/Emotional: Dazzle her with how exciting it will be to be a part ofyou.

Unassertive/Emotional: Warm her up slowly; tell her how good you will bothbe together.

Assertive/Unemotional: Tell her the bottom line, and push for a fast decision. Unassertive/Unemotional: Give her as many details as you can since she wil

make decisions based on facts.

How do you determine if she is open-minded or closed-minded?An open-minded woman requires show and tell to persuade her. Aclosed-minded woman must seeand do.

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If she acts on insight, instinct, or intuition, she is dealing with her feelingsand not her visual or auditory senses. For example, she may say, I see

your point,Ihearyou,and, Ifeelthat you are right.Do you follow?Does she process the information you have given her with conscious or unconsciousthought?If she is a conscious thinker, she will process your information with her fivesenses. If she is an unconscious thinker, however, she will go with herintuitive feeling about you. If she is a conscious thinker, therefore, youmust let her see, hear, and touch. If she is an unconscious thinker, it ismore important to romance her. 7

If she is a person who is habitually angry, consider appeasing rather thanantagonizing her.

Be careful not to exacerbate the situation with her by pointlessly taking astand on principles when the wisest course of action may be to agree to herdemands. Do not confuse this as backing down; you are only cooling off the

situation without selling yourself out. You do follow me on this, do you not?2 RejectionsIf your date does not want to kiss you, do not take it personally; it is betterto know now than later. Interpret her rejection to mean she is not ready tokiss you. Maybe you had bad breath, maybe you did not romance her, ormaybe she is testing you. However, I strongly advise you to avoid making itseem that you are a loser. Never, ever, ask a woman:

Why not?7 Taste and Smell.

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It will make you look like a child and not a man. It forces her to saysomething when she has not made up her mind about you or to decidedwhere you fit yet. Whatever you do, do not ask, or beg. Begging makes you

look powerless and shows that you have no control or resolution to makeyour life what you want it to be. It demonstrates to her that you gogroveling through life.

Remember, be patient. Some women will test you to see how you handlethem (and life in general) by saying no.Others just want to see if it is themyou want, or just their bodies. Some just do not want you. There are alsowomen who can read your body language to see if you are a good lover ornot. For them, it does not matter that you maybelieve you are a great

lover or not. It is what they sense that matters. Great lovers do not brag.

Do not dwell on the rejections, but focus on something positive. Maybe sheis involved with someone in a serious relationship, or maybe she just cameout of a bad relationship.

You must realize that if you are persistent, it will make you successful. Keeppursuing beautiful women until you finally have the success you truly wantThis will help build up your self-esteem, confidence, and allow you to pick

up women more easily. Practice makes perfect.

If it is only one woman you want and you feel she is special, then theroad you must take will be different. This will require you romancing hermaking her feel alive, doing exciting things that will not bore her. Alwaysput her first (1st). You must have passion and not worry about whether theoutcome is working out or not.

If you are not interested in a relationship but stop chasing other women

once you find a lover, Ill tell you now that your lover will become yourgirlfriend or future wife, whether you like it or not. 8

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If this is not what you want, than you must continue chasing other womenDo not get me wrong; you can have a part-time lover on the side, as longas it is only once or twice a month sex without misleading her.

Pursuing more than one woman lets women know that you are full of freshenergy; you are more relaxed, more creative, and more exciting since youengage with life. Always make them feel special and interesting. Go withthe flow and see where it goes. You know you have many women to chaseafter, so if one turns you down, it does not matter because she is not youlast hope for sex.

If she is interested in having you as a boyfriend or being in a serious

committed relationship, then be honest and walk away. However, if you areinterested, you must walk away from those who do not seem like the typeyou want to spend your life with. In both situations, you must know whatyou want. Cut to the chase and save yourself(and her) time and energy. Youare a real man who wants respect and who cannot be taken off the coursethat you have set up for your life.

When you are on a date, learn to be decisive. Being decisive shows yourdate that you are a man who is in charge of your life and not wishy-washy

It will put you miles ahead of most of the other boysshe meets.

You, as a confident man and not a boy, will take on the posture that makesyou feel more confident. An unconfident person slumps and slouchesletting your shoulders come forward as if you were terribly depressed; youwould also breathe shallowly.

Ask yourself these questions and answer them:

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Do I keep my head up, or down?Do I breathe shallowly, or deeply?Now work on yourself.

3 Viper WomenI am sure you do not like to be told what to do. You love to be in totacontrol of your own thoughts. But...

Why is it that the moment you are in love (or believe you are), you start to actdifferently?You seem to be in a spell. You are now focused mostly on this new loverwhom you are now in love with. Before this love thing,you used to bemuch more preoccupied with your own concerns and not someone elsesWith this emotion, you have lost the ability to think straight; you begin toact foolishly and you forget about your friends, family, etc. If you are

already in a committed relationship, your spouse will pay.

You surrendered your will and gave it to this new lover because you wantedto possess her. By being in love, you surrendered yourself. You believe youare untouchable or more special than anyone else your new lover has beenwith, or will ever be with. Whatever you do, do not fool yourself. Reality wilhit sooner than you think.

As a real master, you must learn to never fall in love first (1st). You must

only feel that it is truly lust,so that the spell will not hit you. Love9

andlust 10 may feel the same but they are not the same. When you are in lust,you are harder to control, you are not as emotional, and in addition, youare more easily satisfied. For your friends, family, and your spouse, it would

9 Is any of a number of emotions related to a sense of strong affection and attachment.

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be easier to leave your new love affair and not forget those who truly loveyou.

You must learn to pay full attention to the part of yourself that drawswomen towards you or you will seem like a loser, a slime ball, or amanipulator. Learn to pay close attention to women. Otherwise, you wilmake many terrible mistakes and limit your potential.

You may also gather that beauty may not be what will catch your heart in awoman. Rather, it may be a woman who keeps you guessing while she livesher life and entertains you. As a man, you will eventually grow bored with awoman, no matter how beautiful she may be; you will yearn for differen

pleasures and for adventure. All a woman needs to do to turn you around isto create the illusion that she offers you variety as well as adventure. Youare easily deceived by appearances; you have a weakness for the visualYou cannot be bored with this kind of woman. Nor can you discard her folong because you will be back for her.

If she keeps up this distraction, never letting you see who she really is, youwill follow her until you drown. She can transform you, no matter howstrong or responsible a person you are, into a childish slave. The worst are

thewomen who make themselves look like victims so that you will be attheir rescue. While you are waiting to catch your fish, she is all over youdragging you down with her, if you see what I mean.

4 Viper MenYou can walk by a woman and set her heart on fire by just looking hestraight in the eyes from a distance with an intense and clear look. If yousee her again, do it again so that your eyes will be unforgettable to herShe will return the gaze, because she knows most men would not dareapproach her in this manner. Knowing, even believing, that you are onlypursuing her instead of other women will thrill her.By Jake Hollow

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Sending her beautifully written secret notes will leave her to want and waitfor more letters. As a result, she will live to wait for them. Texting is tooeasy; writing by hand is more romantic. You will be on her mind every

moment of her day and night; your spell has worked to numb her senses.

A key to distracting women is to fill their eyes and ears with details, littlerituals, and colorful objects. Detail is what makes things seem real andsubstantial. A thoughtful gift will not seem to have an ulterior motive. Aritual full of charming little actions is so enjoyable to watch. You prefer tofocus on the pleasant little details rather than on the larger picture.



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