the mentor / mentee relationship: how to get the best from each other
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Emily Bennington successfully turned her very first boss into her mentor and, later, her coauthor. This webinar explores what both parties must contribute to build a mutually-rewarding experience.TRANSCRIPT
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The Mentor/Mentee Relationship:
How to Get the Best From Each Other
Emily BenningtonCoauthor, Effective Immediately: How to Fit In, Stand Out, and Move Up at Your First Real Job
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The beginning of my career was, err…
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Me
Skip
…But I had a SUPER mentor.
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Mentoring improves
retention and overall job
satisfaction.
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Two generations ago, the average person held
6 jobs in a lifetime.
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These days, the average is 11+.
Source: United States Bureau of Labor Statistics
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With 495 connections at the time, that’s a head-smacking 25%!
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OR
For employees today, it’s “Why buy the cow?”
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Today is about how to:
Be a Great Mentor
Be a Great Mentee
Build a Great Program
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Welcome to MenteE-Harmony
1: You sync.
2: You set expectations – and maybe part ways.
3: You agree to make a commitment.
4: You realize commitment is work.
5: If you’re lucky, you have a very rewarding experience where you get as much
(or more) than you give.
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1: You sync.
2: You set expectations – and maybe part ways.
3: You agree to make a commitment.
4: You realize commitment is work.
5: If you’re lucky, you have a very rewarding experience where
you get as much (or more) than you give.
MenteE-Harmony @ The Office
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P.S. Some people just don’t click.
…and that’s normal.
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Sometimes work isn’t as fun as it looks in stock
photos.
…that’s normal too.
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When it comes to mentoring…
Think This
Not That
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“You looked directly at the client when you were
speaking. You rock.”
The difference is subtle….
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“Talk to me about what you did right at the client
meeting.”
….but powerful when it comes to how we learn.
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What does every successful
mentor/mentee relationship have
in common?
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Written Goals!
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Halleluiah!
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…some people really get it.
…some people sort of get it.
When it comes to focus…
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..and some people NEVER get it!
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ATTENTION MENTEES!
YOU are responsible for driving the relationship.
It’s YOUR responsibility to
make contact with your mentor, create an agenda for each session, and come prepared to report
on progress.
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Send (or require) a Friday Update each
week.
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If it were left to us, we would all stay safely inside our
comfort zone, but..
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“We cannot become what we
need to be by remaining what we are today.”
Max DePree…
Who Said It?
…or Oprah?
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Mentor MythBusters
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MYTH: Mentoring is a Contact Sport
Long distance romance is tough.
Long distance mentoring… not so much.
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MYTH: Mentoring is Labor Intensive
Studies show significant benefits in
just 1-2 hours per month.
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MYTH: Mentoring is One-To-One
Group mentoring is a cost efficient way to teach colleagues the
same skills at the same time.
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MYTH: Mentoring is Exclusive
Every employee in your organization
who wants a mentor should have access
to one.
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MYTH: Mentoring is for Rising Stars Only
Everyone in your
organization who wants a
mentor should have access to
one.
“While many organizations support mentoring efforts, few
have created organizational environments in which these
efforts can flourish.”
- Triple Creek (3creek.com)
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Why Mentoring Programs Fail
Lack of understanding about how mentoring can benefit the organization.
Source: Triple Creek (www.3creek.com)
Lack of resources to fully implement a formal mentoring program.
Limited knowledge of what a successful program truly entails.
Executive lip service, but no action behind the words.
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A “culture of mentoring” = the very thought of removing the program becomes like
removing the coffee.
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These Guys Get it RIGHT
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They have a program facilitator to “run the show.”
They publicly acknowledge and reward the people who are making their program successful.
They measure.
Recipe for Sodexo’s Success
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Mentoring’s 2-to-1 Return
Sodexo leadership has found that for every $1 invested in the program, there is a $2 return through tangible items such as:
-Reduced turnover
-Better management
-Increased productivity
-Increased customer satisfaction
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Mentors vs. Mentees:Who Grows More?
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2010
Back to my mentor…
2005 He helped me become a better
professional. I helped him become an author, fulfilling a
lifelong dream.
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“The only thing worse than training employees and losing them, is NOT training and keeping them.”
Zig Ziglar
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Mentors are endangered.“Think about your own careers. Those of you who got here with no mentors raise your hand.”
Frank Morgan, Director of Development, Dow
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Your ChallengeFind a mentor.
Become a mentor.
Grow your program.
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