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The Container Concept: Conditions for Creating a Sense of Community
Stillwater Area Public SchoolsAugust 2015
Agenda/Flow
• Introduction/Context• Mission: What is a sense of community?• Vision: Why create a sense of community?• Strategies:– Conditions for creating a sense of community– Sequencing/Flow of the process
• Closing
INTRODUCTION/CONTEXT
We shall not cease from explorationAnd the end of all our exploringWill be to arrive where we startedAnd know the place for the first time
-T.S. Eliot
Protocols
• Assume good intentions• Spinach in the teeth rule
(Ouch/Oops)• Right to Pass• Make it work for you• Others?
CONTAINER CONCEPT
Not all Containers are Alike
We Have Choices…We have Influence…
What are the qualities of your container(s)? How have you & others felt/operated in healthy containers? Unhealthy containers?
Mission: What is a Sense of Community?
From Group to Community“In genuine community there are no sides. It is not always easy but by the time they reach community the members have learned how to give up cliques and factions. They have learned how to listen to each other and how not to reject each other. Sometimes consensus in community is reached with miraculous rapidity. But at other times it is arrived at only after lengthy struggle. Just because it is a safe place does not mean community is a place without conflict. It is, however, a place where conflict can be resolved without physical or emotional bloodshed and with wisdom as well as grace. A community is a group that can fight gracefully.”
M. Scott Peck M.D.The Different Drum: Community Making and Peace
Thomas Sergiovanni states that “the need for community is universal. A sense of belonging, of continuity, of being connected to others and to ideas and values that make our lives meaningful and significant -- these needs are shared by all of us.”
“The people in one’s life are like the pillars on one’s porch you see life through. And sometimes they hold you up. And sometimes they lean on you, and sometimes it’s just enough to know they’re standing by.”
Anonymous
Community is consciousness of connection, combining and comprising: Courtesy, communication, collaboration, cooperation, consideration, caring, compassion, curiosity, commonalities, common goals, confidence, creativity, courage, challenge, camaraderie, and conceivably chocolate.
CTC Group, 2004
"… a feeling that members have of belonging, a feeling that members matter to one another and to the group, and a shared faith that members' needs will be met through their commitment to be together.”
~ McMillan & Chavis, 1986
Vision: Why Create a Sense of Community?
• ACTIVE• AT PEACE• CARING• COMPASSIONATE• CONFIDENT • CONTRIBUTOR• CREATIVE• CRITICAL THINKER• EMPATHETIC • EMPLOYED• FORGIVING• GENEROUS • GET ALONG W/ OTHERS• GOOD COMMUNICATOR
• GOOD PARENTS• HAPPY • HEALTHY• HONEST • INDEPENDENT• INTEGRITY• LITERATE • LOYAL• MOTIVATED• PATIENT• PERSEVERENCE• POSITIVE ATTITUDE• PROBLEM SOLVERS• PRODUCTIVE CITIZENS
• RELIABLE• RESILIENT• RESOURCEFUL• RESPECT• RESPONSIBLE• SELF DIRECTED• SELF ESTEEM • SELF RESPECT • SELF SUFFICIENT• SENSE OF HUMOR• SUCCESSFUL • WELL-INFORMED
VISION
"Many of those personal qualities that we hold dear—resilience and courage in the face of stress, a sense of craft in our work, a commitment to justice and caring in our social relationships, a dedication to advancing the public good in communal life—are exceedingly
From: Alexander, L. & James, H.T. (1987) The Nation’s Report Card: Improving the assessment of student Achievement. Washington, DC: National Academy of Education.
difficult to assess. And so, unfortunately, we are apt to measure what we can, and eventually come to value what is measured over what is unmeasured. The shift is subtle and occurs gradually.”
Creating a sense of community…
SUPPORTS LEARNING
Learning & emotions are intertwined(see amygdala)
Fight, Flight, Freeze inhibits learning
Fear, embarrassment, frustration, boredom…
…can trigger fight, flight, freeze
Fundamental Elements of Brain-based Teaching & LearningCaine, et. al. Brain/Mind Learning Principles in Action
Relaxed Alertness: Creating the optimal emotional climate for
learning
Orchestrated Immersion in complex Experience: Creating optimal opportunities for learning
Active Processing of Experience: Create optimal ways to consolidate learning
Creating a sense of community…PERSONAL/SOCIAL DEVELOPMENT
ThroughFOSTERING A SAFE ENVIRONMENT
Maslow’s
Hierarchy
of Needs
Retrieved from: http://two.not2.org/psychosynthesis/articles/maslow.gif
Security
Esteem
Belonging
Supports Social Emotional Learning (SEL)
See www.CASEL.org
Bullying – More than a label
“A student is being bullied or victimized when he or she is exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more students.”
~ Dan Olweus
Social-Ecological Framework
• Pain• Fear• Adult attitudes• School climate
Pre-Bullying
1. Behavior that, if escalated, could become bullying.
2. Norms that set the stage for bullying if the behavior becomes intentional, consistent, and abusive (e.g. sarcastic humor, put downs, unconscious and/or unchallenged use of derogatory terms)
Strategies: Conditions for Creating a Sense of Community
Elements of Sense of Community
• Membership• Influence• Integration & Fulfillment of Needs• Shared Emotional Connection
McMillan & Chavez
Conditions for Community to Develop• Intentionality
• Safe and Trusting Environment
• Balancing “Me” and “We”
• Ownership
• Positivity
• Others?
INFLUENCE
Safe & Trusting Environment
Intentionality
Balancing “m
e” & “w
e”
Ow
ners
hip
SHARED EMOTIONAL
CONNECTION
INTEGRATION & FULFILLMENT OF
NEEDS
MEMBERSHIP
Positivity
Intentionality is Key
Presenting activities do not, in themselves, guarantee the attainment of lifelong learning and skills.
The more intentional and systematic we can be, the more possible it is to achieve what we wish to achieve.
IntentionalityInvitational Education – a Container Framework
Making time for relationships
Invitational Education
www.invitationaleducation.net
Examples of Tools• Community Meetings• Greeting people when they arrive• Activities• Curriculum & lessons• Books, movies, internet• Rules and norms• Traditions• Peace Circles• Bulletin Boards and signage
INVITATIONAL EDUCATION
INTENTIONALLY UNINTENTIONALLY
INVITING INTENTIONALLY INVITING
UNINTENTIONALLY INVITING
DISINVITING INTENTIONALLY DISINVITING
UNINTENTIONALLY DISINVITING
Safe & Trusting Environment
Safe EnvironmentRelational Trust
Physical/Emotional Safety
• Physical and verbal violence has to be addressed.
• Ground rules and social commitments help in establishing boundaries.
• Instances of harassment, hitting, etc. though, must also be dealt with quickly.
Relational Trust
SEQUENCING AND FLOW
Two Perspectives on Sequencing
1.Ice Melters
2.Deinhibitizers
3.Trust Activities
4.Problem Solving Initiatives
5.Challenges
1. Getting Acquainted
2. Learning to Trust and Support Each Other
3. Communication Skills
4. Setting Goals
5. Problem Solving and Conflict Resolution
6. Extensions
Balancing “Me” & “We”
Empowerment “Me”Social Commitment “We”
Empowerment: “Me”
“Me” Topics
• Noticing vs. praising• Challenge with choice vs. right to pass• Competition• Pseudo choice• Other topics?
SOCIAL COMMITMENT: “WE”
The central message of the consumer culture in which we live is: You’re the most important thing on earth. You’re the heaviest object in the universe and everything orbits around you. And we’ve enshrined this idea as ‘human nature.’ Not remembering that most people in most places have had other things very near the center of their identity – the tribe, the community, their relationship with the natural world, or the Divine – something that gave them more of a sense of identity not obsessively rooted in themselves
Bill McKibbon (Interview aired on May 26, 2007)
Rules & Expectations
• External• Enforced• Safety• Respect
General School/Community rules
Specific Classroom rules
Non-negotiable
Always in Place
Agreements & Contracts
• Internal • Owned
(co-created)• Rights• Responsibilities
Agreed Upon
Important to the Group
Negotiable
Open to Change as Group Evolves
Rules vs. Agreements
• External• Enforced
• Safety• Respect
• Internal • Owned
(co-created)• Rights• Responsibilities
Rules vs. Agreements
• General School/Community rules
• Specific Classroom rules
• Non-negotiable• Always in Place
• Agreed Upon
• Important to the Group
• Negotiable• Open to Change as
Group Evolves
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• People• Talents/Gifts• Ideas• Insights• Inspiration• Life Experience• Family• Beliefs & Ideals• Values• Theories & Models
What Guides You? What shows you the way?
How have you added to your cairn so far at this conference?
OWNERSHIP
GOAL SETTING
The 3 ‘R’s• Routines
What are some routines you have in your classroom/school?
• RitualsWhat are some of your family, cultural, or personal rituals? What are some of your school traditions? What is a rite of passage you have experienced?
• ResponsibilityWhat do you in your classroom/school to engender responsibility toward self and others?
Positivity
Reflections on the 10
• Joy• Gratitude• Serenity• Interest• Hope
• Pride• Amusement• Inspiration• Awe• Love
From: Fredrickson, B. (2009) Positivity: Groundbreaking Research Reveals How to Embrace the Hidden Strength of Positive Emotions, Overcome Negativity, and Thrive. New York, NY: Crown Archetype.
Positivity
1. Broadens our minds and our hearts
2. Transforms us for the better
3. Fuels Resilience
1. Asking questions and focusing outward (open to new ideas)
2. Connectivity and attunement of the team. More responsive to one another
3. Bouncing back from adversity rather than getting stuck in self-absorbed advocacy
Individuals Groups
Positivity Ratio
The Tipping PointFlourishing = 3 to 1
“… only when positivity ratios are higher than 3 to 1 is positivity in sufficient supply to seed human flourishing.” (Fredrickson, 2009)
A Place for Negativity
• Specific negative emotions help us focus and take action (such as in resolving or transforming conflict).
• Global and unfocused negative emotions overwhelm and poison us.
• The difference between anger and contempt or guilt and shame
An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.
It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “the other is good – he is joy, peace, love hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”
I am because we are
Yo soy porque nosotros somos
私たちがいるので、私は
Ako mao tungod kay kita我是因为我们
हम कर रह� ह� क्योंकिक म� कर रह� हूँ�Mimi ni kwa sababu sisi ni
Laurie FrankGOAL [email protected]
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