tck presentation secondary parent workshop 19th march 2013
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Challenges and Opportunities
I am probably not going to tell you something you
dont know but I may well tell you something you
dont know you already know.
David C Pollock
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Explore the impact of transience/change on
our community.
Consider the theory regarding living in
different cultures.Discuss ways of providing for your young
people, at school, at home.
WARNING:
We are experts only in that we work with third culture kids every
day.
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language
dress
behaviour
Shared ideas andbeliefs
values
Learned
Customs
Food
Tradition
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Dr Gary Weaver
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A third culture kid is a person who has spent
a significant part of his or her developmentalyears outside the parents culture. The TCK
frequently builds relationships to all of the
cultures, while not having full ownership in
any. Although elements from each culturemay be assimilated into the TCKs life
experience , the sense of belonging is in a
relationship to others of similar background.
TCKs or ATCKs ( adult)
TCKs re in a neither/nor world. This is not a mix of cultures they
have known as some wrongly believe because TCKs develop their own
life patterns different from those born and bred in one place.
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Third Culture. Ruth Hill Useem, first used Third Culture Kid, 40
years ago in her research on North American children living in India.
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This may relate to you because you may be aTCK or if you have children it may relate totheir journey. You may not be a TCK, youprobably are an Adult TCK.
Take 5 mins to answer these questions by
completing the My Story map. Then shareyour story with the person sitting next to you
1. Where were you born?
2. What passports do you have?
3. Are your parents from the same culture?4. Is your partner from the same culture as you?
5. When did you leave your home country?
6. Which countries have you lived in?
7. Where is home?
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Born
Country 1
Country 2
Country 3
Country 4
Country 5
Different cultures
you have
lived/worked in
Challenges
Challenges
Challenges
Opportunities
Country6
Nationalities
of Parents
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There have always been TCKs but numbers have increased dramatically.
NumbersIn 2007 4 million US living overseas, 1 million Australians. In 2006Japan revealed that 1 million of its citizens were living asexpatriates overseas. More and more children now accompanytheir parents overseas than previously.
VisibilityThe internet blogs has raised the voices of TCKs. Groups haveformed and TCKs have increasingly entered public life, BarackObama
Significance
International travel means that TCKs are becoming morenormal. Cultures are mixing, TCKs have experience thatcountries can learn from...
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1. Being raised in a cross cultural world,
experiencing life in a few countries, havingparents who are from different countries.
2. Mobility is normal. They constantly come and
go as do the people in their lives.
3. Some TCKs are very different physically fromthose around them. Have a very different view
of the world to those around them.
4. Some assume they will return to home
countries. This shapes their decisions.5. Some have amore privileged lifestyle, perks
and travel.
6. Some have responsibility to act responsibly in
line with their role/mission in the host country.
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High mobility. Anger and detachment at moving. Denial can
result in a decision that friends are not friends. Not beingincluded in next years plans because of moving isolation. Closer to separation, the less likely we are toresolve problems. Expectations are lowered to avoiddisappointment. Changing routines and schedules, newpeople, new expectations and responsibilities. Sense of
chaos makes us more self-centred and anxious. Problemsseem bigger than they are. Self esteem under attack whentrying to learn a new culture, language. Frustration andanger eruptions. Loss of self, no one knows what I cando, my talents, my past and no one cares. This transitionphase is feeling of disappointment. Emotional
rollercoaster, one day everything is good, followed by aday of confusion. Because of global travel the period ofloss and transition can be very short, no time to go througha grief process.
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Losses can include : possessions, lifestyle,
pursuits. TCKs were asked at a conference what
are some of your hidden losses
Name three of your own losses
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Hidden losses were;
Separation form siblings boarding school
My historyMy dog
Our dishes
My grandparentsChildhood
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Mock Funeral by Alex Graham James
There was no funeral.
No flowers.No ceremony.
No one had died.
No weeping or wailing.
Just in my heart.
I cant
But I did anyway,
And nobody knew I couldnt.
I dont want to
But nobody else said they didntSo I put down my panic
And picked up my luggage
And got on a plane.
There was no funeral.
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Some TCKs have learned to/had to suppress
sadness. By parents saying you dont need tobe sad youll make new friends there is a
lack of recognition of how the child feels and
an opportunity to comfort is lost.
Confused loyalties political, patriotic, valuesystems. Home verses host.
3D view of the world brings realisation that
behind the headlines are real people.
May be ignorant of home country.
May become more prejudiced, drivers, maids
distance between people in host country.
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Lack of ability to make choices because of
possible mobility.Mistrust of authority, blame parents and
school for problems.
TCKs can be arrogant, I am different
because of the life I lead.May become very anxious about making
mistakes later in life insecurity.
May not have a first language.
The where is home question? everywhereand nowhere...
TCKs or ATCKs are restless, keep moving.
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A Tree with strong roots can withstand the mostviolent storm, but the tree cant grow roots just asthe storm appears on the horizon.Dalai Lama
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Fear of intimacy in case of loss in relationships.Refusal to risk emotional engagement. Build walls.
Some TCKs shut down pain but this also leads tothem shutting down excitement and happiness.
TCKs seem more immature to their counterparts inhome countries. May lack social skills,
sophistication. Experienced in twenties or later - delayed
adolescence, feeling dont fit in with peers.
Development is affected as they are trying to learnthe rules of different environments, may cause
them to retreat. Anger and Rebellion .Extended adolescence can
occur.
Belonging to a system can be difficult for someTCKs.
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I am from
I am from Belgium, where the clouds are usually soaked in
rain,
I am from Italy, where the clouds are always cleared bysunlight,
I am from Poland, where the sky is as dark as coal,
I am from Mozart, whose music charmed peoples heartsand woke their souls,
I am from my dreams and nightmares, where myimagination takes over,
I am from Egypt, whose mysteries haunt peoples minds,
I am from the ocean, where the waves calm my thoughts,
I am from the mountains, where the echo calls my name,
Most of all, I am from my family, where my heart trulybelongs.
Writ ten by TCK Hendr ik Verr i jssen wh en he was
12 yrs o ld
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More confident in managing new situations,
benefit of experience, friends will be madeetc.
Ability to speak two or more languages.
More open to developing relationships faster
discussing political, religious issues as an
example.
Great value placed on relationships, friends
are family overseas and family at home arethe connection to roots.
We all lose people at points in our lives and
TCKs can adapt better and support others.
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TCKs have more global awareness than their
peers in home countries.
May have learned unusual practical skills.
May be more comfortable around adults.Overseas lives often revolve around a system
company, school. This can bring structure
to TCKs who need it, sense of belonging
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Can adapt to their surroundings if they
choose to
Though sometimes moving between groups may result in loss of
personal identity
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Parents need to assess whether their family needs ( health
/education) can be met in the new location.
Educate children about the country and culture there are
living in.
Relationships need to be strong and children need to be
valued.
Realise that a new country can be very stressful for children. Listen to their worries and concerns, do not dismiss them.
Protect them. Be sure that if they are cared for by others they
are safe. For example, nannies and drivers.
Involve children in decision making where possible.
Ensure children farewell important people and places.
Let children keep sacred objects , favourite things.
Create family traditions for fun and to have a history.
What can we do to support TCKs? PARENTS
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What can our school do to support TCKs, somethoughts?
Explain how our school works grades,behaviour, expectations, homework to
combat differences between systems
Tell our stories, students and teachers.
Celebrate diversity.Have TCKs mentor new students.
Help students to make the transition
closure.
Provide the opportunities for them to
continue with their own language where
staffing and curriculum allows.
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Discussion
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References and Reading list
Third Culture Kids. Growing up among worlds. David
Pollock and Ruth Reken
Letters never sent. Ruth Reken
Living Overseas by Ted Ward
Who moved my cheese? by Spencer Johnson
Suggested Web Sites
Interaction International founded by David Pollock
www.interactionintl.org
TCKid.com
www.TCKid.com founded by Brice Royer
Among Worlds
www.interactionintl.org/amongworlds.asp
http://www.crossculturalkid.org/ Heidi Sand-Hart, 2010
http://tckid.com/http://www.interactionintl.org/http://www.tckid.com/http://www.interactionintl.org/amongworlds.asphttp://www.crossculturalkid.org/http://tckid.com/http://www.crossculturalkid.org/http://www.interactionintl.org/amongworlds.asphttp://www.tckid.com/http://www.interactionintl.org/