Roman Catholic Church Saint Joseph

PASTOR: Msgr. David C. Hubba

PAROCHIAL VICARS:

Rev. Roy Regaspi Rev. Anthony Di Stefano

DEACON: GeorgeMontalvo

PASTOR EMERITUS:

Rev. George M. Reilly

MASS SCHEDULE

Saturday 5:00 pm Sunday 7:30am, 9 am,

10:30 am, 12 noon

DAILY Weekdays 7:00 am

& 8:30 am Saturday 8:30 am

HOLY DAYS as announced

Miraculous Medal Novena

Monday, 7:00 pm in Mary’s Chapel

Eucharistic Adoration First Wed. of Month

9 am—5 pm in Mary’s Chapel

SACRAMENTS

Confession: Saturday, 4:00 pm - 5:00 pm

Baptism Contact the Parish Office

Marriage Arrangements should be made

with a priest at least one year in advance.

Homebound/Hospital Call Parish Office

Christian Initiation of Adults—RCIA Contact Parish Office

PARISH REGISTRATION Contact Parish Office

Office Location Phone Email/Fax Website

Parish Office 105 Harrison St., New Milford 201-261-0148 office@sjcnj.org Fax #: 201-261-0369

sjcnj.org

Religious Education 105 Harrison St., New Milford 201-261-1144 religioused@sjcnj.org sjcnjre.org

Saint Joseph School

the greenhouse PreK

305 Elm St., Oradell 201-261-2388 office@sjsusa.org sjsusa.org

Twenty Seventh Sunday in Ordinary Time ~ October 7, 2018 Oradell/New Milford, NJ

Office Hours: (Parish) Mon-Fri.: 9 am - 5 pm; (Rel. Ed.) Mon.-Thurs: 10 am-4 pm (Also by appointment.)

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SAINT JOSEPH CHURCH ORADELL/NEW MILFORD, NJ

I wanted to take this opportunity again to say thank you to the wonderful team of individuals who made this weekend possible. I never thought in my life that I would have the type of healing and peace that this week-end brought me. I feel like this is just the beginning of my healing, but that I am now on the right path. I also never thought that my story could resonate with others. Several individuals on the retreat spoke tome about how my story affected them. That meant so much to me. I also feel so much vailidation for my feelings that I previously felt were wrong because they were from my perspective and my personal hurt. I also want you to please, please relay the following message to Father Kelly and Father JasonI in this difficult climate of priest scandal, where priests in general are vilified, I want them to know how much I appreciated them this weekend. … (continued opposite)

A LETTER FROM A WOMAN WHO ATTENDED

RACHEL’S VINEYARD RETREAT ON SEPT. 7-9, 2018

Please let anyone who needs to hear the message know how important their role is in this retreat. It wouldn’t be the same without them. … I know this is not goodbye and I’m so glad that I chose to attend this retreat in the Archdiocese of Newark. There is definitely a connection now, it feels like home, and I feel truly blessed to have met you all. God’s plan and timing is better than we can ever predict or imag-ine. Like Father Kelly said, we just have to get out of His way. With love and light, I look forward to the next time we meet.

Are you suffering from an abortion experience? Do you have feelings of guilt

and anxiety? Do you suffer from depression? There is Hope! Rachel’s Vineyard Retreats.

rachelsvineyard.org

Have you endured physical, emotional, and/or spiritual abuse? Find healing through a

retreat program facilitated by mental health professionals, and centered on Jesus Christ!

Grief to Grace: grieftograce.org

For more information contact the Respect for Life Office

Cheryl A. Riley 973-497-4350 or rileyche@rcan.org

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TWENTY SEVTH SUNDAY IN ORDINARY TIME ~ OCTOBER 7, 2018

Thanks to all of you who have kindly prayed for me during my time of illness. Your prayers and expressions of sympathy

and encouragement that accompanied them have helped me more than you know and more than I can express. I am also grateful to my doctors for their professional expertise and enormously helpful kindness. I don’t know if I am free to mention their names publicly, so I won’t. They are affiliated with Holy Name Medical Center, where I encountered beautifully human help from all its staff, whether their work involved providing technical medical care or support services (housekeeping amenities, meals, and, of course, spiritual support). All these coalescing aspects of care show that Holy Name has committed itself to creating and sustaining a rich culture of compassionate excellence, something that happens by dedication and not by accident. I was never ill before my recent adventures. Whenever I thought of illness in terms of myself, it was mostly to think that at least it would give me the chance to do some enjoyable reading—a wrong judgment because of my impaired ability to concentrate that the conditions of illness imposed on me. Instead, I wound up listening to the radio a lot, which made me prey to some minor obsessions. For example, most traffic reporters insist on pronouncing New York’s Van Wyck Expressway “Van Wick.” The road, one of Robert Moses’ s many ambitious projects, was named for Robert Van Wyck, the first mayor of a five-borough New York City, who served from 1898 to 1901. Family members pronounce the name “Van Wī ke,” and they should know. This pronunciation carries with it the additional advantage of rhyming with the name of the great Dutch painter Van Dyke, which you would think should count for something. If the reporters wish to one day cover art, they had better take note. And, while we’re at it, wouldn’t any of them, or any recent New Yorker who comes from Kansas, indignantly correct anyone who pronounced Manhattan’s Houston Street like the Texas city rather than as “House-ton?” You can bet on it. Anyway, only when my health was improving could I reflect usefully on the reality of illness in our lives. The contemporary writer Paul Auster has reminded us that

You think it will never happen to you, that you are the only person in the world to whom none of these things will ever happen, and then, one by one, they all begin to happen to you, in the same way they happen to everyone else.

(continued above)

The 19th-century writer Henri-Fre de ric Amiel was the son of a French Huguenot family that fled to Switzerland after the Edict of Nantes. He became a philosophy professor in Geneva and kept a journal that was published after his death. One entry has interesting and valuable comments on illness and health, with allusions to the Psalms and the Gospel:

How frail a thing is health, and what a thin envelope protects our life against being swallowed up from without or disorganized from within! A breath, and the boat springs a leak or founders; a nothing, and all is endangered; a passing cloud, and all is darkness! Life is indeed a flower which a morning withers and the beat of a passing wing breaks down; it is the widow’s lamp, which the slightest blast of air extinguishes.

Amiel reminds us that our lives really belong to God, that

Life has been lent to us, and we owe it to our travelling companions to let them see what use we make of it to the end. We must show our brethren both how to live and how to die. These first summonses of illness have besides a divine value; they give us glimpses beyond the scenes of life; they teach us something of its awful reality, and its inevitable end. They teach us sympathy. They warn us to redeem the time while it is yet day. They awaken in us gratitude for the blessings which are still ours, and humility for the gifts which are in us. So that evils though they seem, they are really an appeal to us from on high, a touch of God’s fatherly scourge.

“Whoever is dear to me I … chastise ” (Rv 3, 19).

Msgr. David Hubba

FROM THE PASTOR’S DESK

We welcome back our pastor, Monsignor David Hubba, who will be resuming his “From the Pastor’s Desk” column in our parish bulletin.

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SAINT JOSEPH CHURCH ORADELL/NEW MILFORD, NJ

SHAWL MINISTRY MEETING —OCTOBER 9

Saint Joseph’s Shawl Ministry will meet on Tuesday, October 9 from 2:00-4:00 pm in the Parish Life Center on Grove Street. All knitters & crocheters are welcome to join us in making shawls…or bring your current yarn project and spend a relaxing afternoon with us.

Our ministry has shawls available for those experiencing illness, confinement, bereavement, or other situation. For further information, please contact Barbara Piersa at 201-261-0298.

A SPECIAL “MONTHLY PRAYER WITH MARY”

—OCTOBER 13 On Saturday, October 13, the 101st Anniversary of the appearance of Our Lady at Fatima, the Legion of Mary invites you to be part of a Rosary procession to honor

the Blessed Mother. The procession and prayer will immediately follow the 5:00 pm Mass. Everyone is welcome to participate. The Rosary will be recited as the procession moves around the church. The ceremony will conclude inside the church with prayer and Marian hymns. We hope you can join us for this very special prayer experience.

SEPARATED & DIVORCED HEALING MINISTRY

NEXT MEETING—OCTOBER 15 Saint Joseph’s Separated and Divorced Healing Ministry meets twice a month on Mondays. It is open to men and women of the Catholic faith and also to non-Catholics who feel they may benefit from the program. The Surviving Divorce Program gives hope and healing to the Catholic family and can do so for non- Catholic families as well. In Part One of the workbook that we will be using, it includes such topics as Finding Perfect Peace. The DVD series addresses Getting Your Bearings; Finding Strength and Help; Getting Through Your Anger; Dealing with Depression. We pray and share together. All sharing is confidential. All are welcome. Our next meeting is October 15 at 7:30pm in the Lower Church (Jackson Room). We offer a compassionate and caring environment. (If you wish to attend the Miraculous Medal Novena at 7:00 pm that precedes our meeting, there is time to do that.)

ALL SOULS MASS —NOVEMBER 2

A Mass commemorating the faithful departed (All Souls Day) will be celebrated at Saint Joseph Church on

Friday, November 2 at 7:30 pm. At that Mass, the names of all those who have had funerals at Saint Joseph Church this year will be read. You may also include the name of your loved one who died this year (even if their funeral was not celebrated at Saint Joseph). Please call the Parish Office at 201-261-0148 by Friday, October 26 in order to have your loved one’s name read at the Mass.

PARENTS: Please pick up a Permission Form for your child in the church literature racks or at the rec-tory/parish office or go to our parish website at sjcnj.org and click on “Ministries.” Then click on “Liturgical Ministries” and then download and print the document found under “Altar Servers.”

An opportunity for NEW and CURRENT SERVERS to come together to learn all you need to know.

SURVIVING DIVORCE: A 3-DAY RETREAT SATURDAY MORNINGS: OCT. 27, NOV. 17 & DEC. 1 Our Lady of the Blessed Sacrament in Roseland, NJ

The Archdiocese of Newark is sponsoring a three-day retreat for the separated and divorced. Each day features DVD sessions that cover topics of shock, denial, anger, grief, guilt, forgiveness and more and includes small group discussions. Whether you got divorced ten days ago or ten years ago, this program offers valuable insight and support. Sessions run from 9:00 am to 1:00 pm. Cost of the three days is $20 and includes a personal guidebook, refreshments and a light lunch. For information on how to register, contact Lauren Egan at 973-497-4327 or at Lauren.Egan@rcan.org

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Saturday 5:00 pm

Sunday 7:30 am 9:00 am 10:30 am UC 10:30 am MC 12:00 pm

Monday 7:00 am 8:30 am

Tuesday 7:00 am 8:30 am

Wednesday 7:00 am 8:30 am

Thursday 7:00 am 8:30 am

Friday

7:00 am 8:30 am

Saturday 8:30 am3 5:00 pm

Sunday 7:30 am 9:00 am 10:30 am UC 10:30 am MC 12:00 pm

STEWARDSHIP REFLECTION “So out of the ground the Lord God formed every best of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to the man to see what he would call them; and whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. (Genesis: 2:19) The creation story reminds us of two important points. First, since the start, God has put the entire world into our care. Second, stewardship has been around since the beginning of mankind, it isn’t something recently invented by the Church. Just as generations built our Church, it is now our responsibility to continue to nurture and develop these gifts for future generations.

PRAYER REQUESTS

Let us remember all those who are ill: Carmen Jimenez, Baby Anthony Jackowski,

Marie La Mendola

Let us remember all those who have recently died: Joseph Minervini

Let us remember those serving in the military.

BREAD & WINE INTENTIONS

The bread and wine for the week of

October 7, 2018 is offered

in loving memory of

Angelo Bartolomeo as requested by the

Clancys and O’Rourkes.

TWENTY SEVENTH SUNDAY IN ORDINARY TIME ~ OCTOBER 7, 2018

SUNDAY COLLECTION Sept. 30, 2018 Oct. 1, 2017 Basket $6,989 $8,234 Electronic Giving $3,825* $3,742 Total Sunday Collection $10,814 $11,976

*Electronic contributions are received on a monthly basis. In our bulletin report, they are divided by the number of weeks in the month (five in September 2018).

October 6, 2018 Katherine Tarantino

October 7, 2018 People of the Parish Kenneth Humiston Marlene Wassil Anna Ryhy (30th Anniversary) Remedios Santos

October 8, 2018 Juana Zilvetiz Rita Malasek

October 9, 2018 Katherine Tarantino Deceased Members of the Legion of Mary

October 10, 2018 Luis Regaspo Gerald Byrnes

October 11, 2108 George Kriss James McLoughlin

October 12, 2018 Dennis Subrizi Luis Regaspi October 13, 2018 Mary Patricia Counselman Edna Grimm (20th Anniversary Remembrance)

October 14, 2018 People of the Parish Caterina Mattera Eleanor T. McCarthy William Peter Fox Paul A. Rota

PARISH OFFICE CLOSED MONDAY, OCTOBER 8

The parish office/rectory will be closed NEXT Monday, October 8 in observance of Columbus Day.

EARLY DISMISSAL AT SJS Saint Joseph School will be in session for a half day of instruction on Monday, October 8, with early dismissal at 12 noon.

SOCIAL CONCERNS MEETING—OCTOBER 11

The next meeting of Saint Joseph’s Social Concerns Committee will take place on

Thursday, October 11 at 7:30 pm in the Saint Joseph School Cafeteria. Our ministries include the Family Promise Walk-in Dinner Program and Shelter Minsitry, Food Drives, New Hope for Children, Respect Life, Shawl Ministry and support for the sick and those with special needs. If you’d like to help in any of these ministries, join us on October 11 or call Joan at 201-265-5823.

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WATCH YOUR MAIL ...for an invitation to attend our “Relax and Unwind” event and for your 50/50 Raffle

tickets to support the children helped by “New Hope for Children” (see above).

HOME BUYER EXPO —WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 17

6:00-8:30 pm FREE ADMISSION LOCATION: Two Bergen County Plaza, Hackensack

(next to Court House) In respone to requests, the Bergen County Division of Community Development is hosting a weeknight event that will feature a range of useful linformation and resources for homebuyers. Please call 201-336-7206 or email americandream@co.bergen.nj.us to register now as space is limited.

See our bulletin in full color at: sjcnj.org

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MASS FOR THOSE AFFECTED BY ALCOHOLISM—OCTOBER 20

A special mass and a support group meeting for all who are affected by the disease of alcoholism will take place at Church of St. Mary, 20 Legion Place, Closter, NJ on Saturday, October 20 at 12:00 noon. Mass is offered for the support, healing and recovery of not only the man/woman directly affected with the abuse of alcohol and/or drugs, but also for anyone involved in the life of the alcoholic or drug addict. For information please call 201-768-7565.

SJS WINTER ENRICHMENT PROGRAM

IS LOOKING FOR

VOLUNTEERS Saint Joseph School is looking for volunteers from the parish who might like to share a skill with our students during our indoor winter recess enrichment program.

Examples of special skills include knitting/crochet, art, scrapbooking, board games, yoga/relaxation, card games, bring and build own Legos, computer games, paper crafts, robotics, etc. Our Parent-Teacher Organization supports our enrichment program. If your topic requires supplies, please let us know ahead of time to permit purchase. Also, we need to know if a class size limit is important to your topic so everyone has a positive experience. The program takes place from January 2 through February 28 (7 weeks). Volunteers can participate one day per week, or more, if availability permits! The time for the enrichment is 11:45 am—12:30 pm. If you hear the calling and are able to help enrich the learning experience for SJS students, please contact principal Dr. Valenti at valentip@sjsusa.org or by calling 201-261-2388.

Share Your Skill

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