s h e p h e r d i n g p a r e n t s stepping up to the plate …
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S H E P H E R D I N G P A R E N T SStepping Up to the Plate
…Stepping Up to the Plate
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Think Getting on Base …
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First, the Pitch …
Build the NEED
Build the NEED
Clarify the need for churches to equip parents for discipleship.
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First Base …
Build the NEED
Build the NEED
BUILD a
relationship of trust
Train ministry leaders to develop relationships, not only with children and youth, but also parents.
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Second Base …
Build the NEED
Build the NEED
BUILD a
relationship of trust
FOCUS on truth
Focus the relationships around Biblical truth.
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Third Base …
SHARE the
responsibility
Build the NEED
Build the NEED
BUILD a
relationship of trust
FOCUS on truth
Build team cooperation between church and home to disciple children and youth.
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Home Plate …
Transfer it
HOME!
SHARE the
responsibility
Build the NEED
Build the NEED
BUILD a
relationship of trust
FOCUS on truth
Transfer the responsibility for spiritual training of children to the home.
S H E P H E R D I N G P A R E N T SParents Want Help!Parents Want Help!
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Searching & Urgent Questions
Five Cries of Families …1. Understanding2. Close family3. Moral behavior4. Shared faith5. Outside help
S H E P H E R D I N G P A R E N T S… and then they go
home!… and then they go
home!
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… and then they go home!
• Please discuss the two questions on page 8 in your small group.
• Person with the most relatives living with you is the leader.
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… and then they go home!
Model“The rule of thumb we have arrived at is that
parents are well advised to maximize their influence while the child is young.
The older a child gets, the more distracted and vulnerable he or she becomes to non-
family influences.”George Barna,
Transforming Children into Spiritual Champions, p. 58.
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… and then they go home!
Teach“Most teenagers and their parents may not
realize it, but a lot of research in the sociology of religion suggests that the most important social influence in shaping young people’s religious lives is the religious life
modeled and taught to them by their parents.”
Christian Smith, Soul Searching, p. 56.
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… and then they go home!
Talk“Ninety-one percent of the teens surveyed
for the Gallup “Cries of Teens” Survey reported a ‘very strong’ or ‘strong’ need to
be listened to. The poll findings affirm that all teenagers, male and female, want their views to be
considered and want to be taken seriously.”Tim Smith,
Seven Cries of Today’s Teens, p. 135.
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… and then they go home!
Write and Bind“One of the most apparent demonstrations
of the spiritual nature is participation in religious traditions and rituals …
for our strong families, tradition and ritual are outward expressions of a deeper
commitment.”
Nick Stinnett and John DeFrain,Secrets of Strong Families, p. 112.
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… and then they go home!
Support“Nearly 3 in 10 parents surveyed (29%) report no support from any source other than their spouse or partner — not even
from extended family. Nearly 60% have only one source of support
other than their spouse or partner.” Parenting Matters,
Search Institute
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… and then they go home!
What About Me?I believe I need to …
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First Base …
Build the NEED
Build the NEED
BUILD a
relationship of trust
Train ministry leaders to develop relationships, not only with children and youth, but also parents.
S H E P H E R D I N G P A R E N T SRelationship BuildingRelationship Building
S H E P H E R D I N G P A R E N T SMinistering to FamiliesMinistering to Families
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Fifty-two ways to impact families …
Now that you’re warmed up …
What is one idea you can do …this week?
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•Set a Time•Get Your Bible•Gather the Family•Read the Passage•Pray
How to have Family Devotions
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Second Base …
Build the NEED
Build the NEED
BUILD a
relationship of trust
FOCUS on truth
Focus the relationships around Biblical truth.
S H E P H E R D I N G P A R E N T SFocus on EvangelismFocus on Evangelism
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GodJohn 3:16
TrustActs
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CrossRomans
5:8
ManRomans 3:23;
6:23
… the gospel changes lives.
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Third Base …
SHARE the
responsibility
Build the NEED
Build the NEED
BUILD a
relationship of trust
FOCUS on truth
Build team cooperation between church and home to disciple children and youth.
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Letters to friends …
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Mentoring types …
Intensive• Discipler• Guide• Coach
Occasional• Counselor• Teacher• Sponsor
Passive• Contemporary• Historical
S H E P H E R D I N G P A R E N T SBuilding Strong FamiliesBuilding Strong Families
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Search the Scripture
1 Samuel 1:1-28Read thru this passage and identify elements that you think illustrate the six points of a healthy family.You might also look at unhealthy elements and state how a healthy family would act.
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Commitment
Unhealthy
Healthy
Commitments are doubted or broken, and family members are discouraged.
Commitments to Christ and each other are recognized, and traditions facilitate discipleship.
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Appreciation
Unhealthy
Healthy
Show little appreciation for other family members, instead tears them down with words – or silence.
Appreciation is openly expressed, received and graciously returned.
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Communication
Unhealthy
Healthy
Communication is infrequent, strained or harsh. Understanding is not nurtured, nor are feelings.
Communication is promoted, and feedback fosters better understanding and health.
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Time Together
Unhealthy
Healthy
Time management is always a struggle. Family members seem disjointed and pushed.
Provision is made for special and normal time spent around common values of home and heart.
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Spiritual Wellness
Unhealthy
Healthy
Spiritual growth is absent, neglected or avoided. Family members are not unified, often confused and sometimes angry.
There is a strong overflow of Christian virtue which comes from a dynamic faith in Christ and each other.
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Coping with Crisis & Stress
Unhealthy
Healthy
Small stressors can derail the home because there has been consistent lack of building up one another and strengthening relationships.
The ability to cope with difficult times is developed by conflict resolution during normal times.
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Healthy Families Exhibit
CommitmentAppreciation
Effective CommunicationTime Spent Together
Spiritual HealthAbility to Cope with Crisis &
Stress
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Let’s Pray
In groups of two, pray briefly for a family you know that
needs to be strengthened in one of these areas.
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Home Plate …
Transfer it
HOME!
SHARE the
responsibility
Build the NEED
Build the NEED
BUILD a
relationship of trust
FOCUS on truth
Transfer the responsibility for spiritual training of children to the home.
S H E P H E R D I N G P A R E N T SFormat for a Family
EveningFormat for a Family
Evening
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A Simple Plan for a Family Evening
• Pray• Play• Eat• Learn• Care
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Opening Prayer
• Let’s practice a Family Evening at Home.
• Assign someone to open our family home time in prayer.
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Play (game time)
• Play the A to Z game
• … without the electronic baby sitter (pgs. 55, 56)
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Eat (council time)
• A time of application, motivation and commitment.
• Mealtime (page 55)• Like ‘Council Time’
only it’s family!
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Learn (handbook time)
1. Review the material on page 53 of your workbook, and have a lesson on “How to Do a Family Evening at Home.”
2. OR take a lesson from your workbook at which you have not had a chance to look.
3. Better yet, let’s memorize a verse together!
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Closing Prayer (care)
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Questions to Implement
• How will you do this?