ruth first fellow sisonke msimang
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With friends like these:
The politics of friendship in post-apartheid South Africa
Tonight I present to you, my research. It took the form of many late
nights grappling with texts – everything from social network theory to
studies on urban space and planning to philosophy. What it produced is
fairly unique, part of a growing genre known as documentary theatre. I
have taken - verbatim – the words of people like Sindiwe Magona,
Njabulo Ndebele, Dennis Brutus, Zama Ndlovu, Sekoatlane Phamodi and
many others, and asked Lebo to perform them, to make them visual.
I chose this methodology because I wanted us to remember that we
have already written many, many important things about race and
justice and humanity in this country. I also chose the documentary
theatre genre because here in South Africa fact is often stranger and
more poignant that fiction. In this context, performing real words on a
stage forces us to confront their importance and it moves us beyond
business as usual.
Lastly, I chose this genre because I wanted to signal that there is a new
generation of contemporary thinkers - people like Milisuthando
Bongela, Danielle Bowler, TO Molefe, and others who are cited in this
work, whose words are as much a window into this country’s collective
soul as those of Gordimer or Coetzee or Paton.
Now that the season of realpolitik is upon us and the rainbow myth is
receding we must ask ourselves whether we still need a framework of
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reconciliation that presupposes friendship across the races as an
important and useful barometer of the health of the nation.
Some will argue that the question of friendship is frivolous. They will
say we must be more concerned with matters of politics and economics
than of emotion and that we don’t need to be friends; we simply need
not interfere with one another’s destinies. Others will insist that we
must indeed be friends. They will wring their hands and argue that to
abandon the very idea of friendship is to abandon an important national
ideal and perhaps to abandon a peaceful future.
Perhaps – counter-intuitively – we must hold onto both instincts. On
the one hand, our progress in improving the conditions of black people
must be central and must be guided not by a desire for blacks and
whites to be friends, but by the need for black people to live dignified
and equal lives that are commensurate with those of their white
compatriots. In defence of this, we must be prepared to alienate whites
(and for that matter blacks) who do not accept this as a fundamental
reality and to be unconcerned if they leave and seek their fortunes
elsewhere.
On the other hand, we must accept that although the notion of inter-
racial friendship has sometimes threatened to overshadow the
importance of black dignity, it is crucial that we keep its possibility alive,
even as we tend to the more urgent matters of preserving and elevating
the meaning of black personhood.
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We must begin to build a genuine and robust culture of respect in
contemporary South Africa. This is difficult because so much
unintentional damage was done by our country’s first iteration of
reconciliation – what I refer to as Reconciliation 1.0. There were many
flaws in that first version, but in light of palpable anger and discord on
race in recent years, we have a new opportunity to develop a new more
honest code – call it the open source version. For all you activists here,
who insist on speaking out and not making it easy: you are indeed at the
forefront of designing the upgrade and I salute you.
Perhaps though in thinking about that code we must stretch our minds
back to ancient times, to the Greeks, to Aristotle in particular. For
Aristotle, philia was the most perfect form of friendship. The great
philosopher suggested that there are three kinds of friendship:
friendships of convenience where the parties interact for example in
order to do business or BEE deals; friendships of pleasure, where if the
pleasurable thing – say drinking or smoking crack – disappeared then
the friendship would too; and friendships of character, in which “one
spends a great deal of time with the other person, participating in joint
activities and engaging in mutually beneficial behavior.”
In his view, “Between friends there is no need for justice, but people
who are just still need the quality of friendship; and indeed friendliness
is considered to be justice in the fullest sense.”
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In other words Aristotle argued that between real friends, there is
seldom need for the interventions of outsiders – justice is made possible
by the nature and depth of the relationship. In short, where there is
trust, there is no need for strongly enforced rules. By extension then,
those who consider themselves to be good and moral cannot be truly
good or moral if they do not have the ‘friends’ –to prove it.
For the white South African, who is surrounded by millions of black
potential ‘friends,’ the implied question in Aristotle’s framing of the
relationship between friendship and justice is, ‘Are you just?”
Because of our history, this moral and practical question is especially
directed at white people. Friendship should and must be of great ethical
and philosophical concern for whites. White people in this country
should worry and be pained by this matter although blacks need not be
for obvious reasons of demography and history.
If we are to replace the distorted idea of the rainbow with a more
honest but no less aspirational vision of dignity and respect, whites will
need to give up their ideological and practical specialness and they will
also have to reject the increasingly irrelevant, weepy and unhelpful
mythology of Rainbowism. Those who are truly invested in the future of
this country will also have to stop hiding behind their emotions and
their tears whenever the subject of race comes up.
One of the tenets of the rainbow era was that those of us who extended
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our hands across the racial divides were thwarting racism. If the racist
hates it when children play together, then surely those of us who
encourage our children to interact are not racist.
Unfortunately it is not so simple. Friendships involving people who are
more powerful than us have seldom served black people well. The
power imbalances are too great, the possibilities for manipulation and
domination – even by those with good intentions – are simply too high
to assume that light friendship is the answer.
Today, a generation into democracy, young black people raised to
believe that friendship across the races is an indicator of progress are
questioning this. They are asserting that friendship - if you want it - is
not free of responsibility. Some of them are going further so say that
friendship is simply not on the cards for them.
In a South Africa trying desperately to figure out a way forward these
assertions are not easy to speak aloud. Yet they represent a
recalibration of our aspirations. Some people are worried by this: They
are scared of what they call ‘separatism.’
I am not, mainly because this sort of robust honesty does not mean that
we have abandoned the idea that ‘race’ is empty -- a construct that
should neither bind nor divide anyone. We can both believe in the
need for a just world in which race is meaningless, and accept that in
this time and place, ‘race’ is a term that is bursting with meaning.
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Can we be friends across these ‘racial’ boundaries? Yes we can. And no
we cannot. It’s that simple and that complex.
I am so grateful to Ruth First whose life and death speak to us across the
ages. And I am thankful to the committee for keeping her memory alive.
In particular I want to thank Indra De Lanerolle & Eusebius McKaiser
for pushing me to be more rigorous.
Lastly, thank you to the talented Lebo Mashile, who took a leap of faith
and is here to perform these words.
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SISONKE: Dennis Brutus said:
LEBO WALKS IN AND STANDING CENTRE STAGE:
LEBO: There will come a time we believewhen the shape of the planet and
the divisions of the landwill be less important/We will be caught in a
glow of friendship/A red star of hopewill illuminate our lives/A star
of hope/A star of joy/A star of freedom1
SISONKE: Today, a cohort too young to have ever known formal apartheid is
asking why they should trust whites. But Brutus reminds us that
freedom in South Africa has always had a spiritual and moral quality.
The founders of this democracy believed that they were creating a
society in which friendships could and should exist across the races.
Helen Joseph remembers walking into prison with Lilian Ngoyi after
the women’s march when with some bitterness, Ngoyi said to her:2
LEBO: WALKS AWAY FROM CENTRE STAGE AND THROWS THE LINE
OVER HER SHOULDER AS THOUGH SHE IS SPEAKING TO JOSEPH.
SHE SOUNDS IRRITATED.
‘You are better off with your pink skin.’
SISONKE: Joseph agreed and thought of her friend once they were both in
prison.
LEBO: SITTING IN ‘JAIL POSE,’ WITH ARMS CROSSED OVER HER KNEES.
‘My pink skin brought me a bed, sheets, blankets. The mattress was
revolting, urine stained. But Lilian slept on a mat on the floor with only
1 Dennis Brutus. Untitled. Delivered at the eighth meeting of the Network of Intellectuals and Artists in
Defence of Humanity and the World Forum for Alternatives, October 18, 2008.
2 For a full discussion (including these quotes) of the phenomenon of prison friendships during the apartheid
era, see: Caine, Barbara. "Prisons as spaces of friendships in apartheid South Africa." History Australia 3.2 (2011): 42-1.
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blankets. I had a sanitary bucket with a lid. She had an open bucket
covered with a cloth.’
SISONKE: Similarly, Elinor Sisulu writes that when she was imprisoned with
Albertina Sisulu, Barbara Hogan kept asking:
LEBO: STANDS AND SOUNDS LIKE AN AGITATED MADAM.
‘Is Ma Sisulu being given this food? If she is not, then I don’t want it.
Take it away.’3
SISONKE: In Gauteng’s older established townships, a survey shows us that
77% of black people say that they will never be able to trust whites,
and almost half of whites polled feel the same about blacks.4
The days of friendship stronger than the bars of a jail cell seem
distant now, so distant that when speak with nostalgia about Joseph
and Ngoyi and Sisulu Lebo says:
LEBO: WALKS TO SISONKE’S LEFT AND STANDS CLOSE. SPEAKS
SKEPTICALLY AND INTIMATELY LIKE A FRIEND.
I wonder if we arent being idealistic about this solidarity? Does it look
more real because the consequences of white people's actions in
showing support for black people were so harsh back then? Did
struggle offer a place for intimate and sincere friendships,
like sisterhood (echo) ? I am thinking of how we support each other in
close relationships, especially female friendships. The kinds of
friends who help you get out of bad relationships, who pick you up
when you are down, who watch your kids when you need to take care
of yourself, who tell you when your man is up to shit... Did relationships
across colour go there?5
SISONKE: I am shaken. The old idea of friendship as a tool for anti-racist
struggles seems irrelevant and old-fashioned now.
Sekoetlane Phamodi confronts interracial friendships with a
thoroughly modern sensibility: by deleting his white Facebook
friends.
3 Cited in Caine, Ibid.
4 Jennings, Ross. "Survey of surveys: A survey of citizen-based surveys conducted by provincial and local
government in Gauteng." (2015). 5 Personal communication. Lebo Mashile, June 18, 2015.
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LEBO: STEPS A FEW STEPS LEFT TO FACE AUDIENCE FULLY.
As I trawled through profile after profile and album after album,
piecing together both my real and Facebook life narratives and where
my “friends” fit into it, I started to notice a disturbing pattern.
A vast majority of my “friends” were white. And, for an overwhelming
majority of these, I was one of a handful of Blacks in their social
circles. Wait, what?...In every friends list and every photo album, I
found myself playing a bittersweet game of “spot the Black.” Our
mutual friends were almost always lily white. The social events were
lily white. And the status updates and posts were well punctuated
with whiteness. I began to turn this over and over in my mind. How
was it that in a country where more than 80% of the population was
Black, I found myself the sole or one of a handful of Blacks in a lily-
white list, party or picture frame? How was it that in a country where
more than 80% of the population was Black, my white “friends” had, if
at all, so few Black meaningful friends? 6
SISONKE: Simamkele Dlakavu also reflects on a Facebook fight, reminding us
that just beneath the surface there is often a well of white rage: She
writes about witnessing a Facebook explosion. Her friend Sinazo
posted, “It seems that if you're white and male 70% of the work is
[already] done”. This is the response she got:
LEBO: WALKING AND PACING IN FRONT OF THE PODIUM.
“Actually my friend you [are] so far [from] the truth it's actually scary.
White men especially young white men have [it] very tough in this
black empowered country. Now try be a white male and look for a
job in this anti-white country... well sorry hun it ain't going to happen
due to the fact that us white folk don't meet the BEE requirements. My
husband is a white male and 70% of his work isn't done for him hey. If
anything he has had to work harder due to the fact that his skin ain't
black. So let's rather say be young and black and my darling this
country is your oyster. But yet everyone is so up in arms about
apartheid... personally it's the best thing that happened for young
black south africans [sp] cause now white people especially men don't
stand a chance here. 7
6 How white is your friends list? S. Phamodi - personal blog. 1 January, 2013.
http://mrphamodi.co.za/2013/01/how-white-is-your-friends-list/
7 Building Authentic Interracial Relations. Simamkele Dlakavu. March 24, 2015. Independent On-Line.
http://www.iol.co.za/news/building-authentic-interracial-relations-1.1836446#.Va0D0ni2Dds
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SISONKE: Mmmn. No wonder then, that many of us are sceptical of white
friends. Their feelings matter more than ours. Our gains are seen as
their losses. Zama Ndlovu illustrates:
LEBO: SITTING IN STRAIGHT BACKED CHAIR. AS IF IN AN OFFICE.
My first promotion came in 2009, a year so bad the economy saw a
record negative economic growth. Despite this, I was one of a handful
of people to get a coveted promotion. A white male friend and
colleague cut my celebratory mood short with a passing comment:
“Let’s not pretend your promotion had nothing to do with affirmative
action.”
SISONKE: Ndlovu is remarkably insightful about this personal sleight. She
notes:
LEBO: Over time I have had to constantly remind myself that my white friends
and I occupy the same spaces but live in different worlds. In their
world, apartheid was a 46-year-long incident that ended in 1994, the
moment Nelson Mandela dropped his ballot into the ballot box.8
LEBO & SISONKE: With friends like these who needs enemies?
SISONKE: It is not only that whites are insensitive to the experiences of their
black friends, it is also the case that whites who are friends with one
another often form strong bonds over casual racism. Remember this
news item?
LEBO: CONTINUES TO SIT AT CHAIR (ADD GLASSES?)
(newsreader’s voice) Two University of Pretoria students will face disciplinary action after a
photo of the two dressed up as black domestic workers went viral.
The photo shows the two women covered in brown paint, wearing
scarves over their heads with pillows stuffed into their skirts to make
their buttocks look bigger.
The photos were posted on Facebook but were soon removed after a
public outcry.9
8 Ndlovu, Zama. “Some of my very best friends are white.” Mail and Guardian. (30 September 2014).
http://mg.co.za/article/2014-09-30-some-of-my-very-best-friends-are-white
9 News24 Students face action over racism. August 6, 2014.
http://www.news24.com/SouthAfrica/News/Students-face-action-after-blackface-20140806
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SISONKE: Why do fun and carefree moments of white youthfulness so often
involve mocking and denigrating black people? After this event, on
radio someone called into PowerFM and asked,
LEBO: PICKS UP THE CHAIR AND PLACES IT CENTRE STAGE. THEN SITS
AND MIMICS DRIVING AND TALKING ON CELL PHONE. THEN
SHOUTS/RANTS LIKE AN ANGRY LISTENER WHO IS DRIVING AND
TALKING AT THE SAME TIME.
“How can we be friends with these whites when their children can so
quickly forget the intimacy of being mothered by black women?”
SISONKE: The TRC should have investigated the domestic labour system. It
might have helped whites understand that in South Africa racism
and intimacy are not mutually exclusive, that in fact racism and
intimacy are often bedfellows. Novelist Sindiwe Magona’s star
character Stella tells this story:
LEBO: PUTS ON APRON (PANTY WILL BE ON THE ARMCHAIR
ALREADY) WALKS TOWARDS THE ARMCHAIR AND BEGINS TO
POLISH IT WITH THE PANTY/DUST-CLOTH.
There swimming afloat in that water of hers was her panty…she’d left
it there for me to wash.
What? Me? I taught her a lesson, that very first day. I took something,
a peg, I think, and lifted that panty of hers and put it dripping wet to
the side of the bath which I then cleaned until it was shiny shiny.
You think she got my message? Wrong. Doesn’t she leave me a note?:
Stella, wash the panty when you wash the bath.”
What do you mean what did I do? I did not go to school for nothing. I
found a pen in her bookshelf and found a piece of paper and wrote her
a note too: “Medem,” I said in the note, “please excuse me but I did not
think anyone can ask another person to wash their panty. I was
taught that a panty is the most intimate thing…my mother told me
no one else should even see my panty. I really don’t see how I can be
asked to wash someone else’s panty.”
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That was the end of that panty nonsense.”10
Lines delivered as both Lebo and Sisonke laugh.
SISONKE: …The most intimate thing. Cleaning and feeding whites in a racist
society is intimate. And we all know that intimacy is complicated. In
2010, Sarit Swisa a master’s student at this institution interviewed
young white South Africans about their attitudes towards the
nannies who raised them.
LEBO: LIKE A LANKY WHITE BOY LEBO THROWS HERSELF ONTO THE
ARMCHAIR.
Ethan: Jah, like I have racial issues but it would never – she’s different.
She doesn’t fall under that category in my book and...the thing is as
well; she’s the only domestic that we’ve ever had that I’ve been close to.
The rest have been...they come, they go, they steal, they this, they that. I
don’t trust them.
LEANS FORWARD AND SITS PROPERLY ‘LIKE A GIRL’ TO DELIVER
LAURA’S LINES.
Laura: Like, even from a young age we always tried to help her to get
better at her English and um, my mom used to pay for her to study
while she was working for us so that she could not be a maid but she
just chose that that was better for her. But at least she did get an
opportunity to study and stuff so, which is good for her if she ever
decides to do anything else.11 (Chorus)
SISONKE: These children remind us that white people have never quite known
what to do with black people’s feelings. Our labour has mattered:
our arms that push strollers; our backs that carry white infants; our
hands that wash white women’s panties.
More than that, as Rian Malan reminds us in this passage from his
memoir, black female bodies have often been used in other ways by
white male teenagers:
LEBO: CENTRE STAGE – IN FRONT OF THE PODIUM. LEBO WILL WALK
AND COME CLOSE TO SISONKE TO USE HER AS A PRO, AS THE
10 Magona, Sindiwe. Living, loving and lying awake at night. Interlink Books. 1995. Page 86. 11
Swisa, Sarit. Domestic Bliss: How a group of white South Africans understand their relationships with the domestic workers who raised them. Thesis written in partial fulfillment of a MA in Clinical Psychology, University of Witswatersrand. December 2010.
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BLACK WOMAN WHOM HE SNEAKS TO VISIT. THIS WILL
HUMANISE THE SCENE.
After practice I set off on foot down to Abbotswold Road, swept along
by a gang of jeering, sniggering teenage boys. Whenever I stopped,
they joshed and jeered so I had to keep going. We came to a big white
house. My mates decamped outside under a streetlight and I slunk
down the dark alley that led to the servants quarters, moving on tiptoe
because what I was about to do was unlawful. I tapped an iron door
and the black woman opened it, wearing a satin nightgown.
The room smelled of all the things I associated with servants – red
floor polish, putu, and Lifebuoy soap. Even her bed was waist-high on
bricks to thwart the tokoloshe. I took off my clothes and clambered
onto it and then I was in her arms, overpowered by the smell of her,
and terrified, utterly terrified. I couldn’t talk to her because we had
few words in common. I didn’t know what to do. I recoiled at the
thought of French-kissing her, but I did it anyway because I was a
social democrat and I did not want to insult her. And then I pulled
up the nightie and like instants later it was over. I rolled off and asked,
‘Was I good? Am I big enough?”
She said yes.
She was very kind.12
SISONKE & LEBO: This is why we cannot yet be friends.
SISONKE: I wonder if her version of this story would be punctuated with
laughter or with tears? The rituals of white male bonding in South
Africa have historically involved laughing at and then violating black
bodies bodies. The objects of derision are often – but not always –
women. This news item too began with laughter. The joke in this
instance was on two Muslim men with beards.
LEBO: MOVES TO STRAIGHT-BACKED NEWSREADER CHAIR.
Mohammed Kazi, aged 27 was beaten to death outside a Chicken
Licken outside Magaliesburg. He was with his Uncle Ansar Mahmood
who survived the savage attack.
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Malan, Rian. My Traitor’s Heart. Grove Press. 1990. Excerpted and edited from pages 44 - 45
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Mahmood told Sapa by telephone on Wednesday. That quote "Two
white people ... called him [Osama] bin Laden in Afrikaans because of
his beard ... and then they called us kaffirs,"
"I don't know what he hit me with. I was unconscious."
"They wanted me dead also, but I survived."
North West police said a murder docket had been opened for Kazi's
killing.13
SISONKE: The white men who killed Mr. Kazi were brothers: a bond even
closer than friendship. Roedolf Viviers was sentenced to just eight
years for the murder. His brother walked free. I think of Xolela
Mangcu who has noted that:
LEBO & SISONKE: STANDS UP BUT STAYS IN PLACE IN FRONT OF THE
NEWSREADER’S CHAIR.
This country is moving closer and closer to the brink of racial
war, simply because white people refuse to take seriously the
pain of black people.”14
SISONKE: The present climate is combustible in part because whiteness itself is
constructed as being under fire. Inside the laager, whites have a
camaraderie, united by their victimhood and by blacks increasing
‘racialism.’
The celebrated artist Willem Boschoff offers a stunning example of
this mentality:
LEBO: WALKS TO CENTRE STAGE IN FRONT OF PODIUM. SITS ON THE
FLOOR AND MIMICS TYPING ON A LAPTOP IN ORDER TO
DELIVER THIS RANT.
I am proud to be labelled racist if it means that:
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Andrew, Miranda. Muslim man beaten to death over beard. 8 August, 2012. Mail and Guardian. http://mg.co.za/article/2012-08-08-muslim-man-beaten-to-death-over-beard
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Mangcu, Xolela. Race transcends class in this country: A response to Seekings and Nattrass. 6 April 2015. Daily Maverick. http://www.dailymaverick.co.za/opinionista/2015-04-06-race-transcends-class-in-this-country-a-response-to-seekings-and-nattrass/#.VbcO8Hi2Dds
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I am revolted by dim-witted 4x4 politicians/I appreciate security walls
electrical fences, alarms and guard dogs/ I detest crime and criminals
no matter what the colour of their skin/ I fly into a rage when sports
teams are forced to select undeserving players/ I could scream in
frustration when jobs are given to unqualified people…15
SISONKE: The ideology whites have built in service of themselves in this
country lives and breathes through their allegiances to one another –
it is facilitated by friendship, egged on by a shared sense that they
are under attack by people who don’t look like them.
Many blacks are outraged by Boshoff but Ferial Haffajee has a
different take: she is tired of black outrage because she thinks that
whites are of diminishing importance in South Africa. She writes:
LEBO: STANDS AND SPEAKS IN A HIGH AND FRILLY OBLIVIOUS VOICE.
Think Bonang. Cassper. Minenhle. Do we celebrate how lovely we are
as deeply as we rage at remnant racism?16
SISONKE: Haffajee has no time for this talk about black victimization. She
doesn’t understand our race obsession when we are now in charge:
LEBO: I see a generation saying it is enslaved in a system of white supremacy
– I feel I live in another world in one country; my freedom is precious
and I would yield to nobody, especially 21 years after it finally arrived.
I imagine no white supremacy because freedom means I don’t have to
countenance it any longer. And if found, you can today, kick it away
like a cowboy boots away a piece of tumbleweed in a Western.17
KICKS AN IMAGINARY PIECE OF TUMBLEWEED.
SISONKE: I don’t agree with her - at all - but I accept that her challenge forces
us to imagine what it will be like to one day to:
LEBO & SISONKE: kick racism away like a cowboy boots away a piece of
tumbleweed!
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Taken from the Willem Boshoff Artists Page website. Last accessed July 28, 2015. http://www.willemboshoff.com/documents/artworks/RACIST_IN_SOUTH_AFRICA.htm 16 Haffajee, Ferial. Old white men, a younger white woman and the state of black outrage. City Press. May
15, 2015. http://www.news24.com/Columnists/Ferial-Haffajee/Old-white-men-a-younger-white-woman-and-the-state-of-black-outrage-20150515 17
Ibid.
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Whoooo! Laughter and laughter from Lebo and Sisonke
SISONKE: This day will come I hope but it will need white people to think about
the words of Njabulo Ndebele:
LEBO: SITTING IN ARMCHAIR LOOKING PROFESSORIAL.
If South African whiteness has an opportunity to write a new chapter
in world history it will have to come out from under the umbrella
of international whiteness and repudiate it. Putting itself at risk, it
will have to declare that it is home now, sharing in the vulnerability of
other compatriot bodies. South African whiteness will have to declare
that its dignity is inseparable from the dignity of black bodies.18
SISONKE: Repudiating the protections of whiteness always preoccupied
Nadine Gordimer. In the 1980s she talked about why she didn’t move
to Zambia in characteristically descriptive terms:
LEBO: STANDS AND WALKS TO DELIVER THESE LINES IN A CHEEKY
MANNER.
I discovered I was only a European there like any other white person. I
took that very hard. At least in South Africa, even if I get my throat
cut, I’m an African.
SISONKE: Her ideas on where whites fit in – the subject of an early 1959 essay
by the same name – offer us a guide for today’s questions.19
LEBO: BODY ACTS OUT THESE WORDS – THEY ARE SO MOVEMENT
BASED.
If we're going to fit in at all in the new Africa, it's going to be sideways,
where-we-can, wherever-they'll-shift-up-for-us. This will not be
comfortable…Its…a matter of whites learning how to live in a different
way, truly accepting what is coming which is black majority rule and
not fearing, not wanting guarantees of group rights which will set
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Ndebele, Njabulo. Iph’indlela: Finding a way through confusion. In fine Lines from the box, further thoughts about our country. Umuzi, Random House. 2007. The essay was written in 2000 and can be found at http://www.njabulondebele.co.za/images/uploads/finding_a_way_through_confusion_green.pdf Last accessed: July 28, 2015. 19
Where do whites fit in? was published in Gordimer, N (1988) The Essential Gesture. London: Mackays of Chatham.
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them aside, set them apart, mark them out forever…They cant be
wanting to boss people around and doing all their thinking for them.20
SISONKE: It is hard to imagine whites fitting in sideways where they can. But
we must. We must ask ourselves: if South African whites are to be
ordinary and not special how might they behave?
LEBO: INTERPLAY BETWEEN SISONKE AND LEBO WHERE THEY ASK AND
ANSWER ONE ANOTHER’S QUESTIONS. LEBO LOOKS AT SISONKE:
Perhaps a young white man buying his first home would be prepared
to live in an affordable and pretty home in Soweto’s swankier parts.
SISONKE: SISONKE LOOKS AT AUDIENCE. We cannot be friends if the very
thought of making a smart financial decision of that kind repulses
him and his parents.
LEBO: Maybe a group of concerned white citizens can voluntarily - without
any prompting from black people - seek to change the name of John
Vorster Drive to Fatima Meer Road.
SISONKE: We cannot be friends if whites aren’t willing to celebrate our heroes
as their own.
LEBO: Perhaps white parents in the Saxonwold neighbourhood where Malan
had his encounter would re-enrol their children at the neighbourhood
schools alongside the children of their domestic workers.
SISONKE: We cannot be friends if whites cannot see the sense and national
importance of a single education system in which the destinies of
black and white children are intertwined and equally valued. But
there is more: whites must perform these nation-building and
privilege busting acts.
LEBO: without any expectation of praise or hero-worship for subjecting
themselves to the same conditions as blacks.
SISONKE: Then one day without even noticing it - because it will happen
without dramatic announcement or need for validation - we might
wake up and realise that we have fallen into friendship and one
morning just like that,
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Topping Bazin , Nancy; Dallman Seymour, Marilyn. Eds. Conversations with Nadine Gordimer. P. 308.