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ParentingCreating Standard Bearers of Islam
By chance or by choice……Your child is your legacy to the world
Ask: What do I want to be remembered for?
To fly, even eagles need a push3
10 – Rules of Islamic Parenting1. Live your message2. Introduce Allah3. Introduce Rasoolullah4. Systematic Islamic education in parallel5. Manners (Akhlaaq), Dealings (Muamilaat)6. Concern for others, Compassion, Courage, Justice7. Physical & Mental toughness, Conflict Resolution8. Scheduling time, Multi-tasking, Networking9. Accepting responsibility, Communication10. Drive for Excellence: Being Number One
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Live your messageIf you live it, you don’t have to say itDemonstrate what you want others to do
�ة� ن ح�س� و�ة� س� أ �ه الل س�ول ر� ف ي �م �ك ل �ان� ك �ق�د ل
�ر� و�ذ�ك خ ر� اآل �وم� ي و�ال �ه� الل ج�و �ر ي �ان� ك (م�ن لا ير* �ث ك �ه� الل
Al-Ahzab 33:21 Indeed in the Messenger of Allâh you have a good example to follow for him who hopes in (the Meeting with) Allâh and the Last Day and remembers Allâh much.
Introduce Allahم ن �ذ ين� ال ب �ك� �خ�و(ف�ون و�ي د�ه� ع�ب �اف5 ك ب �ه� الل س� �ي �ل أ
ه�اد5 م ن �ه� ل ف�م�ا �ه� الل ل �ضل ي و�م�ن ه د�ونAz-Zumar 39:36Is not Allâh Sufficient for His slave? Yet they try to frighten you
with those (whom they worship) besides Him! And whom Allâh sends astray, for him there will be no guide.
ج يب� � أ ق�ر يب� (ي ن ف�إ (ي ع�ن �اد ي ب ع �ك� �ل أ س� ذ�ا و�إ
�وا �ؤم ن ي و�ل ل ي �وا يب �ج ت �س ي ف�ل د�ع�ان ذ�ا إ الد�اع د�عو�ة�د�ون� ش� �ر ي �ه�م �ع�ل ل ي ب
Al Baqara 2:186And when My slaves ask you (O Muhammad ) concerning Me, then , I am indeed near. I respond to the invocations of the supplicant when he calls on Me. So let them obey Me and believe in Me, so that they may be led aright. 6
Introduce RasoolullahPosition of Rasoolullah , His rights on the Ummah,
following Sunnah, His Mission and our responsibility
�ا ي ي( �ب الن ع�ل�ى �ص�لJون� ي �ه� �ت ك ئ و�م�ال� �ه� الل ن� إ(م�وا ل و�س� ه �ي ع�ل Jوا ص�ل �وا آم�ن �ذ ين� ال Jه�ا ي
� أ يم*ا ل �س ت
Al- Ahzab 33:56 Verily Allâh & His Angels send Salât on the Prophet (Muhammad SAW). O you who believe! Send your Salat on (ask Allâh to bless) him (Muhammad SAW), and greet (salute) him with the Islâmic way of greeting (As Salâmu 'Alaikum).
Islamic education in parallel1. Aqeeda 2. Arabic language3. Tajweed, Qirat & Tahfeez-ul-Qur’an4. Tafseer5. Hadith6. Seerah 7. Fiqh8. Anbiya, Sahaba, Islamic history focus on lessons
8Only needs 4 – 5 hours per week
Manners (Akhlaaq), Dealings (Muamilaat)
Children listen with their eyes: They do what they seeManners are the best da’awa, influence peopleDemonstrate honesty, integrity, truth, trustThe Sunnah is the best guide: Teach Adab (respect)Rasoolullah said: I was sent to teach people manners
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Teach Islamic manners -Not local culture and superstition
Demonstrate concern for:Family members, Environment, Servants, Strangers, Road
users, Neighbors Participate in social work, community service, poverty
alleviation, adult literacy, disaster relief projectsDemonstrate compassion & concern for justice even
when you are not personally affected by oppressionTeach them to stand up for their convictions and to take
up the cause for other’s rights
10Demonstrate concern through service
Concern for others, Compassion Courage, Justice
Mothers must stop pampering childrenRegular exercise, Team sports, physical fitnessNo complaining: Find solutions to problemsHorse riding, swimming, martial artsInculcate physical courage: Teach survival skills,
experience physical hardship & hungerTeach how to disagree without being
disagreeable
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The difference between falling & failing is the willingness to get up
Physical & Mental toughness, Conflict Resolution
Wake & Sleep earlyRegulate TV, Eliminate video gamesDaily account (Muhasiba) & diary writingPunctuality: Keeping promisesChoosing friends: Your friends define youGive them a standard to judge their friends
12Discipline differentiates between winner & loser
Managing time, Multi-tasking, Networking
Don’t do school projects for them: Let them learnCare for Commons: home, neighborhood, schoolRespect for the law, duty, nobilityDevelop intelligent interests: Reading, experimenting,
gardening, petsTeamwork: No competition between siblingsTeach public speaking, writing, debating, logicNever take sides between children: No favoritism
Don’t use children as pawns in your politics13
Accepting responsibility, Communication
“Winning is not a sometime thing: It’s an all-the-time-thing. You don’t win once in a while, you don’t do things right once in a while, you do them right all the time. Winning is a habit. Unfortunately so is losing….I firmly believe that any man’s finest hour – his greatest fulfillment to all he holds dear- is that moment when he has worked his heart out in a good cause and lies exhausted on the field of battle – VICTORIOUS.” ~Vince Lombardi
14To win is to take others with you
Drive for Excellence: Being # 1
This is the most valuable gift that you can give to your child
Because true love is to make him/her strongNot weak and vulnerable
