nancy vera - nonverbal communication: it's not what you say, it's how you say it
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Helping Government Serve the People ®
Nonverbal Communication:
It’s Not What You Say, It’s How You Say It
Presented by Nancy Vera
Communication is essential to understanding and
connecting to the world around us.
Discussion topics include:
1. Context, body language, and cultural differences
2. Congruent delivery of verbal and nonverbal messages
3. Techniques for addressing body language
Welcome
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Benefits of Good Communication
Good communication can:
• Reduce conflict
• Strengthen relationships
• Help people adopt ideas
• Increase productivity
• Improve quality of work
• Create a positive and trusting work environment
Nonverbal Communication
What we say without using words – mostly visual cues
Allows people to:
• Reinforce verbal information
• Convey emotional information
• Define or reinforce a relationship
• Provide feedback
• Regulate the flow of communication
When communication is authentic, communication is
congruent.
Incongruence occurs when verbal and nonverbal
communication do not match.
• Verbal communication tends to be sent with intent and can
be strategic.
• Some nonverbal behaviors are harder to control.
Communication Relationship
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If nonverbal communication does not match verbal communication,
the “listener” will believe what they see (nonverbal).
Facial Expressions Paralinguistics
Body Language, Postures, and Gestures
Proxemics
Eye Contact
Haptics
Appearance
Artifacts
Types of Nonverbal Communication
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Paralinguistics
“The most important thing in communication is hearing
what isn’t said.” – Peter Drucker
Nonverbal communication can act as verbal
communication “punctuation“.
My name is Nancy.
My name is Nancy?
My name is Nancy!
Body Language
Posture sets the tone. Are you:
• Sitting/Standing
• Shaking your head?
Gestures can reinforce what you say
• Wave
• Point
• Head nod
• High fives
Be Aware: The meaning of gestures varies by culture!
Proxemics
Depends on the individual, the situation and culture
The invasion of space can communicate:
• Dominance
• Avoidance
• Indifference
• Aggression
• Affection
How can invasion of personal space effect communication?
How do you tell a person they are invading your space?
Eye Contact
Can be solely used to communicate a nonverbal
message
Conveys a variety of meanings
• Upset
• Redirection
• Interest in subject matter
• Confusion
Three C’s of Nonverbal Communication
Context
Clusters
Congruence
• Environment
• History of
Relationship
• Individual Roles
• Combination of
cues
• How do they fit
together
• Do the words
match the tone
and body
language?
- Beyond Words, Jeff Thompson
Top 10 Tips for Improving Nonverbal Communication
1. Pay attention to nonverbal signals
2. Look for incongruent behaviors
3. Concentrate on voice tone
4. Use good eye contact; avoid distractions
5. Ask questions about nonverbal signals
6. Use signals to make communication more effective
7. Be aware of how signals are clustered
8. Consider the context of the situation
9. Remember some nonverbal signals are not universal
10.Practice, practice, practice