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  • O ye who believe! save yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is Men and Stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who flinch not (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allah, but do (precisely) what they are commanded.
  • Al-Qur'an, 66-6 (At-Tahrim)


  • Your riches and your children may be but a trial: but in the Presence of Allah, is the highest, Reward.
  • Al-Qur'an, 064.015 (At-Taghabun)

4. Prophets sayings.

  • Verily a believer leaves behind the following from his deeds after his death:
  • Knowledge he taught and propagated.
  • Righteous children he left behind.
  • Books he left behind.
  • Masjid he built.
  • House he built for the travelers.
  • Canal of water he built.
  • Charity he gave from his money when he was in good health in his life. Ibn Maja.

5. Comparison o f Environment

  • Society of my Children
  • Open interaction of genders
    • Co-ed Schools, etc.
  • Open Secular environment
  • Societal norms conflict with Islam
  • I dont do it unless I understand,why?
  • Society of my Parents
  • Closed interaction of genders
    • Public separation
  • Closed secular environment
  • Societal norms less conflicting with Islam
  • You do it because I SAID SO!

6. Solution

  • Open to understanding the environments
    • Realize the reality, before the reality makes you realize.
  • Communication
    • Two way street
  • Flexibility
    • Bend but dont break

7. Issues

  • Drugs
  • Alcohol
  • Pre-marital relations
    • Dating
    • Home Runs
      • AIDS; STDs
  • Completely denouncing Islam

8. Identity Crisis

  • Since Muslims are new to this land, the youth have no model identity to look at.
    • What Category do I fall in?
    • Who do I belong to?
    • How should I dress?
    • How should I talk? What language?

Note:The identity crisis is also very prevalent in the adult Muslim community 9. Changing Identity

  • Why do youth change their Identity?
  • Innate feeling/desire to be accepted
  • Societies influence on its norms not being in line with the norms of Islam
  • Lack of acceptance anywhere else
  • Inferiority Complexes
  • Peer Pressure

10. Inferiority Complexes

  • Low Iman
  • Lack of Understanding
  • Little or no Knowledge
  • Weak Personality
  • No sense/feeling of belonging

11. Peer Pressure

  • Weak Personality---BUT THATS OK
  • Unable to convey true feelings
  • Fear of rejection
  • Lack of options (no other friends)

You end up being a product of their entertainment 12. Effects of Losing Identity

  • Unhappiness
  • Blindness
  • Loss of Focus in Life
  • Fights
    • Friends
    • Family

13. The answer to Why?

  • There are many factors contributing to the overwhelming dilemma facing the Muslim youth...
  • -Lack of Islamic understanding by both parents and children
  • -Lack of Islamic environment
  • -Little or no Islamic peer groups
  • -Generation Gap
  • -Little or no communication between parent and child
  • -Parents who fail to convey their knowledge of Islam to their children

14. Dos and Donts Helpful hints for parents raising children in North America 15. Dos

  • Educate children about the completeness of Islam and its higher purpose.Help your child understand that Islam is not just rules and regulations.Be a living example for your child.
  • Become your childs best friend.Communication is the most valuable tool you will have in understanding your child and helping them understand you.With no communication there will be no understanding.With no understanding there will be no achievement.

16. Dos

  • Involve yourself and your family with the Islamic community at local and national levels. From social groups to workplace environments, the Islamic atmosphere plays a major role and is highly important for a persons well development.
  • Although we can not force our children to choose peers of our own likings, we should instill the importance of Islamic brotherhood/sisterhood and encourage our children to make friends with those that share the same Islamic views and wish to achieve the same goals.

17. Dos

  • 5.With the understanding that our children are growing up in a much different day and age than we did, we must be open to their likes and dislikes.No matter how difficult it is for us, we must understand that there might be certain things in our childs tastes and behaviors that are against our culture but not against Islam.
  • 6.Patience, love, and affection are the three characteristics that you as a parent must have with your child.Be affectionate with your child,give them love and respect, and always be patient with them. If you give them these three things, they will, in return, give you the same.

18. Donts

  • Do not confuse your children by incorporating cultural views with Islamic teachings.What is cultural might not be Islamic.
  • Do not make your childrens decisions for them.Give them enough Islamic understanding so that you can trust their judgement.
  • Do not be distant with your child.Develop an atmosphere with your child that will allow him/her to feel comfortable to come to you about any problem they might be facing.

19. Donts

  • 4.Do not condemn your childs ability to involve himself or herself in Islamic activities.Allow them to socialize themselves with any and all Islamic activities regardless of what stereotypes or conflicting interests you might have.
  • 5.Encourage your child to excel in academic studies.However, do not over burden them and make them lose focus of Islam.Always inspire them to educate themselves farther into Islam.

20. Donts

  • Do not condemn early marriage.If your child is mature enough and is mentally prepared then encourage them and help them find a suitable mate. Do not postpone your childs wedding due to financial reasons. Allah is the ultimate provider, not you.
  • 7.Never condemn your childs thoughts and feelings.Let them express themselves to you.If you disagree, then explain why.Just because I said so is not an answer.

21. Donts

  • 8.Dont be pessimistic with your childs dreams, desires, emotions, appearance, and feelings.When they do something good, let them know you are pleased.As parents, we tend to forget the good things and we always remember the bad things.

22. Who do we blame?

  • Who do youblame, the wolf for attacking the sheep? Or the shepherd who went to sleep?

23. DUA

  • And those who pray, "Our Lord! Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous."
  • Al-Qur'an, 025.074 (Al-Furqan)

24. Young Muslims is a division of the Islamic Circle of North America