muslim family and youth

8/14/2019 Muslim Family and Youth

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Muslim family

& youth

Musbri Bin Mohamed

Yayasan Pekida

Malaysia


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In the name of Allah the Most Gracious, the MostMerciful.May He bestow His peace and blessings

on His Messenger Muhammad, his family, hisCompanions, and all of those who follow themsincerely.

"We will show them Our signs

in the universe and in their

own selves, until it becomesmanifest to them that This

(Quran) is the truth". (Holy

Quran: 41/53)


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Family issues are some of the toughest that we

must face in this life. Despite the gift of ourfamilies, they are also one of our greatestchallenges.

Allah confirms this in the Quran in numerousplaces when He mentions the inherent tests that

lie within family life.


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The family is at the center of the Islamic way oflife anywhere in the world.

The Qur'an exhorts the believers, "Saveyourselves and your families from hellfire," thusplacing the family at the core of one'sresponsibility in this life.

Numerous hadiths (sayings of the ProphetMuhammad, PBUH) extol the virtues of takingcare of one's family.

Prophet Muhammad

(PBUH), has said,

"A fathers' teaching his childgood manners is better than

giving a bushel of grain (in

charity)"(Bukhari).


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The key in family life, as in all things, however, isfirst to know Allah, the Creator of everything, toknow His deen, and to know ourselves. When wecommit and engage ourselves in this ongoingwork, insha-Allah, He will provide us withinsight, wisdom, knowledge, forgiveness and the

peace of heart that will allow us to think and actclearly in a way that is best for all parties.


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Muslim youth have been harmed by socializingvia the Internet on sites such as myspace.com,facebook.com, friendster.com, and xanga.com.

Muslim youth are hooked into the same dangersas non-Muslim youth of today's society

Do not buy rock music tapes (out of love for yourchild) nor allow him/her to listen to any hardrock. Encourage outdoor activity in preference to

indoor (e.g. TV/music). Encourage them to readnewspapers, good magazines (NationalGeographic) and Islamic periodicals.


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When asking youth why they are so fond ofsuch websites, girls in particular

respond emotionally when explaining that

they feel this is the "safest" way to vent out

their feelings. They feel their parents are

clueless about how they feel and they want to

reach out, even if it means talking to

strangers through the Internet. From personalobservations and conversations with these

youth, it appears they are using these sites as

a form of attention seeking.


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Allah SWT has created a link of special love

between parents and children and has clearlydefined the responsibility of one to the other.It is the duty of the family as a whole to not letthese bonds of love and responsibilitiesweaken. When they do, communicationsuffers and the flow of experience andguidance from the parent to the children is

interrupted. The importance of encouragingan open and caring relationship betweenparents and children cannot be stressed

enough.


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What will matter is not what you bought, but what you built;not what you got, but what you gave. What will matter is not

your success, but your significance. What will matter is not

what you learned, but what you taught. What will matter is

every act of integrity, compassion, courage or sacrifice that

enriched, empowered or encouraged others to emulate

your example.


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The Islamic education of

children in contemporarysociety is a bigger challengethan most parents can handle ontheir own. The dearth of propereducational material, thedistractions of television, andpeer pressure in schools are justsome of the obstacles familiesmust face.


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The Muslim community can establishprograms and institutions to producechildren's literature and entertainment ina superior, captivating format. While theabove may help, the solution that mayoffer more lasting results is theestablishment of Islamic schooling. Thiscould include full-time schools, as well ashome schooling or supplementaryschooling where full-time schooling is notpossible. In each situation, the familyshould be involved as a unit to ensuresuccess through its continued

participation. Islamic schools can helpgive children the sense of direction they

need to stay on an Islamic course of life.


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The Muslim communitycan take specific steps tohelp the contemporaryMuslim family fulfil the

role that it needs to play.Each aspect of thefamily's role contributesnot only to strengtheningthe family but also thecommunity that it is a

part of.


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To enable the Muslim family to excel on allfronts, materially and morally, the Muslimcommunity can create training andenrichment opportunities for them. Muslimfamilies should work towards superiorperformance in whatever they do, asindividual units and as groups of families

bound together by an effort to perform andachieve. Small groups of such families canbecome examples for other groups to form.Internally, Muslim families should bemotivated to become centers of excellence,establishing high standards of conduct forthemselves and seeking out other familieswith even higher standards for socializationand friendship.
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The life of the Prophet SAW and our richIslamic heritage can offer guidance from day today as we struggle to reach them. Challengingas they may be in today's environment, theyare not options to be exercised if we wish, butmarching orders for shaping a future for

Muslims in contemporary society.


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Beyond the family, the communityitself must build relationships withchildren, and work with them to help

develop better parents for the future.Although the essence of parenthood isa matter of instinct, there is much tobe said for a community helpingparents learn how to be more effective

in parenthood.

Find a time and place to talk to your children.Children are sometimes in a "bad mood" upon

returning from school, loaded with home work,as are parents in the afternoon with a busy dayat work. The best time to have a chat is duringbreakfast and evening dinner together.

Children are both the presentand the future of every nation.


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No role is as important for a family as that of bringingup a new generation that will internalize and articulate

- perhaps in a better way - the values and lifestyles ofthe parents. In order to enable the Muslim family tofulfill this role, the community can encourage goodparent-children relationships, help families ineducating their children, build Islamic schools withfamily involvement, and foster relationship with

children.


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There will be no more sunrises, no minutes, hours ordays. All the things you collected, whether treasured or

forgotten, will pass to someone else. Your wealth, fame

and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance. It will not

matter what you owned or what you were owed. Your

grudges, resentments, frustrations, and jealousies will

finally disappear.
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In order to enable the Muslim family to offersolutions to the social ills that plaguecontemporary society, we must be able to uphold itas an example to others in society. It is an acceptedfact in that in all societies, social ills springprimarily from some failure in the family structure.Well-adjusted and well-motivated Muslim families

can offer solutions by their examples that noamount of social analyzing and theorizing can.


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Living a life that matters doesn't happen by accident.

It's not a matter of circumstance but of choice.

Choose to live a life that matters.


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What will matter is not your

competence, but your character.

What will matter is not how many

people you knew, but how many

will feel a lasting loss when

you're gone. What will matter arenot your memories, but the

memories that live in those who

loved you. What will matter is

how long you will be

remembered, by whom and for

what.


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The principle role of the Muslim family in contemporary times is to:

Model an Islamic way of life,

Excel on all fronts, materially and morally,

Raise a new model generation,

Offer its members stability and comfort in its sanctuary, and

Offer solutions to social ills that plague contemporary society.

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