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3 Mistakes Men Make

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Contents

You Are Not Alone! ....................................................................................................................................... 4

1. You still haven’t made up your mind. .................................................................................................... 8

a) Confused efforts for reconciliation .................................................................................................. 9

b) Trying to be a good son ................................................................................................................. 10

c) Expecting loyalty from wife .......................................................................................................... 11

d) Explaining too much on social media ........................................................................................... 11

2. Not being well prepared. ........................................................................................................................ 13

a) Not remembering the details ......................................................................................................... 13

b) Hiring an incompetent lawyer ...................................................................................................... 14

c) Not having enough legal information ........................................................................................... 14

d) Unaware of financial planning for divorce ................................................................................... 15

e) Not having enough evidence ......................................................................................................... 16

3. Unaware of changed dynamics. ............................................................................................................ 17

a) Unaware of women issues .............................................................................................................. 17

b) Expecting your wife to still have feelings ..................................................................................... 18

c) Underestimating the influence of her new friends ....................................................................... 19

d) Expecting her to follow the “right” path ..................................................................................... 19

Recommendation ...................................................................................................................................... 21


You Are Not Alone!

One of the toughest parts in a relationship is a break-up. A lot of emotional

baggage from the “just-over relationship” to lug around until life gives an

opportunity to heal oneself. Memories and future plans – all converge together

to create the feeling of extreme loss leading to depression. But what happens

when the relationship is more than just a verbal commitment limited to the

couple; when there are parents, children, friends, assets and legal paperwork

involved?

What happens when two people who vowed to be soulmates through the sacred

bond of marriage decide to part?

Divorce – the bitter-sweet ending of many marriages!

Now-a-days, the bitterness is not just emotional but also legal - two warring

parties in the battlefield of family court for a decree of divorce. The divorce

rates in India are going higher with every passing year, with stats from the

North-east leading the charts. Remember YOU ARE NOT ALONE!


But You Are A Man!

For men in India, it’s only tougher – you have been projected as the “bad guy”

by state agencies, women empowerment cells, social workers, and the wife’s

family; and yet you are not supposed to cry. Instead, you are supposed to show

yourself as the indomitable tough guy who has no emotions. Many people don't

realise that divorce is tougher on men than women. Recent study from the

Journal of Men's Health states that divorced men are more prone to heart

disease, high blood pressure and strokes than married men. Marriage gives men

a sense of direction and identity. When they lose

that connection with their spouse and children,

they are lost. They have no idea where to go and

talk about their loss because society has instilled in

them “you don’t grieve, you don’t cry, you are

tough”. They have to continue taking on their responsibilities, playing their

role in their profession, family and society. In India, the family pressure

continues: “are you going to cry about your wife or take care of your ageing

parents and unmarried siblings?”

How society conveniently forgets that men are human too!

The world is ranting about maternal instincts but rarely does anyone talk about

paternal instincts. What makes us feel that men are not emotional about their

children? And, that alienating a father from his children won’t have adverse

effects on the child as well as the father? Does a man not want to be a father,

does he not want to provide for his child? Does a father not mourn the loss of

child?

Regardless of what we think or the empathy that society and government lacks,

the reality is that you must fight this battle. The government along with legal

and social agencies are gradually coming to a realisation in India that they need

to worry about men and their emotional and psychological health during

marital crisis, or else they would lose them forever. While the government gets

their act together and starts thinking about the well-being of men in our

society, we have to start focusing on how we can make our divorce process

Divorce is difficult, but

hey, you are a man!


peaceful, healthy and beneficial for us. The first step to achieving that is

making sure we know - what we want out of our divorce, and our life in general.

What is your most precious asset: personal well-being, parents, children,

property, career, reputation, or anything else? Once you have nailed that down,

the rest of the process will become a lot easier, and less painful.

After all, you too deserve happiness, marital bliss and the love of your children.

You have worked hard to provide for yourself and your family. You invested

your precious time, your emotions and your social image in building a home and

a family. Why should you be made to suffer? Why should you and your parents

lose this battle?

Samadhaan.com can help you. In fact, that is the reason we exist. We want to

be of use to anyone who wants to win their divorce battle. Before we go further,

a quick note on what is Samadhaan.com.

Samadhaan.com enables and empowers people to find effective solutions to

their legal-marital conflicts and divorce cases. We strive to bring to you reliable,

authentic and up-to-date information on legal-matrimonial matters. We offer

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We invite you to sign up for our weekly info-mails and announcements to stay

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How will this report benefit you?

It’s an accepted fact that divorce laws in India are primarily gender-biased, or

rather women-friendly, which makes it difficult for men to protect themselves

from false allegations and misuse of law. Most people are not aware of the laws

and penal code as much as they need to. This leads to wrongful arrests,

allegations, unnecessary harassment and finally – losing the legal battle. Do you

know how many men lose their cases just because of their lack of understanding

of the law, and not knowing how to prepare for divorce? Do you know so many

men have nowhere to go to talk about their troubles? They have no Men

Commission Office, or any other office where they could walk in and seek help.

If you are thinking or have already filed a divorce case, we want you to win

your legal case. In order to win the case, you must not make any mistake that

will ruin your chances of a win. This report will tell you what not to do, so you

can get a step closer to victory. More precisely, this report will tell you:

What is it that you, amid all the chaos, unpleasantness, professional

demands, family or social pressures, will not do.?

How will you not get consumed into controversies and nitty-gritties of the

past, but rather claim the happiness that awaits you.

How will you not increase your financial burden during the process?

How will you strengthen yourself and your dependents? How will you

ensure you know everything you need to know?

Wherever men lose the case despite them being honest, ethical or correct on

their stand, it is primarily because of mistakes they made when they were

filing for divorce - in the beginning phase or anytime during the process. What

kind of mistakes? Read this report to know more. We are convinced that this

document will be extremely helpful in revealing to you your blind spots, and to

help convert your weaknesses into your strengths.

You deserve to be happy and this report will bring you a step closer to happiness!


Mistake # 1

You still haven’t made up your mind.

Are you still riding on dilemma- to divorce or not to divorce? It is totally

understandable because the decision to file a divorce or to respond to a petition

is not easy. Regardless of the jokes that go around, men are happier when they

are married or in a steady relationship. Many studies done in the area of health

and marriage have concluded that men seem to enjoy better mental and

physical well-being directly as a result of their happy family life – with wife and

children. When wife initiates divorce, it not only shatters the response

mechanism of the husband but also his future planning. Other than an impact

on general health, divorce can also affect the work-related physical capabilities

of men. And, for all these years, everyone thought – men don’t feel the pain a

woman feels.


How does marital conflict or divorce impact a man and his actions? The most

basic effect among all men is change in lifestyle - not only does their sleeping,

eating and socialising gets disturbed but there is an increase in suicidal thoughts

and dependency on alcohol or smoking. Since we still continue to live in joint

families in India, we receive a lot of support from immediate family. However,

marital conflicts and changes in family life can have a devastating effect. Such

conflicts can cloud our judgment and can make us indecisive. If you are still not

sure of your feelings, the confusion will show up in your intentions and actions.

Let us see some mistakes that men commit as a result of this trauma.

a) Confused efforts for reconciliation Most men tend to continue thinking that separation is temporary, and they will

be re-united with their wife and children. What causes this thinking? For

centuries, man has been positioned as the head of the household or the main

decision-maker. It provides him natural confidence to lead his family and give

them direction at all times. When a separation – physical or emotional,

happens, his natural instinct is to take on the leadership and resolve matters.

When that doesn’t happen, he gives in to wife’s demand to go back to her

parents’ home hoping that things will come back to normal once they give each

other a cooling-off space.

While the husband continues to lull in this “hopeful, semi-passive, go-on-with-

life phase, the wife is probably making other plans. These days, unless the

husband himself is initiating divorce, he or his family tend to make more

attempts to reconcile than the wife or her family.

While it is a very good gesture to make efforts to reunite and continue with the

marriage, if wife is not on the same page, your efforts for reconciliation might

come across to them as emotional weakness, fear of legal action, or social

pressure. It is important to have a clear mind when making such attempts –

what is it that you want in the long term?


b) Trying to be a good son

Ever since “women empowerment” has been in effect, the social pressures on

men have been increasing manifold. Especially in India, where a man is

expected to be a good son, study and earn well; marry a progressive, beautiful,

well-educated and gainfully employed woman and then be able to out-earn her;

and finally get the wife to respect his parents and follow family traditions. If a

man fails to “control” his wife, he apparently “loses face” in family or peers.

Why so?

Why are men succumbing to social pressures of marrying according to parents’

will, ensuring the wife remains “dutiful”, and if she doesn’t - then he must

admit that he is not a good son or a good husband? Either ways, he is doomed.

This pressure only continues to build more once she leaves home and threatens

divorce. The poor husband is flooded with advice from all over:

“You must bring her back; what will the society say; we don’t want a divorce in our

family; you will be behind bars under some false case if you don’t reconcile with

her; and so on.”

While it helps to have family and friends support and guide you but it doesn’t

help when they coerce you to make the wrong decision. Only you would know

what the right thing to do is, and if you don’t have a clear vision of what you

want in life, you will end up making the wrong choice – to reconcile or not to

reconcile.

The most powerful way to deal with family’s pressure and managing their over-

expectations from you is to stand firm on your decisions. But for that, you need

to have right information and preparation. When you sign up for our updates

and access our library of resources and case studies, you will gain confidence in

your (and your family’s) ability to go through this difficult time. At

Samadhaan.com, we bring to you the information and understanding of divorce

from a multi-dimensional perspective so that - not just you, but even your

family can be confident about your decision.


c) Expecting loyalty from wife

This one should be a no-brainer but for many men, they continue to expect the

same loyalty from their wife that existed when they were newly married, in love

or even while still together. It is understandable that a marriage is a very

intimate bond built upon love, trust and total commitment to each other. But,

the day the wife leaves her husband’s home and snaps all channels of

communication, one must recognize the signs.

- Has she left because she was genuinely angry with you and she will come

back? Or, she left because she does not want you back in her life?

- Are her parents trying to contact you?

- Has there been any attempt of mediation from her side? Has she shown

any sympathy towards you or your family?

- Does she let you or your family meet with the children?

If your answer to the above has been in negative, then you are definitely

making a huge mistake by expecting continued loyalty from your wife. You

must find out more about her stand regarding your relationship and divorce,

as well as be prepared for the worst. As you will read further in this report, if

your wife isn`t feeling the same level of respect for the marital relationship,

she could easily be misguided into taking the wrong steps.

What works is being smart about the new dynamics and be aware of the

signs early on. We recommend you to sign up for free weekly alerts where we

will share with you mental exercises that train men to get clarity and focus

to deal with new realities around them.

d) Explaining too much on social media Are you a social media addict? It is normal for people to want to stay

connected with their friends on social media when going through divorce.

Very few remember that it is “hazardous” to tweet or post in an almost

depressive state or after a few drinks when your chances of posting abusive

or abrasive messages are much higher than otherwise. Many secrets that are


best left covered could be out in the open. And, once your thoughts are on

any social platforms, there’s not much you can do about it, even if you

deactivate your account or delete the posted item. What are some of the

harmful effects of an objectionable social media message?

- It has already been read by your friends, family or colleagues

- It could have been passed on to your estranged spouse

- It could have been recorded: printed on paper or digital screenshots.

- It could reveal some aspect of your personality or situation that could be

used against you in legal proceedings, or in your career.

Similarly, regardless of how angry or hurt you might be, using verbal or written

abuse on the phone, in an email or a letter, is another mistake many men tend

to make. They continue to think they can be upset with their wife, express it

candidly, and it will all be forgiven and forgotten. Not when you are that close

to a divorce process. Also, it can be used to create a negative and more hostile

image to your children which is even worst. You will only lose your supporters

in the long run. Do not make the mistake of ranting on any public platform

without guidance from a relationship counsellor or best, your lawyer. The

phenomenon of sharing indiscriminate or “potentially-damaging” information

on social media happens because you might feel isolated in this turmoil, and

because you might believe that this poor fortune has landed upon you

exclusively. Instead, when you learn, share with others and update yourself –

you will not only find out which of your impulsive actions can bite you in the

future, but you will also feel less compelled to act on your impulses.

Food For Thought: This is a very crucial phase of your life. A relationship

devoid of trust offers little room for forgiveness and adjustments. It is time to

be practical, intelligent and prudent about the choices you make. Any small

mistake can have dire consequences. Know the difference between what you

want and your wife expects; plan and act accordingly.

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Mistake # 2

Not being well prepared.

Divorce is tough. Since it is emotionally demanding, a lot of men tend to suffer

from depression or anxiety which they are unwilling to accept or discuss openly,

or be treated for. This results in certain new attributes to their lifestyle like

procrastination, laziness, sloppiness, paranoia and anger. And, one of the worst

impacts of such attributes is – lack of preparation for divorce.

This is not to say that you are still in love with your wife, and not ready to get

divorced. But that you are not well-prepared to meet the divorce requirements

head-on. Divorce isn’t a one-sided affair unless you are ready to let your partner

manage the proceedings as they would like. If you are not filing a no-fault

divorce, there will be a lot of hard-work going into starting, fighting with, and

winning a divorce case. What happens when you are not well-prepared?

a) Not remembering the details Why are you headed for a divorce? What factors led to this crisis and finally the

big decision? Did you try resolving the issues?

Yes, you did. Then, provide the proofs. Oh, you can’t. So, how do you expect

us to believe your story?

Most men are not thinking that far ahead in the game. They know in their

hearts that they are not wrong but they have not gathered enough evidence to

defend themselves. The worst is when depression takes over and one loses the

very strength and optimism that is the foundation for victory. Men don’t think

about the nitty-gritties of arguments and fights. They don’t think that a fight

could lead them into a tough legal battle for divorce. Simple documents like

restaurant bills, photos and gift receipts or writing a journal, or even holding on

to sms or whatsapp messages – men do not tend to think about keeping those

safe. Many times, after an argument is over, or anger mellowed down, one


erases text conversations on phone. These are important pieces of evidence that

can work in your favour during a trial. You can find ideas and tips on

Samadhaan.com where we post information on details that matter in the court.

b) Hiring an incompetent lawyer

Do you know how many times people change their lawyer during the course of

their divorce case, even though it is a costly affair? Most couples are still

contemplating on their past issues, their present misery and the uncertainty of

their future, when they realize that it’s time

to hire a lawyer. While some people might

have hesitance in meeting with a lawyer when

they are still unsure of their next step

regarding their marital dispute, it is a good

idea to start researching. You can find out

from friends, family, colleagues or even online

about good advocates in your area who

practice family law. Waiting to hire a lawyer

until the last moment can cost you a lot in the

long run – like being stuck with the wrong lawyer, or changing lawyers in the

middle of the proceedings.

c) Not having enough legal information

To hire a lawyer is one thing, but to know how the police system and court

works is another. The divorce procedures are so complicated when it is a

contested one that it’s not in your favour to leave everything on an advocate

and simply show up at court dates. Lawyers are usually working on a number

of cases simultaneously and another case might take priority over yours. If you

are not aware about the process to be followed, you might be missing on the

opportunities to make it a smoother ride for yourself. The reason you hire a

lawyer is because they know about the intricacies of the law and they are

qualified to represent you, and assist you with the paperwork. But, remember –

no one knows your case and your situation more than you do. You have to play

an active role – question the process, give your inputs at every step, check with

the lawyer and their staff on updates, loopholes, change of tactics, and so forth.


If you fail to participate actively in your case, you increase your chances of

losing at some point. How to define your role in the case? We bring the most

updated, precise and effective information on legal matters through our

webinars. It is your opportunity to listen to experts from all over the country

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d) Unaware of financial planning for divorce

If you are going through an amicable divorce, and there’s no issue about

money between you both, half the battle is won. But if you are defending your

case or cases, or YOU have initiated the divorce that is NOT a “mutual

consent” divorce, you can expect quite a lot of money to be spent. How?

Most men don’t think of the money they will be spending during divorce. First -

as fee paid out to lawyers and court through the years; Second - the interim

maintenance and other expenses you might be asked to shell out to your

estranged partner; Third - time and efforts wasted on court procedures rather

than invest in your career. Men fail to estimate the amount of financial loss

divorce could mean to them, and as such do not plan for it. Financial crisis can

also have repercussions on mental and physical health.

A good idea is to prepare a rough estimate of legal costs involved in your

divorce case. And, remember – it will only be a rough estimate because you

don’t know how the case will move. You should also make an estimate of what

you owe your spouse and how you will be paying it to her. Interim

maintenance, permanent alimony, or division of money and assets – all should

be taken into account. Through our webinars, we will be bringing financial

experts to discuss this and answer your questions. We will also bring to your

attention the most overlooked aspect of the financial cost of legal battles – and

what is the worth of the battle as compared to your life overall. This is your

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e) Not having enough evidence

Decisions in courts are made on the basis of facts, arguments and evidence

presented by both parties. Not everyone thinks about gathering evidence when

it is easily available. In fact, most of the time once doesn’t even think that

seriously about divorce. When arguments develop into a fight, rarely does one

start working towards the legalities of a separation. In fact, most families like to

lie low, keeping it all hushed-up to protect their reputation, career, and the

relationship itself. And in many cases, it does work. People are able to resolve

their differences over a period of time and the thought of using recording

devices or detectives seems too intrusive and abrasive for a relationship as

sacred and important as a marriage.

Other than personal hesitation, there are legal guidelines on personal privacy

related to wife and family members that must be followed or else the husband

could land in jail for infringing on their privacy. The ongoing internal thoughts

about matters such as gathering evidence are extremely confusing and

troublesome – and not to mention the whole set of knowledge about what

equipment to use for gathering evidences, what is useful in courts later and

what is not. We, at Samadhaan.com, are very glad to be around to help you

learn about what works and what does not. We have learned many of these

mistakes from painful personal experiences and are glad that with our support,

you won’t have to go through the painful process.

Food for thought: If you don’t use the resources available to you, someone else

will. Whether it’s emotional baggage, financial restraints, or our mindset, lack of

preparation for divorce makes you more gullible. When you get into a legal battle

you can no longer afford to be naïve, immature, unprepared – not for your own

sake and certainly not for your family’s sake. Whether it’s by your choice or it is

being forced upon you – once you are involved in a legal battle – you need to fight

– and you need the most effective knowledge and resources for that. Which is

why you need to sign up for the information updates of Samadhaan.com – we

have said this again and again throughout this report – because really – there is

no alternative if you want to win.


Mistake # 3

Unaware of changed dynamics.

Have you come to terms with the new reality – the emotional divorce? This new

reality includes understanding and accepting that you and your spouse are not

a couple anymore; you both are not a team anymore; you both are not even

friends anymore. It is a harsh reality, and the sooner you accept it, the easier it

will be for you to steer yourself out of misery and emotional bankruptcy.

Marriage brings with it security, trust, identity and intimacy. That’s what

unites a couple together. To expect that bond to be broken overnight is not

easy. In fact, study says that couples go through varying and differing levels of

moving-on with the new fact of life – separation. While you may still be in the

grieving – searching and yearning phase, your spouse might perhaps be on the

way to recovering from the shock of divorce, and reorganizing her life further.

Gone are the days when women were sitting and sulking at their parents’ home,

hoping for their return and reunion with their husband. Nowadays, women are

educated and independent. They develop their support system pretty quickly,

seek legal advice, and streamline their finances much faster than their

counterparts. Men don’t always visualize how fast their spouse’s social life,

social circle and the group of well-wishers are evolving. Let’s do a quick

assessment of potential new developments in your estranged spouse’s life, which

if ignored or undermined, could be a huge mistake.

a) Unaware of women issues When a woman leaves her matrimonial home to go back and live with her

parents or even live alone, her level of insecurity shoots up. You may wonder

what kind of insecurities these are. It can range anywhere from: “How will I

manage without a stable income? Who will take care of me when my parents are no


more? How long will my brother support me?” If she is living alone, then the

worries are related to finance, loneliness and emotional disturbance other than

fighting a divorce case and getting maintenance, etc. These insecurities will lead

her into a whole new realm of emotions. She could develop aggression and desire

for revenge. Many women stop their children from meeting their father, just out

of a revengeful attitude.

This phase of your estranged wife is very important for your divorce case.

Either you would have to manage communication with her or her family so well

that the damage can be controlled, or you have to prepare your case so well

that the damage done during this phase can be mitigated. We talk about this

and other such problems in our webinars and you should sign up.

b) Expecting your wife to still have feelings With increased responsibilities, fear of the uncertain future and a bitterness of

the past, your estranged spouse could be undergoing a big upheaval in her

emotional life. She is probably being advised to be practical, to move-on, and

even to teach him a lesson. Lack of communication and a hostile environment (if

your in-laws are unsupportive of your reunion or filing a no-fault divorce) will

only add on to negative emotions. If you both haven’t been in touch for over six

months it is time you ask yourself whether she still has any feelings or even

compassion for you. What is she thinking? Is she really thinking to teach you a

lesson for whatever reason? If the answer is yes, then she will be more prone to

distort or exaggerate facts at her convenience, in order to fulfill her agenda.

Whether she will teach a lesson or learn one (or in fact will waste a large

amount of time under the false impression) - is another area of discussion all

together. But, by considering her emotionally-disturbed state, you can make a

list of possible actions she might take against you: fake allegations or FIRs of

498A, marital rape, dowry case, etc., or exaggerating issues to seek divorce and

claim a fat maintenance.


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c) Underestimating the influence of her new friends

When your marital life gets disturbed, it is normal for couples to seek support

outside – friend, family or colleagues. And, as they start receiving sympathy,

they open up more to strangers - talking freely about their marital issues in an

attempt to get the heaviness off their chest. That is the time when their circle of

influence starts expanding. As they meet new people and get to share their

problems with them, they have new influencers in their decision-making

process. It could be extended family, friends, neighbours, colleagues or even

their lawyer. As time goes by, this new set of influencers become their best

friends and in this process the marital bond weakens and almost disappears.

If you are not aware of this new reality that might be developing around your

wife, you can prepare yourself for a big shock in the paperwork for divorce.

These new influences are what prepare “soon-to-be ex-wives” to take extreme

actions, make unrealistic demands, and even register fake cases against their

husbands (including their entire khandaan). It has been noted that four most

influential people at such times around your spouse are: mother, father, lawyer,

or a “partner”. With the new trends in place, a woman starts dating pretty soon

after separation and while her divorce is still in process.

Again, we would emphasize the importance of preparation. Prepare for this

situation as well. While your lawyer can be helpful in recommending steps to

safeguard your position – socially as well as legally, you should also read more,

interact and seek advice from experts who can guide you through these issues.

d) Expecting her to follow the “right” path

Are you expecting your wife to play fairly, behave well, be ethical and do the

right thing? It is highly unlikely and its best for you to assume the worst.

We don’t get married thinking we are going to break-up one day, divide our

assets or fight over our children. But, the circumstances in a post-separation

scenario force a new reality, especially the legal one. As soon as your estranged

wife walks out of your home or into the lawyer’s office, your entire life history,


strengths and weaknesses, and property and professional information is out

there. At that moment, it isn’t the wife making decisions, but in all probability

– her lawyer is brain-washing her with techniques to make her present and

future secure through your money and assets. In some cases, the lawyers will

even motivate the wife to make false allegations like dowry or domestic violence

upon the husband.

It is important that you understand that if you and your wife have no

communication for more than six months and she has already seen a lawyer, the

chances are that she is being advised to exaggerate facts, make false allegations

and bring in false evidence against you or anyone in your family and friends, to

gain an upper hand in the case.

Food For Thought: Once the emotions dry-up between the couple, it isn’t too

difficult for the lawyer or another third party to motivate the wife to make fake

allegations. Many lawyers have been found to provoke estranged wives to file

false cases, and upon winning a settlement amount, pay commission to the

lawyer. This trend has led to a steep rise in suicides among married men in

India. Do not make the mistake of undermining the role of wife’s lawyer in your

case, and don’t think your wife hasn’t changed or “evolved further” from how

you knew her.

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Recommendation

Now that you have read through this entire document, you know where men

tend to make mistakes in preparing themselves mentally, emotionally or legally

for a divorce. How can you apply the learning from this report to your personal

situation? We recommend that you make a list of all the things which you think

could go wrong if you make any of the mistakes mentioned here. This report

could be the guiding document for your divorce process if you decide so.

Conclusion

No one is perfect and as such, we are all bound to make mistakes. But, the more

we know what not to do, the better for us. Also, some mistakes are difficult to

erase and they can be disastrous.

Prepare yourself with reliable and latest information through the right sources.

You may not have done anything to call this situation upon yourself. But now

that it is here, you need to be unemotional and “professional” about it. Get the

right resources, brace yourself and fight for your rights – because while others

can support you, it is you yourself, who would have to do the fighting. And if

you don’t know how to get or find the “right resources” then stick with us. We,

the members of the Samadhaan.com team, were in your shoes at one point of

time – and we went through the pain, the mistakes, the rude shocks etc., and

that had us create Samadhaan.com – we find, select and present the right

resources for you – so that you have someone to help you navigate this legal,

emotional, social and financial labyrinth.

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