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BUILD MY HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

MENTAL RESILIENCE

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Do NowWhat do you Want in a Relationship?

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships

Relationship Situations

AGENDA

You Will Learn

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YOU WILL LEARN:

How to Identify unhealthy and healthy

relationships and improve relationships in

your life.

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WHAT IS A RELATIONSHIP?

WHAT ARE SOME CHARACTERISTICS OF UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS?

WHAT ARE SOME CHARACTERISTICS OF HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS?

5WHAT ARE SOME GENERAL STRATEGIES TO MAINTAIN HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS?

Unhealthy Relationships Healthy Relationships

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EMOTIONAL ABUSEDoing or saying something as a means of hurting,

without necessarily being physical. Trying to hurt

other’s feelings as a means of controlling or gaining

power. Also called mental, psychological or verbal

abuse.

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ECONOMIC ABUSE

Using economic or financial means to control another

person’s activities or to undermine opportunities to

become become financially independent in order to

make him or her dependent on the abuser.

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PHYSICAL ABUSEAny behavior meant to cause harm, to restrain,

or to control ability to move or be free.

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SEXUAL ABUSEAny sexual behavior that uses physical force,

coercion or manipulation to make unwanted

advances. Includes sexual harassment.

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WHAT ARE SOME COMMON ISSUES PEOPLE MAY FACE IN THEIR

RELATIONSHIPS?

GOOD TO KNOW

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WHAT ARE SOME GENERAL STRATEGIES TO MAINTAIN HEALTHY

RELATIONSHIPS?

GOOD TO KNOW

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FRIENDS AND FAMILY NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE

LOVEISRESPECT

ResourcesGOOD TO KNOW

Confide in someone, such as a parent, trusted Adult, health provider, or friend. Let them support you, help you end the

relationship and stay safe.

A 24-hour confidential service which can be reached by both calling 1-800-

799-7233 (SAFE) or going to the website and chatting with a volunteer

via the chat function.

A national dating abuse and domestic violence helpline which specializes in engaging, educating and empowering

young people prevent and end abusive relationships. Trained Peer advocates can be reached by texting “Loveis” to 22522.

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RELATIONSHIP SITUATIONS

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Instructions:

• Around the room there are 4 signs hanging up which are

labeled with the different types of relationship abuse we

have just discussed.

• I am going to read a relationship situation, and for each

situation, think about what sort of relationship abuse that

situation is and move to that specific corner of the room.

• After each situation, we will have the opportunity to

discuss why you chose that type of relationship abuse.

• Remember! Some situations can be more than one type of

abuse, and if that is the case, simply stand in between the

two which you think it is.

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SITUATION 1Max: “I’ve cheated on my boyfriend a few times, but they

were mistakes. He kind of knows about them, but he

never brings it up, so I guess it doesn’t bother him. Lately,

I’ve been wondering if I should fess up about what I’ve

done.”

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SITUATION 2Rheanna: “My roommate, Daniel, has been blasting

music late at night, and it’s interrupting my sleep. I feel so

tired all the time because of it, and I feel so angry! He’s

being so unreasonable and inconsiderate!”

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SITUATION 3Monique: “My best friend, Crystal, has been dating this

guy Jason, and she thinks she is in love with him. She

always pays for him when we go out together. He’s such a

player, and I saw him with another girl at the movies, and

that girl also took out her money to pay. I’m not sure if I

should tell my friend since she really likes him.”

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SITUATION 4Craig: “I recently lied to my boss. I told her that I finished

a project by myself when my co-worker, Raymond, had

actually did most of the work. I’m scared that Raymond

and my boss will talk and catch me in a lie. But if I tell the

truth, I might get fired. I decided to pay $100 to Raymond

so he won’t tell my boss.”

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SITUATION 5Juan: “My friend Nicole has been acting weird lately. I

sneaked up behind her to scare her before school today.

When I touched her shoulder it felt displaced. I know she

and her girlfriend were arguing after school yesterday. I

asked if Nicole wanted to hang out and she said she

couldn’t because her girlfriend would get mad.”

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SITUATION 6Ming: “My cousin, Ling has been starting to date this

much older guy. She’s 16, and he’s 21. She says she likes

him because he’s more mature than the boys our age. He

buys her stuff, and he has a car, and takes her out. Ling is

having sex but doesn’t want to do it all the time, when

Ling refuses, he hurts her arm. I don’t know if I should tell

my aunt/uncle or my cousin what I think.”

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SITUATION 7Raven: “I saw Brent with a blackeye after football

practice. I asked if he was alright, but he said the football

players said I’ll be cool and be friends with them. I want

to tell the coach, what do you think I should do?”

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SITUATION 8James: “My boss, Helen has been asking me to work late

with her on a project. She has been buying us dinner and

been touching my shoulder, and face. When I told her I

felt uncomfortable, she said don’t be shy. When I told her

to stop, she said she was going to fire me. I don’t know

what to do.

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WHAT DO YOU WANT IN A RELATIONSHIP?

REAL WORLD RELEVANCE

Instructions:

• Think about your relationships with friends,

classmates, co-workers, roommates, relatives,

and significant others.

• On the worksheet, circle the words that describe

what you want in your relationships.

• Why did you choose the words you chose?

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• What is one relationship you’d like to improve?

• What are some ways you will try to improve this relationship?

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