Kids Can Face the 7 People-Dangers

Text, photos, and line-drawings by Marcy ShobergWatercolor Illustrations by Lara Teich

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Defeat Bullies and Bad-Guys: Kids Can Face the 7 People-Dangers

© 2018 Marcy Shoberg

All rights reserved. No portion of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted by any means (electronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, scanning, or other), except for brief quotations in critical reviews or arti-cles, without the prior written permission of the publisher. Disclaimer: The advice in this book is for information purposes only. Since every situation of people-danger is different no guarantee can be made that any advice will apply to any particular situation. And, a person using advice from this book accepts that they may be punished for or injured by doing so.

ISBN: 978-1-948972-02-4

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In this book you will learn about the seven kinds of people-danger. And, you will learn to protect yourself from them.

You have many tools you can use to protect yourself. One is your brain. It can have ideas that keep you safe. Another is your adults, like parents and teachers. Another tool is your voice. Your voice is words and yells you can send out of your mouth.

Body parts are also self-defense tools. They are your last choice, aft er the others.

Contents

Mad People .......................................... 2 (6)Person Trying to Make you Go Away .... 7 (12)Hunti ng and Robbery ............................ 13Bullying ................................................. 14 (19)Using your Words .................................. 20 (26)Being Boring to Fight ............................ 27 (33)Kidnappers and Hitti ng ......................... 34 (37)Trick-a-Stranger Kidnappers ................. 38 (45)Trick-a-not-Stranger Kidnappers ........... 46 (50)8 Ways People Trick Others Into Stuff ... 51 (57)All 7 People-Dangers ............................. 58 (69)Kids reading alone: skip the ( ) pages with no color or pictures! ( ) pages are the teachers’ acti vity pages. Teachers should pre-read the secti on and acti vity page when planning lessons. This book can easily make 10 lessons between a half and full hour each.

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BrainVoice

BodyParts

Mad People

One people-danger is when someone gets mad at you. Angry people can do things they normally know are bad. You can help a mad person calm down. That helps them think better.

If you don’t help the mad person calm down, you often get new problems!

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Yell something that shows you want them to stay away.

Yell, “Stop!”

Or yell, “Back off !”

Or yell, “Leave me alone!”

Or yell them all. Stand up and try now. Remember how to put your hands and feet.

Don’t call them mean names. That would make you fun to argue with. Don’t say you will tell the teacher. You can tell the teacher if you want. But, saying it fi rst doesn’t help anything.

Stop!BACK OFF!Leave me

alone!You’re in trouble now!

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Last on our list is making a threat. Here, a person says they will make a bad thing happen if you don’t do what they want.

When someone makes a threat, you don’t know they will really do the bad thing. But, you know they are trying to trick you into danger. So, don’t let the threat control you.

These are threats:

“I won’t be your friend anymore if you tell on me.”

“I will hit you if you don’t try it.”

“I will hurt your mom if you don’t get in my car.”

“You will get in trouble if you tell my secret.”

8 Making Threats

If a friend makes a threat, act like it didn’t happen. Then, you won’t be fun to scare.

If an adult threatens you, tell your adult. They’ll know what to do.

Now you know eight ways people trick others into danger or into doing a thing. See if you can remember them all, then look back through the title-boxes to check yourself.

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If you don’t do what I say...

Kids reading alone skip this Teacher’s Page about 8 Ways People Trick Others Into Stuff

The previous section taught eight tools used to convince a person to do something, dangerous or not. This lesson can combine with any peer-pressure topic.

For Discussion (Select for your students as appropriate and based on time available.)

1) After listing the 8 ways a person might manipulate another, ask if the students have ever seen one used by a person or character in a dangerous or non-dangerous situation (for example, everything Scar says to Simba in The Lion King).

2) Has anyone ever used one of the tools on you? (I promise we won’t get in trouble…)

Related Activities (Select for your students as appropriate and based on time available.)

1) Have students use some of the strategies on classmates. Examples: They could try to elicit from another their favorite color, without directly asking. They could show how they would make friends with another. They could threaten someone to be quiet.

2) Write, as on a dry-erase board, the 8 manipulation strategies then tell the following story. Have students raise a hand when they notice possible use of one.

A young boy was sitting on a park bench. His mother was there, but far away, pushing his sister on a swing. A woman came and sat next to him. She said, “Hi, I’m Sarah” (elicitation for his name). He said, “I’m John.” She looked at the superheroes on his shirt and said which was her favorite (faking making friends). He told her all of their different special abilities.

She got a pack of gum out of her pocket and started to chew a piece. Then she offered him one (faking making friends). He said, “I’m not allowed.” She said, “You know there is nothing wrong with the gum, because I just chewed one,” and reached a piece towards him again (pushing). He said, “My mom says gum is bad for you.”

Then, she said she had a collection of superhero toys he would really like (faking making friends). She asked if he ever plays with action figures. He said yes. Pointing to a house very near the park, she said, “Too bad I didn’t bring mine today. But, they are right over there in my house. We could walk over and get them, if you like. I promise we’ll be back before your mom notices” (promises, elicitation to see where his mom is). He looked at his mom, then back at her.

She then said, “I guess you’re too young to go places without your parents, though” (insult-challenge). He ran to his mom. When he looked back, the woman was gone.

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Still, here are ideas of what to do if you are ever in any kind of shooting.

Plan A is to get A-way. The best way to help your friends is by calling police from a place so far away you can barely hear the bullets.

Plan B, if you can’t do plan A, is Block yourself in a room, Be super quiet, and Be ready with something to throw, like a Book, Ball, or Bat.

You want the bad-guy to think the room is empty. If the bad-guy breaks in the room, and many kids yell and throw stuff, an adult waiting in the right place can probably tackle them and knock them out.

Plan C, if you can’t do A or B, is to Cover yourself with something bullets probably Can’t go through, like the engine part of a Car, a Concrete wall, or a backpack Crammed with books.

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Kids reading alone skip this Teacher’s Page about All 7 People-Dangers, Suspicious, and Shooters

The previous section reviewed earlier concepts and introduced noticing suspicious things to help prevent mass shootings and other acts of terrorism. People don’t just wake up and commit a major violent event. They plan, prepare, and practice first. Someone noticing a suspicious person, action, or object has stopped many acts of crime or violence. Generally, a person who has noticed something suspicious should start a discussion about it with anyone who knows more about the situation or location than they. For a child, this would be the adult in-charge of them.My number of 132,000 U.S. kids’ schools came from 2013/2014 data from Statista website. In determining my number of 40 school shootings, I took a Wikipedia list and excluded colleges and situations such as accidental discharge, pulling a gun during a fistfight, gang activity at sporting events, and where one shooter planned to harm specifically one victim such as an ex lover. My intention was to include only “school shootings,” not any shooting at any school. One reason it seems there are many more school shootings is news programs talk about the same event many, many, many times. For more info on preventing and responding to active shooting events, see gobarricadefight.com where you can learn about programs taught by Mr. Philip Ball, who I learned from.

For Discussion (Select for your students as appropriate and based on time available.)1) Have you ever noticed anything suspicious? Who did you tell? Did you find out what was going on? (strange car, strange thing a friend or family member said to you, funny smell in your house…) Help students understand that “suspicious” doesn’t mean “clearly dangerous” and that it is valuable to notice anything out of the ordinary. 2) Did you think there were more school shootings than the brick-dots showed? Why? (put fears into perspective) Research statistics of accidents involving kids playing with guns for comparison. 3) How could you block (barricade) the door of the room you are in? What could everyone be ready to throw? Where could an adult wait to tackle an intruder? (close to the door but out of the line of sight or gunfire as the door opens)4) What are some things in your area that would make good cover from bullets?

Related Activities (Select for your students as appropriate and based on time available.)1) Review your organization’s various emergency plans (fire drill, shelter-in-place, etc.).2) Teach kids to note alternate exits. In various locations, ask, “If an emergency happens and everyone runs to the main door, where is another place you could get out faster?” 3) Actually barricade a door with desks and such and/or somehow make it very hard to open. This would be accomplished differently for different doors and may involve wedging something near the handle or strapping something around the hinge.

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