impact of dv on kids for apsu sw dept

7/28/2019 Impact of DV on Kids for APSU SW Dept

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The Impact of

Domestic Abuse onChildren

Ken Murray, LCSW, ACSW


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[email protected] 931-980-9496

About Me

Retired Army officer with diverse experience

Social Work Officer

Strategic planner

Company Commander

Generals aide

Special Operator Various degrees in social work, administration,nursing

A big paper away from a PhD (committee found)

Masters degrees in social work and healthcare

administration Bachelors degrees in liberal arts and nursing

Husband (mediocre), father (pretty good)

Married to Army Social Work Officer

Children 18, 15, 2, baking


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More About Me

Currently Private Practice

Psychotherapy with individuals, couples and families

Montgomery County Jail Assessments and crisis intervention, brief therapy

Austin Peay State University Adjunct instructor and field liaison

In the works

Grant through Vanderbilt and Lazarus Project Families and PTSD

Prospective venture through UC-Berkley Active phase suicide intervention


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Understanding Domestic Violence


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Prevalence

The problem is pervasive

1.3 million women and 835,000 men report being

physically assaulted by an intimate partner annually in

the United States.

92% of abused women did not discuss incidents with

their physicians; 57% did not discuss the incidents with

anyone.

Age is a factor. Nearly half of DV occurs in couples

under 25

More than half occurs in homes with kids under age

12


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Prevalence of Child Witnesses

An estimated 7-15 million children witness

assaults against a parent by an intimate partnerin the U.S. Journal of Family Psychology

there are only 73 million total under 18 US Census Bureau

20 million total under age 5 US Census Bureau

90% of kids in violent homes witness parental

abuse www.4children.org

Child abuse is 15xs more likely in homeswhere spouse abuse exists (kids are abusedor neglected 75% of the time)

75 percent of boys who witness havedeveloped behavioral problems



Victims

Studies reveal that spouse abuse is most

frequent among young couples who have not yet

developed joint coping and communication

skills. History of domestic violence (criminal or civil)

Victims tend to be young mothers; 57% were

under age 26 and 18% were ages 16-20. About78% have children. Victims tend to be employed


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Physical

Coercion

Intimidation

Privilege

Psychological

Sexual

Spiritual

Economic

Emotional


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What Dr. Bruce Perry Says Kiddos Need



ATTACHMENT: Being a Friend

Tthe capacity to form and maintain healthy emotional bonds with another

person.

First acquired in infancy, as a child interacts with loving, responsive, and

attentive parents and caregivers.

SELF-REGULATION: Thinking Before You Act

Lifelong process of development

Begins with the external regulation provided by parents or significant

caregivers

Healthy growth depends on a child's experience and the maturation of the

brain.

AFFILLIATION: Joining In Springs from attachment ability

Glue for healthy human functioning

Allows us to form and maintain relationships with others-and to create

something stronger, more adaptive, and more creative than the individual.

Core Strengths for Health Development



AWARENESS: Thinking of Others

The ability to recognize the needs, interests, strengths, and values ofothers.

As children grow, their awareness of differences and similarities becomes

more complex.

TOLERANCE: Accepting Differences

Tolerance is the capacity to understand and accept how others are differentfrom you.

The followup to awareness (I see differences, now what do I do with that?)

RESPECT: Respecting yourself and others

Grows from the foundation of the preceding five strengths.

An aware, tolerant child with good affiliation, attachment, and self-regulation

strengths gains respect naturally.

Lifelong process, yet its roots are in early childhood, as children learn these

core strengths and integrate them into their behaviors and their worldview.

Core Strengths for Healthy Child Development



What is done to them VS What they

can do Morality develops

Negotiating social interactions

Where do I fit?

Family is most significant

relationship

Copy adults and blueprint what itmeans to be one.

Social role identifcation trumps

Oedipal struggle

Confusion in this= guilt

Seek intimacy and satisfyingrelationships

Recreate family of origin

Crucial stage for developing sense

of competence and self-esteem

Learning new skills, creating

Conquer inadequacy and inferiority

Builds self-esteem and autonomy as

new skills and right from wrong are

learned. Is sure of himself, full of pride

VS

Feeling shame and and low self-

esteem during an inability to learn

certain skills.

An Erickson Review- Just for fun

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Trust

Mistrust

Generativity

Stagnation

Intimacy

Isolation

Autonomy

Shame

Initiative

Guilt

Industry

Inferiority

Identity

Role Confusion

Hope Will Purpose Competence Fidelity Love Care

Develop optimism, trust,

confidence, and security

VS

insecurity, worthlessness,

and general mistrust to the

world.

Attachment Self Regulation Affiliation Awareness Tolerance Respect

These are essential skills for kiddos learned throughout the first five stages

and practiced throughout life


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The Results of Being a Child Witness



Kids: The Effects

Children who witness abuse of their

maternal caretaker are:

24 times more likely to commit sexual assault

crimes

50% more likely to abuse drugs or alcohol

74% more likely to commit crimes against

another person 6 times more likely to commit suicide

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Kids Coping in Homes of Abuse

Mental blocking or disconnecting emotionally

Making it better through fantasy

Physical Avoidance

Looking for love and acceptance (in all the

wrong places) Taking charge through caretaking

Reaching out for help

Acting out Redirecting emotions into positive activities

Trying to predict, explain or control the behaviorof the abuser

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How Child Victims Might Behave as Adults

An inability to trust

Often displays very manipulative behavior

Avoids being vulnerable

Very often is an over-achiever; yet rarely satisfied withtheir accomplishments

May have a series of relationships, usually unsatisfyingand often end badly

Depression is common

Can be very angry people, with limited skills on how toappropriately discharge their anger

Very often, display addictive behaviors. Eating disordersmay be closely related to having suffered as a child

Three times more likely to have a personality disorder KSM



Personality= the enduring behavioral and mental traits that distinguishhuman beings.

Personality disorders differ from societal norms and expectations.

People with PDs may experience difficulties in

Cognition

Emotiveness

Interpersonal functioning

Impulse control Substantial disturbances in some behavioral tendencies of an individual,

usually involving several areas of the personality,

Nearly always associated with considerable personal and social disruption.

PDs are inflexible and pervasive across many situations

Ego-syntonic Perceived to be appropriate by that individual

Maladaptive coping skills

May lead to personal problems that induce extreme anxiety, distress or depression

Onset: early adolescence

Personality Disorders

1. Extreme and distorted thinking patterns

2. Problematic emotional response patterns

3. Impulse control problems4. Significant interpersonal problems



The Bottom Line

Domestic abuse feeds on secrecy cut it off

If your Spidey-Sense tingles, trust it

Ask the hard questions in many cases, it

takes a village

Keep learning, keep talking, keep working


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Closing


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Do This!


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murrayk@apsu edu 931 980 9496

Community Resources

National Domestic Violence Hotline 800-799-SAFE

Department of Social Work 270-798-8601Family Advocacy Program 270-798-4191/2095

Military One Source 800-342-9647

Chaplain Hotline 270-798-2273

New Parent Support Program 270-956-3850

Taxicab 931-431-3535/645-9000

Family Life Chaplain 270-798-3316

JAG Legal Assistance 270-798-4432/4927United Way /Safehouse 211/ 931-552-6900

Sanctuary, Inc 270-885-4572

Emergency Assistance 911

Military Police 270-798-2677

Clarksville Police 931-648-0656

Hopkinsville Police 270-887-1135

Oak Grove Police 270-439-4602

Montgomery County Sheriff 931-648-0611

Christian County Sheriff 270-887-4141

Family Violence Prevention Fund www.endabuse.org

Minnesota Coalition for Battered Women www.mcbw.org

National Center for Children Exposed to Violence www.nccev.org

Minnesota Center Against Violence and Abuse www.mincava.umn.edu/link/

Washington State Coalition Against Domestic Violence www.wscadv.org

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