Helping Your Child Overcome Shyness

Being shy isn’t a bad thing in itself — but if shyness is keeping your child from fully enjoying and appreciating the joys that go along with being young, there are some things she can do.

One of the best ways kids can let go of some shyness is to think of a few simple behaviors they would like to improve, then practice them. Let’s say your child wants to work on talking to a friend. She can practice thinking of how she’d do it if she weren’t so shy. Just working on smiling and saying “hello” is a good start. Complimenting a schoolmate on a job well done in class, a play, or a sports competition is another ice-breaker.

Some kids find it helps to practice in front of a mirror, like they might practice lines for a play. This might help your child feel more comfortable with a new approach. Then she can practice smiling and saying “hello” in real life. It often helps to start with one or two people she likes. She can also join some activities that she’s interested in — whether it’s the school newspaper or a sports team. She may feel nervous at first — that’s perfectly normal. More practice will help the butterflies go away, so encourage your child not to give up!

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