From the Principalby Mike Hanas

Ironically, as we bid farewell to the CFSgraduating class of 2009 and bring to a closeour 2008-09 school year, the power of agreeting, and other simple gestures, is on mymind.

Specifically, it is Cal Geiger’s use of“Good morning” that inspires me as I writetoday. (To learn more about Cal, the Friendwho started the Upper School ServiceProgram in 1972, see page 10.) In Leadingsalong the Way: Stories from the Life of Calhoun D.Geiger, Cal recounts the story of his interac-tion with an elevator operator, one hedescribes as “a bitter-looking and very unin-

teresting woman who never spoke to anyoneand who seemed to sit all day hunched overthe ‘up-down’ switch that it was her job tooperate.” Cal sure spoke plainly.

His initial “Good morning” greetingselicited no response from the woman; thencame “a sort of bitter grunt” that left Cal“joyous.” Eventually, she snarled, “What’sgood about it?” to which Cal replied, “Ohwell, it can’t be all that bad, I think.” Shelaughed and added, “And good morning toyou, and bless you for all the times you havewasted those words on me.”

Cal was convinced he had not wasted

those words, and just a few weeks later thewoman, warned by Social Services that shewas about to lose her son, turned to Cal,whom she recognized as “the only one I canthink of who might understand and be ableto help.” Cal did help the woman and herfamily find the support they needed and, inso doing, reminds us all “what a ‘Goodmorning’ or what other simple things we domight be able to achieve.”

While each of us enjoys countless oppor-tunities to extend personal greetings, at CFSwe’ve also paid increasingly close attention toour institutional versions

Condensing Our Mission Statement, or‘Til by Turning, Turning, We Come ‘Round Right

Carolina Friends School Summer 2009

Recognizing the Power of Hello

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by Kathleen Davidson, Admissions Coordinator

At CFS we often speakof “mission moments,”those experiences thatcapture the essence ofCarolina Friends School.Mike Hanas shares suchmoments at Board meet-ings; I share them ontours; staff share themwith each other, parents,and students.

For me, the search for a con-densed CFS mission statement hasbeen one of those illuminating experiences, and Mike has askedthat I share it via We & Thee.

Since 2000, Carolina Friends School has articulated our mis-sion in six sentences--with a total of 131 words--that were crafted

and approved by staff and boardduring the 1999-2000 school year:

As we sought advancementstrategies that can broaden thecircles of people who understandCarolina Friends School, we wereadvised consistently to condensethis statement. We were told thatour goal should be a concisestatement that captures theessence of our school, yet can berecalled easily by as many mem-bers of the community as possi-ble. 30 words, some recommend.

Last spring several HeadTeachers and I attended a professional workshop about articulat-ing our schools’ missions, and we emerged revved up to meet thischallenge. Why, we thought we might even have a condensed ver-sion by the time we arrived back in Durham!

Students enjoy a lovely spring day on the Lower School field.

photo by Nick Kelsh

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Colin Ian AshleyKirsten Michelle BahnsonJasmine Renée BerrySusannah Lee ButtersMarcus Albert CerroneXin ChiAustin Mackenzie CookGraham Jones DodgeMolly Marie DonahueLeia Margaret Gaskin-SadikuTristan Douglas GreenAnna Ruth Weston HalberstadtBenjamin T. HarrisAnna Elizabeth Scarborough HartYanet (Lily) Krogmann Edwin John LeskinNathan MargolisDru Elizabeth MarionErin Kaleigh Matchinske-BrehmerMarin Elisabeth Matchinske-Brehmer

Philip David MayerSiobhan Nora McGowanLateef Frederick MitchellJeramie Paige OrtonSara Catherine OvertonRyan Walker PageTevinn Lamar RobertsonSamuel RobinsonJuliette Héléne RousseauSamuel Robert SchoplerMaxine SchroederDavid Edward SloanMadeline Grace Smith-GibbsHannah Pascal StromSamantha Pascal StromGeorgia Eleanor ValentineNate Henry VernonWilliam York WarasilaJoshua Nicholas WhitneyMichael Stuart Wilson

Congratulations, Class of 2009!

The Members of the CFS Class of 2009On Saturday, June 6, Carolina FriendsSchool gathered in the gym for a Meetingfor Worship with Attention to Graduation,centered on the 40 students in the Class of2009. After a Meeting for Worship in whichmany meaningful messages shared with thegroup, each student received a diploma anda hug from Principal Mike Hanas andUpper School Head Teacher Carrie Huff.After a standing ovation, hugs wereexchanged all ‘round.

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The Colleges that the Class of 2009 Will AttendUNC Chapel Hill (4)Guilford College (3)Haverford College (2)Aveda InstituteBeloit CollegeCentre CollegeCollege of WoosterColorado College

Connecticut CollegeDavidson CollegeEarlham CollegeGardner Webb UniversityGeorge Washington UniversityGrinnell CollegeMacalester CollegeLewis & Clark College

Maryland Institute College ofArt

Middlebury CollegeOberlin CollegeOccidental CollegeRice UniversitySarah Lawrence CollegeUNC Asheville

UNC WilmingtonUniversity of MiamiUniversity of RochesterWashington University Wesleyan UniversityWhitman College

Other Schools Offering Admissions to the Class of 2009American UniversityAppalachian State UniversityBrandeis CollegeCase Western Reserve UniversityClark University (MA)Colgate UniversityConcordia University (Montreal)Denison UniversityDuke UniversityEckerd CollegeElon University

Emory UniversityGoucher CollegeHampshire CollegeKenyon CollegeKnox CollegeMcDaniel CollegeNew College of FloridaNorth Carolina State UniversityPitzer CollegePurdue UniversityRandolph Macon College

Trinity University (TX)Tufts UniversityTulane UniversityUniversity of Colorado Boulder University of Georgia Athens University of Maine Orono University of MinnesotaUNC CharlotteUNC GreensboroUniversity of PittsburghUniversity of the Puget Sound

University of Rhode IslandUniversity of South CarolinaUniversity of VermontVirginia TechWarren Wilson CollegeWellesley CollegeWheaton College (MA)Whittier CollegeWinston Salem State UniversityWorcester Polytechnic Institute

photo by Laura Shmania photo by Laura Shmania

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Not so, then or in the weeks that fol-lowed. The more we tried, the more chal-lenging the task became.

Let it be clear that at no time have anyof us ever imagined that we were doinganything to modify the mission ofCarolina Friends School. Quite the con-trary: we’ve wanted to capture our mis-sion in words that would speak clearlyboth to those inside the community andthose who don’t already know us. Ourgoal was to share our mission more effec-tively, not to change it one iota.

Over the summer, we contracted withKelsh Wilson Design to conduct focusgroups to prepare for writing and design-ing the first professionally designedadmissions materials for CFS. We selectedthe Kelsh Wilson team because they hadnot only designed materials for severalother Friends Schools, but they also hadchildren attending Friends Schools. So wethought we’d give the writer/researcher achance to craft our statement. He offeredseveral valuable alternatives, which we cir-culated through staff meetings, along withtwo composite statements we had crafted,based on what we found most compellingin his suggestions.

At staff meetings, teachers said consis-tently that they would prefer condensedversions of our original statement tothese newer drafts, and they identified thepassages that they found most essential.Trouble was, the different units didn’tidentify the same passages! So the HeadTeachers and I went back to the drawingboard. After much discussion, and recog-nizing that collaborative writing can benext to impossible at times, they suggest-ed I review everything to date and pro-pose something to Friday Meeting (ouradministrative team).

Feeling that I was now a few stepsbehind square one, I went back to basics,plucking a few phrases that we’ve been

using consistently, and proposed a state-ment to Friday Meeting in late March. Itwas immediately clear that we had not yetreached our goal. It was also clear that itwas time to get the Board and Centerstaff involved in this process. I met withboth groups in April and contacted a fewparents whom I knew were wordsmithswith a deep understanding of CFS.

Throughout this process we’ve saidthat we were looking for responses, notnecessarily alternative statements, butmany have tried their hand at writing, andall feedback has been very helpful. Oneboard member composed something inthe middle of a night that got us muchcloser to where we wanted to be.

On Friday, May 1, most of the HeadTeachers and I shut ourselves in theCenter conference room affirming that wewould not leave until we felt confidentthat we had the condensed CFS missionstatement in hand. We were close, weknew. We phrased and rephrased, we cut,we added. We read aloud and tweaked andread again. After a couple hours, wethought we had it.

A head teacher entered the room,apologizing for having been detained, andwe asked her to read the statement aloud.She did so, unknowingly inserting oneword that elicited from all of us the“Aha!” of knowing.

On the facing page we present therevised CFS mission statement, as it willappear in our new admissions materials.

What word had been inserted? The“our” before children, in the last sentence.

For many of us, this search has beenemblematic of that line from the songSimple Gifts: “‘til by turning, turning, wecome ‘round right.”

We believe we’re there, for now. Hearty thanks to all who participated

in the journey.

Seeking to Condense Our Mission Statement

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Photo by Nick Kelsh / Design by Lisa Winward

Our new viewbooks and brochures have arrived!In order to to expand the range of communities familiar with CFS, we have been working with Kelsh Wilson Design over the past

year, to produce our first professionally designed materials. We selected Kelsh Wilson because of their significant experience withFriends Schools. In fact, each of the key members of our Kelsh Wilson team had children who have attended or were attending FriendsSchools.

We have now received new brochures and our first-ever viewbooks to help us to advance the mission of Carolina Friends School.We’re eager to share our new materials, and if We & Thee readers would like to help to spread the good word, we’d be glad to know!

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AROLINA FRIENDS SCHOOL IS A VIBRANT AND INCLUSIVE LEARNING COMMUNITY EMPOWERING

STUDENTS TO THINK CRITICALLY, CREATIVELY, AND INDEPENDENTLY. WE FOSTER ACTIVE EXPLORATION AND

QUIET REFLECTION, INDIVIDUAL ENDEAVOR AND COLLABORATIVE ENGAGEMENT. INSPIRED BY QUAKER

VALUES – PURSUIT OF TRUTH, RESPECT FOR ALL, PEACEFUL RESOLUTION OF CONFLICT, SIMPLICITY, THE CALL

TO SERVICE – WE TEACH OUR CHILDREN THAT IT IS POSSIBLE TO CHANGE THE WORLD.

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Advancing the Mission: Anthony L. ClayReturns as Director of Advancement

Where did you grow up?

I’m from Greenwood, Arkansas, a smalltown of about 3500 people. It was a greatplace to grow up, and my parents are stillthere. I went to a very good public school,with amazing teachers who worked hard andinspired me. I’ll visit my high school speechand debate teachers when I go home.As a child, what did you want to be?

There are a lot of people in my home townwho probably think I’m still interested inbeing President of the US, because I wasand still am very interested in politics. Where did you go to school?

I attended American University, inWashington DC, because I wanted to be inthe heart of American politics. I studiedInternational Relations, including a wonder-ful year abroad. I became interested in uni-versity teaching and came back for a secondbachelor’s degree in History, which I pur-sued in grad school at Emory. I obtained amaster’s degree and completed the course-work leading to a PhD. I started a disserta-tion on Senator J. William Fulbright, theArkansas senator. But in 1996, universityjobs were scarce, it was time to get creative,so I started teaching at Holland Hall, anindependent school in Tulsa, OK.What about your new job at CFS excites you?

What doesn’t excite me about it?Certainly I’m excited about getting to

create this new advancement director role.I’m excited about being connected to everyunit and constituency of the School. AndI’m excited to return to a school shaped dayin and day out by a Quaker ethos and her-itage that produces good students and alsogood people. When I first came here, I camein part because I felt working here wouldmake me a better educator and a better per-son. That remains true.I’ve heard you say that as you’ve moved fromone educational role to another, and fromschool to school, you’ve learned about your-self. Can you share a little about that?

When I started college, I never imaginedmyself a history teacher or college coun-selor, and when I was doing those things Ididn’t imagine myself a Director of

Advancement. The chance to be part of thebig-picture life of the School, beyond myclassroom or counseling work, is very excit-ing to me. That’s the progression from thir-teen years in the classroom and twelve incollege counseling. Just as I want students inthe college search process to stay open topossibility, I think the way has opened forme to take on this new role. From your experience of CFS over theyears, can you identify any “missionmoments” that are particularly compelling?

I’ve loved coming to the Martin Luther KingDay celebration every year. I’ve been gonefour years, but I haven’t missed an MLK cel-ebration at CFS. It says so much about thehistory and mission and values of theschool, and the nature of community here.When our students and parents and staff aresinging with members of the Mt. SinaiBaptist Church choir, that engages the widercommunity. That the celebration is sofocused on and led by students also says alot about this place. That we’re in schooltogether when almost no one else is says alot. We’re not shopping or playing videogames; we’re celebrating the heritage ofMartin Luther King and other civil rightschampions. I always have a “goose bumpmoment” at a MLK celebration. This isamazing. This is Friends School.You’re very involved in the wider com-munity. Any projects that you’re particu-larly passionate about?

Student U is a good example. This intensive

summer and school-year academic progrmserves students who are at risk of disengag-ing in Durham public schools. It involvespartnership, in this case public schools, anindependent school, and three universities. Itis about empowering young people; it wasfounded by three college students and theteachers are college-aged students. And itsambitions are vast. Individuals at CFS havebeen connected to Student U. Student U’sfounder Dan Kimbrough’s was impressed bythe power of silence he felt on a visit to CFSlast year. As a direct result, students therenow begin every day with ten minutes ofquiet journal writing. I’d like to find otherways that CFS can connect to this project.Can you identify a major hero?

I look at the foot soldiers in the Civil Rightsmovement, the ones crossing the Edmund-Pettus Bridge in Selma in 1965, led by JohnLewis and later Martin Luther King. Theywere by and large ordinary people, includingyoung people. These are the unsung heroesof the civil rights movement, ordinary peo-ple who believed they had a role to play. Ihope we model that sense of possibility forstudents, and that they see that imperative inQuaker history, whether regarding race,peace, or other social justice issues.What have you been reading lately?

A lot of CFS documents! I have a lot ofbooks I’d love to read, but I probably won’tget to them this summer. What kinds of movies do you like?

I love movies., especially independent films,foreign films, classics. Quirky things like Ran,the Akira Kurasawa version of King Lear. Ialso love Babette’s Feast.What music do you listen to?

I have pretty eclectic musical taste. In collegeI was a DJ at a country western station. Iparticularly like classic rock, and also classi-cal and jazz. I love Gospel music too, whichI think comes from growing up in the South.There are reasons this music has been sopowerful throughout history. Hobbies you’d like to share?

I like to work in the yard; it’s a source ofstress relief for me. I enjoy cooking, but Idon’t cook as much as I used to. I love to

On August 1, Anthony L. Clay returns to CFS as the School’s first Director of Advancement, marking a critical step in the implementation of the CFS Long Range Strategic Plan: Meeting the Challenge. As Director of Advancement, Anthony will be responsible for the oversight

of all aspects of Alumni and Parent Relations, Communications, Development, and Information Management at CFS.

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Beginning with the 2009-2010 school year, Martha Klopfer will move to Emeritus status on the CFS Board of Trustees. At its June meeting, the members of the Board approved this minute:

The members of the Board of Trustees of the Carolina Friends School wish to express ourdeep gratitude to Martha Klopfer for her long and remarkable service to Carolina FriendsSchool. More than forty-five years ago Martha participated in its courageous founding anddesign. Her passionate, tenacious, and single-minded commitment to the School and its mis-sion and philosophy has informed the work of the Board and of the School, nurturedstrong integrity, and inspired the growth and vibrant involvement of others in an ever-widening community. Her counsel has been incalculably valuable, unerringly discerning.

Thank you, Martha, for your courage, and persistence, for your firm adherence to principle,for your calm presence, for your faith and generosity, for your love, for the Light and gracewith which you live and serve, and for your humble gift of an exemplary life lived andshaped by Quaker testimonies.

Ninth day, June 2009

Minute of Appreciation for Martha Klopfer

In appreciation of Martha KlopferI joined the CFS community 20 years ago as Principal, straight fromthe classroom. I was drawn to this unique community as a place oflearning, joy, natural beauty, and integrity that truly lived its val-ues. For me, Martha both articulated and embodied those values.Working with the Board was an area of school life that wasentirely new to me — among many others! Beginning with the searchprocess, and throughout my time at CFS, Martha’s guidance, support,counsel and nurturing were a tremendous blessing to me. Marthahad, one could say, an experiential overview, a living sense of theschool’s history that went back to its founding. For all of her andPeter’s extraordinarily passionate involvement and generous commitmentto CFS, Martha always displayed a remarkable degree of calm, patience,and a healthy sense of distance.Fortunately for me, that distance wasn’t too far! There were manyoccasions during my first years when, in the midst of a challengingissue I would bolt out the back door of the Center building, slip downthe steps, ford the creek behind the Lower School, and make my waythrough the pasture to talk with Martha. She would graciously inviteme to settle into the living room amidst the overstacked bookcases andher loom, or to stroll through the horse barns and fields and confer.How I appreciated those talks as a chance to think out loud and tobenefit from Martha’s calm presence and wise perspective! She rarelytried to solve a problem for me, but acted as both sounding board andcompass needle; her principles and instincts were unfailingly true. Ialways left with my spirit renewed, and often with a plan, ready toproceed.Over the years, CFS has grown, changed, and evolved, guided bythe spirit and the principles which Martha has referred to as “ourrules of design.” I have in front of me the original letter fromMartha inviting Aminda and me to join this community. In her charac-teristically direct, modest, and welcoming style Martha wrote: “Thisis a very special Quaker school (I may be prejudiced, but others tellme so.) It is a place where staff and students (and occasionallyBoard members) learn and teach and grow. You have impressed us as onewho is ready and able to learn and grow and lead in a community suchas this.”

Along with many others, I am deeply grateful for the opportunityand trust given to me by this master weaver. Thank you, Martha, forhelping to envision this design, and for working with great faith andcreativity for so many years, in the words of a favorite Quaker tune,to “weave us together, together in love.”

John Baird

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On April 3, CFS welcomed grandparents and grandfriends for ahalf-day of sharing. Counter-clockwise from above: Judith Philpotenjoys time in Mountain Class with her granddaughter, friends, andteacher Laura Lamberson. Mike and Bonnie Gilliom engage in livelyconversation with their grandson and a friend in River Class. Jimand Ellen McCreery visit with their granddaughter and her friend,also in River Class.

Grandparents Day 2009

End-of-Year EventsAt CFS, the end of a school year includes performance, adventure,service, and more. Counter-clockwise, from facing page, upper left:In May, Middle School families gathered for ArtsEve, a celebrationof music, dance, and visual art. Grammy-winning alum JimLauderdale (‘75) visited Upper School and played on the deck atlunch. Upper School end-of-year trips included a civil rights tripthrough the American South, a trip to Trinidad that included build-ing projects and watching sea turtles hatch (below), and the ever-popular trip to the desert Southwest.

Grandparents Day photos by Laura Shmania

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Spring AthleticsAs the school year came to a close, so did another busy spring

athletic season at CFS. Over 40 Middle School students participated on the spring

teams: baseball, girls’ soccer, and boys’ tennis. More than 50 Upper School students participated in spring

sports: girls’ soccer, boys’ tennis, and co-ed ultimate. Seniors AnnaRuth Halberstadt and Dru Marion were named all-conference insoccer. Senior Philip Mayer, after finishing up his second straightundefeated season, was named player of the year in the conference.Playing in the #1 flight, he advanced to the semifinals of the statetournament.

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In Memoriam:Calhoun Doty Geiger, 1917-2009

If you or your child attended the CFS Upper School during the70s or 80s, you knew Cal Geiger, founder of the Upper SchoolService Learning Program. If your Lower School student took abasket weaving interest group any time during that last twenty ormore years, your child knew Cal Geiger, the CFS board memberwho wanted to remain connected to students throughout the year.Carolina Friends School lost a wise, delightful, and steadfast friendand leader on the morning of June 1, when Calhoun Geiger diedpeacefully at his home in Hillsborough, NC.

Born on January 4, 1917 in Jacksonville, Florida, Cal and hiswife Virgie found Friends shortly after Cal had served five years asa Conscientious Objector during World WarII. He dedicated his life to spirit-led service,especially through Quaker organizations,serving as a field representative in theSoutheast region of the American FriendsService Committee, director of Quaker LakeCamp, and a staff member at CarolinaFriends School, where he started the UpperSchool service learning program in 1972.After serving on staff at CFS, Cal dedicatedmany years to service on the CFS Board, andhe mightily enjoyed weekly basket weaving

interest groups in Lower School for many years, until just two yearsago. Cal loved to tell stories, including “tall tales,” to the delight ofthe young students. Cal and Virgie were cherished members ofDurham Friends Meeting, where Cal’s vocal ministry inspiredmany.

Cal is survived by his devoted wife of 63 years, Virgie IleenGeiger, as well as his beloved daughter and son-in-law Ileen andJohn Moorman and son and daughter-in-law Edward (CFS ’76?)and Cindy Geiger. He also leaves three brothers, three grandchil-dren, and one great-grandchild.

Cal liked to think of his life as a series of “Leadings along theWay,” which is the title of a series of storiesfrom his life that he compiled in 1998,through Durham Friends Meeting.

CFS community members who remem-ber Cal will soon be welcome to share mem-ories through the Alumni website: url

A Memorial Meeting for Worship underthe care of Durham Friends Meeting washeld at Carolina Friends School on Saturday,June 27.

Memorials in Cal’s name can be made toCarolina Friends School. �

photo of Cal and Virgie Geiger

at Durham Friends Meeting

by Sunshine Scoville

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of “Good morning,” “Welcome,” and“Hello.” In fact, our most recently com-pleted Long Range Plan: Meeting theChallenge, urges us to consider the manyways in which visitors and newcomerscome into contact with CFS and whereverpossible to affirm and strengthen theSchool’s identity both internally and in thewider community. And we acknowledgethat sharing our story has never been assimple as it seems it ought to be.

So, you’ll have the opportunity to readin this issue of We & Thee about processesthat will have culminated in our revisedmission statement, the launch of a newCFS website soon, the production of newprint materials introducing CFS toprospective families and friends, and thearrival of Anthony L. Clay as our firstDirector of Advancement.

As staff members noted about teach-ing and learning in a 2003 study and state-ment of values and aspirations, “At CFSwe believe that curriculum at its best

builds on the primacy and integrity of rela-tionships.” We know, too, that the mannerin which we begin those relationships,however simple the gesture or greeting,might shape what we are able to achieve.

Hence the great anticipation we feel aswe enter into a new chapter at CFS, recall-ing what is most basic, and endeavoring toexpand the circle of those with whom wemight come into relationship, to realize itsfull possibility.

I’m grateful for the way our new and –I hope improved mission statement articu-lates this:

Carolina Friends School is a vibrant andinclusive learning community empowering studentsto think critically, creatively, and independently.We foster active exploration and quiet reflection,individual endeavor and collaborative engagement.Inspired by Quaker values – pursuit of truth,respect for all, peaceful resolution of conflict, sim-plicity, the call to service – we teach our childrenthat it is possible to change the world.

We & Thee is available in coloronline at www.cfsnc.org.

Would you like to save a tree or two?

If you would like to stop your papercopy and have a color PDF of

We&Thee emailed to you,email kdavidson@cfsnc.org

From the Principal (from page 1) Notes fromDevelopment

On-Line Giving --Always Available and Always Welcome

Why wait to be invited? You can give on-line anytime 24/7. Give when it is most con-venient for you.

You can give your gift without restrictions,in which case the School will decide its bestuse. Or you may restrict your gift. For exam-ple, gifts for tuition aid are particularly helpfulthese days.

On-line giving is easy and secure. Just goto www.cfsnc.org and select the Donate Nowbutton in the upper right-hand corner.

Guaranteed Income for LifeIt may sound too good to be true, but

that’s what you will gain when you establish acharitable gift annuity through CFS.

To obtain a charitable gift annuity, you willneed to contribute $10,000 – or more, if youwish. Your gift will qualify for a federalincome tax deduction that year. The amountof income you will receive annually dependson your age and whether the annuity is foryou only or for you and another person.

Let’s say that you are 60 years old andwant to establish a charitable gift annuity foryourself. The annual rate of return will be5.0%. If you’re 70, the rate is 5.7%; if 80, therate is 7.1%. Such rates of return look verygood these days. And they are guaranteed foryour lifetime. Plus, any money left in yourannuity at your death will come to CarolinaFriends School.

Establishing a charitable gift annuity is awin/win arrangement – because it’s a way tohelp both yourself and the School. For moreinformation, email mdrake@cfsnc.org or call919-383-6602 ext. 228.

Giving from Your IRAIf you are 70.5 years or older, you can give

a gift from your IRA to Carolina FriendsSchool. And your gift will be tax free. Talkwith the institution holding your IRA aboutthe details. An important step is to make surethat the money goes from your IRA accountdirectly to us. Your IRA holder will have theform for you to complete.

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travel. And I love spending time with mykids.Would you share a bit about your family?

Isak is 9, and Emerson, or Emmy, is 6½. (Iwanted to call her Ralph Waldo, but I wasoutvoted.) I co-parent them with two les-bian friends and my partner Bo.In themonth of July, we enjoy “Daddy Camp,”.and we all head to Arkansas for a familyvacation in July.

I know you’re an ice cream aficionado. Any favorites?

Asking me to pick a favorite is like ask-ing a parent to pick a favorite child. I like

more complicated flavors. I have ice creamevery day, year round. I enjoy hosting anice cream social every year for my col-leagues and friends, past and present. I’vedone that since I was at Holland Hall.Anything you want to add?

I appreciate the warm welcome I’vealready received. I’ve certainly beenimpressed by the enthusiasm of staff, stu-dents, parents, alumni, and board for thework of advancement at CFS, for realizingwhat I call the audacious aspirations of thelong range plan. People have bought intothe vision, and that’s a great gift to me asthe first Director of Advancement.

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