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Five-star Etiquette

forFive-star Dining

A Workshop on

Formal Dining Protocol


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President Coolidge & Table

MannersPresident Coolidge invited

some Vermont Friends to dine at theWhite House. They were worriedabout their table manners anddecided to do everything PresidentCoolidge did.

The meal passed smoothly untilcoffee was served. Coolidge pouredhis coffee into a saucer. The guestsdid likewise. Then, Coolidge leaned

over . . . and gave it to his cat!!


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Workshop Objectives I

After completing this workshop, you will beable to:

Label each item in a formal place setting.Identify relationships betweensilverware, tableware, and possible menu

selections.Categorize menu items into the five maincourses.


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Workshop Objectives I

After completing this workshop, you willbe able to:

Explain proper responses to typical diningdilemmas.Demonstrate proper usage of everyelement of a formal place setting during a

mock meal.Demonstrate proper dining behaviorsduring the course of the meal.


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Good Manners

have much to do with the emotions. To

make them ring true, one must feel them,not merely exhibit them.

-Amy VanderbiltThe Columbia World of Quotations, 1996,

from Vanderbilts New Complete Book ofEtiquette, 1963.


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Table Rules

Diners should wait to be seated untildirected to do so by their host or by their

waiter if in a restaurant.Ladies should follow the waiter first withmen following.

It is proper for a gentleman to seat thelady on his right and, if applicable, the ladyon his left. (Many times the head waiter ina restaurant will assume this role.


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Place Setting for aFormal Dinner I

1) Napkin

2) Fish Fork

3) Dinner Fork

4) Salad Fork

5) Soup Bowl andPlate

6) Dinner Plate

7) Dinner Knife

8) Fish Knife

9) Soup Spoon


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Place Setting for aFormal Dinner II

10) Bread andButter Plate

11) Butter Knife

12) Dessert Spoonand Cake Fork

13) SterlingWater Goblet

14) Red WineGoblet

15) White WineGoblet


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Ordering Your Meal

Never order an expensive entreunless you are encouraged to do so by

your host.Likewise, ordering the cheapest itemon the menu is not recommended

either.Consider any dining difficulties aparticular food might present.


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Knife Know-how

Want to look sharp? Hone your diningtechniques by learning the correct method

for cutting meat.American style requires the diner to place theknife in the right hand and fork in the lefthand. Hold the knife loosely in the palm of

your hand with the three outside fingersgently cradling it. Extend and place your indexfinger along the top edge of the blade toprovide stability and strength. The thumbshould wrap below the knife and slightly

encircle the three outside fingers.


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Knife Know-how and Knowledge

When cutting meat, proper etiquetteprotocol requires the diner to cut one

small bite at a time.American style: Place knife on upperright edge of dinner plate with the bladefacing inward and move the dinner fork

to the right hand. Eat the piece ofmeat. Repeat this process for eachindividual bite.


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Course One: Appetizer

If you see a small forkon the far left of yourplate,

fish (likely shrimpcocktail) will be thefirst course.

If you see a spoon on

the far right of yourplate,soup will be thefirst course.

If you see a medium-sized fork on the farleft of your plate,

salad will be thefirst course.

If you see a medium-sized fork on the farleft of your plate,

salad will be thefirst course.


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Appropriate Dinner Activities

Conversation is theonly appropriateactivity when dining

with others.Reading a newspaper,talking on your cellphone, or otherwisediverting yourattention from yourdining partner is theepitome of poormanners.


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Serving Up Some Advice

In the words ofyour mother, Dont

talk with food inyour mouth.Keep your mouthclosed while

chewing food.Never sip abeverage whilefood is still in your

mouth.


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Dining Dilemmas I

Your entre looksso delicious, you

hardly can wait todelve in. Upontaking the firstbite, you realizethe food is scaldinghot (or is spoiled)!!What should youdo?

You begin to chokeon a piece of meat

or you swallow thewrong way. Aquick sip of waterdoes not solve the

problem. Whatshould be your nextcourse of action?

Emily Posts Etiquette p. 118, copyright 1984


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Dining Dilemmas II

You begin to takeyour first bite of a

menu item andnotice foreignmatter in yourfood, i.e. a hair inyour salad or a flyin your soup. Howshould you handlethis situation?

After finishingyour meal, you

realize a piece offood is stuck inyour teeth. Theparticle of food iscausing muchdiscomfort. Youmust do something,but what???

Emily Posts Etiquette p. 119, copyright 1984


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Dining Dilemmas III

The inevitable hasfinally happened!!

You accidentallydropped somehollandaise sauceon the dining table.

You know it needsto be removed, buthow?

It is allergy seasonand sneezing attackshit you from time totime. Your springformal is tonight andyou are afraid thatyou will sneeze your

dinner roll right offthe table. How doyou plan to handlethis situation?


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Formal Dining I:DOs and DONTs

* Blow on yoursoup to make it

cool quickly.* Use your cellphone to keep intouch with friends.

* Thank thewaiter each time

you are served.* Tear yourbread beforeyou butter it.

* Discuss yourfood preferences.

* Leave the tablewith a quiet,Excuse me.


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Formal Dining II:DOs and DONTs

* Take liquid inyour mouth with

food to wash itdown.

* Push your plateaway when you

finish eating.

* When dining with alarge group, begineating after three orfour people areserved.

* Sit up straight

in your chair.

* Place a piece ofsilverware directly

on the table

* Use the properutensils with eachcourse.


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Etiquette:You have: . . . . . . .

Learned itPracticed it

Experienced it.One last thought:

My father, Ben Oswald, always told

me when I was young, Manners willcarry you where shoes wont. He wasright!!!


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How will this workshop affectyou in the future?

A quick examination of current resources onetiquette reveals a re-emergence of societysfocus on etiquette.

Statements from employers interviewing aprospective employee over lunch or dinnerconfirms the importance of proper etiquette. Anemployee who is very capable of fulfilling a

position, but who has no polish may beoverlooked when an offer is made although hemay have superior qualifications.The ability to present oneself well to society isand always will be very important!!


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DAREto . . . . . . .


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Resources

Georgia Southern Universityhttp://www2.gasou.edu/sta/career/diningetiquette.PDF

Manners Internationalhttp://www.ryangrpinc.com/etiquette_tips_table.asp?offset=0

Hollywood Squares MS PowerPoint Template by Mark E. Damon,2000, [email protected] from the Blaine County School Districtweb site, Hailey, ID,http://www.bcsd.k12.id.us/district/downloads.html

Microsoft Design Gallery Live, http://dgl.microsoft.comProfessional Dining Etiquette, American University Career Center,

Taken from Events Magazine( May/June 1998)www.american.edu/careercenter/online_career_library/DiningEtiq.pdfManners That Matter For People Under 21by Dale Carlson & DanFitzgibbonPresident Coolidge and Table Manners from Vermont Only, MileSquare Farm, Inc., 2003.

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