facing the challenges of raising young children

8/8/2019 Facing the Challenges of Raising Young Children

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FACING THE CHALLENGESFACING THE CHALLENGES

OF RAISING YOUNGOF RAISING YOUNGCHILDRENCHILDRENLizamarie Campoamor-

OlegarioU.P. College of Education


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MEDIAMEDIA

Challenge No. 1


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MediaMedia

Hours of television

Brain development on in children

Too much media has impact on: attention span

language abilities

cognitive ability

Creativity intrinsic motivation

social skills


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MediaMedia

Television violence

Can become hard-hearted

Can become frightened, worried, orsuspicious

Can be more aggressive on the

playground and in the classroom.


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Guiding Child in TV ViewingGuiding Child in TV Viewing

Be a good role model

Plan to view specific programs

Make sure they have some physicalactivity

Make sure TV does not substitute for

other more appropriate activities Balance reading and TV


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Guiding Child in TV ViewingGuiding Child in TV Viewing

Participate in childs viewing

Explaining situations that are confusing

Asking feelings or responses to theprogram

Helping analyze the commercials

Discussing difference between fantasy

and reality


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COMMERCIALISMCOMMERCIALISM

Challenge No. 2


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CommercialismCommercialism

Emphasis on monetary profit, self-

gratification and material comfort

Due to absence of parents andabandonment

Results to

No experience of hard work, sacrifice,patience, the virtue of waiting, etc.

Lack discipline and character

Low self-esteem


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MaterialismMaterialism--related Behaviors/related Behaviors/

DataData


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Good Reasons Not to SaturateGood Reasons Not to Saturate

the Child with Excessivethe Child with Excessive

MaterialismMaterialism Children who are given whatever they

want rarely develop a sense of

appreciation for anything that they

receive

Child who is given too much is actually

cheated out of the experience of

pleasure

delayed gratification


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Keeping Child from BeingKeeping Child from Being

Materialistic

Materialistic

Reinforce the fact that he is a worthy

individual, both during his successes

and his failures

Focus on the childs self-esteem

Balance work and family

Quality time


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OVERPROTECTIVENESSOVERPROTECTIVENESS

Challenge No. 3


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Are You OverAre You Over--protective?protective?

Imploring child to eat dinner every night

Constantly warning of dangers such asfalling which are a normal risk in

children's games Constantly reminding your child to do

what is a reasonable responsibility of hisage Indicates that you lack confidence in him and

thus undermine his security

Providing everything for the child

Doing everything for the child


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OverOver--protectivenessprotectiveness

Clip children's wings and hinder them

from soaring high

They will still need to face life on theirown


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Avoiding OverAvoiding Over--

protectivenessprotectiveness Help your child simultaneously grow

and yet stay secure in your

unconditional love.

As your child develops, make him

secure by constantly letting him know

that you are interested in him as a

person, and that you want him and lovehim.


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Dont Talk to StrangersDont Talk to Strangers

Parents themselves violate this rule allthe time

Who exactly is a stranger? Are

Most strangers would help your child ifshe were lost, hurt, or in trouble

Most people who prey on children are notstrangers but people your child knows

and trusts Children under the age of 10 can easily

fall victim to the wily ways of predators


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Dont Talk to StrangersDont Talk to Strangers

You're burdening your child with

keeping herself safe.

Children over age 10 can considermore than one factor at a time.


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Emotionally literate students have

mastered the emotional abilities that

inoculate them against the turmoil and

pressures they are about to face

during life transitions"

(Daniel Goleman, 1995).


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PERFECTIONISMPERFECTIONISM

Challenge No. 4


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Typical Perfectionist ParentsTypical Perfectionist Parents

Being more concerned about what

other people will think of them than

about what is truly right

Unable to freely give oneself

emotionally

Scolding their child for shouting or

singing in the house, or for returning

dirty after playing outdoors


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Typical Perfectionist ParentsTypical Perfectionist Parents

Really saying that what the child does

naturally is not suitable behavior.

Mistakes are unacceptable

Excessive praise or demands

Parental love being conditional upon

the child`s exemplary achievement


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Extreme PerfectionismExtreme Perfectionism

Linked toLinked to Performance and social anxiety Eating disorders

Migraine headaches Obsessive-compulsive disorder

Depression

Suicide


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Dealing with PerfectionismDealing with Perfectionism

Avoid comparing

Involve child in setting realistic

standards Make mistakes okay

Encourage rather than praise

Theres a great difference betweenperfectionism and excellence

Decrease emphasis on winning


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OBESITYOBESITY

Challenge No. 5


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Contribution of ChangingContribution of Changing

Society to ObesitySociety to Obesity

More food is prepared away from

home

Energy-dense foods and drinks aremore readily available

Portion sizes of energy-dense foods

have increased

Marketing of energy-dense foods and

drinks has increased


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Contribution of ChangingContribution of Changing

Society to ObesitySociety to Obesity

The use of private transport has

increased

The number of two-income families hasincreased

The time spent in paid employment has

increased

The role of physical education in the

school curriculum has reduced


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Causes of ObesityCauses of Obesity

unhealthy food choices

lack of physical activity

family eating habits.


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Health Problems AssociatedHealth Problems Associated

with Obesitywith Obesity

Type 2 diabetes

Eating disorders such as bulimia

Orthopaedic disorders Liver problems

Respiratory disorders, such as blocked

airways and restrictions in the chest wall

Sleep apnoea

Cardiomyopathy


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Social ProblemsSocial Problems

Teased by their peers

Low self-esteem

May impact on other aspects of theirlives such as the development of

friendships and competency at school.


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Curtailing ObesityCurtailing Obesity

Limit TV viewing and

time on the computer

Encourage participation in physicalactivity and sports

Curtail visits to fast-food restaurants

Provide nutritious, well-balanced, low-calorie, and low-fat meals


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Curtailing ObesityCurtailing Obesity

Limit the availability of high-fat andhigh-sugar snacks in your home

Encourage children's autonomy in self-regulation of food intake

Work with schools 'to decrease theavailability of foods and beverages

with little nutritional value Promote regular 'physical education

programs


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BULLIESBULLIES

Challenge No. 6


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Forms of BullyingForms of Bullying

Physical

Emotional

Cyber


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How to Deal with BullyingHow to Deal with Bullying

Help build self-confidence

Develop mindfulness of body language

Develop conflict resolution skills Teach your child to become a good

decision maker as well as an

independent thinker will equip them with the tools when beingpressured by their peers


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DRUGS AND SEXDRUGS AND SEX

Challenge No. 7


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Drug and SexDrug and Sex

The best time to talk to kids about drugs andsex is when theyre between the ages of 6 and12

Explain your fears about early sex and druguse

Give examples of people whose life changedfor the worse because of early sexual activityor drug use.

When watching a TV program or video with astoryline featuring sex and drugs, offer youropinion and feelings on the subject.


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WHEN KIDS DO NOT WANTWHEN KIDS DO NOT WANTTO STUDYTO STUDY

Challenge No. 8


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What to DoWhat to Do

Provide an environment that allowschildren to freely explore and to see theeffect of their actions

Allow children ample time when workingto allow for persistence

Resist the natural urge to "help

Clearly define limits

Working together on an activity This lets you observe, model, and encourage

your child.


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What to DoWhat to Do

Provide situations that give children anacceptable challenge

Give children opportunities to evaluate

their own accomplishments. Rather than stating that you think they have

done a good job, ask them what they think oftheir work.

Do not use excessive rewards. Praise and rewards should be based upon

children's effort and persistence, rather thanon the actual accomplishment


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Parents of SuccessfulParents of Successful

ChildrenChildren Have realistic beliefs about theirchildren

Have high expectations

Are authoritative parents

Talk to, listen to, and read to theirchildren


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WHEN YOU TWO DONT GETWHEN YOU TWO DONT GETALONG TOGETHERALONG TOGETHER

Challenge No. 9


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Childrens Response toChildrens Response to

Constant FightingConstant Fighting

They are afraid

They take their anger out on other adults,such as teachers, and have behavior

problems in school. They feel guilty about siding with one parent.

They mistreat their brothers and sisters.

They lose respect for their parents authority

and stop listening to them. They become depressed and occupied with

thoughts of running away or suicide.


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Parents Who ConstantlyParents Who Constantly

BickerBicker Tend to become overly critical of theirchildrens behavior.

Take their frustration out on the kids,creating an even more hostile and

tense atmosphere.

Occasional argument is normal;

constant fighting is not


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WHAT IS PARENTING?WHAT IS PARENTING?


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Two Basic IngredientsTwo Basic Ingredients

Love

Structure


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Parenting StylesParenting Styles

High

Love

Low

Love

High

Structure

Authoritative Authoritarian

LowStructure

Permissive Neglectful


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Models for ParentingModels for Parenting

"Rules of traffic

"Fine gardening

"Reward and punishment "Taking Children Seriously"

"Parenting For Everyone"


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Thank you for listening!Thank you for listening!

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