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End of LifE:The FacTs
a booklet for people in the final stages of life, and their carers
MacMillancancerSupport/Mariecuriecancercare5
endoflife–thefactS/forewordendoflife:thefactS/foreword
MacMillancancerSupport/Mariecuriecancercare5
forEwordKnowing what to expect when someone nears the end of
life is vitally important – both for the person who’s ill and
for their family and friends. Nothing can heal deep feelings
of pain and loss. But having information can help us to
prepare for the physical and emotional changes that we
might be experiencing.
iknowfrompersonalexperienceitcanbeatimeofgreat
uncertaintyandstress–muchofwhichcanbeavoidedby
simplyknowingwhat’sgoingonandhowandwhythings
maychange.
thisbookletfromMariecuriecancercareandMacmillan
cancerSupportaimstofillthatinformationgap.
it’scalledEnd of Life: The Factsandprovidesapractical
guidetothewiderangeofsituationsandissueswhichface
manypatientsandcarers,particularlythosemakingthe
choicetostayathome.
endoflifecareisasensitivesubject,butibelievethereisa
tremendousvalueinfeelingfullyinformedandinvolvedin
makingdecisions–bigandsmall.
Esther Rantzen
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endoflife:thefactS/contentS
contEnts1 Issues to consider 9
Questionstoask
2 Being looked after at home 15
whocanhelpifyouarelookedafterathome
wheretogettheequipmentyouneed
wheretogetfinancialsupport
otherplaceswhereyoucanbelookedafter
3 The last few weeks of life 29
emotionalandmindchanges
copingwithphysicalchangesandsymptoms
complementarytherapies
lastingpowerofattorney,advancedecisions
andadvancestatements
4 The last few days of life 51
physicalcare
Symptoms
5 Nearing death 59
whathappens
Mindchanges
physicalchanges
finalmomentsoflife
6 After the death 65
whatyourGpwilldo
whatyourfuneraldirectorwilldo
registeringthedeath
howgriefmightaffectyou
7 National organisations that can help 75
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endoflife:thefactS/aboutendoflife:thefactS
About End of LifE: ThE facTsIt can be very upsetting and shocking to be told that your
illness cannot be cured, and you may need help and support
to cope with this news.
thisbookletexplainswhathappensattheendoflifeand
howtoplanforit.itgivesinformationforpeoplewhowould
liketobelookedafterathomeduringthefinalstagesoftheir
life.Yourrelativesandclosefriendsmayalsoneedsupport
andadvice,sosomeofthisinformationhasbeenwritten
forthem.
bothyouandyourcarerscanreadthisbooklet.itmayhelp
youtodiscusstheinformationtogetherafteryou’vereadit.
Youmayfinditdifficulttoreadthebookletallatonce,soyou
mayprefertodipintodifferentsectionswhenyoufeelable
todoso.wehaveincludedausefullistofissuestoconsider
atthebeginning.
Manysupportservicescanhelpyoucopeatwhatmay
beadifficulttime.wehavelistedtheirdetailsattheend
ofthebooklet.
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cHAPtEr 1
issuEs to considEr This chapter is about some of the issues you may want to
consider. We’ve listed some questions to help you and your
carers think about how you’d like to be cared for.
Youcandiscussthesewithyourhealthcareprofessionals
sothat,whereverpossible,theycanhelpcareforyouinthe
wayandplaceyou’dlike.
You can discuss
the questions
with your
healthcare
professionals.
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QuEstions to Ask
These questions are just suggestions, so you might want
to ignore any that you don’t feel are relevant to you.
We hope the information in this booklet will also help to
answer some of your questions.
itcanbedauntingtothinkabouttheseissues,soyoumay
liketogethelpfromarelative,closefriendorasupport
organisation(seepage75).Yourhealthcareprofessionals
canalsosupportyou.
Macmillanhasabooklet,Coping with advanced cancer,
whichyoumayalsofinduseful.Youcanorderacopyby
calling0808 808 00 00orgoingtobe.macmillan.org.uk
information
• whatinformationdoyouneedaboutyourillnesstohelp
youunderstandwhatmayhappentoyou?
being at home
• doyouneedtothinkaboutsleepinginadifferent
roomathometomakeiteasierforyou:forexamplein
aroomdownstairs?
• ishomestillthebestplaceforyoutobe?
• Mightitbebetterforyoutobecaredforelsewhere:
forexampleinafamilymember’sorfriend’shouseorin
ahospice,hospitalornursinghome?
Who do you
want to have
around you?
You may like
to get help from
a relative,
close friend
or support
organisation.
People and surroundings
• howwouldyoulikeyoursurroundingstobeas
youaredying?
• howdoyouwanttobetreatedbyyourrelativesand
closefriendswhenyouaredying?
• whodoyouwanttohavearoundyou?
• aretherepeopleyoudon’twanttoseeordon’tfeel
wellenoughtosee?
• arethereanyissuesyou’dliketosortoutwith
particularpeople?
• isthereanythingyouwantdoneforthepeopleyoulove?
• isthereanythingyouwantdoneforanypets?
• wouldyoulikeadoctorornursetospeaktoyouoryour
relativesorclosefriendsaboutanyparticularissues?
• doyoufeelthatyouoryourrelativesorclosefriends
wouldbenefitfromsupportorcounselling?
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sorting things out
• isthereanythingthatyouwanttodobeforeyou
gettooill?
• haveyoumadeawill?
• doyouwishtocreatealastingpowerofattorney?
(seepage44)
• arethereanyspiritualorreligiouspracticesthatyou’d
liketobecarriedout?whodoyouneedtoasktomake
surethishappens?
• arethereparticularpracticesyou’dliketohavecarried
outatthetimeofyourdeath?
• doyouwantyourbodytobetreatedinaparticularway
onceyouhavedied?
• whatfuneralarrangementswouldyouliketobemade?
• doyouwanttobeburiedorcremated?
• ifyouchoosetobecremated,wherewouldyoulikeyour
ashestobescattered?
decisions about treatments
• arethereparticulartreatmentsyoudon’twanttohave?
• doyouwanttowriteanadvancedecisiontorefuse
treatment(alsoknownasanadvancedirectiveorliving
will)?–seepage46.
if you are a carer
• howcanyoutakecareofyourself?
• whatdoyouneedtobeabletolookafteryour
relativeorclosefriend?
• canyougethelpwithhousework,shoppingandcooking
sothatyouhavemoreenergytobeacarer?
What do you
need to be able
to look after
your relative or
close friend?
Is there anything
that you want to
do before you get
too ill?
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cHAPtEr 2
bEing LookEd AftEr At HomE Many people want to die at home, in their own bed,
surrounded by their close family and friends. If you want to
be at home, then help and support is available for you and
your carers.
althoughdyingisanaturalprocess,fewpeoplehave
experienceoflookingaftersomeonewhoisdying.ifyouare
acarer,thethoughtoflookingaftersomeoneyoucareforor
areclosetoathomecanbefrightening.however,itcanalso
beoneofthemostrewardingexperiencesyoucanhave,and
atimeofgreatcloseness.
thischaptergivesyouinformationabout:
• whocanhelpifyouarelookedafterathome
• wheretogettheequipmentyouneed
• wheretogetfinancialsupport
• otherplacesyoucanbelookedafter
Looking after
someone you are
close to can be a
time of great
closeness.
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wHo cAn HELP if you ArE LookEd AftEr At HomE
it’simportantthatyouandyourcarershaveasmuchsupport
aspossible.caringcanbehardwork,bothphysicallyand
emotionally.it’snotalwayseasytoaskforhelp,asweoften
feelweshouldtrytocopealone.however,therearemany
healthcareprofessionalswhocanhelpyouandyourcarers.
carersmayfindMacmillan’sbookletCaring for someone with
advanced cancerhelpful.Youcanorderacopybycalling
0808 808 00 00orgoingtobe.macmillan.org.uk
your gPwhileyouareathome,yourGphasoverallresponsibilityfor
yourcare.theycanhelpyouindifferentways,forexampleif:
• you’reworriedaboutanychangesinyoursymptoms,
theycanarrangetoseeyoueitherinthesurgeryorat
home–whentheyassessyou,they’lldiscussoptionsfor
treatingandcontrollingyoursymptoms
• youwanttotalkthroughwhatmayhappenasyou
becomelesswell
• youwanttomakeaplanfordealingwithemergencies
(althoughthisisn’toftenneeded)sothatyougetthe
careyouwant
• youneednursingcare–theycanarrangeforyoutobe
seenbyadistrictnursewhowillhelptoorganisethisfor
youathome
• youneedspecialistcarefromapalliativecareteam
(seepage18),theycanarrangeforyoutobeseenat
homebyaspecialistpalliativecarenurse.
It’s important
that you and your
carers have as
much support
as possible.
district nurses districtnursesworkcloselywithGpsandpalliativecare
nurses.theymakevisitstopatientsandtheircarersathome
andcanprovidehelpwith:
• givingdrugsandinjections,changingdressings,giving
adviceonpressureareacareandtoiletproblems,such
asincontinenceandconstipation–theywillarrange
visitsasneededandwillletyouknowabouttheservices
theyprovide
• showingyourrelativeshowtomoveyouandtakecareof
yourpersonalneeds
• coordinatingyourcareandcontactingotherhealthor
socialservicestohelplookafteryouiftheyareneeded.
districtnursesoftenworkwithpalliativecarenursestohelp
supportyouandyourcarerssothatyoucanremainathome.
theymaybeabletoarrangeanursingassistant(alsocalleda
healthcareassistant)tohelpwithtaskssuchaswashingand
personalcare.
nurses who specialise in a specific diseasenurseswhospecialiseincaringforpeoplewithspecific
diseasesorconditions,forexampleheartfailure,renal
diseaseormotorneuronedisease(Mnd),areknownas
clinicalnursespecialists(orcnSs).theyworkinpartnership
withyourdistrictnurses,hospitalorcommunityteam.
District nurses
may be able to
arrange help with
tasks such as
washing and
personal care.
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marie curie nursing servicetheMariecurienursingServiceprovidesateamofnurses
acrosstheukthatofferpracticalnursinghelptopeoplewith
cancerorotherillnesseswhoarenearingtheendoftheirlife.
Mariecurienursescanstayinyourhomeovernight,orfor
partoftheday,sothatyourcarerscangetagoodnight’s
sleep,orabreakduringtheday.
Mariecurienursingcareisfreeandyourdistrictnursewill
usuallyarrangeitforyou.
Hospital or community palliative care teamspalliativecareteamsprovidecarewhichisspecifically
aimedatimprovingthequalityoflifeofpeopleandtheir
carerswhoarecopingwithlifelimitingprogressiveillnesses,
suchascancer.
hospitalpalliativecareteamsareusuallybasedinahospital,
andcommunitypalliativecareteamsarebasedinthe
community.hospitalpalliativecareteamscanvisityou
ifyou’reaninpatientorifyou’reattendingaclinic
appointment.communitypalliativecareteamsareoften
linkedtoahospiceandcanvisityouathome.allpalliative
careteamscangiveyouadviceonpaincontrol,coping
withothersymptoms,emotionalsupportandadviceon
practicalproblems.
palliativecareteamsincludespecialistpalliativecarenurses
anddoctors.Manyteamsalsohave,orworkcloselywith,
asocialworker,counsellor,occupationaltherapist,
physiotherapistandaspiritualcarecoordinatororchaplain.
Marie Curie
nurses can stay
in your home
overnight, or for
part of the day.
Specialist palliative care nursesareexperiencedinassessing
andtreatingyoursymptomsandalsoprovidecounselling
andemotionalsupportforyouandyourcarers.Most
specialistpalliativecarenursesworkcloselywithawider
hospitalorcommunitypalliativecareteam,whichincludes
doctorsandotherhealthcareprofessionals.
Specialistpalliativecarenursesaresometimesreferredtoas
Macmillan nurses.howevermanyMacmillanprofessionalsare
nurseswhohavespecialistknowledgeinaparticulartypeof
cancer.Youmayseethemwhenyou’reatclinicorinhospital.
Doctorsspecialisinginpalliativemedicinegiveexpert
medicaladviceonmanagingpeoplewithadvanceddisease.
theyworkcloselywithpalliativecarenursesandmayvisit
peopleathomeifneeded.
NursesSomecommunitypalliativecareteamshavenurses
whocanvisityouathomeandprovidepracticalcaresuchas
washing,dressingandgivingdrugs.aspecialistpalliative
carenursewillusuallyarrangecarefromthesenurses.
Physiotherapistscanhelpillpeopletomovearound.theycan
alsohelpwithpainreliefandifyouhavebreathingproblems.
Specialist
palliative care
nurses provide
counselling and
emotional
support for you
and your carers.
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Social workers/care managerscanorganisehelpwith
housework,shoppingandcooking,orapersonalcare
assistanttohelpwithtaskssuchaswashinganddressing.
ifyoucanaffordit,youmaybeaskedtopaytowardsthecost
ofthishelp,butinsomecircumstancesitmaybefundedfor
you.Socialworkersorcaremanagerscanalsogiveyou
informationaboutanybenefitsyoumaybeabletoclaim,
suchasattendanceallowanceordisabilitylivingallowance
(seepage22).theymayalsobeabletoprovidemore
advancedcounsellingandemotionalsupportforyouand
yourcarers.
Occupational therapistscanvisityourhometoassesswhether
specialistequipmentwouldhelpyoumovearoundandbeable
todoasmuchforyourselfaspossible(seepage21).
Counsellorsaretrainedtohelppeopleinalltypesof
situations.Seeingacounsellorcanhelppeopleto
understandandexpresstheirfeelings,andcopebetter
withtheirsituation.
Spiritual care coordinators or chaplainsofferspiritual
careandsupport.
Yourdistrictnurse,specialistnurseorGpcantellyouhowto
accessthesehealthcareprofessionalsandaboutthespecific
typesofhelpandsupportavailableinyourarea.
Social workers or
care managers
can give you
information
about any
benefits you may
be able to claim.
wHErE to gEt tHE EQuiPmEnt you nEEd
Yourdistrictnurseoroccupationaltherapistcanorganise
equipmenttohelpyoumanageathome.
Yourdistrictnursecanarrangeforyoutohave:
• acommode,urinal,bedpansorincontinencesheets
• aspecialmattressorshapedpillows
• ahoistorsling
• aspecialbed.
Youroccupationaltherapistcansupply:
• anadjustablebed
• awheelchair,walkingframeorramp
• smallgadgets,suchastwo-handledmugsor
specialcutlery
• grab-railsforyourbath.
Youroccupationaltherapistcanalsogiveyouinformation
aboutstairlifts.
ifyouhaven’tseenanoccupationaltherapist,butneedsome
equipmentwhichtheyusuallysupply,askyourdistrictnurse,
Gporcommunitypalliativecareteamtoarrangeforoneto
visityourhome.
Manyshopsandorganisationsalsosellorhireaidsand
equipment.theredcross(seepage87)hiresoutequipment
suchascommodesandwheelchairs.Youcanalsobuyitemssuch
asincontinencepadsandurinalsfrommostlargechemists.
Your district
nurse or
occupational
therapist can
organise
equipment to
help you manage
at home.
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wHErE to gEt finAnciAL suPPort
illnessnearlyalwaysinvolvesunexpectedexpensesand
thiscancauseextraworryatatimewhenyouleastneed
it.helpisavailablefromanumberofsourcesandcan
sometimesbeaccessedatshortnotice.
benefitsifyou’dliketofindoutmoreaboutanybenefitsyoumaybe
entitledto,thebenefitsagencyhastwobooklets(ib1and
Sd1),whichoutlinesocialsecuritybenefits.Youcangetacopy
fromyourlocalcitizensadvicebureauwherestaffcanadvise
youaboutthebenefitsyoucanclaim.Youcanfindtheir
contactdetailsinthephonebookandyou’llusuallyneedto
makeanappointment.Youcanalsogetinformationfromthe
benefitenquirylineonfreephone 0800 882200orthe
departmentforworkandpensionswebsiteatdwp.gov.uk
Youmayqualifyfordisabilitylivingallowanceifyouare
under65orforattendanceallowanceifyouare65andover.
Yourlocalsocialsecurityofficecansendyouclaimforms.
thereisafast-trackclaimforpeoplewhomaynotlivelonger
thansixmonths.peopleclaimingunderthis‘specialrule’
needtogettheirdoctortocompleteaformforeither
benefit.Yourdistrictnurseorpalliativecarenursespecialist
cantellyoumoreaboutthese,andwhetheryoucanapply
forthem.
Financial help
is available from
a number of
sources and can
sometimes be
accessed at
short notice.
direct payments ifyou’vebeenassessedasneedingsocial
services,suchashelpwithpracticalcareathome,youmay
beentitledtogetdirectpaymentsfromyourlocalauthority.
thismeansthatyou’regivenpaymentstoorganisesocial
servicesyourself,ratherthanlocalsocialservicesorganising
andpayingforthemforyou.Youcangetinformationabout
directpaymentsfromthedepartmentofhealthwebsiteat
dh.gov.ukorfromyourlocalauthority.
other financial helpYoumayalsobeabletoclaimgrantsfromother
organisationsorcharities.MacmillancancerSupportgives
grantsandbenefitsadvicetopeoplewithcancer–callthe
MacmillanSupportlineon0808 808 00 00.Youcanalso
orderthebookletHelp with the cost of cancerat
be.macmillan.org.ukorbycalling0808 808 00 00.
Yourunionorprofessionalorganisation,ifyoubelongtoone,
maybeabletogiveyoufinancialhelporadvice.forexample,
actors,bankemployees,doctors,musicians,nurses,printers,
socialworkers,membersofthearmedforcesandteachers
allhavespecialfundswhichhelpwithcashgrantsand
sometimesholidays.detailsarelistedinA Guide to Grants
for Individuals in Need,whichisavailableinpubliclibraries
(seepage90).italsogivesdetailsofalltrustsand
organisationsthatprovidefinancialsupport.
You may be
entitled to get
direct payments
from your local
authority.
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peoplewhohavebeentoldtheircancercan’tbecuredand
whoneedtogainsomemoneyquicklymaybenefitfroma
viaticalsettlement.thismeansthatanindependentfinancial
companybuysanexistinglifeinsuranceorendowment
policyfromaterminallyillperson.caremustbetakenbefore
sellinganinsurancepolicy,andwerecommendthatyou
alwaysseekadvicefromanindependentfinancialadviser.
Prescriptionsinengland,peoplewithcancercangetfreeprescriptions.
ifyouareundergoingtreatmentforcancerandtheeffectsof
cancertreatment,youcanapplyforanexemptioncertificate
bycollectingafp92aformfromyourGpsurgeryor
oncologyclinic.prescriptionsinwalesandnorthernireland
arealsofreeandtheywillbefreeinScotlandby2011.
inmanyareasofthecountryyoucanarrangeforyourGp
oralocalpharmacisttocollectanddeliveryourrepeat
prescriptionstoyourhome.
In England,
people with
cancer can
get free
prescriptions.
otHEr PLAcEs wHErE you cAn bE LookEd AftEr
althoughyourwishmaybetodieathome,theremaybea
timewhenthischanges.Youmaydecidethatyou’dbemore
comfortableinhospitalorinahospice,wheretrainedstaff
canhelpyourcarerslookafteryou,andrelievepainand
othersymptomsifneeded.
ifyou’reacarer,it’simportantthatyoudon’tfeelguiltyifyou
encouragethepersonyou’recaringfortodieinahospice,
hospitalornursinghome.ifyouhavetomakethisdecisionto
movethematalatestage,thisshouldn’tbeseenasafailure,
butratherbecauseyouwanttomakesurethatyourloved
onegetstheexpertcaretheyneed.
Hospital or hospiceifyoudecidetogointohospitalorahospice,youandyour
carersmayfeelanxiousthatyoumightnotbeabletocome
homeagain.however,it’squiteusualforsomeonetogointo
hospitalorahospiceforashorttime,sothatsymptomscan
becloselymonitoredandbroughtundercontrol.then,ifyou
andyourfamilywish,youcanreturnhome.
Although your
wish may be to
die at home,
there may be
a time when
this changes.
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hospicesspecialiseincontrollingpainandothersymptoms.
theyaresmallerandquieterthanhospitals,andoftenworkata
muchgentlerpace.Manyhavesittingrooms,acoffeeshopand
accommodationforrelativesorclosefriends.
accommodationandcareinahospiceisalwaysfreeofcharge.
Sometimesthere’sawaitinglist,buturgentadmissionscan
oftenbeorganisedwithinacoupleofdays.Manyhospicesalso
havedaycentresforpeoplelivingathome.
ifyou’renotsureabouttheideaofhospitalorhospicecare,
youcanasktovisitthehospitalorhospicebeforemakinga
decision.Youcanthendiscussanyconcernswiththestaff.
ifyoudecidethatyou’dliketobecaredforinahospicewhen
youreachthefinalstagesofyourlife,yourGporspecialist
palliativecarenursecanarrangethis.
Nursing homes
are another place
where you can be
cared for, either
for a short time
or longer-term.
nursing homesnursinghomesareanotherplacewhereyoucanbecaredfor
eitherforashorttimeorlonger-term.YourGp,districtnurse,
palliativecareteamorsocialworkercanarrangethisforyou.
availabilityofcarevariesfromoneareatoanotherandmay
takesometimetoorganise.privatenursinghomescharge
feesfortheirservices,butyoumaybeentitledtonhS-
fundednursingcareortofully-fundedcontinuinghealthcare.
ateamofhealthandsocialcareprofessionalscancarryout
anassessmenttodecidewhetheryou’reentitledtofunding.
it’sagoodideatogetinformationandadvicefromasocial
worker.Youcangetalistanddetailsoflocalregisteredcare
homesandnursinghomesfromyourlocalsocialservices
departmentoryourareahealthauthority.Youcanget
informationaboutfindinganursinghome,andalltheissues
toconsideronthenursinghomefeesagency(nhfa)’s
websitenhfa.co.ukorthroughthenhfacareadviceline
on 0800 99 88 33.
Hospices are
smaller and
quieter than
hospitals and
often work
at a much
gentler pace.
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tHE LAst fEw wEEks of LifE During the last few weeks of life, you may experience a
number of emotional and physical changes and symptoms.
We have outlined these here, together with ways of dealing
with them.
althoughthesechangesandsymptomsarenormalfor
someoneinthelastfewweeksoftheirlife,theycanbe
upsettingforbothyouandthepeoplearoundyou.
beingpreparedforwhatmayhappencanmakethesituation
alittleeasiertocopewith.ifyou’dlikesupportasyouread
thischapter,orifyou’dliketotalkthroughtheseissuesin
moredetail,youcancontactoneofthehealthcare
professionalslookingafteryouoroneoftheorganisations
listedonpages75–89.YoucouldalsocalledtheMacmillan
Supportlineon0808 808 00 00.
thischaptergivesyouinformationabout:
• emotionalandmindchanges
• copingwithphysicalchangesandsymptoms
• complementarytherapies
• advanceddecisionstorefusetreatmentand
advancedstatements
wehaveincludedinformationforrelativesandfriends
onpage49.
Being prepared
for what may
happen can make
the situation a
little easier to
cope with.
EmotionAL And mind cHAngEs
aspeoplegointothelastfewweeksoftheirlifetheyoften
havealotofdifferentemotions.thesecanincludeworry,
anxiety,panic,anger,resentment,sadnessanddepression.
theirfeelingsandemotionsmaychangeveryquickly.
it’snaturaltobeworriedoranxiouswhenyou’refacingdeath
anditcanhelptotalkaboutthiswithyourcarers.Youmay
alsofeelthelossofyourhealthandworryaboutthelossof
yourroleinyourfamilyorwithfriends.Sometimesit’svery
difficulttotalktothepeopleclosetoyouandyoumaywant
totalktosomeoneoutsideofyoursituation.
ifyouhaveaspecialistnurse,theycantalktoyouaboutyour
feelings.thiscanhelpyouunderstandanddealwithyour
situation.Somepeopleprefertotalktoapersontheydon’t
know,suchastrainedcounsellor.ifyou’dliketoseeatrained
counsellor,yourGpcanreferyou.Manysupport
organisations(seepages75–89)canalsohelpandsome
havehelplinesyoucancall.talkingtoareligiousorspiritual
advisercanalsohelptoreduceyourfearandanxiety,evenif
you’venotattendedreligiousservicesorhadcontactwith
spiritualleadersinthepast.
Manypeoplebecomewithdrawn.forsomepeoplethismay
beduetodepressionandyourdoctorornursecansuggest
waysofdealingwiththis.however,asyoubecomemoreill
it’scommontofeelthatyouarelosinginterestinthethings
andthepeoplearoundyou,evenclosefamily.thisisanatural
partofgraduallywithdrawingfromtheworld.
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Sometimes it’s
very difficult to
talk to the people
close to you and
you may want to
talk to someone
outside of
your situation.
ifyouareacarer,itmaybeupsettingifyourrelativeorfriend
seemsuninterestedinyou.itmayfeelasthoughtheyare
givingupwhenyouwantthemtostayalive.however,
withdrawalisanaturalaspectofdying.theymayseem
angryorveryanxiousandit’simportanttoreallylistento
whatthey’resayingandacknowledgetheirfeelings.
althoughitmaynotfeelasthoughyou’redoingmuch,
justbeingthereandlisteningcanbeverysupportive.
coPing witH PHysicAL cHAngEs And symPtoms
thephysicalchangesandsymptomsthatoccurvarywith
thetypeofillnessapersonhas.here,wedescribephysical
changesthatgenerallyhappeninthelastfewweeksoflife
andthespecificchangesthatmayoccurwithsometypes
ofcancer.
assomeonebecomesmoreill,theirmedicinesmaybe
reviewedbytheirdoctororspecialistnurse,andsomemay
bestoppediftheyarenolongerneeded.ifsomeonehas
symptomssuchaspain,feelingsickorbreathlessness,
thedoctororspecialistnursemayprescribenewmedicines
tocontrolthem.Medicinescanbechangedandtailoredto
whatisneeded.complementarytherapiesmayimprove
qualityoflifeandwell-being,andcanalsosometimeshelpto
reducesymptoms(seepage43).
Although it may
not feel as
though you’re
doing much, just
being there and
listening can be
very supportive.
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tiredness and lack of energyit’susualtograduallyloseenergyandnotbeabletodo
thingsforyourself.tirednessandweaknesscanmakeit
harderforyoutoconcentrateortakepartfullyinwhatis
goingonaroundyou.ifyoufeeltired,it’simportanttopace
yourselfandsaveyourenergyforthethingswhichmatterto
youandwhichyouenjoy.Justdoasmuchasyoufeellike.
Youmayneedtorestalotduringtheday,eitherinachairor
inbed.ifyou’renotmovingaroundmuchyoumaygetsore
areas,forexampleonyourbottomorheels.Yourdistrict
nursecanorganiseequipment,suchasapressure-relieving
cushionforyourchairoramattressforyourbed,toprevent
soreness.Youcanalsohelpbychangingyourpositionas
oftenasyoucan.
sleep disturbanceSomepeoplefindtheycan’tsleepwellatnight.thiscanbe
particularlyhardtocopewithifitcontinues.theremaybe
manyreasonswhysleepingatnightcanbedifficult.
theseinclude:
• somedrugs,suchassteroids,whichcankeep
youawake
• psychologicalfactors,suchasanxietyanddepression,
orperhapsafearofdyinginthenight
• symptomswhicharenotcontrolled,suchaspain,
breathlessnessorincontinence
• otherfactors,suchaslight,noiseandsleeping
duringtheday.
If you feel tired,
it’s important to
pace yourself.
it’simportanttotellyourdoctorornurseifyou’renotsleeping
well.oncethecausesofyoursleeplessnessareknown,your
sleepcanoftenbeimproved.letyourdoctorornurseknow
ifyouhaveanyspecificanxietiesorsymptoms,suchaspain,
breathlessnessorincontinence,thatareaffectingyoursleep.
forexample,ifpainiscausingsleeplessnessthiscanbe
controlledbyadjustingyourdoseofpainkillersatnighttime–
yourspecialistnursecanadviseyouaboutthis.
herearesomesimplewaystohelpyousleep:
• ifyourmattressisuncomfortable,askyournursefor
adviceonamorecomfortableone.
• trytoreducelightandnoiseatnight.
• haveahotdrinkbeforegoingtobed,butavoidcaffeine
andalcoholatnighttime.
• keepyourbedroomforsleeping.ifyouwakeduringthe
night,gotoanotherroominthehouse.ifyouneedto
sleepduringtheday,gotoyourbedandsleep.
• ifyouwakeatnight,don’ttossandturn.Getupandgo
toanotherroom.haveahotdrinkifyoulike.whenyou
feelsleepy,gobacktobedagain.
• avoidusinganyscreen,suchasatVscreenorcomputer
screen,foronehourbeforegoingtobed.
• keepa‘worry’booksothatifyouwakeatnight
youcanwritedownthethingsyouareworriedabout.
Youcanthenworkthroughyourlistofworriesduring
thedayandgetsupportandadvicefromyourcarersor
yourdoctorornurse.
• tryusingrelaxationtechniquesatnight–youmayfind
ithelpfultousearelaxationtapeorlistentosome
soothingmusic.
• ifyoufindtouchandmassagehelpful,youcouldask
yourcarertogiveyourhandsorfeetagentlemassage.
Tell your doctor
or nurse if you’re
not sleeping well.
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Painnoteveryonegetspain,butifyoudoitcanbereassuringto
knowthereareeffectivewaysofcontrollingit.ifyouhave
pain,it’simportanttoletyourdoctororspecialistpalliative
carenurseknowexactlywhereyourpainis,howitfeels,
andhowitaffectsyousotheycantreatiteffectively.
Painkillerseveryonefeelspaindifferentlyandthereareseveraltypesof
painkillersfordifferenttypesofpain.theyinclude:
• simplepainkillers,suchasparacetamolandcodeine
• anti-inflammatorydrugslikeibuprofen
• painkillersfornervepain,suchasgabapentin,
pregabalinandamitriptyline
• strongpainkillers,suchasmorphine,oxycodone,
fentanylanddiamorphine.
painkillersareusuallygivenastablets,liquidmedicines,
orpatchesstucktotheskin.ifyouareunabletoswallowor
arebeingsick,yournurseordoctorcangiveyoupainkillers
suchasmorphine,diamorphineandoxycodoneasan
injectionorbyusingasyringe driver(seenextpage).
Not everyone
gets pain, but if
you do there are
effective ways of
controlling it.
syringe driverthisisasmallportablepumpsetupbyyournurse
ordoctor.
asyringecontainingenoughdrug(s)*for24hoursis
attachedtothepump.thepumpdeliversacontinuous
doseofthedrug(s)fromthesyringethroughasmall
needleortubethatisinsertedjustundertheskinofyour
tummy(abdomen)orarm.Yournurseswillchangethe
syringeeachdayorwhenneeded.
*painkillers,anti-sickness,anti-anxietyandseveralothermedicinescanbe
givenbyasyringedriver.
Manypeopleworrythattheirpainwillworsenastheynear
theendoftheirlifeandthey’llneedtotakeincreasingdoses
ofstrongpainkillerssuchasmorphine.it’simportantto
rememberthatthere’snosuchthingasa‘rightdose’of
morphine.the‘right’doseisthedosethatgetsridof
yourpain.
side effects of painkillers painkillerscontainingcodeineandstrongpainkillershave
threecommonsideeffects:drowsiness,sicknessand
constipation.drowsinessusuallywearsoffafterafewdays,
soyoushouldbepain-freeandstillalertenoughtodoallthat
youwanttodo.ifyoufeelsick,anti-sicknessmedicinescan
help,andthisusuallysettlesgraduallyoverafewdays.
constipationissuchacommonsideeffectthateveryone
takingstrongpainkillersusuallyneedstotakealaxative
regularly.Yourdoctor,nurseorpharmacistcanadviseyou
aboutthis.
The ‘right’ dose
is the dose that
gets rid of
your pain.
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paincontrolorganisationscangiveyouinformationabout
painrelief(seepage88).
other ways of controlling paininadditiontopainkillers,thereareanumberofotherwaysto
controlpain.theseinclude:
• findingacomfortablepositiontositorliein
• usingwarmthorcoldontheareaofpain
• usingrelaxation
• tryingtodistractattentionfromthepain,forexampleby
playingmusicyouenjoy
• transcutaneouselectricalnerveStimulation(tenS)and
acupuncture,whicharemorespecialisedwaysof
controllingpain(yourdoctororspecialistnursewilltell
youifthesearesuitableforyou).
Youmayalsoknowofmethodsthathavehelpedyoucontrol
yourpaininthepast.
YoumayfindMacmillancancerSupport’sbooklet
Controlling cancer painuseful.Youcanorderacopyby
calling0808 808 00 00orgoingtobe.macmillan.org.uk
feeling sick and vomitingYourillness,oryourmedicines,maymakeyoufeelorbesick.
ifthishappens,yourdoctorcanprescribeanti-sickness
drugswhichusuallycontrolsicknesseffectively.thesemay
betakenastablets,butifyoucan’tswallowtablets,they
canalsobegivenassuppositorieswhichareinsertedinto
yourbackpassage,asinjectionsorbyasyringedriver
(seepage35).
You may find
Macmillan
Cancer Support’s
booklet
Controlling
cancer pain
useful.
therearevariouswaystotrytoreducesickness:
• ifyou’vebeengivenanti-sicknessmedicines,takethem
regularlytopreventthesicknessfromcomingback
• havewarmorcoldfood,asthisdoesn’tsmellasstrong
ashotfood
• eatdryfoods,suchascrackers
• havegingerasroot,tea,gingerbeerorgingerbiscuits
• sipfizzydrinks
• eatlittleandoften.
weight loss and loss of appetiteYoumayloseweightevenifyou’reeatingwellandthiscan
beupsetting.Graduallyyou’llfindthatyourappetitereduces
duetoyourillness,orthemedicinesyou’retaking.it’salso
commontobeputoffeatingbythesightandsmelloffood.
Medicines,suchassteroids,cansometimeshelptoboost
yourappetite.Smallfrequentmeals,consistingofyour
favouritefoods,arelikelytobemosttempting.Youmaybe
abletoboostyourappetiteby:
• makingyourfoodlookattractive
• havingaglassofsherry,brandyoryourfavourite
alcoholicdrinkabout30minutesbeforeeating
(rememberthattheeffectsofalcoholmayincreaseif
you’reillortakingparticularmedicines,soit’sbestto
checkthiswithyourdoctor)
• havingsnackshandytonibble
• drinkingnourishingdrinks
• eatingslowly.
Gradually you’ll
find that your
appetite reduces
due to your
illness, or the
medicines
you’re taking.
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however,asyouneartheendofyourlife,yourmetabolismslows
downandyourbodynolongerneedsfoodasitcannotdigestit
sowellorabsorbthenutrientsfromit.atthisstage,it’simportant
nottoforceyourselftoeatandit’sokayifyoudon’t.
asacareryoumightfeelanxiousorupsetbecauseyour
relativeorfriendnolongerwantsorenjoysfood.although
thiscanbehardtoaccept,it’simportantthatyoudon’ttryto
forcethemtoeat.Youmaywanttotrygivingthemdrinks
theylikeinstead.
constipationManypeoplefindthatit’seasiertogetconstipatedbecause
theyaren’tmovingaroundoreatinganddrinkingasmuch.
therearealsoanumberofmedicines,suchasstrong
painkillers,thatcancauseconstipation.ifyouare
constipated,letyourdoctorornurseknowsotheycan
prescribelaxatives.itmayalsohelptodrinkasmuchfluidas
possible,andaddhigh-fibrefoodstoyourdiet,suchasfruit
andvegetables,brownrice,breadorpastaifyou’reableto
eatthem.
You may have
swollen legs and
ankles if you’re
not able to move
around much.
It’s important not
to force yourself
to eat and it’s
okay if you don’t.
fluid build-up (oedema)Somepeoplehaveabuild-upoffluidinapartoftheirbody.
thisisknownasoedema.Youmayhaveswollenlegsand
anklesifyou’renotabletomovearoundmuch.watertablets
(diuretics)cansometimeshelp.ifthefluidbuild-upisinyour
legsandankles,yourdoctormayprescribespecialpressure
stockingstohelpreducethis.usingafootstooltokeep
yourfeetupwhensittingcanalsohelp,ascangently
exercisingyourlegs.
anurseorphysiotherapistcanshowyousomeexercisesto
do.itmaybehardertomovearoundifyourlegsareswollen
andthiscanbefrustrating.itmayhelptotalktoyourcarers
abouthowyoufeel.Yournursescanhelpyoufindwaysof
movingaround.
change in appearanceYoumayfinditupsettingifyourappearancehaschanged,
forexampleifyou’velostorputonweight.itcanhelptotalk
throughyourfeelingswithyourcarersoryournurses.they
maybeabletofindwaystohelpyoulookandfeelbetter.
infectionifyou’renotmovingaroundmuchandaren’teatingor
drinkingwell,youmaybemoreatriskofinfection,suchasa
chestorurineinfection.letyourdoctorknowimmediatelyif
youdevelopahightemperatureorstarttofeelshivery,shaky
orunwell.they’llprobablyprescribeantibioticstotreat
theinfection.
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breathlessnessSomepeoplewillfeelbreathless.theremaybemanyreasons
forthis,suchascancerinthelung,chroniclungproblems,
generalweakness,fluidinsidethelung(pulmonaryoedema),
fluidaroundthelungs(pleuraleffusion)oranaemia(lowred
bloodcellcount).
breathlessnesscanbeveryfrighteningbuttherearevarious
waysoftreatingit,dependingonthecause.it’simportantto
letyourdoctorsandnursesknowifyouarebreathlessso
theycanhelpyouassoonaspossible.
nursescanshowyouandyourcarersthebestpositionsfor
youtositorstandtoeaseyourbreathing.Youcanalsobe
taughthowtobreathemoreeffectively,howtopaceyour
activityandhowtosaveyourenergy.anxietyisvery
commoninpatientswithbreathlessnessandthiscan
makeyourbreathingfeelevenmoredifficult.Yournurse
canteachyouwaystorelax,sothatyoufeellessanxious
andbreathless.
thereareseveralmedicinesthatcanbeusedfor
breathlessness,suchasaverylowdoseofmorphine.YourGp
canalsoarrangeanoxygensupplyforyouathomeifyou
needthis.
ifbreathlessnessiscausedbyabuild-upoffluidaroundyour
lungs(pleuraleffusion),thefluidcanbedrainedoff.ifit’s
causedbyanaemia(alowredbloodcellcount),thenyour
doctormayarrangeforyoutohaveabloodtransfusion
(seenextpage).
Macmillan’sbookletManaging breathlessnesshas
informationaboutlivingwithbreathlessnessandlearning
howtocopewithit.Youcanorderacopybycalling
0808 808 00 00orgoingtobe.macmillan.org.uk
cough and wheezingYoumayhaveacoughorfeelwheezyandthiscanbe
upsetting.YourGpcanprescribemedicinestohelpwith
thesesymptoms.Sittingasuprightaspossiblewhile
supportedonpillowscanreduceacoughandhelpyou
breathemoreeasily.
Anaemia (low red blood cell levels)anaemiacanmakeyouverytiredandbreathless.ifyou’re
anaemic,yourdoctorornursemayrecommendthatyou
haveabloodtransfusion.Youwillusuallyhavethisasaday
patientinahospitalorhospicebutinsomeareasitmaybe
possibletohaveitdoneathome.
abloodtransfusionmayhelpyoufeelbetterveryquickly
andcanberepeatedifit’sneededandhashelpedyoubefore.
Breathlessness
can be very
frightening
but there are
various ways of
treating it.
A blood
transfusion may
help you feel
better very
quickly and can
be repeated.
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bladder problemsifyouhaveproblemsemptyingyourbladderorcannot
controlit,athin,flexibletube(catheter)canbeputintoyour
bladdertodraintheurine.havingacathetersavesyoufrom
thediscomfortoftryingtouseabedpanorbottleifyoucan’t
getoutofbed.
swollen tummy (ascites) withsometypesofcancer,fluidmaysometimesbuildupin
thetummy(abdomen)sothatitbecomesswollen,tightand
uncomfortable.thisisknownasascites.itcansometimesbe
relievedbymedicinesorbyinsertingatubeintothe
abdomentodrainofftheextrafluid.thisisdoneunderlocal
anaestheticandcanberepeatedifneeded.itmayalsobe
managedbytakingwatertablets(knownasdiuretics),which
yourGporspecialistpalliativecarenursewilldiscuss
withyou.
High calcium levels (hypercalcaemia) peoplewithsometypesofcancermayhavehighcalcium
levels.thiscanmakeyoufeeldrowsyorsickandcancause
confusion,constipationandmaymakepainmoredifficultto
copewith.ifyoudevelopthesesymptoms,letyourdistrict
nurseordoctorknowsotheycantakeabloodtesttocheck
yourcalciumlevels.ifyourcalciumlevelishigh,afewdays
oftreatmentinhospitalorahospicewithmedicine
(bisphosphonates)giventhroughadripwillhelptobring
yourcalciumlevelsdown.
comPLEmEntAry tHErAPiEs
althoughcomplementarytherapiescannotcureillnesses,
theyoftenhelptocontrolsymptomsandhelppeople
feelbetter.theycanbeusedaloneorincombination
withmedicines.
complementarytherapiesinclude:
• acupuncture
• homeopathy
• relaxationtechniques
• hypnotherapy
• meditation
• visualisation
• aromatherapy
• reflexology
• reiki.
Youmightliketotrysomecomplementarytherapies,suchas
meditationorvisualisation,toreduceanxiety.othertherapies,
suchasgentlemassage,canbecarriedoutbyyourcarersand
canhelpthemtosupportyou.theorganisationsonpage89
cangiveyoufurtherinformation.
physicalcontactandtouchcanbepowerfulwaysofsupporting
peoplewhoarefacedwithuncertainty,fearorpain,whether
emotionalorphysical.touchingsomeonegentlycanshowhow
muchyoucareaboutthem.Manyhospicesandhospitalsoffer
freecomplementarytherapiestocarers.Youcanaskyournurse
whattherapiesareavailableinyourlocalarea.
MacmillanhasabookletCancer and complementary
therapies,withmoreinformation.
With some
types of cancer,
fluid may
sometimes
build up in
the tummy.
Many hospices
and hospitals
offer free
complementary
therapies
to carers.
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LAsting PowEr of AttornEy, AdvAncE dEcisions And AdvAncE stAtEmEnts
Youmayneedtomakeimportantchoicesinthelaterstages
ofyourillness.usuallyyoucantalkaboutyourhealthcare
withthedoctorsandnurseslookingafteryou.however,
theremaycomeatimewhenyoucan’tmakedecisionsor
communicateeasily.
the Mental Capacity Act (2005)appliestopeopleaged16
andoverinenglandandwales.itaimstoprotectpeoplewho
cannotmakeadecisionforthemselves.thismeansthata
personcanplanaheadforatimewhentheymaynotbeable
tomakedecisionsontheirownbehalf.itmakesitclearwho
canmakedecisionsinwhichsituations,andhowtheyshould
dothis.therearemanypartstothisact,includingsections
onlastingpowerofattorneyandadvancedecisions.
theAdults with Incapacity Act (2000)relatestopeople
inScotland.
Lasting Power of Attorney (LPA)alastingpowerofattorney(lpa)iswhereyouputin
writingthenameofsomeoneyoutrusttomanageyour
financial,legalorhealthaffairs,ormakedecisionsonyour
behalfinthefutureifyouarenolongerabletodoso.anlpa
mustbemadewhileyou’reabletounderstandwhatitisand
whatitmeansforyou.it’sonlyvalidinenglandandwales.
Seepage45forinformationaboutScotlandand
northernireland.
The personal
welfare LPA only
allows your
attorney to make
decisions about
your care and
treatment.
thepersonalwelfarelpaonlyallowsyourattorneytomake
decisionsaboutyourcareandtreatment.theycan’tmake
anydecisionsaboutyourpropertyandaffairs,suchasyour
finances.thesecanbemadebyapropertyandfinancial
affairslpa.
thereisafeetoregisteranlpa.ifyou’rereceivingcertain
benefits,orhavealowincome,youmaybeexemptfrom
payingtheregistrationfeeoronlyhavetopaypartofit.
Youcangetmoreinformationaboutregisteringanlpafrom
asocialworkeratthehospital,theofficeofthepublic
Guardianororganisationssuchasageuk(seepage81).
ifyou’reunabletomakeadecisionaboutyourmedical
treatmentandhavenofamilyorfriendstorepresentyour
views‚themedicalstaffarerequiredtoappointan
independentMentalcapacityadvocate(iMca)torepresent
yourinterests.
ScotlandinScotlandthewelfarepowerofattorney(wpa)
isalegaldocumentthatappointsoneormorepeopleto
makedecisionsonyourbehalfaboutyourcareand
treatment,shouldyoubecomeincapable.thewpahastobe
registeredandtheremaybeafeetodothis.Youcanget
moreinformationaboutwpasfromasocialworkeratthe
hospital,theofficeofthepublicGuardian(Scotland)and
organisationssuchasageScotland(seepage81).
Northern Irelandinnorthernirelandit’snotyetpossibleto
appointotherpeopletomakedecisionsaboutyourcareand
treatmentonyourbehalf.newlegislationisbeingconsidered
bythedepartmentofhealth,SocialServicesandpublic
Safetyandisexpectedin2011.
The Mental
Capacity Act
(2005) aims to
protect people
who cannot make
a decision for
themselves.
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Advanced decisions to refuse treatment and advanced statements normallyyouwilltalktoyourdoctorabouthowyou’dlike
tobetreatedandwhichtreatmentsyoudon’twanttohave.
Somepeoplewritedowntheirchoicesinadvancesothat,
iftheybecomeunabletodiscussthingswiththeirdoctorsor
makeanydecisions,thedoctorswillstillknowwhattheir
wishesare.
instructionsaboutthetreatmentsyoudoordon’twantare
calledadvanced statementsandadvanced decisions.
theyaresometimesknownasliving wills.
• anadvanced statementisageneralstatementofyour
viewsandwishes.itcanindicatethetreatmentyou’d
preferandcanincludenon-medicalthings,suchasyour
foodlikesanddislikes,orreligiousbeliefs.anadvanced
statementisnotlegallybinding,butyourdoctorsshould
takeitintoaccountwhendecidingwhatisbestforyou.
• anadvanced decision to refuse treatmentissimplya
decisiontorefusetreatment.forexample,youmay
decidethatifyourconditionsuddenlyworsensandyour
breathingstops,youdon’twantpeopletotrytobring
youround(resuscitateyou).or,thatifyouareveryill
andhaveaninfection,youdon’twanttobegiven
antibiotics.inenglandandwales,anadvanceddecision
islegallybindingundertheMental Capacity Act (2005),
andmustberespectedbyyourdoctors.inScotlandan
advanceddecisionisknownasanadvanced directive.
advancedstatementsanddecisionstorefusetreatmentcan
alsoletyourfamilyknowyourwishes,sothattheytoocando
whatyouwouldwant.
An advanced
decision to refuse
treatment is
legally binding
but you can
change your
mind and rewrite
it at any time.
anadvancedstatementcanincludewhoyou’dliketobe
consultedaboutyourcare,ifyou’reunabletomakethose
decisionsyourself.ifyouwanttogivethesepeoplethe
powertomakedecisionsonyourbehalfyou’llneedtocreate
alastingpowerofattorneyorlpa(seepages44–45).the
lpacanincludeyouradvancedstatementsothatthepeople
namedinthelpatakeyourwishesintoaccountwhen
decidingwhatisbestforyou.
anadvanceddecisiontorefusetreatmentmustindicate
exactlywhattreatmentyouwanttorefuseandinwhich
situation.demandstobegiventreatmentsorinterventions
cannotbeincludedinanadvancedecisiontorefuse
treatment.itcanonlybemadebysomeoneaged18orover
whohasthementalcapacitytomakethedecision.itislegally
bindingbutyoucanchangeyourmindandrewriteitatany
time.acopyofyouradvancedecisiontorefusetreatmentcan
bekeptinyourmedicalandnursingnotes.it’salsohelpful
toprovideyourGpwithacopy,aswellasyourlocal
out-of-hoursservice.
innorthernireland,thereiscurrentlynolegislationcovering
theuseofadvancedstatements,livingwillsoradvanced
decisionstorefusetreatment.
Youcangetinformationaboutadvancedstatementsand
decisionstorefusetreatmentfromasocialworkerorfrom
someoftheorganisationslistedonpages75–89,suchasage
uk.YoumayfindithelpfultoreadtheleafletPlanning for
your future care:A guide,whichhasbeenproducedbythe
nhSnationalendoflifecareprogramme.Youcanaskfora
copyfromyourGporatyourlocalhospitalinformation
centre.theleafletisalsoavailableonthedepartmentof
health’scarenetworkswebsitedhcarenetworks.org.uk
Normally you
will talk to your
doctor about how
you’d like to be
treated and
which treatments
you don’t want
to have.
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it’simportanttodiscussyourwisheswithamedical
professional,suchasyourGporconsultant,andwithyour
nurse,familyandfriends.rememberthatyourfamilyand
friendsmayseethingsdifferentlytoyou.forexample,
theymaytreasureeveryminuteofyourlife,eventhoughyou
maybeinacomaorunabletorespondtothem.
ifpossible,it’sgoodtohaveanhonestandopendiscussion
withtheminadvance,sothattheyunderstandyourwishes.
itcanbedifficulttodiscusstheseissuesandyoumaywant
supportfromsomeonewhoknowsyouandwhoyoucan
trust.Youcanalsotalktosomeoftheorganisationson
pages75–89.
MacmillancancerSupporthasafactsheetcalledAn advance
decision to refuse treatment (living will),whichyoumayfind
useful.call0808 808 00 00toorderacopy.
Assisted dying or voluntary euthanasiacurrently,underuklaw,anyactionthatspeedsupaperson’s
deathisillegal.althoughyourdoctorandnursescanmake
sureyouhaveenoughpainkillerstokeepyoucomfortable,
it’sillegalforthemtogiveyoumorethanyouneedwiththe
intentionofendingyourlifemorequickly.Doing something
you enjoy can
help to revive
your energy.
informAtion for rELAtivEs And friEnds
caringcanbephysicallyandemotionallyhardwork.
ifyou’vebeenlookingafteryourpartner,relativeorfriend
forsometime,youmaystarttofeeldrained.it’salso
commontohavealotofintenseemotions,includinganger
orresentment,towardsthepersonyou’relookingafter.
ifyoufeellikethis,it’simportanttotellyourGpornurse
sotheycanhelpyoudealwiththeseemotions.
Youmayfindthatyouhaveverylittletimeforyourself,
whichcanbefrustratingandthismaymakeyoufeel
trappedorclaustrophobic.
it’simportanttolookafteryourself,sothinkaboutmaking
arrangementsforsomeonetocomeinregularlysothat
youcanhavesometimetoyourself,evenifit’sonlyfora
fewhoursaweek.ifthereisn’tarelativeorfriendwho
canhelp,youcancontactthecarers’organisationson
pages83–84.
whenyougettimeoff,trytorelax.it’stemptingtospend
thebreakclearingupthehouseordoingthewashing,
butdoingsomethingyouenjoycanhelptoreviveyour
energy.havingsomesupportandhelpcanallowyouto
regainyourpreviousroleofbeingapartner,friend,sonor
daughter.Youcanalsospendtimejustsittingwithand
talkingtothepersonyouarecaringfor.
It’s good to have
an honest and
open discussion
with your family
and friends in
advance, so that
they understand
your wishes.
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cHAPtEr 4
tHE LAst fEw dAys of LifE
This chapter is about the emotional and physical changes
that a person may have in their last few days of life.
Each person’s experience will be different, so it’s difficult
to predict exactly what will happen or how quickly the
changes will occur.
usuallyyouwillgraduallybecomeveryweakandhave
verylittleenergy,andyoumay:
• finditdifficulttomovearoundandneedhelpgetting
fromyourbedtoachair
• needtospendmostorallofthedayinbed
• loseinterestineatingandhavenoappetitebecauseyour
bodycan’tdigestfoodatthisstageanddoesn’tneedit
• sleepalotandfeeldrowsywhenyouareawake
• feeldisorientatedandunsurewhetheryouaredreaming
• dreamaboutpeoplewhoarenotthereorthatyouknew
inthepast–yourmindmaybringupoldmemories
• loseinterestinyoursurroundingsandevenyourclosefamily.
thischaptergivesyouinformationabout:
• physicalcare
• Symptoms
wehaveincludedinformationforrelativesandfriends
onpages54–57.
Each person’s
experience will
be different in
their last few
days of life.
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PHysicAL cArE
duringthelastfewdaysofyourlife,thepeoplelookingafter
youwillneedtogiveyoualotofphysicalcare.itmaybe
strangeforyoutohavetoacceptsomuchhelpfromyour
carersbutitcanalsobeatimewhenyoubecomeveryclose
emotionally.ifyourcarersneedhelptowashandbatheyou,
yourdistrictorspecialistnursecanarrangethis.theycan
alsoshowyourcarershowtoliftandmoveyousafely.
asyourmouthoftenbecomesdry,itwillneedtobe
moistenedregularly.Yourdistrictnursecangetmouthcare
sticks(likebigcottonbuds)andshowyourcarershowtouse
them.theycanalsoapplylipbalmtokeepyourlipsmoist.
topreventyourskinfromgettingsore,it’simportantthat
yourcarersmoisturiseitandhelpyouchangeyourposition
regularly.Yournursescanadviseyourcarersonhowtomake
sureyou’reinacomfortablepositionwhenyou’reunableto
moveyourself.Youcanusevariouspressurecareaidstohelp
keepyoucomfortableincludingcushionsforchairs,
mattressesforbedsandspecialbedswithpressure-relieving
mattresses.Yourdistrictnursecanassesswhatyouneedand
arrangetheseforyou.
theremaybealotoftimewhenyoudon’tneedtohave
anythingdoneandyoucanjustliequietlyandhaveyour
relativesorfriendssittingwithyou.thiscanbeavery
intimateandspecialtime.Youcanletthemknowwhether
you’dliketotalk,haveaquiettimeorlistentomusicthatyou
like.Youcanalsoletthemknowifyouneedsometime
completelyonyourown.
It may be strange
for you to have
to accept so
much help from
your carers.
symPtoms
ifyoursymptomschange,yourmedicinesmayneedtobe
changed.Somemedicinesmaynolongerbenecessaryand
maybestopped.ifyoudevelopnewsymptoms,new
medicinesmaybestarted.
ifyouhaveproblemsswallowing,it’spossibletogiveall
themedicinesthatyou’remostlikelytoneedeitherby
injection,bypatchesstuckontotheskin,bysuppositoryor
byusingasyringedriver(seepage35).
Some medicines
may no longer be
necessary and
may be stopped.
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informAtion forrELAtivEs And friEnds
This part of the chapter is written for relatives and
friends, but you may find it helpful to read it together.
PainYourrelativeorfriendmayseemtobeinpain:theymay
berestless,grimace(screwuptheirface)ormoveasif
they’reindistress.theymaysweatandhaveafast
heartbeatandbreathingrate.ifthishappens,thedose
oftheirpainkillersmayneedtobeincreased.letyour
doctororspecialistnurseknowsotheycanadviseyou
aboutthisandcancheckforothercausesofthese
changes,suchasaninfection.
breathing changesifyourrelativeorfriendseemstohaveproblems
breathing,anumberofmedicinescanbegiventohelp.
theirnurseorGpcanalsoarrangeforoxygentobegiven
tothemathome.theirbreathingmaybenoisyduetofluid
collectingintheirbreathingpassages.althoughthiscan
bedistressingforrelativesandfriends,thepersonwon’t
usuallyseemdistressedthemselves.
If a person is
restless due to
emotional
distress, they
may gain
comfort from
a close friend.
restless moving, shouting, agitation, twitching or jerking of the body Sometimespeoplehavesymptomsofrestlessness,
agitation,confusion,shoutingortwitching.these
symptomsareoftenknownasterminalrestlessness.
themaincauseisusuallyduetochemicalchangesthat
arehappeninginthebodyandthebuild-upofwaste
chemicals(toxins).thesechemicalsaffectthebrainand
nervesandcausetherestlessness.terminalrestlessness
canoftenbewellcontrolledwithdifferentmedicines,
suchassedativeswhichcanbegivenbyinjectionorby
asyringedriver.
Sometimespain,constipation,infectionormedicinescan
alsocausethesesymptoms.oncethesearetreated,the
symptomssettle.ifapersonisrestlessduetoemotional
distress,theymaygaincomfortfromaclosefriend,
trustedhealthprofessional,orspiritualorreligiousleader.
Let your doctor
or specialist
nurse know if
your relative or
friend seems to
be in pain.
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incontinenceassomeonegetsclosertodeath,theymaylosecontrol
overtheirbowelandbladder.Youcantalktothedistrict
nurseaboutthis,andtheycangetyouaidstohelp,suchas
bedcoversandpads.Mencanhaveasheathputoverthe
penistocollecturineanddrainitintoacatheterbag.
Sometimesitmaybemorecomfortableforthepersonto
haveatube(catheter)putintothebladdertodrainaway
theurine.Yourdistrictnursemaybeabletohelporganise
alaundryserviceifyouneedit.
urine retentionSometimesurinecan’tdrainoutofthebladder,andsothe
personcannotpassurine.thiscausessevereabdominal
pain,andtheirtummy(abdomen)willfeelveryhardand
bloated.ifthishappens,it’simportanttocontactyour
doctorornurseandaskthemtocomeurgently.theycan
putacatheterintothebladdertodraintheurineand
relievethepain.
religious and spiritual needsYourrelativeorfriendmaywanttohaveparticular
practicescarriedout,orprayersread,astheyaredying.
it’simportanttodowhateveryoubothfeelisrightand
mosthelpful.keepanoteofanyoneyouneedtocontact
inthissituation.
Help and supportifyou’reworriedatanytimethatyourrelativeorfriend
seemstobedistressedorhaveuncomfortablesymptoms,
youcancontacttheGp,districtnurseorspecialistnurse
foradviceandreassurance.You’llbegivennumbersfor
contactingtheseteamsoutofhoursshouldyou
needthem.
It’s important to
do whatever you
both feel is right
and most helpful.
You can talk to
the district nurse
and they can get
you aids to help.
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nEAring dEAtH
The thought of death nearing can be very frightening.
Although death is a normal process, it’s natural to worry
about what will happen. You may want to have a religious
or spiritual adviser present and may want to carry out
particular religious practices. It’s important to do whatever
you feel is right at this time.
thischaptergivesyouinformationabout:
• whathappens
• Mindchanges
• physicalchanges
• finalmomentsoflife
wehaveincludedinformationforrelativesandfriends
onpages61–63.
Although death is
a normal process,
it’s natural to
worry about what
will happen.
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wHAt HAPPEns
formanypeople,dyingisverypeaceful.Youwillusuallyslip
slowlyintounconsciousnessandfindthatit’sdifficultto
wakeup.
Generally,peopleeventuallybecomecompletely
unconscious:theycannotbewokenatall,butmaystillbe
abletohearandbeawareofthepeoplearoundthem.
Somepeoplehavephaseswheretheyareawakeandcan
talk,andthenslipbackintounconsciousness.
ifanythinghappensthatworriesyourcarersduringthistime,
forexample,ifyouhavepainorothersymptomsthatare
difficulttocontrol,yourcarerscancontactyourdistrict
nurse,specialistnurseorGp.theycangiveyoumedicinesto
controlyoursymptoms,eitherasaninjectionorthrougha
syringedriver.theycanalsodiscussanyconcernsthatyou
oryourcarershaveandreassureyou.
YoumaywanttoreadMacmillancancerSupport’sbooklet
Dying with cancer,whichhasfurtherinformation.
call0808 808 00 00toorderacopy.
For many
people, dying is
very peaceful.
informAtion forrELAtivEs And friEnds
evenifyourrelativeorfriendisunabletorespond,they
maystillbeabletohearyouandtheymaystillknowyou
arethere.Soitcanhelptospeaktothemandletthem
knowwhatyou’redoing,especiallyifyou’regivingthem
medicinesormovingthem.thismayfeelstrangeasthey
cannotrespond,butitcanbecomfortingforbothofyou.
theremaybetimeswherenotmuchneedstobedoneand
youcanjustsitwiththemandbeclosetothem.Youmay
needtomovethemregularlytokeepthemcomfortable.
it‘sfinetocallyourGporspecialistnursetoletthemknow
whatishappeningandtoaskforadvice.
mind cHAngEs
ifyourrelativeorfriendisdriftinginandoutof
consciousness,theymaynotseemtorecogniseyouor
theotherpeoplearoundthem.Youmayfindthis
distressing.theymayalsotalktopeoplewhotheyknew
inthepast,orwhodiedlongago,probablybecausethey
arethinkingofthesepeople.iftheyseempanickyor
agitated,sedativesmaybegiventhroughasyringedriver.
terminalrestlessnessmayoccur,asdescribedonpage55.
Even if your
relative or friend
is unable to
respond, they
may still be able
to hear you.
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PHysicAL cHAngEs
Yourrelativeorfriendwillnotusuallyfeelthirstyatthis
stagebuttheirmouthmaybedryandneedtobe
moistened.iftheyfeelsick,anti-sicknessmedicinescan
begivenbythesyringedriverorasasuppository.
skin and sensation changesinthelastfewhours,yourrelative’sorfriend’shands,
feetandtherestoftheirskinmayfeelverycoldand
possiblymoist.Sometimestheskinchangescolourand
becomesslightlymoreblue,greyorwhite.theirskinmay
alsobeverysensitivetotouch,soifyoumovethembe
verygentleandtellthemwhatyou’redoing.
Severallayersoflight,warmclothingandbeddingcan
helptokeepthematacomfortabletemperature.
breathingasyourrelativeorfriendgetsclosertodeath,their
breathingpatternwillprobablychange.theirbreathing
maybecomeirregular,withlongergapsbetweenthe
breaths.itmayalsobecomeverynoisy,duetoabuild-up
offluidintheirairpassagesastheyarelyingflat.thismay
bedistressingforyouandanyotherpeoplearound,butit
isn’tusuallydistressingforthepersonwhoisdying.
iffluiddoesbuildupintheairpassages,drugscanbe
givenbyinjectiontoreducethebuild-upoffurther
secretions.Sometimesthesedrugsaregivenina
syringedriver.
finAL momEnts of LifE
formostpeople,theirfinalmomentsareverypeaceful.
theirbreathingmaybecomeevenslowerandmore
irregularwithverylongpausesbetweeneachbreath.
theirtummy(abdominal)musclesmaytakeovercontrol
ofthebreathingfromthechestmuscles,sothattheir
tummyrisesandfallswitheachbreath.
finally,theywillstopbreathingaltogether.thismayseem
totakealongtimeforsomepeople.forothersitwillonly
beafewminutes.Sometimesitcanbedifficulttopinpoint
theexactmomentofdeath.often,theperson’sbodywill
relaxcompletelyandtheymaylookverypeaceful.Some
peoplefeeltheycansensewhenthepersonhasdied.
insomecultures,thereisabeliefthattheperson’s
consciousness(mindorsoul)staysaroundthebodyfor
sometimeafterdeath.otherpeoplefeelthatthe
consciousnessmovesonquicklytoanotherplace.
Somepeoplebelievethatlifejustendsandnothingis
leftoftheperson’smindorconsciousness.
As your relative
or friend gets
closer to death,
their breathing
pattern will
probably change.
Often, the
person’s body
will relax
completely and
they may look
very peaceful.
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AftEr tHE dEAtH
The death of someone close to you is a very significant
event in a person’s life and everyone reacts differently.
You may feel shocked and numb, as though you cannot
believe that it has happened. You may have lots of
overwhelming emotions, such as feeling extremely upset
and angry. Many people find they also feel very relieved
that their relative or friend can now be at peace.
Mostculturesandreligionshaveprocessesorritualsthatthey
carryoutatthetimeofdeath.it’simportantforyoutodowhat
youfeelisright.theremaybesomethingsthatyouneedtodo.
however,youdon’tusuallyneedtodoanythingstraightaway,so
youdon’thavetofeelrushed.Youcanjustsitwithyourrelative’s
orfriend’sbodyforawhile.Manypeopleliketositandtalkor
holdhands,andseetheirrelativeorfriendatpeace,especiallyif
thelastfewhoursordayswereastrain.Youmaywanttohave
someonetheretosupportyou.itmayhelptoaskthemto
contactotherpeopletoletthemknow,ifyoudon’tfeelupto
tellingthem.aspiritualorreligiousadvisercanalsosupportyou
andcarryoutanyprocessesorritualsthatareimportanttoyou
andyourrelativeorfriend.
thischaptergivesyouinformationabout:
• whatyourGpwilldo
• whatyourfuneraldirectorwilldo
• planningafuneralandburialoracremation
• registeringthedeath
• howgriefmightaffectyou
You may have
lots of
overwhelming
emotions.
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wHAt your gP wiLL do
Youwillneedtotellyourrelative’sorfriend’sGpabouttheir
deathwithinafewhours.theGporacommunitynursewill
comeassoonaspossibletoverifythedeath.ifyourGp
comes,theywillverifythedeathandgiveyouamedical
certificateforthecauseofdeathwithaformcalledNotice to
informant,whichtellsyouhowtoregisterthedeath.ifa
communitynursecomes,oryouhavetocallanout-of-hours
doctor,theycanverifythedeathbutyoumayneedtogetthe
deathcertificatefromyourGpthefollowingday.
thedoctorwhocertifiesthedeathhasalegalresponsibility
toinformthecoronerifapost-mortemisneeded.
however,apost-mortemisn’tusuallynecessaryifthedeath
wasexpectedexceptinsomecases,suchasmesothelioma,
wherethecanceriscausedbyoccupationalexposure
toasbestos.
apost-mortemwillusuallytakeafewdaystoarrangeif
needed,afterwhichyou’llgetamedicaldeathcertificate.
thiscanhelptogiveexactinformationaboutthecauseof
death.Youwillneedtowaituntilyourdoctorhasdecided
whetherapost-mortemisneededbeforeyousetadatefor
thefuneraloralternativeservice.
whenyouhavethemedicaldeathcertificate,youneedto
takethistothelocalregistrar’sofficetoregisterthedeath
(seepages69–70).
You will need to
tell your relative’s
or friend’s GP
about their death
within a few hours.
wHAt your funErAL dirEctor wiLL do
onceyou’vehadthedeathverifiedbyanurseordoctor,
youcancontactthefuneraldirector(undertaker).they
providea24-hourserviceandcanadviseyouonwhattodo.
detailsoffuneraldirectorsareinyourlocalphonebookoron
theinternet.Youcanalsogetinformationfromthenational
associationoffuneraldirectorsonpage87.whenyou
contactthefuneraldirector,theywillcomeassoonasyou
wantthemto.
Youcanletthefuneraldirectorknowifyou’dlikethemto
helpyoulookafteryourrelative’sorfriend’sbodyathome
untilthefuneral,orwhetheryouwouldlikeittobetakento
thefuneraldirector’schapelofrest.Youcanvisitthechapel
ofresttobewithyourrelative’sorfriend’sbodyifyou’d
liketo.
caring for the bodythefuneraldirectorwilltakecareofyourrelative’sorfriend’s
bodyandwillwashthem.thisprocessisdifferentfor
differentreligionsandculturesbutusuallyinvolvescarefully
washinganddryingthebody,closingtheeyelids,andmaking
suretheirmouthissupportedwhileclosed.theperson’shair
istidiedandsometimeswashed.thefuneraldirectorwillalso
askifyou’dlikethemtobedressedinanyspecificclothes,
suchasafavouriteoutfit.
ifyou’dliketohelpthefuneraldirectorswashanddressyour
relativeorfriend,letthemknowassoonaspossiblesothey
canarrangethis.
You can visit the
chapel of rest to
be with your
relative’s or
friend’s body if
you’d like to.
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EmbalmingSomepeoplewanttobeembalmed.inthisprocess,thebody
isdisinfectedandtreatedwithchemicalstohelppreserveit.
bloodisdrainedoutofthebodyandreplacedwith
embalmingfluid.thisiscarriedoutatthefuneraldirectors.
PLAnning A funErAL And buriAL or A crEmAtion
funeralsandmemorialsallowrelativesandfriendstopay
theirrespectstothepersonwhohasdied.it’sawayof
acknowledgingtheirdeathandsayinggoodbye.
Youcanmakeallthearrangementsforthefuneralandburial
yourselfifyou’dliketo.however,mostpeopleprefertohave
thehelpofthefuneraldirector.YourGpwillneedtoknowif
you’replanningacremationsotheycancompletethe
relevantpaperwork.
beforemakinganyfuneralarrangements,it’simportantto
considerseveralissues:
• whatwerethewishesofthedeadperson?
• havetheyexpressedtheirwishesinawill?
• whatareyourwishes?
Somepeoplehavestrongreligiousbeliefsorviewsabout
howthey’dliketheirfuneraltobecarriedout.otherpeople
havenoreligiousorspiritualbeliefsandmayhaveanon-
religiousorhumanistfuneral.it’snotnecessaryforareligious
leadertoconductafuneralormemorialservice.Yourfuneral
directorsortheregistrarcangiveyouinformationabout
non-religiousservicesifyouprefer.afuneral,religiousor
A funeral,
religious or
spiritual service
can be held
wherever
you wish.
spiritualservicecanbeheldwhereveryouwish,forexample,
intheperson’shomeorintheirfavouriteplace.
afterthememorialservice,theperson’sbodyiscremated
orburied.
Cremationtakesplaceinadesignatedcrematorium.
theashesofthepersonaregiveninacontainertothenext
ofkin.Youmayhavediscussedwithyourlovedonewhat
theywantedtodowiththeirashesandyoucancarryout
thesewisheswhenyouareready.
Burialisusuallyinachurchyardorotherdesignatedburial
place.it’salsopossibleforpeopletobeburiedinother
places,suchasagarden.
therearebookswithhelpfuladviceandinformationon
page90.
rEgistEring tHE dEAtH
Youneedtotakethemedicaldeathcertificate–andbirth
andmarriagecertificates–totheregistrar’sofficeinthearea
wherethedeathoccurred.thisneedstobedonewithinfive
days(eightdaysinScotland).
Someregistrars’officeshaveanappointmentsystem,
socheckbeforeyougo.Youcanfindthenumberofyour
localregistrar’sofficelistedunderregistrationofbirths,
deathsandmarriagesinthebusinesssectionofyourlocal
phonebookanditmayalsobeontheenvelopecontaining
thedeathcertificate.ifyou’renotabletogoyourself,
anotherpersoncanactasan‘informant’andregisterthe
deathforyou.
You need to take
the medical
death certificate
to the registrar’s
office in the area
where the death
occurred.
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beforeyouattendtheregistrar’soffice,it’shelpfultothink
abouthowmanycopiesofthedeathcertificateyoumight
need.Youcanbuy‘certifiedcopies’forasmallchargeatthe
timeofregistration.theseareduplicateoriginalcertified
copiesofentryandnotphotocopies.You’llusuallyneedone
certifiedcopyforeachlifeinsurancepolicyorsimilarwhich
youneedtoclaim.
attheregistrar’soffice,theregistrarwillenterdetailsofthe
deathintheregisterandgiveyouacertificateofburialor
cremation,alsoknownasagreenform.Youneedtogivethis
tothefuneraldirector.theregistrarwillalsogiveyoua
certificateofregistrationofdeathform(bd8)ifthisis
neededforsocialsecuritypurposes.
information Yourdistrictorpalliativecarenursecangiveyouinformation
aboutwhattodowhensomeonedies.theconsumers’
associationpublishesWhat to do When Someone Dies,
whichisavailableinmostpubliclibraries(seepage90).
At the registrar’s
office, the
registrar will
enter details
of the death in
the register.
How griEf migHt AffEct you
Emotional effectsthedeathofapartner,relativeorclosefriendisanextremely
difficultsituationtofaceandyoumayfeelveryupset,
anxiousanddistressed.immediatelyafterthedeath,andfor
sometimeafterwards,youmayfeelnumbandfindithardto
believethatthepersonisdead.it’scommontofeelangry
thattheyhavedied.thisangermaybedirectedattheperson
themselfforleavingyou,oratotherpeople,suchasfamily
membersorhealthprofessionals,fornotbeingabletosave
themfromdying.
thefeelingofmissingthepersoncanbeoverwhelming.
Manypeoplecontinueto‘see’or‘hear’thepersonwhohas
died,andhaveastrongsenseoftheirpresence.forexample,
somepeoplewalkintoaroomandhaveanexperienceof
‘seeing’thepersonsittingintheirfavouritearmchair.
otherpeoplehavevividdreamsinwhichtheyseethe
deadpersonasfitandwell.theseareperfectlynormal
experiences,althoughtheycanbeshockingandupsetting.
ifyou’dlikesupportatthistime,youcancontactyourGp,
specialistnurse,oracounsellingservice–seepages84–86.
cruseisaspecificcounsellingserviceforpeoplewhohave
beenbereavedandyoucancallthemon0844 477 9400.
The feeling of
missing the
person can be
overwhelming.
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Physical effects whensomeoneclosetoyouhasdied,it’scommontohave
physicalsymptomsforsometimeafterwards.thesecanbe
frighteningandsomepeoplesaythesymptomsaresostrong
thattheyworrytheyareseriouslyillthemselves.
however,physicalreactionsarenormalandcaninclude
headaches,dizziness,adrymouth,feelingweak,tightness
inthechestandthroat,breathlessnessandfeelingsick.
Youmaybeawarethatyoursymptomsaresimilartothose
ofyourrelativeorfriendwhohasjustdied.ifanyofthese
symptomspersistyoushouldletyourGpknow.
Practical helpimmediatelyafterthedeath,whileyouareprobablyfeeling
numb,youmayneedplentyofpracticalhelptodoimportant
taskssuchasregisteringthedeath,arrangingthefuneraland
copingwithvisitors.Youmayalsoneedtospendsometime
onyourown,comingtotermswithwhathashappened.
After the funeraltheperiodoftimeafterthefuneral,wheneveryonehasgone
homeandyouareexpectedtopickupthethreadsofyour
ownlife,canbethehardest.it’sagoodideatotrynottodo
toomuchtoosoon.Youmayneedtimetogetusedtoyour
lossandthechangesthishasbroughtabout.it’simportantto
taketimetolookafteryourself.
don’tbeafraidtoshowyouremotionsduringthegrieving
process–it’sperfectlynaturaltocrywhenyou’rethinking
andtalkingaboutyourlovedone,andthiscanhelpyoufeel
better.Somecultureshavespecificpracticestofollow,which
canhelptomarkeachphaseofthebereavementprocess
afteraperson’sdeath.
Youmayfindthebook,What to do When Someone Dies
(seepage90)helpful.ithaspracticaladviceonwhattodo
whensomeonedies,andsectionson:registeringthe
death;deathinhospital;thecoroner;registration;burial;
cremation;funerals;non-religiousfunerals;grief;probate;
pensions;property;organdonation;andbodydonation
forresearch.
Don’t be afraid
to show your
emotions during
the grieving
process.
When someone
close to you
has died, it’s
common to
have physical
symptoms for
some time
afterwards.
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nAtionAL orgAnisAtions tHAt cAn HELP
We’ve listed organisations that may be able to help you.
These are divided into the following sections:
• howMacmillancancerSupportcanhelpyou
• howMariecuriecancercarecanhelpyou
• usefulorganisations
• carers’organisations
• counselling,bereavementandemotionalsupport
• practicalandfinancialsupport
• paincontrolorganisations
• complementarytherapyorganisations
• usefulbooksandleaflets
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livesofpeopleaffectedbycancer.we
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NHS Scotland
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www.nhs24.com
Samaritans08457909090
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How mAriE curiE cAncEr cArE cAn HELP you
Marie Curie Cancer Care
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Mariecuriecancercareisaukcharity
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Tel02073784999
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www.carersuk.org
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british Association for counselling and Psychotherapy (bAcP) bacphouse,15StJohn’sbusiness
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www.bacp.co.uk
aimstopromotetheawarenessand
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childhood bereavement network 8wakleyStreet,londonec1V7Qe
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www.childhoodbereavementnetwork.
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anational,multi-professionalgroupof
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people.hasanonlinedirectory,which
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Young person’s freephone helpline
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Young person’s helpline email
www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk
providesbereavementcounselling,
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aninternationaleducationalcharity
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www.samaritans.org.uk
provides24-hourconfidential,
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Tel08448711111
www.redcross.org.uk
offersanumberofservicesfor
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loanservice.
national Association of funeral directors (nAfd)Helpline08452301343
www.nafd.org.uk
Monitorsstandardsoffuneraldirectors
intheukandgiveshelpandadviceon
whattodointheeventofadeath.
alsoadvisesonarrangingfuneralsand
hasinformationonwhatyoushould
expectfromafuneraldirector.
natural death centreinthehillhouse,watleylane,
twyford,winchesterSo211QX
Tel08712882098
www.naturaldeath.org.uk
aimstosupportthosedyingathome
andtheircarers,andtohelppeople
arrangeinexpensive,family-organised,
andenvironmentally-friendlyfunerals.
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Tel02072697840
www.britishpainsociety.org
Givesinformationonpain,andpain
managementclinics.
Pain concern 1civicSquare,tranenteh331lh
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Listening ear helpline08444994676
www.painconcern.org.uk
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theircarers.hasalisteningearhelpline,
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liverpooll97al
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www.painrelieffoundation.org.uk
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www.bcma.co.uk
cansendalistofcomplementary
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www.bhma.org
cansenddetailsofmembers,a
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www.i-c-m.org.uk
cansendinformationonlocal
complementarytherapists.aimsto
increasethequalityofhealthby
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usEfuL books And LEAfLEts
What to do after a death in England and Walesdepartmentofworkand
pensions,2009,free
aguidetowhatyoumustdoandthe
helpyoucangetwhensomeonein
yourfamilydies.availableonlineat
www.dwp.gov.uk/docs/dwp1027.pdf
Youcangetacopy,alongwithadvice
onbenefitsforwidowsorwidowers,
fromyourlocalJobcentreplusor
postoffice.
What to do after a death in scotland: practical advice for times of bereavement theScottishGovernment,
9thedition,2009,free
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someonedies.it’savailableonlineat
www.scotland.gov.uk/Resource/
Doc/277028/0083194.pdf
What to do when someone diespaulharris(editor)
which?books,2000
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informationaboutdealingwiththe
formalitiesaftersomeonehasdied.
thebookcoversthelawandpractice
inenglandandwalesandhighlights
theimportantdifferencesthatapply
inScotland.
A Guide to Grants for Individuals
in Need 2009/10
directoryofSocialchange,
11thedition,2009
adirectoryofawiderangeofcharities
andtruststhatprovidefinancial
assistancetopeopleinneed.acopy
willbekeptinmostpubliclibraries.
thisbooklethasbeenrevisedand
editedbyMacmillancancerSupport’s
informationdevelopmentnurses,the
editorialteamandterrypriestman,
consultantclinicaloncologist.
withthanksto:drleslieallsopp,
consultantinpalliativeMedicine,Marie
curiecancercare;lindabailey,
communitynurseSpecialist,Marie
curiecancercare;JeanGordon,
clinicalServiceManager,Mariecurie
cancercare;theresaMann,palliative
careclinicalnurseSpecialist;pauline
Mcculloch,palliativecareclinical
nurseSpecialist;drkaronornadel,
StaffGradephysicianinpalliative
Medicine,Mariecuriecancercare;
andthepeopleaffectedbycancer
whoreviewedthisedition.
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calltheMacmillan Support Linefreeon0808 808 00 00
(Monday-friday9am-8pm).
alternatively,visitmacmillan.org.uk
hardofhearing?
usetextphone 0808 808 0121,orText Relay.
non-englishspeaker?interpretersavailable.
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