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A compilation of post from the personal blog of
F r a n c i s J. K o n g for the month of January, 2012.
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Francis J. Kong, 2012. All rights reserved.
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"Money runs after a person who is excellent. And then a loser
keeps on running after money and he never catches up."
Don't ever change just to impress and please someone. Change
because it makes you a better person and it leads you to a
better future.
When a storm comes at sea, a ship turns to face the tempest. If
the vessel allows the storm to hit its side, it will capsize. If it
turns its back to the storm, the storm will drive it wherever the
wind blows. Only in facing the storm is the ship safe. Says:
Robert C. Shannon. As we face them we grow in character and
faith and perseverance. Do not run away from trouble.
Welcome adversities. This is discipline!
A friend gave me a beautiful text this morning: In today's info
age, you cannot UPLOAD love, DOWNLOAD time,
GOOGLE all the answers in life --- so LOG OUT of worldly
deeds, LOG ON to GOD. You will surely LIKE the life!
FACEBOOK is ok, but spend more time with FAITHBOOK
the BIBLE. Wise words indeed.
A farmer had one old horse that he used for tilling his fields.
One day the horse escaped into the hills and when all the
farmer's neighbors heard about it, they sympathized with the
old man over his bad luck. "Bad luck? Good luck? Who
knows? Only God knows.‖ said the farmer.
A week later, the horse returned with a herd of wild horses
from the hills and this time the neighbors congratulated the
farmer on his good luck. "Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?
Only God knows" said the farmer.
Then, when the farmer's son was attempting to tame one of the
wild horses, he fell off its back and broke his leg. Everyone
agreed that this was very bad luck. Not the farmer, who
replied, "Bad Luck? Good luck? Who knows? Only God
knows.―
Some weeks later, the army marched into the village and
forced every able-bodied young man to go fight in a bloody
war. When they saw that the farmer's son had a broken leg,
they let him stay. Everyone was very happy at the farmer's
good luck.
"Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows? Only God knows."
This ancient Chinese story tells us a lot about what‘s going on
in our world. If there‘s one thing that really amazes me it is the
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fact that just when the knowledge age is has made men more
knowledgeable, there is likewise an upsurge of interest into
the occult (Vampire movies), astrology and mysticism. Visit
your friendly neighborhood book stores and you will discover
that the shelves assigned to carry such books have expanded
tremendously. Man will always hunger and thirst for that
mysterious dimension which is the spiritual realm and all
means will be exhausted in order to have a glimpse into the
future and the unknown.
Something doesn't seem to connect here. If my life is governed
by luck whether good or bad, then where would I place God?
My Bible says that God is in full control and so nothing ever
happens without His knowledge and control. And so if I
believe in this, then where will I put luck? It doesn‘t take a lot
of intelligence to figure out the fact that being a Christian and
believing in luck is a contradiction in terms.
I just make it simple. I do my best and God does the rest and
I‘m not going to let any fortune teller tell me how to live my
life and neither am I going to allow any moronic horoscope to
dictate what my day will be.
Sometimes it seems like things are going well, and at other
times, things seem to be going badly. And we let those things
dictate our feelings and our outlook on life. When things are
going well, we're happy and we think God is with us. If they
are going badly, we get discouraged and think that God must
have abandoned us. We end up being tossed around by our
circumstances. And if faith in God is sadly wanting, then the
tendency is to believe in luck.
But the apostle Paul wrote in Philippians 4 that he had learned
to be content, even happy, in all circumstances. He was happy
when things were bad (he was in jail at the time), and he was
happy when things were going good as well. That's the great
thing about being part of God's family. We really don't have to
worry in our circumstances, because no matter what, we have
hope in Christ. "We know that in everything, God works for
the good of those who love him (Romans 8:28).
Believe me this is such a liberating feeling. To know that my
life and my future is in God‘s hands. So I can travel without a
charm in my wallet and I can pass under the ladder and enjoy
seeing a black cat cross my path. Every single fortune teller
died and remained dead. Jesus Christ rose up from the dead
and that‘s why I‘m putting my trust in Him! It's a spiritual
discipline we all have to exercise.
There is none so busy as those who do nothing. No matter how
busy people are, they always stop & talk about how busy they
are. :)
People who talk too much about how busy they are, they‘re
not. Busy people don‘t even have the time to talk much
because they work much.
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Work on but take a break every 90 minutes. This way you can
rest, recharge and still maintain productivity. Takes a lot of
discipline to do this.
We all desire relationships in which we are accepted, valued,
and wanted. We desperately long for this esteem from our
peers, but seldom experience the real thing. This is why teens
succumb to peer pressure. This is why people enter into
disastrous relationships wanting to be needed.
Inspire your people by appreciation and recognition. This goes
a long way. Make their work life meaningful.
What does it take to turn a person into a Judas? What
motivates someone to betray deep-seated loyalties? Unresolved
anger and resentment, for one thing. Consider the story of Earl
Pitts, FBI agent turned Soviet spy.
According to Evan Thomas in Newsweek, Pitts was raised on a
farm in Missouri and was recognized as a Future Farmer of
America. His parents said they disciplined him firmly but
fairly. He was a captain in the army who regarded himself as a
patriot. Even today he is described by his wife as a "good
man." So what happened?
After getting his law degree and serving as a military
policeman for six years, in 1983 Pitts realized a lifelong
ambition by going to work for the FBI. In 1987 he was
assigned to the New York office, and there his troubles began.
He did not see how he could afford to live in the Big Apple on
his $25,000 a year salary.
Thomas writes, "Morale in the office was poor, and petty
cheating on expense accounts was rampant. Burdened with
debt from student loans, Pitts had to ask his father for a loan.
He felt humiliated. Pitts later told a psychiatrist that he was
'overwhelmed' by a sense of rage at the FBI."
One morning he came up with the idea of spying for the KGB.
That way he could kill two birds with one stone: he could solve
his money problems and get back at his bosses. He later told a
psychiatrist, "I was shoved by the bureaucracy, and I shoved
back.―
Over the next seven years Pitts worked as a Soviet spy and for
his services received $224,000. When he was finally caught
and convicted, the judge sentenced him to twenty-seven years
in prison. At his sentencing the judge asked him point-blank
why he had become a traitor. Earl Pitts replied, "I gave in to an
unreasonable anger. "
Never allow anger to fester. Deal with anger as God prescribes.
Here is another story:
Shirley Belleranti shows the negative impact of anger on our
most important relationships: I remember one summer day
when my ten-year-old son and a friend were getting a pitcher
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of lemonade from the refrigerator. I'd spent hours that morning
scrubbing, waxing, and polishing the kitchen floor, so I warned
the boys not to spill anything. They tried so hard to be careful
that they innocently bumped a tray of eggs on the door shelf.
Of course, it fell, splattering eggs all over my clean floor.
The boys' eyes widened with alarm as I exploded angrily. "Get
out of here now!" I shouted, while they headed for the door. By
the time I'd finished cleaning up the mess, I had calmed down.
To make amends, I set a tray of cookies on the table, along
with the pitcher of lemonade and some glasses. But when I
called the boys, there was no answer—they'd gone somewhere
else to play, somewhere where my angry voice wouldn't reach
them.
Anger separates us from those we want to be near. Anger
shatters intimacy. It sure does.
Do not let the sun go down on your anger that‘s what the Bible
has to say because the Author know the stuff we are made of.
God has given us a mind to use and we need to use that mind
to educate our moods.
I sure appreciate the fact that God does not blow His top the
way I do.
It takes a lot of discipline to be able to deal with anger
emotions but we simply have to deal with it correctly.
Just remember this. Anger can sure be an expensive luxury.
And we simply can‘t afford it.
One father complains: ―My children think that I am an ATM
Machine.‖ Another dad said: Never date a woman whose father
calls her "Princess".
True justice is when our kids have their own kids. Every word
and deed of a parent is a fiber woven into the character of a
child which ultimately determines how that child fits into the
fabric of society. This is why I love to do parenting talks. It's
important for our country.
It's a parenting talk this morning and then I get to speak to the
science teachers this afternoon. I don't charge fees when it
comes to parents, students and teachers. This is why I love my
life. Happiness comes through doors you didn't even know you
left open.
Think about this. No matter how successful a man is in
business, he is seldom as smart as his mother thinks, or as
dumb as his mother in law says he is.
Somebody asks this question: ―What is the difference between
outlaws and in-laws?‖ And here is the answer: Outlaws are
wanted.
We lovingly call her ―Auntie Carmen.‖ If you want to talk
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about being a ―people person‖ then Auntie Carmen surely
qualifies as one of them. We met in church a couple of years
ago and have become friends. She sent me this beautiful story
that is credited to anonymity.
Once upon a time in China , a girl named Li-Li got married &
went to live with her husband and mother-in-law. In a very
short time, Li-Li found that she couldn't get along with her
mother-in-law at all. Their personalities were very different,
and Li-Li was angered by many of her mother-in-law' s habits.
In addition, she criticized Li-Li constantly.
Days and weeks passed. Li-Li and her mother-in-law never
stopped arguing and fighting. But what made the situation
worse was that according to Chinese tradition, Li-Li had to
bow to her mother-in-law and obey her every wish. All the
anger and unhappiness in the house was causing Li-Li's poor
husband great distress.
Li-Li could not stand her mother-in-law any longer so she
decided to do something about it. Li-Li went to see Mr. Huang
who sold herbs. She told him about the situation and asked if
he would give her some poison so that she could solve her
problem once and for all. The wise Mr. Huang thought for
awhile, and finally said, "Li-Li, I will help you solve your
problem, but you must listen to me and obey what I tell you."
Li-Li said, "Yes, Mr. Huang, I will do whatever you tell me
to.―
Mr. Huang gave Li-Li a package of herbs. He said, "Li-Li, you
cannot use a quick-acting poison kill your mother-in-law,
because that would cause people to become suspicious.
Therefore, I have given you a number of herbs that will slowly
build up poison in her body. Every other day prepare some
delicious meal and put a little of these herbs in her serving.
Now, in order to make sure that nobody suspect you the day
she dies, you must be very careful to act very friendly towards
her. "Don't argue with her, obey her every wish, and treat her
like a queen." Li-Li was so happy. She thanked Mr. Huang and
hurried home to start her murder plot against her mother-in-
law.
Weeks and months went by and every other day, Li-Li served
the specially treated food to her mother-in-law. She
remembered what Mr. Huang said about avoiding suspicion so
she controlled her temper, obeyed her mother-in-law, and
treated her like her own mother. After six months, the whole
household had changed. Li-Li had learned to control her
temper and she hadn't had an argument with her mother-in-law
in six months. The mother-in-law now seemed a lot kinder and
easier to get along. Her attitude toward Li-Li has changed, and
she began to love Li-Li like her own daughter. She kept telling
friends and relatives that Li-Li was the best daughter-in- law
one could ever find. Li-Li's husband was very happy to see
what was happening.
So now Li-Li has a problem. The situation has changed but
what about the poison inside her mother-in-law that would
eventually kill her.
Li-Li rushed to see Mr. Huang and asked for his help. She said,
"Mr. Huang, please help me to keep off the poison from killing
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my mother-in-law. She's changed into such a nice woman, and
I love her like my own mother. I do not want her to die because
of the poison I gave her."
Mr. Huang smiled and nodded his head. "Li-Li, there's nothing
to worry about. I never gave you any poison. The herbs I gave
you were vitamins to improve her health. The only poison was
in your mind and your attitude toward her, but that has been all
washed away by the love which you gave to her."
Now I want you to think about this. You will be amazed at how
people would change when the change starts with you. And
couldn‘t it be possible that God is using other people to work
on you?
Never forget. Behind every successful man stands --- a
surprised mother-in-law.
The late business philosopher Jim Rohn says: Affirmation
without discipline is the beginning of delusion. Every single
successful professional or business person I have met is a
disciplined person. There can't be any exception to this rule.
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Francis J. Kong is:
• President of Success Options Publishing Company
• President of FunWorks Inc. a member of the Canadian
based Mad Science International Group, the world‘s number
one (1) Science educational-entertainment program provider
for kids.
• Founding member and Director of Inspire Leadership
Consultancy
Francis has extensive work experiences in manufacturing and
retail as he help founded a popular clothing company and ran a
retail chain for many years.
You can hear him in his daily Radio Program ―Business
Matters‖ which was given a Year 2007 special citation by the
Catholic Mass Media Awards.
You can read him through his Saturday and Sunday column of
the Business Page of the Philippine Star.
You can see him as he regularly guests every Monday and
Thursday morning at the popular morning show Umagang Kay
Ganda.
He has been featured in many of the major business
conventions and conferences both here and abroad.
• Francis is co-recipient of the Anvil Award for Excellence
for the staging of the Dr. John Maxwell Leadership Seminar
Series.
• Recipient of the Year 2006 Gold Quill Philippines Award
of merit for Public Speech category sponsored by The
International Association of Business Communicators.
• Recipient of 2008 Dr. Jose Rizal Award for Excellence in
the field of Journalism.
Francis has been trained and licensed by Maximum Impact of
Atlanta Georgia to do the Maxwell leadership programs. He is
also Trained and licensed by The Ziglar Corporation in London
to do the Ziglar Sales and Presentation programs.
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He is an author of 14 books:
• His book ―One Day at a Time‖ has been given a most
favorable review by Channel NewsAsia of Singapore.
• His book ―The Early Bird Catches the Worm: is now
translated into the Korean language.
Francis is married to the former Lilia Nolasco and has three
children: Bryan 30, Hannah 26 and Rachel 21.
For more inspiring words from Francis J. Kong, please visit his
personal blog at http://www.franciskong.com.
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A compilation of post from the personal blog of
F r a n c i s J. K o n g for the month of February, 2012.
This eBook and its content is copyright of Francis J. Kong - ©
Francis J. Kong, 2012. All rights reserved.
Any redistribution or reproduction of part or all of the contents
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transmit it or store it in any other website or other form of
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You like someone "BECAUSE" they have pretty eyes, nice
smile, or an elegant nose. You love the person "EVEN
THOUGH" they are not rich, a good cook, or can‘t put the
toilet seat down. Liking someone means that you are fond of
their good traits and loving someone is that you accept that
other person fully even though they are not always perfect.
Liking and loving are different. Know the difference. It's easy
to like but it takes a lot of heart and discipline to love.
Good people change others. Better people change the system
but the best people change themselves. And when God changes
the person the person changes himself/herself, changes the
system and then they inspire others to change as well. Faith
and discipline - package deal to change.
A teacher arranged her young students into a circle. She then
went around the circle and asked each one a question.
"Robert, what sound does a cow make?"
Robert replied, "It goes 'moo.'"
"Albert, what sound does a cat make?"
Albert said, "It goes 'meow.'"
"Oscar, what sound does a lamb make?"
Oscar said, "It goes 'baaa.'"
"Noel, what sound does a mouse make?"
Noel paused, and said, "Uhh ... it goes ... 'click…click!'"
This is the age of technology.
There was a time when mouse used to be a rodent and
windows were fixtures inside your home. Today you have
mouse, wireless mouse, mouse that operates with radio
frequency, track pads is replacing the mice. Disruptive
technology is here to stay. There was a time when it took a
long time before a new product is accepted in the market place.
Today the market eagerly awaits the launching of the next big
thing in technology.
I was giving a seminar then and people began to smile, some
were giggling and a lot more of them began laughing. I asked,
―What‘s going on?‖ One brave soul responded and said,
―Francis, you said we need to read books and we need to listen
to tapes. But nobody listens to tapes anymore.‖ ―Oh boy, ― I
told myself, caught in a time warp. How could I have missed
that?
After giving a talk, one lady approached me and said, ―Francis
I love your talk. Have you recorded it in a cassette?‖
―Cassette?‖ I half smiled but that‘s exactly what happened to
me. The only difference is that I said, ―Tape.‖
This makes me think. What has happened to the products of the
past? The hits? The wonders? The breakthrough technology
that made the world marveled? Products like:
1. The video recorder? (Circa 1983) The one with the flashing
12:00? Never figured out what that function was for anyway.
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2. Brick (circa 1990) – I remember my first cell phone was a
phone named ANTEL. Compare the size of that today to the
newer ones my first cell phone was as small as my Coleman
Water Jug. You charge the battery for 8 hours and you get to
use it for only 2.
3. Cloning (same time) – The biggest worry at that time was
not virus but cloning in an Analog platform not digital.
4. Let‘s go back – way back. Remember phones had party-lines
and you fight them all the time?
5. What about Caller ID (circa 1995) – Staring at a number that
came in and you shock the callers by knowing it was them.
And for those who first saw the light in a hospital after 1990, a
quick fad then was called the DAT. DAT stands for Digital
Audio Tape. Sony Corporation introduced this in the mid-
1980‘s. This replaced the old cassettes that really lasted many
years.
And the CD‘s came into the picture and is now losing ground
to Ipods and MP3 Players. A couple of years back I remember
entering the last 2 days of Tower Record‘s existence in
America and everything in there was sold for just $2 and less.
Today online music purchasing gains momentum everyday.
My son plays the drums for a popular band. He says that their
first hit became a hit without a CD. It was placed online and
people here and even in places as far as Belgium and Germany
listened to it.
Products of the past. I wonder why as I think about them the
same products bring back memories of events tied to the same.
And what about future products?
I read about scientists and researchers developing the next
generation paper battery. A supercharged battery that can be
bent, rolled, twisted and cut to size like a piece of paper. It
looks like the next great thing; a breakthrough technology
which becomes today‘s hit would in a short span of time
quickly turn into tomorrow‘s museum piece.
May I make a suggestion? Don‘t be too much of a hurry in
having to HAVE that new toy. You spend a great deal for it and
then a few months later that ―new‖ thing will be left with just
the ―thing‖ when the novelty of newness is gone. Just because
you are using an old cell phone does not mean you‘re second-
class and old. It may mean you are frugal and practical that‘s
all.
Somebody says: ―The world is getting complicated. Somebody
just gave me a battery operated paperweight.‖ And you‘re
probably asking, ―Paperweight? What‘s that?‖
Don‘t let technology complicate your life. Live it simply but
live it to the full. With or even without the latest technology.
Complete the sentence. If at first you don‘t succeed --- Do not
try again. Find out what went wrong. Correct the error and then
try again. It's crazy to continue doing the same thing over
expecting a different result. Working harder on the same
mistake is not a virtue. Humble yourself and find out where
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you went wrong. Then correct it and try again. This takes a lot
of discipline to do.
And now more than ever, it‘s important that we commit to a
lifelong quest for knowledge. Things are changing so rapidly
that unless we stay up on the learning curve, we will surely fall
behind.
Knowledge will not acquire you: you must acquire it. Takes
discipline to do this.
After she woke up, a woman told her husband, "I just dreamed
that you gave me a pearl necklace for Valentine's day. What do
you think it means?―
"You'll know tonight." he said.
That evening, the man came home with a small package and
gave it to his wife. Delighted, she opened it - to find a book
entitled "The Meaning of Dreams."
Don't be a cheapskate. Show love and give love every day.
From an anonymous source comes this beautiful material:
My face in the mirror isn't wrinkled or drawn.
My house isn't dirty the cobwebs are gone.
My garden looks lovely and so does my lawn.
I think I might never put my glasses back on.
One of the greatest impediments to progress is denial.
Be truthful at all times and be a disciplined person.
A FRENCH PROVERB SAYS: ―None so busy as those who
do nothing.‖
But what about being too busy all the time?
The truth is if you are too busy to relax, then you are too busy.
Technology is a big culprit behind the reason why we become
so busy.
Just think about this: Do you remember the predictions about
the paperless office and the leisure society? Between 1999 and
2002 global use of paper increased by 22% and we now seem
to have less spare time than ever. We are also sleeping less than
we used to, down from 9 hours per day in 1900 to 6.9 hours
today. Indeed, the benefits of the computer age can be seen
everywhere except in the productivity statistics, because we are
inventing new ways of making ourselves busy.
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Still, being too busy seems to be a badge of accomplishment
and a picture of importance. When people invite me to give a
talk I pull out my Iphone, check over my calendar and see my
white spaces occupied with activities. People are impressed.
They see how busy I am.
In fact there is a running rumor going around the corporate
world that it takes them one year in advance to be able to get a
booking from me. This is of course grossly exaggerated but it
does take quite a few months lead time to have me schedule a
date for a speaking or a training engagement.
And then I go home, exhausted and wondered how I could
have packed so many activities in so short a time.
But this is not an exclusive condition for me.
The obsession with "busyness" can be seen in the way the work
ethic has invaded childhood. Children must be kept busy at all
limes. As a result, they are becoming overscheduled and we are
creating a cohort that cannot think for itself, a generation of
passive, risk-averse citizens and comfortably numb consumers
with almost no imagination or self-reliance.
Children today are expected to do so many hours of back-
breaking homework. And then rush off somewhere to do music
lessons. And parents today feel that if they do not push their
kids hard enough they may not succeed.
Watch what happens when summer season comes. Parents get
paranoid and they feel nervous seeing their children idle. And
so they enroll them in summer courses, sports programs,
summer programs just to keep them busy.
Is busyness now an important element to life and living? Could
we not get used to moments of quietness so we can pull our
acts together? As I ask these questions I am actually asking
myself.
Consider the following new terms:
TMI or Too much Information better known as information
overload has a distant cousin, too much choice (TMC). In a
nutshell, humankind is producing an excess of stuff. The
amount of new information we produce today is estimated to
be around 2 billion bytes annually. That's (very roughly) 2
billion bytes or about 20 billion copies of a typical thick book.
The average large corporation similarly experiences a doubling
of the amount of information it produces annually.
Information is no longer power; power lies in the ability to
attain and maintain attention. I am not an alarmist but what I
want people to know is that the pace of life will continue to
increase and we need to learn how to be quiet.
This is why my first hour of the day is spent on quiet time.
Prayer and meditation of Scripture to bring sanity to my being.
Busyness may not be a good thing when it is done in excess.
Learn to be quiet. Learn to spend time in solitude as I certainly
will this coming holiday season.
So don‘t just do something, stand there or better still, sit down
and be quiet.
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Here is an old and sobering story: When a victorious Roman
general arrived back in Rome, he was given a hero's welcome
and a triumphant parade of victory. But a philosopher was
hired to ride beside him in the victory parade. As the victor
acknowledged the cheers of the crowd, the philosopher kept
whispering in his ear: "You are mortal. You are mortal." Focus
on God the Source of all good things.
Somebody says: My wife suggested a book for me to read to
enhance our relationship. It's titled: 'Women are from Venus,
Men are Wrong'. It doesn't have to be this way. Takes a lot of
discipline to have a very successful marriage.
I am so excited to speak on marriage this afternoon at St.
Scholastica Westgrove. Have had years of this in actual
experience and is included in my bio-data. :)
Some people are what I call ―The Plan B‖ people. While I
value the importance of being prudent and prepared, some
people would always go to option 2 when they have not
exhausted their efforts into their original plan.
Statesman and businessman George Shultz says: 'The minute
you start talking about what you are going to do if you lose,
YOU have lost.'' Don‘t quit too soon. Takes a lot of discipline
to go through this.
Our country has gone through many kinds of crisis. Crisis that
are both man made and considered acts of God. Which in my
opinion is a very bad term. Why is it that we call a sad natural
catastrophe an ―act of god‖ and then when times are good and
victorious we credit it to ourselves? Maybe this is something
we should think about.
Anyways --- We have a very strange way of getting through
the different crises that have came our way.
A few days after typhoon Ondoy, I joined a relief operations
group and we rode a small Bangka and visited the far places of
the flooded areas in order to distribute relief goods. Guess what
I saw? Water that has gone beyond house roofs with people
practically staying on top of their roofs yet you still see a smile
on their faces.
They say that as a people we are resilient and I think we are.
But being resilient alone does not make us stronger. We need to
evaluate the experience, learn from it and be determined to
prevent the same problem from occurring in the future. This is
why this material I got from the Internet really made me laugh.
It is entitled: ―21 Thoughts to Get You Through Almost Any
Crisis.‖
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Now here is a warning. Do not take this material seriously.
This is part sarcasm part plain humor. Following this material
will be totally disastrous so take this as something humorous
and again, do not take it seriously.
Here is the material.
21 Thoughts to Get You Through Almost any Crisis:
1. Indecision is the key to flexibility.
2. There is absolutely no substitute for a genuine lack of
preparation.
3. Happiness is merely the remission of pain.
4. Nostalgia isn't what it used to be.
5. The facts, although interesting, are irrelevant.
6. The careful application of terror is also a form of
communication.
7. Someone who thinks logically provides a nice contrast to the
real world.
8. Things are more like they are today then they have ever been
before.
9. Anything worth fighting for is worth fighting dirty for.
That‘s bad.
10. Everything should be made as simple as possible but no
simpler.
11. Friends may come and go, but enemies accumulate. Oh
how I believe that.
12. I have seen the truth and it makes no sense.
13. Suicide is the most sincere form of self-criticism. And it‘s
the biggest cop out too.
14. If you think that there is good in everybody, you haven't
met everybody.
15. All things being equal, fat people use more soap. Now
that‘s being politically incorrect.
16. If you can smile when things go wrong, you have someone
in mind to blame.
17. One-seventh of your life is spent on Monday.
18. By the time you can make ends meet, they move the ends.
19. Not one shred of evidence supports the notion that life is
serious.
20. There is always one more imbecile than you counted on.
21. Never wrestle with a pig. You both get dirty and the pig
likes it.
Comedienne Lucille Ball says: :The secret of staying young is
to live honestly, eat slowly, and lie about your age.‖
Again, do not take this seriously. Of course all form of lying is
sinful. But here is the key. When you go through a crisis, pray.
Never forget that God is in control. Keep your mind clear and
put your trust in God. This is the only part of the material that
is serious and truthful. So learn the lessons.
Leaders who win the respect of others are the ones who deliver
more than they promise, not the ones who promise more than
they can deliver.‖ says Mark Clement.
One winning principle we can all cultivate for life is this:
Always give more than what we're paid for. Those who keep
on counting the hours and counting the wages are never happy
and worst --- they never grow!!
Happy growing today, this week and the rest of your life.
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If you want to feel rich, just count the things money cant buy.
Two kinds of gratitude: The sudden kind we feel for what we
take; the larger kind we feel for what we give. says E.A.
ROBINSON.
There are the givers and there are the takers. The takers of
course they eat better. But the givers, they sleep better. And the
takers have higher cholesterol. Have a Great day today!
"So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for
the glory of God."
This special story today found in the web site ―Daily
Encounter‖ was written by Commander Eric J. Berryman.
The USS Astoria (C-34) was the first U.S. cruiser to engage the
Japanese during the Battle of Savo Island, a night action fought
8-9 August 1942. Although she scored two hits on the Imperial
flagship Chokai, the Astoria was badly damaged and sank
shortly after noon, 9 August.
About 0200 hours a young midwesterner, Signalman 3rd Class
Elgin Staples, was swept overboard by the blast when the
Astoria's number one eight-inch gun turret exploded. Wounded
in both legs by shrapnel and in semi-shock, he was kept afloat
by a narrow life belt that he managed to activate with a simple
trigger mechanism.
At around 0600 hours, Staples was rescued by a passing
destroyer and returned to the Astoria, whose captain was
attempting to save the cruiser by beaching her. The effort
failed, and Staples, still wearing the same life belt, found
himself back in the water. He was picked up again, this time by
the USS President Jackson (AP-37), he was one of 500
survivors of the battle who were evacuated to Noumea.
On board the transport, Staples, for the first time, closely
examined the life belt that had served him so well. It had been
manufactured by Firestone Tire and Rubber Company of
Akron, Ohio, and bore a registration number.
Given home leave Staples told his story and asked his mother,
who worked for Firestone, about the purpose of the number on
the belt. She replied that the company insisted on personal
responsibility for the war effort, and that the number was
unique and assigned to only one inspector. Staples remembered
everything about the lifebelt, and quoted the number. It was his
mother's personal code and affixed to every item she was
responsible for approving.
When we always do what is right, the person we help the most
in many ways is our own self and that of our loved ones.
So many people miss this. They go to work everyday without
any purpose or meaning in life.
So why do you think there are many people bored with their
work? Maybe because they are not really working. They are
simply pretending to work. This is why one company came up
with an innovative policy that says: ―You pretend to work and
we will pretend to pay you.‖
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Do what is right all the time.
Never allow complacency to creep up on you.
Develop yourself into a life long learner and keep on growing.
This is the only way you begin to open wide better
opportunities for growth.
As I come into contact with many of the real and successful
winners in life whether they be in the field of business,
profession or academe, they all tell the same story. No matter
how humble their beginnings may have been they all were
faithful in what they were doing.
This is why faithfulness is a virtue that you and I should not
forsake.
And we are developed more in this area when we remember
that in everything we do, it is for God‘s Glory.
Start this day with a positive spirit and sustain this week by
being positive.
Do not say, "I have to go to work again and I hate my job."
Say: "I love to go to work today because there are so many out
there who can't even find work." Develop an attitude of
gratitude and thank God in everything!
I am unique. You are unique. There are no two identical petals,
no two identical leaves. You can go all over the world and you
will never find someone who is exactly like you. Why?
Because God is merciful. Just to have one of you is more than
enough. :)
And this is why we should never ENVY another. Envy is dumb
and stupid. It is self-destructive. Learn to celebrate other‘s
success.
A Chinese proverb says: A gem is not polished without
rubbing, nor a man made perfect without trials. So when you
face some rubbing today, stay positive, stay beautiful, stay
trusting in God and in plane English --- just stay! Till you get
through it and start shining.
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Francis J. Kong is:
• President of Success Options Publishing Company
• President of FunWorks Inc. a member of the Canadian
based Mad Science International Group, the world‘s number
one (1) Science educational-entertainment program provider
for kids.
• Founding member and Director of Inspire Leadership
Consultancy
Francis has extensive work experiences in manufacturing and
retail as he help founded a popular clothing company and ran a
retail chain for many years.
You can hear him in his daily Radio Program ―Business
Matters‖ which was given a Year 2007 special citation by the
Catholic Mass Media Awards.
You can read him through his Saturday and Sunday column of
the Business Page of the Philippine Star.
You can see him as he regularly guests every Monday and
Thursday morning at the popular morning show Umagang Kay
Ganda.
He has been featured in many of the major business
conventions and conferences both here and abroad.
• Francis is co-recipient of the Anvil Award for Excellence
for the staging of the Dr. John Maxwell Leadership Seminar
Series.
• Recipient of the Year 2006 Gold Quill Philippines Award
of merit for Public Speech category sponsored by The
International Association of Business Communicators.
• Recipient of 2008 Dr. Jose Rizal Award for Excellence in
the field of Journalism.
Francis has been trained and licensed by Maximum Impact of
Atlanta Georgia to do the Maxwell leadership programs. He is
also Trained and licensed by The Ziglar Corporation in London
to do the Ziglar Sales and Presentation programs.
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He is an author of 14 books:
• His book ―One Day at a Time‖ has been given a most
favorable review by Channel NewsAsia of Singapore.
• His book ―The Early Bird Catches the Worm: is now
translated into the Korean language.
Francis is married to the former Lilia Nolasco and has three
children: Bryan 30, Hannah 26 and Rachel 21.
For more inspiring words from Francis J. Kong, please visit his
personal blog at http://www.franciskong.com.
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"To err is human - and to blame it on a computer is even more
so." Says Robert Orben.
Never master the art of ―BLAMEstorming.‖ Blaming others
weakens one‘s character. Take responsibility for your actions.
When you have succeeded, stay humble and when you have
experienced defeat, strengthen your resolve, learn from the
episode and move forward. This is how winners are made.
You cannot be in business without conflicts. Conflicts are
good. Conflicts can be healthy. Conflicts bring out creativity in
people but conflicts should make you a better person not a
bitter person. Learn to deal with conflicts professionally. You
may attack the issues but never attack the person. Treat each
one with respect. Be civil and be civilized.
It's been a Great Week!
We are not made happy by what we have. We are made happy
by what we appreciate. Offer thanksgiving to God who is the
Grand Architect of history and change. Welcome change with
great anticipation and gratefulness.
From the book entitled ―More Hot Illustrations for Youth
Talks‖ as edited by Wayne Rice, is a story about a parakeet and
a vacuum cleaner but as you listen to it you may observe that it
deals more than a story about a parakeet. It may actually be
talking about you and me.
There‘s the story of a woman who had a parakeet named
Chippie. She loved Chippie because he was such a happy little
song bird. Chippie's constant chirping just seemed to brighten
her day. One day, the woman was cleaning the bottom of
Chippie's cage with a vacuum cleaner when the telephone rang.
She reached for the telephone without removing the nozzle of
the vacuum cleaner from the cage, which was a mistake. The
vacuum cleaner nozzle got pointed in the direction of poor
little Chippie, and he was suddenly sucked up into the
machine.
When the woman looked back at the cage and realized what
had happened, she was horrified. She dropped the telephone,
turned off the vacuum cleaner and ripped open the dust bag to
get to her little bird. Chippie was a real mess, but he was still
alive. She raced to the kitchen sink and turned the water on full
force on Chippie. The more she tried to wash him, the worse he
looked, so she took him to the bathroom and started trying to
dry Chippie with her hair dryer--full force and high heat.
Finally she got the bird dry and put him back in his cage.
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Several days later, a friend called and asked how Chippie was
doing.
"He's alive," he said, "but he just sits in his cage and stares into
space. And," she added thoughtfully, "Chippie doesn't sing
much anymore."
We all know people who are a lot like Chippie. We know
young people who once had a song in their hearts. But due to
circumstances out of their control, they discovered that "life
sucks." As a result, they aren't singing much anymore.
I never gave much thought about this until one time I had to
stay home during a long vacation. The religious holidays took
a couple of days and the stores were closed, the movies were
showing nothing but old religious movies and I wasn‘t at the
mood of messing around with my computer. The only thing
that got me going was to watch rented tapes all day long. BY
the end of the day, I simply found myself staring at the boob
tube allowing my mind to drift.
Thinking yet having no thoughts. Looking yet seeing nothing.
So different from the usual vibrant and hyper active me. My
wife and my kids noticed this and they laughed because at that
time and circumstance, I was really a funny figure.
When they awakened me from my spell, I suddenly realized
that I have been so accustomed to be moving around, getting
busy, running all over the place such that I get so caught up
with the rat race I don‘t know how to rest any more. No, it‘s
not burn out, it‘s not anything I know it‘s just a case of getting
so busy with life‘s stupid demands such that my heart can‘t
even sing anymore. I may not have noticed this but I probably
worship my work and work at my play because life‘s different
circumstances do have a tendency to rob our very life away
from us. In other words, I felt like Chippie. But the question is:
What about you?
Have you ever felt a little like Chippie? Have you been abused
by people you loved? Has your world been turned upside
down? Have you lost your desire to Sing? Well don‘t!
As Chippie found out, there are no "quick fixes." Healing takes
time. But there is someone who can give you back your song
and restore your joy. His name is Jesus. "Sing to the Lord a
new song, for he has done marvelous things" (Psalm 98:1). It‘s
no longer strange to find that the Word of God calls Jesus a
Healer. I guess no one can exist without Him, and that includes
chippie as well as me.
Do not call it Monday morning blues. This time call it
Awesome Monday that will start your Awesome Week! Put
your mind in the right frame and work to make this week your
most productive week of your life. And then repeat the process
next Monday! BE AWESOME!
If a problem causes many meetings, the meetings eventually
become more important than the problem, says writer Arthur
Bloch. Make your meetings productive. Cut to the chase. Stick
to the agenda. Respect opinions. Make it quick and go back to
work.
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Our purpose in life is tied to our calling. But our calling will
always test our character. No matter how noble our calling in
life is, we need to make sure we develop a Christ-like character
so as not to destroy the nobility of our purpose. Enjoy the day!
G K Chesterton says: ―To be clever enough to get all that
money, one must be stupid enough to want it.‖
And isn‘t this so true? For the love of money is a root of all
kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered
from the faith and pierced themselves with many grieves.
Never allow money to change you. Don‘t be that cheap!
What you hold in your hands will not be as important as what
you carry in your heart. Make sure you spend this week
carrying an attitude of gratitude and a firm determination to be
excellent to make this week the best week of your life. I do.
The world has lost it‘s Moral Reference. What has replaced
morality today is the new or maybe not-so-new term called
political correctness.
I have attended a session in a business conference. The famous
book author who was speaking opened the session with a
claim, ―I am a Buddhist.‖ I do not understand the relevance of
that statement to his topic presentation but I gave him the
benefit of the doubt.
In another session Ken Blanchard, famous author, trainer and
speaker had to exert a lot of efforts in explaining why he is of
the ―Faith‖ and that he does not intend to use his Christianity
to convert anyone. And then the thought hit me.
One famous author and speaker can be proud in declaring that
he is a Buddhist. But Ken Blanchard has to qualify to
acknowledge that he is a Christian. This is what happens when
we have lost the point of moral reference.
Maybe you are thinking that the issue is about religion? Not
exactly. Please allow me to qualify. America has been built by
the Bible. This is why there is a huge area of American Land
today that is still called the Bible Belt area. But isn‘t it a
wonder that today public prayer is already prohibited and the
10 Commandments have been removed from Court Houses and
there are attempts to remove the words, ―In God We Trust‖
from the Dollar Bill?
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I was in my hotel dressing up preparing myself for the training
session. There was an interview happening in an American TV
program. The wife secretly poses herself in the nude and does
Web Sex without the knowledge of her husband. During the
interview the husband was obviously surprised.
When asked why she is doing this, "She said I love to do this
and I also get to make a few bucks in between."
Husband asked; "Is there any physical contact with any man?"
The wife shook her head and said, "Absolutely not."
Husband says, "Who am I to stand in between my wife and
what makes her happy?―
And the audience broke up in "aaaahhhh!" And applauded the
husband. Why in the eyes of the audience the husband is a
hero. He is understanding and he shows his love for his wife in
spite of the fact that she does porno acts in front of a web cam.
Here is a question I would like to ask. Would you and I
applaud our children or daughters for doing the same thing?
Just to do things that make them happy?
America has lost it. There is absolutely no point of reference
that porno is wrong. What is all this about? Is everything all
about being happy? Some people I know do stupid things and
they are happy too….
But why is porno wrong? Now the question becomes hard to
answer is it not? But when you have a moral reference then the
answer becomes pretty obvious. "Because you and I are image
bearers of God. A body given to us as His Temple.― And so we
take care of it because we value it. It's not some cheap device
you show off to everyone and earn money from it. What makes
this different now from selling one's body for physical
pleasure? Not much difference right?
Let The Scriptures serve as the main point of reference and let
it‘s Author be the Final Authority for indeed He is. Then we do
not experience happiness, which is so shallow and is so
dependent on happenings. We experience true joy that can only
come from Him.
After 17 hours of flying time and 12.5 hours of airport waiting
time I finally made it to Boston for my yearly brain upgrade.
This is what knowledge is all about. You have to go out of your
way and seek it. Rarely does knowledge come and interrupt us
in the middle of our DVD movie watching.
Same thing with God. We have to seek Him with all of our
heart and then we'll find Him! Classes start tomorrow and I'm
excited.
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A Swedish proverb says: Fear less, hope more. Eat less, chew
more. Whine less, breathe more. Hate less, love more. And all
good things are yours. I will add more. In all things give thanks
to God!
HENRY BOYE says: "In life, no matter how tall your parents
were, you still have to do your own growing."
There's nothing we can do with our ancestry but there is
everything we CAN do with our legacy. Take charge, be
responsible and start growing!
Somebody says, "If we are what we eat then most of us would
become french fries by now. The truth is we are what we read.
Jim Rohn says 5 years from now, you and I will be exactly the
same people today except for two things: the books we read
and the friends we meet. Read good books and cultivate honest
and good friends by being one yourself.
After more than 20 hours of flying time and waiting time
coming back, can't wait to go back to work. No one can be
happy unless he or she is productive. Start with a positive
mindset. Seek wisdom not answers, give encouragement and
not just help and make this week the most productive and
meaningful week ever. Today is a gift from God and so are the
days of the week.
It is important that we get our math right. The things that count
are the things that cannot be counted. I am convinced that we
need to see through the clutter and see Jesus for He is all that
matters. Youth is fleeting life on this earth is finite and only
what matters in eternity truly counts. Learn to number our days
aright so we can have a heart of wisdom.
Norman Cousins says: "Death is not the greatest loss in life.
The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live."
My father raised us up well and even though we grieve his
passing last night we rejoice in his arrival in the promised
place Jesus offered. He passed on in peace because the Prince
of Peace is in his heart.
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History teaches us the mistakes we are going to make. This is a
wise saying. We all should be students of history learning from
our past mistakes as well as our past successes. Every day is
class in session and everywhere is a classroom for learning.
Observe and absorb for today may offer the greatest lesson you
and I need to learn. Happy Learning.
A farmer‘s boy decided to get married. His father said to him,
―John, when you get married, your liberty is gone.‖ The boy
said he did not believe it. The father said, ―I‘ll prove it to you.
Catch a dozen chicken, tie their legs together and put them in
the wagon. Hitch up the 2 horses to the wagon and drive into
town. Stop at every house you come to, and whenever you find
the man is boss, give him a horse. But whenever you find the
woman is boss, give her a chicken. You‘ll give away all your
chickens and come back with 2 horses.
―Is it really that bad?‖ The boy wondered. What is father trying
to say? That the woman is the head of the house? That she is
the boss? Still, the boy wouldn‘t believe.
Nevertheless, he accepted the proposition and drove to town.
He had stopped at every house and had given away 10
chickens when he came to a nice little house and saw an old
man and his wife standing out on the front lawn. He called to
them and asked, ―who is the boss here?‖
The man said, ―I am.‖ Turning to the woman, the boy said, ―Is
he the boss?‖
The woman replied, ―Yes, he is the boss.‖
The boy asked them to come down to the street. He then
explained his reason for asking and told the man to pick out
one of the horses. He said he would bring the horse back to
him that afternoon. The old man and the old lady looked over
the horses carefully, and the husband said, ―I think the black
horse is the better of the two.‖
The wife then said, ―I think that brown one is in every way the
better horse. I would choose him.‖
The old man took a careful look at the brown horse and said, ―I
guess I‘ll take the brown horse.‖
The boy smiled and said, ―Oh no you won‘t; you‘ll take the
chicken.‖
Clearly, the woman is still the boss around the house.
Some times I get really tired of hearing all those jokes about
certain men being ―Under‖ the power and authority of their
wives. All jokes imaginable have been concocted and why is
this so? Very simple. Because not too many people understand
God‘s design for marriage.
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You would be amazed at the kinds of things business people
say about marriage. One guy said that -Marriage is not a word.
It is a sentence (a life sentence!).
Another one trying to play with the concept of philosophy
deduces marriage this way: He says -Marriage is love. Love is
blind. Therefore, marriage is an institution for the blind. Would
you believe that?
One business man tired of all the household chores says that
the Marriage certificate is just another word for a work permit.
One wise guy says that you see that the disintegration of
marriage comes in different stages:
In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman
listens adoringly.
In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens
agonizingly.
And in the third year, they BOTH speak and the NEIGHBORS
listen excitedly.
Truth is those who make fun of marriage perhaps is simply
being defensive about it. Maybe the guys in the office who
tease men saying that their wives are their bosses are
themselves being defensive in a way.
Somebody says: Marriage is an institution in which a man
loses his Bachelor's Degree and the woman gets her Masters.
And lastly, another business man says: when a man holds a
woman's hand before marriage, it is love; after marriage, it is
self-defense.
Husband and wife, instead of complementing each other
collide with each other. This is not an exception, rather it is
more of a rule. This is an eventuality because both parties in
the marriage relationship do not understand his and her role.
Haven‘t you noticed that after attending various marriage
seminars, the husband and wife goes home even increased the
intensity of their fights. Simply because they start blaming
each other. This should not be.
The Bible says that the husband is to love his wife to the point
of even dying for her as Jesus Christ gave His life for the
church. But the woman‘s part is to submit to the authority of
her husband. Mess up this pattern and your marriage is messed
up too.
So the next time you hear those turkeys teasing you just
because you don‘t want to go with them to the bar after work
tonight, they have no idea what marriage is all about. But you
know better because you know the Word of God.
The one important quality business owners and executives are
looking for in their people is initiative. Most people shy away
and avoid responsibility and then wonder why their career is
going nowhere.
Make things happen this week because we will never be happy
unless we are productive.
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Being ignorant is not so much a shame, as being unwilling to
learn. We are all ignorant in different subjects anyway. The
person who pretends to ―know it all‖ is the true ignorant in
every way.
Some people do not want to make a stand. They always want
to be on the "winning" side. Stand on the side of truth. In the
face of falsehood silence simply means agreement. We know
what happens to people who stay in the middle of the road.
They get run over. He who is not willing to stand for anything
will fall for everything.
Some people are blessed with the ability to create wealth.
There is no need to envy them. We have wealth in many other
forms. The important thing is to appreciate, to be contented
with what we have but to never be contented with what we can
become. Become a person of character, grace, manners and
values. This is true wealth money cannot buy.
Take the time to truly rest. Vacations are important.
But here is the key: The ideal length of a vacation is just long
enough to be missed and not long enough for them to discover
how well they can get along without you... :)
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Francis J. Kong is:
• President of Success Options Publishing Company
• President of FunWorks Inc. a member of the Canadian
based Mad Science International Group, the world‘s number
one (1) Science educational-entertainment program provider
for kids.
• Founding member and Director of Inspire Leadership
Consultancy
Francis has extensive work experiences in manufacturing and
retail as he help founded a popular clothing company and ran a
retail chain for many years.
You can hear him in his daily Radio Program ―Business
Matters‖ which was given a Year 2007 special citation by the
Catholic Mass Media Awards.
You can read him through his Saturday and Sunday column of
the Business Page of the Philippine Star.
You can see him as he regularly guests every Monday and
Thursday morning at the popular morning show Umagang Kay
Ganda.
He has been featured in many of the major business
conventions and conferences both here and abroad.
• Francis is co-recipient of the Anvil Award for Excellence
for the staging of the Dr. John Maxwell Leadership Seminar
Series.
• Recipient of the Year 2006 Gold Quill Philippines Award
of merit for Public Speech category sponsored by The
International Association of Business Communicators.
• Recipient of 2008 Dr. Jose Rizal Award for Excellence in
the field of Journalism.
Francis has been trained and licensed by Maximum Impact of
Atlanta Georgia to do the Maxwell leadership programs. He is
also Trained and licensed by The Ziglar Corporation in London
to do the Ziglar Sales and Presentation programs.
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He is an author of 14 books:
• His book ―One Day at a Time‖ has been given a most
favorable review by Channel NewsAsia of Singapore.
• His book ―The Early Bird Catches the Worm: is now
translated into the Korean language.
Francis is married to the former Lilia Nolasco and has three
children: Bryan 30, Hannah 26 and Rachel 21.
For more inspiring words from Francis J. Kong, please visit his
personal blog at http://www.franciskong.com.
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A compilation of post from the personal blog of
F r a n c i s J. K o n g for the month of April, 2012.
This eBook and its content is copyright of Francis J. Kong - ©
Francis J. Kong, 2012. All rights reserved.
Any redistribution or reproduction of part or all of the contents
in any form is prohibited other than the following:
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If something is wrong with your cellphone, you do not consult
your washing machine manual.
If something is wrong with your TV, you do not consult your
DVD manual.
When your life is in disarray you don't consult your business
manual. You consult your Bible. Do not master the Bible. Let
the WORD master you.
It was June 18, 1815, the Battle of Waterloo. The French under
the command of Napoleon were fighting the Allies (British,
Dutch, and Germans) under the command of Wellington. The
people of England depended on a system of semaphore signals
to find out how the battle was going. One of these signal
stations was on the tower of Winchester Cathedral.
Late in the day it flashed the signal: "W-E-L-L-I-N-G-T-O-N---
D-E-F-E-A-T-E-D- -." Just at that moment one of those sudden
English fog clouds made it impossible to read the message.
The news of defeat quickly spread throughout the city. The
whole countryside was sad and gloomy when they heard the
news that their country had lost the war. Suddenly the fog
lifted, and the remainder of the message could be read. The
message had four words, not two. The complete message was:
"W-E-L-L-I-N-G-T-O-N- - -DE-F-E-A- T-E-D- - -T-H-E- - -E-
N- E-M-Y!" It took only a few minutes for the good news to
spread. Sorrow was turned into joy, defeat was turned into
victory!
So it was when Jesus was laid in the tomb on the first Good
Friday afternoon. Hope had died even in the hearts of Jesus'
most loyal friends. After the frightful crucifixion, the fog of
disappointment and misunderstanding had crept in on the
friends of Jesus. They had "read" only part of the divine
message. "Christ defeated" was all that they knew. But then on
the third day--Easter Sunday--the fog of disappointment and
misunderstanding lifted, and the world received the complete
message: "Christ defeated death!" Defeat was turned into
victory; death was turned to life! Such a beautiful and
inspiring story taken from the book, ―Illustrations Unlimited‖
edited by James S. Hewett.
Imagine what and how the disciples felt the day and night
before the Resurrection.
Men who have given up everything in order to follow Christ
and now distraught to see their Messiah crucified and died on
the cross. Some times we get into the case of the disciples and
criticize them for their lack of faith but how would we have
responded had we been in their sandals then? I wonder.
There is such a tone of finality to the word ―death.‖ It‘s like the
final curtains are down. It‘s ―the End.‖ ―Finito‖ as the Italians
would say. I cannot type Chinese characters from my
keyboards but it‘s just as gloomy as it sounds. ―Finished!‖
―Dead!‖ ―That‘s All Folks!‖
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Or is it? Do you know that the One who dies on the first Good
Friday is familiar with death but He treated it in another way?
Let me tell you why.
The Moody bible Institute in Chicago stands tall and erect right
in the heart of the windy city. I have visited it and I have at one
time spent a few hours in their impressive library browsing
over some of their books. This institution is named after the
very popular evangelist name Dwight L. Moody.
As a young man, D.L. Moody was called upon suddenly to
preach a funeral sermon. He hunted all throughout the four
Gospels trying to find one of Christ's funeral sermons, but
searched in vain. He found that Christ broke up every funeral
he ever attended. Death could not exist where he was. When
the dead heard his voice they sprang to life. Jesus said, "I am
the resurrection, and the life."
And then the glorious Sunday came. The stone could not hold
Him, death could not conquer Him and the only One who
conquered death lived and rose again to assure us and comfort
us that in Him we may have life too. Don‘t ask me how this is
done I‘m not a theologian. Heck --- I‘m not even religious. I‘m
just a businessman who believes. And this is why in Him I
invest my entire life. That particular Saturday sure is a lonely
one but it‘s the lull before the Rise! Death now carries no more
sting. For those who believe.
Put your work aside and just think about this for a moment.
Your perspective in the board room will be different from you
perspective in the operating room when that time comes but
the Rise on Sunday will give you hope.
Somebody said: ―The stone was rolled away from the door, not
to permit Christ to come out, but to enable the disciples to go
in.‖ And that is the very essence of the Christian faith.
DA Harvard University research study involved two groups of
100 Harvard graduates between the ages of 65 and 75. The 1st
group retired at age 65 while the other group continued to be
employed for another 10 years. In the first group - those who
retired at 65 - 7 out of 8 were dead by age 75. In the second
group of 100 men who continued to work - only 1 out of 8 was
deceased by age 75. According to Gordon Botting, "The Stew
Pot", 04 '98.
Good people do not retire, they re-fire. do not call it Monday
morning blues. This time call it Awesome Monday that will
start your Awesome Week! Put your mind in the right frame
and work to make this week your most productive week of
your life. And then repeat the process next Monday! BE
AWESOME!
Sometimes the trouble with being a parent is that by the time
you're experienced you're usually unemployed. Children grow
up and parents grow old and moments are lost without creating
pleasant memories of time spent well together.
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Enjoy your family. Every family tree always produces nuts!
And I am the biggest one in ours. Let there be love and
laughter in yours too!
The way you spend your time is the way you live your life.
You can make more money, friends and open more businesses
but there is always a limit to time. Spend in only on the things
that truly count like --- eternity with Christ?
Oswald Chambers says: ―All heaven is interested in the cross
of Christ, all hell terribly afraid of it, while men are the only
beings who more or less ignore its meaning.
Carrying the cross does not mean carrying a problem. When
Jesus carried His; He was on a mission to die for us. Everyone
who carried the cross died on the cross but Jesus bodily
resurrected to offer us life and hope. Today is a good day to
reflect on this.
Many men will talk about the character of Jesus and how
beautiful His teachings are but only a few would find it
comfortable to talk about the Christ of the cross and His
sufferings for us. Yet without the cross and Jesus' Resurrection
there is no hope for mankind.
Oswald Chambers says: Calvary means "the place of a skull"
and that is where our Lord is always crucified, in the culture
and intellect of men.
The cross and the resurrection is a great study and it takes a lot
of humility to understand it.
Lent is always a good time for us to rest and more importantly
to reflect. Maybe this is why we call it ―Holy week.‖ 7 days for
us to purposely meditate and pray so that we can survive the 51
"unholy" ones.
I did a little research. Mel Gibson in his movie ―The Passion of
the Christ‖ made it a little easier to grasp the situation. The
cross today adorn many a man and woman‘s necks as a nice
piece of jewelry and what many people fail to understand is the
fact that during the early days the cross symbolized a curse and
it was not something to be proud of.
The cross consisted of a perpendicular stake with a crossbeam
either at the top of the stake of shortly below the top. The
height of the stake was usually little more than the height of a
man. A block or a pin was sometimes driven into the stake to
serve as a seat for the condemned person, giving partial
support to his body. Sometimes also a step for the feet was
fixed to the stake.
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Victims of crucifixion did not usually die for 2 or 3 days. But
this was determined by the presence or absence of the seat and
the footrest, for a person suspended by his hands lost blood
pressure quickly, and the pulse rate was increased. Usually the
victim had been severely scourged before crucifixion took
place. Total collapse through insufficient blood circulation to
the brain and the heart would follow shortly. If the victim
could ease his body by supporting himself with the seat and
footrest, the blood could be returned to some degree of
circulation in the upper part of his body. To fix the hands to the
cross beam either cords or nails and cords were used;
sometimes the feet were nailed also. When it was desired to
bring the torture to an end, the victim's legs were broken below
the knees with a club. It was then no longer possible for him to
ease his weight, and the loss of blood circulation was
accentuated. Coronary insufficiency followed shortly. The
victim's offense was usually published by a crier who preceded
him to the place of execution. Sometimes it was written on a
tablet, which was carried by the condemned man himself. The
cross in the olden days was a symbol of a curse. Today many a
man and woman use it to adorn their necks. This is the image
of Friday.
But Sunday brings us to a different message.
As a young man, Chicago based minister D.L. Moody was
called upon suddenly to preach a funeral sermon. He hunted all
throughout the four Gospels trying to find one of Christ's
funeral sermons, but searched in vain. He found that Christ
broke up every funeral he ever attended. Death could not exist
where he was. When the dead heard his voice they sprang to
life. Jesus said, "I am the resurrection, and the life."
And here is another story. Margaret Sangster Phippen wrote
that in the mid 1950s her father, British minister W. E.
Sangster, began to notice some uneasiness in his throat and a
dragging in his leg. When he went to the doctor, he found that
he had an incurable disease that caused progressive muscular
atrophy. His muscles would gradually waste away, his voice
would fail, his throat would soon become unable to swallow.
Sangster threw himself into his work in British home missions,
figuring he could still write and he would have even more time
for prayer. "Let me stay in the struggle Lord," he pleaded. "I
don't mind if I can no longer be a general, but give me just a
regiment to lead." He wrote articles and books, and helped
organize prayer cells throughout England. "I'm only in the
kindergarten of suffering," he told people who pitied him.
Gradually Sangster's legs became useless. His voice went
completely. But he could still hold a pen, shakily. On Easter
morning, just a few weeks before he died, he wrote a letter to
his daughter. In it, he said, "It is terrible to wake up on Easter
morning and have no voice to shout, 'He is risen!'--but it would
be still more terrible to have a voice and not want to shout."
Don‘t shout: ―It‘s back to work again on Tuesday!‖
It‘s great to shout: ―Christ is Risen!‖
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Christianity is a religion of the open tomb. The stone was
rolled away from the door, not to permit Christ to come out,
but to enable the disciples to go in.
"He is Risen!" Three powerful words that offers Hope for the
future providing power to live and win for the present.
May you have this victory too!
Vacation time is almost over. Be excited to go back to work.
"There is nothing better for a man than to rejoice in his work."
says the wisest man who ever walked the earth.
Work is the least expensive way to occupy your time. A
successful Silicon Valley executive says: "Our credo is work
hard, play hard and don't worry about the difference between
work and play. There isn't any.‖
Every business commits customer service errors. I experienced
one last week. Called up and aired my concern. All I wanted
was an apology but all I ever got was an excuse. I promised
myself never to do business with that company again unless
they train their people on the art and science of "Service
Recovery.―
Here is the lesson for today: ―Never mess up an apology with
an excuse." Same principle for business is theme principle for
life and living.
Off to Singapore for some speaking and training commitments.
Just one thought for the day: Do not trade your dreams for
debts. Do not sleep well at night until you have paid it off.
Money borrowed does not belong to you. Benjamin Franklin
says: "Creditors have better memories than debtors.―
What you hold in your hands will not be as important as what
you carry in your heart! Spread joy around today in the work
place. Never mind the skeptics.
Had a great time speaking in the 10th Annual Secretaries'
Summit held at Marina Mandarin, Singapore. Today I speak to
the wonderful people of Mediacorp on Creativity and
Innovation. I learn so much in the process. To teach another is
the best way to learn but am guided by William Arthur Ward's
words of wisdom: The mediocre teacher tells. The good
teacher explains. The superior teacher demonstrates. The great teacher inspires. And by God's grace this is what I aspire to do.
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Vance Havner says, "God uses broken things. It takes broken
soil to produce a crop, broken clouds to give rain, broken grain
to give bread, broken bread to give strength. It is the broken
alabaster box that gives forth perfume." God uses mightily
those who have been hurt deeply and in this aspect, brokenness
is a great blessing.
A fisherman from the city was out fishing on a lake in a small
boat. He noticed another man in a small boat open his tackle
box and take out a mirror. Being curious the man rowed over
and asked, "What is the mirror for?― "That's my secret way to
catch fish," said the other man. "Shine the mirror on the top of
the water. The fish notice the spot of sun on the water above
and they swim to the surface. Then I just reach down and net
them and pull them into the boat."
"Wow! Does that really work?"
"You bet it does."
"Would you be interested in selling that mirror? I'll give you
Php2,000.00 for it."
"Well, okay."
After the money was transferred, the city fisherman asked, "By
the way, how many fish have you caught this week?"
"You're the sixth," he said.
That‘s a fine catch and the word for this is MOMENTUM.
Have you ever watched a basketball team scores continuously
every time they do down the court, forces the opponents to
commit turnovers maybe three times in a row what would the
opposing coach do? He would call a time out. And why does
he have to do this? Because he wants to break the
―MOMENTUM!‖
When someone tells you they're "on a roll," that's momentum.
When the sales are coming in, money is pouring in that‘s
momentum.
When the invitations continue to come and every time you give
a performance the reviews are all so positive that is
momentum.
When you're consistently beating deadlines on a project, that
too, is momentum. So now you have a big project and so many
people are involved. How do you build momentum to keep
your team on course and accomplish your intended goals?
May I offer a couple of suggestions? The philosophy behind
momentum is to first understand that you build momentum by
accumulating small successes. Doug Firebaugh says: "The
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secret to Momentum in life can be found in the word
Momentum... you create it Moment by Moment..."
The bigger the project, the bigger is the payoff as long as
momentum is there.
So here are a few suggestions:
1. LET MOMENTUM BE PART OF YOUR PLAN
Have everyone know that the entire team will push all speed
ahead once they know how to create momentum.
2. TARGET A FEW SMALL WINS
These may be initiatives that do not cost much, easy to carry
out, does not meet much objections and a few small wins give
your team the starting push to get momentum going. Choose
these small projects, get them done because this is your way of
telling the team that you are now on the move.
3. LET SMALL WINS LEAD TO BIGGER GOALS
The reason why suggestion number 2 is crucial it is because
you gain the energy and the zeal and most importantly the
optimism to be able to tackle bigger goals. But may I suggest
that you focus only on important thing and not too many of
them. Trying to do too much at once may cause a diffusion of
focus and demoralization in the group. You need at least 1 big
win to be able to tackle some more.
4. CELEBRATE YOUR SUCCESS
Once you see the successes coming in celebrate publicly. Send
e-mails, put it on your company newsletters, congratulate
everyone in your team and make sure their bosses are copy
furnished. Praising people publicly is one of the best non-
monetary motivational tools you can use that prepare them
raring to do more and achieve even bigger goals.
It takes a leader with a grand vision to be able to achieve great
success.
Peeking through a peephole is no way to stay motivated when
you're moving toward a goal. The big picture is important. The
leader with the big dreams--big goals--big rewards--big faith—
is the one who can keep his people moving through obstacles
and fatigue and discouragement.
Study Jesus in the New Testament and find out how he
discipled a handful of rowdy disciples and had them achieve
great things that turned the whole world upside down. Best
leadership lesson ever if you were to ask me.
There are people you can make friends with but only for a day.
Many for a few weeks, perhaps a few for months or years.
Only the rare and few are for a lifetime. These are rare but they
are God's gifts to you. Treasure them. Be a good friend
yourself. This week, do something special for them.
Education's purpose is to replace an empty mind with an open
one. Says Malcolm Forbes. Today I will have the privilege to
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speak to 400 educators this morning and speak on parenting
tonight. So few people have the privilege of doing this and this
is why of all men I am so blessed!
Somebody says: ―My other brother-in-law died. He was a
karate expert, then joined the army. The first time he saluted,
he killed himself.‖
Be careful with your strengths. Use them right and use them
well.
Much of our human life has very little to do with the physical.
You and I are spiritual beings. We are made up of thoughts,
feelings, intentions, choices and many of which deals with the
issues of the soul. Poor is the person blessed with physical
faculties but is impoverished in the spirit.
Would you like to have more creative ideas for your business?
Talk to your front liners and not just your managers. Use the
five magic words that would work wonders: ―I would like your
opinion.‖
Studies show that simply asking for another‘s opinion
significantly enhances your positive image of that individual.
People want to talk and they want to be heard. So may I have
your opinion as well?
There is only one thing that can overcome the power of choice
and that is to be chosen. A person who has a sense of destiny
cannot be stopped. It is important to know one's calling in life.
This gives us a sense of purpose.
There are times when I have to go to our domestic airports
regularly. There are so many out of town speaking
engagements that bring me to the airport at early hours in the
morning and as uncomfortable as this maybe it is now part of
my life I have learned to live with.
Many things happen in airports. Long lines, short lines, put
your bags, remove your shoes, socks with holes socks without
holes and some without socks… and for the life of me I cannot
understand why people have to remove their slippers and
sandals too and let it slide through the x-ray machine. They‘re
probably scanning for germs and bacteria. Part of the job I
guess.
There are so many interesting people inside the airport. There
are so many interesting people inside the lounge. And I say this
without exaggeration, there has never been an airport
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experience of mine without running into someone I know or
someone who happens to know me. A participant in my
seminars, an audience in my talk or maybe somebody who
would call my attention because they recognize me from this
column. Overall, apart from the sleepiness and the predictable
food inside the lounge my airport experiences have been pretty
good.
And then I am always on the lookout for drama.
Drama that happens right before my eyes.
Big Shots, and Big People they come in different sizes and
shapes and characters.
Big Shots come with many body guards. One to carry his
suitcase, another to pave the way so there won‘t be traffic and
delay, maybe one or two more whose only job is to look
menacing. And may I say that they are quite good at what they
are doing. I am sure security inside the airport is lacking and
that is why they need to bring their personal guards with them.
Big Shots make a grand entrance. Here the drama is about to
unfold. What a sight to behold. Accompanied by airport
officials I presume because they wear those huge ID‘s on their
chest. These Big Shots need not fall in line. They are public
servants you know and as such they expect to be served. And
then I turn around and my smile meets the smiles of other
passengers who begin to shake their heads. Maybe our
thoughts are on the same wave length. What a reflection of our
country. The values we hold dear.
Perks and privileges of a democratic government is this it? I
really don‘t know.
Maybe the wise guy who said this was right:
• An autocratic government is run by an autocrat.
• An oligarchy is run by oligarchs.
• A communist government is run by communists.
• A monarchy is run by a monarch.
• And a democratic government is run by demons….
Of course this is not true but when you see sights like these
you tend to believe it is.
The irony is that there is no respect and admiration from those
who watch the drama unfolding. They shake their heads, they
mumble words I cannot hear and then they move on.
And then there are the Big People. I see them and I recognize
them because they are known and they are famous. But they
are inconspicuous and they try their best to stay that way. No
fanfare no accompanying officials with huge ID on their chests
and they do fall in line. Greet them and they greet you back.
Move over and let them go first and they refuse with a smile,
say a little ―Thank you‖ and gain the admiration of people
around them. These are not the Big Shots. These are the Big
People.
There is a big difference between the Big Shots and the Big
People. Humility is what differentiates them.
Maybe I am just tired and maybe having to wake up so early
just to go to the airport to catch my morning flight has made
me critical and cynical and I apologize for this. But would
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you blame me if I wish I could see more public figures
displaying humility and serving because this is what they are
called to do?
We still have a lot of growing up to do don‘t we?
Borrowing a famous line from famous American comedienne
Lily Tomlin and revising it a little for the local context:
―Ninety eight percent of the adults in this country are
decent, hardworking, honest Filipinos. It's the other lousy two
percent that get all the publicity. But then, we elected them.‖
Everything rises and falls on leadership and I pray to God that
He gives us good leaders.
Go to work with joy and gladness in your heart today. This just
may define your theme for the week. Never mind the critics.
Albert Einstein's theories came under attack; even an anti-
Einstein organization was set up. When a book was published
entitled 100 Authors Against Einstein, he retorted, 'If I were
wrong, then one would have been enough!"
Do what is right and not what people say.
Take your limitations with grace. Helen Keller (born blind),
Albert Einstein (refugee) and Abraham Lincoln (born poor)
never complained about their plight. This is why they're great.
Dynasties do not last, they are destroyed because of the golden
spoon treatment.
THE FOUR-TO-ONE RULE: For every criticism you make of
someone's job performance, make sure you give the person
four compliments.
The saddest words in pen or tongue are the words: "It might
have been." Life, love and business involve risk taking. Each
day is a gift from God and a great adventure to experience.
Live your life to the full. There will never be another day like
today.
There are some institutions who teach that it is right for one to
believe that he is right but it is wrong to for one to believe
others are wrong. So what happened is that these people want
us to cultivate our thinking process without coming to a
rightful conclusion. I don't know why but some times I feel
that many have educated themselves to imbecility.
Where there is no frame work of morality, there is only
relativity and the stupidity of being unable to determine right
from wrong. God's Word could never be wrong and this should
be the basis of our moral framework.
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I don‘t like chain letters and I can assure you I don‘t participate
in one too. But once in a while I get to receive something that
is worth sharing and this happens to be one of them.
I studied the long chain of names wherein this material has
been circulating through the Internet and the only lament I
have is that there is no mention as to the author‘s name and
identity.
It is a true story though as claimed and the moment my friend
Cynthia sent it to me, I knew this one is so important I just
have to share it with you.
I have simply entitled this, ―It Could Have Been You.‖
Jenny was so happy about the house they had found.
For once in her life twas on the right side of town.
She unpacked her things with such great ease.
As she watched her new curtains blow in the breeze.
How wonderful it was to have her own room.
School would be starting; she'd have friends over soon.
There'd be sleep-overs, and parties; she was so happy.
It's just the way she wanted her life to be.
On the first day of school, everything went great.
She made new friends and even got a date!
She thought, "I want to be popular and I'm going to be,
Because I just got a date with the star of the team.
To be known in this school you had to have a clout,
And dating this guy would sure help her out.
There was only one problem stopping her fate.
Her parents had said she was too young to date.
"Well I just won't tell them the entire truth.
They won't know the difference; what's there to lose?"
Jenny asked to stay with her friends that night.
Her parents frowned but said, "All right."
Excited, she got ready for the big event
But as she rushed around like she had no sense,
She began to feel guilty about all the lies,
But what's a pizza, a party, and a moonlight ride?
Well the pizza was good, and the party was great,
But the moonlight ride would have to wait.
For Jeff was half drunk by this time.
But he kissed her and said that he was just fine.
Then the room filled with smoke and Jeff took a puff.
Jenny couldn't believe he was smoking that stuff.
Now Jeff was ready to ride to the point
But only after he'd smoked another joint.
They jumped in the car for the moonlight ride,
Not thinking that he was too drunk to drive.
They finally made it to the point at last,
And Jeff started trying to make a pass.
A pass is not what Jenny wanted at all
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(and by a pass, I don't mean playing Football.)
"Perhaps my parents were right...maybe I am too young.
Boy, how could I ever, ever be so dumb."
With all of her might, she pushed Jeff to stay away:
"Please take me home, I don't want to stay."
Jeff cranked up the engine and floored the gas.
As Jeff drove on in a fit of wild anger,
Jenny knew that her life was in danger.
She begged and pleaded for him to slow down,
But he just got faster as they neared the town.
"Just let me get home! I'll confess that I lied.
I really went out for a moonlight ride."
Then all of a sudden she saw a big flash,
"Oh God, Please help us! We're going to crash!"
She doesn't remember the force of impact.
Just that everything all of a sudden went black.
She felt someone remove her from the twisted rubble,
And heard, "call an ambulance! These kids are in trouble!
Voices she heard...a few words at best.
But she knew there were two cars involved in the wreck.
Then wondered to herself if Jeff was all right,
And if the people in the other car were alive.
She awoke in the hospital to faces so sad.
"You've been in a wreck and it looks pretty bad.
These voices echoed inside her head,
As they gently told her that Jeff was dead.
They said "Jenny, we've done all we can do.
But it looks as if we'll lose you too."
"But the people in the other car?" Jenny cried.
"We're sorry, Jenny, they also died."
Jenny prayed, "God, forgive me for what I've done
I only wanted to have just one night of fun."
"Tell those people's family, I've made their lives dim,
And wish I could return their families to them."
"Tell Mom and Dad I'm sorry I lied,
And that it's my fault so many have died.
Oh, nurse, won't you please tell them that for me?"
The nurse just stood there-she never agreed.
But took Jenny's hand with tears in her eyes.
And a few moments later Jenny died.
A man asked the nurse, "Why didn't you do your best
To bid that girl her one last request?"
She looked at the man with eyes so sad.
"Because the people in the other car were her mom and
dad."
This story is sad and unpleasant but true,
So young people take heed, it could have been you.
I don‘t think I should say more.
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Not every one has the right to have a formal education. (some
do not have money). But every one should have the drive to get
educated.
Do not think out of the box. Get out of the box and do some
thinking. As long as the determination is there, there will
always be a way.
In the digital economy, we turn obsolete the moment we finish
writing our resume. The challenge is: Will there be new things
added to my resume should I prepare one today? What new
things would I learn today? Never be satisfied with the status
quo. Level up everyday.
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Francis J. Kong is:
• President of Success Options Publishing Company
• President of FunWorks Inc. a member of the Canadian
based Mad Science International Group, the world‘s number
one (1) Science educational-entertainment program provider
for kids.
• Founding member and Director of Inspire Leadership
Consultancy
Francis has extensive work experiences in manufacturing and
retail as he help founded a popular clothing company and ran a
retail chain for many years.
You can hear him in his daily Radio Program ―Business
Matters‖ which was given a Year 2007 special citation by the
Catholic Mass Media Awards.
You can read him through his Saturday and Sunday column of
the Business Page of the Philippine Star.
You can see him as he regularly guests every Monday and
Thursday morning at the popular morning show Umagang Kay
Ganda.
He has been featured in many of the major business
conventions and conferences both here and abroad.
• Francis is co-recipient of the Anvil Award for Excellence
for the staging of the Dr. John Maxwell Leadership Seminar
Series.
• Recipient of the Year 2006 Gold Quill Philippines Award
of merit for Public Speech category sponsored by The
International Association of Business Communicators.
• Recipient of 2008 Dr. Jose Rizal Award for Excellence in
the field of Journalism.
Francis has been trained and licensed by Maximum Impact of
Atlanta Georgia to do the Maxwell leadership programs. He is
also Trained and licensed by The Ziglar Corporation in London
to do the Ziglar Sales and Presentation programs.
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He is an author of 14 books:
• His book ―One Day at a Time‖ has been given a most
favorable review by Channel NewsAsia of Singapore.
• His book ―The Early Bird Catches the Worm: is now
translated into the Korean language.
Francis is married to the former Lilia Nolasco and has three
children: Bryan 30, Hannah 26 and Rachel 21.
For more inspiring words from Francis J. Kong, please visit his
personal blog at http://www.franciskong.com.
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A compilation of post from the personal blog of
F r a n c i s J. K o n g for the month of May, 2012.
This eBook and its content is copyright of Francis J. Kong - ©
Francis J. Kong, 2012. All rights reserved.
Any redistribution or reproduction of part or all of the contents
in any form is prohibited other than the following:
• you may print or download to a local hard disk extracts for
your personal and non-commercial use only
• you may copy the content to individual third parties for their
personal use, but only if you acknowledge the website as the
source of the material
You may not, except with our express written permission,
distribute or commercially exploit the content. Nor may you
transmit it or store it in any other website or other form of
electronic retrieval system.
This eBook was created and compiled by
One Awesome Social Media Company Inc.
www.oneawesomecompany.com
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Somebody says "Every person is holding an invisible sign that
says: "Please make me feel important!" This is so true. Make
someone feel important especially the people way down there
in the organizational chart. (janitors, messengers, security
guards, etc)
Greet them, smile at them and simply make them feel
important and one this is guaranteed. You will feel joy!
Be wary of people who agree with you all the time. Either he
or she is a fool or the person is ready to skin you. Do not
constantly seek for the things you want to hear. Real friends
are those who will tell you things you NEED to hear. Be wise
but be gentle.
It would be wise to heed the words of Victor Hugo when he
said: "You can resist an approaching army but no one can resist
an idea whose time has come!―
Wisdom is having the ability to read the signs of the times and
this has to be sought. It is not given.
At a college reunion, thirty years after graduation, one man
said to another, "See that fellow over there? Well--he's gotten
so bald and so fat he didn't even recognize me!" Look at the
mirror. Do not see through a window.
How would you know whether you are a mother or not?
Well, you Know You're a Mother When....
1. You count the sprinkles on each kid's cupcake to make sure
they're equal.
2. You have the time to shave only one leg at a time.
3. You hide in the bathroom to be alone.
4. Your kid throws up and you catch it.
5. Some one else's kid throws up at a party. You keep eating.
6. You consider finger paints to be a controlled substance.
7. You've mastered the art of placing large quantities of
pancakes and eggs on a plate without anything touching.
8. Your child insists that you read "Once Upon a Potty" out
loud in the lobby of Grand Central Station and you do it.
9. You cling to the high moral ground on toy weapons, your
child chews his toast into the shape of a gun.
10. You hope ketchup is a vegetable, since it's the only way
your child eats.
11. You can't bear the thought of your son's first girlfriend.
12. You hate the thought of his wife even more.
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13. You find yourself cutting your husbands' sandwiches into
cute shapes.
14. You can't bear to give away baby clothes - it's so final.
15. You hear your mother's voice coming out of your mouth
when you say, "NOT in your good clothes!"
16. You stop criticizing the way your mother raised you.
17. You donate to charities in the hope that your child won't
get that disease.
18. You hire a sitter because you haven‘t been out with your
husband in ages, then spend half the night checking on the
kids.
19. You use your own saliva to clean your child's face.
20. You say at least once a day, "I'm not cut out for this job",
but you know you wouldn't trade it for anything.
Motherhood. And this is why having one day a year paying
tribute to mothers may be a noteworthy thing to do but it is my
belief and conviction that mothers deserve more credit than
that.
First, let me tell you how Mother‘s Day got started.
The earliest Mother's Day celebrations can be traced back to
the spring celebrations of ancient Greece in honor of Rhea, the
Mother of the Gods. During the 1600's, England celebrated a
day called ―Mothering Sunday‖. Celebrated on the 4th Sunday
of Lent (the 40 day period leading up to Easter*),"Mothering
Sunday" honored the mothers of England.
During this time many of the England's poor worked as
servants for the wealthy. As most jobs were located far from
their homes, the servants would live at the houses of their
employers. On Mothering Sunday the servants would have the
day off and were encouraged to return home and spend the day
with their mothers. A special cake, called the mothering cake,
was often brought along to provide a festive touch. As
Christianity spread throughout Europe the celebration changed
to honor the "Mother Church" - the spiritual power that gave
them life and protected them from harm. Over time the church
festival blended with the Mothering Sunday celebration .
People began honoring their mothers as well as the church.
In the United States Mother's Day was first suggested in 1872
by Julia Ward Howe (who wrote the words to the Battle hymn
of the Republic) as a day dedicated to peace. Ms. Howe would
hold organized Mother's Day meetings in Boston, Mass ever
year. In 1907 Ana Jarvis, from Philadelphia, began a campaign
to establish a national Mother's Day. Ms. Jarvis persuaded her
mother's church in Grafton, West Virginia to celebrate Mother's
Day on the second anniversary of her mother's death, the 2nd
Sunday of May. By the next year Mother's Day was also
celebrated in Philadelphia.
Ms. Jarvis and her supporters began to write to ministers,
businessman, and politicians in their quest to establish a
national Mother's Day. It was successful as by 1911 Mother's
Day was celebrated in almost every state. President Woodrow
Wilson, in 1914, made the official announcement proclaiming
Mother's Day as a national holiday that was to be held each
year on the 2nd Sunday of May. While many countries of the
world celebrate their own Mother's Day at different times
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throughout the year, there are some countries such as Denmark,
Finland, Italy, Turkey, Australia, and Belgium which also
celebrate Mother's Day on the second Sunday of May. And of
course here in our own country, we became conscious of
Mother‘s Day because Department stores and shopping malls
remind us always.
May I make suggestion? That we honor the many mothers
who are working as overseas Filipino workers sacrificing
themselves for their families this time?
The Bible says: Honor your father and your mother and on this
special occasion it would be good to also remember the
gallantry, nobility and the sacrifice Filipino mothers all over
the world are doing for their families.
One proverb says it best: That one mother can take care of ten
children, but ten children can't take care of one mother.
A wise person says: "The difference between ordinary and
extraordinary is that little extra!" Do your best work today and
for the rest of this week. Do not be a painter, be an artist.
Always give more than what you are paid for. This is the path
to success.
Anybody who is afraid to look bad is a loser. He is the same
person you can beat every time. CNN founder Ted Turner says:
―If you never quit, you‘re never beaten.‖ Quitters have never
won. Winning has nothing to do with how you look, it has
everything to do with your tenacity and resolve to win. The
question is not ―How do I look?‖ The question is ―How am I
going to solve this.‖
"A teacher affects eternity; he can never tell where his
influence stops." says Henry Brooks Adams. This afternoon I‗ll
speak to more than 400 public school teachers which will be
held in CCF St. Francis Square. Again, it's time for me to give
back to what they have given me.
Most trouble is produced by those who don't produce anything
else. They complain, criticize and suck up the life, and energy
of other people. Be positive and be productive. This is the path
to joy and happiness.
Facing difficulties? Two ways to meet them. Change the
difficulty or change yourself. Life difficulties are intended to
make us better, not bitter. And don't melt like butter.
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Croft Pentz says: An ounce of mother is often worth more than
a ton of clergy.
A nation's strength or moral fiber is judged by the quality of its
mothers. Almost all of history's greatest workers had godly
mothers. This is why we honor them everyday.
Have you ever been bumped off from a flight? I have. And I
can assure you it‘s not a very pleasant experience. Specially if
you have a connecting flight to catch.
So what do you do when you‘re caught in a situation like this?
Fret, whine, moan and groan? Threaten to sue the airline?
Sure, they give us a pass that offers free food but truth is we
hate the inconvenience.
You may find this hard to believe but I have conditioned my
mind to thank God for the inconvenience and simply trust in
His plans. Listen to the story told by T. W. Wilson.
One day many years ago I was in Atlanta, Georgia, trying to
catch a plane to Charlotte, North Carolina, so that I could visit
my father and mother. I got my ticket at the last minute, and I
was seated on the plane when all of a sudden the flight director
spoke: "Mr. Wilson, please." I raised my hand. "You'll have to
deplane," he said, "because another man had bought his ticket
before you, but he was late getting to the terminal."
I must confess that I complained. "What kind of a business are
you running?" I asked. They took my baggage off the plane.
The next flight was several hours later, so instead of waiting, I
took a taxi to the bus depot in Atlanta. A bus was ready to
leave, and I was told to board and then purchase my ticket
when we arrived at the next stop. When we reached that stop, I
phoned my father to tell him that I was taking a bus instead of
a plane. He answered the phone, asking, "Who is this?"I said,
"It's T. W."
"Oh, son. Oh, son . . ." he said repeatedly. It really didn't
make sense to me.
Finally he said, "Son the plane that you told me you would be
on crashed and all 23 people were killed." I was stunned. It
dawned on me that God had spared my life and that he had
some more work for me to do!
Suppose God had worked things out in the way that I had
wanted – I would be dead and not able to minister today. This
is why I chose Romans 8:28 to be my life's verse: "We know
that all things work together for good to them that love God, to
them who are the called according to His purpose" (KJV).[1]
Well, it looks like Mr. Wilson really knows what he‘s talking
about. Considering his dramatic experience.
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Now here‘s the problem. Most of us do not have dramatic
experiences like Mr. Wilson in our story and when
inconveniences come into our lives, we complain.
But what we fail to realize is that every single inconvenience
that has happened in our lives, when we allow our 20-20
hindsight vision see it with an open heart, we would realize
that God has used them to build us up to become stronger in
the process. We begin to realize that our prayers were not
answered and what a relief they were not.
Trusting God gives us inner peace. Relinquishing control and
allow His hand of divine providence to rule our lives make us
enjoy the gift of life that God has given.
Mary Beth says these are the symptoms of Inner Peace
1. A tendency to think and act spontaneously, rather than on
fears based on past experiences.
2. An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment.
3. A loss of interest in judging other people.
4. A loss of interest in judging self.
5. A loss of interest in interpreting the actions of others.
6. A loss of the ability to worry.
7. Frequent, overwhelming episodes of appreciation.
8. Contented feelings of connectedness with others and
nature.
9. Frequent attacks of smiling.
10. An increasing tendency to let things happen; And finally,
11. An increased susceptibility to love, and to freely receive
the love extended by others, as well as the uncontrollable urge
to extend it. So trust God when something you want to happen
don‘t and something you want to do you can‘t. Say a word of
prayer and give thanks. Trust God for He knows what‘s best for
us.
By the way, when you‘re in business like me, you get to sign a
lot of contracts. And contracts always refer to disasters,
calamities and negative events and happenings as ―acts of
God.‖
Listen. God‘s acts are for good and not for evil. So stop
complaining and start trusting. Always remember that there are
only two certainties in life. No. They are not death and taxes.
The 2 certainties in life are these:
1. That there is a God and
2. You‘re not Him.
So put your trust in Him
[1] By T. W. Wilson, DECISION, November 1998
The insights and comments are fantastic! Combine all of your
thoughts and put that into a book will equal if not surpass the
"money" books you find in stores today. So here now is the
start of my one-liner practical money management tips for this
week."A small house is always better than a large mortgage."
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Two men with no money, yet the one who is debt free is still
richer than the one who owes people money.
A latte a day takes your savings away!
Lending people money is not good for their health. It may
cause amnesia.
Money is a wonderful slave but a terrible task master; never be
enslaved to it.
It's amazing that the Bible never says money is the root of all
evil....it's the LOVE of money that is!
A wise and trustworthy person is one who values his principles
more than money.
LOVE IS A DECISIONThis is an old one but it still is funny to me.
Ever heard of the Seven Ages of the Married Cold?
Here‘s how it operates:
During the 1st year of marriage, everything was still so hot and
romantic--The husband says, "Oh, sweetie pie, I'm really
worried about those nasty sniffles you have! There's no telling
what that could turn into with all the germs that's been going
around. I'm going to take you right down to the hospital and
have you admitted for a couple days of rest. I know the food is
lousy there, so I'm going to bring you some takeout from our
town‘s best Italian restaurant. I've already arranged it with the
head nurse."
2nd year--"Listen, honey, I don't like the sound of that cough. I
called the doc and he's going to stop by here and take a look at
you. Why don't you just go on to bed and get the rest you
need?"
3rd year--"Maybe you better go lie down, darling. When you
feel lousy you need the rest. I'll bring you something--do we
have any canned soup around here?"
4th year--"No sense wearing yourself out when you're under
the weather. When you finish those dishes and the kids' baths
and get them to bed, you ought to go to bed yourself!―
5th year--"Why don't you take a couple aspirin?"
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6th year--"You ought to go gargle or something, instead of
sitting around barking like a dog!"
7th year--"For Pete's sake, stop sneezing. Are you trying to
give me pneumonia? You'd better pick up some tissues while
you're at the store."
I like Gary Smalley and the way he writes. He‘s a specialist in
the area of marriage and family. I would like to share with you
an article he wrote entitled: ―Love is a Decision.‖ Here‘s how
it goes.
If your marriage relationship doesn't have a destination, how
will you know when you arrive? And why wait for love to
materialize out of stardust, when you could choose excitement
and romance - now?
There is a simple yet profound plan for a marriage of depth and
warmth and excitement! Plan, you ask? Exactly! Good
marriages are no accident. The rules are simple enough; you
just need them outlined for you to follow in a profound guide.
Tough times can strike any family relationship. But deciding to
love - in practical ways outlined here - can result in
relationships that are tougher than tough times.
Six elements to staying in love, included in Love is a Decision,
are:
1. Making your spouse feel truly honored
2. Learning the art of touching - tenderly
3. Keeping courtship alive in your marriage
4. Re-opening a heart closed by anger
5. Building - or rebuilding - trust in a relationship
6. Becoming best friends with your family
These six elements are the keys to Love. Love is not an
emotion, love is not a feeling, love is not happen-stance. Love
is a Decision. Love is waking up every day committed to
honoring your mate by implementing the above six keys. If
you want to have a great relationship, guess what, it's up to
you.
We see so many couples come through our live events and
counseling sessions that want us to "fix" them. They want a
better, more fun-filled and intimate marriage, but they don't
know how to reach it. The most common and most
fundamental thing these couples are lacking is the knowledge
that love is a decision.
If you want to wake up each and every morning excited about
your marriage, then deciding to do this is the first step. If you
don't know how to make this first, most basic step, then Love is
a Decision will help you get there!
They say that marriages are made in heaven, but God leaves
the maintenance to men.
Harold Green says: In the business world, everyone is paid in
two coins: cash and experience. Take the experience first;
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the cash will come later. There is something fascinating about
cash. A sign in a store says: ―In God we trust; all others must
pay cash.‖ Funny how cash can look so big when you take it to
church, and so small when you take it to a store. Cash is not
king. God is!
It's not motivation that leads to action. Actions precedes
motivation. You need to put in effort to take the 1st step and
make today the best day of your life......everyday!
A young and brilliant participant in my seminar said, "I am
now working in my fourth company in 3 years. I always felt
like I was no longer growing and so I would move to the next
company. But the most important thing I have learned from
this seminar is that growing IS my own business and
responsibility not the company's." I am so happy she realized
this and have no doubt she is well on her way to success.
People who are proud and self-centered are like arithmetic;
they add trouble, subtract pleasure, divide attention, and
multiply ignorance. Humility is always the better choice.
You can get ideas everywhere. Paul McCartney says: "I used to
drive out to John‘s house. He lived out in the country, and I
lived in London. I remember asking the chauffeur once if he
was having a good week.
He said, I'm very busy at the moment. I've been working eight
days a week.' And I thought, 'Eight days a week! Now there's a
title.' " To have a great idea you need to have lots of ideas.
Somebody says: People are strange: they want the front of the
bus, the back of the church, and the center of attention.
Winners know how to set their priorities right.
My daughter Rachel taught me how to love. I know that a dog
is a man‘s best friend but I never cared about them. I mean --- I
don‘t hurt them, kick them or eat them but I just didn‘t feel like
having them as pets. Fish, yes. Turtles, I have. But dogs?
Let me be frank. I love to play with them but I don‘t like their
pooh poohs and their pee…pees.
Guess what? One day Rachel just brought home a puppy. I got
so upset because she broke my rules. But the moment I saw
that cute little white Japanese Spitz. I fell in love. And within
one month‘s time, we now have 1 Chow Chow, the Spitz and
of course 3 Siberian Huskies.
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One morning, I walked slowly to the cage where the youngest
of all our dogs was staying. So engrossed was I with Georgia,
(that‘s the name of the youngest Huskie), I never noticed that
there was a piece of extended GI sheet and it cut through my
forehead.
Blood flowed. Not too serious because no sewing was
required…but an ugly cut nevertheless. And I had a whole
week full of speaking engagements before me.
A cut! And now a scar. It will be months before the scar go
away. It‘s not that bad.
You know what? A lot of people carry scars through out their
lives. The scars never left them. Maybe some time in the past,
something happened. A piece of metal or a rock shattered your
peace. Maybe the rock hit in adolescence when your heart was
broken. Maybe you made it into adulthood before the window
was cracked. But then that piece of metal came.
Was it a phone call? ―We have your daughter at the station.
You‘d better come down.‖
Was it a letter on the kitchen table? The letter said, ―I‘ve left.
Don‘t try to reach me. Don‘t try to call me. It‘s over. I just
don‘t love you anymore.‖
Was it a diagnosis from the doctor? ―I‘m afraid our news is not
very good.‖
Was it a letter from the government? ―We regret to inform you
that your son is missing in action.‖
Whatever the rock or the piece of metal that was, the result was
the same—a shattered piece and a broken heart.
The scar on my forehead is still visible. But a lot of scars in
people‘s lives cannot be seen but it‘s there. The pain is not
forgotten and the healing has not taken place. And suddenly
God was not so easy to see.
The moment the rock struck, the metal became a reference
point for you. From then on, there was life before the pain and
life after the pain. Before your pain, the view was clear; God
seemed so near. After your pain, well, he was harder to see. He
seemed a bit distant . . . harder to perceive. Your pain distorted
the view—not eclipsed it, but distorted it.
I‘ve got news for you. Jesus is called the Healer. But you have
to be willing to be healed. Jesus is the Redeemer but you have
to be willing to be forgiven. Release the pain and let there be
clarity of eyesight. Let the vision see, nearer to God you will
be.
When you can‘t see Him, trust Him. Jesus is closer than you‘ve
ever dreamed. Your scars cannot be deeper than the ones He
carried on His hands and on His side.
C. S. Lewis says: ―God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks
in our conscience, but shouts in our pains: it is his megaphone
to rouse a deaf world.‖ Question is: ―Are you listening?‖
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My father taught me: there are three things I cannot pretend to
have if I don't have it:
1. Money
2. Strength
3. Wisdom
Be real. Work hard. Exercise and learn continuously.
A team is made up of different people. Together much is done,
alone not much. Celebrate each person‘s differences. Doug
Floyd says: "You don't get harmony when everybody sings the
same note."
Do not be late for meetings and appointments. Being late is
stealing other people's time. Showing up early is a sign of true
professionalism.
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Francis J. Kong is:
• President of Success Options Publishing Company
• President of FunWorks Inc. a member of the Canadian
based Mad Science International Group, the world‘s number
one (1) Science educational-entertainment program provider
for kids.
• Founding member and Director of Inspire Leadership
Consultancy
Francis has extensive work experiences in manufacturing and
retail as he help founded a popular clothing company and ran a
retail chain for many years.
You can hear him in his daily Radio Program ―Business
Matters‖ which was given a Year 2007 special citation by the
Catholic Mass Media Awards.
You can read him through his Saturday and Sunday column of
the Business Page of the Philippine Star.
You can see him as he regularly guests every Monday and
Thursday morning at the popular morning show Umagang Kay
Ganda.
He has been featured in many of the major business
conventions and conferences both here and abroad.
• Francis is co-recipient of the Anvil Award for Excellence
for the staging of the Dr. John Maxwell Leadership Seminar
Series.
• Recipient of the Year 2006 Gold Quill Philippines Award
of merit for Public Speech category sponsored by The
International Association of Business Communicators.
• Recipient of 2008 Dr. Jose Rizal Award for Excellence in
the field of Journalism.
Francis has been trained and licensed by Maximum Impact of
Atlanta Georgia to do the Maxwell leadership programs. He is
also Trained and licensed by The Ziglar Corporation in London
to do the Ziglar Sales and Presentation programs.
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He is an author of 14 books:
• His book ―One Day at a Time‖ has been given a most
favorable review by Channel NewsAsia of Singapore.
• His book ―The Early Bird Catches the Worm: is now
translated into the Korean language.
Francis is married to the former Lilia Nolasco and has three
children: Bryan 30, Hannah 26 and Rachel 21.
For more inspiring words from Francis J. Kong, please visit his
personal blog at http://www.franciskong.com.
67FrancisKong.com | Inspiring Excellence
A compilation of post from the personal blog of Francis J.
Kong for the month of June, 2012.
This eBook and its content is copyright of Francis J. Kong - ©
Francis J. Kong, 2012. All rights reserved.
Any redistribution or reproduction of part or all of the contents
in any form is prohibited other than the following:
• you may print or download to a local hard disk extracts for
your personal and non-commercial use only
• you may copy the content to individual third parties for their
personal use, but only if you acknowledge the website as the
source of the material
You may not, except with our express written permission,
distribute or commercially exploit the content. Nor may you
transmit it or store it in any other website or other form of
electronic retrieval system.
This eBook was created and compiled by One Awesome Social
Media Company Inc.
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The key to effective time management is the management of
self. Understanding one‘s priority, values and worth is
extremely important.
There was a couple who used to go to England to shop in the
beautiful stores. They both liked antiques and pottery and
specially teacups. This was their twenty-fifth wedding
anniversary. One day in this beautiful shop they saw a beautiful
teacup. They said, ―May we see that? We‘ve never seen one
quite so beautiful.‖ As the lady handed it to them, suddenly the
teacup spoke. ―You don‘t understand,‖ it said. ―I haven‘t
always been a teacup.
There was a time when I was red and I was clay. My master
took me and rolled me and patted me over and over and I
yelled out, ‗let me alone‘, but he only smiled, ‗Not yet‘.
Then I was placed on a spinning wheel,‖ the teacup said, ―and
suddenly I was spun around and around and around. ―Stop it!
I‘m getting dizzy!‖ I screamed. But the master only nodded
and said, ‗Not yet‘.
Then he put me in the oven. I never felt such heat. I wondered
why He wanted to burn me, and I yelled and knocked at the
door. I could See him through the opening and I could read his
lips as he shook his head ‗Not yet‘.
Finally the door opened, he put me on the shelf, and I began to
cool. ‗There, that‘s better,‘ I said. And he brushed and painted
me all over. The fumes were horrible. I thought I would gag.
‗Stop it, stop it!‘ I cried.
He only nodded, ‗Not yet‘.
Then suddenly he put me back into the oven, not like the first
one. This was twice as hot and I knew I would suffocate. I
begged. I pleaded. I screamed. I cried. All the time I could
see him through the opening nodding his head saying, ‗Not
yet‘.
Then I knew there wasn‘t any hope. I would never make it. I
was ready to give up. But the door opened and he took me out
and placed me on the shelf. One hour later he handed me a
mirror and said, ‗Look at yourself‘. And I did. I said, ‗That‘s
not me; that couldn‘t be me.
It‘s beautiful. I‘m beautiful.‘ ‗I want you to remember, then,‘
he said, ‗I know it hurts to be rolled and patted, but if I had left
you alone, you‘d have dried up. I know it made you dizzy to
spin around on the wheel, but if I had stopped, you would have
crumbled.
I knew it hurt and was hot and disagreeable in the oven, but if I
hadn‘t put you there, you would have cracked. I know the
fumes were bad when I brushed and painted you all over, but if
I had done that, you never would have hardened; you would
not have had any color in your life.
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And if I hadn‘t put you back in that second oven, you wouldn‘t
survive for very long because the hardness would not have
held. Now you are a finished product. You are what I had in
mind when first began with you.‘ ―
I guess by now you already know what the story is all about.
Pains, trials, difficulties in life. A non-stop, continuous action-
packed adventure. That‘s what life is and the blows, well, they
keep coming. Guess what‘s happening? The Master is putting
us – His clay into the oven in order to break us, mold us and
form us into His image.
God knows what He‘s doing (for all of us). He is the Potter,
and we are His clay.
He will mold us and make us, so that we may be made into a
flawless piece of work to fulfill His good, pleasing, and perfect
will.
Think about it. Our every area of strength comes from our past
―oven-experience.‖ This is why we‘re strong today and that
strength, is used to help others and bring glory to His name.
Helen Keller says ―I thank God for my handicaps, for through
them, I have found myself, my work and my God.‖ Warren
Wiersbe noted that when God permits his children to go
through the furnace, he keeps his eye on the clock and his hand
on the thermostat. As for me the best thing to do is to
remember that I am but clay. But what a privilege it is to have
Christ as my Master. So let the molding continue until the day
He completes the work He has begun in me.
Those whose hearts are following God will always be
challenged by those who are not. How true it is that you will
know a man not only by his friends but by his enemies.
How is your hope level this week?
Wise men say: The secret of motivation is hope. You don‘t
have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.
Love your enemies. This is not only a biblical principle we
need to apply but this is effective because it will drive your
enemies crazy!
We need to send our emotions to school. Feelings need
education and should be subservient to the will. Emotions will
either serve us and without education emotions will shame us.
Successful people master their moods and emotions well.
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People will pay more to be entertained than educated. Great
people talk about ideas. Average people talk about events.
Small people talk about people.
To the wise money is a wonderful tool. To the greedy money is
a lethal drug. To the givers money is a blessing. To the takers
money is their master.
Love your enemies. This is not only a biblical principle we
need to apply but this is effective because it will drive your
enemies crazy!
We need to send our emotions to school. Feelings need
education and should be subservient to the will. Emotions will
either serve us and without education emotions will shame us.
Successful people master their moods and emotions well.
We need to send our emotions to school. Feelings need
education and should be subservient to the will. Emotions will
either serve us and without education emotions will shame us.
Successful people master their moods and emotions well.
Look at how the cycle of fatherhood works:
At 4 years of age: ―My Daddy can do anything.‖
7 years: ―My Dad knows a lot, a whole lot.‖
12 years: ―Oh, well – naturally – Father doesn‘t know that
either.‖
14 years: ―Father? Hopelessly old-fashioned.‖
21 years: ―Oh, that man is so out-of-date. What did you
expect?‖
25 years: ―He knows a little bit about it – but not much.‖
30 years: ―Maybe we ought to find out what Dad thinks.‖
35 years: ―Let‘s ask Dad what he would do before we make a
decision.‖
40 years: ―I wonder what Dad would have thought about that?
He was pretty smart.‖
50 years: ―My Dad knew absolutely everything.‖
60 years: ―I‘d give anything if Dad were here so I could talk
this over with him. I really miss that man.‖
Now that‘s life isn‘t it?
My kids are grown up. It‘s heartening to know that the more
they mature the more Father‘s Day mean a lot to them.
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It took me this long to realize that I never knew what was
going in their hearts when they were younger.
When they were younger…I felt bad when they forget my
birthdays.
When they were younger…I felt bad when they did not even
greet me ―Happy Father‘s Day!‖
When they were younger…I felt bad when they rushed out of
the house to be with their friends on Christmas eve.
When they were younger…I felt bad when they seem to be
spending more time with their friends than with their folks.
But now that I‘m a little older and a little wiser I realize
they‘re all part of the stages of life.
My kids never forget my birthday this time.
My kids make sure they stay home with us on Christmas eve.
My kids surprise me with a little something on Father‘s Day.
Father‘s Day to me now is both a joy and a worry as my kids
are growing up. I am always afraid they are going to give me a
present that I couldn‘t afford.
I love my kids and they are all growing up very well indeed.
My son and I wrote a book on ―Paren-Teen‖ entitled: ―Why
don‘t you grow up…dad!‖
Not only is it a funny book but in it he expressed his love and
his sentiments being a son.
I‘ve accomplished many things in life though I would love to
accomplish a lot more.
I have had people given me standing ovations and glowing
evaluations to my seminars and speeches and I feel very much
fulfilled in what I am doing.
God has blessed me over the years and He has occupied me
with gladness of heart.
Similarly I have gone through tremendous challenges in life
both in the business fields as well as in the personal areas too.
I have had business partners who cheated me…I have had
friends who betrayed me…I have had people I respect for so
long…. lied, condemned and deceive me. And that‘s all right.
All part of life‘s different stages but the bottom line is that
when I hit home, my wife and my kids are all there for me and
then nothing else matters any more.
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God is number One in my life. Next to Him is my wife and the
people who come next are my kids. My businesses and career
follow.
This is the order or my life‘s priorities.
Father‘s Day is not just receiving gifts from my wife and kids.
They already are.
Family happiness is homemade.
This is why I am home most of the time.
It is important to be humble in victory and to be gracious in
defeat. Pacman shows both. In my book, he won!
Do not allow yesterday to use up too much of today. It‘s a
brand new week. No one can move forward with eyes fixed on
the rear view mirror. Have a Great Day and a Great Week!
There is a diminishing returns on happiness based on money
and things. Only in God is there a continuous joy.
Do not expect God to one day say, ―Well done, you‘ve left so
many things behind.‖
Edward B. Butler says: ―One man has enthusiasm for 30
minutes, another for 30 days, but it is the man who has it for 30
years who makes a success of his life.‖ Faithfulness is the key
to long term sustainable success.
What you acquire by reaching your destination isn‘t as
important as what you become by reaching your destination.
There are many who have reached their goals but in the
process has destroyed their character. This is not success. This
is a great loss! We need to work on our character every day of
our lives.
Many are called but few actually return the message …
Always be courteous. Return calls. Do not be late for
appointments. Deliver on your promises and be an inspiration
to others.
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If you want to go to bed tonight with satisfaction for a day well
spent, you need to wake up early this morning with the
determination to do so. Determination precedes satisfaction.
Popular author and motivator Zig Ziglar tells us a story.
Many people set low ceilings on their expectations and
capabilities. In the process, they place themselves in a ―box.‖
Alexander Whortley took that a step further and literally lived
in a box. It was a mini-trailer, three feet wide, four feet long,
and five feet high. He lived there until he died at the age of 80.
His box was made of wood, had a metal roof, and it housed
him and all his meager belongings. Regardless of where he
worked, Whortley chose to spend his life in that cramped
space, even though larger, more comfortable quarters were
always available.
Few of us live in a ―box.‖ However, too many of us have a
tendency to ―box‖ ourselves in and continue to do things one
way because we‘ve ―always done it this way.‖ In many cases,
time and experience have proven that ―this way‖ is the best
way. However, I challenge you to periodically take a long walk
or quietly sit and think about the way you do things. Ask
yourself if there might not be a better way. Could your
procedures be simplified? Are they necessary at all? Could
they be done more cheaply or efficiently? Could your product
be longer?
Shorter? A different shape? Another fabric? Another color?
Sometimes you can come up with simple ideas that make a big
difference. Incidentally, one advantage of a continual personal-
growth-and-education way of life is that the broader and
deeper your knowledge base, the more creative your problem
solving approach to life.
Simple example: For years men‘s coats had an inside pocket
only on the right where pens and other items were kept. One
day somebody had a thought: Since most men are right-
handed, why not put a pocket on the inside left so that they can
reach in, extract the pen with their right hand, and begin
writing? Not monumental, but it saves a second or two and it‘s
sold lots of suits.
That‘s thinking out of the box.[1]
Famous playwright George Bernard Shaw says: ―Imagination
is the beginning of creation. You imagine what you desire, you
will what you imagine and at last you create what you will.‖
Some people wait for that flash of inspiration but it never
comes.
The thing is to get you to start doing something and then the
inspiration does come.
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People who think out of the box are usually people with
multiple interests.
They love music, they love arts, they‘re into sports, they adore
literature, they study history, they travel and they don‘t confine
themselves into one solitary thing.
Prominent professor and psychologist Frank Barron says: ―The
creative person is both more primitive and more cultivated,
more destructive and more constructive, a lot madder and a lot
saner, than the average person.‖
And before you start thinking of somebody you know in the
office realize that the person is the one that stares right back at
you from the mirror.
You can think out of the box. You can be creative.
Learn a second language, take up a new craft.
Enroll in cooking lessons, go and join a skydiving club, go out
there and enjoy life and pretty soon you will discover that
you‘re adding strength and resource to your creativity.
You know what makes us different from animals?
We are created in the image and likeness of God and God is the
Creator.
This is why He has gifted us with creativity too so that we can
enjoy this wonderful gift of His, this thing called life.
Enjoy it and live it to the fullest.
[1] Adapted from Zig’s book, SOMETHING ELSE TO SMILE
ABOUT, published by Thomas Nelson. Zig Ziglar On Getting
Out of the Box
A person‘s values are revealed more by the questions asked
than the answers given.
When your loved ones call to report an accident and your
immediate question is: ―Is the car damaged badly?‖ or ―Are
you all right?‖ tells a lot about what you value.
Be sure you are asking the right questions but more
importantly, be doubly sure that you have the right godly
values in your system.
An amateur is a person who is always giving you the benefit of
his inexperience. A professional asks questions before airing
out an opinion. An amateur cites clichés and thinks he or she is
being wise. A professional evaluates, probes and studies before
offering advice. We all start as amateurs but we need to learn
and work our way up to being professionals. Make everyday a
learning day.
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There are many business owners who do not value their
people‘s opinions. They just want them to be honest but to act
stupid or to be stupid. These are owner‘s whose business will
never last.
Best to have honest cut creative people who are fired up with
energy. Even business owners need to learn how to lead.
―I must do something‖ will always solve more problems than
―Something must be done.‖ I have interviewed CEO‘s and
business owners. Integrity is a given.
But the most sought quality they are looking for is initiative.
Do not wait to be told what to do. Make things happen. Go and
do it.
Chris Widener has a very interesting thing to tell. In his weekly
e-magazine he entitles this: Stop Just Writing About Your Past
and Start Writing Your Future!
Listen to Chris:
Dwight D. Eisenhower says: ―The history of free men is never
written by chance, but by choice – their choice.‖
Many people spend a lot of time on their history. Some do it
purposefully with such hobbies as journaling, while others
simply write and rewrite their history over and over in their
minds. Depending upon the way you go about this, this can be
good or bad. If you are doing it so you can reflect back on your
life, that‘s good.
If you are doing it so you can learn from your past, that‘s good
too. Unfortunately, many people do it simply as a subconscious
act of running themselves into the ground over and over.
What you ―write‖ in your mind is an act of mental discipline,
just as what you write on a sheet of paper is a discipline. Keep
that in mind. So if this is true, that we can make a choice as to
what we want to write, both literally and figuratively, we have
an extraordinary opportunity! Instead of going over and over
our past, we can choose to write our future!
Have you ever thought about writing your future before it even
happens to you? Well now you can – and you will! Here is a
process that will let you determine and write your own future!
Choose to choose your own future. If you don‘t make the
decision to accept responsibility for your own future, then you
are choosing to not write your future. You must choose to
choose. Do you?
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Determine what you want your future to be. Be specific.
What do you want to earn?
Where do you want to live?
What do you want to weigh?
What do you want to do for a living?
What do you want to do in your leisure time?
How much do you want to retire on?
If you don‘t know the answers to these questions then you may
as well not even begin to write your future. Take some time to
answer them fully.
Get a good understanding of your strengths and weaknesses. If
you are going to write your future, you will have to have a
sober understanding of what you are good at and what you are
not particularly good at. Maybe ask a good friend or your
spouse to give you an honest appraisal of your strengths and
weaknesses.
Focus on playing to your strengths while ever improving your
weaknesses.
Be sure that what you are doing is utilizing your strengths to
their fullest.
And you don‘t want to forget your weaknesses, even while you
are trying to stay away from them. Instead, set smaller goals
for improvement in your areas of weakness while you set grand
goals for the areas you are strongest in!
Get out a three pieces of paper.
On the top of one, write, ―One year from today I will…‖
On the next write, ―‖Three years from today I will…‖
On the last write, ―Ten years from today I will…‖
Then begin to fill them out.
Make commitments to yourself. As you write them, end each
sentence with a transition to how you are going to do it. For
example, you may write, ―One year from today I will… Have
$4800 in my saving account by saving $400 per month.‖
Start putting only information into your mind that will benefit
the fulfillment of the kind of life you are writing about. For
example, if you have a hard time spending money rather than
saving it, you should probably cancel all of the catalogues that
come each day that entice you to spend. Instead, spend the time
you would have spent thumbing through catalogues going
through financial growth material instead.
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Discipline yourself to spend your time in a manner that will
help you get to your goals. For example, cut out five hours of
television a week and spend that time on your goals instead.
That would be a difference of 260 hours in the next year!
Wow! What could you do with another 260 hours? Almost
anything!
You do not have to be a paper cup blowing to and fro in the
wind! You do not have to live at the whims of other people or
circumstances. You CAN choose your future! You can write it
out just the way you want it to happen! Yes, ups and downs
will come but you will outlast them and eventually arrive at
your destiny. Then, when you get to the end of your life, you
will know how it all turns out because you will have been the
author! Get going – write your future!
Nice advice from Chris but I think he forgot the most
important one.
Love God and put your faith in Christ.
Believe me when you are His child, your name is already
written in the Book of Life and that‘s the best plan for your
future that could ever have been written.
Hard work spotlights the character of people: some turn up
their sleeves, some turn up their noses, and some don‘t turn up
at all. Says Sam Ewig
Reflect on the duties you have been avoiding today. Face them
this week and work on it. You will be happy you did.
A patient limped into the doctor‘s clinic. The doctor gave the
patient a large pill. As the nurse asked him questions, the
patient limped over to the sink and swallowed the pill. Then
the doctor returned with a bucket and said, ―Now drop the pill
in the bucket and we‘ll soak your foot.‖
Always wait for instruction or you just may put your foot into
your mouth…
When an opportunity arises, we need to pray: ―Lord, let me
focus on the good that will be done and not on the gold that
would be gained.‖ The heart of the issue is always the issue of
the heart.
The three hardest words to say are, ―I was mistaken.‖ Only
people with class are comfortable saying it. Those who pretend
to be perfect make themselves objects of ridicule. He who
humbles himself will be exalted but he who exalts himself will
be humbled.
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Have you ever met leaders who are gentle and caring? They
inspire me all the time. Only the strongest of men are gentle.
The brash and the rude use their insolence as a cover for their
insecurities. Be wise as a serpent but gentle as a dove.
Leadership is not a title. And neither is it an entitlement.
Leadership is not a right. Therefore it is a responsibility. Some
bosses behave more like jerks who oppress rather than inspire.
These people without skills and they need some serious
training.
We all make mistakes. When looking for faults, use a mirror
not a telescope. Correct the mistakes, learn from it and strive to
do better. This is where we convert mistakes into lessons and
weaknesses into strength.
The three hardest words to say are, ―I was mistaken.‖ Only
people with class are comfortable saying it. Those who pretend
to be perfect make themselves objects of ridicule. He who
humbles himself will be exalted but he who exalts himself will
be humbled.
A friend forwarded me an article that is so interesting I want to
share it with you.
The title of the article is this. Are you a carrot, an egg or
coffee?
A daughter complained to her father about her life and how
things were so hard for her. She said, ―Father, I do not know
how I am going to make it. I just feel like giving up. I‘m tired
of fighting and struggling.
It seems as though every time one of my problems is solved, a
new one comes along. I just can‘t take it anymore.‖
Her father took her to the kitchen. He filled three pots with
water and placed them each on high heat. Soon the pots came
to a boil. In one pot of boiling water, he placed carrots. In the
second, he placed eggs, and in the last pot, he placed coffee
beans. He let them sit and boil, without saying a word.
The daughter impatiently waited, wondering what he was
doing.
Twenty minutes later, he turned off the burners. He strained the
water from the carrots and placed them in a bowl. He lifted the
eggs out and placed them in another bowl.
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Then he ladled the steaming coffee into a bowl.
Turning to her he asked, ―What do you see?‖ ―Carrots, eggs,
and coffee,‖ she replied. He brought her closer and asked her
to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft and
mushy. He then asked her to take an egg and break it. After
pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally,
he asked her to sip the coffee. She smiled as she tasted its
flavor and smelled the rich aroma.
She humbly asked, ―But what does it mean, Father?‖ He
explained that each of them had been plunged into boiling
water, but each had reacted differently. The carrot went into
the water strong and hard but after being subjected to the
boiling water, it softened and became weak.
The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its
soft, liquid interior. But after sitting in the boiling water, it
became hard on the inside.
The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they
were in the boiling water, the water did not really change
them. They changed the water!
―Which are you?‖ the father gently asked his daughter.
―When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond?
Are you more like a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?‖
―When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond?
Are you more like a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?‖
How about you? Are you the carrot that started out strong and
hard long ago, but with the pain and adversity of your life
struggles, did you become soft and lose your strength? Are
you the egg that started out soft inside? Were you a fluid spirit,
but after the pain of death, abuse, rejection, poor health,
divorce, or a layoff, have you become hardened? Your outer
shell might look the same, but have you become hard-boiled
and toughened in your spirit and your heart?
Or are you like the coffee bean? The bean that was plunged
into the rapidly boiling water actually changed the hot water
and gave it flavor and aroma, reaching its peak flavor at 212
degrees Fahrenheit! THAT IS HOT WATER!
When people say bad things about you, do your praises to the
Lord continue or do you blame Him? When the hour is the
darkest and your trials are their greatest, does your worship
elevate to a higher level or do you desert Him?
When you feel burdened by your own troubles, do you still
reach out and help others? How do you handle adversity? Are
you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean? When you get plunged
into hot water, anything that is bringing you pain, like being
plunged into the adversities of life, be like the coffee bean.
When things are at their worst, you will get stronger and make
things better around you, and … you will always leave a
fragrance.
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You know what? The article is so nice I don‘t want to add
anything to it anymore.
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Francis J. Kong is:
• President of Success Options Publishing Company
• President of FunWorks Inc. a member of the Canadian
based Mad Science International Group, the world‘s number
one (1) Science educational-entertainment program provider
for kids.
• Founding member and Director of Inspire Leadership
Consultancy
Francis has extensive work experiences in manufacturing and
retail as he help founded a popular clothing company and ran a
retail chain for many years.
You can hear him in his daily Radio Program ―Business
Matters‖ which was given a Year 2007 special citation by the
Catholic Mass Media Awards.
You can read him through his Saturday and Sunday column of
the Business Page of the Philippine Star.
You can see him as he regularly guests every Thursday
morning at the popular morning show Umagang Kay Ganda.
He has been featured in many of the major business
conventions and conferences both here and abroad.
• Francis is co-recipient of the Anvil Award for Excellence
for the staging of the Dr. John Maxwell Leadership Seminar
Series.
• Recipient of the Year 2006 Gold Quill Philippines Award
of merit for Public Speech category sponsored by The
International Association of Business Communicators.
• Recipient of 2008 Dr. Jose Rizal Award for Excellence in
the field of Journalism.
Francis has been trained and licensed by Maximum Impact of
Atlanta Georgia to do the Maxwell leadership programs. He is
also Trained and licensed by The Ziglar Corporation in London
to do the Ziglar Sales and Presentation programs.
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He is an author of 14 books:
• His book ―One Day at a Time‖ has been given a most
favorable review by Channel NewsAsia of Singapore.
• His book ―The Early Bird Catches the Worm: is now
translated into the Korean language.
Francis is married to the former Lilia Nolasco and has three
children:
Bryan 26, Hannah 22 and Rachel 17.
For more inspiring words from Francis J. Kong, please visit his
personal blog at http://www.franciskong.com.
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There are 3 questions we would not want to ask one day:
―What happened?‖ ―How did I get here?‖ ―What was I
thinking?‖
Life is a summary of the choices we make from day to day.
Make sure you make the right choices every day.
Approach any project or promotions not from the point of
having selfish gain, but from the point of serving good.
This is why I am so excited to do my monthly two-day
leadership seminar workshop and excited to meet the many
who have enrolled. This will be physically tiring but with
certainty would be extremely fulfilling.
You can do much by helping people feel better about
themselves. Realize that everyone listens to the same radio
station almost all the time. The call letters of this station are:
MMFG-AM and this stands for: Make Me Feel Good About
Myself.
Encourage someone today!
Progress has less to do with speed and more to do with
direction. Do not be impatient. Many wrong life decisions are
made simply because one could not wait. As long as you are in
the right direction, be patient, be diligent, be excellent and
enjoy the scenery along the way.
It has been said that every man until today is still trying to live
up to his father‘s expectations or still correcting his father‘s
mistakes.
I need to be a good father and take my parenting role seriously.
Having successful children producing successful homes is top
priority in my life agenda.
―He‘s a character isn‘t he?‖
I hear that expression all the time.
It‘s usually used to describe somebody who seems to act, talk
or behave in a peculiar way.
But if we go right down to the issue‘ what is character really?
A Greek proverb says: ―Character is habit long continued.‖
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Listen to what motivator Jim Rohn has to say.
Could creating your character be likened to an artist creating a
sculpture? In my opinion, I believe that character is not
something that just happens by itself, any more than a chisel
can create a work of art without the hand of an artist guiding it.
In both instances, a conscious decision for a specific outcome
has been made. A conscious process is at work. Character is
the result of hundreds and hundreds of choices you make that
gradually turn who you are, at any given moment, into who
you want to be. If that decision-making process is not present,
you will still be somebody. You will still be alive, but may
have a personality rather than a character.
Character is not something you were born with and can‘t
change like your fingerprint. In fact, because you weren‘t born
with it, it is something that you must take responsibility for
creating. I don‘t believe that adversity by itself builds
character and I certainly don‘t think that success erodes it.
Character is built by how you respond to what happens in your
life. Whether it‘s winning every game or losing every game.
Getting rich or dealing with hard times.
You build character out of certain qualities that you must create
and diligently nurture within yourself.
Just like you would plant and water a seed or gather wood and
build a campfire. You‘ve got to look for those things in your
heart and in your gut. You‘ve got to chisel away in order to
find them. Just like chiseling away the rock in order to create
the sculpture that has previously existed only in your
imagination.
But do you want to know the really amazing thing about
character? If you are sincerely committed to making yourself
into the person you want to be, you‘ll not only create those
qualities, but you‘ll continually strengthen them. And you will
recreate them in abundance even as you are drawing on them
every day of your life. Just like the burning bush in the
biblical book of Exodus, the bush burned but the flames did not
consume it. Character sustains itself and nurtures itself even as
it is being put to work, tested, and challenged. And once
character is formed, it will serve as a solid, lasting foundation
upon which to build the life you desire.
Right to the point. Jim Rohn always has a way of doing that.
Every single day offers choices we make that either makes or
breaks our character. For after all, our lives is simply a
summary of the choices we make from day to day.
In one of the seminars I gave, somebody stood up to ask me
this question: ―How would I know whether the decision I make
is right or wrong?‖
My answer is this. ―We all need a reference point wherein we
base our moral choices on. I‘m a Bible kind of guy. I make my
decision based on what the Good Book says. And indeed it‘s
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like sculpture. Chiseling away the useless parts and building
those that are useful.
Character is defined by what you‘re willing to do when the
spotlight has been turned off when the applause has died down,
and no one is around to give you credit.
Never forget.
―It is possible that through ability we may get to the top, but it
is always character that would keep us there.‖
It has been said that ―A man should be mourned at his birth,
not at his death. ‖ But how could we not mourn when we suffer
a loss?
Today this country suffers the loss of a person I highly respect;
entrepreneur, educator and family friend Brendan Yu. But his
influence, his inspiration and the lives he has touched lives on
and multiply.
I have made a great discovery! I have discovered who the real
rich people are….These are the people who enjoy their
families, enjoy their work, enjoy their food and enjoy their day.
Be rich today and everyday of your life.
KEEP ON MOVINGI have stumbled into a lot of good ideas for business and I
realize one thing: That I can only stumble on ideas if I keep on
moving. Mistakes are inevitable but they open up
opportunities. Those who stay still do not make mistakes but
they don‘t win either! So keep moving.
DESPERATIONDesperation makes fools out of wise people. Desperation
makes people do unethical things. We need to go through the
process of dong only that which is right. God is more
concerned with our character than our ―short-term success.‖
WHAT IS A COMPROMISE?Compromise is best defined as ―finding good reasons to do
wrong things.‖
If the heart is not settled on God then it will certainly settle on
something or someone else. God should be our dwelling place.
BEST BUSINESS ADVICEThe celebrated business leader of the recent past says:
―No matter what you‘ve done for yourself or for humanity, if
you can‘t look back on having given love and attention to your
own family, what have you really accomplished?‖ — In my
book this is one of the best business advice he has given.
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BETWEEN THE SIMPLE AND
THE COMPLEXThe mark of an intelligent person is his ability to simplify the
complicated and the mark of stupidity is the one who
complicates the simple.
Life is simple. Love God love others.
LOVE WHAT YOU DOBob Dylan says: A man is a success if he gets up in the
morning and gets to bed at night, and in between he does what
he wants to do.
Do you love what you do or do you only do what you love?
Success is not only about doing what you love but learning to
love what you do.
POWER AND POWERFULDo something good with your power, don‘t just be good at
being powerful.
Leaders guide their people to do what is right and not what is
wrong. ―Everything rises and falls on leadership.‖ says John
Maxwell and he is so right.
INTERRUPTIONSLife is a test in patience. And your patience will be tested in
four different ways. The first one is INTERRUPTIONS.
God usually sends us interruptions to develop our patience.
A PIANIST‘S PATIENCEThe great pianist and composer, Ignacy Paderewski, was once
asked by an admirer how he had reached such a state of
perfection in his field. It must have involved a lot of patience,
the admirer remarked. ―Everyone has patience,‖ said
Paderewski. ―I learned to use mine.‖
WHAT IS A CRISIS?What is a crisis?
A crisis is simply something, someone or some event that
comes in between you and your goals unexpectedly. That‘s all
it is.
Your patience will be tested by INTERRUPTIONS, your
patience will also be tested by INCONVENIENCES.
NO LONE RANGERSmall dreams are reached alone. Great dreams require others.
You cannot succeed alone no matter how talented or skillful
you are.
THE STATIONHere is an old article written by Robert J. Hastings. The title is
―The Station.‖ I love it as it is filled with wisdom, I hope this
material will bless your heart as it blessed mine.
The Station
Tucked away in our subconscious minds is an idyllic vision in
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which we see ourselves on a long journey that spans an entire
continent.
We‘re traveling by train and, from the windows, we drink in
the passing scenes of cars on nearby highways, of children
waving at crossings, of cattle grazing in distant pastures, of
smoke pouring from power plants, of row upon row of cotton
and corn and wheat, of flatlands and valleys, or city skylines
and village halls.
But uppermost in our minds is our final destination—for at a
certain hour and on a given day, our train will finally pull into
the station with bells ringing, flags waving, and bands playing.
And once that day comes, so many wonderful dreams will
come true. So restlessly, we pace the aisles and count the
miles, peering ahead, waiting, waiting, waiting for the station.
―Yes, when we reach the station, that will be it!‖ we promise
ourselves.
―When we‘re eighteen. . . win that promotion. . . put the last
kid through college. . . buy that 500 SL Mercedes Benz. . . pay
off the mortgage. . . have a nest egg for retirement.‖
From that day on we will all live happily ever after. Sooner or
later, however, we must realize there is no station in this life,
no one earthly place to arrive > at once and for all.
The journey is the joy.
The station is an illusion—it constantly outdistances us.
Yesterday‘s a memory, tomorrow‘s a dream.
Yesterday belongs to a history, tomorrow belongs to God.
Yesterday‘s a fading sunset, tomorrow‘s a faint sunrise.
Only today is there light enough to love and live.
So, gently close the door on yesterday and throw the key away.
It isn‘t the burdens of today that drive men mad, but rather the
regret over yesterday and the fear of tomorrow.
―Relish the moment‖ is a good motto, especially when coupled
with Psalm 118:24, ―This is the day which the Lord hath made;
we will rejoice and be glad in it.‖
So stop pacing the aisles and counting the miles. Instead, swim
more rivers, climb more mountains, kiss more babies, count
more stars. Laugh more and cry less. Go barefoot oftener. Eat
more ice cream. Ride more merry-go-rounds. Watch more
sunsets. Life must be lived as we go along.[1]
Hastings is right. Life must be lived as we go along. Need I say
more?
[1] Robert J. Hastings
THE PASTFor the lost sinner, the past is a heavy anchor that drags him
down; but for the child of God, the past—even with its sins and
mistakes—is a rudder that guides him forward. Faith makes the
difference.
AUTOMATIC RESPONSESImpatience comes from our automatic responses. Develop a
new way to look at things. This grows our patience.
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LIVING AND LAUGHINGThose who can‘t laugh at themselves leave the job to others.
Learn to learn from life and to laugh as you live. The best way
to cheer yourself up is to cheer somebody else up. This makes
us more patient.
WHO‘S IN CONTROL?―I am the master of my fate and the captain of my soul.‖ Says
Invictus.
―I did it my way.‖ Croons Sinatra and we know we fail. Try to
release our insistence to control and leave it to God who
controls everything. This develops patience.
LEARN FROM OYSTERAn irritation inside the oyster produces a pretty pearl.
Irritations in life can produce strength and patience.
Do not let trials pull you down. Allow trials to strengthen you.
Stand on what is right. Do what is right not what is convenient.
FACE THE FEAR―To get rid of fear, you need to act on the issue. When you
wait, put off or postpone you simply increase fear.
Be positive. Develop a positive mindset and disposition.
The French writer Robert Mallet said, ―Many pessimists end
up by desiring the things they fear, in order to prove that they
are right.‖
INVESTMENTSA person who does not invest will never amount to anything.
Before you profit, you should first invest.
There is no short cut to success.
Short term gains equals long term pains.
Start investing in yourself today.
ANESTHESIAJames Simpson, a young Scottish lad was born in 1811.
He was the 7th child of a Scottish family. Even as a young boy
the entire family saw that young James was a genius. And so
the 6 other brothers and sisters together with the father who
was a baker running in bankruptcy pooled all of their resources
together and supported James in his studies.
At the age of 14 he graduated from the University of
Edinburough.
At the age of 16 he got his degree in medicine.
At the age of 18 he had his MRCS.
At the age of 28 he became a professor.
This young man could not forget an incident in his life.
He says that when he walked into his first medical classroom
he saw a surgery in operation.
A woman found herself in a situation wherein one of her limbs
had to be amputated.
And James said what happened in that room is something that
he would never get out of his mind that day.
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James saw that the limb was sawed and severed from its body
and there was no anesthetic. Nothing there to help alleviate her
pain. As this young woman screamed in unbridled hysteria, he
just stood there literally swallowing his own spit out of fear
because he realized he was seeing such an agony he has seen
for years as he gave his life to the medical practice.
But as he looked he built up one thing in his mind.
He was determined.
He determined that he will do something or he will make
something that would help alleviate the pain during surgery.
One day he discovered chloroform.
And he administered it for the first time.
And the woman who gave birth, having been administered
James Simpson‘s anesthetic, felt so grateful and so elated she
actually called her daughter, ―Anesthesia.‖
Victory for Simpson?
Yes. But as you look into his story further you would realize
some more important events that happened to his life.
A little boy of his got sick. And despite his medical knowledge
there simply was no way for him to cure his son and he lost
him.
His closest medical colleague a Dr. Liston died rather
suddenly.
Things like these began to break him and James began his
search.
And in his search he found Christ.
And then his questions were all answered.
The principle is so clear.
Where there is pain you would find people searching for but
where there is prosperity, you would find people clenching
their fists at God.
Brokenness has its use in God‘s economy.
And maybe this is the reason why there are people who mock
God, clench their fists at Him and denounce everything that is
associated with Him. Because there is no brokenness and
because there is no need.
But the same person who refuses Christ is inflicted with a life
threatening disease, the hardened heart humbled and softened
would begin to seek Him. And I have seen this happen time
and time again.
However, there are those whose hearts even grow harden when
faced with pain. The clenched fists grow tighter and they drive
themselves farther and farther away from God.
A mystery I will never understand while I‘m here on this side
of heaven.
I‘m glad that many years ago I faced pain and I searched for
Him and He found me.
It‘s been years. And God has been merciful and faithful.
Seek Christ with all of your heart and you will find Him.
Let your pain usher you into His Peace and Comfort.
C. S. Lewis says: ―God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks
in our conscience, but shouts in our pains: it is his megaphone
to rouse a deaf world.‖
The question is, are you listening?
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FUNNYBONEThe wishbone will never replace the backbone. says Will
Henry. But to live life with joy, always be conscious you too
have a funnybone.
HARD TO RECOVER3 Things that are hard to recover.
1. Words said in oppressive anger.
2. Opportunity missed because of idleness or fear of
inconvenience.
3. Promises made but left unfulfilled.
All these devalue a person‘s character. They will not lead to
long term sustainable success.
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Francis J. Kong is:
• President of Success Options Publishing Company
• President of FunWorks Inc. a member of the Canadian
based Mad Science International Group, the world‘s number
one (1) Science educational-entertainment program provider
for kids.
• Founding member and Director of Inspire Leadership
Consultancy
Francis has extensive work experiences in manufacturing and
retail as he help founded a popular clothing company and ran a
retail chain for many years.
You can hear him in his daily Radio Program ―Business
Matters‖ which was given a Year 2007 special citation by the
Catholic Mass Media Awards.
You can read him through his Saturday and Sunday column of
the Business Page of the Philippine Star.
You can see him as he regularly guests every Monday and
Thursday morning at the popular morning show Umagang Kay
Ganda.
He has been featured in many of the major business
conventions and conferences both here and abroad.
• Francis is co-recipient of the Anvil Award for Excellence
for the staging of the Dr. John Maxwell Leadership Seminar
Series.
• Recipient of the Year 2006 Gold Quill Philippines Award
of merit for Public Speech category sponsored by The
International Association of Business Communicators.
• Recipient of 2008 Dr. Jose Rizal Award for Excellence in
the field of Journalism.
Francis has been trained and licensed by Maximum Impact of
Atlanta Georgia to do the Maxwell leadership programs. He is
also Trained and licensed by The Ziglar Corporation in London
to do the Ziglar Sales and Presentation programs.
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He is an author of 14 books:
• His book ―One Day at a Time‖ has been given a most
favorable review by Channel NewsAsia of Singapore.
• His book ―The Early Bird Catches the Worm: is now
translated into the Korean language.
Francis is married to the former Lilia Nolasco and has three
children:Bryan 26, Hannah 22 and Rachel 17.
For more inspiring words from Francis J. Kong, please visit his
personal blog at http://www.franciskong.com.
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Do something good with your power, don‘t just be good at
being powerful.
Leaders guide their people to do what is right and not what is
wrong. ―Everything rises and falls on leadership.‖ says John
Maxwell and he is so right.
Do not think you‘re the smartest in your group. Surround
yourself with people smarter, keep your mouth shut, listen and
learn.
No matter how high our educational attainment is, the fact is
that we are all ignorant but only in different subject matters.
Would you like to be free from stress? Just tell the truth all the
time. You don‘t have to remember what you said the last time.
When a person is truthful all of his or her facts will be
consistent.
Nothing ruins the truth like stretching it.
There is a big difference between knowing the truth and living
the truth. The biggest distance is about 18 inches. That from
the head to the heart. We need to walk our talk and live our lip.
Credibility matters!
A good architect can improve the looks of an old house merely
by discussing the cost of a new one.
If you can afford it then buy a new house but if you don‘t then
don‘t get imprisoned in debt and squander your future
opportunities.
Dr. James Dobson says: ―The key to a healthy marriage is to
keep your eyes wide open before you wed — and half closed
thereafter.‖ so true isn‘t it?
I don‘t expect my marriage to work and this is why I work on
my marriage everyday.
The Ilocana and I entertained the thought of sending our kids
to study in another country. At least for a little while. To have
our children travel and experience a change in environment
would have been an effective means of education.
But we immediately changed our minds the moment we heard
of yet another shooting. A smiling kid enters his school, pulled
out a gun and methodically shot his friends and classmates.
Why? What‘s happening to the young people in the world
today?
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An American friend of mine sent me an e-mail and this is his
analysis.
In light of the recent shooting in Massachusetts, let‘s see, I
think it started when Madeline Murray O‘Hare complained she
didn‘t want any prayer in our schools, and we said OK.
Then someone said you better not read the Bible in school ---
The Bible that says, thou shalt not kill, thou shalt not steal, and
love your neighbor as yourself. And we said, OK.
Dr. Benjamin Spock said we shouldn‘t spank our children
when they misbehave because their little personalities would
be warped and we might damage their self-esteem. And we
said, an expert should know what he‘s talking about so we said
OK, we won‘t spank them anymore.
Then someone said teachers and principals better not discipline
our children when they misbehave. And the school
administrators said no faculty member in this school better
touch a student when they misbehave because we don‘t want
any bad publicity, and we surely don‘t want to be sued.
(There‘s a big difference between disciplining and touching,
beating, smacking, humiliating, kicking, etc.) And we accepted
their reasoning. Then someone said, let‘s let our daughters
have abortions if they want, and they won‘t even have to tell
their parents. And we said, that‘s a grand idea.
Then some wise school board member said, since boys will be
boys and they‘re going to do it anyway, let‘s give our sons all
the condoms they want, so they can have all the fun they
desire, and we won‘t have to tell their parents they got them at
school. And we said, that‘s another great idea. Then some of
our top elected officials said it doesn‘t matter what we do in
private as long as we do our jobs. And agreeing with them, we
said it doesn‘t matter to me what anyone, including the
President, does in private as long as I have a job and the
economy is good.
And then someone said let‘s print magazines with pictures of
nude women and call it wholesome, down-to-earth
appreciation for the beauty of the female body. And we said we
have no problem with that. And someone else took that
appreciation a step further and published pictures of nude
children and then stepped further still by making them
available on the Internet. And we said they‘re entitled to their
free speech.
And the entertainment industry said, let‘s make TV shows and
movies that promote profanity, violence, and illicit sex. And
let‘s record music that encourages rape, drugs, murder, suicide,
and satanic themes. And we said its just entertainment, it has
no adverse effect, and nobody takes it seriously anyway, so go
right ahead.
Now we‘re asking ourselves why our children have no
conscience, why they don‘t know right from wrong, and why it
doesn‘t bother them to kill strangers, their classmates, and
themselves.
Probably, if we think about it long and hard enough, we can
figure it out.
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I think it has a great deal to do with ―WE REAP WHAT WE
SOW.‖ Listen.
Kids are not a short-term loan, they are a long-term
investment!
We want what‘s best for them, we better teach them the Word
of God by introducing them to the God of the Word because
nothing better ever comes close.
I have observed this truth many times: In many cases, refusal
to do what is right is not due to a lack of intelligence but due to
pride, envy or greed. The heart of the problem is the problem
of the heart. This is why we watch our actions cautiously by
watching our hearts carefully.
―If you aren‘t fired with enthusiasm, you will be fired with
enthusiasm.‖ says coach Vince Lombardi. The gap between
enthusiasm and indifference is filled with failures. Don‘t just
do what you love. Love what you do.
Being charming and charismatic is not the same as being
trustworthy. In fact the word charisma in the dictionary is
located near the word ―charlatan.‖ I would rather deal with one
who speaks frankly and truthfully than one who pretends to be
gentle and kind but hits people behind their backs. Be truthful
all the time.
Somebody says: ―A smile is the cheapest way to improve your
looks, even if your teeth are crooked.‖
There‘s just a million and one things to be grateful about. So
we put a smile on our faces and to God we give thanks.
A smile instantaneously increases our face value and…..it
could be quite contagious too!
There are things we should be serious about and there are
things we can take lightly. It is the wise person who
understands the difference and does what is right all the time.
One wise person says: ―I always knew that looking back on my
tears would someday make me laugh, but I never knew that
looking back on my laughter would someday make me cry.‖
A wise man learns by the experience of others. An ordinary
man learns by his own experience. A fool learns by nobody‘s
experience. Be willing to be corrected. It takes humility for a
person to achieve success.
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Are you fond of trivia?
I am.
Here‘s a list of information that may or may not help you but
will always be interesting for you to know. Information that
covers many subject matters found in America but would be
amusing for us to know.
The first couple to be shown in bed together on prime time TV
was Fred and Wilma Flintstone.
Every day more money is printed for Monopoly than the US
Treasury.
Men can read smaller print than women can; women can hear
better.
Coca-Cola was originally green.
It is impossible to lick your elbow.
The state with the highest percentage of people who walk to
work: Alaska.
The percentage of Africa that is wilderness: 28% while The
percentage of North America that is wilderness: 38%
The cost of raising a medium-size dog to the age of eleven:
$6,400
The average number of people airborne over the US any given
hour: 61,000.
Intelligent people have more zinc and copper in their hair.
(That is of course assuming that they have hair)
The world‘s youngest parents were 8 and 9 and lived in China
in 1910.
The youngest pope was 11 years old. (I‘m not making this up.
Read history books.)
The first novel ever written on a typewriter: Tom Sawyer.
Those San Francisco Cable cars are the only mobile National
Monuments.
Each king in a deck of playing cards represents a great king
from history:
Spades – King David
Hearts – Charlemagne,
Clubs – Alexander, the Great
Diamonds – Julius Caesar
And if you like math, you might be thrilled to know that
111,111,111 x 111,111,111 = 12,345,678,987,654,321
If a statue in the park of a person on a horse has both front legs
in the air, the person died in battle. If the horse has one front
leg in the air the person died as a result of wounds received in
battle. If the horse has all four legs on the ground, the person
died of natural causes.
―I am.‖ is the shortest complete sentence in the English
language.
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Hershey‘s Kisses are called that because the machine that
makes them looks like it‘s kissing the conveyor belt.
Question. Half of all Americans live within 50 miles of what?
Answer. Their birthplace
Most boat owners name their boats. What is the most popular
boat name requested?
Answer is Obsession
Q. What do bulletproof vests, fire escapes, windshield wipers,
and laser printers all have in common?
A. All invented by women.
Q. What is the only food that doesn‘t spoil?
A. Honey
Q. There are more collect calls on this day than any other day
of the year?
A. Father‘s Day
Q. What trivia fact about Mel Blanc (voice of Bugs Bunny) is
the most ironic?
A. He was allergic to carrots.
Q. What is an activity performed by 40% of all people at a
party?
A. Snoop in your medicine cabinet.
In Shakespeare‘s time, mattresses were secured on bed frames
by ropes. When you pulled on the ropes the mattress tightened,
making the bed firmer to sleep on. Hence the phrase
―goodnight, sleep tight.‖
It was the accepted practice in Babylon 4,000 years ago that
for a month after the wedding, the bride‘s father would supply
his son-in-law with all the mead he could drink. Mead is a
honey beer and because their calendar was lunar based, this
period was called the honey month we know today as the
honeymoon.
In Scotland, a new game was invented. It was entitled
Gentlemen Only Ladies Forbidden…. and thus the word GOLF
entered into the English language.
AND FINALLY, Here is a great piece of information you
might want to know.
Roses are red, violets are blue.
That‘s what they say, but it just isn‘t true!
Roses are red and apples are too,
But violets are violet…violets aren‘t blue!
An orange is orange, but Greenland‘s not green.
A pinky‘s not pink, so what does it mean?
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To call something blue when it‘s not, we defile it.
But ah, what‘s the difference…it‘s hard to rhyme violet![1]
Life is beautiful. It is a gift from God.
Live it well and enjoy each moment.
[1] Source: Laugh & Lift,
http://www.premiumhealth.com/laughlift/
Have you ever been criticized? Tell me about it. Do not
despair. Albert Einstein theories came under attack; an anti-
Einstein organization was even set up.‖ But Einstein remained
unconcerned about these critics.
All great people have been criticized and attacked.
When a book was published entitled 100 Authors Against
Einstein, he retorted, ‗If I were wrong, then one would have
been enough!‖
―Weakness of attitude becomes weakness of character‖ says
Albert Einstein.
A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will
annoy enough people to make it worth the effort. All things
being equal, the person with a positive attitude WILL get the
promotions and the person with a negative one will not.
Work on your likeability factor daily.
Think time is important. Don‘t go on auto-pilot.
There are people who live from day to day without a thought.
Guess what?
Zombies don‘t think.
Success is delayed because of the following things:
―I can‘t do it,‖ ―it won‘t work,‖ ―I can‘t figure it out.‖
There is a way to get through this. Just mentally add one more
word. ―YET‖
―I can‘t do it YET.‖ ―It won‘t work YET.‖ ―I can‘t figure it out
YET.‖
And then carry the resolve to work on it and do not
procrastinate. Everything is a mind-set issue.
Delay success no longer.
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Andy Stanley says: ―You are a unique blend of past
experiences, current circumstances, and future hopes and
dreams. Wisdom allows you to customize the decision-making
process to your specific professional, financial, and relational
dimensions. Don‘t miss this opportunity.‖ Many people are
knowledgeable but are not wise. They make stupid decisions.
The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.
Jacquie Sewell apologizes to Robert Fulghum because she
uses his popular book ―Everything I needed To Know About
Life I learned In Kindergarten,‖ reshapes it and came out with
an article entitled: ―Everything I needed To Know About Life I
Learned From A Jigsaw Puzzle.‖
Let me share it with you.
Here are the lessons:
1. Don‘t force a fit–if something is meant to be, it will come
together naturally.
2. When things aren‘t going so well, take a break. Everything
will look different when you return.
3. Be sure to look at the big picture. Getting hung up on the
little pieces only leads to frustration.
4. Perseverance pays off. Every important puzzle went together
bit by bit, piece by piece.
5. When one spot stops working, move to another. But be sure
to come back later (see #4).
6. The creator of the puzzle gave you the picture as a
guidebook. Refer to the Creator‘s guidebook often.
7. Variety is the spice of life. It‘s the different colors and
patterns that make the puzzle interesting.
8. Working together with friends and family makes any task
fun.
9. Establish the border first. Boundaries give a sense of
security and order.
10. Don‘t be afraid to try different combinations. Some
matches are surprising.
11. Take time often to celebrate your successes (even little
ones).
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12. Anything worth doing takes time and effort. A great puzzle
can‘t be rushed.
13. When you finally reach the last piece, don‘t be sad. Rejoice
in the masterpiece you‘ve made and enjoy a well-deserved
rest.[1]
We can actually learn life lessons from everything that we see
around us. We just need to keep our eyes and ears open.
I guess one of the greatest tragedies in life is for intelligent
people to be very wise and knowledgeable about many things
in life except life itself.
How ironic it is to find people who have messed up their lives
thoroughly and when you study them carefully, they had talent,
they had intelligence, they had education but they simply do
not know how to live.
Intelligent businessmen unfaithful to their wife, abandoning
the family and hurting the kids.
Educated career people exchanging friendship for the job
promotion, talented winos and drug dependents, you see them
everywhere. They do not know how to live.
Listen. We don‘t just live our lives naturally, we live it
skillfully. Similarly, we don‘t just expect our marriages to
work. We work on our marriage.
This is why I‘m still learning.
Every morning when I meditate on the Bible I am learning. I
talk to the Author and I hear Him talk and I‘m learning.
I choose my books carefully and when I read the experiences
and advices from well known authors who have shown a great
track record of success in life I‘m learning from them. When I
go to church and I listen intently to the message I‘m learning.
And then, life is no longer an inscrutable puzzle, the pieces
begin to fit into place.
I guess you understand what I‘m saying.
[1] Copyright 2001 Jacquie Sewell ([email protected]).
One thing I have observed is that noisy people are not
productive. They toot their own horns their voices are loud but
they do not perform well.
The quiet ones are the dangerous ones. They may be silently
accomplishing much and because they are productive, they do
not have time to indulge in useless revelries.
Be excellent in what you do and here is one important advice I
want to share with you: Make a noise quietly.
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You know your children are growing up when they stop asking
you where they came from and refuse to tell you where they‘re
going.
I missed all my 3 kids the last 2 days as all 3 were busy in
church helping out with the relief goods for the flood victims.
No prodding from me as they themselves shelved out money.
Makes me so proud. They don‘t even have to tell me where
they are going because I trust them.
Trust is the foundation of relationship.
3 Things that are hard to recover that will have a negative
impact on your integrity and reputation:
1. Lies told.
2. Decisions that benefit the self at the expense of others.
3. Unethical practices.
Proverbs 29:27 The righteous detest the dishonest; the wicked
detest the upright.
Do not be in a hurry to buy replacements for things lost in the
flood. Start with necessities first, entertainment tools can come
later. Do not enter unnecessary debt and create more problems.
Make time your friend.
You are not the smartest person in your organization just
because you are a leader. A great leader surrounds himself with
people who are smarter. And in the process the people make
the leader smarter. Humility is a virtue and pride is a weakness.
Don‘t believe everything people say. It‘s dangerous for
business. The person that agrees with everything with you is
either dumb or too smart and he‘s getting ready to skin you.
One businessman says: ―In negotiations you should be so
observant in everything. You must be a combination of
Sherlock Homes and Sigmund Freud. This is a fallen world.
Only God can see the heart meanwhile we check our own.
REUNIONSHusband: Dear, do you remember John Williams; the student
body president at our high school? I saw him today.
Wife: That was 35 years ago.
Husband: I know. In fact, he has gotten so bald and so fat he
didn‘t even recognize me.
―At my age, I‘ve seen it all, done it all, heard it all. I just can‘t
remember it all.‖ High school reunions reflect lives as
summary of decisions they made through the years.
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Here is a collection of amusing signs and the businesses they
represent:
1. From a Plumbing Truck, the sign says: ―We repair what
your husband fixed.‖
2. Pizza shop slogan: ―7 days without pizza makes one Weak
(w-e-a-k).‖
3. At a tire shop : ―Invite us to your next blowout.‖
4. Door of a plastic surgeons office: ―Hello, can we pick your
nose?‖
5. Sign at the psychic‘s Hotline: ―Don‘t call us, we‘ll call
you.‖
6. At a Towing Company: ―We don‘t charge an arm and a leg.
We want tows.‖
7. Billboard on the side of the road: ―Keep your eyes on the
road and stop reading these signs.‖
8. On an Electricians truck: ―Let us remove your shorts.‖
9. In a Nonsmoking Area: ―If we see smoking we will assume
you are on fire and take appropriate action.‖
10. On Maternity Room Door: ―Push, Push, Push.‖
11. At an Optometrists Office ―If you don‘t see what your
looking for you‘ve come to the right place.‖
12. On a Taxidermist‘s window: ―We really know our stuff.‖
13. In a Podiatrist‘s office: ―Time wounds all heels.‖
14. On a fence: ―Salesmen Welcome, Dog food is expensive.‖
15. Outside a Muffler Shop: ―No appointment necessary, we‘ll
hear you coming.‖
16. In a Veterinarians waiting room: ―Be back in 5 minutes,
Sit! Stay!‖
17. Inside a Bowling Alley: ―Please be quiet, we need to hear a
pin. In the front yard of a funeral home: ―Drive carefully,
we‘ll wait.‖
18. In a counselors office: ―Growing old is mandatory, growing
wise is optional.‖
I wish life would be simple.
You put up a sign and people would understand you or you put
up a sign and things would be all right. But it just doesn‘t
happen that way.
Supposed we could be like a computer?
• If you messed up your life, you could press ―Alt, Ctrl,
Delete‖ and start all over!
• To get your daily exercise, just click on ―run‖!
• If you needed a break from life, click on ―suspend‖. Hit
―any key‖ to continue life when ready.
• To get even with the neighbors, turn up the sound blaster.
• To ―add/remove‖ someone in your life, click settings and
control panel.
• To improve your appearance, just adjust the display
settings.
• If life gets too noisy, turn off the speakers.
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• When you lose your car keys, click on ―find‖.
• ―Help‖ with the chores is just a click away.
• You wouldn‘t need auto insurance. You‘d use your diskette
to recover from a crash.
• We could click on ―send‖ and the kids would go to bed
immediately.
• To feel like a new person, click on ―refresh‖. Click on
―close‖ to shut up the kids and spouse.
• To undo a mistake, click on ―back‖.
• Is your wardrobe getting old? Click ―update‖.
• If you don‘t like cleaning the litter box, click on ―delete‖.
But life is not a computer and neither could putting up a sign
makes life all right.
Too many people wake up in the morning and allow their lives
to run on auto-pilot.
We need skills to live life successfully.
Attend seminars. Read books.
Attend church and pay close attention to what the ministers are
saying.
And most importantly, read the Bible.
Stay connected to its Author.
He created us and He knows what‘s best for us.
And when one day our stay in this planet is over, perhaps the
best sign that could speak of us is an arrow that points towards
heaven.
For that is all that matters.
Wimbledon champion Venus Williams says: So what if you
fail? At least you‘ll know what not to do when you try again.
Corrie Ten Boom says: When a train goes through a tunnel and
it gets dark, you don‘t throw away the ticket and jump off. You
sit still and trust the engineer. Having problems? Trust in God
the engineer.
Success and failures come and go. God is constant. This is how
character is built.
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Francis J. Kong is:
• President of Success Options Publishing Company
• President of FunWorks Inc. a member of the Canadian
based Mad Science International Group, the world‘s number
one (1) Science educational-entertainment program provider
for kids.
• Founding member and Director of Inspire Leadership
Consultancy
Francis has extensive work experiences in manufacturing and
retail as he help founded a popular clothing company and ran a
retail chain for many years.
You can hear him in his daily Radio Program ―Business
Matters‖ which was given a Year 2007 special citation by the
Catholic Mass Media Awards.
You can read him through his Saturday and Sunday column of
the Business Page of the Philippine Star.
You can see him as he regularly guests every Monday and
Thursday morning at the popular morning show Umagang Kay
Ganda.
He has been featured in many of the major business
conventions and conferences both here and abroad.
• Francis is co-recipient of the Anvil Award for Excellence
for the staging of the Dr. John Maxwell Leadership Seminar
Series.
• Recipient of the Year 2006 Gold Quill Philippines Award
of merit for Public Speech category sponsored by The
International Association of Business Communicators.
• Recipient of 2008 Dr. Jose Rizal Award for Excellence in
the field of Journalism.
Francis has been trained and licensed by Maximum Impact of
Atlanta Georgia to do the Maxwell leadership programs. He is
also Trained and licensed by The Ziglar Corporation in London
to do the Ziglar Sales and Presentation programs.
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He is an author of 14 books:
• His book ―One Day at a Time‖ has been given a most
favorable review by Channel NewsAsia of Singapore.
• His book ―The Early Bird Catches the Worm: is now
translated into the Korean language.
Francis is married to the former Lilia Nolasco and has three
children: Bryan 26, Hannah 22 and Rachel 17.
For more inspiring words from Francis J. Kong, please visit his
personal blog at http://www.franciskong.com.
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Korean proverb says: ―Power lasts ten years, influence not
more than a hundred.‖ You may have power and use it to boost
your ego and pocketbook. You may not want to know the
conversation that takes place behind your back. Others use
influence to touch lives and they will not be easily forgotten. If
you‘re in a position of leadership, you need to know that
you‘re given a stewardship of influence.
Thomas D Kempis says: ―It‘s good for us to encounter troubles
and adversities from time to time, for trouble often compels a
man to search his own heart. It reminds him he is in exile here,
and that he can put his trust in nothing in this world.‖ Troubles
in business can bring us closer to God or harden our hearts.
Don‘t be hardened. Stay close to God for He is bigger than any
of your problems.
It was many centuries ago in a remote village in India. Word
began to spread that something was about to happen that no
one had seen in their lifetime — the prince was coming to visit
their forgotten little village.
Everyone was excited but no one was more excited than the
village beggar. Every day he eked out another day by sitting by
the road with his little cup, hoping to get enough money to buy
the rice to live one more day. He actually had two cups one for
collecting money and one for his few grains of rice. But now
the prince was coming – the wealthy prince! When the prince
finally arrived, the beggar mustered his most impassioned
appeal – Alms! Alms for the poor! And the prince stopped. The
beggar‘s heart was pounding furiously.
Give me your cup of rice.
That was all the prince said. The beggar slumped down in
disbelief. Here was the wealthiest man in the land, asking for
his lousy little cup of rice.
The beggar was about to refuse, but instead he reached in and
he put three grains of rice in the prince‘s hand. The prince
turned to his servant and said, Bring me the bag of gold. The
beggar could hardly contain himself as he eagerly stretched out
his empty collection cup. The prince reached into his bag and
placed three grains of gold in the beggar‘s cup. And then he
disappeared, never to return but leaving the beggar to wonder
for the rest of his life . . . ―what would have happened if I had
given him my whole cup of rice‖.
Do you know why certain people remain poor? Because they
are a people of small dreams and little visions. I have met rich
people who are insensitive and greedy. Their riches is stuck on
the things of this earth and it‘s a sad thing to see them unable
to use money but are being used by it.
This we understand. While these so-called rich people may be
endowed with the material things of this world in all
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reality they are indeed poor.
But you know what breaks my heart?
It‘s when I see poor people who are so self-absorbed –
wallowing in self-pity and thinking that the world owes them a
living and while we lament the fact that they may not have the
convenience of the well-to-do, what I cannot understand is that
they are greedy too.
Now some people would say they have to be greedy because of
self-preservation. They have very little and that‘s why they are
holding on to it tightly.
Yet I have known poor people who are charitable and
generous. They may not have the convenience of the wealthy
too but they carry joy and peace in their hearts. And I bet you
that given time, these people will progress in life because they
have understood the law of investment. When you give you
receive. When you hold back you are deprived. Greatness of
character is never dependent on your tax bracket; it is
dependent on the largeness of your heart.
The same thing with the Christian life.
Only those who know how to give it all, invest all of them to
the Living God would ever experience the fullness of life.
Those who hold back, unable to let go will never experience
God‘s fullness of Purpose in their lives.
I have seen ministers who never progress. A closer look at it
would indicate that they have never given their all.
I have seen Christians who live defeated lives. A closer look at
them would reveal that they tend to compromise on their stand.
Coming to God like a beggar is the picture of the part of
Scriptures that says: ―Blessed are the poor in spirit for they
shall inherit the kingdom of heave,‖ But when God asks the
beggars – meaning you and me – to hand over to Him our little
cup of rice. Are we willing or not?
Simone Kesseler is in the PR business and he says: ―Every
time you answer the phone you have an opportunity to prove
yourself. Everything you do is an advertising for yourself, from
how you talk to everyone from the teaboy upwards. Everything
is positioning, everything is public relations.‖ This is why you
treat each person in your organization with respect. Greet and
thank them at all times.
Here are some good quips about selling:
―Sell the benefit, not your company or the product. People buy
results, not features.‖ – Jay Abraham.
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Boxing promoter Don King says: ―If you want to sell a steak,
you can‘t just have the sizzle, you gotta have sauce.‖
And my favorite is:
Earl Wilson says: ―To sell something, tell a woman it‘s a
bargain; tell a man it‘s deductible.‖ Features tell. Benefits sell.
If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call to
make, who would you call and what would you say? And why
are you waiting? — Stephen Levine
We make a living by what we get but a life by what we give.
―Study as if you were going to live forever; live as if you were
going to die tomorrow.‖ Says Maria Mitchell.
Live a good honorable life. This is what makes life enjoyable.
The best inheritance you can leave your children is a good
example. Shouting to make your children obey is like using the
horn to steer your car, and you get about the same results.
―The best way to keep children home is to make the home
atmosphere pleasant – and let the air out of the tires.‖ –
Dorothy Parker
―Teaching kids to count is fine, but teaching them what counts
is best.‖ – Bob Talbert
If you‘re not prepared to be wrong, then you‘ll never have
come up with anything original. Kids aren‘t afraid of being
wrong. Adults are.
We run companies the same way. We stigmatized mistakes.
All children are born artists; to remain artists as we grow into
adult life is a challenge. We‘ve educated ourselves out of
creativity.
Creativity is as important as literacy. Treat it with the same
status.
Getting ready to speak to some 500 Filipino audience in Paris
tonight. Wherever we are in the world, we are warm and caring
and this is a gift that God has given.
1. Cop-outs. They set no goals and make no decisions.
2. Hold-outs. They have a dream, but afraid of the challenges.
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They‘ve lost their childlike faith.
3. Drop-outs. When the going gets tough, they quit. They don‘t
pay the toll.
4. All-outs. They set goals. They never quit. They keep on
keeping on, even when the toll gets heavy. They‘re dedicated.
They‘re committed.
What is the difference between Ability, Motivation and
Attitude?
Ability is what you are capable of doing.
Motivation determines what you can do.
Attitude determines how well you do it.
All things being equal, attitude plays the most vital role.
I‘ve known of talented and extremely skillful people who
never go far in life because of their lousy attitude.
I am so inspired with the warmth of Filipinos here in Europe.
In many of my talks, the photo sessions took almost as long as
my speech. Laughter, happiness, joy are there. There is
eagerness to connect and relate. This is what makes Filipinos
unique. It‘s more fun to be a Filipino!
We all make mistakes. Not all of us appreciate its value.
World champion figure skater Michelle Kwan remembers . . .
When I was five years old, the first skating lesson I learned
was: how to fall. My instructor was wise. He knew that until I
learned to fall, I couldn‘t learn how not to fall. You see? Your
mistakes will be your best friends if you let them teach you.
I‘m sure you‘ve many friends too.
You‘re never too old to become younger. We do not stop
playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop
playing.
Think Young. Aging is for wine.
―The old believe everything; the middle aged suspect
everything; the young know everything,‖ says writer Oscar
Wilde. Actor John Barrymore says: ―A person is not old until
regrets take the place of dreams.‖
So tell me now. How young are you?
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Am back home from the wonderful European tour speaking to
our lovely Filipino community organized by Filinvest
International. Every day was inspiring.
Will fly to Cebu tomorrow morning and fulfill a business
responsibility.
I work fast, I drive myself hard and I really walk fast but this
time I could not… God is teaching me to slow down. Ever
since the Ilocana had her stroke last year; I have to slow down
and consider her pace.
Great lesson to learn…..we all need to be sensitive to other
people‘s pace and my impatience will only cause frustration
and stress out other people too.
Had dinner with the kids last night. Picked us up from the
airport. This got me thinking.
Burn the midnight oil. Pull an all-nighter. Sleep at the office.
All these may not necessarily be badges of honor. Working
more makes me think and feel important. But working harder
and working more does not mean you care more or you get
more done. It only means you work more and nothing else.
Don‘t bring your briefcase home. Spend time with the kids. It‘s
more rewarding; believe me.
ALBERT EINSTEIN had a disregard for the tyranny of
custom. Once as guest of honor at a dinner party, he was called
on for a speech.
―Ladies and gentlemen, I am sorry, but I have nothing to say,‖
he said and sat down. Arose and added, ―In case I do have
something to say, I‘ll come back.‖
Six months later he wired the president, ―Now I have
something to say.‖ Another dinner was held, he made his
speech.
We always want new things, new cars, new clothes the latest
smart phones. But when it comes to friends, we always want
‗old friends‘ because we have shared with them our life and
our past. They were friends long before we got famous or
wealthy (or poor). And this is why they are our true wealth.
Find true friends by being one yourself.
I am a public speaker and one of the most important thing I
have learned in my life is that people want to be appreciated,
not impressed. They want to be regarded as human beings, not
as mere sounding boards for other people‘s egos. They want
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to be treated as ends in themselves, not as means towards the
gratification of another‘s vanity. When speaking express truths
and not impress people.
There are 2 kinds of discontent in this world; the discontent
that works and the discontent that wrings its hands. The first
gets what it wants, and the second loses what it had. There is
no cure for the first but success, and there is no cure at all for
the second.
Learn to be contented with what you have but never be
contented with what you can become. The better you become
the more you will have.
Always do right. This will gratify some people and astonish the
rest.
You cannot stand out if you constantly try to fit in.
Doing right entails courage but the end results will always
bring fruits of righteousness. Be brave then You are on God‘s
side so who can be against you?
A businessman was highly critical of his competitors‘
storefront windows. ―Why, they are the dirtiest windows in
town,‖ he claimed. Fellow business people grew tired of the
man‘s continual criticism and nitpicking comments about the
windows. One day over coffee, the businessman carried the
subject just too far. Before leaving, a fellow store owner
suggested the man get his own windows washed. He followed
the advice, and the next day at coffee, he exclaimed, ―I can‘t
believe it. As soon as I washed my windows, my competitor
must have cleaned his too. You should see them shine.‖ No
wonder all the windows the critical shop-owner saw was dirty.
It was simply because he was looking at them through his own
dirty show windows.
Now. Doesn‘t this remind you of many people in the work
place?
Critical, negative, nitpicking and you don‘t like to be near
them. Who would anyway?
I know a businessman who complains all the time. Give him a
glass with water in it and he‘ll see it as half-empty, never half-
full. Bring him to a movie and he‘ll look at the flaws behind
the production of the film. Bring him to church and he‘ll doze
off. Later on waking up and complaining that the minister
doesn‘t know how to teach. He sees the whole world as ugly
and boring but what he fails to realize is that he‘s ugly and
boring himself.
Critical people always point their fingers and put the blame on
others. They have forgotten the philosophy behind the pointing
finger. That every time you have one finger pointing at
somebody you have three other fingers pointing back at you.
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If you don‘t believe me then try it for yourself.
Confucius once declared, ―Don‘t complain about the snow on
your neighbor‘s roof when your own doorstep is unclean.‖
Life is short and it‘s a wonderful gift from God. Don‘t spend
and waste those precious moments being critical and
judgmental. Try to look at the beautiful side of every person,
place and situation and then you‘ll find life exciting.
I came across a wonderful poem entitled: ―Criticism‖ and I
would like to share it with you. Credit is given to the world‘s
most famous author and his name is ―anonymous.‖ By the way,
do you know how sad I feel every time I come across a
wonderfully written material and the author could not be
identified.
But anyway, here‘s the poem. Listen to it. Enjoy it and learn
from it.
If an impulse comes to say
Some un-thoughtful word today
That may drive a friend away,
Don‘t say it!
If you‘ve heard a word of blame
Cast upon your neighbor‘s name
That may injure his fair fame,
Don‘t tell it!
If malicious gossip‘s tongue
Some vile slander may have flung
On the head of old or young,
Don‘t repeat it!
Thoughtful, kind, helpful speech,
‗Tis a gift promised to each–
This the lesson we would teach:
Don‘t abuse it!
Blaise Pascal says: Cold words freeze people, and hot words
scorch them, and bitter words make them bitter, and wrathful
words make them wrathful. Kind words . . . soothe, and quiet,
and comfort the hearer.
And the Word of God in Ephesians 4: 29 says: Do not let any
unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is
helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it
may benefit those who listen.
It‘s a beautiful day after all! Being positive is a choice.
Start this week on a positive tone and be thankful we have
work to do.
Start this week with this thought:
Big people are always giving someone credit and taking blame;
little people are always seeking credit and giving blame.
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Every time I talk to students and ask them a question: ―What is
love?‖ invariably someone in the crowd would shout: ―Love is
blind.‖ And I will say that is the most stupid understanding of
what love is.
Most ―love‖ people know is selfish. The God-kind of love
isn‘t! Here is my take on this: Love is what is left of a
relationship after all the selfishness has been removed. And
Louise Beal says it right: Love thy neighbor as thyself, but
choose your neighborhood.
The people to worry about are not those who openly disagree
with you, but those who disagree with you who are too
cowardly to let you know. And then they move silently
underground. Always do what is right even if it is unpopular.
Always show up early. Had to re-purchase another set of plane
tickets for Singapore because the accompanying credit card
number was not made available by the organizers who invited
me. Lesson learned. Have to check details like these. Fraud is
prevalent and other countries do not have requirements like
ours. The PAL staff was sympathetic and handled the situation
well.
A fellow walked up to a panhandler and politely remarked:
―You‘re not too old and you look reasonably fit. Why don‘t
you try to get a job?‖
―I can‘t. I inherited this business from my father.‖
Fathers should be intentional in shaping, molding future
winners in their kids. No business or profession is more
important than this.
From one of my favorite web sites Wit and Wisdom comes this
beautiful article by Donald & Vesta Mansell in ―Sure as the
Dawn.‖:
I want to share this with you. Many years ago in one of the
Southern states, a woman from the city and her country cousin
were traveling in a horse-drawn carriage through a dense forest
when darkness overtook them. There was no moon, only a bit
of starlight. Soon it was impossible to see the road.
The city dweller became a bit frightened when she thought
they had lost their way, but her country cousin seemed
unconcerned. She stopped the horse, stepped to the ground,
walked around a bit, and came back, saying she had found the
road. She got back into the carriage, and they continued on
their way.
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As they went along, the city dweller noticed by the dim
starlight that her companion, instead of looking down at the
ground, was looking up. ―Why,‖ she asked, ―are you looking
up when the road is below us?‖
―Because,‖ her friend explained, ―that is the only way I can tell
where the road is. The trees have been cleared to make way for
the road. On a night like this it is impossible to see the road,
but by looking up I can tell where the road is by the stars in the
open sky.‖
This is the way it is on the road of life. As we travel along,
there are times when trials and perplexities close in around us
as black and impenetrable as the darkness in a dense forest on
a moonless night. At such times many lose their way – but this
need not happen! When the ―downlook,‖ and even the outlook,
are dark and forbidding, never forget that the uplook is bright.
Take comfort in the fact that ―the darkness and the light are
both alike‖ to God (Ps. 159:12). He can see when we can‘t see
a thing. Even when the sun is shining and everything seems
bright and clear, it is always wise to look to heaven, where God
rules, for no road is safe unless He is guiding.[1]
What a beautiful article wouldn‘t you agree?
At a time when everything seems bleak; one look at your local
newspapers and you get this fuzzy little feeling like there‘s no
more hope for this country. Political leaders not after the good
of our country but after their own petty personal agenda,
business people insensitive to the needs of their employees,
career people unfaithful to their companies and professional
people short changing their clients. Enough reason to make
you feel that the whole world is caving in.
But just as the skies are dark, the stars shine the brightest. Just
when the outlook is bleak and the downlook permeates the
more we need the uplook.
Oswald Chambers says: ―A saint‘s life is in the hands of God
as a bow and arrow in the hands of an archer.
God is aiming at something the saint cannot see; he stretches
and strains, and every now and again the saint says, ―I cannot
stand any more.‖ But God does not heed; he goes on stretching
until his purpose is in sight, then he lets fly. We are here for
God‘s designs, not for our own.
Charles Haddon Spurgeon says: ―As sure as ever God puts his
children in the furnace, he will be in the furnace with them.‖
Friends, you many not like what I have to say but I can assure
you everything that is happening is good for our country as
long as we learn the lesson and we put our trust in Him.
Hope for the best; get ready for the worst; then take what God
chooses to send. In Him, you will never fail. So look up.
[1] By Donald & Vesta Mansell in ―Sure as the Dawn,‖
copyright (c) 1993
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Many have been betrayed and cheated by the people they
trusted. But the law of sowing and reaping will always apply to
cheaters sooner or later.
Meanwhile it would be good to heed this sagely advice.
Frank Crane says: ―You may be deceived if you trust too much,
but you will live in torment if you don‘t trust enough.‖ Learn
from the experience but do not abandon trust. Here is my take
on this: Trust in God but lock your doors.
One principle that I have learned in life is that knowing the
truth and living the truth are two different things. Old cliché
but rings true – we need to walk the talk but let‘s just add one
more thing – we also need to live the lip. Building trust takes
time. Destroying it takes a second.
Respect is more important than fame, credibility more
important popularity. Be sure that you‘re seeking the right
things.
Seek quality rather than luxury. Seek refinement rather than
fashion. Seek respect rather than popularity. When your words
do not match your actions and your lips do not match your life,
then no one would respect you.
It‘s like somebody saying ―I‘d kill for a Nobel Peace
You‘ve failed. So what? I have. Thank God! I‘ve
learned…..and now I win! This is how it works!
―Keep on going and the chances are you will stumble on
something, perhaps when you are least expecting it. I have
never heard of anyone stumbling on something sitting down.‖
—Charles F. Kettering
So be encouraged. Keep on learning!
―Where‘s home for you?‖ a stranger asks a fellow traveller on
a plane. ―Wherever she is,‖ comes the reply, as the man points
at his wife…..says Robert Fulgum
I fly to Davao tomorrow morning, do a talk and then rush back
in the afternoon and proceed to Baguio to do talks on marriage
Saturday and Sunday. I love doing this. Because The Ilocana is
with me and that is where home is.
Teenage pregnancies in this country is now second highest
through South East Asia? Isn‘t this shocking? Now this is one
thing that is not ―More Fun‖ in the Philippines.
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Many young people mistake sex for love. When the love from
the parents is full, then they don‘t need to look for it
somewhere else. Invest in your family all the time and the best
thing to do for our kids is to love their mom!
A man lay on his deathbed, harassed by fear because he had
harbored hatred against another. He sent for the individual with
whom he had had a disagreement years before; he then made
overtures of peace. The two of them shook hands in friendship.
But as the visitor left the room, the sick man roused himself
and said, ―Remember, if I get over this, the old quarrel stands.‖
[1]
Talk about forgiveness. Or the lack of it rather…….
―Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each
other, just as in Christ God forgave you.‖ – says Paul the
Apostle in (Ephesians 4:32)
From the Web Site Wit and Wisdom comes this beautiful
observation. Some years ago during a visit to Yellowstone Park
one writer observed that the only animal the grizzly bear would
share food with was a skunk. It wasn‘t that the grizzly bear
wanted to share his food but rather that he chose to. With one
swing of his powerful paw he could have crushed the skunk.
So why did he allow the skunk to eat with him?
Because he knew the high cost of getting even. Clever bear!
Undoubtedly he learned the hard way. Strange that we humans
often aren‘t as smart. Sometimes we carry grudges for years,
often repressing them from conscious memory, and end up
hurting ourselves more than the ones we would like to get even
with. We fail to see how damaging an unforgiving spirit is.
In his book, ―None of These Diseases,‖ Dr. S.I. McMillen says,
―Medical science recognizes that emotions such as fear,
sorrow, envy, resentment and hatred are responsible for the
majority of our sicknesses. Estimates vary from 60 to nearly
100 percent.‖
I read about one patient who was told by his doctor. ―If you
don‘t cut out your resentments, I may have to cut out a part of
your intestinal tract.‖
Fortunately the man took the doctor‘s advice. He had been
nursing a bitter grudge against a former business partner. He
went to see this man, resolved their difference, and forgave
him. When he returned to the doctor, his physical condition
had cleared up. Smart man!
The reality is what we fail to forgive keeps us bound to and by
the past. Forgiveness sets the hurt person free. That‘s why
Jesus told Peter we need to forgive seventy times seven; that is,
to keep on forgiving so we don‘t become bitter and resentful.
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Buddy Hackett says: ―Don‘t carry a grudge. While you‘re
carrying the grudge the other guy‘s out dancing.‖
Mahatma Gandhi says: ― he weak can never forgive.
Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.‖
William Arthur Ward says: ―Forgiveness is a funny thing-it
warms the heart and cools the sting.‖ And all of these are
wonderful suggestions but here‘s the most important one:
Jesus Christ says in Mat 6:14 ―If you forgive those who sin
against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you
refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.
And so it‘s our choice really and I do hope and you and I
would learn to make the right choice.
[1] G. Ray Jordan - –James S. Hewett, Illustrations
Unlimited (Wheaton: Tyndale House Publishers, Inc, 1988) p.
216.
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Francis J. Kong is:
• President of Success Options Publishing Company
• President of FunWorks Inc. a member of the Canadian
based Mad Science International Group, the world‘s number
one (1) Science educational-entertainment program provider
for kids.
• Founding member and Director of Inspire Leadership
Consultancy
Francis has extensive work experiences in manufacturing and
retail as he help founded a popular clothing company and ran a
retail chain for many years.
You can hear him in his daily Radio Program ―Business
Matters‖ which was given a Year 2007 special citation by the
Catholic Mass Media Awards.
You can read him through his Saturday and Sunday column of
the Business Page of the Philippine Star.
You can see him as he regularly guests every Monday and
Thursday morning at the popular morning show Umagang Kay
Ganda.
He has been featured in many of the major business
conventions and conferences both here and abroad.
• Francis is co-recipient of the Anvil Award for Excellence
for the staging of the Dr. John Maxwell Leadership Seminar
Series.
• Recipient of the Year 2006 Gold Quill Philippines Award
of merit for Public Speech category sponsored by The
International Association of Business Communicators.
• Recipient of 2008 Dr. Jose Rizal Award for Excellence in
the field of Journalism.
Francis has been trained and licensed by Maximum Impact of
Atlanta Georgia to do the Maxwell leadership programs. He is
also Trained and licensed by The Ziglar Corporation in London
to do the Ziglar Sales and Presentation programs.
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He is an author of 14 books:
• His book ―One Day at a Time‖ has been given a most
favorable review by Channel NewsAsia of Singapore.
• His book ―The Early Bird Catches the Worm: is now
translated into the Korean language.
Francis is married to the former Lilia Nolasco and has three
children: Bryan 26, Hannah 22 and Rachel 17.
For more inspiring words from Francis J. Kong, please visit his
personal blog at http://www.franciskong.com.
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Cheer up! Remember today is the tomorrow you worried about
yesterday.
Last week‘s schedule was heavy. But God has blessed each
one.
And now it‘s a brand new week and it starts with this
wonderful day.
You cannot serve two masters. Either you serve God or you
serve money and the worst of them all is when people serve
money and uses God as an excuse for his or her greedy heart.
Stay away from these people. They misrepresent the Name
they profess.
Love is a command, not just a feeling. Somehow, in the
romantic world of music and theater we have made love to be
what it is not. We have so mixed it with beauty and charm and
sensuality and contact that we have robbed it of its higher call
of cherishing and nurturing. This statement from Ravi
Zacharias should be understood by the young and old alike….
I spoke to more than 300 college students yesterday. Ran out of
time and the kids were all wonderful.
What drives you? What keeps you? What is the purpose and
meaning behind what you do?
These are questions we all need to answer. You and I need to
be Purpose-Driven and not Pera-Driven. God has not called us
to be successful. God has called us to be faithful.
Have you ever met people who insist on being right even
though he or she is clearly in the wrong? They are so
despicable aren‘t they?
Humility is not in them and their pride and stubbornness is just
a disguise for their insecurity. You and I cannot be right all the
time. Only God is. And this is why we need to be willing to
accept correction.
Here is a worthy saying: ―There is something wrong with you
if you insist on being right all the time.‖
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Can‘t wait to speak tonight in Waterfront Hotel Cebu. This is
what I have been called to do and this is what delights me
every time I do it.
Any man or woman who has a sense of calling and destiny
finds joy, meaning and fulfillment in his or her labor. And they
can hardly be stopped.
A heart that is not settled on The Lord will always settle for
something or someone else. How much of God is there in your
life? Is God just an 8am service in your day? Maybe 10? 12?
Let God rule in your heart every moment and yes…..don‘t
forget to go to church….
Let me try to impress you with the following words I will use.
Now listen to this carefully and figure out if you can decipher
it. Here goes:
In promulgating your esoteric cogitation or articulating your
superficial sentimentalities, and amicable philosophical or
psychological observations, beware of platitudinous
ponderosity.
Let your conversational communications possess a compacted
conciseness, a clarified comprehensibility, a coalescent
cogency, and a concatenated consistency.
Eschew obfuscation and all conglomeration of flatulent
garrulity, jejune babblement, and asinine affectations. Let your
extemporaneous descanting and unpremeditated expatiation
have intelligibility and voracious vivacity without
rodomontade or thrasonical bombast.
Sedulously avoid all polysyllabic profundity, pompous
prolificacy, and vain vapid verbosity.
Sounds Greek to you? You bet. Now let‘s simplify it. With all
the words I said, it simply means in short: ―Be brief and don‘t
use big words.‖
I have been asked this question frequently. ―Francis, as a public
speaker what tips could you give me to improve my speech?‖
I have also experienced being invited to an event. And then the
guest of honor arrives late, destroys the whole program, sends
the organizers into a state of panic and then advised me that
my original talk of 45 minutes will now have to be delivered in
10 minutes. Isn‘t that frustrating? But these are the realities of
life.
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If you want my advice allow me to offer them to you. Well, I
won‘t pretend to be an expert but there are 2 strong ideas
regarding public speaking and here they are: Make sure you
have finished speaking before your audience has finished
listening, says Dorothy Sarnoff. In other words, do not bore
them to death.
―Constantly talking isn‘t necessarily communicating.‖ Make
sure that you are giving out words that would benefit the
audience and not yourself. Learn to use an economy of words
to deliver a profound message.
The famous motivational speaker Denis Waitley says only a
mere 3,000 words separate the winners from the losers and so
the moment you increase your vocabulary arsenal you
automatically increase your intelligent quotient.
Consider these:
- Pythagorean theorem: 24 words
- The Lord‘s Prayer: 66 words.
- Archimedes‘ Principle: 67 words.
- The 10 Commandments: 179 words.
- Lincoln‘s Gettysburg address: 286 words.
- The U.S. Declaration of Independence: 1,300 words.
- The U.S. Government regulations on the sale of cabbage:
26,911 words.
Maybe what this means is that the lesser the words, the more
efficient things are? I really don‘t know.
―SAY IT WITH FEWER WORDS‖ is an article written by
Patricia Fripp. It deals with communications. Patricia says:
You‘ve got a great, major presentation, and suddenly you‘re
asked if you can get your message across in five minutes!
Don‘t panic. For today‘s television generation, sound bites can
be more powerful than lengthy dissertations. Here‘s how to
compress your speech without losing impact.
1. Don‘t apologize or mention that you usually have much
more time. Be confident that you can communicate in five
minutes.
2. Begin fast. Start with an attention-getting statement such as,
―Your job won‘t exist five years from now,‖ or ―In the next 5
minutes I want to convince you the best action you can take
is…‖
3. Use a strongly visual story. Illustrate your points — how it is
now, how it will or could be — with a story so vivid that the
audience can ―see‖ it.‖
4. Divide your 5 minutes into three parts. Present a problem, a
payoff, and your point of view: ―The number one piece of
advice I can give you today is…,‖ your story illustrates your
idea and your walk away line could be what will happen if they
do what you suggest!
Ever wondered why Jesus spoke so few words yet the lessons
are so profound they outlast time? That‘s how it is done. So
learn from the Master Himself.
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The main factor that separates the good from the great is the
heart factor. If you cannot do great things, do small things in a
great way. The difference between the ordinary and the
extraordinary is that little extra. Put your heart into it.
Off to Baguio today and prepare to speak to the business
community tomorrow.
One of the greatest perks of my life is to meet new people. The
downside of this is that it is extremely hard for me to
remember names and faces. I guess when you meet hundreds
of people every week, you just have to cope. But I learn from
them in every encounter and this is such a great bonus for me!
Make each day a learning day!
―Don‘t feel entitled to anything you didn‘t sweat and struggle
for‖ says Marian Wright Edelman. The person who bullies his
or her way to obtain an advantage is a cheat and a loser. Same
thing for people who grab the credit and the account from
others. They close their own doors for future opportunities.
A Swedish proverb says: ―The best place to find a helping hand
is at the end of your own arm. ‖
Some people are so dependent on others they even allowed
others to do the thinking for them. Learn to be self-reliant.
Have faith in God but do hard work to achieve great things.
There is one common thing with people who fail in life, career,
business or marriage and family. They fail because of their
pride, ego and unwillingness to accept correction. Humility is
key virtue needed for success.
I like what management expert Ken Blanchard says when he
said: EGO in the negative means ―Edging God Out‖ when the
right kind of ego means ―Exalt God Only.‖
The world would be a better place if only humility and not ego
reigns.
Here is a great lesson I have learned. When great men fell they
fell not because of their weaknesses but they fell in the area
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of their strengths. This is why we need to surrender our
strength and abilities to God who gave it to us in the first place.
This gives us the humility to experience long term sustainable
success.
The dangers to a man‘s fall is unguarded strength and untamed
passions. Watch yours….carefully!!!
God‘s Word and God‘s laws are intended for our pleasure.
Doing things His way brings us perpetual novelty. Do what is
right, pure and godly. You would not want to go to the dark
side. Go to church today and be refreshed!
What does it take to be healthy and to stay healthy? Answer?
Self-discipline.
One businessman said: ―I joined a health club last year, spent
about Twelve thousand Pesos. Haven‘t lost a pound.
Apparently, you have to show up.‖
Another one rationalizes: ―I don‘t exercise at all. If God meant
us to touch our toes, he would have put them further up our
body.‖
One stoic looking person thought long and hard and came up
with this conclusion: ―The advantage of exercising every day is
that you die healthier.‖
Another person says: ―I like long walks, especially when they
are taken by people who annoy me.‖
And this is my personal favorite: ―My grandmother started
walking five miles a day when she was 60. She‘s 97 now, and
we don‘t know where the heck she is.‖
It takes an enormous amount of self-discipline to stay healthy.
While I get to be invited to speak on vital life issues and
principles on how to be successful in business and in
professional life, I would not forget to mention that once health
is neglected and sickness comes then everything we‘ve worked
for amount to very little.
One wealthy businessman says: ―I can assure you that there is
no glamour in a 14 karat golden bedpan.‖
Last year The Ilocana and I made a tour of 12 European cities
and I had the privilege to speak to more than 5000 Filipinos
courtesy of Filinvest Sales International. It was memorable
experience for us both. I experience the warmth, the hospitality
and most importantly the hunger of our people to learn.
That was 15 months ago. This time we were invited back. My
first speaking assignment was to train the leaders of this
organization and the event was held in the lovely city of
Prague. And then we proceeded to Paris, Brussels and London
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to do the public events where almost a thousand people
attended.
What a joy it is to see familiar faces that journeyed with us last
year as I spoke to our OFW community, embassy officials and
community leaders. After pleasantries were exchanged and the
never ending photo sessions concluded, I saw a need that made
me change a major part of my lesson and shifted to a lot of talk
and tips on how to keep one‘s self healthy.
It‘s amazing what a difference a year makes. Many of these
talented leaders are successful. Their income has increased,
their targets reached and are excited to achieve even more but
it takes someone from the outside like me to see them 15
months later to notice the additional weight they have
accumulated over that short period of time.
This time I taught on how important mind, body, soul and
spiritual health development are all integral towards one‘s
quest for success. And I seriously emphasized the need to be
healthy and to stay healthy.
People ask me where I get the energy to do more than 330 talks
in a year. Well it‘s no secret. I watch what I eat. I exercise. I
take in a lot of vitamins and with the grace of God maintain a
healthy lifestyle. Health is now a priority in my life. I have
endorsed a shoe brand, I have endorsed a luggage brand and I
have endorsed a technology shop and lately (with permission
to mention) I have endorsed Conzace a multi-vitamin brand
that offers enough amount of Zinc as a vital part ingredient for
nutrition. I am more determined to promote health and
wellness these days because health is an investment we need to
make and we can‘t afford to lose.
The good thing about all these is that these leaders in Europe
are serious in learning and they have committed to lose their
weight and stay healthy. Even before the event finished, they
have committed to run their own version of ―The Biggest
Loser‘s Program‖ and apart form just gaining sales and hitting
targets, this time they will hit another target which is by losing
weight and I have no doubt that should I get to meet them
again next year, they would all have turned healthier, better
looking, trim, fit and achieving more than they could have ever
imagined.
Meanwhile, you and I put on our exercise gears, take a lot of
vitamins and nutritional products, eat right and make this God-
given life productive.
There is a thin line between being persistent and being
stubborn. You may be optimistic but if you are not realistic
then you will make a wrong decision. Check your heart
motives.
To be debt free is good and financial independence should be
understood in a better way. If money is your hope for
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independence, you will never have it.
The only real security that a man can have in this world is a
reserve of knowledge, experience and ability.‖ says Henry Ford
If you want to feel rich, just count the things money can‘t buy.
This is a very timely reminder for me: ―A Brilliant Mind is
useless without a Humble Heart. You make an IMPRESSION
with what you SAY but you make an IMPACT with what you
DO.‖
Somebody says: ―Some people choose to focus on pain, misery
and despair while others focus on joy, happiness and
possibilities? This is why some people live and stay in the past
while others are excited about the future. This is the power of
attitude.‖ Life is not what happens. It‘s how you take it.
Have you ever been under a boss who acted more like a jerk
than a leader? Have you ever resigned from your job simply
because you could not stand your boss?
Jerks like these do a lot more damage to the business because
they drive away their assets. Find a way to have them trained
for leadership skills. Respect them still but make sure you
never become like them one day.
Most people think that their lives would improve if they could
get a little from those who have more.
How much better could it be if only the same people could
learn a little from those who know more.
On the outskirts of town, there was a big old pecan tree by the
cemetery fence. One day two boys filled up a bucket with
pecans and sat down by the tree, out of sight, and began
dividing the nuts.
―One for you, and one for me. One for you, one for me,‖ said
one boy. Several were dropped and rolled down toward the
fence.
Another boy came riding along the road on his bicycle. As he
passed, he thought he heard voices from inside the cemetery.
He slowed down to investigate.
Sure enough, he heard, ―One for you, one for me. One for you,
one for me.‖
He just knew what it was. ―Oh my,‖ he shuddered, ―It‘s Satan
and the Lord dividing the souls at the cemetery.‖
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He jumped back on his bike and rode off. Just around the bend
he met an old man with a cane, hobbling along.
―Come here quick,‖ said the boy, ―You won‘t believe what I
just heard. Satan and the Lord are down at the cemetery
dividing up souls.‖
The man said. ―Beat it, kid, can‘t you see it‘s hard for me to
walk?‖
When the boy insisted, the man hobbled to the cemetery.
Standing by the fence they heard, ―One for you, one for me.
One for you, one for me.
The old man whispered, ―Boy, you‘ve been tellin‘ the truth!
Let‘s see the devil himself.‖
Shaking with fear, they peered through the fence, yet were still
unable to see anything. The old man and the boy gripped the
wrought iron bars of the fence tighter and tighter as they tried
to get a glimpse of Satan.
At last they heard, ―One for you, one for me. And one last one
for you. That‘s all. Now let‘s go get those nuts by the fence,
and we‘ll be done.‖
They say the old guy made it back to town 5 minutes before
the boy.
Are you afraid of ghosts? Don‘t be. Be afraid of men rather
than ghosts.
I‘ve been fooled, swindled, cheated, deceived and taken
advantage of by men but never by ghosts.
My Bible tells me to resist even the Devil himself and he will
flee from me. It's human beings we need to be careful about.
Halloween is coming. I don‘t exactly like it.
Movies, television and cable stations begin to show all those
creepy, scary and mindless little movies about ghosts and
monsters scaring the living daylights out of our kids and
messing up proper theology. Having fun in one thing but to
begin to espouse a certain kind of belief because of it is
another.
Here is a short discourse on its source and history.
A long time ago, the ancient pagan Druids of Great Britain
began their year on the first day of November. On the eve of
the last day of the year the ghosts, the spirits and the witches
were supposed to have had their last fling of the year. And the
Druids built bonfires to scare them away. The Roman Catholic
Church, in the 700‘s, set aside the first day of November for
honoring all saints. It was called ―All Saints Day.‖ The evening
before became known as ―All Hallow‘s Eve.‖ Thus the custom
of the pagans and the celebration of the church were combined
into the holiday we now call Halloween, and it‘s celebrated on
the 31st day of October.
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The children of Scotland were the first to use jack-o-lanterns.
And the Irish started the custom of going from house to house
to ask for food and money. But it was the Americans who
originated the playing of pranks. If given a treat, there‘d be no
trick. Their cry was, ―Trick or treat!‖ And Filipinos, the
perennial copycats that we are celebrate Halloween too without
understanding.
What bothers me is the theology behind. The Bible says that it
is appointed for man to die once and then comes immediately,
the judgment. So it‘s either the eternal microwave oven or
eternal presence with the Lord Jesus Christ. No in-between-
creatures.
And this is why I‘m not afraid of ghosts. It‘s really the men I
did business with that scared me. Funny but when I get around
to think deeper on this. It just occurs to me that they look
scarier than the ghosts too. Especially when they‘re cheating in
business. Trick or treat?
Pleasing God is the most exhilarating experience of them all.
This is what worship is all about. Go to church today and start
this week refreshed. There is nothing better and more
important than having an intimate one-on-one relationship with
Jesus Christ.
A poor man can be happy; but a happy man isn‘t poor. Start
this day and the rest of the week with this thought.
―When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often
we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one
which has been opened for us.‖ says Helen Keller.
If I look back today, the good things I now enjoy are the
byproducts of the challenges I endured. Stick to God and stick
to good and He delivers.
Watch out for temptations. When something carries the
potential to destroy us it always looks beautiful. And when we
have bitten the forbidden fruit that‘s when sin rears its ugly
head. Think of the consequences of our actions. The words
―Bahala na‖ has destroyed countless lives and many have not
yet learned.
Flight to Butuan cancelled. Frustrating not for me but for the
delegates awaiting. Realities of life. Bad weather conditions
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but I would rather be down here feeling a little bit frustrated
than to be up there rolling in turbulence.
Life is not what happens, it‘s how we take it. God always has a
better plan.
Can‘t wait to be with the mechanical engineers in their
convention tomorrow morning and can‘t wait to speak to the
men of Alliance tomorrow evening.
Each day is a gift from God and I love to make the best of it
for His sake.
What if? Worrying about the future.
If only – Words worrying about the past.
Meanwhile we let the most important resource slip out of our
hands – the Present.
God is in the details. This is why He feeds the birds.
Put your trust in Him and carry the power to live one day at a
time.
Here we go again….all the media hype about ghosts and
supernatural things as Halloween approaches.
Do not be afraid of ghosts. Be fearful of people who are
dishonest. I have never heard of ghosts who are corrupt but I
have heard of ghost projects. There are people who do more
harm to others than ghost. Can you think of one?
There is no fellowship between light and darkness. Right and
wrong cannot co-exist and if it does is called compromise.
Be honest. Be truthful and do not stand unrighteousness.
Choose what is right all the time. This builds character and
leads to long term sustainable success.
This is a great piece of advice. somebody says:
―First I was dying to finish high school & start college.
& then I was dying to finish college & start working.
& then I was dying to marry & have children.
& then I was dying for my children to grow old, & finish
school.
& then I was dying to retire.
& now, I am dying
& suddenly I realized, I FORGOT TO LIVE‖
Each day is a gift from God. Live it well.
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Here‘s my question.
How does an ordinary man become an extraordinary person?
ORINARY MEN BECOMES EXTRAORDINARY WHEN
THEY UNDERSTAND THE RIGHT PRIORITIES, AND
WORK ON THEM. [1]
There are extraordinarily good people and then again there are
extraordinarily people who are evil too.
In a book entitled ―Ordinary Men‖ authored by historian
Christopher Browning touching on Holocaust, one critic said:
―The most frightening aspect of Browning‘s book is the
knowledge it conveys to us that it was not a few brutes, but
many good and ordinary men, who committed murder for
Hitler.‖
One might think that the men who engineered such atrocities
were somehow of a different breed, perhaps genetically
predisposed or psychologically imbalanced. I do not mean to
mitigate the power of false beliefs or influence of a mob
mentality, yet I cannot escape the fact that those capable of
such ghastly acts against millions of people were, by all
accounts, ordinary men.
Malcolm Muldgridge, perhaps considered as one of the most
respected Christian with a brilliant mind of the 20th century
tells us his own story.
It is a story of a time when he was a journalist in India, and left
his residence one evening to go for a swim. As he entered the
water, across the river he saw a woman bathing. Muldgridge
impulsively felt the allure and temptation of the moment. He
had often felt this kind of struggle but had resisted because he
was a married man.
On this occasion, however, he wondered if he could cross the
line of his conscience, and swam furiously toward the woman.
His mind fed him the fantasy that stolen waters would be
sweet.
Finally only a few feet away from her, he emerged from the
water and looked at the woman. At once he realized that he
was looking into the eyes of a leper – a toothless old woman
was grinning at him. He was gripped with disgust and thought,
―What a dirty lecherous woman!‖ when suddenly the rude
shock of it dawned upon him. It was not the woman who was
lecherous; it was his own heart.
Jeremiah says it correctly. In the Bible the prophet says the
heart of man is deceitfully and hopelessly wicked. This is why
ordinary people become extraordinarily evil.
How then can an ordinary person turn out to be an extra-
ordinary servant of God?
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Let me tell you how. When that person understands priorities.
Let me give you a list of it.
In our relationship with God:
1. It‘s Worship before Work
2. Attitude before Activity
3. It‘s being God‘s Son before being God‘s Servant
4. Enjoyment of God before Enduring for God
5. Being before Doing
6. Obedience before Sacrifice
7. Fruit of the Spirit before Gifts of the Spirit
In our prayer life and bible study:
1. Listening to God before Asking from God
2. God‘s Word before Tradition of men
3. Spirit of the Word before Letter of the Word
4. Facts before Feelings
5. Heart before Head
In our work for God:
1.God‘s will before our desires
2. Holiness before Evangelism
3. Making Disciples before Getting members
4. Teaching before Socializing
5. Quality before Quantity
6. Motive comes before Methods
7. Faithfulness comes before Success
8. Prayer comes before Planning
9. Faith comes before Logic
In Our Life With Others:
1. Forgiving comes before Correcting.
2. Contributing to others comes before Competing with Others.
3. Humility towards others comes before Authority over
Others.
4. Gentleness comes before Firmness with Others.
5. Relationship comes before Organization.
6. Appreciation comes before Judging Others.
Perhaps just like me, you need only to look as far as your own
life to see that your heart is bent on following its own devices
and falls short of what God intends.
But God stands ready to forgive sin and offer new life for those
who honestly seek Him. He has the power to change ordinary
men into becoming extraordinary beings provided we know the
priorities.[2]
By the way, the difference between ―ordinary‖ and
―extraordinary‖ is that little ―extra.‖
Victor Hugo says: ―The future has several names. For the
weak, it is the impossible. For the fainthearted, it is the
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unknown. For the thoughtful and valiant, it is ideal.‖
The future always looks bright for me because I know that God
has a plan for me – a plan for success and not calamity but I
need to align my actions with His will in order for this to
happen.
Look at today as ―valiant‖ and the rest of the week as ―ideal‖
and the rest of your life as ―Fulfilled!‖
What we know limits what we can imagine. Be wary of the
experts in your work place. They have a position to guard.
Young kids don‘t.
Do not presume to be an expert. Always have a beginner‘s
mind.
I am currently being offered a wonderful opportunity to
communicate. Technically, I have never done this before but I
am so excited with the challenge. Gives me another
opportunity to stretch and learn. Stretch and learn – this should
be the way to level up!
For some people, their ―lifestyle‖ is really a ―deathstyle.‖
They are so absorbed with ―style‖ they forget to work on the
substance. They live on debt, they wear signature clothes and
accessories they cannot afford it.
Be real. Be authentic. Be simple. Be frugal. Be wise.
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Francis J. Kong is:
• President of Success Options Publishing Company
• President of FunWorks Inc. a member of the Canadian
based Mad Science International Group, the world‘s number
one (1) Science educational-entertainment program provider
for kids.
• Founding member and Director of Inspire Leadership
Consultancy
Francis has extensive work experiences in manufacturing and
retail as he help founded a popular clothing company and ran a
retail chain for many years.
You can hear him in his daily Radio Program ―Business
Matters‖ which was given a Year 2007 special citation by the
Catholic Mass Media Awards.
You can read him through his Saturday and Sunday column of
the Business Page of the Philippine Star.
You can see him as he regularly guests every Monday and
Thursday morning at the popular morning show Umagang Kay
Ganda.
He has been featured in many of the major business
conventions and conferences both here and abroad.
• Francis is co-recipient of the Anvil Award for Excellence
for the staging of the Dr. John Maxwell Leadership Seminar
Series.
• Recipient of the Year 2006 Gold Quill Philippines Award
of merit for Public Speech category sponsored by The
International Association of Business Communicators.
• Recipient of 2008 Dr. Jose Rizal Award for Excellence in
the field of Journalism.
Francis has been trained and licensed by Maximum Impact of
Atlanta Georgia to do the Maxwell leadership programs. He is
also Trained and licensed by The Ziglar Corporation in London
to do the Ziglar Sales and Presentation programs.
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He is an author of 14 books:
• His book ―One Day at a Time‖ has been given a most
favorable review by Channel NewsAsia of Singapore.
• His book ―The Early Bird Catches the Worm: is now
translated into the Korean language.
Francis is married to the former Lilia Nolasco and has three
children: Bryan 26, Hannah 22 and Rachel 17.
For more inspiring words from Francis J. Kong, please visit his
personal blog at http://www.franciskong.com.
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The living dead and the zombies I see do not make their
dwelling in cemeteries, many of them are behind their office
desks.
And there are bosses who act more like jerks and vampires
who suck the lifeblood out of their people. Halloween exists
every day in many work places. Do you agree?
This is why training is necessary.
Today is a luxury for me. I have time to prepare my materials
for the radio, script for TV and the preparation for my once-a-
year BIG EVENT for March 1 next year. I‘ve got great new
lessons & great speakers to inspire people to become better and
achieve success.
It takes a lot of time to prepare for a good thing. And the
preparation for me is everyday, holidays included.
Somebody says, I put a mirror on my TV set. I wanted to see
what my family looked like.
These days are best spent with the family and to reflect on
what is important. Every family tree always produces nuts. So
enjoy each other‘s differences and express love in the strongest
way possible. Do not let these days go to waste.
The real content of the heart is shown during the times
prosperity. When we are poor we are humble. When we
prosper we may become different. This is why we need to
prepare our hearts even before we prosper.
If the heart is right, even when things go wrong they will turn
out right but if the heart is wrong, even the good things done
will become wrong. The heart of the problem is the problem of
the heart.
But we immediately changed our minds the moment we heard
of yet another shooting. A smiling kid enters his school, pulled
out a gun and methodically shot his friends and classmates.
Why? What‘s happening to the young people in the world
today?
There are 2 constants in life. Most people would say that the 2
constants in life are death and taxes. And they are right but
allow me to make a twist out of this cliché. The 2 constants in
life is not just death and taxes, the two constants in life is that
there is a God and you are not Him.
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But going back to the other 2 constants. Death and taxes. In my
mind it simply means undertakers and tax collectors would
have to classify in this category too. Death and taxes.
Undertakers and tax collectors, they make quite a pair.
It makes me wonder what Jesus saw in Matthew. A tax
collector. A scum of the earth. Despised and hated by his
fellow Jews because collectors during those times could pocket
as much as they can after they have fulfilled their quotas for
the Roman government.
People ducked when they saw collectors coming. Not only
was Matthew a tax collector, he was a public tax collector.
Some collectors did their business underground. They hired
runners to do their dirty work Matthew did his own.. He was
the leech at the bottom of the pit. He pulled his top of the line
Super Saloon Limousine right into the busiest commercial
districts, set up his table and held out his hand. And that‘s when
Jesus called him.
HRD practitioners all over the world would shake their heads
in unbelief. How can anyone decide to recruit a tax collector to
do the work of evangelism?
But on the other hand, you have to wonder what Jesus saw in
Matthew. Look at him. Dirt under his nails. Callused hands.
Holes in his sandals. No headquarters. No office. No
committee. No clout with the local church.
The clergy won‘t give him the time of day His followers look
more like porters in a harbor or pool sharks than seminarians.
And that‘s nothing. Imagine this carpenter claiming to be the
Messiah?
Quite a pair, these two. You have to wonder what they saw in
each other. whatever it was, it must‘ve been something.
Matthew heard the call and never went back. He spent the rest
of his life convincing folks that the carpenter was the King.
Jesus gave the call and never took it back. He spent his life
dying for people like Matthew, convincing a lot of us that if he
had a place for Matthew, he just might have a place for us.
Quite a pair, Jesus & Matthew.
These keen observations from Max Lucado made me think. As
I flipped over the pages of his Inspirational bible, I smiled to
myself. Matthew was the scum of the earth, he exhibited his
mischief publicly. Crude. No finesse. So unlike me.
While Matthew was the scum of the earth I was the toast of the
town. Young, ambitious, graduated top of the school and
rubbing elbows with models and celebrities. Matthew did his
atrocity in public, I did it in private.
Cheated on my wife, cheated on practically every business
deals I entered into. Bought my business friends and corrupted
them in the process. But that‘s the way of the world I reasoned
and I guess I was right.
But something happened some 20 plus years ago. This
underground scum of the earth met the Lord Jesus Christ and
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has been His since then. There‘s a marked difference between
Matthew, the tax collector and me. Matthew responded to the
call when the human hands of the carpenter called him. This
criminal in his executive suit responded in faith to the
Resurrected Christ.
Matthew and Jesus. Francis and the Risen Christ. They sure
make quite a pair.
You‘ll do quite all right so be in Him too.
Do not be disappointed when people shoot down your ideas.
The biggest person with the biggest ideas can be shot down by
the smallest person with the smallest mind. Think big anyway.
Who is a faultfinder? A faultfinder is a person with a bad
memory who never remembers the good, or a person with a
good memory who always remembers the bad. Do you know of
anyone in your life who is like this?
Be a good-finder. And make this world a better place.
Beware of a manipulator: he shakes your hand one minute and
pulls your leg the next.
Beware the opportunist: he has no use for people he cannot
use.
Avoid people like these but more importantly make sure we do
not become like them. Be kind. Serve and always do good
without expectations of rewards for there is One who will.
Make this day productive!
There is a big difference between praise and flattery. Praising
comes from an honest and humble heart. Flattering comes from
deceitful and a defective heart. This is why Wendell Philips
says: ―Many men know how to flatter. Few men know how to
praise. Check the heart motive at all times for after all, God
sees the heart.
I have an observation: no matter how rich, powerful, brilliant
or influential a person is, that person cannot escape the fact
that he or she has a God appetite within.
It‘s a beautiful day. Pray, go to church and be in intimate in
fellowship with Him.
Modern day computer generated graphics and animation are
really magnificent things to behold. Even cartoons today
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impress us with their marvelous technological advances not
only in the movies but in home entertainment and video games
as well. This is why Max Lucado‘s story in his book entitled
―God Came Near‖ could propel us to one of those funny
computer animated cartoons in our imagination as he tells us
the story of the 4 candles. Let me share it with you. Lucado
says:
―A few nights ago a peculiar thing happened. An electrical
storm caused a blackout in our neighborhood. When the lights
went out, ―I felt my way through the darkness into the storage
closet where we keep the candles for nights like this……I took
my match and lit four of them……
I was turning to leave with the large candle in my hand when I
heard a voice. ―Now, hold it right there.‖
―Who said that?‖
―I did.‖ The voice was near my hand.
―Who are you?‖ ―What are you?‖
―I‘m a candle.‖
I lifted up the candle to take a closer look. You won‘t believe
what I saw. There was a tiny face in the wax….a moving,
functioning, flesh like face full of expression and life.
―Don‘t take me out of here!‖
―What?‖
―I said, don‘t take me out of this room!‖
―What do you mean?‖ I have to take you out. You‘re a candle.
Your job is to give light. It‘s dark out there.‖
―But you can‘t take me out. I‘m not ready,‖ the candle
explained with pleading eyes, ―I need more preparation.‖
I couldn‘t believe my ears. ―More preparation?‖
―Yeah, I‘ve decided I need to research this job of light-giving
so I won‘t go out and make a bunch of mistakes. You‘d be
surprised how distorted the glow of an untrained candle can
be……..‖
―All right then,‖ I said. ―You‘re not the only candle on the
shelf. I‘ll blow you out and take the others!‖ But just as I got
my cheeks full of air, I heard other voices.
―We aren‘t going either!‖
…….I turned around and looked at the three other
candles…….‖You are candles and your job is to light dark
places!‖
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‗Well, that may be what you think.‖ Said the candle on the far
left………‖You may think we have to go, but I‘m
busy……….I‘m meditating on the importance of light. It‘s
really, well…………very enlightening‖……………..
―And you other two,‖ I asked, ‗are you going to stay in here as
well?‖
A short, fat, purple candle with plump cheeks that reminded
me of Santa Claus spoke up. ―I‘m waiting to get my life
together. I‘m not stable enough.‖
The last candle had a female voice, very pleasant to the ear.
―I‘d like to help,‖ she explained. ―but lighting the darkness is
not my gift…..I‘m a singer. I sing to other candles to
encourage them to burn more brightly.‖
……she began a rendition of ―This Little Light of
Mine‖…….the other three joined in, filling the storage room
with singing………I took a step back and considered the
absurdity of it all. Four perfectly healthy candles singing to
each other about light but refusing to come out of the closet.[1]
One thing I like with Lucado is that he uses words and pictures
to make you see. But I guess you‘re beginning to get the point
aren‘t you?
So many reasons, so many excuses yet instead of Christians
who are called to be light of the world go out there and show
light and warmth you have them bunched together worrying
about their own petty little things, confined in their petty little
worlds.
Let me add 4 more candles I know:
The first is the Legalist candle. – They don‘t want to do their
jobs because according to them, ―the world deserves their
darkness. Let judgement come to them.‖ The second is the
Scholar candle – spends most of his time in the library poring
over voluminous books. Still understanding the true meaning
of darkness in Greek and Hebrew. The third is the Talented
candle – She sings only to a select crowd. Her favorite songs
are: ―You light up my life‖ and ―Come On Baby Light My
Fire…..‖ And then there is the Gracious candle – He lets his
life be burned and used up to bring light to a dark and cold
world.
Question: When was the last time you presented the gospel to
someone? Are you scared to be the light-giver that God has
created you to be? Pray today that God would bring you
opportunities to share your faith and give you the courage to
take them. Now step out in faith and keep your eyes open!
So let your light so shine so that the world may see your good
deeds and glorify god who is in heaven.
An egotist talks to you about himself, a gossip talks to you
about others, and a brilliant conversationalist talks to you about
you.
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Talk to your people today but let them talk about themselves
and you genuinely listen. Make this the theme of this week and
you will be surprised at how much you could learn.
"What‘s the difference between crime and politics?‖ In crime,
you take the money and run………
I hope that this time, the elected officials will be people of
honor and integrity and most importantly, people who
genuinely love our country don‘t you? I do.
Somebody asked me: ―Francis, how much time do you set
aside for study?‖
I thought about it and I guess this is really how it is: ―I study
all the time and the few times that I do not I am doing
something else…..‖
Life lessons never cease. We just need to observe and absorb.
The worst thing about history is that every time it repeats itself
the price goes up. And now it‘s Php12 Billion and counting!
So victimized by scams and Ponzi schemes. The recent one is
terrible. My heart goes out for them. Why do things like these
keep on repeating? Please give me your thoughts and opinions.
Some people pay their bills when due, some when overdue,
and some never do. Fulfill obligations. Protect the name. It‘s
more precious that gold and silver.
―A church is a hospital for sinners, not a museum for saints.‖
says L. L. Nash. Don‘t go to church today if you think you‘re
perfect. You should be crucified instead. Go and be refreshed.
Start this week by being positive. Don‘t worry too much about
people who keep on slandering. If you are not noticed then you
are not efficient. Remember: When you are being kicked from
behind, it means you are in front of the pack.
Henry Ford says: ―It has been my observation that most people
get ahead during the time that others waste. Spend your time
learning. Be productive. This is wealth management.
We‘ve had bad times. Some of us still are.
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Tough times? Say this:
―This is temporary. Rock bottom? No way else to go but up.‖
Trust God to get you through. Never give up hope.
Today marks my 301st talk for the year. I love what I do and
do what I love. This is why work is never work for me. Do not
do what you love but learn to love what you do.
"A friendship founded on business is better than a business
founded on friendship‖ says John D Rockefeller. So be careful.
Many a friendship has been betrayed because of business. Do
you know of any?
If you want something you‘ve never had, you need to do
something you‘ve never done. You cannot have a different
result when you keep on doing the same things. Choose to
change.
Every blessing is a test on our character while every test is a
blessing in disguise. When we have challenges, lessons are
being taught, when we have blessings, we need to stay humble
and give credit to God. Tests and Blessings. They form who we
are and what we become.
What are the things you keep? Some people collect coins, other
stamps. And then there are those who keep their baseball or
NBA cards. We never know. But the question I want ask you is
this. What do you keep?
Here‘s a touching article written by an unknown author
entitled: ―Some Things You Keep.‖ Listen to this carefully.
Some things you keep. Like good teeth. Warm coats. Bald
husbands.
They‘re good for you, reliable and practical and so sublime
that to throw them away would make the garbage man a thief.
So you hang on, because something old is sometimes better
than something new, and what you know is often better than a
stranger. These are my thoughts.
They make me sound old, old and tame, and dull at a time
when everybody else is risky and racy and flashing all that‘s
new and improved in their lives. New careers, new thighs, new
lips, new cars. The world is dizzy with trade-ins. I could keep
track, but I don‘t think I want to.
I grew up in the fifties with practical parents -a mother, God
bless her, who washed aluminum foil after she cooked in it,
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then reused it – and still does.
A father who was happier getting old shoes fixed than buying
new ones. They weren‘t poor, my parents, they were just
satisfied. Their marriage was good, their dreams focused. Their
best friends lived barely a wave away. I can see them now, Dad
in trousers and tee shirt and Mom in a housedress, lawn mower
in one‘s hand, dishtowel in the other‘s. It was a time for fixing
things – a curtain rod, the kitchen radio, screen door, the oven
door, the hem in a dress.
Things you keep. It was a way of life, and sometimes it made
me crazy. All that refixing, reheating, renewing, I wanted just
once to be wasteful. Waste meant affluence. Throwing things
away meant there‘d always be more. But then my father died,
and on that clear autumn night, in the chill of the hospital
room, I was struck with the pain of learning that sometimes
there isn‘t any ‗more.‘ Sometimes what you care about most
gets all used up and goes away, never to return.
So, while you have it, it‘s best to love it and care for it and fix
it when it‘s broken and heal it when it‘s sick. That‘s true for
marriage and old cars and children with bad report cards and
dogs with bad hips and aging parents. You keep them because
they‘re worth it; because you‘re worth it.
Some things you keep. Like a best friend that moved away or a
classmate you grew up with, there are just some things that
make life important…. people you know are special…. and
you KEEP them close!
End of article.
And so, back to the question. What are the things you keep?
Money in a bank? That magnificent piece of diamond you
bought from Tiffany‘s? Not necessarily bad but not very
important either. They‘re just expensive but they‘re not
important.
What I would like to keep is friendship with people. I‘d like to
keep those precious moments our small group share once a
week when we would just take time out, sit in one of those
coffee shops, discuss important issues in life, share God‘s Word
and have a good time.
I‘d like to keep those precious memories of my kids growing
up, those days I started courting my high school sweetheart
who would one day turn out to be the mother of my kids.
I‘d like to keep the company of those wonderful church folks I
mingle with.
These are the things I like to keep but most importantly, I
would really love to keep my love for God growing stronger
and stronger every day.
I would like to keep my pledge of faithfulness to my wife and
keep my promise to my kids that they do not have to be afraid
that one day their dad will no longer go home.
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Let me tell you a story.
Joey‘s teacher sent a note home to his Mother saying, ―Joey
seems to be a very bright boy, but spends too much of his time
thinking about girls.‖ The Mother wrote back the next day, ―If
you find a solution, please advise. I have the same problem
with his Father.‖
That‘s the one thing I don‘t want to keep.
My Mondays and Thursdays start 3:45AM as I get up early and
prepare for Umagang Kay Ganda (UKG). Love the discipline
of having to hit the bed early. Rising up early and doing so
much work. Always learning!
A miser one who lives poor so that he can die rich. I wonder
why the root word of ―MISERABLE‖ is MISER & ABLE.
Be generous today and for the rest of the week. Be a cheerful
giver and open doors to greater blessing. Time, talent and
treasure, these are things you can share.
Your attitude is more important than your skills. Work on it
more. It opens to a world of opportunities.
All things being equal the person with the better attitude gets
promoted. All things being not equal the person with the better
attitude STILL gets the promotion.
If you have been criticized and charged with many things; their
opinion is not your reality. Continue the work. Positive people
influence. Negative people tear down. Stay positive yourself!
Bite-size wins today lead to BIG-time championships
tomorrow. Don‘t shy away from work. Just get things going
and get things DONE!
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Francis J. Kong is:
• President of Success Options Publishing Company
• President of FunWorks Inc. a member of the Canadian
based Mad Science International Group, the world‘s number
one (1) Science educational-entertainment program provider
for kids.
• Founding member and Director of Inspire Leadership
Consultancy
Francis has extensive work experiences in manufacturing and
retail as he help founded a popular clothing company and ran a
retail chain for many years.
You can hear him in his daily Radio Program ―Business
Matters‖ which was given a Year 2007 special citation by the
Catholic Mass Media Awards.
You can read him through his Saturday and Sunday column of
the Business Page of the Philippine Star.
You can see him as he regularly guests every Monday and
Thursday morning at the popular morning show Umagang Kay
Ganda.
He has been featured in many of the major business
conventions and conferences both here and abroad.
• Francis is co-recipient of the Anvil Award for Excellence
for the staging of the Dr. John Maxwell Leadership Seminar
Series.
• Recipient of the Year 2006 Gold Quill Philippines Award
of merit for Public Speech category sponsored by The
International Association of Business Communicators.
• Recipient of 2008 Dr. Jose Rizal Award for Excellence in
the field of Journalism.
Francis has been trained and licensed by Maximum Impact of
Atlanta Georgia to do the Maxwell leadership programs. He is
also Trained and licensed by The Ziglar Corporation in London
to do the Ziglar Sales and Presentation programs.
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He is an author of 14 books:
• His book ―One Day at a Time‖ has been given a most
favorable review by Channel NewsAsia of Singapore.
• His book ―The Early Bird Catches the Worm: is now
translated into the Korean language.
Francis is married to the former Lilia Nolasco and has three
children: Bryan 26, Hannah 22 and Rachel 17.
For more inspiring words from Francis J. Kong, please visit his
personal blog at http://www.franciskong.com.
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Be careful who you share your weaknesses with. Some people
can‘t wait for the opportunity to use them against you. In my
experience most people do and only a few can be trusted. Have
you ever had one of these nasty experiences? Learn from the
lesson.
I don‘t know what the day holds but I know Who holds the
Day. Love God. Trust God. Go to church today.
A woman is dying of AIDS. A minister is summoned. He
attempts to comfort her, but to no avail. ―I am lost,‖ she said.
‖I have ruined my life and every life around me. Now I‘m
going painfully to hell. There is no hope for me.‖
The priest saw a framed picture of a pretty girl on the dresser.
‖Who is this?‖ he asked. The woman brightened. ‖She is my
daughter, the one beautiful thing in my life.‖"And would you
help her if she was in trouble, or made a mistake? Would you
forgive her? Would you still love her?‖ ―Of course I would!‖
cried the woman; ‖I would do anything for her! Why do you
ask such a question?‖ ―Because I want you to know,‖ said the
minister, ‖that God has a picture of you on His dresser.
―[1]How important it is for people to know that accepting Jesus
Christ as Lord and Savior means accepting the love of God and
His forgiveness. I was seated across a very successful
businessman in an Italian restaurant and I never had any idea
that our talk would take an entire 4 and a half hours.
―He was troubled. Had problems with his finances like most
business people do today. But as we talked about a lot of things
the one thing that struck me was when he said, ―You know,
I‘ve done some very crazy things in my life before I became
serious with God. I love Him and I know that He is punishing
me for that.‖ No wonder the guy was troubled, He‘s got a
faulty theology. And this is no time for me to offer comfort.
This is the time for me to correct his views on God. He must
have seen the sudden serious look on my face when I said,
―Listen, you‘re wrong.‖The moment you accepted Christ you
have been forgiven. All of your sins, past, present and future.
That‘s what the cross is all about. That‘s why He died for you.
You may have done stupid things in the past and perhaps
you‘re still paying the consequences for such but that‘s not
God‘s punishment upon you.
―And then I had to spend a lot of time talking about God‘s
forgiveness. The businessman is not alone. Guess how many
people walk the streets everyday carrying the excess baggage
of guilt and fear in their lives ignorant of God‘s forgiveness.
People who are in Christ some times forget to wear their
badges. You know what that badge is? It‘s the assurance in the
Book of Romans wherein Paul says, ―there is therefore no
condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.‖ And maybe
this is why they have no joy in their lives. ·
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Oswald Chambers says: The most marvelous ingredient in the
forgiveness of God is that he also forgets, the one thing a
human being can never do. Forgetting with God is a divine
attribute; God‘s forgiveness forgets. ·
George Arthur Buttrick says: God does not wish us to
remember what he is willing to forget. Some times human
beings are more unforgiving than God but that doesn‘t change
His character.
So, the next time you feel that God could not love you and
would not forgive you, remember that He has a picture of you
on His dresser.
[1] The Jokesmith, Published by Edward C. McManus, 44
Queen‘s View Road, Marlborough
When you wake up in the morning with a grim determination
to improve you will go to bed with the full feeling of
satisfaction. What areas of personal improvement should I
work on today? A good start towards long term success.
Every now and then I will feature excellent businesses and
excellent customer service. Bulgogi Brothers in Greenhills 5 is
one of them. My family and friends enjoyed it last night and I
am going back there with new friends. Businesses that really
take care of their clients get more business and this is
inevitable.
One of my favorite words is ―Chill!‖ It has helped me in many
difficult situations. Here is a question I need to ask myself
constantly: ―Francis, are you working hard or should you rather
wait? There are things you can work for there are things you
have to wait for.‖ Wise people know the difference. Maybe you
can find this useful. So chill!
Take some time to think. A minute of thought is worth more
than an hour of talk. Some people just talk and talk without
thinking while wise people think first before they open their
mouths. Do you know of such people?
The successful person will tell you: ―I got to the top fighting
laziness and ignorance everyday.
Laziness is defined as: ―Getting into the habit of taking a rest
even before you‘re tired!‖Where do you usually find lazy
people? Tell me all about it.
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Anger is a fascinating thing. The language you use when you
are angry is your first language actually. And here is another
thing about anger: Never forget what someone says to you
when they are angry because that is usually when the truth
comes out.
Procrastination is a success-killer. Because of this many have
been turned into murderers. They kill time. One of the most
dangerous words you can use is the word ―Later.‖ ―One of
these days‖ is none of these days and there might not be one.
When it comes to exercise, I find that many people come up
with the craziest reasons and cook up creative excuses for not
exercising. One businessman friend of mine says: ―I am in
shape. Round is the shape.‖
Another one says: ―I‘ve started an exercise program. I do 20
sit-ups each morning. That may not sound like a lot, but you
can only hit that snooze button so many times.‖
An honest one among them said this. ―I don‘t exercise at all. If
God meant us to touch our toes, he would have put them
further up our body.‖
And then the philosopher says: ―The advantage of exercising
every day is that you die healthier.‖
But this one is my favorite. Somebody says: ― My grandmother
started walking five miles a day when she was 60. She‘s 97
now & we don‘t know where she is!‖
If you are in your late 20‘s and you do not exercise, chances
are you won‘t notice anything. If you are in your late 30‘s and
you do not exercise you will notice that you are beginning to
develop muscles in the wrong places mostly in the stomach
area and they are really fats. When you reach your 40‘s all
sorts of sickness begin to surface. You begin to experience
funny pains and aches in the different places of your body.
When you reach your late fifties you begin to pay. All those
years of neglect and harmful lifestyle will begin to take its toll
on you. And when we reach our 60s you probably will run out
of resources to pay…for the medical bills.
I have seen good people lose their entire lifetime‘s savings
because of poor health and meanwhile their cardiologist buys a
brand new Mercedes Benz.
I have a weighing scale in my bathroom. I make sure I weigh
myself same time every morning in order to monitor my
weight. There was a time when I had to squat down just to see
the numbers on my weighing scale.
I take my vitamins daily. I take lots of them under a doctor‘s
supervision. There is no one pill that can provide everything I
need, I take vitamins in its right dosage including Zinc which I
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find is in sufficient dosage in Conzace, a brand I use every day.
I stay away from sweets, I exercise regularly and I watch
carefully what I eat. How else would I be able to do more than
300 talks, trainings and seminars in a year and travel the world
in doing so?
This reminds me of a story wherein the bathroom scale
manufacturer was very proud of the new model being
introduced at the trade fair. Proudly, the manufacturer said in
his well-prepared sales pitch: ―Listen to these features: it‘s
calibrated to one hundredth of a pound; it can measure your
height as well, in feet or meters; it gives you a readout via led
and it can even tell your weight by means of a human-voice
simulator.‖
―Very impressive,‖ says an overweight prospect. ―But before I
place an order would you mind if I try it out first?‖
―Be my guest,‖ said the manufacturer graciously.
But no sooner had the overweight spectator taken his place on
the scale than a loud, synthesized and computerized human
voice loudly announced: ―One at a time please, one at a time!‖
As a result, there was no sale that day.
One woman said, ―I noticed my husband standing on the
bathroom scale, sucking in his stomach. Thinking he was
trying to weigh less with this maneuver, I commented, ―I don‘t
think that is going to help.‖
―Sure it does,‖ he said. ―It‘s the only way I can see the
numbers‖.
It‘s easy to add pounds and but it‘s so difficult to lose them.
This is why exercise takes a lot of discipline and determination
but it‘s good for us. It teaches us to prioritize the important
things in our lives. Health is wealth yet only a few are serious
enough to take care of this investment. Make sure you do.
If I go to bed early to be in shape for a speaking engagement
next morning, the more I should tonight because tomorrow I go
to church.
Somebody says ―Give God what is right….not what is left.‖ So
true isn‘t it?
In victory as in defeat, Manny displays tremendous grace. That
for me is the character of a true champion. Wouldn‘t you wish
political candidates who lose would behave the same way?
With grace, honor and dignity just like our boxer Manny?
That‘s my wish.
It‘s not just talent. It‘s not just smarts. You need to be
determined. Determination trumps smarts any time all the time.
Be determined to be successful today and every day of your
life.
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Remember this: The day goes slow but the years go fast. Make
every moment count. The way you spend your time is the way
you spend your life. Don‘t waste life.
Suddenly my kids are all grown up and I am glad had great
moments with them.
Convictions will always be tested. And when you stand on it
you are STRENGTHENED. When you compromise you are
weakened. Be brave & strong. Never find good reasons to do
wrong things.
I am a fan of Michael Jordan but I am a follower of Jesus
Christ. This is the difference between knowledge and intimacy.
Do we simply know God or are we intimate with Him? Big
difference between the two! Don‘t lose Jesus in the midst of all
this Christmas celebrations.
I have the best ―pick-up line‖ for single men and here it is:
―I‘ve got a job!‖
My most important advice to my two daughters:
―Never make the mistake of falling for cute looking guys who
are irresponsible. You will regret this for the rest of your life!
Do you agree with this line of thought?
Those who have been hurt deeply, God can use greatly. There
is no testimony without a test, no message without a mess. So
true isn‘t it? Don‘t forget to go to church today.
You better watch out,
You better not cry,
You better not pout,
I‘m telling you why…
It won‘t look good on your personnel record.
The latest thing in other countries is for young boys to have
naked pictures of their girlfriends in their cell phones.
NOT COOL! This is so stupid and dumb. The body should be a
private garden reserved for the one we will enjoy in marriage,
not a public park for the mob to exploit, loiter an litter.
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When somebody calls you, text you, or left you a message then
you should call back, text back and give a reply. This is being
ethical, respectful and polite. If you don‘t do this then you‘re
not. It‘s a weakness of character. A block for tomorrow‘s
success opportunity.
Haven‘t you noticed with the way we watch television? Three
channels are no longer enough…we need a hundred and three
now. And the entertainment hunger still cannot be quenched.
Just when we need to spend more time and moments reading
intelligent books and doing more thinking. Such a waste of
resource.
Have you ever met people who behave more like jerks rather
than humans? They crack jokes and they think they‘re funny
but they come across as insulting and offensive.
They may have education yet they do not have culture. So
what do you do with people like these? Actually, these are the
exceptions. Most people I know are polite and decent so
concentrate on the beautiful and not on the ugly! And always
thank God that He equips us to see the difference.
Thank you!‖ These are two words used too often it may have
lost its luster. To make it work it has to be specific. So let me
put this principle into practice.
I would like to close the year by saying: ―THANK YOU‖
1. For the leadership and staff of FunWorks for making this
year the best year ever. Rara has done a great job and has
brought inspiration to everyone in the company.
2. For the young but dedicated and hard-working staff of
Inspire Leadership Consultancy. They have gone through the
process of reorganization and did it so well, obtained so many
new clients. The ever charming GM Binky has performed way
beyond our expectations.
3. For Ana Cristobal for patiently managing the book sales and
collections and for being strict yet deep inside, remaining as
one of the kindest people in planet earth.
4. For all those who keep on viewing this page providing me
the inspiration and encouragement to continue doing what I am
doing. And this even include the hecklers and the jesters who
has given me more reasons to understand that the work of
inspiring people needs to continue.
Have a Blessed Christmas and by the way --- the world will not
end today. It is just the beginning of another beautiful life
ahead.
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This is what I have learned:
GRATITUDE GENERATES GENEROSITY!!!
I still have so many people I need to thank. My small group,
my closest friends, my high-school friends and many others.
Time to bring my family for a vacation. I may be out of touch
for a day but once I land and settle down I will immediately do
what I love doing….touch base with you through FB.
It was a long flight, it was stressful and tiring but the moment
the plane lands, clearing immigration and customs; and you see
the welcoming arms of your loved ones saying: ―Welcome‖ all
your tiredness disappears. NOTHING BEATS FAMILY!
―Happiness is not based on money and the greatest proof of
that is our family!‖ says heiress Christina Onassis. If you have
a happy family, you have happiness in a great measure.
Jesus was born in a borrowed manger and He was buried in a
borrowed tomb. A poor man‘s borrowed manger and a rich
man‘s borrowed tomb. Jesus did not come to teach us to be
powerful but to be humble? His gift to us was not wealth and
power but salvation. This is the true reason for the season.
Have a Blessed Christmas!
Christmas. Celebrations…parties…gifts…decorations and so
forth and so on.
Look at the stores…have you realized how commercialized
Christmas has become?
A GRANDMOTHER took her grandson to see Santa Claus in a
department store after purchasing about a dozen Christmas
gifts. Santa gave the boy a little present.
―What do you say to Santa?‖ prompted grandma.
―Charge it,‖ said the little boy.
In our country the economy is not in a very good shape. The
times are hard but not hard enough to stop people from
celebrating.
Somebody says: I never knew how hard the times are until I
got to talk to Santa Claus. I asked him how Rudolph is and he
says, ―Delicious!‖
Now here‘s a funny article I got from the Internet authored by
Laura Walton and she persists in believing that Santa Clause is
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a woman. I went through it and I laughed at it. Because it
seems to make sense. So why don‘t I share this with you and
you be the one to decide whether Santa is indeed a woman or
not.
Here‘s how it goes:
Santa is a woman…I‘m convinced it must be true.
So many things he takes credit for…Most men just will not do.
He spends his days in shopping malls…Passing out candy and
gum sticks.
He gabs with moms and kids alike…And takes great party
pics.
Santa always keeps a list…And always checks it twice.
Why, isn‘t that the story…Of every woman‘s life?
Santa‘s into arts and crafts…He‘s always making toys
And he keeps tabs on all the neighborhood kids…Knows the
nice girls and boys
Santa likes to decorate…They say he has a flair
He can do the trees all by himself…Knows which ornament
goes where,
Santa does not mind asking directions…There‘s a lot of
deliveries, you know
To houses all over the universe…In cities high and low
Santa makes a fashion statement…That few other men would
copy
In a fur-trimmed suit of velvet red…Never wrinkled, never
sloppy
Yes, Santa Claus there is a Virginia…And a Mary, Sue and
Jane
You must know all of them quite well…For you are much the
same
Santa has to be a woman…It‘s the only thing that‘s right
Who else would work on holiday presents…All hours of the
night[1] End of article.
Now…are you convinced that Santa is probably a woman?
And here are other reasons why Santa can‘t possibly be a man:
Men can‘t pack a bag. Men would rather be dead than caught
wearing red velvet. Men would feel their masculinity is
threatened, having to be seen with all those elves. Men don‘t
answer their mail. Men would refuse to allow their physique to
be described even in jest as anything remotely resembling a
―bowlful of jelly.‖ Men aren‘t interested in stockings unless
somebody‘s wearing them. Finally, being responsible for
Christmas would require a commitment.
Now don‘t take this seriously.
I don‘t believe in an overweight person wearing red pajamas
with a stocking on his or her head…I believe in Jesus born as a
baby during the first Christmas as God‘s grace and mercy to
send us a Savior because you and I are dead in our sins.
Jesus not Santa. And this is the serious part.
[1] Copyright 2000 Laura Walton. Permission is granted to
send this to others, but not for commercial purposes.
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When man reaches out to God and he never could, God is pure
and holy and His standards are just too high, then that effort is
called religion. When God in His mercy reaches out to man
because of His love, sending His one and only son Jesus to die
for us on the cross, then that is no longer religion, that is called
CHRISTMAS!
A Blessed Christmas to you all! Okay. Now that the world did
not end on December 21, let‘s just be wise and live each day as
if it were the last. This way we do only that which is
meaningful.
Just attended the wonderful Christmas Eve service at Menlo
Park and John Ortberg reminds us that the very first Christmas
was not a time of peace but of turmoil yet God declares the
words: ―Do not be afraid!‖ Some may be hurting, some may be
sad but God is with us. Do not be afraid.
A story is told of a teacher in Africa taught the nationals that
people gave each other gifts on Christ‘s birthday as an
expression of their joy.
A student gave this teacher a beautiful seashell as a gift. When
asked where he had discovered such an extraordinary shell, the
native said he had walked many miles to a certain bay, the only
place where these shells could be found. The teacher was
deeply moved and told the young man how much he
appreciated his gift, to which the native replied, ―Long walk,
part of gift.‖ It‘s not the price of the gift but the ―long walk‖
behind it.
People who grow the most are people who have been pushed
the most. Don‘t be afraid of challenges. Learn, grow and be
spectacular this coming year. Those who go through life with
the minimum amount of challenges are the those who exhibit
the least amount of growth. Comfort destroys usefulness.
As the year ends, there will be massive media hype on
predictions and fortune-telling. Much like the Mayan calendar
thingy. I love the philosopher who said: ―Shallow people
depend on luck, intelligent people believe in cause and effect.
Luck is when preparation and opportunity intersects. As for
me, it‘s very hard to reconcile God‘s sovereignty and luck.
Time to grow up!
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As the year comes to a close, there are bridges we must cross
and there are bridges we must burn. Ask God to give us the
wisdom to know which is which. Burn the bridges of bad
influences and bad habits. Cross the bridges of labor and
discipline to be more productive for service. Love God, love
family, serve the community and country as these bring in joy
and fulfillment. Have you considered which bridges to cross
and which ones to burn? The process is not easy but necessary.
The text messages are coming while my family and I (minus
my son who is busy preparing his latest ―Crazy Katsu‖ branch)
are in California enjoying our family vacation.
Around this time of the year I get greets from friends and
families wishing me a prosperous New Year and these greets
come in many forms.
One of the favorites of mine which is credited to anonymity
has really made me laugh and made me think. Perhaps this will
also be your reaction as I share this with you.
Several years ago, someone (author unknown) composed the
following list of wishes for the New Year: May your hair, your
teeth, your face-lift, your abs, and your stocks not fall; and
may your blood pressure, your triglycerides, your cholesterol,
your white blood count and your mortgage interest not rise.
May you get a clean bill of health from your dentist, your
cardiologist, your gastroenterologist, your urologist, your
proctologist, your podiatrist, your psychiatrist, your plumber,
and the BIR.
May you find a way to travel from anywhere to anywhere
during rush hour in less than an hour, and when you get there
may you find a parking space.
May December 31 find you seated around the dinner table,
together with your beloved family and cherished friends,
ushering in the New Year ahead. You will find the food better,
the environment quieter, the cost much cheaper, and the
pleasure much more fulfilling than anything else you might
ordinarily do that night.
May you have the strength to go through a year of electoral
campaigning, and may some of the promises made be kept.
May you believe at least half of what the candidates propose,
and may those elected fulfill at least half of what they promise,
and the miracle of reducing taxes and balancing budgets
happen.
May what you see in the mirror delight you, and what others
see in you delight them.
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May the telemarketers wait to make their sales calls until you
finish dinner, may your checkbook and your budget balance,
and may they include generous amounts for your church and
charities.
May you remember to say ―I love you‖ at least once a day to
your spouse, your child, and your parent(s). You can say it to
your secretary, your nurse, your butcher, your photographer,
your masseuse, your seamstress, your hairdresser or your
tennis instructor, but not with a ―twinkle‖ in your eye.
May we live as God intended, in a world at peace with the
awareness of the beauty in every sunset, every flower‘s
unfolding petals, every baby‘s smile and every wonderful,
astonishing, miraculous beat of our heart.
May God bless you with happiness, great health, peace, and
much love during the next year and all those that follow.
To the list above I add one thing:―I pray also that you will have
greater understanding in your heart so you will know the hope
to which he has called us and that you will know how rich and
glorious are the blessings God has promised his holy people.
And you will know that God‘s power is very great for us who
believe.‖ (Eph. 1:18-19, NCV)
Now do you see what I mean? Who can ever beat this kind of
New Year Greeting?
Don‘t sell yourself short. Your life is more interesting than you
think. This is why reality shows sell. Time to level up this New
Year! There is no such thing as an unimportant day. As you end
the year with reflections, you start the year with hope.
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Francis J. Kong is:
• President of Success Options Publishing Company
• President of FunWorks Inc. a member of the Canadian
based Mad Science International Group, the world‘s number
one (1) Science educational-entertainment program provider
for kids.
• Founding member and Director of Inspire Leadership
Consultancy
Francis has extensive work experiences in manufacturing and
retail as he help founded a popular clothing company and ran a
retail chain for many years.
You can hear him in his daily Radio Program ―Business
Matters‖ which was given a Year 2007 special citation by the
Catholic Mass Media Awards.
You can read him through his Saturday and Sunday column of
the Business Page of the Philippine Star.
You can see him as he regularly guests every Monday and
Thursday morning at the popular morning show Umagang Kay
Ganda.
He has been featured in many of the major business
conventions and conferences both here and abroad.
• Francis is co-recipient of the Anvil Award for Excellence
for the staging of the Dr. John Maxwell Leadership Seminar
Series.
• Recipient of the Year 2006 Gold Quill Philippines Award
of merit for Public Speech category sponsored by The
International Association of Business Communicators.
• Recipient of 2008 Dr. Jose Rizal Award for Excellence in
the field of Journalism.
Francis has been trained and licensed by Maximum Impact of
Atlanta Georgia to do the Maxwell leadership programs. He is
also Trained and licensed by The Ziglar Corporation in London
to do the Ziglar Sales and Presentation programs.
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He is an author of 14 books:
• His book ―One Day at a Time‖ has been given a most
favorable review by Channel NewsAsia of Singapore.
• His book ―The Early Bird Catches the Worm: is now
translated into the Korean language.
Francis is married to the former Lilia Nolasco and has three
children: Bryan 26, Hannah 22 and Rachel 17.
For more inspiring words from Francis J. Kong, please visit his
personal blog at http://www.franciskong.com.
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