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Discernment, Resilience, Humility, Gratitude, Patience, & Forgiveness

• Mindfulness • Compassion • Empathetic Listening • Conflict Resolution • Story-Telling • Design

• Coalition-Building • Systems Thinking • Project Management • Ethical Leadership

Head, Heart, and Hands

Workbook



Table of Contents

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Introduction

Mission, Vision .................................................................................................1

Overview of Dalai Lama Fellows’ Leadership Development Model ..............2

Guide to Using This Workbook ........................................................................3

Connecting Contemplative Values and Social Entrepreneurship ................... 4

Nine Key Skills and Objectives ........................................................................6

Exercise Calendar 2012-13 ..............................................................................9

Tilling the Soil for the Ethical Leadership Assembly

Stakeholder Analysis ..................................................................................... 12

Value Clarification ......................................................................................... 14

Fourfold Way .................................................................................................. 15 The Way of the Warrior .....................................................................16

The Way of the Healer ......................................................................... 17

The Way of the Visionary ....................................................................18

The Way of the Teacher ......................................................................19

Ethical Leadership Mission Statement ......................................................... 20

Project Mission Statement ............................................................................. 22

Rubric ............................................................................................................. 23

Time Travel .....................................................................................................23

Ethical Leadership Assembly Exercises & Reflections Group Learning Covenant ............................................................................. 24

What is Ethical Leadership? ........................................................................... 25

The Fourfold Way ........................................................................................... 26

Outward Bound .............................................................................................. 27

Contemplative Practice & Social Change ...................................................... 28

Neuroscience of Mindfulness and Compassion ............................................ 29

Empathetic Listening ..................................................................................... 30

Project Management ...................................................................................... 31

Design Thinking ............................................................................................. 32

Learning from Alumni Fellows .....................................................................33

The Role of Inquiry in Dialogue .....................................................................34

Recognizing Your Own Conflict Styles and Triggers .....................................35

Story-telling ....................................................................................................36

Leveraging Systems Thinking for Social Change .......................................... 37

Living Your Values in Your Professional Life ................................................ 38

Gratitude ......................................................................................................... 39



Arena of Trials & Transformations 40

July: Mindfulness & Compassion ...................................................................41

August: Empathetic Listening .......................................................................42

September: Project Management ..................................................................43

October: Discernment and Ethical Leadership ............................................ 44

November: Fourfold Way Revisited .............................................................. 45

Seasonal Elder Office Hours .......................................................................... 46

Mid-year Review (during one-on-one calls)

January: Systems Thinking, Design, & Your Theory of Change ................... 47

February: Withholding Judgment .................................................................48

March: Patience & Forgiveness .....................................................................49

April: Equanimity & Gratitude ......................................................................50

May: Sharing Your Work with Your Community ........................................... 51 June: Ethical Leadership After Your Fellowship Year ...................................52

Dalai Lama Fellows’ Glossary ................................................................................. 53

Acknowledgments ................................................................................................... 61

Appendix: Ethical Leadership Assembly Schedule ............................................. 62

Asking the Right Questions ..................................................................................... 68

2012-13 Dalai Lama Fellows pictures ..................................................................... 69



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INTRODUCTION _________________________________________________________________________________

Mission

We guide a global network of young social entrepreneurs to deepen their

effectiveness by embracing secular ethics and contemplative values.

Vision

At Dalai Lama Fellows we believe in nurturing a community of emerging

young leaders from around the world who draw upon contemplative values to

address effectively some of the most persistent global challenges of our day. Each

Fellow spends a year working on a self-created compassion-in-action project

focusing on one of four global challenges:

a). Enhancing understanding and cooperation across peoples

and cultures,

b). Diminishing violence and promoting peace,

c). Helping to alleviate poverty through creative initiatives,

d). Protecting the environment.

Our Fellows are bold, visionary, and committed to collaborating with

others to make their vision a reality. They activate habits of the heart thatpromote love, while forging their peaceful warrior spirits. Throughout the year,

they are immersed in a contemplative leadership curriculum, which fosters a

deepened understanding of the need for compassion and ethical awareness as

essential elements of transformative social change. Dalai Lama Fellows learn

that cultivation of patience, tolerance for ambiguity, listening to find alignment,

resilience in the face of things not going as expected and allowing solutions to

generate from a place of openness and humility are what make for exemplary

leadership.

When His Holiness the Fourteenth Dalai Lama, one of the world’s foremost

spiritual leaders, winner of the Nobel Prize, and former head of the Tibetan-

government-in-exile, authorized this Fellowship in his name, he emphasized that

it must be secular. Additionally, he said, “Head and heart are not enough. The

Fellows must get their hands dirty.”



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IMPACT _________________________________________________________________________________

Few opportunities exist for talented young leaders from around the world

working to address our most pressing global challenges to come together for

sustained engagement about how universal values like mindfulness, courage,patience, forgiveness, reconciliation, and ethics as inner self-regulation can

transform their work. Our Head, Heart, and Hands curriculum will build our

Fellows’ skills and capacity to engage with these values.

We encourage our Fellows to ask themselves the following questions.

What ways of1. being enable me to effectively address challenges in

my community?

What skills are worth2. knowing so that I can serve my community

well?

What should I be3. doing to collaboratively lead positive social impact

in my community?

Our Head, Heart, and Hands curriculum asks Fellows to deepen their

awareness of being, knowing, and doing by engaging with contemplative

values while building their skills in the following areas:

mindfulness and compassion•

ethical leadership•

systems thinking•

design and story-telling•

project management•

conflict resolution•

coalition-building•

discerning project impact•



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How Should I Use This Workbook?

The Head, Heart, and Hands workbook is a space for critical thinking, and

for reflecting on how to align your values with your actions.

It is a crucial component of each Dalai Lama Fellow’s yearlong journey,intended to deepen your ability to serve your communities with heightened

self-awareness and compassion. This workbook aspires to increase your

engagement with ethical leadership, to enrich your ability to work skillfully

with habitual patterns, to think systemically and innovatively, and to

solidify your resilience and connection to your inner values. In addition, this

workbook aspires to provide each member of our Global Learning Community

with a shared platform upon which to develop a common language about

contemplative leadership.

You are invited to start using the workbook during the Dalai Lama Fellows’

Ethical Leadership Assembly, at the beginning of the Fellowship Year. During

the year, Fellows participate in at least two calls per month via phone or

Skype: the first call takes place either in a small group with other Fellows or as

a group dialogue with elder experts who exemplify contemplative leadership

in their approach to addressing pressing global challenges. The second call is a

one-on-one coaching session with a Program Director. Please note that we will

host a Seasonal Elder call most months. You are welcome to join these insteadof, or in addition to, a Fellows’ Circle call. Additionally, you are required to

participate in the monthly one-on-one check-in with the Program Directors.

You are expected to spend at least 10 minutes filling out an assigned

workbook prompt responding to the theme for each month. We encourage

you to share your reflections during the Circle call or the Seasonal Elder

call. The content discussed during this call is strictly confidential—please

see the “Group Learning Covenant” section of this workbook, where you

will determine group norms around confidentiality.



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By filling out the workbook prompts in advance of your monthly calls with

Fellows from around the world, you will develop a common understanding

of how “ethics as inner self-regulation” can help you address pressing global

challenges. By reflecting in this workbook again and again during the yearlong

Fellowship journey, you will deepen your self-awareness and your ability tobenefit your community. By sharing your reflections during our monthly calls,

you will deepen your ability to find synergies with Fellows’ from around the

world who are working to benefit their communities.

Monthly Time Commitment

10+ minutes: responding to workbook prompt

1-2 hour: Circle Call or Seasonal Elder Call (you can attend both)

1 hour: Monthly check-in with Program Director

Variable: Compassion-in-Action Project



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How can contemplative leadership deepen my ability to benefit my

community?

We believe that contemplative values and perspectives have the potential to

transform conflict and heal deep divisions by encouraging people to choosenew responses to old and familiar questions. Contemplative facilitators can

bring together people on many sides of an issue and help them be heard, feel

heard, and stay connected across differences.

In our Head, Heart, and Hands curriculum, contemplative practices are

practices that quiet the mind and open the heart in order to cultivate a

personal capacity for deep concentration, insight, discernment, awareness

of interdependency of all beings, love, compassion, forgiveness, and

reconciliation—all of which flourish when practices have been designed

to encourage them. At Dalai Lama Fellows, we recognize that a diversity of

contemplative practices will resonate with our Fellows, who bring a world of

different secular and religious perspectives to the group.

We encourage our Fellows to explore practices that deepen the following

qualities: waiting, empathetic listening, noticing, non-judgmental beholding,

effortlessness, heightened awareness of mental patterns, emotions, and

intuition.

Please see our glossary (at the end of this workbook) for additional definitions

of: secular ethics, contemplative practice, mindfulness, and other key terms.

To learn more, one good place to start is the book that inspired the definition

above: Contemplation Nation: How Ancient Practices Are Changing the Way We

Live.



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Purpose

We expect that our Fellows will spend the year passionately giving their

110% to their compassion-in-action projects. We believe that Fellows

who are engaged in a joint exploration of contemplative leadership will

challenge and inspire each other to discover how deeper engagementwith universal values can transform their work. Some of our Fellows

may already have pre-existing contemplative practices; others may be

new to such practices. This workbook is intended to meet each Fellow

where he or she is.

Skills & Objectives: The Head, Heart, & Hands Curriculum equips each Fellow

with frameworks and tools intended to deepen his or her engagement

with nine key skills:

Skill Learning Objective Deliverable

Mindfulness and

compassion

Shared understanding

of neuroscientific

and inter-religious

perspectives on

mindfulness and

compassion and

their connection totransformative social

change.

Fellows will learn

and practice breath-

focus exercises.

Fellows will learn and

practice their ability

to feel compassionfor self, close friends,

enemies, strangers.

Ethical Leadership Shared understanding

of what it means

to act ethically in

an interconnected

biosphere. Shared

understanding of how

contemplative values

relate to social change.

Ethical Leadership

Mission Statement

Project Mission

Statement



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Systems Thinking Fellows will develop a

shared understanding

of systems

thinking—a process

of understandinghow the relationships

among a system’s

parts can help you

identify and work

with natural forces

within the system

in order to skillfully

bring about change.

A list of principles

of leadership in

complex systems and

reflections on how to

apply these to yourown community.

Project Management Shared understanding

of the distinction

between private

and public victories.

Shared understanding

of the importance of

creating a system for

recording, reviewing,and prioritizing

tasks when juggling

multiple priorities.

A list of three

improvements

you want to make

to your existing

project management

practices.

Conflict resolution Shared

understanding of

divergent leadership

and conflict

management styles;

shared understanding

of empathetic

listening skills and

the role of inquiry in

dialogue.

Fourfold Way

Self-Assessment

Identify one

empathetic listening

skill you will

implement.

Identify your own

conflict management

style and triggers.



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Coalition Building Shared


to build coalitions

across differences.

Stakeholder Analysis

Design Thinking Shared


to use observation,

empathetic

interviewing, and

thinking-out-of-

the-box to design

responsive solutions

to pressing global

challenges.

List of principles

to apply to your

compassion-in-action

project.

Story-telling Shared


to use stories to move

others to action.

5 minute oral

presentation

connecting your

own story to your

compassion-in-action

project.

Discerning Impact Shared

understanding of

the need to define

benchmarks, goals,

outcomes in order

to benefit your

community in

tangible ways.

Articulate your

theory of change.

Create and frequently

revisit rubrics for

impact-assessment.



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Self-Assessment

So that we can gauge whether the curriculum is proving useful, Fellows

will participate in self-assessments before, in the middle of, and at the

end of, their fellowship year.

Aid: Seasonal Elders

Seasonal Elders, who are present at the ELA, will hold quarterly

“office hours.”

Elders specialize in: the Fourfold Way, Conflict Resolution, Systems

Thinking, Mindfulness, and Social Justice.

Exercise Calendar 2012-13

Dates Exercise # Name

Pre-ELA Stakeholder Analysis, Personal

Ethical Leadership Charter, Fourfold

Way Self-Assessment, Project Mission

Statement, Rubric, and Time Travel

ELA 1. Group Learning Covenant

ELA 2. Contemplative Practice & Social

Justice PrinciplesELA 3. Fourfold Way Reflections

ELA 4. Outward Bound Principles

ELA 5. Neuroscience of Mindfulness and

Compassion Principles

ELA 6. Empathetic Listening Principles

ELA 7. Project Management Principles

ELA 8. Design Thinking Principles

ELA 9. Alumni Presentation Take-Aways

ELA 10. Principles for using Inquiry toFacilitate Difficult Dialogues

ELA 11. Principles For Defusing Your Own

Triggers

ELA 12. Story-Telling Principles



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ELA 13. Systems Thinking Principles

ELA 14. Gratitude exercise

July 15. Mindfulness and Compassion

(Seasonal Elder Call with Chris

McKenna) AND/OR Circle Call. July 16. One-on-one call

Aug 17. Empathetic Listening (Seasonal Elder

Call with Dana Curtis) AND/OR Circle

Call.

Aug 18. One-on-one call

Sept 19. Circle: Discernment

Sept 20. One-on-one call

Oct 1 21. Discernment, Dialogue, and EthicalLeadership (Seasonal Elder Call with

Meenakshi Chakraverti) AND/OR

Circle Call.

Oct 22. One-on-one call

Nov 23. Fourfold Way Revisited (Seasonal

Elder Call with Angeles Arrien) AND/

OR Circle Call.

Nov 24. One-on-one

December Break for holidays, final exams.

Jan 3 25. One-on-one: Revisiting Ethical

Leadership Mission Statement,

Project Mission Statement, Rubric,

Self-Assessment

Jan 7 26. Systems & Design Thinking Revisited

(Seasonal Elder Call with Beth Sawin)

AND/OR Circle Call

Feb 27. One-on-one call

Feb 28. Patience & Social Change (Seasonal

Elder Call With Greg Hodge) AND/OR

Circle Call

March 29. One-on-one call



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March 30. Forgiveness (Seasonal Elder Call with

Dana Curtis) AND/OR Circle Call

April 31. One-on-one Call

April 32. Circle: Equanimity and Gratitude

May 33. One-on-one CallMay 34. Sharing Your Work with the

Community You are Serving

June 35. One-on-one Call: Revisiting Your

Charter, Goals, Values, and Self-

Assessments

June 36. Circle: Revisiting Your Charter, Goals,

Values, and Self-Assessments



Head, Heart, and Hands:The Journey Begins



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“The birds have vanished into the sky and now the last cloud drains away.We sit together the mountain and me, until only the mountain remains.” –Li Po

WORKBOOK EXERCISES

Exercises to be Completed Prior to the Ethical Leadership Assembly:

Tilling the Soil for the ELA

Objectives:

1.) Help you reach greater clarity and rigor about your compassion-in-action project.

2.) Inspire you!3.) Help us, Bidisha and Chris, better understand your values, strengths

and weaknesses, personal and project mission, and how you intendto measure success so that we can coach you more effectively.

Many thanks for putting aside about 2 hours to complete these exercises, andabout 2 hours for discussing the results with Chris or Bidisha! You’ll havea chance to share some of this information with your fellow Fellows at theEthical Leadership Assembly. We strongly believe that the more you preparefor the ELA, the more you will get out of the experience.

Deliverables expected:

All of you have shared the following with Bidisha and Chris. Please print outand staple your answers into this workbook:

1-3 paragraphs on the values exercise.1.)

1-3 paragraphs on the fourfold way exercise.2.)

An ethical leadership mission statement (2-3 sentences).3.)

A project mission statement (2-3 sentences).4.)

A draft rubric for measuring project success (you can use the table5.)

template below).A 1-3 paragraph letter in response to the “Time Travel” prompt.6.)

Stakeholder Analysis

(adapted from Gibran Rivera, Interaction Institute for Social Change).



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Answer the following questions about your compassion-in-action project.

Use a flow-chart/org-chart if necessary. Please staple your stakeholder

analysis to this page if you have already completed this exercise.

Who is responsible for key decisions?

Who might block what we are trying to do?

Who has relevant expertise or information?

Who are the implementers of key decisions?

Who will be affected by what we are trying to do?

Who will need to be informed about our outcomes?

What next steps present themselves after doing this exercise?



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VALUES:

From the Dalai Lama’s website: “Firstly, on the level of a human being,

His Holiness’ first commitment is the promotion of human values such as

compassion, forgiveness, tolerance, contentment and self-discipline. All human

beings are the same. We all want happiness and do not want suffering. Evenpeople who do not believe in religion recognize the importance of these human

values in making their life happier. His Holiness refers to these human values

as secular ethics. He remains committed to talk about the importance of these

human values and share them with everyone he meets.”

TASK: Here are some values that we will be engaging with throughout the year.

For now, please pick the value on this list that is most important to you. Please

see the Glossary at the end of this document to see how the Dalai Lama defines

these terms. In most cases we also provide dictionary definitions.

Some questions to consider:

Do you agree with our definition, or do you have a different definition?1.

Why is this value important for you?2.

When have you exercised this value in the past?3.

If you could have picked more than one top value, which others4.

would you have picked?

Which of these values is least important to how you live your life?5.Why?

Which of these values do you wish to cultivate more in your life?6.

Why?

What’s missing from this list that’s important to you? Feel free7.

to share a word/value that that stands out in your own language

and/or tradition.

1. Mindfulness

2. Compassion

3. Empathetic Listening

4. Discernment

5. Equanimity

6. Gratitude

7. Humility

8. Service

9. Courage

10. Self-discipline

11. Forgiveness

12. Stewardship

13. Interdependence

14. Universal Responsibility



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Fourfold Way (Adapted from Angeles Arrien)

The Fourfold Way is a course developed by Angeles Arrien, an eminent

cultural anthropologist who will be a faculty member at the Ethical

Leadership Assembly. Based on research into the worldviews of many

indigenous cultures from around the world, Angeles came up with four

different approaches to leadership. A person may lead in one primary

“direction” or a combination of two or more. The Fourfold Way can help

people work with more collaboratively across differences. It can help you

understand your strengths and areas where you can improve.

Please note that the language below may be unfamiliar and that the intention

is not to homogenize indigenous beliefs. Angeles will provide a full immersion

into the Fourfold Way at the ELA. Before then, please take the time to assesswhich parts of the Fourfold Way come easily to you, and which parts are more

challenging. Some of these questions may bring up very personal reflections

that go beyond the scope of your Fellowship commitment. You are welcome to

share these reflections with your program director if you like, but no pressure!

However, do come prepared to discuss your strengths and challenges.

From The Fourfold Way:

Optimum health is expressed in most cultures as a balance in all four areas:

Leading, Healing, Visioning, and Teaching. Cross-culturally these four areas

reflect the four human resources of Power, Love, Vision, and Wisdom. Most

of us tend to over-express one area, while leaving the others underdeveloped.

It is important to understand that these four ways are universal and available

to all humankind, regardless of context, culture, structure, and practice. The

Four-Fold Way™ Program is structured to develop all four areas with equal

emphasis to support optimum health, both individually and collectively, in our

family, workplace, and communities.



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The Way of the Warrior or Leader is to show up, or choose to be present.

Being present allows us to access the human resources of power, presence,

and communication. We express the way of the Leader through appropriate

action, good timing, and clear communication.

Key skills include: ability to honor and respect; ability to align words and

actions; ability to respect limits and boundaries; ability to be responsible and

disciplined; ability to demonstrate right use of power.

Shadow aspects: rebellion, authority issues, patterns of invisibility (hiding,

holding back, working behind the scenes, riding coattails of powerful people).

Ask and answer these questions regularly to develop the inner Warrior:

Is the good, true, and beautiful within me as strong as the whispers of1.

diminishment? (Or, in contemporary psychological terms, is my self-

worth as strong as my self-critic?) If you can answer yes, you are ready

to bring your power or “original medicine” to any situation. If you

cannot answer yes, find the empowerment tools you need.

Where do I lose my power? What particular people or situations ignite my2.

lack of courage?

What parts of me are currently at war with each other? What is the3.

major conflict I am currently experiencing in life? Where do I create

misunderstandings in my life? Do I say what I mean? Do I do what I say?

How do I respond when there is too much to do? How do I respond when4.

there is nothing to do?

Am I aware of my own limits and boundaries? Do I honor and respect the5.

limits and boundaries of others?

What is my connection to nature and to animals? Do I spend at least one6.

full hour outdoors every day?



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The Way of the Healer or Caretaker is to pay attention to what has heart

and meaning.

Paying attention opens us to the human resources of love, gratitude,

acknowledgment, and validation. We express the way of the Healer through

our attitudes and actions that maintain personal health and support the welfareof our environment. Healing involves the principle of reciprocity, the ability

to equally give and receive and the ability to connect. In order to maintain

health and well-being, we need to maintain the balance between growing and

receiving. Many indigenous peoples would say that the 8 principles of healing

(below) are ways a human being can stay in right relationship to Nature, and as

a result stay in right relationship to their own Nature.

Components of healing include:

Eight universals sustaining health and well-being:•

Healing is a lifelong journey towards wholeness.o

Healing is remembering what has been forgotten abouto

connection, and unity, and interdependence among all things

living and non-living.

Healing is embracing what is most feared.o

Healing is opening what has been closed, softening what haso

hardened into obstruction.

Healing is entering into the transcendent.o

Healing is creativity and passion and love.o

Healing is seeking and expressing self in its fullness, its lighto

and shadow, its male and female.

Healing is learning to trust life.•

Shadow aspect of the healer:•

Four addictionso

Addiction to intensity§

Addiction to perfection.§

Addiction to the need to know.§

Addiction to being fixated on what’s not working rather§

than what is working.



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Questions to ask yourself regularly if you want to develop your inner

healer:

Where am I full-hearted? Where am I clear-hearted? Where am I1.

open-hearted? Where am I strong-hearted? What shadow aspects, if any, are present in my life?2.

The Way of the Visionary or Creative Problem Solver is to tell the truth

without blame or judgment.

Truthfulness, authenticity, and integrity are keys to developing our vision and

intuition. We express the way of the Visionary through personal creativity,

goals, plans, and our ability to bring our life dreams and visions into the

world. Shadow aspects: becoming unwilling to tell the truth or give voice to

what we see, abandon ourselves (become covert, manipulative, weak-hearted),

and project positive and negative aspects of ourselves onto others.

Six ways to access our own guidance and wisdom•

Spend some time each day honoring your dreams by recordingo

them in a dream journal.

Make a commitment to practice truth-telling without blame oro

judgment on a daily basis.Spend at least fifteen minutes a day singing, humming, oro

chanting.

At least twice a year spend some extended time alone in nature too

revision, redream, and reflect.

Consciously extend prayer or nonverbal support to others (useo

creative visualizations, affirmations, and visual reminders).

Questions to ask yourself regularly if you want to develop your•

inner visionary:

What is my current capacity for truth-telling without blame1.

or judgment? (Practice truth-telling, and notice each day those

instances where you were able to express truth without blame).

In what situations and with what people do I find myself feeding the2.

shadow-aspects?



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The Way of the Teacher or Counselor is to be open to outcome, not

attached to outcome.

Openness and non-attachment help us recover the human resources of

wisdom discernment, and detachment. We express the way of the Teacher

through our constructive communication and informational skills.Components of wisdom include:

Six ways to access our own guidance and wisdom•

Spend a partition of each day in solitude or silenceo

Consciously make each day a focus for practicing wisdom—asko

yourself, am I able to wait instead of act in times of discernment?

Daily practices that prepare us for the art of dying and handlingo

the unfamiliar are situations where we say goodbye or when we

go to sleep. In both of these daily practices, learn to trust and let

go.

Questions to ask yourself regularly if you want to develop your•

inner teacher:

What is my tolerance level for silence and my capacity for beingo

alone?

What current fears am I addressing? What am I consciouslyo

ignoring?



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Ethical Leadership Mission Statement

“Ethics consists less of rules to be obeyed than of our principles for

inner self-regulation to promote those aspects of our nature which we

recognize as conducive to our own well-being and that of others… The

inner motivational dimension is the most important aspect of ethics. For

when our motivation is pure, genuinely directed toward the benefit of

others, our actions will naturally tend to be ethically sound. This is why

I consider compassion to be the core principle on which an entire ethical

approach can be built... An important part of serving others is using

discernment to assess the likely consequences of our own actions.”

--The Dalai Lama

At Dalai Lama Fellows, we believe that it is important for our Fellows tobe clear about their inner sense of purpose in serving their communities

and to engage in periodic discernment to evaluate whether their good

intentions are being translated into reality. Please write down your

ethical leadership mission statement in the space provided.

Preparing for this Exercise:

Please complete the “Values” exercise and the Fourfold Way•

exercise beforehand.

Recommended: You may find it helpful to write your own eulogy•

in third person (3 sentences max). What would you want people

to say about you at your death?

A few guidelines:

Your statement should begin with:

“As a member of a community committed to ethical action in•

an interconnected world, I ...”Please limit your charter to 1-3 sentences.•

It should represent a vision that you will always be working•

towards, but cannot reach.

It should be relevant, true, and inspirational.•

It should speak to your own unique gifts and talents.•



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It may include your social, mental, physical, and spiritual needs.•

It should not include project-specific goals or tasks. If you do want•

to include a goal or task, it should be large enough to fill the rest

of your life.

It should be larger than your involvement with Dalai Lama•

Fellows—this should be a statement you can carry with you

beyond your Fellowship year.

It should include your values, which reflect your deepest•

aspirations.

One possibility is to write a series of “embody” statements: (i.e. “I•

will embody courage and discernment in face of social injustice”).

Remember, you will have an opportunity to revise this statement•

at the ELA!

Please write down your Ethical Leadership Mission Statement below:



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“Before we can contemplate actively benefitting others, we must first of all

ensure that we do them no harm via our bodies, speech, and mind. We can

cultivate restraint by adopting an overall stance of caution. Also referred to as

heedfulness and conscientiousness – the sense of being careful and attentive.”

–Dalai Lama

Project Mission Statement

Create a three sentence project mission statement. It should draw on the

values in the “values” exercise, and address how you are using your unique

strengths (which you may have already identified using the Fourfold Way

exercise, or via other means) to serve your community. If you’re working on

a team, work with your colleague to discuss the values you hold in common

and create a joint project mission statement.



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Rubric

Each of you should already have created a framework for evaluating your

project’s success and your own personal growth. This framework should

consider your inputs, outputs, outcomes, and indicators. We encourage you tocreate rubrics for yourself so that you can discern: 1) whether you are meeting

your goal of serving your community 2) whether you are impacting the global

challenge you set out to address. We recognize that your understanding of the

problem at hand and how you can best address it will change—sometimes

dramatically. We will re-evaluate these rubrics several times during the course

of the year. We encourage you to do systematic qualitative interviews with

key stakeholders from the communities you are serving at the beginning and

end of your Fellowship year. Please ask your academic mentor for guidance

on how to do this if you need help. We firmly believe that you should measure

your impact—otherwise how will you know whether you are having a

beneficial effect?

Time-travel!

Write a letter to your Program Director dated June 2013. The title of the

letter is: “Why My Dalai Lama Fellowship Year was a Success.” In this letter,please address: i) Why was your year a success for the community you were

serving? ii) Why was your year a success for you personally? Please state

how you see yourself growing and changing, particularly with regard to

your understanding of one or more of the following values: Mindfulness;

Compassion; Empathetic Listening; Discernment; Patience; Equanimity/

Resilience; Gratitude; Humility; Service; Courage; Self-Discipline; Forgiveness;

Stewardship; Global Responsibility and Interdependence. iii) What was the

hardest value for you to integrate during the year? (If you want to write about

a different value, please do.) iv) Why was your Fellowship year a success for

the community of Fellows you have joined? In what ways did you show your

commitment to this community during your Fellowship year? v) Why was

your Fellowship year a success for your campus community? (Please staple

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Exercises to be Completed at the Ethical Leadership Assembly

“Compassion reduces our fear, boosts our confidence, and brings us inner

strength. By reducing our distrust, it opens us up to others and brings us a sense

of connection with them and a sense of purpose and meaning in life.”

–Dalai Lama

1. Group Learning Covenant

At the beginning of the ELA, the group will articulate aspirations for how

individuals will participate in the space. Please capture your notes from

the group learning covenant discussion, taking into account the following

questions:

What are the goals of this group?1.

What values will we uphold? (ex: honesty, respect, punctuality,2.

active listening, no paper cups)

What logistical agreements will everyone uphold throughout the3.

year? (ex: punctually complete workbook assignments, attend

bimonthly calls, confidentiality agreements, etc.)

How will the group honor differences in communication-style?4.

What constitutes a breach of trust?5.

How will the group respond to breaches of trust?6.



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2. Reflections on Ethical Leadership: The Open Road, Beyond Religion,

and Earth: Making Life on a Tough New Planet

What is ethical leadership? What insights will you carry with you from this

session?”



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3. Reflections On the Four Fold Way

What came up for you during this presentation? What will you carry with

you? Which aspects of the Fourfold Way are you strong in? Which aspects, if

any, are underdeveloped in you? What if anything did you learn about others’

leadership styles?



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4. Reflections on Outward Bound

“Self-confidence is not taught or learned; it is earned by surpassing your own

self-limitations.” –Outward Bound

What came up for you during this workshop? What will you carry with you?

What did you like most about the presentation? What did you like least? What

if anything did you learn about yourself? What if anything did you learn about

others?



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5. Reflections on the Neuroscience of Mindfulness and Compassion

After listening to the presentations so far, what is your current working

definition of mindfulness? What is your current working definition of

compassion? How do mindfulness and compassion relate to your Fellowship

year? What obstacles to deepening your mindfulness and compassion do youforesee during the year? What specific actions do you plan to take to overcome

these obstacles?

“How can you defy fear? Fear is a human instinct, just like hunger. Whether you

like it or not, you become hungry. Similarly with fear. But I have learned to train

myself to live with this fear.” --Shirin Ebadi



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5a. Reflections on Contemplative Practice and Social Change

What insights will you carry with you from this session? What did you like

least? What if anything did you learn about yourself? What if anything did you

learn about others?



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6. Empathetic Listening

After participating in the workshop, what is your working definition of

empathetic listening? What new skills, if any, did you learn today? How might

empathetic listening relate to ethical leadership as you seek to implement

your compassion-in-action project? What obstacles do you foresee? Whatspecific actions do you plan to take to overcome these obstacles?



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7. Project Management

After participating in this workshop, what insights have you gleaned into

aligning your values with how you spend your time on executing your

compassion-in-action project? What changes/improvements if any do you plan

to make? What obstacles do you foresee? What specific actions do you planto take to overcome these obstacles? How does project management relate to

ethical leadership? What role should self-compassion play in this realm?



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8. Design Thinking Workshop

What principles, if any, did you glean from this workshop? How does design

thinking relate to empathy, compassion, and ethical leadership? What

changes/improvements if any do you plan to make in your compassion-in-

action project? What obstacles do you foresee? What specific actions do youplan to take to overcome these obstacles?



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9. Alumni Fellows’ Presentation.

What insights, if any, did you glean from this workshop? What changes/

improvements if any do you plan to make in your own approach to problem-

solving? What approaches are you instinctively gravitating towards in your

own plan for the year? What can you learn about ethical leadership from thefailures and struggles of the alumni group?



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“The struggle has always been inner, and is played out in outer terrains.

Awareness of our situation must come before inner changes, which in turn come

before changes in society. Nothing happens in the “real” world unless it first

happens in the images in our heads.” –Gloria E. Anzaldua

10. The role of inquiry in dialogue.

What principles, if any, did you glean from this workshop? What are

your current working definitions of inquiry and dialogue? What changes/

improvements if any do you plan to make in your own approach to inquiry

and dialogue? How does inquiry and dialogue relate to compassion and ethical

leadership?



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11. Conflict Resolution Workshop

What principles, if any, did you glean from this workshop? What, if anything,

did you learn about your own conflict style and that of others? What did you

learn about your own triggers and how to manage them? How could these

concepts be useful for your compassion-in-action project? What obstaclesdo you foresee? What specific actions do you plan to take to overcome these

obstacles?



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12. Story-telling Workshop

What principles, if any, did you glean from this workshop? How could these

concepts be useful for your compassion-in-action project?



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“We can’t surge forward with certainty into a world of no surprises, but we

can expect surprises and learn from them and even profit from them. We can’t

impose our will upon a system. We can listen to what the system tells us, and

discover how its properties and our values can work together to bring forth

something much better than could ever be produced by our will alone. We can’tcontrol systems or figure them out. But we can dance with them!”

–Donella Meadows

13. Leveraging Systems Thinking for Social Change

What principles, if any, did you glean from this workshop? What is your

current working definition of systems thinking? How might gender, culture,

and other factors influence how you define a system? How can you apply

systems thinking to your own compassion-in-action project?



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14a. Living Your Values in Your Professional Life

What will you take away with you from this session?



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15. Gratitude

What role will gratitude and equanimity play during your compassion-in-

action project this year?

For inspiration, here is a gratitude-and equanimity-building exercise from theDalai Lama (from Angeles Arrien’s book Gratitude):

Spend 5 minutes at the beginning of each day remembering that1.

we all want the same thing: to be happy, to be loved, and to feel

connected.

Spend 5 minutes cherishing yourself and others. Let go of judgments.2.

With each breath, think: “Breathing in, I am cherishing myself.

Breathing out, I am cherishing others.” If the faces of people you are

having trouble with appear, cherish them as well.

During the day, extend that attitude to everyone you meet—we are3.

all the same—with “I cherish myself and you too (the store clerk, the

client, a family member, a coworker, a fellow bus-rider).”

Stay in the practice no matter what happens!4.



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Arena of Trials and Transformations



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“So many of our problems arise because, in our naïve untrained state, we

confuse our thoughts with actual reality. ... As we become more accomplished

in our practice, we come more and more to see the trainability of the mind.

We learn to substitute positive thoughts and feelings for negative ones and to

weaken the hold that afflictive thoughts and emotions have over our minds. It is important, however, to be clear that what we are talking about here is

not suppressing negative thoughts and emotions. Instead, we must learn to

recognize them for what they are and replace them with more positive states

of mind. And we do this not only to achieve self-mastery but also because

attaining this kind of control over our minds puts us in a much better position to

compassionately benefit others.” –The Dalai Lama

July Fellows’ Circle Call: Mindfulness and Compassion

In preparation for this call, please spend ten minutes reflecting in this

workbook. What role is mindfulness playing in your engagement with the

community you are serving? Is it possible to be compassionate without being

mindful? In what areas of your compassion-in-action project is it easy to

practice mindfulness and compassion? In what areas is it difficult? Please

come prepared to share a story. You are also encouraged to share pictures,

videos, songs, etc.



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“Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.” -- Dalai Lama

August Fellows’ Circle Call: Empathetic Listening

In preparation for this call, please spend ten minutes reflecting in thisworkbook. Can you recall a recent instance when you did an especially good

job of practicing empathetic listening during your compassion-in-action

project? Can you recall a recent instance when this practice was difficult?

What is deepening in your nature with regard to empathetic listening? Please

come prepared to share a story. You are also encouraged to share pictures,

videos, songs, etc.



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“What actually makes people happy is full engagement. You are most alive when

working at the limit of your abilities.” –Bill McKibben

September Fellows’ Circle Call: Project Management


workbook. Are you using the prioritization and time management strategies

discussed at the ELA? If not, what other strategies are working for you?

Please be prepared to share a story about a time when a project management

strategy helped facilitate a better outcome, or when lack of a strategy led to

a pitfall or challenge. Please come prepared to share a story. You are also

encouraged to share pictures, videos, songs, etc.



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“We must come together in ways that respect the solitude of the soul, that avoid

the unconscious violence we do when we try to save each other, that evoke our

capacity to hold another life without dishonoring its mystery, never trying to

coerce the other into meeting our own needs.” –Parker Palmer

October: Discernment and Ethical Leadership


workbook. First, please define what discernment means to you (check out the

glossary at the end of this workbook if you like). Please be prepared to share

a story about a time when discernment helped facilitate a better outcome, or

when lack of discernment led to a pitfall or challenge. You are also encouraged

to share pictures, videos, songs, etc.



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“Freeing yourself was one thing; claiming ownership of that freed self was

another.” –Toni Morrison

November Fellows’ Circle Call: Fourfold Way RevisitedIn preparation for this call, please spend ten minutes reflecting in this

workbook. Please reflect on the Fourfold Way approach to leadership.

Has seeing yourself through this lens improved your ability to serve your

community? What, if anything, is changing about your understanding of

leadership—within yourself and within others? What are you learning about

your own limitations and potential? Please come prepared to share a story.

You are also encouraged to share pictures, videos, songs, etc.



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Seasonal Elder Office Hours

Chris McKenna on Mindfulness & Compassion (July ‘12), Dana Curtis on

Empathetic Listening (Aug ’12), Meenakshi Chakravarti on Dialogue and

Inquiry (October ‘12), Angeles Arrien on the Fourfold Way (Nov ‘12), BethSawin on Systems Thinking (January ‘13), Greg Hodge on Social Justice

(March ‘13).

Please write down any insights you want to capture from these calls. Please

attend as many of these calls as you can fit into your schedule. If you cannot

attend a Seasonal Elder call, we expect you to participate in a Fellows’ Circle

call instead. You may attend both a Circle Call, and a Seasonal Elder call in the

same month.



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“For me, one of the major reasons to move beyond just the planting of trees

was that I have a tendency to look at the causes of a problem. We often

preoccupy ourselves with the symptoms, whereas if we went to the root cause

of the problems, we would be able to overcome the problems once and for all.”

–Wangari Maathai

January Fellows’ Circle Call: Systems Thinking, Design Thinking, and Your

Theory of Change


workbook. Please reflect on the Systems and Design Thinking workshops

at the ELA. How does systems thinking relate to your theory of how

transformative social change happens? Are there cases in your compassion-

in-action projects that reveal shortcomings in these approaches? Please comeprepared to share a story. You are also encouraged to share pictures, videos,

songs, etc.



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“Love is the absence of judgment.” –The Dalai Lama

February Fellows’ Circle Call: Withholding Judgment


workbook. What role is judgment playing in your engagement with thecommunity you are serving? What are the strongest positive and negative

judgments you have been making and receiving related to your project?

Are there cases in your compassion-in-action projects in which withholding

judgment is inappropriate? Please come prepared to share a story with the

group. You are also encouraged to share pictures, videos, songs, etc.



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“We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are

conscious of our treasures.” -Thornton Wilder

April Fellows’ Circle Call: Equanimity and GratitudeThe questions below are via Angeles Arrien:

Who or what is touching or moving you?a.

What is opening within your nature?b.

What is deepening within your nature?c.

What fosters ingratitude within you? How does this relate tod.

“afflictive emotions” like jealousy, envy, and/or your need for

recognition?



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“If one’s motivation is in any way connected to seeking one’s own benefit, this is

not genuine generosity.” –The Dalai Lama

May Fellows’ Circle Call: Sharing Your Work With Your CommunityReflect again on the stakeholder analysis framework used earlier. Have you

been effective at building coalitions and creating relationships with key

influencers? Are you sharing your outcomes with everyone who needs to be

informed? Please come prepared to share a story. You are also encouraged to

share pictures, videos, songs, etc.



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“Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.”

–Henry Ford

June Fellows’ Circle Call: Ethical Leadership After Your Fellowship Year

Mission Statement

As you prepare to return to the ELA, what do you wish to share with your

Fellows’ circle? How has your relationship to your personal ethical leadership

statement changed, if at all? How has your relationship to your project

mission statement changed, if at all?



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Dalai Lama Fellows Glossary

Please note that this glossary is a work in progress. Please see the bottom of

this document for sources. Where possible, we have tried to use the Dalai

Lama’s definitions. In cases where his definition is less accessible, or an expertor dictionary has a more concise definition, we have turned to these sources.

We encourage our Fellows to critically weigh these definitions against their

own understanding of these terms. We use the acronym HHDL to refer to His

Holiness the Dalai Lama

1. What is contemplative practice and how does it relate to social change?

We believe that contemplative values and perspectives have the potential to

transform conflict and heal deep divisions by encouraging people to choose

new responses to old and familiar questions. Contemplative facilitators can

bring together people on many sides of an issue and help them be heard, feel

heard, and stay connected across differences.

In our Head, Heart, and Hands curriculum, contemplative practices are

practices that quiet the mind and open the heart in order to cultivate a

personal capacity for deep concentration, insight, discernment, awarenessof interdependency of all beings, love, compassion, forgiveness, and

reconciliation—all of which flourish when practices have been designed

to encourage them. At Dalai Lama Fellows, we recognize that a diversity of

contemplative practices will resonate with our Fellows, who bring a world of

different secular and religious perspectives to the group.

We encourage our Fellows to explore practices that deepen the following

qualities: waiting, empathetic listening, noticing, non-judgmental beholding,

effortlessness, heightened awareness of mental patterns, emotions, and

intuition.

The definition above is indebted to Contemplation Nation: How Ancient

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2. What is mindfulness?

“Mindfulness is gathering awareness of your own patterns of behavior,

including thoughts and feelings, and learning to let go of those habits,

thoughts, and emotions, which are unhelpful.” --HHDL in Beyond Religion

“The most important meaning of mindfulness is recollection. The ability

to gather oneself mentally and thereby recall one’s core values and

motivation. Bringing presence of mind into everyday activities. With such

recollection, we are less likely to indulge our bad habits and more likely to

refrain from harmful deeds.” --HHDL in Beyond Religion

Please note that the above definition is grounded in the Tibetan understanding

of mindfulness, which is a little different from popular secular understanding

of the term. Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn defines mindfulness as, “Paying attention,

on purpose, in the present moment, as if your life depended on it, non

judgmentally.” At Dalai Lama Fellows, we are interested in engaging with both

definitions.

“In the mainstream, ‘contemplative practice’ is often used in a general

sense to denote various disciplines of practice concerned with the elevation,

expansion, and deepening of consciousness. Mindfulness is limited by itsreference to the ‘mind.’ In some contemplative traditions, the ‘heart’ is more

central than the ‘mind.’” --Contemplation Nation

3. What is compassion?

“Compassion is the foundation of well-being. Compassion is central to the

ethical teachings of all the major religious traditions, but in itself it is not areligious value.

Whether or not our kindness brings benefit to others will depend on a great

many factors, some of which will be outside of our control. But whether

we succeed in bringing benefit to others or not, the first beneficiary of

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in us and shifts our focus away from our own narrow self-interest, it is as if

we open an inner door. Compassion reduces our fear, boosts our confidence,

and brings us inner strength. By reducing our distrust, it opens us up to others

and brings us a sense of connection with them and a sense of purpose and

meaning in life.” --HHDL in Beyond Religion

4. What is secular ethics and how does it relate to compassion?

“Ethics consists less of rules to be obeyed than of our principles for inner

self-regulation to promote those aspects of our nature which we recognize as

conducive to our own well-being and that of others.

The very notion of ethics makes no sense without a consideration of

motivation. To describe ethics without reference to a level of motivation seems

very incomplete. The inner motivational dimension is the most important

aspect of ethics. For when our motivation is pure, genuinely directed toward

the benefit of others, our actions will naturally tend to be ethically sound.

This is why I consider compassion to be the core principle on which an entire

ethical approach can be built.” --HHDL in Beyond Religion

5. What is discernment?

“While intention is the first and most important factor in guaranteeing that

our behavior is ethical, we also need discernment to ensure that the choices

we make are realistic and that our good intentions do not go to waste.

Discernment also plays a crucial role in generating our own personal level of

ethical awareness. Ethical awareness, awareness of what will benefit both self

and others – does not arise magically, but comes from the use of reason.

When discernment is combined with a compassionate motivation, we have the

two key components of a comprehensive approach to ethics and spiritual well-

being in a secular context.” --HHDL in Beyond Religion



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6. What is empathetic listening?

“Empathic listening (also called active listening or reflective listening) is a

way of listening and responding to another person that improves mutual

understanding and trust and enables collaborative problem solving.” (Salem,2003). While, strictly speaking, empathetic listening is a skill, it is steeped

in the value of empathy--which the Dalai Lama defines as the instinctive

response to another’s suffering, and the urge to relieve it ( Beyond Religion).

To learn more about empathetic listening skills, please check out the

recommended readings on our website.

7. What is equanimity?

“With equanimity you can deal with situations with calm and reason, while

keeping your inner happiness.” (HHDL quoted by wisebrain.org)

Merriam Webster defines it as: “Evenness of mind especially under stress.”

Equanimity is also related to resilience, which Merriam Webster defines as

“ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change.”

8. What is gratitude?

“The quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to

return kindness.” (Dictionary.com). We believe that gratitude is closely related

to compassion and empathy.

“Every day, think as you wake up, today I am fortunate to be alive, I have

a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my

energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others; to achieve

enlightenment for the benefit of all beings. I am going to have kind thoughts

towards others, I am not going to get angry or think badly about others. I am

going to benefit others as much as I can.” --HHDL



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9. What is humility?

“A modest or low view of one’s own importance.” (Dictionary.com)

“Determination, courage, self-confidence are keys to success. In allcircumstances, we should remain humble, modest and without pride.” (HHDL

on Twitter)

10. What is service?

“Giving for the sake of giving, out of the spirit of generosity, with no strings

attached, and no money exchanged.” (Servicespace.com)

11. What is courage?

“We must generate courage equal to the size of the difficulties we face.”

(HHDL on Twitter)

“The root of the word courage is cor -- the Latin word for heart. In one of its

earliest forms, the word courage had a very different definition than it doestoday. Courage originally meant to speak one’s mind by telling all one’s heart.

Over time, this definition has changed, and, today, courage is more

synonymous with being heroic. Heroics are important and we certainly need

heroes, but I think we’ve lost touch with the idea that speaking honestly

and openly about who we are, about what we’re feeling, and about our

experiences (good and bad) is the definition of courage.

Heroics are often about putting our life on the line. Courage is about putting

our vulnerability on the line. If we want to live and love with our whole hearts

and engage in the world from a place of worthiness, our first step is practicing

the courage it takes to own our stories and tell the truth about who we are. It

doesn’t get braver than that.” --Dr. Brene Brown, social work professor and

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12. What is self-discipline?

“Living ethically requires not only the conscious adoption of an ethical outlook

but also a commitment to developing and applying inner values in our daily

lives.” (HHDL in Beyond Religion)

At Dalai Lama Fellows, we believe that self-discipline is a regular commitment

to self-discipline via examining both your own habitual mental patterns

and processes and areas of your compassion-in-action project that require

improvement. We encourage you to identify the steps required to make these

changes and to share your progress with the Program Directors and your

posse of Fellows.

13. What is forgiveness?

For the Dalai Lama, forgiveness has a lot to do with separating the actor from

the act. He believes it’s possible to judge a negative act as negative without

holding negative feelings towards the actor. He believes it’s closely related

to the concept of generosity. To read more, please check out The Wisdom of

Forgiveness: Intimate Conversations and Journeys by the Dalai Lama and Victor

Chan

14. What is stewardship?

“The conducting, supervising, or managing of something; especially: the careful

and responsible management of something entrusted to one’s care.” –Merriam

Webster dictionary

“As people alive today, we must consider future generations: a clean

environment is a human right like any other. It is therefore part of our

responsibility towards others to ensure that the world we pass on is as healthy,

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15. What is interdependence?

“Mutuality: a reciprocal relation between interdependent entities (objects or

individuals or groups).” (Princeton Wordnetweb)

“Now, if we extend this logic of dependence further—from the family out to

the community and society, to the national and international levels, and even

to the economy and environment—then we can see how interconnected we

are, how interdependent the world is. Given this reality, we cannot escape

the necessity for care toward each other. This has nothing to do with religion.

I’m not talking about God or Buddha. I’m talking about understanding and

appreciating this highly complex and interdependent world. Then, even from

the point of view of one’s own personal survival and well-being, one can argue

for an ethical system based on affection.” HHDL in an interview on the “Ethics

of Interdependence.”

16. What is global responsibility?

“In this age of globalization, the time has come for us to acknowledge that

our lives are deeply interconnected and to recognize that our behavior

has a global dimension.” (HHDL in Beyond Religion). HHDL uses this terminterchangeably with “universal responsibility.”

17. What are afflictive emotions?

“All those thoughts, emotions and mental events which reflect a negative or

uncompassionate state of mind undermine our experience of inner peace.

They are the source of unethical conduct and the basis of anxiety, depression,

confusion and stress, all features of our life today.” (HHDL in Beyond Religion)



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18. How can we deepen our lived engagement with secular ethics?

We can deepen our lived engagement with secular ethics on three levels:

“An ethic of restraint: Deliberately refraining from doing actual or potentialharm to others. Before we can contemplate actively benefiting others, we

must first of all ensure that we do them no harm via our bodies, speech, and

mind. We can cultivate restraint by adopting an overall stance of caution. Also

referred to as heedfulness and conscientiousness – the sense of being careful

and attentive.

An ethic of virtue: Actively cultivating and enhancing our positive behavior

and inner values (like patience, contentment, restraint, and generosity);

An ethic of altruism: Dedicating our lives, genuinely and selflessly, to the

welfare of others...An important part of serving others is using discernment to

assess the likely consequences of our own actions.” --HHDL in Beyond Religion



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Acknowledgements

The definitions above are drawn from HHDL’s Beyond Religion and from

Contemplation Nation: How Ancient Practices Are Changing the Way We Live

(edited by Mirabai Bush).

Additionally, we relied on Richard Salem’s definition of empathetic listening.

You can find more information on the website Beyond Intractability.

Bidisha Banerjee is the lead author on this workbook, but she is standing on

the shoulders of Marty Krasney, Chris Simamora, and Kate Frankfurt, her

colleagues at Dalai Lama Fellows. Bidisha would like to acknowledge Claire

Reinelt at the Leadership Learning Community, and Dr. Max Klau at City Year

for providing inspiration and support.

Finally, heartfelt thanks to the Ethical Leadership Assembly Faculty without

whom none of this would have been possible: Angeles Arrien, Outward Bound,

Chris McKenna, Emma Seppala, Dana Curtis, Lindsay Bellows, Salvador

Zepeda, Bill McKibben, Meenakshi Chakraverti, Fadi Rabieh, Jonah Sachs, Beth

Sawin, Gopi Kallayil, Deepa Gupta, Santhosh Ramdoss, Ben Fash, Greg Hodge,

and Jim Doty.

We gratefully acknowledge our Advisory Committee: Evan Alderson, Mirabai

Bush, Thupten Jinpa, Marty Krasney, Kavita Ramdass, and Ellen Schall.



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June 6, 2012

Ethical Leadership Assembly

Draft Schedule

All events will take place at the IONS campus in Petaluma.•

Please allow for five minutes at the end of each workshop so that Fellows•

can reflect in the Head, Heart, & Hands workbook. Location: On Sunday and Monday, June 17 and 18, we will be in the West•

Room. From Tuesday June 19 onwards, we will be in the Skylight Room.

This gathering has three overarching objectives:

Deepen1) each individual’s understanding of the relationship between

transformative social change, secular ethics, and contemplative values

(i.e. mindfulness, compassion, discernment, patience, forgiveness, self-discipline).

Build2) ethical leadership skills through highly interactive workshops

focusing on: mindfulness, compassion, empathetic listening, systems

thinking, design, storytelling, project management, coalition building, and

conflict transformation.

Transform3) a group of intergenerational strangers into a tight-knit global

learning community.



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June 17: What is Ethical Leadership?

Lunch On your own (starting with dinner on June 17, we willcover all meals until lunch on June 24)

12:15 p.m. Marin Airporter leaves SFO airport.

1:15 p.m. Arrive at IONS in Petaluma, unpack.

3-3:05 p.m. Dalai Lama video clip

3:05-3:10 p.m. Tiffany Shlain “Interconnected” video

3:10-3:20 p.m. Thupten Jinpa welcome video message

3:20-4:00 p.m. Dalai Lama Fellows staff introductions. Intro to facility, overviewof the week. Intro to Head, Heart, and Hands curriculum and

workbook. Group expectations around technology, punctuality,disagreements, etc. Fellows will co-create a group learningcovenant and norms.

4:00-5 p.m. “What is Ethical Leadership?” Bidisha will facilitate discussion ofbig ideas from Chapters 1 & 2 of Open Road: The Global Journeyof the 14th Dalai Lama; Chapter 1 of HHDL’s Beyond Religion, and excerpt from Bill McKibben’s Eaarth: Making Life on a Tough New Planet.

5-6 p.m. Fellows’ Introductions

6-7:15 p.m. Dinner

7:15-8:15 p.m. Team-Building Game (Greg Hodge): Forming, storming, norming,performing. Diversity: full appreciation for the differentviewpoints in the room.

June 18 Vision

7:30-8 a.m. Exercise (Chris), open yoga studio, meditation, or morning walk

8-8:45 a.m. Breakfast

8:50-9 a.m. Temperature Check (Bidisha/Chris)

9-12:00 a.m. Fourfold Way (Angeles Arrien)

12:00-1:00 p.m. Lunch



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1:00-6:00 p.m. Outward Bound: team-building

6-7:15 p.m. Dinner

7:15-8 p.m. 5 mins in silence. Fellows will share background on their projects,and give each other feedback on values, personal mission

statement,project mission statement, and rubrics. (Greg)

June 19 Breathe, Listen, and Learn

7:30-8 a.m. Exercise (Chris), yoga, meditation, or morning walk



9-10:30 a.m. Contemplative Practice and Social Justice (Chris McKenna)

10:45-12:15 p.m. The Neuroscience of Mindfulness and Compassion(Emma Seppala)

12:30-1:30 p.m. Lunch

1:30-2:30 p.m. Service (if you finish early, take a nap!)

2:30-5:30 p.m. Empathetic Listening (Dana Curtis)

5:30-6 p.m. Break

6-7:15 p.m. Dinner

7:15-9 p.m. Using music and art, Fellows will create a group vision.(Greg Hodge).

June 20 Balance and Design

7:30-8 a.m. Yoga, meditation, or morning walk



9 a.m.-noon Project Management (Lindsay Bellows)



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12-12:30 Break

12:30 - 1:30 p.m. Lunch


2:30-5:00 p.m. Design Thinking (Salvador Zepeda)

5:00-6 p.m. Break

6-7:15 p.m. Dinner (Alumni Fellows arrive). New Fellows encouraged to sitwith alums.

7:15-7:30 p.m. Silent meditation/contemplative walk

7:30 p.m. Games (optional)

June 21 Dialogue Across Differences

7:30-8 a.m. Exercise (Chris), yoga, meditation, or morning walk



9-12:30 p.m. Alumni Fellows’ presentations + hot-desking with new Fellows.

12:30 - 1:30 p.m. Lunch


2:30-5 p.m. Inquiry and Conflict Transformation (Meenakshi Chakraverti)

5:15-5:45 p.m. Perspective on the Dalai Lama (Tenzin Tethong)

6-7 p.m. Dinner

7-9 p.m. Recognizing your own conflict styles, triggers; (Fadi Rabieh)



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June 22 Systems Thinking, Story-telling, and Coalition-Building


8:00-8:50 a.m. Breakfast


9-9:30 a.m. Bill McKibben video message and discussion

9:45-11 a.m. Story-telling (Jonah Sachs)

11 to 12 Story-telling Workshop (Greg Hodge)

12-12:30 Break

12:30-1:30 Lunch

1:30-2:00 Service (if you finish early, take a nap!)

2:15-6:15 Systems Thinking (Beth Sawin)

6:30-7:30 Dinner

7:30-9 PANEL: Living Your Values in Your Professional Life(Gopi Kallayil, Deepa Gupta, Santhosh Ramdoss)

June 23 Collaboration in an Interconnected Biosphere


8:00-8:45 a.m. Breakfast


9-12:30 Golden Gate Bridge Walk

12:30-1:30 p.m. Lunch


2:30-4 p.m. Alumni Fellows Envision Alumni Network (Chris)Current Fellows Create Communication Structures for YearAhead (Bidisha)

4-5:30 p.m. Beads (Greg Hodge).



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5:30-6 p.m. Message from the 14th Dalai Lama (Jim Doty)

6-7:15 p.m. Closing Dinner

7:15-9 Open Mic Night

June 24 Departure (schedule may be compressed depending onFellows’ departure times)


8-9 a.m. Breakfast

9:15-10 Closing Reflections (Greg Hodge)

10:00-noon Packing and goodbyes

Noon-1 Lunch

1 p.m. Vans depart for airport



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Asking the Right Questions

Question Formulation Technique (inspired by the Right Question Institute)

Before coming to a Fellows’ Circle call, a call with Elder Experts, or to a one-on-one

coaching session, you may find it useful to:

Set a timer and spend 5 minutes brainstorming any and all the questions1.

related to your compassion-in-action-project and/or the nine key skills that the

Fellowship program emphasizes. Write down all these questions.

Spend 2 minutes looking at any yes/no questions. What happens if you change2.

them to more open-ended questions and vice versa?

Rank your top three questions.3.

Members of the first class of Dalai Lama Fellows found this technique to be an

extremely empowering resource. It can help you get to the essence of what is mostresonant, for you and for others, very quickly. Visit the Right Question Institute’s

website to learn more about how this technique has empowered students, migrant

workers, community health-center patients, and many other groups.

Additional Readings

Ethics for the New Millennium1. by the Dalai Lama

The Art of Happiness: A Handbook for Living 2. by the Dalai Lama and Howard

Cutler

Anatomy of Peace 3. by the Arbinger Institute

Leadership and Self-Deception 4. by the Arbinger Institute

Mountains Beyond Mountains5. by Tracy Kidder

Eco-Mind: Changing the Way We Think to Create the World We Want6. by Francis

Moore Lappé

Honor Code: How Moral Revolutions Happen7. by Kwame Anthony Appiah

The Honest Truth About Dishonesty: How We Lie to Everyone8. ( Especially

Ourselves) by Dan Ariely

Infinite Vision: How Aravind Became the World’s Greatest Business Case for9.

Compassion by Pavithra K. Mehta and Suchitra Shenoy

Power and Love: A Theory and Practice of Social Change10. by Adam Kahane

Pedagogy of the Oppressed11. by Paulo Freire

(Please see the Reading List section of our website for readings by ELA Faculty)



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2012-13 Dalai Lama Fellows



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