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AnneMarie’s Peace Corps Service in Benin: Month 5 Marriage Proposals “L’eau est glace; il faut boire”* are the exact words she said to me. Yes, she, a female neighbor of mine who was petitioning her husband for me to marry. I couldn’t believe her eagerness to pawn off her husband on me—don’t most of these women feel repulsed about bringing another woman into the home? What benefit does another woman and more children have for their household? I have become accustomed to men proposing, but a woman? In retrospect, I was shocked. I could really only interpret this act in three ways: 1) that I’m an okay white person and she really likes that I know how to make cake; 2) she hates her husband and wants him out of her house; or 3) she genuinely wants another woman around. If the first were true, I’m flattered. But only in the way a white person in Africa would be (not really flattered, because they think everything I have and do is amazing). If the second were true, I’m not surprised at all. I am surprised that she would be actively looking for another female, however. She would most definitely be a smart woman, in my opinion, in this case. If the third were true, this would be the most surprising of all to me. So I have to ask myself, what is the benefit of another woman? When a man has multiple wives in Benin, he is viewed as a patron—a man with a lot of money and, to some extent, power. Most of the time though it usually just means that money is doled out to more people, and there is subsequently less of it to go around. Less money requires a woman to find work to pay for her children to go to school. More work can often mean a harder life, and potentially an unpleasant life. However, if there is another woman it is possible for these tasks to be shared and perhaps she, too, will be seen has having a lot of money if there are more women in the household. Or perhaps it’s a combination of the first and the third, because most people are quite adamant about having you rest au Benin. *The water is cold; it is necessary that you drink. Scoreboard Sick Days: 1 out of 150 Marriage Proposals: 5 Reading List Read “The Sweet Life in Paris” by David Lebovitz “The Opposite of Loneliness” by Marina Keegan “The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business” by Charles Duhigg “Congratulations, By the Way: Some Thoughts on Kindness” by George Saunders “The Four Fold Way: Walking the Path of the Warrior, Teacher, Healer, and Visionary” by Angeles Arrien Death of a Salesman by Arthur Miller “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie “Love Poems” by Pablo Neruda “Price of Fame: The Honorable Clare Boothe Luce” by Sylvia Jukes Morgan “Shadows of the Sun: Travels to Landscapes of Spirit and Desire” by Wade Davis “Tiny Beautiful Things” by Cheryl Strayed “A Walk in the Woods” by Bill Bryson “Bossypants” by Tina Fey “How to Grow More Vegetables” by John Jeavons “Cooked: A Natural History of Transformation“ by Michael Pollen “Night of the Gun” by David Carr Reading “Wild Fermentation: The Flavor, Nutrition, and Craft of LiveCulture Foods” by Sandor Katz “Third Plate: Field Notes on the Future of Food” by Dan Barber “The Accidental Investment Banker: Inside the Decade That Transformed Wall Street” by Jonathan Knee Favorite Passage this Month: “By the time I headed home to the land of obscenely stocked supermarket shelves, I had come to the conclusion that no matter what I said or did, my presence in Africa served only to glamorize the capitalist world order, adding to the seductive allure that if you abandon you traditional culture, educate your kids in colonial languages at missionary schools, and grow cacao beans for export, maybe someday you’ll accumulate the kind of excess wealth to travel to the other side of the globe, just for fun and stimulation.” Sandor Katz

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Anne-­‐Marie’s  Peace  Corps  Service  in  Benin:  Month  5  

 Marriage  Proposals  “L’eau  est  glace;  il  faut  boire”*  are  the  exact  words  she  said  to  me.  Yes,  she,  a  female  neighbor  of  mine  who  was  petitioning  her  husband  for  me  to  marry.  I  couldn’t  believe  her  eagerness  to  pawn  off  her  husband  on  me—don’t  most  of  these  women  feel  repulsed  about  bringing  another  woman  into  the  home?  What  benefit  does  another  woman  and  more  children  have  for  their  household?  I  have  become  accustomed  to  men  proposing,  but  a  woman?  In  retrospect,  I  was  shocked.  I  could  really  only  interpret  this  act  in  three  ways:  1)  that  I’m  an  okay  white  person  and  she  really  likes  that  I  know  how  to  make  cake;  2)  she  hates  her  husband  and  wants  him  out  of  her  house;  or  3)  she  genuinely  wants  another  woman  around.      If  the  first  were  true,  I’m  flattered.  But  only  in  the  way  a  white  person  in  Africa  would  be  (not  really  flattered,  because  they  think  everything  I  have  and  do  is  amazing).  If  the  second  were  true,  I’m  not  surprised  at  all.  I  am  surprised  that  she  would  be  actively  looking  for  another  female,  however.  She  would  most  definitely  be  a  smart  woman,  in  my  opinion,  in  this  case.  If  the  third  were  true,  this  would  be  the  most  surprising  of  all  to  me.  So  I  have  to  ask  myself,  what  is  the  benefit  of  another  woman?  When  a  man  has  multiple  wives  in  Benin,  he  is  viewed  as  a  patron—a  man  with  a  lot  of  money  and,  to  some  extent,  power.  Most  of  the  time  though  it  usually  just  means  that  money  is  doled  out  to  more  people,  and  there  is  subsequently  less  of  it  to  go  around.  Less  money  requires  a  woman  to  find  work  to  pay  for  her  children  to  go  to  school.  More  work  can  often  mean  a  harder  life,  and  potentially  an  unpleasant  life.  However,  if  there  is  another  woman  it  is  possible  for  these  tasks  to  be  shared  and  perhaps  she,  too,  will  be  seen  has  having  a  lot  of  money  if  there  are  more  women  in  the  household.  Or  perhaps  it’s  a  combination  of  the  first  and  the  third,  because  most  people  are  quite  adamant  about  having  you  rest  au  Benin.    *The  water  is  cold;  it  is  necessary  that  you  drink.              

           

Scoreboard  Sick  Days:  1  out  of  150  Marriage  Proposals:  5  

Reading  List  Read  “The  Sweet  Life  in  Paris”  by  David  Lebovitz  “The  Opposite  of  Loneliness”  by  Marina  Keegan  “The  Power  of  Habit:  Why  We  Do  What  We  Do  in  Life  and  Business”  by  Charles  Duhigg  “Congratulations,  By  the  Way:  Some  Thoughts  on  Kindness”  by  George  Saunders  “The  Four  Fold  Way:  Walking  the  Path  of  the  Warrior,  Teacher,  Healer,  and  Visionary”  by  Angeles  Arrien  Death  of  a  Salesman  by  Arthur  Miller  “How  to  Win  Friends  and  Influence  People”  by  Dale  Carnegie  “Love  Poems”  by  Pablo  Neruda  “Price  of  Fame:  The  Honorable  Clare  Boothe  Luce”  by  Sylvia  Jukes  Morgan  “Shadows  of  the  Sun:  Travels  to  Landscapes  of  Spirit  and  Desire”  by  Wade  Davis  “Tiny  Beautiful  Things”  by  Cheryl  Strayed  “A  Walk  in  the  Woods”  by  Bill  Bryson  “Bossypants”  by  Tina  Fey  “How  to  Grow  More  Vegetables”  by  John  Jeavons  “Cooked:  A  Natural  History  of  Transformation“  by  Michael  Pollen  “Night  of  the  Gun”  by  David  Carr    Reading  “Wild  Fermentation:  The  Flavor,  Nutrition,  and  Craft  of  Live-­‐Culture  Foods”  by  Sandor  Katz  “Third  Plate:  Field  Notes  on  the  Future  of  Food”  by  Dan  Barber  “The  Accidental  Investment  Banker:  Inside  the  Decade  That  Transformed  Wall  Street”  by  Jonathan  Knee  -­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐-­‐  Favorite  Passage  this  Month:  “By  the  time  I  headed  home  to  the  land  of  obscenely  stocked  supermarket  shelves,  I  had  come  to  the  conclusion  that  no  matter  what  I  said  or  did,  my  presence  in  Africa  served  only  to  glamorize  the  

capitalist  world  order,  adding  to  the  seductive  allure  that  if  you  abandon  you  traditional  culture,  educate  

your  kids  in  colonial  languages  at  missionary  schools,  and  grow  cacao  beans  for  export,  maybe  

someday  you’ll  accumulate  the  kind  of  excess  wealth  to  travel  to  the  other  side  of  the  globe,  just  for  fun  

and  stimulation.”  -­‐  Sandor  Katz    

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Anne-­‐Marie  Mitchell,  PCV  wwwwwwwwwwwnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn                                                www    http://amzn.com/w/199IPEL6YOWRR  Corps  de  la  Paix  Americainnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn                                              nnnnnnnnnnn  foodfarmafrica.wordpress.com  01  B.P.  971  Cotonou,  Benin    Afrique  de  l’Ouest  (West  Africa)  

In-­‐Betweens  Being  in  the  Peace  Corps  is  the  equivalent  to  being  in  a  strange  grey  area  of  life  and  human  existence  (in  terms  of  development).  I  see  this  in  three  different  areas:  being  in  village/a  developing  country,  a  volunteer’s  personal  life,  and  the  Peace  Corps  itself.      In  regards  to  the  first,  volunteers  are  placed  in  countries  that  aren’t  completely  without  modern-­‐ities  (electricity,  technology,  vehicles)  but  yet  we  are  without  adequate  services  to  maintain  these  modern-­‐ities.  Further,  it  seems  as  though  with  these  technologies,  people  could  have  the  access  to  better  resources  or  knowledge.  There  seems  to  be  some  missing  links  that  many  people  attribute  to  a  lack  of  money  when  it  may  be  actually  rooted  in  a  lack  of  education/abstract  thinking  or  sufficient  childhood  nutrition  for  sufficient  brain  development,  or  perhaps  a  combination  of  all  of  the  above.    For  the  volunteer,  some  come  into  their  service  wanting  a  “true”  Peace  Corps  experience—no  computers,  no  electricity,  no  running  water—while  others  maintain  that  these  are  an  absolutely  necessity  (myself  included—I  think  I  would  be  a  very  unhappy  camper  without  electricity).  Moreover,  many  volunteers  are  in  between  school  and  “real  world”  jobs  with  hopes  of  somehow,  in  this  ramshackle  village  with  beaucoup  de  temp  on  our  hands,  figuring  out  or  somehow  stumbling  upon  our  true  calling.      With  these  in  mind,  the  governing  entity  of  our  experience  itself,  the  Peace  Corps,  equally  struggles  to  service  these  in-­‐betweens.  They  transmit  “important”  letters  via  email  (nevermind  that  the  internet  service  in  village  is  horrible)  or  via  text  with  the  cell  phone  you  are  issued  upon  arrival.  Reports  from  a  volunteer’s  teachings/capacity  building  trainings  need  to  be  submitted  via  an  online  platform.  And  for  our  stage  in  particular,  we  were  gifted  tablets  that  really  only  work  well  with  continuous  access  to  WiFi.      It’s  a  strange  time  indeed  for  all  volunteers  trying  to  maintain  connectivity  yet  also  be  removed  from  the  Western  world  as  well  as  see  development  while  also  maintaining  what  makes  these  communities  unique.        Story  Time  

People  always  have  stories  to  share.  They  talk  of  their  family  friend  who  got  tapeworm  in  Africa,  an  acquaintance  that  visited  the  continent  and  left  with  an  incurable  parasite.  I  knew  someone  who  came  back  with  lice,  another  who  came  back  with  TB.  Before  coming  to  Benin,  this  painted  a  terrifying  picture  of  Africa  for  me.  Yes,  there  are  certainly  some  volunteers  who  knowingly  (or  unknowingly)  take  the  chance  of  getting  a  parasite  or  nasty  intestinal  bacteria,  but  for  me,  my  stories  have  tended  toward  rather  mundane  occurrences.  Like  as  of  late,  when  I  fell  in  an  uncovered  manhole.  I  shall  dismiss  the  first  assumption  and  say  that  I  was  not  even  close  to  inebriated.  I  was  grateful  to  hear  afterward  that  I  was  not  the  only  one  to  have  done  this,  as  the  grosse  bruising  remaining  from  the  fall  offers  more  than  enough  embarrassment  of  my  inattentiveness.  But  rather  than  question  what  in  the  hell  I  was  thinking  walking  without  looking  one  step  in  front  of  me,  I  think  we  should  ask  the  more  pressing  question  here:  why  are  people  stealing  manhole  covers  in  Cotonou?    

 A  funeral  outside  my  concession—a  car  arrived  with  the  body,  everyone  sang  and  danced,  the  driver  needed  to  be  paid  before  releasing  the  body,  and  then  the  body  was  placed  in  a  glass  enclosed,  air  conditioned  case  before  being  buried.    

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Anne-­‐Marie  Mitchell,  PCV  wwwwwwwwwwwnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn                                                www    http://amzn.com/w/199IPEL6YOWRR  Corps  de  la  Paix  Americainnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn                                              nnnnnnnnnnn  foodfarmafrica.wordpress.com  01  B.P.  971  Cotonou,  Benin    Afrique  de  l’Ouest  (West  Africa)  

 Night  markets,  kept  illuminated  by  kerosene  lamp  torches.      

 I  finally  made  it  to  AfricaRice!