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Wo unds Pt. 2Wo unds Pt. 2

PURPOSEPURPOSEDivorcing the past to advance into the

future.

Have you ever been stung by a bee?

Until the “stinger” is removed the

wound cannot and will not heal.

LET US REMOVE THE STINGER OF THE PAST

TODAY!• The stinger is the

past. • Our problems are

connected to an event or series of events.

• Question: What event(s) is our hurt tied to?

Purpose is attempting to pull us away from the past, but instead we choose to hold on.

• A solution is A LIQUID, and the answer that settles overdrawn accounts.

• WE CANNOT DRAW FROM OVERDRAWN ACCOUNTS BECAUSE THERE IS NO VALUE PRESENT.

We do not need to forget the past, we need to FOR- GIVE the past, and the people, places and things connected to it. FOR - GIVE - NESS IS A RELEASING, A LETTING GO OF THE PAST.

Everything heals from the inside out. All deep cleanings hurt.

We CHOOSE to sleepwalk (Mentally and Physically) because we don't want to feel anything. We don't want to be hurt. We have become insensitive to our actions because these were norms that were established in our lives from previous (DYSFUNCTIONAL) environments.

Skit # 1

I AM SORRY.

I AM SORRYSORRY (Adjective describing a

noun.)

“I” is the noun being describing which is “YOU.”

“I APOLOGIZE.” Apologize is a verb that denotes the action

weare taking.

It is not who we ARE, it is the action andposition we are taking. Taking responsibilityfor our actions.

Word of Wisdom #1: If we refuse to address our heart issues when the money cometh we will be broke (in $) because of a broken heart that has not be made WHOLE. A broken-fragmented heart equals a broken-fragmented life, and paints a picture of inconsistency and instability.

"Brokenness" in terms of humility allows us to become whole (stable and consistent) when handling money.

Skit#2

“BUT”

Indicators of someone who is emotionally wounded• Over-Sensitivity - "You hurt my feelings."• Irresponsibility (Unrealistic Expectations) - "You do it." • Irritability - "You get on my nerves."• Timidness (Shyness) - "I don't want to stand up and

speak."• Anger (Isolation) - "Leave me alone!"• Defensive (Unwillingness to accept supervision) - "No, I

don't want to do it."• Unforgiveness - "I want to break up."• Pride - "Me... Me... Me... What about me?"• Envy - "Look at what they got."• Jealously - "She thinks she's all that."• The Blame Game - "It's your fault.” “You always do

that.”

Remember: Our problems are connected to

an event or series of events.Let's use the 5WsWho did this to me?What did they do to me?Why did they do this to me?When did they do this to me?Where did this take place?

The hurt or pain we endured was not our fault. We did not deserve this abuse. We NOW have to take the RESPON-siblity to make the decision to get healed.