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6 Ways To Improve Communication In Your Marriage by Aaron & April Jacob, familyshare.com (Oct 25, 2015) COMMUNICATION.It always seems to be the answer people

give when they are asked about how to have a great marriage. Why is that?L ione l Kendr i ck once sa id , "Our

communications reflect in our countenance. Therefore, we must be careful not only what we communicate, but also how we do so. Souls can be strengthened or shattered by the message and the manner in which we communicate.”Healthy communication skills don't come

naturally to most of us. However, they are so vital to building a strong and happy

marriage. Thankfully, these skills can be learned, practiced and developed. Try one of these six tips to improve communication in your marriage this week:1. CREATE A TALK RITUALA talk ritual is a specific time that is set

aside from everything else in the day for the two of you to talk face-to-face. About life. To laugh together. To console each other. To counsel about important issues together. To complain about that guy at work with each other. To just catch up and take each other's emotional temperatures. You two need this time together. Your marriage needs it. (Plus, your kids need the benefit of parents with a healthy and happy marriage.)2. CONTROL YOUR TEMPERIf you want to improve communication in

your marriage, then please remember that there is simply no room for name calling, yelling, verbal abuse or criticism. There just isn't. Those things don't work. So what works? Controlling your temper works."You have to give and take in marriage.

Another thing is a soft answer, keeping your voice down. Don't lose your temper. Speak quietly. There will be differences, but don't get stirred up over them. Just be quiet and calm and speak softly one to another." -Gordon B. Hinckley3. TRY AND SEE THINGS FROM THE OTHER PERSON'S PERSPECTIVE AND ACKNOWLEDGE HIS OR HER FEELINGSSeek to understand your spouse's

thoughts and feelings, and to then help him

or her feel validated. Refrain from giving advice unless your spouse asks for it.If you really want to figure out this one, just watch It’s Not About The Nail (YouTube).Do it.4. BODY LANGUAGE SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDSYes, your spouse will notice your eye-

rolling. Instead of talking at each other across the room, sit next to each other, put your arm around your wife or touch his knee. Don't fold your arms and look away from your spouse. Maintain eye contact and look at your spouse when they are talking to you. Be engaged in the conversation and set aside other distractions like your phone, planner or TV.5. SHARE OPENLY AND FREELY (BUT, POLITELY)Don't hold back, simply say what you

mean. Don't beat around the bush. If you want ice cream, say you want ice cream. If something bothered you about the way your spouse handled a situation, let them know why it bothered you. However, this doesn't mean you should ever attack or criticize your spouse. Be honest, optimistic and respectful about your feelings, about what you want, about challenges you may be facing, etc. Be open with your spouse, even - no, especially - when that requires you to be vulnerable.6. LISTEN. LISTEN. LISTENA story is told of a man who learned about

listening from his wife."His good-humored love for Ida was

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Daily Scriptures Nov 21 Ez 12-13, Ps 119:105-112, Eph 4 Nov 22 Ez 14-15, Ps 119:113-120, Eph 5-6Nov 23 Ez 16, Ps 119:121-128, Phil 1-2 Nov 24 Ez 17-18, Ps 119:129-136, Phil 3-4 Nov 25 Ez 19-20, Ps 119:137-144, Col 1-2 Nov 26 Ez 21-22, Ps 119:145-152, Col 3-4 Nov 27 Ez 23, Ps 119:153-160, 1Thes 1-2

Transformative Articles ~ 6 Ways To Improve Communication In Your Marriage~ Chaplain Charles Watters, MOH Winner~ He Nourishes and Cherishes Her

Spiritual Forge Pg 4~ Scripture, Prayer and Discipleship

Training Pg 5~ Eagle Ethics, JLPD (11 Oct - 13 Dec)~ Family Resiliency Through Martial Arts

Things of Interest ~ Today In Church History Pg 2 ~ Surviving the Elements Pg 3 ~ Bible Trivia Quiz Pg 4

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VOL. 7, NO. 8 NOVEMBER 21, 2016manifested in many ways. He delighted in telling of her hearing loss. 'I once went to see a doctor about her hearing,' he would say. 'He asked me how bad it was, and I said I didn't know. He told me to go home and find out. The doctor instructed me to go into a far room and speak to her. Then I should move nearer and nearer until she does hear. Fo l lowing the doctor 's instructions, I spoke to her from the bedroom while she was in the kitchen-no answer. I moved nearer and spoke again-no answer. So I went right up to the door of

the kitchen and said, "Ida, can you hear me?" She responded, "What is it, Marion-I've answered you three times.”"You and your spouse are probably better

communicators than you think. So, keep it up! Pick one of these suggestions to try this week, and see how it truly begins to nurture healthy communication in your marriage.

Chaplain Charles Watters, MOH Winner by Author, thechaplainkit.com (Nov 19, 2016) On 19 November 1967 Chaplain Charles

Watters was killed in action, selflessly serving Soldiers in Vietnam. He later posthumously received the Congressional Medal of Honor.Chap la in (MAJ) Char les Wat te rs

conducting worship in Vietnam. Waters later died in the battle for Hill 875 at Dak To on November 19, 1967 “Born in Jersey City, New Jersey, on 17

January 1927, Watters was ordained a Roman Catholic priest in 1953 and served in parishes in Jersey City, Rutherford, Cranford, and Paramus. In 1962, he became a chaplain in the New Jersey Air National Guard. In 1964, Watters entered the Army as a chaplain at Fort Dix, New Jersey.“In July 1966, Chaplain Watters was

assigned to the Republic of Vietnam and served with Company A, 173d Support Battalion, 173d Airborne Brigade. Although he was officially assigned to the 173d S u p p o r t B a t t a l i o n , Wa t t e r s o f t e n accompanied the brigade’s line units into the field. In July 1967, after completing his twelve-month tour, he voluntarily extended his tour by another six months.

“In November 1967, Chaplain Watters was with  2d Battalion, 503d Infantry, as the battalion took part in the bloody fighting for Hill 875 around Dak To. For Watters, the culminat ion of the batt le came on 19 November. During that day, an intense fire fight broke out with the enemy forces. Without thinking of his own safety, Watters began to rush out on the battle field to help collect the dying and wounded and bring them to safety. Completely exposed, Chaplain Watters administered the Sacrament of Last Rites to his dying men. Every time his unit began to charge the front line, Watters was ahead picking up the wounded and administering the sacraments to those who had fallen. He also helped carry others to safety, including a paratrooper who was in shock and unable to move from his exposed position.“After hours of intense fighting and with

the perimeter of the battlefield in a state of

constant confusion, Chaplain Watters continued to maintain his composure in a time of severe crisis. For hours after the initial fighting, he kept venturing out between friendly and enemy lines picking up the wounded, providing the exhausted soldiers with food and water, administering the sacraments, and helping the medics give aid to the wounded. There were even efforts to try to restrain Chaplain Watters from his heroic and courageous deeds because of his vulnerability to enemy and friendly fire. Sadly, Watters himself became a victim of the battle raging on Hill 875 and did not survive the day.”1

Here is the citation from his Medal of Honor award:

For conspicuous gallantry and intrepidity in action at the risk of his life above and beyond the call of duty. Chaplain Watters distinguished himself during an assault in the vicinity of Dak To. Chaplain Watters was moving with one of the companies when it engaged a heavily armed enemy battalion. As the battle raged and the casualties mounted, Chaplain Watters, with complete disregard for his safety, rushed forward to the line of contact. Unarmed and completely exposed, he moved among, as well as in front of the advancing troops, giving aid to the wounded, assisting in their evacuation, giving words of encouragement, and administering the last rites to the dying. When a wounded paratrooper was standing in shock in front of the assaulting forces, Chaplain Watters ran forward, picked the man up on his shoulders and carried him to safety. As the troopers battled to the first enemy entrenchment, Chaplain Watters ran through the intense e n e m y fi r e t o t h e f r o n t o f t h e entrenchment to aid a fallen comrade. A short time later, the paratroopers pulled back in preparation for a second assault. Chaplain Watters exposed himself to both friendly and enemy fire between the 2 forces in order to recover 2 wounded

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Today In Church History Monday - November 21, 1953Newspaper headlines around the world

announce that the Piltdown Man is a hoax, to the immense satisfaction of those Christians who had rejected the theory of evolution.Tuesday - November 22, 1963Death of C. S. Lewis, beloved apologist,

scholar and author.Wednesday - November 23, 857Patriarch Ignatius of Constantinople is

deposed and banished, having refused Holy Communion to Emperor “Cesar” Bardas because he was living in incest with his daughter-in-law Eudocia. Photius is made Patriarch in his place, although Ignatius will eventually be restored.Thursday - November 24, 1836Ordination of Robert Murray McCheyne

to the pastorate of St. Peter’s, Dundee. He will become a leader in the ensuing Scottish revival.Friday - November 25, 1748Death of Isaac Watts, who wrote close to

600 hymns, including “At the Cross,” “Come, We That Love the Lord, “ “Jesus Shall Reign Where'er the Sun,” “When I Survey the Wondrous Cross,” and “Joy to the World”.Saturday - November 26, 2001Islamic authorities in Turkey order pastor

Ahmet Guvener to halt construction on a church that is almost complete, alleging he has illegally changed the architectural plans. He will soon be placed on trial.Sunday - November 27, 1759James Ramsay goes aboard the slave

ship Swift and sees appalling sights that make him the champion of abolition. He breaks his thigh the same day and has to leave the navy. Consequently he will take holy orders and begin work in the islands where he will learn more about slavery and become a champion of slaves.

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soldiers. Later, when the battalion was forced to pull back into a perimeter, Chaplain Watters noticed that several wounded soldiers were lying outside the newly formed per imeter. Wi thout hesitation and ignoring attempts to restrain him, Chaplain Watters left the perimeter three times in the face of small arms, automatic weapons, and mortar fire to carry and to assist the injured troopers to safety. Satisfied that all of the wounded were inside the perimeter, he began a id ing the med ics–app ly ing fie ld bandages to open wounds, obtaining and serving food and water, giving spiritual and mental strength and comfort. During his ministering, he moved out to the perimeter from position to position redistributing food and water, and tending to the needs of his men. Chaplain Watters was giving aid to the wounded when he himself was mortally wounded. Chaplain Watters’ unyielding perseverance and selfless devotion to his comrades was in keeping with the highest traditions of the U.S. Army.2

CITATION1 National Museum of the United States Army

website.2 Home of Heroes website.

He Nourishes and Cherishes Her by Raymond C. Ortlund Jr., crossway.org (Nov 3, 2016) THE NATURE OF TRUE LOVEThe heart of a Christian husband comes to

a focal point in one word, the key word for t he husband , i n Ephes ians 5 :25 : “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” The word love is wonderful. We can see its sacrificial boldness in this very verse.But this word love is overused in our world

today. So can we drill down more deeply into this word? Paul helps us to do so, in verse 29. In the coherence of the passage, the words “nourishes” and “cherishes” in verse 29 restate and clarify the meaning of the word “love”: “For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church.” So Christ nourishing and cherishing the church as his own body is equivalent to Christ not hating but loving his church. Christ does not tyrannize us, and neither will a Christian husband lord it over his wife as her head, but quite the opposite. He will nourish and cherish her.How then do “nourish” and “cherish” help

us understand the true meaning of love? These words certainly take a husband beyond just bringing home a paycheck. They a re wo rds o f who lehea r t ed

involvement.HE NOURISHES HERThe word nourish means “to develop, to

nurture, to lift up.” Paul uses this word in another relational context, in Ephesians 6:4, where he instructs Christian fathers, “Do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” So this word nourish is freighted with a sense of dignifying purpose and care and attention. Therefore, a loving Christian husband cares so deeply about his wife that he makes sure that her life is moving in a desirable direction, even as Christ nourishes us all.Marriage to a Christlike husband is, for a

woman, the opposite of a dead-end life. A woman married to a nourishing man comes to the end of her days as an older lady, and as she is sitting on a porch somewhere in her rocking chair looking back on her life, she is praising God and thinking, “Being married to my husband opened my whole life up. Yes, we suffered. Yes, we made mistakes. But in it all, my husband thought of me. He cared about how my life was going. What a great run we had, living together for Christ!” That is nourishing one’s wife.HE CHERISHES HERThe word cherish goes even deeper

emotionally, because this word means “to comfort, to warm, to soften” (as by heat). Our word heartwarming conveys the sense. Paul uses this word in 1 Thessalonians 2:7, where he says, “We were gentle among you, like a nursing mother taking care of her own children.”So when a woman is married to a lovingly

Christlike man who cherishes her, she feels warmth in her heart at being valued by her husband and held dear above all others, second only to Christ himself. Her husband doesn’t compare her with others or find fault with her or treat her as a loser he is stuck

with. That would break her heart. Instead, her husband delights in her and prizes her, and she feels it deep inside with a heartwarming glow. That is cherishing one’s wife.

A Baptist Catechism Question 11: What are the decrees of God?Answer: The decrees of God are his eternal purpose, according to the counsel of his will, whereby for his own glory, he has foreordained whatsoever comes to pass.Scripture: Ephesians 1:11; Romans 11:36; Daniel 4:35; Isaiah 46:10; Psalm 115:3; Amos 3:6.Comment: You might shorten it to: "God’s decrees are his own plans for history. And they always happen." His purpose for the world is eternal because there never was a time when he didn't know what he was going to do. His purpose accords with the counsel of HIS will--that is he did not consult anyone else. He thought it ALL up. All plans were made in order to maximize the display of his glory. NOTHING falls outside the decrees of God.* * * * * * * * * * * *Question 12: How does God execute his decrees?Answer: God executes his decrees in the works of creation and providence.Scripture: Genesis 1:1; Revelation 4:11; Matthew 5:45; 6:26; Acts 14:17: Proverbs 16:9, 33; 19:21; 20:24; 21:1, 31.Comment: Instead of "execute" you can say "perform" or "accomplish" or "bring about". The word "providence" will be taken up in a later question. For now it refers to the way God preserves and governs all his creatures and all their actions (like the fall of a bird or the election of a president). It refers to God’s general rule over the world he has created.

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Extreme Climates and Terrain

Edible Plants Plant life in the Arctic is very scarce when compared to tropical or temperate zones, though it is not entirely absent. Edible types include Arctic Willow, Bearberry, Black Spruce, Red Spruce, Iceland Moss, Reindeer Moss, Rock Tripe, and Salmonberry.

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Daily Devotional 21 NOVEMBER 4  For as in one body we have many

members, and the members do not all have the same function, 5 so we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another. (Romans 12:4-5, ESV)The body of Christ, the church-all

believers in Jesus Christ-is interconnected by the Spirit. We all depend on one another to grow, to function, and to be useful. It is imperative that you get connected and stay connected to a community of believers. Are you involved in the chapel program? If not, then you are not offering your part to the body, and they are not able to help you grow. Go to chapel!Prayer: Lord, show me how I fit into the

body that I may serve you.22 NOVEMBER 14 For the body does not consist of one

member but of many. 15  If the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” that would not make it any less a part of the body. 16 And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” that would not make it any less a part of the body. 17 If the whole body were an eye, where would be the sense of hearing? If the whole body were an ear, where would be the sense of smell? 18  But as it is, God arranged the members in the body, each one of them, as he chose. 19  If all were a single member, where would the body be? (1 Corinthians 12:14-19, ESV)Do you ever feel like you have nothing to

offer to God? Every part of the human body is important and necessary. Whatever talents, no matter how insignificant you might think they are, are absolutely essential to God’s work.Prayer: Lord, show me how I fit into the

body that I may serve you.23 NOVEMBER

20 As it is, there are many parts, yet one body. 21  The eye

cannot say to the hand, “I have no need of you,” nor again the head to the feet, “I have no need of you.” 22  On the contrary, the parts of

the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable,

…25  that there may be no division in the body, but that the

members may have the same care for one another. 26  If one member suffers, all

suffer together; i f one

member is honored, all rejoice together. 27  Now you are the body of Christ and individually members of it. (1 Corinthians 12:20-27, ESV)We’re in this together. Celebrate together,

cry together, work together. God designed the working of all believers to be one part. Don’t judge someone else’s part.Prayer: Lord, help me to stand shoulder-

to-shoulder with my brothers and sisters.24 NOVEMBER 12 We ask you, brothers, to respect those

who labor among you and are over you in the Lord and admonish you, 13  and to esteem them very highly in love because of their work. Be at peace among yourselves. (1 Thessalonians 5:12-13, ESV)In the Army, we are accustomed to having

authority over us and to respect those leaders who work hard on our behalf. But I wonder if we consider the same things within the confines of the church. Do we have for the chaplain, caring for our spiritual needs, the same respect as a hard-working in NCO? Please regard your spiritual leader, especially by praying continually for him.Prayer: Lord, give me opportunities to

express gratitude to my leaders.25 NOVEMBER Yes, we are of good courage, and we

would rather be away from the body and at home with the Lord. (2 Corinthians 5:8, ESV)Joseph Parker (1830-1902) was a beloved

English preacher. When his wife died, he didn’t have the customary wording inscribed on her gravestone. Instead of the word died followed by the date of her death, he chose the word ascended. Parker found great comfort in being reminded that though his wife’s body had been placed in the grave, the real Mrs. Parker had been transported to heaven and into the presence of her Savior. When we ourselves face the promise of dying, there’s great comfort in the fact that it is a better to be in the presence of the Lord.Prayer: Lord, it will be glorious to be in

your presence, but help me glorify you today.26 NOVEMBER 11  And he gave the apostles, the

prophets, the evangelists, the shepherds and teachers, 12 to equip the saints for the work of ministry, for building up the body of Christ, (Ephesians 4:11-12, ESV)

Have you considered what the real role of the Christian chaplain is? We often see him as a counselor, and encourager, a stuff officer, or just someone to talk to you. But his mandate before God is to assist in building God’s church here on earth. He is here to train the followers of Christ and how they are to live their lives more like Christ. Thrill your chaplain’s heart to ask him something spiritual and allow him to fulfill his mission.Prayer: Lord, teach me what it is to be a

devoted follower of Christ.27 NOVEMBER 41 So those who received his word were

baptized, and there were added that day about three thousand souls. 42  And they devoted themselves to the apostles' teaching and the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and the prayers. 43 And awe came upon every soul, and many wonders and signs were being done through the apostles. (Acts 2:41-43, ESV)When people heard Peter preach about

Christ, they felt compelled to respond in many ways. They not only had faith, they also put that faith into action. They gave an outward expression of faith through baptism. Then, they wanted to learn more about their faith, so they went to Bible Study with the apostles. Put your faith into ac t ion-do whatever is requ i red to strengthen your faith.Prayer: Lord, I want to know you.

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Holy Spirit : His Work In the Life and Death of Christ 49

Hebrews 9:14 (His Death)

How much more will the blood of Christ, who through the eternal Spirit offered himself without blemish to God, purify our conscience from dead works to serve the living God.

1. Hidden (Matt 5:14) 2. He, his father, and the men of his city were slain by Dinah s brothers (Gen 34) 3. Hebrews (Phm 1:25 - Heb 1:1) 4. Hollow of thigh / Hip (Gen 32:25) 5. Resurrection (Matt 22:23)

Weekly Bible Quiz 1. According to the words of Jesus in

the Sermon on the Mount, “a city that is on a hill cannot be...” what? 2. What was the fate of Shechem, the

prince who fell in love with Dinah, daughter of Jacob? 3. What book of the Bible follows

Philemon? 4. During Jacob’s struggle with the

angel, the hollow of which part of Jacob’s body was touched and put out of joint? 5. Which Christian doctrine did the

Sadducees reject? Answers

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